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I know this song is about "the other woman" but it describes how I feel about my AH right now.
I substitute "beer" and "drinking" for any references to "her" or "she".
Stay: by Sugarland
I've been sitting here staring at the clock on the wall And I've ben laying here praying, praying she won't call It's just another call from home And you'll get it and be gone And I'll be crying.
And I'll be begging you, baby, beg you not to leave But I'll be left here waiting With my heart on my sleeve Oh, for the next time we'll be here Seems like a million years And I'll think I'm dying
What do I have to do to make you see....she can't love you like me?
Why don't you stay I'm down on my knees I'm so tired of being lonely Don't I give you what you need When she call you to go, There is one thing you should know We don't have to .live this way Baby, why don't you stay
You keep telling me baby There will come a time When you will leave her arms And forever be mine But I don't think that's the truth And I don't like being used and I'm tired of waiting It's too much pain to have to bear To love a man you have to share
Why don't you stay I'm down on my knees I'm so tired of being lonely Don't I give you what you need When she calls you to go There is one thing you should know We don't have to live this way Baby, why don't you stay
I can't take it any longer But my will is getting stronger And I think I know just what I have to do I can't waste another minute After all that I've put in it I've given you my best Why does she get the best of you So next time you find you wanna leave her bed for mine...
Why don't you stay I'm up off my knees I'm so tired of being lonely You can't give me what I need When she begs you not to go There is one thing you should know I don't have to live this way Baby, why don't you stay, yeah...
I feel like the beer is my husband's mistress. And I hate it. I am getting really tired of it. And I don't have to live this way.
I felt tremendous jealous of everyone in the A's life. Everyone seemed to get something from him except me. I got frustration, anger, dumped on and dumped on. I am glad that I do not feel like that anymore. I can turn him over to HP. I can turn over what he does to the HP not to see it as a personal reflection on my worth.
I've heard that song...which is a heartbreaker......but in some ways even moreso when you make that substitution. I've felt EXACTLY the same way about my A's love affair with the bottle. Being jealous of alcohol.......hmmmm......one more reason to seek al-anon. Thanks for the share, Becky. It hits home.
I have listened to this song a hundred times and thought the same thing. Drugs were always the other woman in our relationship. I was cheated on daily. I'm finally feeling relief now that I am begining to let go.
Yep I sure relate. The addicts addiction is their passion, their number one. Until they get into AA and make their recovery number one, it will stay that way.
