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jenmom · jenmom

Little background. My brother was an abusive drug/addict alcoholic who attempted to molest me growing up. She called and made up some story that a child had called her phone and she thought it was one of my boys. I told her it was not them and then she started with the I miss you and the boys. And that she lov...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Now that I have had another life learning experience I am very humbled & grateful. I really know it is true that God doesn't give me more than I can handle but I can't handle these times when I feel overwhelmed. My 74 year old mom is still declining. She is not dying but this is killing me. She still want...

Aline · Aline

Went to my x-abfs flat today although he had been drinking. My mistake. I couldn't deal with the situation so I just left pretty soon. He hasn't been eating much, I didn't have money to bring over food. Anyway he kept sending me messeges afterwards and finally wrote something like - bye, this time I'll h...

bzz123 · bzz123

it has been almost three years with my friend including job loss, relationship loss, family alienation, dui, legal troubles, bankruptcy, zero retirement savings anymore, health issues (obv), 15 detoxes, 30 days inpatient, etc. i never had any experience with addiction ever and i thought i was "d...

jenmom · jenmom

I grew up in a home with an alcoholic/drug addict brother. It was an abusive upbringing. My brother was verbally and physically abusive. He attempted, unsuccessfully, to molest me at the age of 9. He would physically abuse me in front of my Mother and as long as she didn't have to deal with it she did noth...

cristina622 · cristina622

My partner has been sober for 17 months now, and works the program very well. We have been together for 6 years, and have recently moved in together with promises made. Now that he is completely focused on himself, he dropped a bombshell and told me he never wants to get married or have kids. I don't know w...

mydogisreallycute · mydogisreallycute

Hi, is it ok for a chairperson to simply change a meeting format and do it "my way" (as it was said) even if there is a group conscious decided format?

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Today's reading is about the gentleness of our program. Specifically the writer mentions that in his/her recovery there was a realization that when acceptance or someone caring for him/her was felt, there was a type of pain associated with the pleasure. There was difficu...

Sorcha · Sorcha

I haven't posted in a while. Things have been very rocky with my alcoholic partner for a long time now, probably always, but there used to be some nice times which have gotten fewer and further between over the last year, whether he is drinking or not. I have been attending al-anon for a long time and real...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Every time I text my daughter or her daughters, i get more bad news about sister dearest NOW her lungs are filling up with fluid so bad, her legs look like balloons...she has asked for hospice care, Wednesday , the doctors will re-eval her and give prognosis...she is going out in such a HAAARD way....Pa...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

So one thing I have been dealing with is the statement that's really none of my business .. I need a good response when I am told that my sig other doesn't like that statement. He believes as we all have that all aspects of our relationship are mine or his business and the reality is no .. it's not. My defin...

shrnp · shrnp

My son is bipolar and off his medication. He does not drink, and I am grateful for that. However, he keeps arguing with me, and he overdrew his checking account. He was arguing with my grandson's mom and I had to talk to her which is very rare. He lives with me and I honestly and thinking about calling the po...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's author lists our identity as something that is damaged as a result of alcoholism. In the process of fighting the effects of the disease with existing, less efficient tools, doubts and misconceptions about our own character can creep in and become part of how we see ourselves. AlAnon helps u...

hopelessONE · hopelessONE

I've been living with a highly functioning alcoholic for over 25 years. Some days are better than others. I've recently starting seeing a wonderful therapist who often encourages me to attend an Al-Anon meeting. With the help of a therapist, I've started communicating with my adult children ab...

VickiR · VickiR

Hi everyone, I haven't posted in a while, things have been tense and strained and I haven't had a lot to say. My AH has been trying I guess, but things felt broken after he was physical with me in may for the first time. I was working everything over in my head and was ready to make a move and call the police if a...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for July 9 speaks about self-pity and how destructive this can be to our minds and hearts. It suggests that we may be envying those who have more material things like a house etc or many could be resentful of others because we are bored an hate the monotony in our lives not having en...

hotrod · hotrod

Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! The 10th Step has been posted to the Step Work Board. Here is the link: http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t63730643...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... kia ora... I have two 'coming of age' stories... one happened when I was 17. I was doing well at school outwardly- but I was sleepwalking... I was heading for the streets. Being a farm boy I knew how to forage, and never actually went hungry. Mum and dad came home from the pub about 7. Mum chippe...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Okay I've got a wife in the house and can give and receive kisses and truthfully we are just like when she left...normalcy. I love her steadfastness and her calm spirit...Mahalo Akua...Thank you God. Going to step up my Family Group attendance because I am aware of a return of an old defect which do...

MissM · MissM

Today's C2c reading recalls the way we experience the world as a child...taking in nature with wonder and awe. It suggests that spending time appreciating nature is a wonderful way to help ourselves experience life one day at a time. It points out that creation doesn't waste time worrying or meddlin...

Arda · Arda

I would like to find support from other parents of an alcoholic. For me it feels different when it's your child who is struggling with addiction. No one wants to lose a loved one but a parent especially doesn't want to lose their child.

wonderwoman75 · wonderwoman75

I feel like a desperately need help. My husband gained sobriety at a very young age and had been sober many years when we were married. I never knew him as an alcoholic and we didn't discuss it very much. After about 16 years of sobriety, I caught him drinking when we were on vacation about 9 years ago. ...

MsMedina · MsMedina

My father has been a drinker for most of his life but for the past five years it's been horrifically bad. Everything from washing him up to calling an ambulance due to his breathing everything has been done on his part as an alcoholic .He came to visit us for the weekend and I got a call from my grandma that m...

Iamhere · Iamhere

The daily reading today discusses 'chronic scorekeeping'. The author suggests that with each conflict, there needed to be an at fault person and blame assigning was the norm. The thinking applied included assigning blame, and this caused perpetual defensiveness and anxiety. In recovery, we l...

cristina622 · cristina622

Need help! Sorry if this post appears harsh but I am at a loss, and I don't know where to turn to for help. I just want to cry everyday. My /boyfriend/fiancee (will explain) and I have been together for 6 years. I had just gotten out of my marriage and he was getting out of his. Life with him was AMAZING!!!!, l...

Lyne · Lyne

So a few days ago I felt so defeated. I was excluded from a family gathering, and learned that yet another family member dislikes my A so much, that she never wants to see my A again. For the first time in a very long time, I found myself crying which rarely happens anymore. But when I wrote on the board, I...

Rose52 · Rose52

Hi. Just introducing myself. I'm glad to find an online group and hope to connect with others. The last few years have been full of hardship. Now I am having some health problems and am still raising kids on my own . 2 special needs among the group. I am craving some serenity!!

Pacificgirl · Pacificgirl

I've dated a recovering alcoholic for two years. The relationship started off amazing, I had never felt loved like that before. I knew he was several years in recovery and seemed to be doing well. A few months in his mood swings started. I felt like when we got close he pulled away. I knew going in there...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I like to do "challenge" posts, kinda...FUN, but sorta keeps me focused on what did I do to take care of me today??? I had an old gift certificate from the animal shelter and I almost had forgotten it...well?? i went to the shelter today to visit the doggies and kitties and I met this canine charmer...3 m...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP - Happy Thursday!! Today's reading talks about how many of us came to Al-Anon with the deep feeling and thought that - "It isn't fair!!" Most of us feel we deserve better after all we've been through and just believe we've been dealt a "raw deal". The prayer quoted in the "Just for Today...

Aline · Aline

I want to share my gratitude today. It's been exactly 6 months since my first Alanon meeting today, and I feel like celebrating. I've been looking forward to this "semi anniversary" for a couple of weeks now much like a kid waiting for her birthday, although I didn't really expect any presents :) I'm ju...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

The holidays have always been stressful and it's been a long time since I have been through 3 day weekends and so on with another person. Christmas and T-day were easier because we were newer into the relationship I think. We were on his territory not mine. I'm flexible like that .. lol .. it has to be p...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

I am not sure what to do with these feelings, so I am posting about them in the hopes that I can release them into cyberspace and then move on. I was hit yesterday with AH's hospital bill... or at least the EOB saying the stay was "non-medical," and therefore denied. Over $35,000.00!!! I had a feeling that...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

I have been reading a lot lately. Mostly my codie books, but also the "Rethinking Drinking" series by Linda Burlison. These books speak to me, because I have a science background, and I have always loved science. Show me some facts/research and I can relate much better. Probably why religion has alwa...

mamalioness · mamalioness

hospital will transfer my sister to a skilled care facility because our girls cannot cope with one so sick...her lungs are full of fluid so they are draining them as she cannot breathe....she will not get liver biopsy because she is well aware of the stress to her already frail and failing body....and...

niki48 · niki48

I am not sure what finally brought me here or admit my issues except I know that I cannot accept the person I have become any longer. My husband has not had a drink in 2 years 3 months 4 days yet I relive it daily. I am angry and scared every single day. I wait for the "slip up" always. I can't bring myself to...

WestMan · WestMan

Ok so it's not what the subject sounds like. I'm going on vacation and taking the kids out of town for a few days. My AW did not want to go so it's just us. It feels really weird. I know we'll have fun. I know she'll get some peace and quiet. I also know this could be a bad sign and I think it's why I've had a certain...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page is one of several pages in C2C which sheds light on the many ways detachment is helpful to recovery when put into action. The author describes detachment as 'freedom to own what is mine and to allow others to own what is theirs'. This is helpful in all interactions. Use within the fellowshi...

Jerry F · Jerry F

I've changed my avatar just for today because it helps to affirm my cultural spirit so much of which is anchored onto and in my program...I will not make any political or national statements just revealing my roots. Mahalo ((((Hugs))))

pumkin26 · pumkin26

Hi all--- I have been a little MIA, health and work and then much needed family time with my parents and boys. It's been relaxing, getting a lot of projects around the house done, cleaning out the crap... feels great! Everything here is... status quo. I'm going to meetings, reaching out when I'm react...

shrnp · shrnp

Today I went to see my A ex-bf. He is doing really good. He has not had anything to drink in six months, he found a nice house to rent. He lives in a quiet community near his family. He even has cats, and he is taking care of them. The small things are really important because previously he could barely take ca...

KT2015 · KT2015

I think I have posted about this before but it's back. It seems as though when my life starts to go smoothly and I have periods of not worrying so much about other things that I start to have nightmares. I've put more effort into my program lately than I have in a while and I have really seen the benefits. ...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Yesterday evening I came home from work to find an empty vodka bottle on the living room floor. I wasn't surprised, yesterday was payday. I just picked it up and went into our bedroom where my AH was lying on the bed with the food and drink (that I've asked him before to not have b/c he spills it all the time)...

Curlyblu · Curlyblu

Hi all! It's been months since I've been here. Durning that time I continued to work on my own recovery, I began to focus less on AH and more on me. Letting my faith grow. For whatever reason, I learnt I am ment to be where I am, HP has a plan for me. When I first came here that was very hard to understand. In the p...

hotrod · hotrod

Hi Today ,i visited the chat room to check on the Morning meetings. Courage was there and ready to conduct a meeting. We chatted a little and it appears that we still need chair persons to conduct the meetings in both the morning and evening. it is quite simple and Training is available Let myself...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- I apologize for the late posting today- I am away from home and it took me a bit to figure out how to log in to the site! Today's reading is a focus on how alcoholism impacts intimacy and sexuality. As I read this it was a reminder for me about how pervasive the disease is and the effec...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's author points to the joy of having members in the group who demonstrate a positive, joyful demeanor that is nearly impossible to grab onto and adopt. Yet it is often these same ones whose story includes very difficult times and who arrived AlAnon broken and hopeless. Reminder: The more I dig i...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Since december, it has been one thing after another: My client and friend gets killed in a car wreck and now my work is less and struggling more financially Sister #1 in March decides she wants out of here (she had Alzheimers) and so she stopped drinking and eating and is dead 1 week later April, I have to p...

Lyne · Lyne

I guess I'm going to try and laugh at my family instead of having a pity party. My sister and nephews are visiting for 3 days from CA. They are staying with an older brother who is a borderline psychopath. My sister loves him. I have a really nice brother and he and my sister aren't speaking. The older...

Lyne · Lyne

Well last night I did get hurt and today I am using my tools and I KNOW I will make a strong comeback . The valuable Alanon lesson comes from learning to focus on myself. Because when the Foo and the spouse and other people hurt and let me down, I have myself, I have HP, I have my tools (getting a good workout...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for July 2 speaks about experiencing the joy of living. It points out that, new members are astonished to learn that many of the happiest people at the meeting were also burdened with a wall black despair. when they first found program . It was Al-Anon that brought the joy of livin...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Please join us in the chatroom if you need a meeting. Our chair is Courage, our topics are GRATITUDE.. MAKING A LIST, AND OPEN ALANON TOPIC.

misterpiko · misterpiko

I haven't been on this board for quite some time. I reread my old post and the responses and unfortunately, I am insane (doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results). My husband continues to relapse despite nearly dying from an overdose just over a year ago, and another overdo...

DavidG · DavidG

My step one used to go like this: Admitted that I was powerless over xxxx and that my life had become unmanageable. Over the years I have put a lot of things in that middle frame- including alcoholism and addiction. Last night we had a 'chip night' with three grandkids, mum and dad... it was really good...

Lu0519 · Lu0519

Ive resisted the Al-Anon program for years. My attitude has always been, Im not the alcoholic, why do I need to go to meetings? Im not the one who screwed up our family. I am VERY angry and bitter. I know this and I just dont think theres anything wrong with that. I hate my ex and why shouldnt I? My stor...

Dlove · Dlove

Well, My AH of almost 14 years came home drunk and very angry Friday morning (a week ago) because I wouldn't give him a ride home from the bar. I guess he ended up walking home and was fuming mad by the time he got there. He woke me up but when I layed back down to avoid the alcohol induced arguments he loved to g...

MissM · MissM

I've a fairly odd relationship with my mother, really. If I tried to explain it all, I'd probably break the forum by submitting too much text. Maybe the whole internet. Theres a lot of "stuff" from childhood that I used to think didn't bother me and actually, as I get older (and I hope healthier) it actua...

Daddy M · Daddy M

Hi, I'm new here and I'm hoping to find some support and maybe some helpful advice. I feel the need to share what got me here. My wife is an alcoholic. We have an 18 month old son. She ended up incarcerated after a violent altercation that landed me in the ER when our son was just over months old, yes a little o...

Aerin · Aerin

As some of you know, I have left my alcoholic boyfriend of five years. it has been a roller coaster five years and I did give it my all by learning about the disease, going to Al-Anon, reading stuff, you name it. I probably should have left years ago, but insteadI I set boundaries and he finally went to AA an...

MissM · MissM

Today's courage to change reading is about criticism and it's effects- both the excessive criticism we might have received from others, and that which we bombard ourselves with, before recovery, at least. Self-criticism is often the by product of living with addiction and dysfunction, but it dep...

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	Mother I haven't spoken to in 2 and a half years called tonight (Preview) Little background. My brother was an abusive drug/addict alcoholic who attempted to molest me growing up. She called and made up some story that a child had called her phone and she thought it was one of my boys. I told her it was not them and then she started with the I miss you and the boys. And that she lov...	jenmom	6	553	Jul 12, 2017 by mamalioness
	Awareness (Preview) Now that I have had another life learning experience I am very humbled & grateful. I really know it is true that God doesn't give me more than I can handle but I can't handle these times when I feel overwhelmed. My 74 year old mom is still declining. She is not dying but this is killing me. She still want...	Hoot Nanny	4	512	Jul 12, 2017 by Iamhere
	Called police (Preview) Went to my x-abfs flat today although he had been drinking. My mistake. I couldn't deal with the situation so I just left pretty soon. He hasn't been eating much, I didn't have money to bring over food. Anyway he kept sending me messeges afterwards and finally wrote something like - bye, this time I'll h...	Aline	11	630	Jul 12, 2017 by shrnp
	new and struggling (Preview) it has been almost three years with my friend including job loss, relationship loss, family alienation, dui, legal troubles, bankruptcy, zero retirement savings anymore, health issues (obv), 15 detoxes, 30 days inpatient, etc. i never had any experience with addiction ever and i thought i was "d...	bzz123	14	691	Jul 12, 2017 by Bo
	New and feeling kind of lost. (Preview) I grew up in a home with an alcoholic/drug addict brother. It was an abusive upbringing. My brother was verbally and physically abusive. He attempted, unsuccessfully, to molest me at the age of 9. He would physically abuse me in front of my Mother and as long as she didn't have to deal with it she did noth...	jenmom	6	574	Jul 11, 2017 by jenmom
	Second Al Anon Meeting.... (Preview) My partner has been sober for 17 months now, and works the program very well. We have been together for 6 years, and have recently moved in together with promises made. Now that he is completely focused on himself, he dropped a bombshell and told me he never wants to get married or have kids. I don't know w...	cristina622	3	498	Jul 11, 2017 by hotrod
	Meeting Dominance or Group Conscious Principals (Preview) Hi, is it ok for a chairperson to simply change a meeting format and do it "my way" (as it was said) even if there is a group conscious decided format?	mydogisreallycute	13	5751	Jul 11, 2017 by DavidG
	Hope for Today July 11 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Today's reading is about the gentleness of our program. Specifically the writer mentions that in his/her recovery there was a realization that when acceptance or someone caring for him/her was felt, there was a type of pain associated with the pleasure. There was difficu...	yanksfan51	4	501	Jul 11, 2017 by Stan1
	The obsession (Preview) I haven't posted in a while. Things have been very rocky with my alcoholic partner for a long time now, probably always, but there used to be some nice times which have gotten fewer and further between over the last year, whether he is drinking or not. I have been attending al-anon for a long time and real...	Sorcha	22	782	Jul 11, 2017 by Bo
	If I didn't have this program and this board, don't know what I would do!!!! (Preview) Every time I text my daughter or her daughters, i get more bad news about sister dearest NOW her lungs are filling up with fluid so bad, her legs look like balloons...she has asked for hospice care, Wednesday , the doctors will re-eval her and give prognosis...she is going out in such a HAAARD way....Pa...	mamalioness	6	554	Jul 11, 2017 by Iamhere
	Minding my own business .. Need ESH .. (Preview) So one thing I have been dealing with is the statement that's really none of my business .. I need a good response when I am told that my sig other doesn't like that statement. He believes as we all have that all aspects of our relationship are mine or his business and the reality is no .. it's not. My defin...	SerenityRUS	9	654	Jul 11, 2017 by hotrod
	Losing my serenity (Preview) My son is bipolar and off his medication. He does not drink, and I am grateful for that. However, he keeps arguing with me, and he overdrew his checking account. He was arguing with my grandson's mom and I had to talk to her which is very rare. He lives with me and I honestly and thinking about calling the po...	shrnp	28	953	Jul 11, 2017 by shrnp
	7/10/17 Courage to Change (Preview) Today's author lists our identity as something that is damaged as a result of alcoholism. In the process of fighting the effects of the disease with existing, less efficient tools, doubts and misconceptions about our own character can creep in and become part of how we see ourselves. AlAnon helps u...	Enigmatic	7	506	Jul 10, 2017 by mamalioness
	Do I stay or do I go? (Preview) I've been living with a highly functioning alcoholic for over 25 years. Some days are better than others. I've recently starting seeing a wonderful therapist who often encourages me to attend an Al-Anon meeting. With the help of a therapist, I've started communicating with my adult children ab...	hopelessONE	6	642	Jul 10, 2017 by mamalioness
	It's been a while (Preview) Hi everyone, I haven't posted in a while, things have been tense and strained and I haven't had a lot to say. My AH has been trying I guess, but things felt broken after he was physical with me in may for the first time. I was working everything over in my head and was ready to make a move and call the police if a...	VickiR	11	570	Jul 10, 2017 by milkwood
	ODAT Reading 7-9-2017 (Preview) The ODAT reading for July 9 speaks about self-pity and how destructive this can be to our minds and hearts. It suggests that we may be envying those who have more material things like a house etc or many could be resentful of others because we are bored an hate the monotony in our lives not having en...	hotrod	2	924	Jul 9, 2017 by mamalioness
	10th Step has been posted to the Step Work Board (Preview) Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! The 10th Step has been posted to the Step Work Board. Here is the link: http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t63730643...	hotrod	1	370	Jul 9, 2017 by mamalioness
	Coming of age in Alanon... (Preview) Hi y'all... kia ora... I have two 'coming of age' stories... one happened when I was 17. I was doing well at school outwardly- but I was sleepwalking... I was heading for the streets. Being a farm boy I knew how to forage, and never actually went hungry. Mum and dad came home from the pub about 7. Mum chippe...	DavidG	4	562	Jul 9, 2017 by Enigmatic
	Back to normal somewhat?? (Preview) Okay I've got a wife in the house and can give and receive kisses and truthfully we are just like when she left...normalcy. I love her steadfastness and her calm spirit...Mahalo Akua...Thank you God. Going to step up my Family Group attendance because I am aware of a return of an old defect which do...	Jerry F	8	510	Jul 9, 2017 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change 8/7 (Preview) Today's C2c reading recalls the way we experience the world as a child...taking in nature with wonder and awe. It suggests that spending time appreciating nature is a wonderful way to help ourselves experience life one day at a time. It points out that creation doesn't waste time worrying or meddlin...	MissM	4	497	Jul 9, 2017 by KT2015
	Parent of an alcoholic (Preview) I would like to find support from other parents of an alcoholic. For me it feels different when it's your child who is struggling with addiction. No one wants to lose a loved one but a parent especially doesn't want to lose their child.	Arda	13	1530	Jul 9, 2017 by Iamhere
	Full Relapse and Affair (Preview) I feel like a desperately need help. My husband gained sobriety at a very young age and had been sober many years when we were married. I never knew him as an alcoholic and we didn't discuss it very much. After about 16 years of sobriety, I caught him drinking when we were on vacation about 9 years ago. ...	wonderwoman75	13	799	Jul 8, 2017 by Iamhere
	How to Cope... (Preview) My father has been a drinker for most of his life but for the past five years it's been horrifically bad. Everything from washing him up to calling an ambulance due to his breathing everything has been done on his part as an alcoholic .He came to visit us for the weekend and I got a call from my grandma that m...	MsMedina	7	541	Jul 8, 2017 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change (C2C) 7/7/17 (Preview) The daily reading today discusses 'chronic scorekeeping'. The author suggests that with each conflict, there needed to be an at fault person and blame assigning was the norm. The thinking applied included assigning blame, and this caused perpetual defensiveness and anxiety. In recovery, we l...	Iamhere	6	526	Jul 8, 2017 by mamalioness
	I can't stop crying, need help please!!!!! (Preview) Need help! Sorry if this post appears harsh but I am at a loss, and I don't know where to turn to for help. I just want to cry everyday. My /boyfriend/fiancee (will explain) and I have been together for 6 years. I had just gotten out of my marriage and he was getting out of his. Life with him was AMAZING!!!!, l...	cristina622	8	620	Jul 8, 2017 by mamalioness
	Making a comeback (Preview) So a few days ago I felt so defeated. I was excluded from a family gathering, and learned that yet another family member dislikes my A so much, that she never wants to see my A again. For the first time in a very long time, I found myself crying which rarely happens anymore. But when I wrote on the board, I...	Lyne	4	528	Jul 7, 2017 by hotrod
	New here (Preview) Hi. Just introducing myself. I'm glad to find an online group and hope to connect with others. The last few years have been full of hardship. Now I am having some health problems and am still raising kids on my own . 2 special needs among the group. I am craving some serenity!!	Rose52	6	532	Jul 7, 2017 by WestMan
	Dating a recovering alcoholic (Preview) I've dated a recovering alcoholic for two years. The relationship started off amazing, I had never felt loved like that before. I knew he was several years in recovery and seemed to be doing well. A few months in his mood swings started. I felt like when we got close he pulled away. I knew going in there...	Pacificgirl	7	2683	Jul 7, 2017 by tiredtonite
	What did I do to take care of me today???? (Preview) I like to do "challenge" posts, kinda...FUN, but sorta keeps me focused on what did I do to take care of me today??? I had an old gift certificate from the animal shelter and I almost had forgotten it...well?? i went to the shelter today to visit the doggies and kitties and I met this canine charmer...3 m...	mamalioness	16	652	Jul 6, 2017 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change (C2C) 7/6/17 (Preview) Good morning MIP - Happy Thursday!! Today's reading talks about how many of us came to Al-Anon with the deep feeling and thought that - "It isn't fair!!" Most of us feel we deserve better after all we've been through and just believe we've been dealt a "raw deal". The prayer quoted in the "Just for Today...	Iamhere	6	617	Jul 6, 2017 by Iamhere
	Grateful (Preview) I want to share my gratitude today. It's been exactly 6 months since my first Alanon meeting today, and I feel like celebrating. I've been looking forward to this "semi anniversary" for a couple of weeks now much like a kid waiting for her birthday, although I didn't really expect any presents :) I'm ju...	Aline	11	600	Jul 6, 2017 by DavidG
	Recovery work is not easy at times .. (Preview) The holidays have always been stressful and it's been a long time since I have been through 3 day weekends and so on with another person. Christmas and T-day were easier because we were newer into the relationship I think. We were on his territory not mine. I'm flexible like that .. lol .. it has to be p...	SerenityRUS	9	594	Jul 6, 2017 by SerenityRUS
	Feeling Resentful (Preview) I am not sure what to do with these feelings, so I am posting about them in the hopes that I can release them into cyberspace and then move on. I was hit yesterday with AH's hospital bill... or at least the EOB saying the stay was "non-medical," and therefore denied. Over $35,000.00!!! I had a feeling that...	PosiesandPuppies	15	699	Jul 6, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	Alcoholism as a "brain disease" ( 1 2 ) (Preview) I have been reading a lot lately. Mostly my codie books, but also the "Rethinking Drinking" series by Linda Burlison. These books speak to me, because I have a science background, and I have always loved science. Show me some facts/research and I can relate much better. Probably why religion has alwa...	PosiesandPuppies	53	2512	Jul 6, 2017 by el-cee
	I'm losing her piece by piece (Preview) hospital will transfer my sister to a skilled care facility because our girls cannot cope with one so sick...her lungs are full of fluid so they are draining them as she cannot breathe....she will not get liver biopsy because she is well aware of the stress to her already frail and failing body....and...	mamalioness	19	690	Jul 5, 2017 by mamalioness
	Still Lost Even When He Is Sober (Preview) I am not sure what finally brought me here or admit my issues except I know that I cannot accept the person I have become any longer. My husband has not had a drink in 2 years 3 months 4 days yet I relive it daily. I am angry and scared every single day. I wait for the "slip up" always. I can't bring myself to...	niki48	11	657	Jul 5, 2017 by mamalioness
	Leaving with the kids. (Preview) Ok so it's not what the subject sounds like. I'm going on vacation and taking the kids out of town for a few days. My AW did not want to go so it's just us. It feels really weird. I know we'll have fun. I know she'll get some peace and quiet. I also know this could be a bad sign and I think it's why I've had a certain...	WestMan	24	856	Jul 5, 2017 by shrnp
	7-5-17 C2C Detachment (Preview) Today's page is one of several pages in C2C which sheds light on the many ways detachment is helpful to recovery when put into action. The author describes detachment as 'freedom to own what is mine and to allow others to own what is theirs'. This is helpful in all interactions. Use within the fellowshi...	Enigmatic	6	574	Jul 5, 2017 by mamalioness
	Just for me (Preview) I've changed my avatar just for today because it helps to affirm my cultural spirit so much of which is anchored onto and in my program...I will not make any political or national statements just revealing my roots. Mahalo ((((Hugs))))	Jerry F	8	564	Jul 5, 2017 by mamalioness
	Jumbled- Status Quo. (Preview) Hi all--- I have been a little MIA, health and work and then much needed family time with my parents and boys. It's been relaxing, getting a lot of projects around the house done, cleaning out the crap... feels great! Everything here is... status quo. I'm going to meetings, reaching out when I'm react...	pumkin26	2	528	Jul 5, 2017 by SerenityRUS
	Partners do not always recover at the same time. (Preview) Today I went to see my A ex-bf. He is doing really good. He has not had anything to drink in six months, he found a nice house to rent. He lives in a quiet community near his family. He even has cats, and he is taking care of them. The small things are really important because previously he could barely take ca...	shrnp	9	630	Jul 5, 2017 by KT2015
	Nightmares (Preview) I think I have posted about this before but it's back. It seems as though when my life starts to go smoothly and I have periods of not worrying so much about other things that I start to have nightmares. I've put more effort into my program lately than I have in a while and I have really seen the benefits. ...	KT2015	10	575	Jul 5, 2017 by KT2015
	Having more difficulty with AH than usual (Preview) Yesterday evening I came home from work to find an empty vodka bottle on the living room floor. I wasn't surprised, yesterday was payday. I just picked it up and went into our bedroom where my AH was lying on the bed with the food and drink (that I've asked him before to not have b/c he spills it all the time)...	PosiesandPuppies	20	3930	Jul 4, 2017 by mamalioness
	recovery sure helps when you need it (Preview) Hi all! It's been months since I've been here. Durning that time I continued to work on my own recovery, I began to focus less on AH and more on me. Letting my faith grow. For whatever reason, I learnt I am ment to be where I am, HP has a plan for me. When I first came here that was very hard to understand. In the p...	Curlyblu	6	479	Jul 4, 2017 by mamalioness
	Meeting Room Chairs Needed (Preview) Hi Today ,i visited the chat room to check on the Morning meetings. Courage was there and ready to conduct a meeting. We chatted a little and it appears that we still need chair persons to conduct the meetings in both the morning and evening. it is quite simple and Training is available Let myself...	hotrod	0	398	Jul 4, 2017 by hotrod
	Hope for Today July 4 (Preview) Good morning everyone- I apologize for the late posting today- I am away from home and it took me a bit to figure out how to log in to the site! Today's reading is a focus on how alcoholism impacts intimacy and sexuality. As I read this it was a reminder for me about how pervasive the disease is and the effec...	yanksfan51	3	454	Jul 4, 2017 by Enigmatic
	7-3-17 ODAT (Preview) Today's author points to the joy of having members in the group who demonstrate a positive, joyful demeanor that is nearly impossible to grab onto and adopt. Yet it is often these same ones whose story includes very difficult times and who arrived AlAnon broken and hopeless. Reminder: The more I dig i...	Enigmatic	6	582	Jul 4, 2017 by hotrod
	When it seems that LIFE has it in for you (Preview) Since december, it has been one thing after another: My client and friend gets killed in a car wreck and now my work is less and struggling more financially Sister #1 in March decides she wants out of here (she had Alzheimers) and so she stopped drinking and eating and is dead 1 week later April, I have to p...	mamalioness	14	1492	Jul 3, 2017 by MeTwo2
	Family so dysfunctional (Preview) I guess I'm going to try and laugh at my family instead of having a pity party. My sister and nephews are visiting for 3 days from CA. They are staying with an older brother who is a borderline psychopath. My sister loves him. I have a really nice brother and he and my sister aren't speaking. The older...	Lyne	6	2257	Jul 3, 2017 by MissM
	Valuable Alanon lesson (Preview) Well last night I did get hurt and today I am using my tools and I KNOW I will make a strong comeback . The valuable Alanon lesson comes from learning to focus on myself. Because when the Foo and the spouse and other people hurt and let me down, I have myself, I have HP, I have my tools (getting a good workout...	Lyne	5	604	Jul 3, 2017 by Aline
	ODAT Reading 7-2-2017 (Preview) The ODAT reading for July 2 speaks about experiencing the joy of living. It points out that, new members are astonished to learn that many of the happiest people at the meeting were also burdened with a wall black despair. when they first found program . It was Al-Anon that brought the joy of livin...	hotrod	8	663	Jul 3, 2017 by Iamhere
	Monday Morning Alanon Meeting in Progress (Preview) Please join us in the chatroom if you need a meeting. Our chair is Courage, our topics are GRATITUDE.. MAKING A LIST, AND OPEN ALANON TOPIC.	tiredtonite	1	393	Jul 3, 2017 by hotrod
	Hi I'm Back Again 2 Years Later (Preview) I haven't been on this board for quite some time. I reread my old post and the responses and unfortunately, I am insane (doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results). My husband continues to relapse despite nearly dying from an overdose just over a year ago, and another overdo...	misterpiko	4	581	Jul 3, 2017 by Bo
	Step One. (Preview) My step one used to go like this: Admitted that I was powerless over xxxx and that my life had become unmanageable. Over the years I have put a lot of things in that middle frame- including alcoholism and addiction. Last night we had a 'chip night' with three grandkids, mum and dad... it was really good...	DavidG	10	681	Jul 2, 2017 by hotrod
	Checking out this Al-Anon thing. Not sure I want to go to a meeting. (Preview) Ive resisted the Al-Anon program for years. My attitude has always been, Im not the alcoholic, why do I need to go to meetings? Im not the one who screwed up our family. I am VERY angry and bitter. I know this and I just dont think theres anything wrong with that. I hate my ex and why shouldnt I? My stor...	Lu0519	21	711	Jul 2, 2017 by KT2015
	Overwhelmed with sadness (Preview) Well, My AH of almost 14 years came home drunk and very angry Friday morning (a week ago) because I wouldn't give him a ride home from the bar. I guess he ended up walking home and was fuming mad by the time he got there. He woke me up but when I layed back down to avoid the alcohol induced arguments he loved to g...	Dlove	21	3090	Jul 1, 2017 by jenmom
	Tired and sad after every exchange. (Preview) I've a fairly odd relationship with my mother, really. If I tried to explain it all, I'd probably break the forum by submitting too much text. Maybe the whole internet. Theres a lot of "stuff" from childhood that I used to think didn't bother me and actually, as I get older (and I hope healthier) it actua...	MissM	8	780	Jul 1, 2017 by Junenine
	I'm new and struggling (Preview) Hi, I'm new here and I'm hoping to find some support and maybe some helpful advice. I feel the need to share what got me here. My wife is an alcoholic. We have an 18 month old son. She ended up incarcerated after a violent altercation that landed me in the ER when our son was just over months old, yes a little o...	Daddy M	3	694	Jul 1, 2017 by Bo
	Why Is He Blaming Me? (Preview) As some of you know, I have left my alcoholic boyfriend of five years. it has been a roller coaster five years and I did give it my all by learning about the disease, going to Al-Anon, reading stuff, you name it. I probably should have left years ago, but insteadI I set boundaries and he finally went to AA an...	Aerin	15	668	Jul 1, 2017 by Iamhere
	Courage To Change 1/7 (Preview) Today's courage to change reading is about criticism and it's effects- both the excessive criticism we might have received from others, and that which we bombard ourselves with, before recovery, at least. Self-criticism is often the by product of living with addiction and dysfunction, but it dep...	MissM	4	509	Jul 1, 2017 by Lyne
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