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Whenever anyone sends me those kind of emails, I block them. I can't say I've ever had any from the A. I guess the bigger question becomes what would you do if it were anyone else sending you those emails? Should this be any different? I'm sorry this is happening to you. Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
In the situation I am in, I would save it. For me it's necessary to have a paper trail of his insanity. If my situation were different and I could simply apply the principles of this program, I would probably detatch from the nastiness knowing it was the disease, not the person I loved, saying those things. I would also talk to the person as I am no longer willing to accept unacceptable behaviors.
Send back an email telling the sender this type of communication with me is unacceptable and if it doesnt stop I will block them from sending me more..AND save the recieved messages just in case I might need them later!
I agree with the above. I think I would save it and send a response telling the person POLITELY that I will not tolerate this type of communication. Save that too. Then follow through and block the sender if it happens again.
If this is a one time thing, maybe I would just save it and ignore it. An A will always try to escalate behavior to get a response. No response sometimes diffuses the behavior as they didn't get what they were after.
No response may mean not discussing or even pretending you didn't get it when you talk to them later, too.
Anyway that would be a couple of options I would be looking at.
In recovery,
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~Jen~
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
