The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
it occurred to me this morning that I keep fighting a losing battle. I keep waiting for the day when everything and everybody is easily handled. The last 3 weeks have been crazy. Filled with loss. The first situation is one of change. I can still have this person in my life just not in the capacity I am used to. At first, I got angry but it didn't change anything and now I have come to realize that life goes on even though I am being challenged by HP to act like a big girl...The second situation, involves the death of someone I didn't like very much because of behaviors I couldn't change and now that she is gone it occurs to me that sometimes I long for the times when I had to deal with the effects of her behavior because at least I knew what to expect. The last situation, has to do with being told I am not entitled to something. That upset me, but then I realized, "just cause someone tells me I don't deserve something doesn't mean that is true. So, I've done what I can about it and I've left it in Gods' hands believing that this is just another opportunity for me to grow. As has the past 3 weeks.
Though you may not realize it, you are making great progress. Acknowledge, Accept, Act. Now that you are able to acknowledge situations where you have no control, you can learn to accept it and how to react. You can choose how you react to situations that affect your life. Yes you can. You can choose not to be upset about something outside of your control. You can choose not to engage with someone who disturbs your serenity. You can choose to do anything that preserves and protects your peace of mind.
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the COURAGE to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
Welcome. When my life is crazy like that I always feel like I am watching someone else's life go in front of me and I have no control but have all the feelings. I dunno. But keep coming back to Alanon.
Grief is grief. Whether we lose someone we love or someone we don't love. The extent and amount of time of grieving depends on the length of time we had that relationship with someone and the depth of that relationship.
There are 5 stages ~ Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and (oh thank goodness) for Acceptance. Be gentle with yourself. Feel the losses, share with a trusted friend or member so you can deal and heal.
Keep coming and keep posting, Maria
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If I am not for me, who will be? If I am only for myself, then who am I? If not now, when?
