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Spent the day with one of my kids away at college (who had called late last nite needing support), returned home to sons not getting along (taking things that bother them about our family out on each other perhaps), another son feeling no one understood or supported his interests and sons reported that their dad was wierd. (bet cha know what that means)
Then I read a post about holidays with exs and trying to focus on the kids. Made me start thinking about all of our (here on MIP) kids, grandkids etc affected by the disease of alcohol....... especially the younger ones confused by all the chaos and the recovery needed for all of them. Just normal arguments with a teenager brought tears to my youngest. Things are so out of whack for these kids who don't need all the dissappointments and worse of living with and affected by alcoholism.
I've seen charts of 101 ways to tell kids you love them, for example. Is there anything like that or slogans to let kids learn by example to build their resistance to that messy side of the street. Maybe we could make a list together? Like.......hmmm... some al anon slogans work for kids too like, first things first or one thing at a time. How about: when sad or scared, talk to someone or ................ any thing you use for your kids? or ideas?
thanks,
ddub
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Hi Dub , there is a book for our children printed by Al-Anon for alateens , a friend of mine got the red one called A DAY AT A TIME - ADAT. it is writen by teens for teens . she used to read the page for the day at bed time and ask the kids to talk about what they think it meant and then would tell them what she thought it was saying . Alateen literature is very positive , explains the disease , talks about respect for the alcoholic and keeps the focus on the kids reasuring them that it's not thier fault , encouraging them to become better students etc . good luck Louise
I watched The Secret with my teen last weekend and to my utter shock she actually sat and watched the entire thing with interest! Even passed on an offer to go play outside to watch the rest of it 1/2 way thru. It talks about thinking positive, feeling positive and believing you will accomplish what you set out to. It was great and was positive for her. The biggest thing I use with her (as in last night even) was how important is it? Of course at 13 everything is MONUMENTAL!!!
