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I want to thank everyone for your support since the passing of my son James...
James was a talented artist and tattoo artist .. and also a person with this disease of alcholism/additction... and he found bottom on Nov 7th 2007....
for those who have been asking and of course anyone who would like to see some of his work... here is the website I setup....
http://www.flickr.com/photos/nightwatcher/sets
I am doing pretty good.. the memorial I organized was Sat the 24th.. it had a good turnout and went smoothly...
I also found out today that his mother, sister and brothers got a number of phone calls of support from friends and family here when they saw the memorial article in the paper Friday.... which I am greatful for as they needed that extra support... His mother and siblings were not able to attend this memorial as they live accross the country, but are planning another memorial on his birthday in Nebraska...
I could not have done it without my Alanon family support... and what I have learned in this program the last 4 years...
I did not know of the passing of your son, James. I am sorry that this terrible tragedy has struck your family. I will visit the website, and I will keep all of you close in my prayers.
Diva
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"Speak your truth quietly and clearly..." Desiderata
What tragic loss for you and all the family. I'm so very sorry. He surely was a very talented young man. I looked at the photos. It appears he lived large. I was happy to see there was also much laughter in his life.
Christy (Cjo)
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If we think that miracles are normal, we will expect them. And expecting a miracle is the surest way to get one.
I have a son. When I read your post my gut just tensed up. I am so sad for you and your family. Sad too for your son who did not choose to have this horrible disease.
I pray you can work through your grief, and you have support there so you know whatever you feel and do are normal.
Loss is an open wound. It will heal when it does. There will be a point you can live and your new reality will be familiar. But be prepared to feel off balanced, confused becuz everything in your life is different now.
This is one reason to have one loss after another is so hard to take. We just start on a path and feel things are somewhat familiar again, and then another loss happens.
((((((((((Bob)))))))))))), I am so sorry for your loss. I am so amazed at your ESH during this time. You are an inspiration. Your shares in the room have touched me.
You are in my prayers, Mandy
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"We are not punished for our unforgiveness, we are punished by it" Jim Stovall
I, too, am so sorry for the loss of your son. Today, I will be sure to thank HP for the gifts of my 3 sons alive and doing well in this crazy world we live in. Thank you for reminding me how precious their lives really are.
We are here for you and hope you keep coming. Your friend in recovery, Maria
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I went to the site. What a talented young man. Geez, this is such a terrible tragedy...I cannot imagine the kind of pain you must know, I am so sorry for your loss. He must have been really incredible...its so unfair, he was so young with so much potential!