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I want to tell you about a dream I had two nights ago.
In this dream I am at work and we are having a going away party for someone who is leaving the company. There are many people there whom I work with, and some that I don't know at all. It seems like everyone is having a great time.
At one point, I look across the room I am in, and see a large man wearing a hat, whom I do not know. This man has pinned one of my co-workers up against the wall and will not let him go.
Now evidently this guy is very strong, because not only is he holding the struggling man against the wall, but 4 other men are trying unsuccessfully to pull him off my co-worker.
I calmly walk across the room and come up behind the man and I lean over and whisper in his ear.
"What is wrong?" I ask him.
At first he ignores me. So I ask him again, "What is wrong?"
The man finally turns and looks at me, and his eyes are very sad. He says to me, "I am scared".
"What are you scared of?" I ask him.
He replies: "I am alone. I don't know anyone here, and no one loves me".
This feeling of compassion comes over me for this man. I lean in close again and tell him, "I love you".
The guy seems to sorta shrink when I tell him this and he replies back to me, "Thank you, I love you too". Then he lets my co-worker go.
I put my arm around this man's shoulder and I lead him out of the room. ***********************************************************
I woke up feeling absolutely wonderful from that dream. I had received a message from my HP. I started to try to analyze the dream because it was so vivid to me. But what I ultimately got from it was this.
Trying to deal with a bad situation with an equally bad solution, such as using anger to combate anger, hate to combate hate, revenge to combat a wrong is ultimately doomed to failure. If we can find it within ourselves to deal with a situation with love in our hearts the outcome has so much more potential to be based on good. I found it so interesting that the man in my dream did not answer with "This guy said or did this or that to me". That he answered with truth. He answered with what was really going on inside of him that was making him act the way he was.
WWJD came to mind. I felt like, in my dream, I responded as my Higher Power would have to the situation. It was quite a lesson for me. Quite a message.
As my favorite band of all times once said, "All you need is Love".
Thanks for reading, and have a lovely memorial day weekend everyone!
David, your gentleness and goodness are not only a gift to you, but a gift to all of us as well. I love you, my dear friend. Not only for those qualities, but for your humor as well as well as the value of your soul. Keep us all smiling.
Make this day a good one,
Diva
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"Speak your truth quietly and clearly..." Desiderata
Wow that's pretty deep. I had just made a post about dreams before I saw this one. It's like you were a sign to me. Your dream almost seems like a detachment of sorts. Thanks for sharing. I needed that today.
Wow, how true is this....I have had a few demons to deal with these past days myself, your post helps me to have to clarity to what I need to do... kill them with kindness has always been my way of dealing with issues....I have a big decision to make, your post has helped me more than I can say....
Revenge only hurts us more than the person who has hurt us...so I am going to try my very best to do what I need to do with kindness..
