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hi everyone,just wanted to know if anyone else going to be spending christmas all alone..i mean alone with no kids no hubby no family{my SAH HAS TO WORK THAT DAY}he came home from work yesterday and told me he had to work christmas day,we had plans to go to his moms for christmas{she lives over an hour away}but all of a sudden he has to work,so i will be spending christmas day all alone.....wish i would have known this a week ago,cause i would have made plans to go to ny to be with my kids and grandchildren for christmas..i hate this and im depressed about being alone for christmas,cant go to his moms alone cause he has to work.but i dont understand why he is telling me this now and not a week ago..thanks and merry christmas to all of you..hope you all have a better christmas then me
Can you go on to his mom's house by yourself? I probably would do that. No need to punish yourself because he has to work. Can you take him to work and go on from there? I think I would go on about the plans I had made. If you are unable to drive, can one of his family members come and get you?
Hope it works out. Please don't let your sadness and depression over this get the best of you. Get busy making other arrangements to join his family.
Diva
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"Speak your truth quietly and clearly..." Desiderata
i would but,but my mother in law lives an hour and a half from me,and by the time i get there i would be there maybe an hour and then come back home to get him from work at 3.he does not drive no license..so having christmas dinner with her is out of the ?
am with diva , go on with your plans to go to his parents for xmas.or better yet check and see if there is one seat left for NY you never know. Perhaps just for the one day he can find his own way to an from work . taxi or someone else working the same hrs he is for the day. if none of the above are possible , cook your turkey enjoy the meal rent some girly movies for yourself ,treat yourself after all it is xmas.
I agree, I would let him find his own way hom and just go on to dinner. Why should you have to suffer because of his mistakes? I agree about checking the airlines too and just getting out of town! Check priceline or travelocity they might have some last minute deals!
And, really - it's just a Tuesday. It has as much meaning as you are willing to give it, and if you don't want to give it any, there is no law that says you have to.
I feel so fortunate to live in a place and in a way where I can pretty much completely ignore this holiday! Whew!!! Besides, after what I have been through peace and quiet and being alone is still so precious to me, even almost 2 years after I left.
