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I haven 't been on this board since 7/11 of this year. So much happened that I want to share with you.
Last time I was here, my AH had been in AA for about a month after an intense binge of drinking and drug use (pot and prescription sleeping pills) of about a month. He has about 35 years of continuous marijuana use plus bouts of binge drinking -- intensified over the past 5 years or so. ANYWAY- Mid June to mid October- clean and sober. AA poster child- 5-7 meetings per week etc. He told his family, told my family, told his work.
The first month of his sobriety, I didn't know what to do-- how to act, what to say. I just cut him a wide berth and thanked God for every sober day. I posted here a lot that month.
The next thing I did was put my money where my mouth was-- I joined Overeaters Anonymous-- because I recognized my own addictive behavior in my eating and decided to act on it-- plus I felt I could understand the 12steps better if I could apply them to me.
The great news is that I have been doing well (under the guiding hand of my HP) and have lost 33 lbs in the past 4 months. I feel the 12 step lessons I learned on this board really helped me to accept my own powerlessness AND take steps to do good self care. THanks to all of you for that.
The bad news is that my AA poster child DH seems to be back to his old tricks. He is listening to the cravings, staying away from meetings and avoiding me. Apparently he needs to test the fire more to see if it really burns....
so (thanks for reading all this if you have stuck with me this long!) I am back. I don't know if I can manage 2 twelve step programs at once but I will try to check in more often to get some perspective on this life with addicts-
xxooxx to all Jeanne
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In the long run the pessimist may be proved right, but the optimist has a better time on the trip.- Daniel L. Reardon
hello gknee , nice to hear from you . congrats on your weight loss . I don't know if your attending Al-Anon f2f for yourself but if not I hope u will start , you need support more than this board can offer . People with skin on em are so much more comforting :) Keep the focus on yourself , nothing u can do about him . obviously hubby is testing his sobriety , it's not about you or has nothing to do with you leave the prob where it belongs with him . Louise
I am fairly new here, but congrats on the weight loss. Also, I feel for you about the relapsing, pot and pills. Same combo my BF was using. I am still learning so no advice, I will just say you are in my thoughts and I understand.
Congrats on the weight loss! That's awesome. I'm sorry he relapsed, but that's not uncommon. It is remarkable how the 12 steps can help us in everyday life. Don't be a stranger. We've missed you. HAPPY HOLIDAYS! Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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That's awesome. 
I'm sorry he relapsed, but that's not uncommon. It is remarkable how the 12 steps can help us in everyday life. Don't be a stranger. We've missed you. HAPPY HOLIDAYS! Love and blessings to you and your family.