The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Here are mine....please post yours as we head into a new year in recovery. 1) I can find my self-esteem again. 2) I can recover from depression. 3) I cannot control the A. 4) I can breathe again regardless of what the A does or does not do. 5) therapy is not so bad. 6) My friends are truly amazing people. 7) I am stronger than I ever thought possible. 8) My kids need all of me. 9) Controlling others drains too much energy. 10) I don't have to fix everything!
regardless of what happens, I will be OK. the best is yet to come (hope) I can change myself for the better (this was a real revelation, I NEVER thought I could change old old beliefs) I am Ok the way I am I am not a bad person I can give and receive unconditional love its good to stop and check myself whenever I want trust my HP keep an open mind
1. If the A gets dead or in jail, that doesn't mean my life's over 2. Hug my kids when I'm feeling lonely 3. There is nothing wrong with me 4. Attitude is everything 5. Everything good takes time
Thanks optimist
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I'm like a pinch of tea...put me in hot water and see how strong I can be.
1. I don't know what is best for anyone else, but me. 2. There is alway's room for improvement. 3. I can restart my day at any time. 4. Looking at my glass as half full. 5. Being greatful for everything. 6. And using the difficulties that life throws, to be the best I can be!
I've learned.... To trust my gut feelings about things To allow people to love me To allow people to help me To set a firm boundary That I am my own person apart from my A That I was okay before my A, and I'll be okay after him
I am much stronger than I ever could have imagined that I was!
To cherish my children rather than see them as a burden that I have been stuck with.
I don't have to be in a relationship and am perfectly ok and happy alone.
Judge by actions not by words/promises.
I don't have to make a decision until I am ready and I can take time to think.
Follow my gut feelings and quit questioning my sanity/reality/beliefs.
Constantly remind myself of what I'm grateful for and being grateful for all I have.
I am very capable and can accomplish anything I set my mind to.
A good relationship is not 2 people entwined and reliant on each other but two healthy adults both doing their own thing and enjoying SOME not ALL time together.
I seek out bad boys and troublemakers and I am the only one who can stop it.
It's ok to just walk away.
It's ok to put myself and my children first, and in fact it's wrong if I don't.
My A has made the choices he made to put himself in the position he's in and it's neither my fault or my responsibility to make it ok for him.
Divorce lawyers are overly expensive (recent learning). Also related to that follow through the first time. You can always get remarried fairly cheap but getting divorced is VERY expensive!
I'm sure there's more but that seems like a lot. Gee I knew I learned a lot this year! Thanks for making me point it out to myself!
I am not responsible for anyone else but me. I do not have to help anyone but myself. I am a flawed human being and that is acceptable. I have my bad days and that is acceptable. I have made some tremendously costly and time consuming msitakes from being impulsive. I have many issues which I need to work on. I love my dogs and will go to extremes to take care of them. They are worth it. I can enjoy my life no matter what is going on. I am a worthwhile loving creative human being. This board saved my life.
I learned tghat I can be active if other people choose not too. Control my weight. Go on without my 2 nephews/sons due to the loss ot them to drugs and alchol/ I try to cover up with working the hurt. I make a difference people lives I can love little kids I do not have to put thing on the credit card.
