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And ladies and gentlemen, make no mistake, alcoholism is a disease, genetic, progressive and fatal.
I have not posted here in awhilebeen divorced 1 ½ years from my alcoholic ex-husband
Yesterday, in my penthouse with a view of NYC, I was preparing to go to the movies with my fiancée and his 12 year old son. There was a knock on our door and a policeman handed me a note.
I asked what is this about? He said here is a number to call a detective in the town I used to live in with my ah.
I called the detective who said my ex-husband since 2006 was dead, could I help him with some background and alert his family and I did.
So, with this disease we are playing with fire that burns and consumes..
He had all the wealth, charm and intelligence and now
I tried to have him committed to a mental asylum because he was crazy from the alcohol.
The laws of my state did not support this life-saving plan
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Megan
If you want things you never had you need to do things you have never done
I am so sorry for your loss. It is a "cunning and baffling" disease and I have no doubt but that if my sober AH picks up again that he will likely die--he has said the same thing.
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Do not be anxious about tomorrow; tomorrow will look after itself. The Bible, from Courage to Change, p.138
The news that is more worthy is that you chose to live! I'm sorry you had to bear witness to the fatal progression. Live happy, live joyous, live free, live not in denial! That is what I choose to call enlightenment.
take what you like...
much love, cj
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time to stop going to the hardware store to buy bread.
So sorry for your loss. Agree with everything you said. May God grant him peace. And most especially, peace and harmony to you and yours in the New Year.
It sure is good to hear from you again although I wish it wasn't under these circumstances. You probably weren't real surprised by the news. I can't help but feel grateful that the torment is over for the alcoholic (even though I recall he wasn't a nice person).
Life is ever changing and moving on. I wish you love, happiness and peaceful resolve. I'd love to hear what you're doing these days :)
Christy
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If we think that miracles are normal, we will expect them. And expecting a miracle is the surest way to get one.
I am deeply sorry for this great loss. It is sorrowful, and I support you in love and prayer from this distance. Peace be with you as you grieve and may you be surrounded by love and the good moments in memory.
Like Christy, I was glad to hear from you again. Would that it have been under different circumstances. It is my worst fear that hubby will succumb to this disease, even though I know he wants his sobriety. Please keep coming back to us. I miss your face and insight. Much love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
Thank-you very much for your condolences and more importantly for your support.
You understand, as few else do, the torture I lived with and what I am reconciling.
Yesmy life was good, skiing in Colorado every winter, boating the shoreline from NJ to ME.
Butonce the sickness took overthe alcoholism progressed.my ex husband Dan was firedWe lived below the poverty levelI workedhe did not..he retired 5 years ago.
I had no car.no access to the money I madeisolatedalone.afraid
He tortured me..I slept locked in a closet in our townhome to escape the abuse.
I FOUND this sanctuaruary MIP
Tonight was gift exchange with my family..28 of us.. My older sister took the adults out on the deck and explained our loss
I have traveled for business 48 of 52 weeks this year.
2 weeks I spent with my fiancée and my brothers family in Italy.pleasure.
I was distractedand too busy professionally. My AH had a staph infection
I tried
And succeeded
To get him to a hospital for treatment
He checked himself out the same day
I let his family know their brother was in trouble and I was outta town earnng a living until end of year
Sothe knock on my door was horribleand predestined..and, although I am suffering I did NOT go down with the ship
Alanon saves lives
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Megan
If you want things you never had you need to do things you have never done
I am so sorry for your loss. You truly did everything you could. You crossed over the bridge where our HP wanted you to be. Dan had the choice to cross over with you and chose not to.
If you ever want to talk, you know where to get me my friend.
Love Maria
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If I am not for me, who will be? If I am only for myself, then who am I? If not now, when?
I remember your heartache Megan. After everything you suffered you still maintained your compassion without losing yourself. Hp will look after your ex. I am glad you have love in your life again. (((())) Luv Leo xxx
I'm so sorry for your loss. It must be hell to mourn him again. At least I felt I was mourning when I divorced my AH last year. I have moved on to a much healthy relationship with a man who is NOT an A. It sounds like you've moved on too! My ex AH has a new A girlfriend that is moving with him after 3 short months. They are both working the program and I wish them the best.
Take some time to remember the good times and know that he is finally at peace, as you will be too.
Happy New Year to you, a time to look ahead and not so much behind.
