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I'm losing her piece by piece
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hospital will transfer my sister to a skilled care facility because our girls cannot cope with one so sick...her lungs are full of fluid so they are draining them as she cannot breathe....she will not get liver biopsy because she is well aware of the stress to her already frail and failing body....and...
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mamalioness
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Still Lost Even When He Is Sober
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I am not sure what finally brought me here or admit my issues except I know that I cannot accept the person I have become any longer. My husband has not had a drink in 2 years 3 months 4 days yet I relive it daily. I am angry and scared every single day. I wait for the "slip up" always. I can't bring myself to...
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niki48
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Leaving with the kids.
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Ok so it's not what the subject sounds like. I'm going on vacation and taking the kids out of town for a few days. My AW did not want to go so it's just us. It feels really weird. I know we'll have fun. I know she'll get some peace and quiet. I also know this could be a bad sign and I think it's why I've had a certain...
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7-5-17 C2C Detachment
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Today's page is one of several pages in C2C which sheds light on the many ways detachment is helpful to recovery when put into action. The author describes detachment as 'freedom to own what is mine and to allow others to own what is theirs'. This is helpful in all interactions. Use within the fellowshi...
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Enigmatic
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Just for me
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I've changed my avatar just for today because it helps to affirm my cultural spirit so much of which is anchored onto and in my program...I will not make any political or national statements just revealing my roots. Mahalo ((((Hugs))))
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Jerry F
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Jumbled- Status Quo.
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Hi all--- I have been a little MIA, health and work and then much needed family time with my parents and boys. It's been relaxing, getting a lot of projects around the house done, cleaning out the crap... feels great! Everything here is... status quo. I'm going to meetings, reaching out when I'm react...
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pumkin26
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Partners do not always recover at the same time.
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Today I went to see my A ex-bf. He is doing really good. He has not had anything to drink in six months, he found a nice house to rent. He lives in a quiet community near his family. He even has cats, and he is taking care of them. The small things are really important because previously he could barely take ca...
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shrnp
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Nightmares
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I think I have posted about this before but it's back. It seems as though when my life starts to go smoothly and I have periods of not worrying so much about other things that I start to have nightmares. I've put more effort into my program lately than I have in a while and I have really seen the benefits. ...
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KT2015
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Having more difficulty with AH than usual
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Yesterday evening I came home from work to find an empty vodka bottle on the living room floor. I wasn't surprised, yesterday was payday. I just picked it up and went into our bedroom where my AH was lying on the bed with the food and drink (that I've asked him before to not have b/c he spills it all the time)...
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PosiesandPuppies
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recovery sure helps when you need it
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Hi all! It's been months since I've been here. Durning that time I continued to work on my own recovery, I began to focus less on AH and more on me. Letting my faith grow. For whatever reason, I learnt I am ment to be where I am, HP has a plan for me. When I first came here that was very hard to understand. In the p...
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Meeting Room Chairs Needed
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Hi Today ,i visited the chat room to check on the Morning meetings. Courage was there and ready to conduct a meeting. We chatted a little and it appears that we still need chair persons to conduct the meetings in both the morning and evening. it is quite simple and Training is available Let myself...
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hotrod
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Hope for Today July 4
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Good morning everyone- I apologize for the late posting today- I am away from home and it took me a bit to figure out how to log in to the site! Today's reading is a focus on how alcoholism impacts intimacy and sexuality. As I read this it was a reminder for me about how pervasive the disease is and the effec...
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yanksfan51
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7-3-17 ODAT
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Today's author points to the joy of having members in the group who demonstrate a positive, joyful demeanor that is nearly impossible to grab onto and adopt. Yet it is often these same ones whose story includes very difficult times and who arrived AlAnon broken and hopeless. Reminder: The more I dig i...
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Enigmatic
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When it seems that LIFE has it in for you
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Since december, it has been one thing after another: My client and friend gets killed in a car wreck and now my work is less and struggling more financially Sister #1 in March decides she wants out of here (she had Alzheimers) and so she stopped drinking and eating and is dead 1 week later April, I have to p...
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mamalioness
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Family so dysfunctional
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I guess I'm going to try and laugh at my family instead of having a pity party. My sister and nephews are visiting for 3 days from CA. They are staying with an older brother who is a borderline psychopath. My sister loves him. I have a really nice brother and he and my sister aren't speaking. The older...
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Lyne
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Valuable Alanon lesson
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Well last night I did get hurt and today I am using my tools and I KNOW I will make a strong comeback . The valuable Alanon lesson comes from learning to focus on myself. Because when the Foo and the spouse and other people hurt and let me down, I have myself, I have HP, I have my tools (getting a good workout...
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Lyne
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ODAT Reading 7-2-2017
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The ODAT reading for July 2 speaks about experiencing the joy of living. It points out that, new members are astonished to learn that many of the happiest people at the meeting were also burdened with a wall black despair. when they first found program . It was Al-Anon that brought the joy of livin...
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hotrod
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Monday Morning Alanon Meeting in Progress
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Please join us in the chatroom if you need a meeting. Our chair is Courage, our topics are GRATITUDE.. MAKING A LIST, AND OPEN ALANON TOPIC.
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tiredtonite
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Hi I'm Back Again 2 Years Later
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I haven't been on this board for quite some time. I reread my old post and the responses and unfortunately, I am insane (doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results). My husband continues to relapse despite nearly dying from an overdose just over a year ago, and another overdo...
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misterpiko
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Step One.
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My step one used to go like this: Admitted that I was powerless over xxxx and that my life had become unmanageable. Over the years I have put a lot of things in that middle frame- including alcoholism and addiction. Last night we had a 'chip night' with three grandkids, mum and dad... it was really good...
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DavidG
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Checking out this Al-Anon thing. Not sure I want to go to a meeting.
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Ive resisted the Al-Anon program for years. My attitude has always been, Im not the alcoholic, why do I need to go to meetings? Im not the one who screwed up our family. I am VERY angry and bitter. I know this and I just dont think theres anything wrong with that. I hate my ex and why shouldnt I? My stor...
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Lu0519
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Overwhelmed with sadness
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Well, My AH of almost 14 years came home drunk and very angry Friday morning (a week ago) because I wouldn't give him a ride home from the bar. I guess he ended up walking home and was fuming mad by the time he got there. He woke me up but when I layed back down to avoid the alcohol induced arguments he loved to g...
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Dlove
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Tired and sad after every exchange.
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I've a fairly odd relationship with my mother, really. If I tried to explain it all, I'd probably break the forum by submitting too much text. Maybe the whole internet. Theres a lot of "stuff" from childhood that I used to think didn't bother me and actually, as I get older (and I hope healthier) it actua...
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MissM
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I'm new and struggling
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Hi, I'm new here and I'm hoping to find some support and maybe some helpful advice. I feel the need to share what got me here. My wife is an alcoholic. We have an 18 month old son. She ended up incarcerated after a violent altercation that landed me in the ER when our son was just over months old, yes a little o...
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Daddy M
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Why Is He Blaming Me?
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As some of you know, I have left my alcoholic boyfriend of five years. it has been a roller coaster five years and I did give it my all by learning about the disease, going to Al-Anon, reading stuff, you name it. I probably should have left years ago, but insteadI I set boundaries and he finally went to AA an...
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Aerin
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Courage To Change 1/7
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Today's courage to change reading is about criticism and it's effects- both the excessive criticism we might have received from others, and that which we bombard ourselves with, before recovery, at least. Self-criticism is often the by product of living with addiction and dysfunction, but it dep...
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MissM
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People asking for advice
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Hi all, I want to relate a recurring theme for me in the last 3 days. Its kind of funny how these things coincide, I think maybe my HP is trying to say something to me, but I'm at a loss. Something like 3 days ago my mom called me to ask for advice on how to better handle a situation with her A brother who had left w...
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Aline
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My HP thinks I'm special....
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This morning I decided to take in the morning meeting and as I drove down to the meeting site going in the direction of the ocean I drove into and thru a very large bright Triangle of light reminiscing of our logo. It was surrounded with very bright light and I felt spiritually comfortable with what I w...
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Jerry F
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Courage to Change (C2C) 6/30/17
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We are half way through another year - time goes so, so fast! Today's reading talks about prayer and praying. The writer shares a story about a small child repeated his ABC's over and over again. An adult comes upon the child, asking what he's doing/saying. The child suggests he's praying - when cor...
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Iamhere
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I do not know how to help my father
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My father is very sick and no matter how many times my mother and I have tried to help, it always goes wrong. We need help, we do not know what to do anymore. He is physically sick because of the alcohol and he refuses to go to a doctor or get hemp or even admit that it's the alcohol that's causing him tofeel sic...
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Oggymlad19
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Hope for Today June 27
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Good morning Everyone-
Today's reading is about tradition 8 and that primarily our program is a non professional one that for the most part does not offer pay (or charge anyone) for its services.
When I read this I think of the expression 'you get what you give' in the sense that the reward is in the giv...
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yanksfan51
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Courage to Change (C2C) 6/29/17
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Today's reading is about Step 4 in recovery - Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. Al-Anon's guide to taking Step 4, Blue-print for Progress walks us through the process, and the writer shares that they had surprise at how many questions existed about Character assets! Over a...
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Iamhere
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My news and update
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It has been a long time since I posted about myself here at MIP so here is an update... Next week I will complete my second year of studying person-centred counselling at University. I've loved the course and being in an environment full of learning and youth has invigorated my spirit. I even found ti...
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milkwood
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Boundary, Let Go, What?
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My AD calls me often. She doesn't drink every day, nor does she take too many anti-anxiety meds every day, so there are some days when she is somewhat rational. Her life/emotions are very chaotic, but she is starting to work a couple days a week (didn't work for years) and starting to make some progress...
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lgnutah
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New here, looking for a supportive online community
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Hey there, I'm new to this forum, but have been to Al-anon meetings IRL several times before. A little bit about me: I am new to this - "my alcoholic" and I have been together for 7 months. She has had various lengths of sobriety, with this being her first serious attempt being within the last 6 months, an...
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brie925
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Having the Conversation
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Thank you all for reading this - and providing me a safe space to share. I have been through several unsteady years with my A. 7 total, about 5 of them with very deep lows. The last 2 have been particularly painful with at least 7-8 break up moments; although a break up never occurred. This spring I went on...
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BreathingInAndOut
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6/28/17 C2C - Our Recovery
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Today's author long saw the qualifier's disease in terms of how it affected her/his life, seeing the actions of the alcoholic as reflecting on them. In this way, the ups and downs of the alcoholic's recovery were taken personally.Looking back, the author identified the most important thing they le...
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Enigmatic
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Unable to let go of bitterness, anger and forgive her
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Letting go of the bitterness/anger has been difficult for me. I just started counseling, F2F meetings and this forum. My AW is still in jail and I am not sure for how long--4th DUI/probation violation. She will be sentenced in early July. This is the fourth time in jail, and according to her, she wi...
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T84
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Very unpleasant to be made the butt of jokes in front of relatives
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My husband had a love relationship with alcohol for almost 50 years, beginning in his teens. He never verbally acknowledged alcohol caused any problems despite being stopped and let go by police, arrested, being too drunk to go to the hospital when our children had accidents or serious illnesses,...
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lgnutah
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6/26/17 C2C - Bitterness: An Option?
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Today's page author realized that bitterness directed toward the qualifier was causing great self harm, and as with most things, concluded that there was a choice: Continue to carry bitterness based on blame and resentment, or change perspective and find peace. The author chose the latter, ackno...
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Enigmatic
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Hello all.
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Hello all. Thank you for giving me the oppurtunity to join this group. I am brand new to it. I guess I wil just come out and say that I live with an alcoholic brother and can be very abusive sometimes. Im at the point of having to make moving decisions because of it. I dont want to move away from my elderly mom a...
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Staci
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Now we wait!!!!
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my dear sister was admitted to hospital last night cancer has spread to her liver and possibly other parts...this is NOT looking good...Thank you program for giving me the ability to reach out to her when I did back 2 years ago or whevenever it was because even tho I hurt like hell now, its better than to n...
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mamalioness
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Emotional detachment and emotional sobriety
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Sobriety for the alcoholic or drug addict is a simple standard...either you drank or you didn't. Either you used or you didn't. No debate, no discussion, very definitive, black and white, cut and dry. However, when we look at our sickness, our disease, where is the standard of sobriety. Is it an actio...
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Bo
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Hello I'm new here and I feel like I'm going crazy :(
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Hello, I've never done anything like this before, but I need some support. I feel like I'm loosing my mind. I've been married to my husband for 17 years. He is a major alcoholic. I have so many stories I want to share. I just need to know I came to the right place for a little support. I don't want to feel like I...
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Kub
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Need all the serenity I can get this week
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Our youngest is marrying this weekend in another city. There will be a big wedding with numerous family and old friends coming from out of town. I am looking forward it. I want to keep my focus on all that is good and joyful. Of course-why else am I on this site?...... there is my AD (who lives 100 miles a...
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lgnutah
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ODAT Reading 6-25-2017
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The ODAT reading June 25 speaks about my favorite Step-Step 11. The reading points out that the words of this step are extremely important,:" sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood him, praying only for knowledge of his will for us and the pow...
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hotrod
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Update
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Hi Everyone I have been very busy lately working and taking it one day at a time. My sister passed out 3 weeks ago and her husband took her to the ER. They discovered her large intestines were leaking and have to take out 6 inches of her colon which in turn gave her a colostomy for the rest of her life. She wa...
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Cathyinaz
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Step 9
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Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together!http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t63689471/alanon-s...
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hotrod
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To sit and just be...just watch.
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My grand-son in law had a birthday celebration today and my grand-daughter made sure I was invited. What's it like to just sit and watch a multi-generational family get together and just have simple, sane fun without a smidgen of alcohol? Its not all about me. I sat and just watched the goings on....
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Jerry F
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Why is acceptance so hard?
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Today I am going to a discharge planning meeting with my A and her therapist . My A has no concept, no understanding, and no interest, in planning her next helpers after a 6 week intensive day program. She only went because of me. So at this juncture it is up to her , and I think she will relapse rather qui...
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Lyne
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Guilt but know I need to leave
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Hi, I'm new to the boards but came for help. My husband and I have been together for 14 years and married for 6 (half my life). We have a 2 year old and a surprise baby on the way due in october. Husband has been dealing with depression and alcohol abuse for a year and a half. He gets destructive in our home (bre...
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Rach32986
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A goodbye I won't miss out on
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Hi everyone!! Several years back, I had a cousin who was mildly retarded and a lovely fellow and he absolutely worshipped me..I was his sweetheart...His favorite person and all he ever wanted of me was to love him and when I moved out of state, to write him when I could..People said he would run to the mai...
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mamalioness
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Surely it's not rocket science.
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I'm grateful grateful for the doors of understanding and keys to action that alanon has given me.
My current state of eye rolling rests in thinking that every bs drama can simply be explained as the byproduct of addiction. Its really not that complicated! I know enough now to resist the urge to force i...
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a4l
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What healing feels like
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It feels like freedom from despair and it feels like memories can be faced and felt with a new heart. Thinking about my kids when they were wee, how beautiful they were, their soft skin and the innocent faces, wouldn't it be nice to go back just for a moment and tell them I'm sorry for not being the Mother yo...
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el-cee
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Courage To Change 24/6
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Today's courage to change is about seeing our successes. It opens with a cute story which I will outline for anyone that doesn't have the reader- a farmer decides to encourage his hens to lay more eggs by playing the flute for them all day long. When he is asked if it was a success, he agrees that is was, be...
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MissM
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Struggling to Make Decisions
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I'm really struggling with making decisions right now. I started attending meetings twice a week a few months ago, but then a sudden illness has kept me away the past couple weeks. I'm still not 100% recovered and reminding myself that not feeling well is adding to my stress. I'm a year from retirement...
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Lee51
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I'ts "Drunk Thursday," but at least I kept my sanity!
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So, yea. Payday. In our house it's "Drunk Thursday." So the next couple of days are hard, but let's talk about ME! LOL! At my place of employment, I can see out a very large bay window. Were talking storefront large. My AH drives a BRIGHT yellow/orange work truck... it is literally impossible to miss. So...
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PosiesandPuppies
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Courage to Change (C2C) 6/23/17
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Today's reading is about honesty. Alcoholism, the family disease, brings about denial for almost all affected. To recover, heal and deal with our lives, we need to be truthful with ourselves as we continue to review our own attitudes and actions each day. This honest reflection allows us to be hu...
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Iamhere
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I am not sure what to title this yet because I just need to get it out. My AH was drinking yesterday he came home early from work and started drinking so by the time I got home he must have been intoxicated but I wasn't expecting it and so I didn't notice. Lately he has been trying to curb his drinking and man...
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KT2015
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Courage to Change (C2C) 6/22/17
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Today's reading is about how we learn to speak from our heart with our focus on self. Many of us come to recovery believing we are angry because of others or we are anxious because of others. We come to realize that when we blame others for how we feel, we give them power over our feelings, power that righ...
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