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I haven't been in the room for a few months, things have been so hectic that I am exhausted most of the time. I feel like I have been sideswiped, and I'm still sitting there wondering what just happened. In the last month and a half, I have gone from being relatively happy, to totally miserable and depressed, and just from life in general. My son moved to another state, my one and only child is now 2 hours away and a long distance phone call. So there we have the empty nest syndrome. Well, then we decided we needed to move, and got a really good deal on a house, so we packed up and proceeded to move, not far from where we did live at all, maybe 5 miles. But, in the meantime of moving, my mom got sick again, so I had to put my packing on hold and take care of her in the evenings, and leave the packing to friends so when we got the boxes into the new house, we're still having problems finding everything. Then my mom got really sick and I had to admit her into the hospital, so on the day that I admitted her to the hospital I spent 7 1/2 hours in ER just trying to find out what was wrong, and them waiting to see if she was going to make it thru the night. Turns out her potassium level had shot up to 8.3, 3x the normal almost. She was admitted into ICU, and for a few days we thought she might be able to pull out of it, but developed complications and died 7 days later, 2 weeks ago today. So then we had the funeral arrangements to make, and now my sister and I are dealing with probate and bills and stuff for that. I'm not even sure where my shoes are located, and I am having to deal with my mom's house at the same time. I keep thinking maybe calgon will take me away, if I had some and knew where it was at. And in the midst of all of this, my wonderful husband is being patiently at work, he worked about 10 hours over last week and is going to training in the days this week for some diesel thingy, and then trying to work a few hours in the evenings for the extra money, that we really really need right now...............My little pea brain is having a very hard time digesting everything that has happened wham bam lately, and I feel like I am drowning in all of it.
Thanks for reading my vent................they say you should feel better after you vent, but I don't. I'm so beat up right now that I wonder if I will ever feel like me again.
Hugs Cindy (Unsure)
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I'm so sorry. Losing your Mom on top of everything else must've been very rough. Eventually everything will settle down. Try to remember that, OK?
Try, try, try to do something nice for yourself. No, FIND the time (that's an order!). Find one hour and find a pretty, relaxing park or something to go sit and give your brain a quiet rest. Finding a meeting to attend would help too. You'll be reminded of things like "This too shall pass" and to take care of YOU first..
hang in there Christy
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(((Unsure)))) I second what Christy said. Make time for you to sit and digest it all, and your priorities will come to you. You can't do everything at once. Easy does it. I'm very sorry about your loss. pw
Sorry about your Mom. It actually sounds like you are taking things pretty well. I've seen many more vents that would make your post look like a curl was out of place. I read your post over and thought, "I could use a steadier hand like her's when the waves start to get rough." I also thought that for myself if I was going thru what you are going thru (I have a couple of times so this is my program experience) I would think that being tired, a bit confused, somewhat dopey and lost, a bit scared and worried...would be normal to normal people. Maybe you are just being normal? Are you expecting Super Normal or maybe even a notch higher? Don't be too hard on yourself for being normal! Give yourself a break and a pat on the back and a hug like this one (((((hug))))) and don't be afraid to ask from somemore.
My condolences on the loss of your mother. That in itself can be overwhelming and knock anyone for a loop. I third what Christy & WP said. Finding a quiet place to let your brain settle is soooo important. Just stopping and watching the leaves change color or squirrels run amok can recenter me in a heartbeat. I know that's hard when you're going through so much at once. At the same time, I also agree with Jerry (I make it a point never to disagree with him! ) You are doing fine. You have an inner strength that is seeing you through all this. Being tired, emotionally and physically given this time is perfectly normal. Pat yourself on the back for getting through all this. The beauty of this program is that it has a tendency to kick in when we need it the most, sometimes in very subltle and no so subtle ways. Now is the time to be extra good to yourself. You deserve it.
Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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With sympathy for your mother. Good advice here. Prioritize and take care of yourself. I can identify with some. Spent all summer caring for my mom emergency room and all. She did come out ok though. And the empty nest syndrome. The last one left two years ago and I am just coming to terms with letting my kids go to pursue their lives. Sometimes life is just tough but it sounds like you going to make it to the other side.
Sorry for the loss of your mom and your son all at the same time. It does seem like things happen in clusters. Hopefully your cluster is over now and you'll have some time to heal and get everything straight. You do sound like you're taking everything in stride. Wishing you luck and hopefully if the vent didn't make you feel better the responses will!
Just try and do one thing at a time you are not Superwoman and you do need time to grieve for your Mum. You need to recognize that you will be emotionally drained from the lead up to your Mum's death and now sorting out all the paperwork etc afterwards. The boxes at your new house will wait. As for your son moving out both of my boys did that this year and I guess at first it is the lack of control you have over them now that is the hardest. I have to say there is life after kids and it is pretty darn good. Once everything settles a little allow yourself time to smell the roses again. Your Mum will always be watching over you and she would not want you to get sick by putting too much stress on yourself. Luv Leo xx ((()))
) You are doing fine. You have an inner strength that is seeing you through all this. Being tired, emotionally and physically given this time is perfectly normal. Pat yourself on the back for getting through all this. 
