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OK this thing happens when I would begin a relationship with someone I was interested in: I'd realize that because they were interested in me, then they obviously weren't very interesting after all. I'd purposely stay away from those people because I didn't want to ruin any sort of image I had been enjoying.
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Yes, of course. There were times in my life I was not interested in a "relationship." So I dated those who weren't interested either. If I was relationship-minded at the time, I dated those who were of the same frame of mind.
Diva
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"Speak your truth quietly and clearly..." Desiderata
I purposely avoided this guy that I was working with - I was sooo attracted to him - but I figured if I'm attracted to him - it's probably not a good thing.
Kept acting like he was interested in me, but I avoided him like the plague, - until I heard him say at a company function "I don't drink" - I stopped avoiding & he asked me out AND the rest is history - 8 months later we were married.
In August we will celebrate our 15th wedding anniversary. 10 1/2 yrs of active alcoholism/addiction (I learned He didn't want to drink, he just lacked the ability to NOT drink); 15 months seperated; then back together for the last 3 years. Some good, some great, some really, really crappy.
Should I have stayed away - who knows? All I know is that if I hadn't married him, I probably wouldn't have found Al-Anon and MIP and that would have been a very sad thing.
Good questions Carolina
-- Edited by Rita G at 11:48, 2007-05-25
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