The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
When I first arrived at alanon's door in crisis, I heard one day at a time, one minute or second at a time if you have to. It helped me to deal with my obssesive thinking, etc. To calm myself down and figure out what the next best thing was for me.
Now, I feel like I have moved on to a different phase of the exact thing. I am learning that consciously asking myself, what do I want to make me happy this very moment, is helping me get through bad, good and even just routine times. Not focusing on tonight, or tomorrow, or yesterday!!! Allowing myself to live the moment and try to take care of myself in this moment.
Coming from a place, where I put my feelings, wants and needs on the back burner for what feels like my entire life, it isn't always very easy. But, I am finding that it is helping me to keep the focus on me. I notice for myself in alanon, I have to consciously repeat things like this in my head. Slowly, I do it less and it becomes automatic. It helps me to go with the flow, which I am really bad at...but, working on...one moment at a time.
I am surprised at how wonderfully powerful this feels to me today and wanted to share it with all of you.
That is so wonderful. The help that I get daily is my God. He helps me get thru the day. I just emailed my best friend regarding my situation and I mentioned that I will never let someone else ruin my happiness. It is all about respect for each other. We can't control what others do, only yourself. At work everyone says there is something about my attitude and that I seem like the old me. I'm back......
Great and honest share!! It is very supportive of exactly what I learned in this program when I first entered the doors. Thanks for the support! One of the little things I was taught that was sooooo very important to change was "practice, practice, practice" or stay sick. Like you I don't like being sick so I practice, practice, practice. (((((Hugs)))))
