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Well he didn't come over or call. I worried all day and got sidetrack at work and obsessed all for nothing. Now I just wonder when I will hear from him again. I'm tired of calling and asking for my money. I've told him I don't like calling him and reminding him every month. But it has also made me realize that I didn't let it effect me like in the past. So maybe I am getting better. Thanks from everyone that posted back to me , it really helped alot. I did alot of reading last night after I firgured it was to late for him to stop by and it helped me to see a lot of things. I prayed for guideance, patience, and understanding, I'm getting alot better at that too. I know that I need to attend more meetings. I'm one my fourth step but haven't gotten a sponsor yet. So I'm kinda stuck, so I just keep going over steps 1,2,3. It is really helping. I'm going to try and keep posting. Again thanks alot! Sis
When I look back over my life, I see that I spent so much time worrying and fretting over things that then never happened - and, no, it was not my fretting that prevented them!
A certain amount of planning is reasonable and prudent - you want to be prepared for likely eventualities. After that, worrying really is a waste of the only life you have. If the bad thing happens, you can suffer then - no point in suffering before hand. I found it needed practice, though - I was so used to fretting that I felt wrong if I was calm. I needed to train myself to stop.
I get super tired of this with the A. One thing comes up and he disappears into a rabbit hole. Then I go into a frenzy because of course my abandonment issues go off hugely.
I get super super super tired of his total irresponsibility and ability to play victim at every count.
