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Well, The A got beat up by 5 people in the jail he was originally placed. Not sure what happened, but apparently he broke 4 or 5 bones around his eye socket and it may require reconstructive surgery. His mom paid to have him bonded out of that jail and transferred to another one that has a warrant on him- go figure. Anyway, he is now trying to convince them to bail him out so that he can have surgery. Does anyone know if they can have this sort of surgery while incarcerated?
I would highly doubt they would release him for reconstructive surgery.
They will receive basis medical care.
My A ex-husband had three stints in a state penitentiary. I met him after he was released the second time.
He did a year on parole violation a couple of years after we had met.
He always talked about what a horrible violent environment that was, and I began to see what it was like when I went down for visitation that year. It still makes the hair stand up on the back of my neck when I think about it.
Of course, he was just a victim of circumstances, should never have been there at all. I bought it hook, line, and sinker.
I really did feel sorry for him.
By the time my oldest had landed in jail the first time for 9 months, I had some Alanon under my belt.
I realized that people who don't break the law don't end up in jails/penitentiaries.
What happens to my oldest daughter during her numerous jail stays (and I have no doubt there are more in the future) is none of my concern.
She put herself there.
My concern is focusing on healing myself!
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"If a dog will not come to you after having looked you in the face, you should go home and examine your conscience." - Woodrow Wilson
Well they would definitely have to patch him up otherwise he can sue. I feel sorry for them their illness is so bad. Then they go into poor me. The a is in poor me right now. I no longer can listen to it.
I also totally understand that they have always got something and it is of course the only thing that is going on at all.
okay I found 2 cents. I believe in jail the answer is no. However in prision the answer is yes. In prision they are a ward of the state. I could be wrong and I've not been in either place by the grace of God o n l y.
I am doing okay. Must admit that it really shook me up at first and, yes, I have been doing some codependent activities: Calling to find out about medical care, etc. However, I also feel some serenity in that I know that he causes this to happen to himself at this point-ie until he recognizes the cause and effect- these things only continue to happen. I am trying to remind myself that I can love him and still respect his right and ability to think/take care of himself. Thanks for the love and support.
