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Here i am almost midnight drunk son in my kitchen. I'm hanging out to make sure he doesn't burn down the house or leave. I know detach, but I am going to sleep eventually and I don't need to have the police wake me up. I'm mad and frustrated and tired of this. He asked for help today. I said we would and by the time we picked him up he was drunk and since his sober self asked for help we got him home and here I am again being verbally abused by my smelly staggering six foot four son and I hate this disease so much I wish I could die and not have to see this I can't stand it
I'm so sorry you are going through this. Again I can relate. I've been there. I will be keeping you and your son in my prayers. A friend in recovery has told me, "until they are sick and tired of being sick and tired, nothing will change. I will be praying your son reaches his bottom and he is sick and tired of being sick and tired. May God give you peace.
Thank you I'm just so sad I want to disappear, but I do have a wonderful daughter who is drinking tea with me and hugged me when I cried. I cry a lot some days. I know life has many wonderful things in it It just get covered by alcohol. I feel better now .
Digby, your post so touched my heart that I had to respond. I have no words of wisdom to offer; only my prayers and hopes that you will gather the strength to see yourself through this tragedy. It has to be the worst it can be when we are fighting for the life of our child. I wish you and he the best.
With sincere caring and concern,
Diva
-- Edited by Diva at 08:14, 2008-01-26
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"Speak your truth quietly and clearly..." Desiderata
Your post made me incredibly sad. I have not dealt with my problem son in quite the same way...he doesn't get that drunk (at least not in my presence) and is more the binge drinker. But when he does it tears your heart out to listen to them carry on and all. You are lucky to have a supportive daughter and that your son has a sister. Our family has no one in that our son is an "only"... Me, too and husband, too. I have always yearned to have a sibling or for my son to have that kind of person in his life. You are in my heart and prayers; being the parent of an A is a difficult all its own. There are others here like us who will step up and give you the support and the wisdom of their experiences. They will be honest when that honesty sometimes hurts you, but you will nonetheless eventually grasp what is being said to you. And some days will get better than yours has been today.
