The way I look at it that little by little we begin to see our A's as truly sick. And I think that's why you could gently whisper to him.  Perhaps in his heart he's always loved you and perhaps he wonders why you still love him. Maybe that's what he's thinking as he smokes his smokes. And, with my stag, I'm trying to remember that he's got to deal with his problem. You know that I already packed most of my bags ( I may have forgot some!  :)  ) and have already headed towards Serenity. I see you're coming to! It would be a wonderful thing if our stags want to go there too or at least are beginning to hear it calling out to them but I know I'm going to keep trucking along with you. Maybe our stags will get there before us LOL but who cares. We'll catch up if that's the case!  :)  In the meantime, how 'bout you, me, and the gang keep trying! You take care, gurl! Catch 'ya ater?....love, jaja