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I have not written in ages. Just wanted to share my thanks and memories and experiences with you today.
One year ago today my addicted BF went to detox and then rehab and has not drank/used since.
It was just days from now a year ago that his counselor at detox said to me to look for alanon meetings on line since I work and have 2 kids and couldn't find time to find a meeting. This board saved my life, allowed for my sanity to survive, and was always here during my darkest hours. I learned to look at myself more honestly, to look at the pain his disease caused me and my kids more clearly, I learned wisdom, gained strength, learned to love my self again. I learned to accept joy not sadness as a way of life.
We broke up 6 months into his sobriety....sober days honestly being more difficult than the using days. Sickness prevailed despite his sobriety.
I am proud of him today....amazed by the strength he has maintained. Amazed by the healing supportive powers of AA.
I am more amazed by myself and the life I have made for myself without him. Desppite hard long days of work, single parenting, struggling with breast cancer and al ot of painful self discovery....I am happy. Stressed, but happy. I never want to experience pain like what it felt like with him again.
I pray for every one struggling in anyform with addiction and all of us who love them.
He won't speak to me today, on this anniversary, because I reached out to a mutual male friend to discuss this time last year, he interpreted it as a date, it was canceled, he is irate and won't see past the innocent hurt it caused him. So it goes. It would be nice to a hear a thanks from him today...i emailed him a simple congratulations....
Thank you to all of you!
May the holiday season be sweet and your new year full of joy,
Aloha Fifi e Mahalo nui loa (and thank you much) for your courage, persistence, patience, love, support and understanding (there's more surely) that you have brought to this recovery also. Has it been a year? Time does pass when you are having fun, or working recovery or just sitting around fretting. Time passes in spite of people, places and things. I am glad you passed it here and surely you are welcomed just as all new members are who cross the threshold of this miraculous program and take their seats, listen with an open mind and take what they like leaving the rest. Surely you are welcomed for having the courage to practice what was given to you from our experience and for the trust you had to keep coming back and taking suggestions. You and all newcomers are the foundation to this program and the assurance to all "old timers" who delight in seeing this program work time after time and with member after member.
You have given it back. You have used what you learned to support others and yourself. I am grateful for having been within the influence of your recovery and delighted to watch it come about.
((()) Keep letting us know how you are getting on. I hope your struggle with breast cancer has a positive outcome. We are here for you if you need us. Luv Leo xx
Congratulations on your recovery. You've been through so much. Your post is full of love and hope and will inspire many. Yes, this board is appropriately named: MIRACLES IN PROGRESS. It certainly has been that way for me too. Continued success and best wishes on your journey. Much love and blessings to you and your family. HAPPY HOLIDAYS!
Live strong, Karilynn & Piper Claus
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In a completely different way, I can relate to your post. I am content, life is good, but I guess I am thinking "it could be better," and it is and it could, if that makes sense.
Anyway, expectations ....... (ugh). We can give of ourselves but should do it w/out expecting anything in return.
I too will pray for your continued health and for your children.
yours in recovery, Maria
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