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The AH and I have been doing better...okay, I've been doing better not obsessing about his drinking. He still stops at the bar and tries to "sneak" in shots, but I haven't been asking him if he's drinking or not.
Plus, there's been trouble with the pregnancy that has been making it real easy not to give a sh*t whether he drinks or not. I had to go to ER on Wednesday night for what I thought was a miscarriage. An ultrasound revealed a 9 1/2 week babe with a strong heartbeat. Bleeding is unexplained, but I have a OB/GYN appointment for monday to check up further. I'm threatened miscarriage for now...and on doctor's orders to rest and not do anything too active.
My AH has been great about helping out, fetching me food, water, my vitamins, even going to the store to get me candy at 10 at night. I think he's slightly relieved honestly to have me speaking/relating to him again on a level other than sullen and miserable. I even asked him if he would like to accompany me to the doc appointment on Monday...He said he'd like to go. I didn't ask for me but for him...I didn't want him to think that I was pushing him away from this experience.
I'm trying to take one day at a time. That's all I can do...especially right now.
Hi lil, I'm so glad you and the lil nugget are OK. I'll keep you two in my thoughts on Monday, I hope it was just one of those glitches lots of pregnant women have.
You said it, it's one day at a time. It makes life so much more handle-able (that might not be a word!). The biggest thing it does for me is it keeps me from borrowing trouble, I'm very good at that. My imagination is fun but it has it's downside too.
I'm glad to hear it is working for you. It's just the truth: all we have is today. Or the next five minutes when things get really hairy.
Keep up the good work with detatchment, too. You have enough to worry about with yourself and the babe, and just living with an active alcoholic. Take care, you and the nugget :D Kim
Way to go lil sounds like your handling things well , keep it simple just do the opposite to what u ahve been doing and it has to work out diff . Am glad hubby has been willing to look after you thats a gift , enjoy!!!!! I hope all is well with baby take care of you and continue to do what docs say . Louise
