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A-BF got his fifth dui last night. He has been sitting in jail ever since. They are on a skeleton crew and what usually takes 12-24 hours to "cite out" could take double. I am doing as well as I can, although I will admit it is upsetting. I am trying to detach this time and carry on. Had a nice day with my daughter, spent most of it at a park. Didn't have any plans for new year eve with him, so this didn't disrupt anything really. Just trying to stay on my side of the street and take the time to process what my HP is teaching me in this latest event.
Well that might be the best place for him. At least he's sober. I always told AH that if he ever got a DUI I would be more than happy to bring his meds down to the jail, but the rest was up to him. The car, insurance, etc are all in his name (especially since I don't drive). All you can do is turn him over to his HP and let yours take care of you. I wish for you a very happy, healthy and serene New Year. Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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Thank you for your replies! I tried to get to a new meeting just down the street from my block today, but it had been canceled. Instead I made two phone calls. I am sooooo bad at reaching out. Both of them helped. One was to my sponsor. The other to a woman in my face to face meeting to just wish her a happy new year and let her know how much I appreciate her being at the meetings. I also returned calls from folks who left me messages yesterday, when I was in hiding. I am pretty good at isolating myself when in crisis. At the time, I didn't feel like I was in crisis, but looking back now, that is something I haven't been honest with myself about.
Again thanks! I am blessed to have alanon in my life, to have found MIP and have a very supportive sponsor. I plan to get to my regular meeting this week.
Sounds like you are taking care of yourself. We are always shocked by what they do even if we have been through it over and over. .I think icolation is a killer and didn't realize that I did it in a crisis. I Think that's what Alanon buddies are for. To help us out.
