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My A had court last night and I insisted on going with him, as otherwise he wouldn't tell me what happened. Since he is a big shot attorney (he thinks) and knows the judge, the judge gave him until 12/19 to get enrolled in an alchohol treatment program. I doubt he will - he thinks since he is an attorney he can just skate.
I also got a call from our car insurance agent yesterday telling me that my premiums are going to quadruple because of AH's DUI. I told him I had bought the car long before I married him and we had always kept our finances including insurance separate. I then called my A and told him that he better do some thing about this as I was not paying for his DUI. He got furious with me not because of what I said but because of my "attitude". The fight carried over into last night and he went downstairs and took all of my XMas presents he had put under the tree and threw them in the back of his car and said he was returning them. I said fine, I'll return yours too and then calmly started to take the tree down. He freaked and I said "If you are going to ruin XMas why have a tree?" He backed right down and this morning was sweet as sugar.
We ended up going on my lunch hour to the insurance agent's office where he signed a paper saying he was forbidden to drive my car. He's six weeks sober - if this is how he is going to be I feel like I might as well go on and divorce him now. I'm living on Xanax as it is. Thanks for letting me vent (again)! Chetch
Good job taking care of the insurance. I always made it clear to A, that if he ever got into trouble with the car, I would be more than happy to bring his meds to jail, but he was on his own after that. The car is in his name and he's responsible for the maintenance and insurance. Seeing as I don't drive, I think that's fair.
You know if he doesn't enroll in a program, that's his problem. If it were me, I would let him do the leg work. He needs a wake up call. If the judge throws him in jail, so be it. As for him driving you crazy. That's normal. All those emotions being covered or numbed with alcohol or drugs. We don't call them stark raving sober for nothing. Keep the focus on you. Keep to your program because you are going to need it.
Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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