The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
So I have someone who I knew had been in Alanon for 7 years, and two husbands. She went with me to my first meeting and has been "coaching" me about the program ever since. I call her whenever I am confused or angry and she helps me see my side of it and suggests things to say (or in my case, NOT say) to make the situation better for ME. She always mentions her Sponsor, and suggested that I ask about finding one who had a program that I liked at my meeting the other day.
I was a little surprised because for all practical purposes I considered her my Sponsor. I was reading the pamphlet about Sponsorship and it said that they wait to be asked, they don't offer.
I feel so comfortable with her, and I knew her way before I knew about my husband's addiction...so should I ask her to be my sponsor? Or should I take her telling me to find one as a hint that she does not want to do it? I really am not sure how comfortable I would be with someone else.
Since she is the person you would choose as a sponsor, of course let her know and ask. If, for some reasons, she does not wish to do it, she will say so. I would not assume she doesn't wish to be your sponsor. She may just be waiting for the question. Good luck.
Diva
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"Speak your truth quietly and clearly..." Desiderata
asking for help was my first real step toward recovery. asking someone to be my sponsor was taking a risk and reaching out. you have to decide for yourself if you are ready to ask her. she cannot read your mind and does not know what is in your heart until you take the risk to tell her.
