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I ca u dersta d you Sorry, just gotta have fun with that.
We staged one for my ah. It actually was set up by my ah's sister, and it was okay, but looking back, things could have been done differently.
I will share my experience and what did and didn't work for us.
The facility chosen was not covered by our health insurance. Ouch!!
The interventionist hired was recommended by the rehab facility. He and his asst drove 4 hrs to get to us and it cost $4000. I am thinking we could have found someone equally good that was local and cheaper.
Ask for the interventionist's success rate
Ultimately the decision for the intervention was up to me and I waffled about both the intervention and hiring someone at the last minute. Not a good idea. Trust yourself.
What I found was, having an experienced unknown third party to help you through it is a good idea.
Kinda like when you have a car problem and then can't duplicate the issue when you get to the mechanic, I started minimizing and denying the problem the day before. Thank goodness he went out that night and came home rip roaring drunk (never thought I'd be happy to see that)
I wish he went to an all-male facility with tight restrictions. He wasn't supposed to have any phone useage for 5 days and he started making calls that night. It was way too unstructured for what he needed.
Make sure they have an educational support program for you.
I wish I had started attending al-anon before or at least while he was in rehab.
If they suggest he shouldn't come back and live at home right away, believe them. They know what they are talking about.
Did the intervention work? Well, it did get him to rehab with no conflict or opposition.
Rehab was not a total success in that my ah did not come out sober and a new man. But, it did save his life and interupt the disease enough that my kids got their dad back. It planted a seed. 8 months later I am happy to say that he truly is working a program (even tho it is thru a Diversion Program) and after 2 straight months of AA everyday he is actually seeming to enjoy it and reaping the benefits.
Was it worth it? Yeah, it was. Just don't have any expectations because it is just the beginning of another journey.
Blessings, Lou
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did ya try cleaning under your key like i suggested? the key top comes off too. something is surely under it.
shake your keyboard upside down, vacumm it.
Put some alcohol on a q tip and rub carefully in there. Just a damp q tip, not dripping.
I don't like intervention. I don't care how many people tell them how they feel, it is still up to that person. Him doing it cuz they hurt is not going to work.
also it can be very dangerous. Can make them feel even more guilty. and they have more than we can imagine.
Just my thoughts. ok now fix that keyboard. You can get a keyboard at goodwill for five bucks. or a new one at walmart for ten.
I miss your longer posts.... so do it for me. haha love,debilyn
Yes, I was part of an intervention for a friend. It was a huge failure. I would never do one again. Its gotta start with them. Not someone out side of them. She is an A/addict who relapsed...my best friend at the time. I had to terminate the friendship. really hard but I had to do it, it was too painful to watch. She got hooked on painkillers and had started drinking again. I am not sure what she is up to now but that intervention was a joke and a mistake. She could have cared less that everyone who loved her was sitting around a table saying to her: you have relapsed.
It just got all of us all hot and bothered- not her in the slightest, she just kind of basked in the attention for a while as she kept using and then dumped us all. You see, there are a million enablers out there, folks. When you stop enabling, there are a million others readily available to take your place.
It is a laptop. Letters are completely missig. T e letter after g is ot worki g ow eiter. Goi g to ave it replaced, but is about 150 bucks so will be at least a couple of weeks. Try to bear wit me. :)
Sorry, just gotta have fun with that.