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Phil · Phil

Here's a process that should take a lifetime. Actually, I'll probably have to come back a few times to complete it. Just how am I to forgive myself for the ravage I've caused in so many people's lives? How do I forgive and forget placing myself above everyone else? How can the hurts of life that s...

cdb · cdb

Hello John, I emailed you and I know you are busy so I sent it again today so it would be easier for you than finding it in the pile. I am waiting for a reply since I feel what I had to say is important. TY cdb

cdb · cdb

Hello fellow members, I have an idea that would help the problem that has been addressed in my post below about ignoring other members and when new people or others come in for immediate help. Please respond with other ideas or let or let the owner/John know if you think this would work. For years I h...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

There have been several times when I have found myself getting annoyed by something someone might have said, or being drawn into a difference that two (or more) people are having amongst themself. I realized the other day that I was doing the same thing I did with my sister and my mom, trying to be...

gknee · gknee

Hi everyone- I am really just looking for some voices of experience to give me a bit of advice. It is hard to find answers sometimes (I do appreciate the wisdom of the slogans though) My H is a pot smoker who uses A as a supplement when the marijuana is not enough. lovely.He has been in counselling the p...

jj · jj

On a lighter note to cheer up some of us. Tonight my daughter was talking to her grandpa on the phone he was asking her what she had for supper, having trouble saying spaghetti she "uuuggg hold on I will show you grandpa" proceeds to the kitchen and shows the phone to the left over spaghetti on the stove....

greta · greta

I was given this by an alanon friend early in my program, it really helped me to understand ........ One Day At A Time THE DAFFODIL PRINCIPLE Several times my daughter had telephoned to say, "Mother, you must come see the daffodils before they are over." I wanted to go, but it was a two-...

debalina36 · debalina36

Monday night my A and I made a break through. I've been reading my ODAT book and pasting little sayings around the house to remind myself how to react when things got tough. Well, it all started with me asking him for a separation for a while. I told him I still loved him but didn't like who he becomes when...

esoro2004 · esoro2004

My partner has just gone into a detox/rehab to get the help he so very badly needs. And I'm very happy for him, yet afraid that when he comes out that he will not want to be with me anymore. We abused alcohol together for awhile, and then I went into recovery. He has told me many times he l...

Ignoring other members · cdb

Hello fellow members, We don't come here because we are happy or painfree. We came here for the opposite reason. We all need support and undestanding. That is why it is important for all of us to show compassion for others even though we have our own differences. Personal...

lilleah · lilleah

My A called at 2:00 and wanted to stay and play cards with friends. i said no, but he did anyway. He Promised he would call if he'd be later than 3:30, but it is after 3:30, and nothing! I tried to call, but no answer. I don't know whether to be mad, or scared, or think he is with another girl. I am just sitting he...

Angel_23 · Angel_23

My A boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year now. He's been sober and attending AA on a regular basis for 2 years on March 2nd. We've had a lot of problems, mainly because we're so similar. We've been trying the last 2 months to fix our relationship and make it work.&nb...

wille · wille

Hi all, I so love the story of going out to have a day with the ma nice I did decide to put the a on the curb with the recycles. I know it is not healty to go toe to toe with him, as the disease says to do. The "in my face" stuff. I warned him twice to chill his stuff - maybe 27 times except it had to st...

gabriella · gabriella

Hi , I only posted a few times, 2.5 months ago when my husband was drinking 22 beers a night and I really didn't know what was going to happen to us. I just wanted to let you know there is hope!!!!!!! After years of drinking he finally hit rock bottom and has not had a drink for 2.5 months. For y...

Orchid · Orchid

I recently told my husband that I wanted him to stop smoking pot or I would get a divorce. We have a 17 month old son and I don't want the drugs around him... Shouldn't my husband want our son to be drug free? I feel that if he cares about right and wrong he would stop but he is very stubborn...

kissers · kissers

I've been best friends with this girl for the past two years. Last summer, we were out playing pool and met two men. After we finished playing, we decided to leave. I was walking out the door when I heard one of the men ask for her or my number. She said that we were not interested and walked out. We got into my...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Alcoholism is a progressive disease. To understand the progression of the disease in the alcoholic (and in us alanoners, too! We follow the same curve into despair and destruction) www.songdove.com/jellinek.htm www.addictionz.com/ch...

babs · babs

To all: At first thru my journey, I was lost, blinded, thought I was crazy, couldn't barely get thru the day. It was though I was floundering thru my house, unable to see. Just bumping into things, never paying attention to where I was, or was headed. I couldn't see i...

cdb · cdb

Hello alanon friends, First of all I would like to say that the prayers for dying people like kerry5's mother are far more important than my request. Please first pray for her and her family. I feel a little funny asking for my prayer for my son but I do believe it helps for others to pray for something as...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

When we see loved ones do things that hurt themselves, we hurt too. When they act self-defeating or are addicted or when we see their pain and the trouble they cause themselves and others, we might gladly turn ourselves inside out for them if it would help. But it would not. Sometimes he...

babs · babs

Hello again, I'm new to this. I understand detachment, enabling, the 1st step, help yourself, can't fix the A. I've been online 3-4 times. Been to 1 meeting f2f. Reading the lit. It does seem to help. I'll keep going. Each day lately I do something for my self...

cant stand it · cant stand it

Hello all, I've been reading your posts and Im very sorry that we are all in such an unfortunate situation. From what I am reading, I have to ask, is it true that Im just suppose to enable this behavior of my "a"??? I do realize that its not me, I do realize that I cant control it, but its very deg...

Ignoring other members · cdb

Most of us here didn't come here because we were happy and painfree. IN fact, it is just the opposite. The chatroom dynamics can be quite interesting at times, especially when there are alot of people chatting at the same time. Some of us are multitasking or running back and forth to the computer trying...

catherine · catherine

Your replies helped me very much. I'm feeling better this morning. I finally got a good night's sleep with the help of a sleeping pill. I'm getting back into my work routine again which stablizes me. My HP is relieving me of my excessive worries again now too. It s...

catherine · catherine

Just got over a week's visit with my A & we drank together. I really don't feel guilty about MY drinking as it calmed my nerves so I was able stay calm around his behaviour, but now I have to deal with my own alcoholism. I haven't had a drink since Saturday---two days sober, yet again.&...

John · John

http://www.xa-speakers.org/pafiledb.php?action=category&id=16

Maria123 · Maria123

I got an email from John asking for some assistance with the message board and thought "what do I have to offer?" Then I overslept this morning and missed by F2F and remembered the seed that John planted :) and thought well I can go the message board this morning for my "meeting." Tha...

autumnangel · autumnangel

Hi everyone. Well, tomorrow my husband is coming home for a visit for a couple of weeks and I'm really nervous about it tonight. I guess because while he was gone and things were so up in the air about our marriage, I really had to focus on ME and let go of everything else. Now that we've been ta...

babs · babs

I'm new. I've heard a sponser should be someone you like, someone who's done the steps & is, well, experienced, if I can say that? What's the job of a sponser, I don't quite get it.

debalina36 · debalina36

Well, the 3 day's of no drink ended today. He just bought a beer. Just one. He doesn't have any money and I won't give him any for beer. I noticed in my last posting of "last Night" that the last 2 people think I have a 2 year old daughter. Wrong. I only have a 12 year old stepdaughter and she doesn't live with...

marissa · marissa

well, i have a lot of unexpected time at home today, and i'm trying to keep busy. i am reading, painting,... i have not seen my ex "A" in 6 months, nor have we talked for one month. i have resisted calling, e-mailing, driving by,...(trying to think of these as esteemable acts). ...

babs · babs

Hi, thanks for your response to who a sponser should be! What did you mean about getting it in writing? Thanks to all who also respond, also.

wallsal55 · wallsal55

A friend hears the song in my heart and sings it to me when my memory fails--Source Unknown. Hmmm....I always think of Detachment as that sort of friend...Thank God for that little pamphlet at Alanon meetings! www.coping.org/control/detach.htm :flowerpot...

AlaMom · AlaMom

I am having the hardest time doing the right things in my life these days. The pressure I am feeling about my husband is weighing on me like a brick. Somewhere down deep I believe that we are over - yet I continue with the relationship. Part of me feels disloyal to him because he...

Annie · Annie

Just a warm hello to everyone. No need to reply to this. I haven't been posting for awhile because I have had a crazy sinus infection and my ears have been blocked for several weeks now. I guess I can hear about 80% now. Dragging myself to work was a real chore. My A...

Ava · Ava

What a relief to find people who understand and who can offer hope and support. The last 18 months for me has been like riding a small boat in stormy seas. Over the last 18 months my A has had 3 jobs, 3 breakdowns, fallen out with all of his friends, been unemployed 3 times, bee...

debalina36 · debalina36

Hello - last night was pretty bad. I reacted to him. I fell back into my old habits and screamed back at him. I was actually trying to reason with my A, knowing full well my words were falling on deaf ears. I might as well talk to the wall. I knew that when he gets his unemployment check, he will drink and drink...

jj · jj

I am happy tonight i got to go to my first f2f meeting and I felt great after. My Sister in law went together and at first we were the only ones there... worried then another girl joined. It wasn't what i thought but it was good, great. My A came home and i just told him that i was going out, did'nt tell him where...

babs · babs

Hi, I just want to check with the interpretations of steps 1,2,3. Step 1: to realize I have lost control, can't manage anymore Step 2: to realize I need a help from a higher power in order to heal (family, friends, Al anon, God, etc.) Step 3: to realize I can only do my best & noth...

babs · babs

Hello, Thanks for reading. I'm new to this & was interested in the forum magazine. Any thoughts on this. I'm not much of a long reader, more of a short term reader. Also I like more facts, and suggestions, not so much as comparing stories for reading. Any advice...

jj · jj

So this week has been very good for me! I turned a very important corner this week by attending my first f2f. I would like to thank all of you for advising me to go I REALLY did need it! I feel like a weight was lifted off my shoulders. Doing more things for me and explaining to my A the way that I am feeling and wh...

cdb · cdb

I will wait for you for a half hour or more,,cdb

estrelladehope · estrelladehope

This is my first time to write something on this board but right now I am at a pretty low point in my life. I was married about 4 months ago to a man whom I only knew for about 4 months bf we got married - (got engaged 1 1/2 mo after seeing each other and then married 2 1/2 mo later). He had told me he wa...

richard · richard

My son is struggling with doing life. He has a woman friend now. I think she has a good heart. They are getting close and that scares my son. The only thing my son knows of being close is abuse. My son is struggling getting and keeping gainful employment. I am weaning my son from being monetary dependent of...

jenn011 · jenn011

Hi everyone. My name is Jenn. This is the first time i've done anything like this. Please bear with me. Well it doesn't seem that my story is all that different from many of you out there. My husband is an alcoholic. We have been married for almost seven yrs now. During the last...

shimo · shimo

Just a note to let you know I am the scheduled chair for the Tuesday morning Al-Anon meetings. However, for March 1 (next Tuesday), I am unable to keep my commitment as I have a Dr.'s appointment that morning. Hope one of the OP's can cover that meeting for me and if not, perhap...

debalina36 · debalina36

My husband obtained a gun from a girl that was stolen and now she is in jail and the gun has to go back to the police, which takes it out of my home and out of my A husband's hands! God listens to my prayers! And he will listen to yours! Plus I wanted to tell you all how much I appreciate your support and prayers...

autumnangel · autumnangel

Hi everyone. Well, sometimes something happens to brighten your day and remind you that people really are basically good. Tonight I was in the drive thru lane at McDonald's and when I got up to the window to pay for the food, the guy told me that the lady in front of me had paid for my order!&n...

Phil · Phil

by Nancy Poitou, M.A., M.F.T. I have been asked often about what is self-esteem, self-love and self-centeredness. These are very good questions and it is a fine line that separates these concepts. Self esteem means to hold oneself in high esteem, feeling worthy of a good life and good t...

lalarainbow · lalarainbow

Hi, I am new on this board... My 21 year old son is really messed up..He lost his job ---had to move back home with my husband and I... We have had to pay over $800. for electricity water, phone,that he owed when living in town...He has no income! The last straw was a $450 f...

mandyhol · mandyhol

Hi I am in London, England and have difficulty getting to face to face meetings. I have never had a sponsor and I think it would really help me. Please could you contact me if you have been in alanon a while and if you have the time to spare to help me Many thanks[email]hollidaymandy@hotmail.com...

cdb · cdb

Am I the only one who cannot get the chatroom to load? All, I get is a grey page. I am having withdrawals here....Yikes...cdb

richard · richard

Yup, I listened to my then therapist and put the title of the car in my son’s name. See… you are as smart as a therapist. I upped the quality of coffee I drink now that I can afford it. I drink “Melitta” brand coffee. I can only find it by phone or Internet… my last drug in life: I ain't going to be perfect about n...

shimo · shimo

The March Business Meeting has been rescheduled to Wednesday, March 9, 7:00 p.m. EST. All members are invited to attend the meetings!! Hope to see you all there!! Love in recovery - Shimo (Jeri)

AlaMom · AlaMom

This program and HP are so wonderful. As many know I have been struggling. I was complaining because I thought I lost the confidence I had several months ago regarding making decisions in my life. But what I realized tonight through a newcomer, I havent lost it - it has just taken a d...

Jill · Jill

I kept my mouth shut while he had a meltdown the other day. I bit my tongue. The phone rang and it was his father. He rebuked his own father for some imagined behavior. I don't know of any circumstance when it would be justified to talk to his dad the way he did. My father in law is completely admirable. I know...

gardengal · gardengal

This increasingly chaotic world is making us sick,,,add an alcoholic or an addict to our lives and it is increased 10 fold or even 100.Our hurried and hassle-filled lifestyles are increasing our risk for strokes, heart attacks and mental illnesses such as depression. We could all use a sacred pla...

kerry5 · kerry5

I am really freaking out here. My mother hurt her leg at xmas and i have been begging her to go ever since. But she was walking (with a limp) getting around babysitting my kids like always for a couple of weeks, so i thought was a pulled muscle i kept telling her to go and she wouldnt. She finally had no choice...

debalina36 · debalina36

My husband is an alcoholic and my father is a recovering one. I attended my first meeting and it planted a seed. But it is hard. My husband is drunk tonight and the one thing that hit me hard is that I cannot control what he does. I cannot control what he drinks. I can only control how I react and what I say. My s...

nmike · nmike

Can anyone help? My husband has accepted a job in another town. He says that he wants a divorce. That the purpose of life is happiness and he will be happy without me. He walks around obsessing about his diet, his dissertation, his new job, the price of a membership on the golf course. I ask to talk about ou...

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	Forgiveness (Preview) Here's a process that should take a lifetime. Actually, I'll probably have to come back a few times to complete it. Just how am I to forgive myself for the ravage I've caused in so many people's lives? How do I forgive and forget placing myself above everyone else? How can the hurts of life that s...	Phil	2	1142	Mar 4, 2005 by babs
	JOHN,,,,Emailed you/ need reply (Preview) Hello John, I emailed you and I know you are busy so I sent it again today so it would be easier for you than finding it in the pile. I am waiting for a reply since I feel what I had to say is important. TY cdb	cdb	4	1218	Mar 4, 2005 by cdb
	OP/JOHN & ALL, A solution to the problem.. (Preview) Hello fellow members, I have an idea that would help the problem that has been addressed in my post below about ignoring other members and when new people or others come in for immediate help. Please respond with other ideas or let or let the owner/John know if you think this would work. For years I h...	cdb	7	1490	Mar 4, 2005 by cdb
	Taking Others Inventory (Preview) There have been several times when I have found myself getting annoyed by something someone might have said, or being drawn into a difference that two (or more) people are having amongst themself. I realized the other day that I was doing the same thing I did with my sister and my mom, trying to be...	kismetstrand	6	1655	Mar 4, 2005 by kismetstrand
	getting questions answered (Preview) Hi everyone- I am really just looking for some voices of experience to give me a bit of advice. It is hard to find answers sometimes (I do appreciate the wisdom of the slogans though) My H is a pot smoker who uses A as a supplement when the marijuana is not enough. lovely.He has been in counselling the p...	gknee	7	1592	Mar 3, 2005 by cah
	the things kids say (Preview) On a lighter note to cheer up some of us. Tonight my daughter was talking to her grandpa on the phone he was asking her what she had for supper, having trouble saying spaghetti she "uuuggg hold on I will show you grandpa" proceeds to the kitchen and shows the phone to the left over spaghetti on the stove....	jj	5	1271	Mar 3, 2005 by cah
	The Daffodil Principle (Preview) I was given this by an alanon friend early in my program, it really helped me to understand ........ One Day At A Time THE DAFFODIL PRINCIPLE Several times my daughter had telephoned to say, "Mother, you must come see the daffodils before they are over." I wanted to go, but it was a two-...	greta	8	1515	Mar 3, 2005 by gardengal
	Made a break through (Preview) Monday night my A and I made a break through. I've been reading my ODAT book and pasting little sayings around the house to remind myself how to react when things got tough. Well, it all started with me asking him for a separation for a while. I told him I still loved him but didn't like who he becomes when...	debalina36	4	1254	Mar 3, 2005 by Mark S
	Rich and Recovery (Preview) My partner has just gone into a detox/rehab to get the help he so very badly needs. And I'm very happy for him, yet afraid that when he comes out that he will not want to be with me anymore. We abused alcohol together for awhile, and then I went into recovery. He has told me many times he l...	esoro2004	4	1350	Mar 3, 2005 by Magichappens
	Ignoring other members (Preview) Hello fellow members, We don't come here because we are happy or painfree. We came here for the opposite reason. We all need support and undestanding. That is why it is important for all of us to show compassion for others even though we have our own differences. Personal...	cdb	10	1555	Mar 2, 2005 by cdb
	is anyone here? I need help (Preview) My A called at 2:00 and wanted to stay and play cards with friends. i said no, but he did anyway. He Promised he would call if he'd be later than 3:30, but it is after 3:30, and nothing! I tried to call, but no answer. I don't know whether to be mad, or scared, or think he is with another girl. I am just sitting he...	lilleah	10	1564	Mar 2, 2005 by Jeannie
	Looking for some support (Preview) My A boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year now. He's been sober and attending AA on a regular basis for 2 years on March 2nd. We've had a lot of problems, mainly because we're so similar. We've been trying the last 2 months to fix our relationship and make it work.&nb...	Angel_23	5	1529	Mar 2, 2005 by Jeannie
	the a (Preview) Hi all, I so love the story of going out to have a day with the ma nice I did decide to put the a on the curb with the recycles. I know it is not healty to go toe to toe with him, as the disease says to do. The "in my face" stuff. I warned him twice to chill his stuff - maybe 27 times except it had to st...	wille	7	1342	Mar 2, 2005 by TLC2
	there is hope!! (Preview) Hi , I only posted a few times, 2.5 months ago when my husband was drinking 22 beers a night and I really didn't know what was going to happen to us. I just wanted to let you know there is hope!!!!!!! After years of drinking he finally hit rock bottom and has not had a drink for 2.5 months. For y...	gabriella	5	1456	Mar 2, 2005 by TLC2
	my spouse smokes pot;need advice asap!!! (Preview) I recently told my husband that I wanted him to stop smoking pot or I would get a divorce. We have a 17 month old son and I don't want the drugs around him... Shouldn't my husband want our son to be drug free? I feel that if he cares about right and wrong he would stop but he is very stubborn...	Orchid	5	1539	Mar 2, 2005 by gknee
	Expectations Too High? (Preview) I've been best friends with this girl for the past two years. Last summer, we were out playing pool and met two men. After we finished playing, we decided to leave. I was walking out the door when I heard one of the men ask for her or my number. She said that we were not interested and walked out. We got into my...	kissers	5	1312	Mar 2, 2005 by TLC2
	Jellinek Charts (Preview) Alcoholism is a progressive disease. To understand the progression of the disease in the alcoholic (and in us alanoners, too! We follow the same curve into despair and destruction) www.songdove.com/jellinek.htm www.addictionz.com/ch...	wallsal55	3	3909	Mar 2, 2005 by TLC2
	thanks to all (Preview) To all: At first thru my journey, I was lost, blinded, thought I was crazy, couldn't barely get thru the day. It was though I was floundering thru my house, unable to see. Just bumping into things, never paying attention to where I was, or was headed. I couldn't see i...	babs	3	1417	Mar 2, 2005 by Ava
	Prayers needed..please (Preview) Hello alanon friends, First of all I would like to say that the prayers for dying people like kerry5's mother are far more important than my request. Please first pray for her and her family. I feel a little funny asking for my prayer for my son but I do believe it helps for others to pray for something as...	cdb	9	1427	Mar 2, 2005 by Ava
	Sometimes Help Doesn't Help (Preview) When we see loved ones do things that hurt themselves, we hurt too. When they act self-defeating or are addicted or when we see their pain and the trouble they cause themselves and others, we might gladly turn ourselves inside out for them if it would help. But it would not. Sometimes he...	wallsal55	6	1476	Mar 2, 2005 by Ava
	how honest with the children? (Preview) Hello again, I'm new to this. I understand detachment, enabling, the 1st step, help yourself, can't fix the A. I've been online 3-4 times. Been to 1 meeting f2f. Reading the lit. It does seem to help. I'll keep going. Each day lately I do something for my self...	babs	8	1715	Mar 2, 2005 by lildee
	new 2 board (Preview) Hello all, I've been reading your posts and Im very sorry that we are all in such an unfortunate situation. From what I am reading, I have to ask, is it true that Im just suppose to enable this behavior of my "a"??? I do realize that its not me, I do realize that I cant control it, but its very deg...	cant stand it	3	1394	Mar 1, 2005 by wallsal55
	Ignoring other members (Preview) Most of us here didn't come here because we were happy and painfree. IN fact, it is just the opposite. The chatroom dynamics can be quite interesting at times, especially when there are alot of people chatting at the same time. Some of us are multitasking or running back and forth to the computer trying...	cdb	0	1417	Mar 1, 2005 by cdb
	Thank you all :) (Preview) Your replies helped me very much. I'm feeling better this morning. I finally got a good night's sleep with the help of a sleeping pill. I'm getting back into my work routine again which stablizes me. My HP is relieving me of my excessive worries again now too. It s...	catherine	1	1221	Mar 1, 2005 by cdb
	I'm a mess. (Preview) Just got over a week's visit with my A & we drank together. I really don't feel guilty about MY drinking as it calmed my nerves so I was able stay calm around his behaviour, but now I have to deal with my own alcoholism. I haven't had a drink since Saturday---two days sober, yet again.&...	catherine	4	1544	Mar 1, 2005 by TLC2
	Free Al-Anon Speaker Tapes (Preview) http://www.xa-speakers.org/pafiledb.php?action=category&id=16	John	0	4002	Mar 1, 2005 by John
	Letting Go of Those Not In Recovery (Preview) I got an email from John asking for some assistance with the message board and thought "what do I have to offer?" Then I overslept this morning and missed by F2F and remembered the seed that John planted :) and thought well I can go the message board this morning for my "meeting." Tha...	Maria123	5	1582	Feb 28, 2005 by wallsal55
	Nervous (Preview) Hi everyone. Well, tomorrow my husband is coming home for a visit for a couple of weeks and I'm really nervous about it tonight. I guess because while he was gone and things were so up in the air about our marriage, I really had to focus on ME and let go of everything else. Now that we've been ta...	autumnangel	14	1670	Feb 28, 2005 by wallsal55
	who should a sponser be? (Preview) I'm new. I've heard a sponser should be someone you like, someone who's done the steps & is, well, experienced, if I can say that? What's the job of a sponser, I don't quite get it.	babs	9	1803	Feb 28, 2005 by wallsal55
	3 day Sobriety ended (Preview) Well, the 3 day's of no drink ended today. He just bought a beer. Just one. He doesn't have any money and I won't give him any for beer. I noticed in my last posting of "last Night" that the last 2 people think I have a 2 year old daughter. Wrong. I only have a 12 year old stepdaughter and she doesn't live with...	debalina36	5	1619	Feb 28, 2005 by megan
	snow day (Preview) well, i have a lot of unexpected time at home today, and i'm trying to keep busy. i am reading, painting,... i have not seen my ex "A" in 6 months, nor have we talked for one month. i have resisted calling, e-mailing, driving by,...(trying to think of these as esteemable acts). ...	marissa	5	1677	Feb 28, 2005 by InnerChild
	haximon..... (Preview) Hi, thanks for your response to who a sponser should be! What did you mean about getting it in writing? Thanks to all who also respond, also.	babs	0	1150	Feb 27, 2005 by babs
	Quote for Today/detachment (Preview) A friend hears the song in my heart and sings it to me when my memory fails--Source Unknown. Hmmm....I always think of Detachment as that sort of friend...Thank God for that little pamphlet at Alanon meetings! www.coping.org/control/detach.htm :flowerpot...	wallsal55	4	1604	Feb 27, 2005 by Ava
	Doing the Right Thing (Preview) I am having the hardest time doing the right things in my life these days. The pressure I am feeling about my husband is weighing on me like a brick. Somewhere down deep I believe that we are over - yet I continue with the relationship. Part of me feels disloyal to him because he...	AlaMom	6	1320	Feb 27, 2005 by sanddie
	Update (Preview) Just a warm hello to everyone. No need to reply to this. I haven't been posting for awhile because I have had a crazy sinus infection and my ears have been blocked for several weeks now. I guess I can hear about 80% now. Dragging myself to work was a real chore. My A...	Annie	4	1529	Feb 27, 2005 by Ava
	Stormy Seas (Preview) What a relief to find people who understand and who can offer hope and support. The last 18 months for me has been like riding a small boat in stormy seas. Over the last 18 months my A has had 3 jobs, 3 breakdowns, fallen out with all of his friends, been unemployed 3 times, bee...	Ava	7	1346	Feb 27, 2005 by Ava
	Last night (Preview) Hello - last night was pretty bad. I reacted to him. I fell back into my old habits and screamed back at him. I was actually trying to reason with my A, knowing full well my words were falling on deaf ears. I might as well talk to the wall. I knew that when he gets his unemployment check, he will drink and drink...	debalina36	9	1693	Feb 27, 2005 by Doreanmsloan
	Finally... My first f2f meeting (Preview) I am happy tonight i got to go to my first f2f meeting and I felt great after. My Sister in law went together and at first we were the only ones there... worried then another girl joined. It wasn't what i thought but it was good, great. My A came home and i just told him that i was going out, did'nt tell him where...	jj	4	1420	Feb 27, 2005 by jj
	getting step 1,2,3 right? (Preview) Hi, I just want to check with the interpretations of steps 1,2,3. Step 1: to realize I have lost control, can't manage anymore Step 2: to realize I need a help from a higher power in order to heal (family, friends, Al anon, God, etc.) Step 3: to realize I can only do my best & noth...	babs	12	2419	Feb 26, 2005 by ginetteqofe
	which reading material? (Preview) Hello, Thanks for reading. I'm new to this & was interested in the forum magazine. Any thoughts on this. I'm not much of a long reader, more of a short term reader. Also I like more facts, and suggestions, not so much as comparing stories for reading. Any advice...	babs	5	3726	Feb 26, 2005 by babs
	Taking the steps to take me back (Preview) So this week has been very good for me! I turned a very important corner this week by attending my first f2f. I would like to thank all of you for advising me to go I REALLY did need it! I feel like a weight was lifted off my shoulders. Doing more things for me and explaining to my A the way that I am feeling and wh...	jj	3	1280	Feb 26, 2005 by Annie
	lilleah,,,,,come to chatroom,,, (Preview) I will wait for you for a half hour or more,,cdb	cdb	1	1787	Feb 26, 2005 by wille
	divorce vs. living with an A (Preview) This is my first time to write something on this board but right now I am at a pretty low point in my life. I was married about 4 months ago to a man whom I only knew for about 4 months bf we got married - (got engaged 1 1/2 mo after seeing each other and then married 2 1/2 mo later). He had told me he wa...	estrelladehope	10	2118	Feb 26, 2005 by sanddie
	My son... letting go... (Preview) My son is struggling with doing life. He has a woman friend now. I think she has a good heart. They are getting close and that scares my son. The only thing my son knows of being close is abuse. My son is struggling getting and keeping gainful employment. I am weaning my son from being monetary dependent of...	richard	5	1606	Feb 26, 2005 by alystylz
	new to this (Preview) Hi everyone. My name is Jenn. This is the first time i've done anything like this. Please bear with me. Well it doesn't seem that my story is all that different from many of you out there. My husband is an alcoholic. We have been married for almost seven yrs now. During the last...	jenn011	7	1619	Feb 26, 2005 by alystylz
	Tuesday a.m. March 1,2005 (Preview) Just a note to let you know I am the scheduled chair for the Tuesday morning Al-Anon meetings. However, for March 1 (next Tuesday), I am unable to keep my commitment as I have a Dr.'s appointment that morning. Hope one of the OP's can cover that meeting for me and if not, perhap...	shimo	2	1302	Feb 26, 2005 by Faith73
	God listens (Preview) My husband obtained a gun from a girl that was stolen and now she is in jail and the gun has to go back to the police, which takes it out of my home and out of my A husband's hands! God listens to my prayers! And he will listen to yours! Plus I wanted to tell you all how much I appreciate your support and prayers...	debalina36	6	1709	Feb 25, 2005 by Ava
	Grateful (Preview) Hi everyone. Well, sometimes something happens to brighten your day and remind you that people really are basically good. Tonight I was in the drive thru lane at McDonald's and when I got up to the window to pay for the food, the guy told me that the lady in front of me had paid for my order!&n...	autumnangel	5	1432	Feb 25, 2005 by Ava
	Self Esteem, Self Love, Self Centeredness (Preview) by Nancy Poitou, M.A., M.F.T. I have been asked often about what is self-esteem, self-love and self-centeredness. These are very good questions and it is a fine line that separates these concepts. Self esteem means to hold oneself in high esteem, feeling worthy of a good life and good t...	Phil	1	2170	Feb 25, 2005 by estrelladehope
	son's addiction (Preview) Hi, I am new on this board... My 21 year old son is really messed up..He lost his job ---had to move back home with my husband and I... We have had to pay over $800. for electricity water, phone,that he owed when living in town...He has no income! The last straw was a $450 f...	lalarainbow	6	1706	Feb 24, 2005 by lalarainbow
	Sponsor me please! (Preview) Hi I am in London, England and have difficulty getting to face to face meetings. I have never had a sponsor and I think it would really help me. Please could you contact me if you have been in alanon a while and if you have the time to spare to help me Many thanks[email]hollidaymandy@hotmail.com...	mandyhol	2	1437	Feb 24, 2005 by java
	Chatroom won't load :( help (Preview) Am I the only one who cannot get the chatroom to load? All, I get is a grey page. I am having withdrawals here....Yikes...cdb	cdb	1	1238	Feb 23, 2005 by cdb
	Debilyn... & anyone or all... (Preview) Yup, I listened to my then therapist and put the title of the car in my son’s name. See… you are as smart as a therapist. I upped the quality of coffee I drink now that I can afford it. I drink “Melitta” brand coffee. I can only find it by phone or Internet… my last drug in life: I ain't going to be perfect about n...	richard	4	1570	Feb 23, 2005 by wallsal55
	MARCH BUS MTG (Preview) The March Business Meeting has been rescheduled to Wednesday, March 9, 7:00 p.m. EST. All members are invited to attend the meetings!! Hope to see you all there!! Love in recovery - Shimo (Jeri)	shimo	0	1325	Feb 23, 2005 by shimo
	The Power of Program (Preview) This program and HP are so wonderful. As many know I have been struggling. I was complaining because I thought I lost the confidence I had several months ago regarding making decisions in my life. But what I realized tonight through a newcomer, I havent lost it - it has just taken a d...	AlaMom	1	1473	Feb 22, 2005 by Maria123
	I can't control it (Preview) I kept my mouth shut while he had a meltdown the other day. I bit my tongue. The phone rang and it was his father. He rebuked his own father for some imagined behavior. I don't know of any circumstance when it would be justified to talk to his dad the way he did. My father in law is completely admirable. I know...	Jill	3	1491	Feb 22, 2005 by TLC2
	FINDING "OUR "SACRED PLACE (Preview) This increasingly chaotic world is making us sick,,,add an alcoholic or an addict to our lives and it is increased 10 fold or even 100.Our hurried and hassle-filled lifestyles are increasing our risk for strokes, heart attacks and mental illnesses such as depression. We could all use a sacred pla...	gardengal	6	1703	Feb 22, 2005 by richard
	Loosing All Hope (Preview) I am really freaking out here. My mother hurt her leg at xmas and i have been begging her to go ever since. But she was walking (with a limp) getting around babysitting my kids like always for a couple of weeks, so i thought was a pulled muscle i kept telling her to go and she wouldnt. She finally had no choice...	kerry5	9	1871	Feb 22, 2005 by bob6502
	New to Al-Anon HELP (Preview) My husband is an alcoholic and my father is a recovering one. I attended my first meeting and it planted a seed. But it is hard. My husband is drunk tonight and the one thing that hit me hard is that I cannot control what he does. I cannot control what he drinks. I can only control how I react and what I say. My s...	debalina36	7	1727	Feb 21, 2005 by debalina36
	Can't Keep My Mouth Shut (Preview) Can anyone help? My husband has accepted a job in another town. He says that he wants a divorce. That the purpose of life is happiness and he will be happy without me. He walks around obsessing about his diet, his dissertation, his new job, the price of a membership on the golf course. I ask to talk about ou...	nmike	6	1738	Feb 21, 2005 by wallsal55
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