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I am not invited, whats up. Your new boyfried is an ass and wont let me see my kids. I filed for the devorce and they changed the amount for support to 25 a month and said unless I am wanted on charges. I can see the kids every other week, supervised. The Judge gave me his word , I had my PO and an advocate for this. So I guess you will need to take a day off in the first week of December( we will have a cort date. I gave them my whole record and since I havent had anything more then a larceny in the past twnety years you would have little or no say. I have proof of drug testing three times a week and dayly booze tests at teh house. I didn't want this to go like this , but you are beyound unresaonableness now.
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Header - Family's for fathers is giving me a pro-bona street attouney that is the best in the state
So you can work with me or against me. Parentail alienation is a crime in this state
This really hit a nerve, I think it was the I'm going to lose my baby nerve. Even though I know this is complete and utter BS. I have a no contact order which he has consistently violated, He lives in a shelter, There is no way for him to file divorce without several hundred dollars and I would have to be served. I really liked the nice little touch about how he got his support lowered to $25 (not like he's paid $1 anyway) how sweet to be thinking of his child while I work 2 jobs to support all 3 of mine. I'm pretty sure I would have to go to court to allow the change in support and that didn't happen. This really got my blood pumping! I could really care less about the money, if it comes great but I don't count on a damn thing from him! It's the insistence on seeing our son with absolutely nothing going for him that really irks me and I got that pang like my child is in danger which really scares me.
I guess I'll continue with the no response although I am tempted to reply and say If you violate the no contact order by emailing or calling me again I will call the police. I feel threatened!
Thanks for letting me get rid of it here and not give him the satisfaction!
Please CG just call the police. Do not respond to his insanity. You have a NC RO in place and he has violated it numerous times. This is all going towards your case against him. You will need this proof. Leagally. This is simple, he has broken the law. Do it for your sense of peace and to keep you children safe. Just turn him in.
You may want to seriously consider telling him exactly why he isn't invited to Thanksgiving, saying thus: "I have absolutely no incentive to have you over for the holidays. For the past 6 months to 1 year, your behavior has thrown this family into complete turmoil. [provide concrete, explicit examples here, about his prison sentence, about his girlfriends, about his hospital stay] You are not entitled to being with the children for the holidays, especially given the fact that your behavior has caused our household such insanity I cannot garentee that your presence would not create more of it." About the atty: "I think it's very nice that you have an atty. If you were listening to him, he would have told you to stop speaking to me this way, and stop treating me this way, because he knows I will use these emails, phone calls, text messages, and other communiques as evidence of ongoing abuse to keep you from the children until you have long term sobriety. If you continue to [speak to me this way; email me this way; call me this way; et cetera] I will [notify your parole officer of this ongoing behavior; re-instate the restraining order and extend it; notify your atty of the expanding aggressive behavior; ask the children's therapist to testify reguarding this behavior {which is a good idea anyway, but whatever}]. Do you understand what I've just told you? Do you have any questions about what I've just told you? [he will retaliate here, by cursing, screaming, name calling, et cetera] This is a great example of the behavior I'm talking about that I will bring up in court; but since you didn't know that, I'm going to let it slide JUST THIS ONCE, and hang up the phone. Good bye!"
I guess I'll continue with the no response although I am tempted to reply and say If you violate the no contact order by emailing or calling me again I will call the police. I feel threatened!
What are you waiting for? One more? One and a half... one and three quarters? One and seven eighths?
I think your A is related to my daughter's X. The rambling threats, making up utter nonsense out of thin air... even the same level of spelling and grammar... LOL.
If you keep doing what you did you'll keep getting what you got. The point of having an RO is not so you can wave it over his head every time he violates it. The point is if he violates it, he goes to jail.
What purpose does it serve to wait for one more email?
barisax wrote: If you keep doing what you did you'll keep getting what you got. The point of having an RO is not so you can wave it over his head every time he violates it. The point is if he violates it, he goes to jail.
What purpose does it serve to wait for one more email?
Barisax
I've got to co-sign on this one.
Whether you respond or not, as long as he's allowed to continue e-mailing you this crap without consequences, he knows he can still get to you, and he's thumbing his nose at the RO and the law.
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"If a dog will not come to you after having looked you in the face, you should go home and examine your conscience." - Woodrow Wilson
Oh brother . . . sounds like the letter from my exA. "You won't respond to me when I'm 'nice', so how 'bout when I threaten you??"
Fortunately his threats are GARBAGE until you see a summons :D or hear from his "street lawyer" (ROFLMAO).
I guess now's the time to decide if having any contact with him at all is in your best interests. You have a teenager raising Cain and are working two jobs, both of which have their stresses. Even though he's full of it, do you really need this kind of bother???
Can you change your work email addy and send an group email to your contacts with the changes? At my job in CA I would have had to practically sign my life away to do so, but it is possible.
The other thing to do is report him. He could be escalating.
I'm sorry but I thought NO CONTACT meant NO CONTACT. Don't sit on this. He violated his order, call the police. Don't respond to his emails. But don't let him do this to you. Part of recovery is taking back your life. TAKE IT BACK!
Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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they are good at getting under our skin. The a used to call a lot on the weekends. When he got no response he stopped calling. I stopped giving. Of course he expects it all rolled out for him its what he always got.
Those are threatening emails and you can file a report about them. You did go to a lot of trouble to get the restraining order. You kept your side of it, now he has to keep his. Of course I can also empathise that every second of your time is accounted for and you absolutely don't need this.
For me, if it got to the point it was bothering me too bad, I'd just e-mail him stating that you were dumping all incoming e-mails from him and if he needed to contact you to use registered mail -- or have his lawyer contact you, since he's the best in the state (LOL).
Okay, the above is a little smart arse, I'd honestly go with the no contact -- you know he's just trying to get a response out of you. Are you going to give him what he wants?? He may try severaly different things to get a response, includinging "ya know I love you baby" but you just keep putting one foot in front of the other and do the best you can to take that next right step for you and your kids.
And never hesitate if you become fearful...contact the police.
