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This post will be brief; I'm out of words...for a change.
"Holiday," in most European countries means vacation. I intend to "celebrate the Holidays" by taking a Holiday, that is, a vacation. A vacation from myself, my obsessions, and most of all, my thinking.
I'm going to have a vacation/holiday to celebrate with my Alanon family of friends, leaving what to do to whimsy, "chance," and the mutually combined spirit of those I KNOW care for me rather than spending time on egg-shells in the company of people whose messages are so mixed, egg-shells carpet every surface I stand on when I am around them.
I am going to take a vacation/Holiday from negative self-talk, the aprobation or lack thereof, of others, and I am going to be as "present" as I can which will be my Holiday present to myself.
However you celebrate or endure this time of year, please remember that the best place to start is from the best moment you can be in right to ensure the best start to the next moment.
Love to all my unknown, but well-know Alanon family.
I am an artist and the year prior to leaving my A most of my work incorporated egg shells. Hundreds of thousands of pieces of eggshells (brown only) covering every surface of 3D objects I made. And I still didn't get it until after I left!!! Hindsight is 20/20! laughing, J.
I too have spent much time on eggshells over the years. Since Al-Anon, I find that I no longer care to do this anymore either.
My holidays are so much better now. I can focus on the positive things in my life and not dwell on the negative that has always dominated this time of year for me.
Have a very happy holiday season and a wonderful 2008!!
Love and Blessings,
Claudia
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A person's a person no matter how small --Dr Suess
Hi, and Happy All The Holidays There Are This Time Of Year (phew! p.c. is exhausting;)
Today is my 25th birthday in AA. I went to my old home group in the city from where I moved 4 years ago and since Alanon, now 1 1/2 years, the folks said I am so "different," that something "good is happening to you." The secretary AND chairman never showed up, so I was asked to lead the meeting and I really opened up in a way that is often not done in that "other program," and told of the really dark things down deep that I am at last shedding light on. It modeled an opportunity for others to share very deeply in a way I never heard in that group. Funny, how when we speak the deepest hurts out loud to others, the burdens lessen. Mark Twain said that sharing divides grief and multiplies joy. I hope I helped do that.
Thanks for your continuing kind words.
Love and blessings and "right" wishes come true for you.
Euroria/Greg
By being our best in this moment is the best place to ensure the best start for the next.
celebrate with my Alanon family of friends, leaving what to do to whimsy, "chance," and the mutually combined spirit of those I KNOW care for me rather than spending time on egg-shells in the company of people whose messages are so mixed, egg-shells carpet every surface I stand on when I am around them.