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my two dogs are such happy dogs these days. They don't flinch, shake or shudder like they used to. There were plenty of days when they hid behind the sofa with the A screaming the place down. I felt absolutely dreadful then. After one year of the A putting them through homlessness, leaving them alone for days at a time, not feeding them, eventually abandoning them, all I can do is to make amends. I had no idea he was that bad when I left him. The absolute last thing I could envision was that he would neglect and starve them.
If I do anything at Christmas I will try to make it a happy loving time for them. I cannot change what the A did to them all I can do is make sure that they have happy memories today and they do. My beagle barks all the time now when she wants something like in out of the cold. If I stop in a cafe to drink coffee for two minutes and sit outside with them after 3 minutes she barks to insist I take her back to sniff squirrels in the bark. I don't think she has ever been so happy and contented. My lab mix, Pepi is a loving wonderful dog. The A left her with someone who beat her with a strick. I ddi not see him do it (otherwise I'd report him) but there were many many signs he hit her. She is calm and loving and carefree.
I don't envision my dogs will forget the A or his treatment of them but I can help them recover as I recvoer. In time I will recover it may take me years but I will recover. My amends to them has to be I will be in recovery and never have them subjected to that kindo f treatment ever again. Maresie.
Hi Maresie...Oh boy have you brought up something I try NOT to think about alot. Since I left my AH he has the Jack Russell Terrier that his brother gave us when we got married almost 4 years ago. Whenever we would argue she would take off and go into the bedroom. I was so shocked to learn that animals have a sensitivity to that crap of people yelling and screaming too. Now it's just killing me that she's alone with him!! When we argue on the phone or he's just raising his voice a little...next thing ya know he's laughing because she took off and he knows why. I wish I could go take her away from him. I'd love to go steal her when she's outside using the bathroom! She'd be so easy cause she knows me! LOL And shes the kind of dog that stays in the yard and scratches if she wants back in. I miss her so much. But I can't have animals where I am and I really don't have time for one right now. It's just the the thought of what she must be going through that kills my soul. She deserves a better home that's for sure! Anyway...have a great evening. Hugs, Korinne
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Today, I am grateful to be on the path of dealing with my life and continuing to grow truly stronger.
