The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I have come to a recent realization that what I have been doing and what I continue to do is to shrink the A's in my life and grow my HP in my life. If my daily life were a pie, I am systematically, day in and day out making the slice for my A's smaller and smaller and the majority of the pie is going to my HP. This picture has been helping me. Also, I visualize my AH literally getting smaller and smaller and moving off into a corner of my life while my HP gets larger and larger and moves into the center stage of my life. I am a visual person and to visualize this has helped me. Do any of you have visual ways that help you to cope? I love to read and read a lot of the literature and attend as many meetings per week as I can but any kind of visual methods would be really helpful to hear about- they really do not "teach" that way in al-anon- its all talking and reading mostly. Thanks, J.
Two quickly come to mind to me that I use very often throughout my week.
One is when I am nervous or fearful of doing something and I am usually driving in my car so I say out "God if you bring me to it, bring me through it" that helps me visualize that I am right where God wants me to be.
The other one:
"There are some days when the sand just sifts through your hands and all you can do is let it sift and then there are days when you can make sandcastles. You have to accept and treasure them both."
helps me with acceptance not only for myself but for accepting others and their actions, etc. I can relate because some days I can make beautiful sandcastles and other days I just can't build them but acceptance for both situations helps me feel the inner serenity.
yours in recovery,
Maria
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If I am not for me, who will be? If I am only for myself, then who am I? If not now, when?
