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omajoy


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I have spent way too much time thinking the past several days. Holidays/weekends are always that way.  With spouse sick for several weeks and me recuperating from cancer treatment, we just haven't had much quality of life lately. And of course, there is the periodic traumas of the afflicted son and the dysfunction of his broken marriage and the heartbreak of our grandchild being in the situation he is in.

Soooo...count me as one who will be glad when the next two days mark the end of the holiday season this year.  It has been the roughest year of my life in terms of so much happening.  I usually make some kind of resolution(s) and as I have aged I try to make realistic ones that I can actually honor and make progress with end results.  This year I haven't even thought of resolution until today. I just know that I want to achieve some sense of peace and happiness.

Happy New Year to all of you sweet and caring participants on this site.  I send you a quoted closing from Maureen Dowd's column this week; it is loaded with significance for me:

           "In a piece reprinted in the Kennedy anthology (Caroline Kennedy's A FAMILY CHRISTMAS), Henry van Dyke writes: 'Are you willing to own, that probably the only good reason for your existence is not what you are going to get out of life, but what you are going to give to life; to close your book of complaints against the management of the universe and look around you for a place where you can sow a few seeds of happiness to make a grave for your ugly thoughts and a garden for your kindly feelings?  Then you can keep Christmas.'  "

      I so want to "keep Christmas" next year. And if I could but bury my ugly thoughts that would be a beginning.

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Maria123


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just wanted to ((((((((((((((omajoy))))))))))))))))))))

yours in recovery,
Maria

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ddub


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omajoy,

I liked the quote you shared and I too want to "keep Christmas"

I am hoping to recover for myself and to make a lasting change

or recovery for my children in anyway I can role model a healthier way

for future generations of our family to live.  I want to help the never ending

play: the "Merry go round of denial" to end.  Read this if you never have
 
before:

http://sym3540.tripod.com/themerrygoround.html

wishing you and all of our MIP family a peaceful, hopeful and healthy new year.

hugs, ddub

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Karilynn


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(((((Omajoy)))))),

Here's hoping 2008 is filled with love, peace and serenity for you.  May it all be a bit calmer and filled with much more laughter.  You've had a hard year.  Now it's done.  Much love and blessings to you and your family.

Live strong,
Karilynn & Pipers Kitty aww

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