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Bo · Bo

I am not limiting my thoughts or my questions to that one simple question, but more to the nothing changes if nothing changes. I went to my usual Saturday morning meeting. It is an great meeting, one of the best in the northern part of our state. People travel, bypass meetings much closer to them, in orde...

Nicoletta · Nicoletta

Hi everyone...I'm brand new to this so please bare with me. I'm not sure where to start, so I guess the beginning is the place? My ex boyfriend got in touch with me a few weeks ago from rehab. We have a complicated history, as I'm sure most do with addicts. Basically, years ago, while he was completing reh...

Cmag3 · Cmag3

Going to my 3rd meeting tonight. Active AH still fighting it hard. Came home with 2 six packs and then tried to guilt me in to not going because we were going to go over bills. I said we could do it tomorrow and he came up with 3 more reasons why tonight is not a good night. I just feel like if I tell yall I'm going...

DellaElle · DellaElle

Hi there - I'm a bit of a newbie. I'm the one that posted before about my "I'm partially home bound, what's the best Al-Anon book to start off with since face-to-face meetings are hard to get to?" situation. I decided on "Paths To Recovery", and it just arrived yesterday. :) After my first chat room meeti...

joker · joker

My abf continues to remain sober, by the grace of god! He finally is moving his body and helping me clean the house. He put in hardwood floors in three bedrooms and we are cleaning each room out and reorganizing everything! What a huge job its is but its keeping us both very busy and focused on the task. We w...

hummingbird1094 · hummingbird1094

My son had an alcohol problem for years. Refused to get help, refused to do inpatient, etc. Moved away, got a dui, probation for a year. In that year he could not drink or smoke weed. As soon as it was over he was back to smoking weed just like before. He also had social anxiety while living at home throu...

hotrod · hotrod

The O DA T reading for September 19 speaks about living with the disease of alcoholism, while attempting to maintain our commitment to our marriage vows. The reading suggests that, attending meetings and using Al-Anon tools, helps to correct our own faults, as well as keeps us from reacting when we a...

serenity47 · serenity47

This disease is maddening and heart wrenching to say the least. My darling daughter has had another slip yesterday that completely caught me off guard. She is currently at home with us as was coming back for a family celebration anyways. She has had a tremendous amount of relationship stress the la...

Shellianna · Shellianna

My daughter who is 20 is with an abusive drug addict he has a warrant for battery on my daughter she denies and defend him but is also isolated and this man has long history of abuse manipulation very evil.. I want to go find where he is without him knowing so cops can know where he is and arrest him on warrant...

pickingmyselfup · pickingmyselfup

Hello I need some suggestions on dealing with a recovering alcoholic's selfish behavior. I am tired of dealing with someone who does whatever they want to do, whenever they want to do it, with whoever they want to do it with. I'm fed up with dealing with someone who is not willing to compromise becaus...

hotrod · hotrod

rn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! Step one and has been posted to the Step Work Board. Please join in and share your thoughts on this important step.Here'...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Kakahiaka (good morning) Ohana (family) I just took one of my grand-daughters to school. She slept over last night and then showered and prepared to her classes. This beautiful miracle is 17 years old and in college culinary classes and it is so much a blessing to be just a small part of the p...

k2k112 · k2k112

My dad is in day 2 of detox and DTs started within 24 hours. He's been distressed and is in the ICU on sedatives and antibiotics for a spiking fever after aspiration. I would like to know what to expect in the immediate future as well as long-term, if he makes it out of this. He crashed about 24 hours in, b...

pinkchip · pinkchip

Sad that she died. Sad that she was blind and drowned after falling in our pool at night. It was sudden, dramatic, and shocking that way. She was not young, but not how I pictured this. This just happened an hour ago. I am most sad by how sad Chuck is. And I will never forget the way he screamed when we found he...

Lyne · Lyne

Program Works! The reading for today speaks of the progress a person can make by continuing to work the program. The author says that you can gain awareness of what your own issues are, and sometimes looking back allows you to see your positive changes. Over time you will see growth in your life. By...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone: Today's reading is about how worrying, for some of us, has been a way of feeling in control when things around us are out of control. The writer realized in al-anon that there are no gains to worrying over things we cannot change. As with any defect or habit that needs adjusting...

MizzB · MizzB

I'm doing pretty well on the detaching at the moment. He's been coming down this week - the withdrawal is hitting hard. And I"m ignoring it. That's his consequence for his choices. He lost his work laptop and passport - that's his consequence. He will lose his job next week - that's his consequence. He'...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading talks about real acceptance of being powerless. This concept is brought to us by Al-Anon recovery yet reaches beyond the Alcohol or the Alcoholic(s) in our lives. The writers shares about sleepless nights and the tossing/turning/fretting over lack of sleep. After bringing th...

el-cee · el-cee

When faced with problems I want to respond in a spiritual way but my mind can become confused. Here are my confused thoughts around spirituality. 1. If my external circumstances don't have the power to hurt me and God is in charge anyway then why would we take any action? I mean wouldn't the action be wor...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Coming here, I was not on good terms with my HP. In fact, I didn't even want to admit that I may even have an HP. I was resentful of my AH, resentful of God, and just all around mad at the world. It took months of me first understanding the disease of alcohol (something that wasn't really accepted here, but so...

Confused Mom · Confused Mom

I am new to AL-ANON, I attended my first meeting this week. Just to advise where I am and why I need AL-ANON.... My son is 37 years old, has two children by two different women, and has always had an alcohol problem. I look back and see that he has had this problem since he was 16.. he was in the Army and after...

hotrod · hotrod

I am going out of town, camping until Friday, so I am posting thoughts on tomorrow's ODAT reading a day early. Please forgive The ODAT reading for September 12, speaks about the dangers of giving advice, . It points out that we must remember that we are limited in helping others as we do not know wh...

thelady · thelady

I have tried to google this but feel I'm the only one. My husband quit drinking last year. I never realized he had a problem. I knew he drank but he was a fun, happy drunk. Since he's been sober, he's more quiet, social anxiety more pronounced, and depressed. He is a wonderful man and great husband and fath...

MizzB · MizzB

So, after I had a positive day, ABF said he has a week to turn round his work performance. Obviously he then goes out drinking after work (I'm assuming but he said he was leaving work 2 hours ago and isn't back yet) and then he messages that he's had his laptop stolen. I'm trying to remain detached. THis is...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading discuss the hopelessness and despair many of us suffer as a result of living with alcoholism. Many of us before recovery had our hopes shattered over and over again, and ended up shutting down our feelings and stopped hoping at all. When we work on our recovery, we come to discover a sp...

WestMan · WestMan

I'm really doing a number on myself tonight. Can't sleep and just playing the tapes-of-doom over and over in my head. I used to do a ton of this but have greatly improved since I started regularly attending Al-Anon. I think what's getting me tonight is I've been thinking that our marriage is likely endi...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Still checking in w/the posts each day, but cannot linger due to all the things that need to get accomplished w/a move out. Yes, my son and I moved away from my AH. There have been good days and bad. Kid is loving it! I am in a good headspace as long as I hve limited contact w/AH. If I don't, then I do feel sadnes...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Today's reading in Courage to Change is about the preciousness of each moment and making the decision to make each moment count. By relying on the AlAnon program, working the 12 steps, and improving their connection to HP, the author is able to stay in the moment and make positive change in that moment...

MizzB · MizzB

So, after the ABF's AWOL weekend, I decided to get a dog trainer so I can get a dog sitter (my dog is aggressive towards people due to fear - she's had a hard life)or my parents to come round if necessary when I have late parent meetings. I'm preparing to be on my own. I'm just scared. We spoke this morning bef...

mamalioness · mamalioness

TODAY: I am grateful for: My beloved older daughter has been clean for 5-1/2 years and going strong in her program Grateful that my 2nd daughter has gotten back into Al-anon and is working on step 1.. I am recovering, bit by bit over the loss of my dear sister Very grateful that hurricane Irma didn't har...

Jen · Jen

I don't know what I was thinking. Somehow I just missed the red flag, and I walked right into dealing with another alcoholic. I volunteered for a community project. I really wanted to be a part of it, so I stepped up and volunteered my talent for setting up facebook group and getting the word out about thi...

Jerry F · Jerry F

for families and friends of Alcoholics. That is the cover title of the most recent Al-Anon Faces Alcoholism 2018 issue. The AVA issues are part and parcel of the literature in our house and my wife and I start the day with literature. If you want a seriously recovery effective tool I suggest you get...

el-cee · el-cee

The readings today about awareness acceptance and action were relevant to what im living right now. My youngest son, 20, not alcoholic but of course deeply effected, well his behaviour and choices seem to be leaning towards a shady lifestyle with shady other effected young people and I keep getting...

Bo · Bo

So, you are in a relationship with someone. You do not live together, but you spend a great deal of time over each other's respective homes. Your SO lives with her two children, one of which, a son, is a heroin addict. So, you have all that going on. The son has a girlfriend who also uses heroin, and drinks....

WestMan · WestMan

So I had this crazy emotional roller-coaster week last week. When the weekend finally rolled around I was determined to get out of my head so it was off to the great outdoors. Capped it off yesterday (Sunday) with a great little hike with my daughters. Afterward we popped into a store for some treats. I...

Cmag3 · Cmag3

I debated telling AH that I was going to a meeting Monday...but we are a one car family and I'm a stay at home mom, so it's very random that I need the car without him or the kids. So I told him. That was Friday, he didn't say much. He was amazing almost all weekend. Overly affectionate, very sweet. And he's us...

hummingbird1094 · hummingbird1094

My son had moved away in Jan 2016 so it has a little over 1 1/2 years since he lived with us. When he did live with us the last 3-4 years were horrible. He was in the wrong crowd with drinkers and he would go on weekends to parties. Finished high school and started college. His first semester he admitted t...

Dancer66 · Dancer66

I am so thankful I have all of you for sanity. So I know from the meetings that in order to cope with things and not go crazy that I need to not expect too much from my AH and that I just need to acknowledge the behavior to myself and mover on (can;t change him) and not confront him--because will just make him a...

joker · joker

I have to vent: I am so disgusted, i mean discussed with the abf. I can not bear to be in the same room as him another moment! He is a useless piece of human being! I mean a waste of time and energy! I can not tolerate a couch potato! Its beyond disgusted that a woman, has to load a truck and take it to the dump, as...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Just passing through, folks, hoping to hear some of your experience, strength and hope. And maybe I'll even tell a story or two. Play safe.

Lyne · Lyne

Fourth Step-The reading discusses taking a fearless and moral inventory, in which the author thought his/her's was not good enough. What he realized was that he felt inadequate his entire life, so he wouldn't be able to do the 4th Step well enough either. But he learned that his best is good enough...

MizzB · MizzB

It's been a really bad weekend. ABF has been AWOL yesterday, lying about going to AA meetings can coming back wasted. Telling me he has a counsellor meeting today but telling his mum a different time so lying again - doubt he's even been to the counsellor but I'm removing myself from that. But I'm stru...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

i turned 60 yesterday and i had a wonderful birthday. was a bit anxious for a little while but it[the anxiety] died of boredom lol anyway boyfriend gave me this big box stuffed with dvds,cds,my fave crackers and a jack skellton soft plush we went to starbucks,then to the museum to see a great Chagall exh...

Fooled · Fooled

Hey everyone I know its been a while since I posted but I am actively working my recovery! A situation has just come up and I am struggling. My sponsor is unavailable and out of the 3 program friends I called - I got 3 voicemails. I am acutely aware that I need to diffuse this moment before it complet...

pinkchip · pinkchip

Yes...I am likely about to get slammed with a hurricane. Evacuating with 7 pets and a job where I am responsible for protecting others was not gonna happen. I have been sober 9 years. Last bad hit here was 2005 so I was WASTED through all of it. I hurt myself stumbling around in the dark. I let branches and...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hi Everyone- Today's reading is about what sponsorship can do for us in recovery. There is a profound line from this reading that hit me hard: "While the alcoholic picked up a drink and became drunk on alcohol, I picked up the alcoholic and became drunk on control and approval-seeking." My oh my is t...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

My daughter did not come home this weekend .. I was sad .. lol .. seriously .. I miss that girl. I did get to see her she decided she had a lot of work to do and how she really was going to have to buckle down the realities of her schedule has fully hit her. I had a feeling that something else was going on and I men...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I love this reading apparently because it's highlighted in about 3 different colors .. lol. The statement that I love the most is: What am I doing with what I've got? Instead of crying over what I don't have, and wishing my life were different. I think that this goes into for me the A, boss, kids, whate...

Jearnee · Jearnee

Grateful for spending the morning with my ABF who was of sound mind and great spirits. But what is around the corner is not lost on me. It is achingly raw and blaring at me. I despise seeing around the next bend with negativity but hoping and being disappointed is much worse. Should i hope?

mamalioness · mamalioness

Today, my package from daughter darling was due to arrive...Inside this precious box would be my DVD on my sister's life from babyood till days b4 her death, and my "sisters" blanket that I had sent to her that has her scent on it and also 2 very adorable little shirts she had that her oldest daughter "gra...

ctmom · ctmom

My husband of twenty years is a great guy...when he's sober. I love him. I don't want to leave him. But I feel like every stupid cliche out there. We don't go out much. I make excuses. I feel stupid.

MizzB · MizzB

Hi, so I'm back at work after summer vacation. It's been a pretty hard and busy week - the results from exams weren't as good as needed and so I'm already trying to preempt what is going to be a very hard meeting with my boss and a year of micro management, always asking for more and tough conversations. I h...

BethBethBeth · BethBethBeth

"All anger, all acting out, all harshness, all criticism, is in truth a form of suffering." This really hit him me for me today and thought I'd share. The whole article can be found here: https://theunboundedspirit.com/how-not-to-be-offended/Sometimes I need to hear something a thousand t...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha all and welcome to the Saturday Night Hilo Hawaii peace of mind and serenity AFG. It's been a great meeting since 10 AM this morning when and where I went down to the elementary school to fulfill and invitation to attend "Grand Parents" day at my grandson's school. I don't know about you all and...

AutieEmlyn · AutieEmlyn

hi everyone,i am a UK based newbie,i am 33 and have been at the mercy of my mothers brutal alcoholism since i was 5 years of age, my mother could not cope with me;i am moderate-severely classic autistic with mild intellectual disability,lifelong severe epilepsy and other issues including physical d...

Fergie · Fergie

i am in the middle of an upsetting situation with my A. He and our adult son are at odds over something. Essentially son wants to do a project his way and it differs greatly from his dad's way. Son has carefully reasoned out project, and my view is you're an adult and it's your project do what you want. Just b...

lizmi · lizmi

My husband has been sober for over 2 years and we have been married nearly 4. I had no idea that he had a problem; and no clue that his father is recovering (15 yrs) until after we were married. We are both in our late 20s/early 30s, and we have no social life together. Literally, we work, I cook, he comes ho...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hello Everyone- thoughts and prayers to all who have been affected in TX and now FL-- I'm writing because Betty generously offered to switch my 'writing day' - so I will be writing on sundays. However-- I am in RI for an overnight...running a 5k w my kids tomorroW (early)! Anyway- I packed my running...

pinkchip · pinkchip

So, I find myself doing this every so often. I try not to live in fear, but I ask myself, "Am I okay to live on my own if my spouse was suddenly not there?" The reason I bring this up is, I know there are a bunch of you that have moved on to new, healthier relationships after a toxic, codependent mess of a relatio...

a4l · a4l

Got back from my city of birth after 13 years away from the place and 9 years out of the country. It was an extraordinary trip. Net result is more work ahead but with potential to leave a legacy for the future generations. So I'm not quite yet in a space where I can relax and will be needing my program as much a...

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	Nothing changes if nothing changes...what does that mean to you? (Preview) I am not limiting my thoughts or my questions to that one simple question, but more to the nothing changes if nothing changes. I went to my usual Saturday morning meeting. It is an great meeting, one of the best in the northern part of our state. People travel, bypass meetings much closer to them, in orde...	Bo	23	2936	Sep 19, 2017 by Maresie25
	New here...relationship with my 'ex' (Preview) Hi everyone...I'm brand new to this so please bare with me. I'm not sure where to start, so I guess the beginning is the place? My ex boyfriend got in touch with me a few weeks ago from rehab. We have a complicated history, as I'm sure most do with addicts. Basically, years ago, while he was completing reh...	Nicoletta	10	481	Sep 19, 2017 by Nicoletta
	3rd meeting (Preview) Going to my 3rd meeting tonight. Active AH still fighting it hard. Came home with 2 six packs and then tried to guilt me in to not going because we were going to go over bills. I said we could do it tomorrow and he came up with 3 more reasons why tonight is not a good night. I just feel like if I tell yall I'm going...	Cmag3	8	481	Sep 19, 2017 by MizzB
	Thank you to the Al-Anon Chat Room - following some good advice y'all gave. More would be appreciated. (Preview) Hi there - I'm a bit of a newbie. I'm the one that posted before about my "I'm partially home bound, what's the best Al-Anon book to start off with since face-to-face meetings are hard to get to?" situation. I decided on "Paths To Recovery", and it just arrived yesterday. :) After my first chat room meeti...	DellaElle	2	456	Sep 19, 2017 by Iamhere
	working around the house (Preview) My abf continues to remain sober, by the grace of god! He finally is moving his body and helping me clean the house. He put in hardwood floors in three bedrooms and we are cleaning each room out and reorganizing everything! What a huge job its is but its keeping us both very busy and focused on the task. We w...	joker	2	522	Sep 19, 2017 by Iamhere
	Weight gain (Preview) My son had an alcohol problem for years. Refused to get help, refused to do inpatient, etc. Moved away, got a dui, probation for a year. In that year he could not drink or smoke weed. As soon as it was over he was back to smoking weed just like before. He also had social anxiety while living at home throu...	hummingbird1094	4	599	Sep 19, 2017 by WestMan
	ODAT Reading 9-19-2017 (Preview) The O DA T reading for September 19 speaks about living with the disease of alcoholism, while attempting to maintain our commitment to our marriage vows. The reading suggests that, attending meetings and using Al-Anon tools, helps to correct our own faults, as well as keeps us from reacting when we a...	hotrod	1	425	Sep 19, 2017 by Iamhere
	It just never ends (Preview) This disease is maddening and heart wrenching to say the least. My darling daughter has had another slip yesterday that completely caught me off guard. She is currently at home with us as was coming back for a family celebration anyways. She has had a tremendous amount of relationship stress the la...	serenity47	13	745	Sep 19, 2017 by Iamhere
	Seeking Justice and serenity?! (Preview) My daughter who is 20 is with an abusive drug addict he has a warrant for battery on my daughter she denies and defend him but is also isolated and this man has long history of abuse manipulation very evil.. I want to go find where he is without him knowing so cops can know where he is and arrest him on warrant...	Shellianna	8	517	Sep 19, 2017 by Shellianna
	Sober Selfish Behavior (Preview) Hello I need some suggestions on dealing with a recovering alcoholic's selfish behavior. I am tired of dealing with someone who does whatever they want to do, whenever they want to do it, with whoever they want to do it with. I'm fed up with dealing with someone who is not willing to compromise becaus...	pickingmyselfup	16	9239	Sep 19, 2017 by Fergie
	Step Work Board (Preview) rn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! Step one and has been posted to the Step Work Board. Please join in and share your thoughts on this important step.Here'...	hotrod	3	388	Sep 18, 2017 by hotrod
	What a miracle looks like, sounds like and is.... (Preview) Aloha Kakahiaka (good morning) Ohana (family) I just took one of my grand-daughters to school. She slept over last night and then showered and prepared to her classes. This beautiful miracle is 17 years old and in college culinary classes and it is so much a blessing to be just a small part of the p...	Jerry F	8	544	Sep 18, 2017 by a4l
	detox and DTs (Preview) My dad is in day 2 of detox and DTs started within 24 hours. He's been distressed and is in the ICU on sedatives and antibiotics for a spiking fever after aspiration. I would like to know what to expect in the immediate future as well as long-term, if he makes it out of this. He crashed about 24 hours in, b...	k2k112	3	556	Sep 18, 2017 by Iamhere
	My dog died (Preview) Sad that she died. Sad that she was blind and drowned after falling in our pool at night. It was sudden, dramatic, and shocking that way. She was not young, but not how I pictured this. This just happened an hour ago. I am most sad by how sad Chuck is. And I will never forget the way he screamed when we found he...	pinkchip	24	820	Sep 18, 2017 by pinkchip
	C2C, 9/18 (Preview) Program Works! The reading for today speaks of the progress a person can make by continuing to work the program. The author says that you can gain awareness of what your own issues are, and sometimes looking back allows you to see your positive changes. Over time you will see growth in your life. By...	Lyne	2	458	Sep 17, 2017 by hotrod
	Hope for today sept 17 (Preview) Good morning Everyone: Today's reading is about how worrying, for some of us, has been a way of feeling in control when things around us are out of control. The writer realized in al-anon that there are no gains to worrying over things we cannot change. As with any defect or habit that needs adjusting...	yanksfan51	4	562	Sep 17, 2017 by mamalioness
	Detaching (Preview) I'm doing pretty well on the detaching at the moment. He's been coming down this week - the withdrawal is hitting hard. And I"m ignoring it. That's his consequence for his choices. He lost his work laptop and passport - that's his consequence. He will lose his job next week - that's his consequence. He'...	MizzB	6	607	Sep 17, 2017 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change (C2C) 9/15/17 (Preview) Today's reading talks about real acceptance of being powerless. This concept is brought to us by Al-Anon recovery yet reaches beyond the Alcohol or the Alcoholic(s) in our lives. The writers shares about sleepless nights and the tossing/turning/fretting over lack of sleep. After bringing th...	Iamhere	5	518	Sep 16, 2017 by Iamhere
	Spiritual answers??? (Preview) When faced with problems I want to respond in a spiritual way but my mind can become confused. Here are my confused thoughts around spirituality. 1. If my external circumstances don't have the power to hurt me and God is in charge anyway then why would we take any action? I mean wouldn't the action be wor...	el-cee	13	1532	Sep 15, 2017 by a4l
	A Gift from my HP? (Preview) Coming here, I was not on good terms with my HP. In fact, I didn't even want to admit that I may even have an HP. I was resentful of my AH, resentful of God, and just all around mad at the world. It took months of me first understanding the disease of alcohol (something that wasn't really accepted here, but so...	PosiesandPuppies	8	568	Sep 15, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	Giving "Tough Love" (Preview) I am new to AL-ANON, I attended my first meeting this week. Just to advise where I am and why I need AL-ANON.... My son is 37 years old, has two children by two different women, and has always had an alcohol problem. I look back and see that he has had this problem since he was 16.. he was in the Army and after...	Confused Mom	5	990	Sep 15, 2017 by Iamhere
	ODAT reading 9-12-2017 (Preview) I am going out of town, camping until Friday, so I am posting thoughts on tomorrow's ODAT reading a day early. Please forgive The ODAT reading for September 12, speaks about the dangers of giving advice, . It points out that we must remember that we are limited in helping others as we do not know wh...	hotrod	8	2834	Sep 15, 2017 by a4l
	I miss my drinking husband. (Preview) I have tried to google this but feel I'm the only one. My husband quit drinking last year. I never realized he had a problem. I knew he drank but he was a fun, happy drunk. Since he's been sober, he's more quiet, social anxiety more pronounced, and depressed. He is a wonderful man and great husband and fath...	thelady	33	6330	Sep 15, 2017 by milkwood
	Anxiety rising. (Preview) So, after I had a positive day, ABF said he has a week to turn round his work performance. Obviously he then goes out drinking after work (I'm assuming but he said he was leaving work 2 hours ago and isn't back yet) and then he messages that he's had his laptop stolen. I'm trying to remain detached. THis is...	MizzB	9	1223	Sep 14, 2017 by MizzB
	Courage to Change (9/14/17) (Preview) Today's reading discuss the hopelessness and despair many of us suffer as a result of living with alcoholism. Many of us before recovery had our hopes shattered over and over again, and ended up shutting down our feelings and stopped hoping at all. When we work on our recovery, we come to discover a sp...	Iamhere	3	506	Sep 14, 2017 by Iamhere
	Ruining My Own Peace (Preview) I'm really doing a number on myself tonight. Can't sleep and just playing the tapes-of-doom over and over in my head. I used to do a ton of this but have greatly improved since I started regularly attending Al-Anon. I think what's getting me tonight is I've been thinking that our marriage is likely endi...	WestMan	30	1746	Sep 14, 2017 by Iamhere
	Needing ESH on the "I Love You" (Preview) Still checking in w/the posts each day, but cannot linger due to all the things that need to get accomplished w/a move out. Yes, my son and I moved away from my AH. There have been good days and bad. Kid is loving it! I am in a good headspace as long as I hve limited contact w/AH. If I don't, then I do feel sadnes...	PosiesandPuppies	6	3093	Sep 14, 2017 by WestMan
	Courage to Change September 13 (Preview) Today's reading in Courage to Change is about the preciousness of each moment and making the decision to make each moment count. By relying on the AlAnon program, working the 12 steps, and improving their connection to HP, the author is able to stay in the moment and make positive change in that moment...	Skorpi	2	2962	Sep 13, 2017 by _bunny_
	one small step forwards... have I taken steps back too though? (Preview) So, after the ABF's AWOL weekend, I decided to get a dog trainer so I can get a dog sitter (my dog is aggressive towards people due to fear - she's had a hard life)or my parents to come round if necessary when I have late parent meetings. I'm preparing to be on my own. I'm just scared. We spoke this morning bef...	MizzB	9	943	Sep 13, 2017 by Iamhere
	What am I grateful for today???? (Preview) TODAY: I am grateful for: My beloved older daughter has been clean for 5-1/2 years and going strong in her program Grateful that my 2nd daughter has gotten back into Al-anon and is working on step 1.. I am recovering, bit by bit over the loss of my dear sister Very grateful that hurricane Irma didn't har...	mamalioness	6	1938	Sep 13, 2017 by MizzB
	Man! I did it again! (Preview) I don't know what I was thinking. Somehow I just missed the red flag, and I walked right into dealing with another alcoholic. I volunteered for a community project. I really wanted to be a part of it, so I stepped up and volunteered my talent for setting up facebook group and getting the word out about thi...	Jen	3	2127	Sep 13, 2017 by Skorpi
	Help and Hope (Preview) for families and friends of Alcoholics. That is the cover title of the most recent Al-Anon Faces Alcoholism 2018 issue. The AVA issues are part and parcel of the literature in our house and my wife and I start the day with literature. If you want a seriously recovery effective tool I suggest you get...	Jerry F	2	541	Sep 13, 2017 by Iamhere
	How do you know Gods will? (Preview) The readings today about awareness acceptance and action were relevant to what im living right now. My youngest son, 20, not alcoholic but of course deeply effected, well his behaviour and choices seem to be leaning towards a shady lifestyle with shady other effected young people and I keep getting...	el-cee	10	2935	Sep 13, 2017 by el-cee
	Question...what to do... (Preview) So, you are in a relationship with someone. You do not live together, but you spend a great deal of time over each other's respective homes. Your SO lives with her two children, one of which, a son, is a heroin addict. So, you have all that going on. The son has a girlfriend who also uses heroin, and drinks....	Bo	16	1560	Sep 13, 2017 by Mattie
	I'm a Doofus Sometimes (Preview) So I had this crazy emotional roller-coaster week last week. When the weekend finally rolled around I was determined to get out of my head so it was off to the great outdoors. Capped it off yesterday (Sunday) with a great little hike with my daughters. Afterward we popped into a store for some treats. I...	WestMan	16	3949	Sep 12, 2017 by Bo
	Defensive AH (Preview) I debated telling AH that I was going to a meeting Monday...but we are a one car family and I'm a stay at home mom, so it's very random that I need the car without him or the kids. So I told him. That was Friday, he didn't say much. He was amazing almost all weekend. Overly affectionate, very sweet. And he's us...	Cmag3	17	2930	Sep 12, 2017 by milkwood
	Why can't I put the memories behind me? (Preview) My son had moved away in Jan 2016 so it has a little over 1 1/2 years since he lived with us. When he did live with us the last 3-4 years were horrible. He was in the wrong crowd with drinkers and he would go on weekends to parties. Finished high school and started college. His first semester he admitted t...	hummingbird1094	8	1128	Sep 12, 2017 by SerenityRUS
	How to deal with lies (Preview) I am so thankful I have all of you for sanity. So I know from the meetings that in order to cope with things and not go crazy that I need to not expect too much from my AH and that I just need to acknowledge the behavior to myself and mover on (can;t change him) and not confront him--because will just make him a...	Dancer66	5	1021	Sep 11, 2017 by mamalioness
	anger vent (Preview) I have to vent: I am so disgusted, i mean discussed with the abf. I can not bear to be in the same room as him another moment! He is a useless piece of human being! I mean a waste of time and energy! I can not tolerate a couch potato! Its beyond disgusted that a woman, has to load a truck and take it to the dump, as...	joker	6	769	Sep 11, 2017 by mamalioness
	Whoooosh (Preview) Just passing through, folks, hoping to hear some of your experience, strength and hope. And maybe I'll even tell a story or two. Play safe.	Wolfie55	8	1290	Sep 11, 2017 by tiredtonite
	C2C, 9/11 (Preview) Fourth Step-The reading discusses taking a fearless and moral inventory, in which the author thought his/her's was not good enough. What he realized was that he felt inadequate his entire life, so he wouldn't be able to do the 4th Step well enough either. But he learned that his best is good enough...	Lyne	5	1007	Sep 11, 2017 by WestMan
	Forgotten myself (Preview) It's been a really bad weekend. ABF has been AWOL yesterday, lying about going to AA meetings can coming back wasted. Telling me he has a counsellor meeting today but telling his mum a different time so lying again - doubt he's even been to the counsellor but I'm removing myself from that. But I'm stru...	MizzB	15	988	Sep 11, 2017 by MizzB
	my birthday (Preview) i turned 60 yesterday and i had a wonderful birthday. was a bit anxious for a little while but it[the anxiety] died of boredom lol anyway boyfriend gave me this big box stuffed with dvds,cds,my fave crackers and a jack skellton soft plush we went to starbucks,then to the museum to see a great Chagall exh...	YARNCRAZY	12	1257	Sep 11, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	Reaching out (Preview) Hey everyone I know its been a while since I posted but I am actively working my recovery! A situation has just come up and I am struggling. My sponsor is unavailable and out of the 3 program friends I called - I got 3 voicemails. I am acutely aware that I need to diffuse this moment before it complet...	Fooled	13	1451	Sep 11, 2017 by Freetime
	South Florida (Preview) Yes...I am likely about to get slammed with a hurricane. Evacuating with 7 pets and a job where I am responsible for protecting others was not gonna happen. I have been sober 9 years. Last bad hit here was 2005 so I was WASTED through all of it. I hurt myself stumbling around in the dark. I let branches and...	pinkchip	29	2341	Sep 11, 2017 by milkwood
	Hope for Today sept 10 (Preview) Hi Everyone- Today's reading is about what sponsorship can do for us in recovery. There is a profound line from this reading that hit me hard: "While the alcoholic picked up a drink and became drunk on alcohol, I picked up the alcoholic and became drunk on control and approval-seeking." My oh my is t...	yanksfan51	3	1266	Sep 10, 2017 by hotrod
	Some observations .. (Preview) My daughter did not come home this weekend .. I was sad .. lol .. seriously .. I miss that girl. I did get to see her she decided she had a lot of work to do and how she really was going to have to buckle down the realities of her schedule has fully hit her. I had a feeling that something else was going on and I men...	SerenityRUS	2	874	Sep 10, 2017 by Iamhere
	ODAT 9/9 - What am I doing with what I have? (Preview) I love this reading apparently because it's highlighted in about 3 different colors .. lol. The statement that I love the most is: What am I doing with what I've got? Instead of crying over what I don't have, and wishing my life were different. I think that this goes into for me the A, boss, kids, whate...	SerenityRUS	2	1954	Sep 10, 2017 by Iamhere
	Good days, bad days (Preview) Grateful for spending the morning with my ABF who was of sound mind and great spirits. But what is around the corner is not lost on me. It is achingly raw and blaring at me. I despise seeing around the next bend with negativity but hoping and being disappointed is much worse. Should i hope?	Jearnee	6	1030	Sep 10, 2017 by Bo
	a small "dip" then a BIG progress event (Preview) Today, my package from daughter darling was due to arrive...Inside this precious box would be my DVD on my sister's life from babyood till days b4 her death, and my "sisters" blanket that I had sent to her that has her scent on it and also 2 very adorable little shirts she had that her oldest daughter "gra...	mamalioness	4	2004	Sep 10, 2017 by hotrod
	getting the guts to go to a meeting (Preview) My husband of twenty years is a great guy...when he's sober. I love him. I don't want to leave him. But I feel like every stupid cliche out there. We don't go out much. I make excuses. I feel stupid.	ctmom	12	2580	Sep 10, 2017 by MizzB
	Give me strength tonight (Preview) Hi, so I'm back at work after summer vacation. It's been a pretty hard and busy week - the results from exams weren't as good as needed and so I'm already trying to preempt what is going to be a very hard meeting with my boss and a year of micro management, always asking for more and tough conversations. I h...	MizzB	9	1170	Sep 9, 2017 by Jerry F
	A good line I found online today (Preview) "All anger, all acting out, all harshness, all criticism, is in truth a form of suffering." This really hit him me for me today and thought I'd share. The whole article can be found here: https://theunboundedspirit.com/how-not-to-be-offended/Sometimes I need to hear something a thousand t...	BethBethBeth	3	1117	Sep 9, 2017 by DellaElle
	Finding Peace of mind and serenity where ever it is. (Preview) Aloha all and welcome to the Saturday Night Hilo Hawaii peace of mind and serenity AFG. It's been a great meeting since 10 AM this morning when and where I went down to the elementary school to fulfill and invitation to attend "Grand Parents" day at my grandson's school. I don't know about you all and...	Jerry F	9	1052	Sep 9, 2017 by Iamhere
	my strength is non existant (Preview) hi everyone,i am a UK based newbie,i am 33 and have been at the mercy of my mothers brutal alcoholism since i was 5 years of age, my mother could not cope with me;i am moderate-severely classic autistic with mild intellectual disability,lifelong severe epilepsy and other issues including physical d...	AutieEmlyn	8	573	Sep 9, 2017 by Iamhere
	Let the crisis happen (Preview) i am in the middle of an upsetting situation with my A. He and our adult son are at odds over something. Essentially son wants to do a project his way and it differs greatly from his dad's way. Son has carefully reasoned out project, and my view is you're an adult and it's your project do what you want. Just b...	Fergie	7	1137	Sep 9, 2017 by mamalioness
	Dry Drunk Husband dry drunk husband (Preview) My husband has been sober for over 2 years and we have been married nearly 4. I had no idea that he had a problem; and no clue that his father is recovering (15 yrs) until after we were married. We are both in our late 20s/early 30s, and we have no social life together. Literally, we work, I cook, he comes ho...	lizmi	21	13533	Sep 9, 2017 by mamalioness
	Hope for Today-- for tomorrow! (Preview) Hello Everyone- thoughts and prayers to all who have been affected in TX and now FL-- I'm writing because Betty generously offered to switch my 'writing day' - so I will be writing on sundays. However-- I am in RI for an overnight...running a 5k w my kids tomorroW (early)! Anyway- I packed my running...	yanksfan51	3	2879	Sep 9, 2017 by mamalioness
	Codependency Check (Preview) So, I find myself doing this every so often. I try not to live in fear, but I ask myself, "Am I okay to live on my own if my spouse was suddenly not there?" The reason I bring this up is, I know there are a bunch of you that have moved on to new, healthier relationships after a toxic, codependent mess of a relatio...	pinkchip	11	2722	Sep 9, 2017 by 1911A1
	Stopping in to map the journey. (Preview) Got back from my city of birth after 13 years away from the place and 9 years out of the country. It was an extraordinary trip. Net result is more work ahead but with potential to leave a legacy for the future generations. So I'm not quite yet in a space where I can relax and will be needing my program as much a...	a4l	4	895	Sep 9, 2017 by DavidG
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