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will you call my mom and tell I said "what happened" ?
I might have a job, but it is in Kansas.... I am mad, I can't understand it. I ca't geta job here with out a DR LC. I told this place that I can't drive because I am blind in left eye. At least I will be able to send you money. I am never going to see my kids again, I know it, I can feel it. I am going to die inside.
Um, what about the kids? Should they feel pity for him too? Should they put their pain and anger aside so they can cry for him and all of his horrible consequences? Who is the victim in all of this? It makes me sick to see this man, grown man trying to wrangle symapthy out of a woman who has 2 jobs, 3 kids, quit smoking and is constantly trying to better herself. He is blind in one eye? He can't get a job? He has NO responsibility, no kids to co-ordinate daycare, NO DRUG ADDICCT BOTHERING HIM WITH STUPID REQUESTS FOR PITY!!!! He can't get a job....WHY? You know he does not deserve the time it would take to email him a response. Block his emails, change your number and let that dream die. You do not need this. He is not contributing anything to your life. Let him change, then let him apologize to you and his kids, watch the change and then respond. For me, I'd tell him to take a flying leap and never look back. Maybe not all that alanon-ish to say but you know how similar our A's are and I'm in a p***y mood anyway. Be strong, CG. You are strong! And big CONGRADULATIONS on the no smoking thing!!!!
LOL, thanks serendipity! That's kinda how I feel on the inside, thanks for validating it. You said so precisely what I have had jumbled together in my mind and couldn't figure out how to get it together. I think the line HE IS NOT CONTRIBUTING ANYTHING TO YOUR LIFE is what I really needed to hear! Thanks!
I agree with Serenity. Sometimes you just gotta get mad to get through. You don't need him. He chooses to be a loser, slacker, blame it on everyone else. I say, "Boo hoo. Tell it to someone who gives a c***. Call me when you're done looking for cheese to go with your whine."
My AH is a whiner in recovery and I get really p****d when he starts in. And you know since I started letting him know how I feel about it, he has made a real effort to control that behavior, once he started to see it himself anyway.
Stay strong.
In recovery,
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~Jen~
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
