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Ok I got my Blue Belt last night at karate. Shewweee. I was worried about breaking my board too but I did it on my first try. In fact I didn't even believe I had actually broken it until I looked up and saw the instructor hold the bottom half. Then I saw the other half on the other side of the room. LOL. Hurt like heck.
My ex AH came over last night too during dinner to get his paycheck. He was a bit moody. Got his check, told me he wasn't going to be able to pay me anything this week b/c he has to make his truckpayment and insurance payment. I said ok. He asked what we were doing this weekend and I told him I had to do some shopping. That maybe he could get the kids and take them shopping. He shrugged.
Then when he was getting ready to leave about 10-15 minutes after getting there, he gave me a peck on the cheek that I tried to turn away from,patted me on the knee and said he misses me. WHATEVER!!! He only misses me b/c he isn't liking his current situation. BLAH. Not my problem.
My daughter asked him if he would go with us to see me test and he said "No, I can't. I have gotta go cash my check, see my grandma and get back across town to the motel." My son asked if he could ride w/him to Wal-mart to cash his check and he said no b/c he wasn't coming back to the house. THANK GOODNESS FOR THAT.
So that is that. Now I just have to get through the weekend w/out too much drama. I plan on avoiding him as much as possible.
gosh I was there so much with the A hanging around to get something out of me. I got so tired of it. At the same time I was still waiting for him to change and he didn't.
I did in the end. I changed. He didn't. I changed I stopped waiting for him to do it!
You know, I had an interesting thought while I read your post. How many times I got all wound up about what could/might happen when I have to meet up with my wife.... and weather it is better or worse... it is almost never what I thought it was going to be.
I really try hard not to project anything into it.... I make myself nuts when I do that, and I am always wrong. LOL
So glad you are here.... I needed to read that today!
Take care of you!
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"Good judgement comes from experience... experience comes from bad judgement" - unknown
How empowering - getting your Blue Belt! Congratulations! Also inspirational that you seem so detached from your A.
I also loved what Maresie said - " I was still waiting for him to change and he didn't. I did in the end. I changed. He didn't. I changed I stopped waiting for him to do it!" I'm still taking baby steps here - and it really helps to hear something so simple - yet profound. Thanks!
on getting your Blue Belt!!!! I took kick boxing once and the "Karate Kids" had their class right before us. It looked real hard to me.
