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Debilyn... & anyone or all...
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Yup, I listened to my then therapist and put the title of the car in my son’s name. See… you are as smart as a therapist. I upped the quality of coffee I drink now that I can afford it. I drink “Melitta” brand coffee. I can only find it by phone or Internet… my last drug in life: I ain't going to be perfect about n...
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MARCH BUS MTG
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The March Business Meeting has been rescheduled to Wednesday, March 9, 7:00 p.m. EST. All members are invited to attend the meetings!! Hope to see you all there!!
Love in recovery - Shimo (Jeri)
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The Power of Program
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This program and HP are so wonderful. As many know I have been struggling. I was complaining because I thought I lost the confidence I had several months ago regarding making decisions in my life. But what I realized tonight through a newcomer, I havent lost it - it has just taken a d...
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I can't control it
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I kept my mouth shut while he had a meltdown the other day. I bit my tongue. The phone rang and it was his father. He rebuked his own father for some imagined behavior. I don't know of any circumstance when it would be justified to talk to his dad the way he did. My father in law is completely admirable. I know...
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FINDING "OUR "SACRED PLACE
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This increasingly chaotic world is making us sick,,,add an alcoholic or an addict to our lives and it is increased 10 fold or even 100.Our hurried and hassle-filled lifestyles are increasing our risk for strokes, heart attacks and mental illnesses such as depression.
We could all use a sacred pla...
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Loosing All Hope
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I am really freaking out here. My mother hurt her leg at xmas and i have been begging her to go ever since. But she was walking (with a limp) getting around babysitting my kids like always for a couple of weeks, so i thought was a pulled muscle i kept telling her to go and she wouldnt. She finally had no choice...
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New to Al-Anon HELP
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My husband is an alcoholic and my father is a recovering one. I attended my first meeting and it planted a seed. But it is hard. My husband is drunk tonight and the one thing that hit me hard is that I cannot control what he does. I cannot control what he drinks. I can only control how I react and what I say. My s...
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Can't Keep My Mouth Shut
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Can anyone help? My husband has accepted a job in another town. He says that he wants a divorce. That the purpose of life is happiness and he will be happy without me. He walks around obsessing about his diet, his dissertation, his new job, the price of a membership on the golf course. I ask to talk about ou...
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Powerlessness
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Hi everyone. Today I was reminded all over again that I'm powerless over other people, and that is still a really hard lesson for me to learn. I had a long talk with my husband and we got some things out about our marriage and how we both were feeling, which was good. But then when I noti...
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Great Quote from HP
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Do you need me? I am there. You cannot see me, yet I am the light you see by. You cannot hear me, yet I speak through your voice. You cannot feel me, yet I am the power at work in your hands. I am at work, though you do not understand my ways. I am at work, though you do not understand my works. I am not strange visio...
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Kerry5
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Kerry, So sory for you. This must have been an awful day beyond what we can even immagine for you. My heart does really go out to you. Your last post sounded like you were not going to come back here and it gave me tears in my eyes. I hope that you can come back and keep comming back and i hope that you do find some...
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Help with Step 1
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My A is my husband. My a's most recent rage was at my 7 year old son about a week ago. I tried to remain calm but he continued to berate my son and was looking for a fight, and I caved and gave it to him. Big Mistake, because I actually gave my control over...
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anyone else funny about food?
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i'm sorry if anyone thinks this in an inapropriate topic. after reading through some of your entries and getting a feel for the real crisies that are happening in your lives, i am once again humbled, and realize once again how very silly the crisies i create in my head really are. but i still make them int...
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Dry drunks
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Hello everyone,
I have been searching for books on "dry drunks" with no luck. If anyone out there has some good leads on anything, it would be gladly accepted. I've been in alanon for about 6months now, and cannot imagine my life without it anymore :) THANK GOD FOR ALANON!
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Quote for Today
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"The finish line isn't a given; it is earned" --from the back of a T-shirt at a sporting event.
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wallsal55
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Hello everyone.
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We finally got moved and settled back in lovely San Antonio. I hope that all of you have been well, and I'll catch up on the posts.
Keeping each of you in my positive thoughts and prayers with great caring,
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((¸¸.·´ ...·´ Diva-:¦:-
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social skills
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My A went to his bike repair class last night.
It was the last night of the class.
he missed 2 of the classes (out of 6) due to excessive drinking
He seemed down after the class.
He said that he tried to exchange phone numbers with some of the others and one ignored him as he said goodbye and anothe...
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megan
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CRAZY LOVE
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Even when codependents recognize the problem for what it is,,, they often make the mistake of trying to control their partners consumption----- the amount the alcoholic drinks or uses--while fighting desperately to keep the bottom from falling out from under the family.
They may count drinks,...
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Richard and all.....
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OH how I wish I could be where you are in your serenity with life Richard. I so admire it and I do have faith that it will come to me or I will come to it. For some reason it just isn't within my reach yet. I still don't feel life is fun and I don't feel a sense of peace with death either. I am like this scared l...
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Things I've learned
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A friend sent this to me and I thought I would share it .............
I've learned....That life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer it gets to the end, the faster it goes.
I've learned....That we should be glad God answers all prayers - however misguided they are Remember - NO is an answer.......
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Dad out of hospital
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Hello All!
Thanks to all of you who said prayers! One more thing for me to not be worried about now. The only thing is, the doctors' still don't know what happened to him, grrr. Only that he had two Life Crisis. That's easy for them to say. Oh well. He has already used his 9 lives up anyway. All I can do is tak...
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learning not to react
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Sometimes I find it so difficult not to say things that I know deep in my heart will hurt my a, (when he is sober) it is just beyond me not to let him know just how boring it is to hear the same old story that he tells anyone who will listen , such as our sons not me because I have learned not to listen to the bottle I...
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2/17 P.M. Meeting - Review of Steps
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Tonight's Step/Tradition meeting is a review of all 12 Steps. I have to take my mother to a couple of doctor appointments today, and might be late getting back. Hopefully not, but just in case, wanted to post what step we were on tonight - the review of all 12 - and I'm sure if I'm not here on ti...
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LOVE & RECOVERY
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Codependents usually dont want their relationships to fall apart, even tho in moments of anger they may talk about divorce or threaten to leave. And the most common reason they give for staying with a drinking or using partner is the simplest reason of all : LOVE>
And in the name of love, they hang...
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Need Support
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Just talked with my daughter and she asked if we were going to pay for her impact weekend that was ordered by the court. She has to complete that as well as get her GED in order to get off from probation. She is scheduled to get off probation in March. We have helped her with many of her co...
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she's self sufficient, folks
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hello all you friendly al-anon people. my name is claire, and i'm an american living in japan. i picked up al-anon as a way of life during my last year at college, but then jeted out here, and so have been without meetings for about 7 months. in general i'm doing a good job of keeping it together- daily read...
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something to think about - worth the read
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Two traveling angels stopped to spend the night in the home of a wealthy
family.
The family was rude and refused to let the angels stay in the mansion's
guest room.
Instead the angels were given a small space in the cold basement.
As they made their bed on the hard floor, the older angel saw a ho...
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perspective
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boy, is this an attitude worth being reminded of:
For The Good ============ Once on a journey, a Rabbi and his students were refused hospitality at a certain town. Instead of being upset, the Rabbi said: "Whatever God does is for the good!" However, the group had to spend the night in a f...
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Need Coverage 2/16 Wednesday Morning
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Need someone to chair for me on Wednesday morning. Appreciate it and thanks to whomever can cover, L&P in Recovery, Nan
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Ice Day
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Well, the little ice storm has given me an extra day off. I'm a teacher and school was cancelled everywhere around here. I love these days now just as much as I did when I was a kid in school. Thought I'd take the time to update. My daughter has a new probation officer and she was f...
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want to see a few pics of a bit problematic son...
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My son seems to take two steps forward, then three backwards, then four forward. I can deal with that. I recently brought a super loaded newer used car: a 2002 Ford Focus. I sold (via loan payments) my super nice older 98’ Plymouth Neon to my son. My Neon was my little four cylinder hot rod; it has high perf...
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?picture page?
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Is there a picture page for this group. Love,debilyn
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debilyn
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how to detach from a functioning A
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Hello everyone:
I am just starting my road to recovery, and feeling much better about life. I plan my first face to face meeting this evening, and am a little uneasy, but willing to let go of my fears, besides, I don't think it can get any worse, only better. I was wondering if any...
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Three C's
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" ...I didn't cause alcoholism, I can't control it. I can't cure it. I can continue to struggle and lose. Or I can accept that I am powerless over alcohol and alcoholism, and let Al-anon help me to redirect the energy I've spent on fighting this disease into recovering from i...
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Anger towards theos with"normal life"
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A guest on the chat the other night has been in my head for the past few days and i hope this post will help me let go of all they had to say. This person was very angry with god and what seemed to be the whole world and thoes with a so called Normal Life. What is normal really??? I don't think there is a norm for lif...
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my teen-detaching responsibly
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hi everyone--just thought i'd share thots from today's meeting--i am struggling with a 17 year old who i can try and dtach from as best i can but am still legally responsibly 4 so it gets tricky at this age
At the meeting tonight I related most to the topic of standing up 4 self or what is right today—I a...
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Help, New member!!
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Any suggestions !!!!This is my breif story....
Started about 10yrs ago found out son was an addict, he went into rehab only then to find out he had been molested. It hasn't ended he has been into rehabs, 3/4 and halfway houses and jail. Four years ago he married had two kids and bough...
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Selfish With Our Time? Good or Bad?
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Carving out times for ourselves is important. But sometimes I feel like I have to carve out a LOT of it for just me--it sometimes feels like there's not enough room for me and this disease in my life. I can get budged out so quickly! So, I always feel this pull.... Like sometimes I isol...
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A Poem for you....
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I read this poem again recently, and it reminded me of the hurdles we all face in our programs and our lives with alcoholism. Just wanted to share with everyone......
"I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings"
~Maya Angelou
The free bird leaps on the back of the wind and floats downstream till the...
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Quotes for Today
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"Faith that the thing can be done is essential to any great achievement." --Thomas N. Carruther
"For I know the Plans I Have for You," declares the Lord, "Plans to Prosper You and Not to Harm You, Plans to Give You Hop...
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Game Arcade
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MIP Game Arcade
You can go to this Game Arcade, and then when done playing, click Message
Boards and select the Al-Anon message board to return here.
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John
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Quote for Thought
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There is no sensual pleasure in the world comparable to the delight and satisfaction that a good man takes in doing good. --Tillotson
(Well, I always lived by this rule in my younger days before A'ism. Gee, now when I hear the word sensual and doing good, I think...
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Being Naughty Today
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...:coffee: My body just had a cup of coffee without my permission. : ) Anyway, that's how I feel, just be naughty. Play hooky. Hubby hasn't had meeting in week, and don't know what hit the fan last night, and hoping it won't hit again tonight. Lef...
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Dad still in danger.....
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Thank you all for your prayers and concern for my dad. The doctors still are not sure what is wrong and are trying to do many tests to figure it out. His heart and blood pressure still are doing whatever they want yet at times he is stable. A lung speialist was called in since his chest muscles...
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She going back to rehab..humm
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You know I should be grateful that she wants to go back to rehab. It seems though she has to believe that I truly intend to divorce her before she decides she wants to go to rehab..(the way it happened last time) who is she doing it for? If she is doing it to pacify me I know it won't work this time either. I have...
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Stressed???
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I wanted to share this email I received from my mom today with everyone. I could relate it to all the feelings we deal with in our relationships. Rather than address work, I just put my relationships in there instead. :)
Stress A lecturer, when explaining stress management...
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"I read the literature you left"
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Thanks Wallsal55 for posting these sites.
These sites are very educational. www.songdov.com/jellinek.htm www.1016.org/Jellink.html and www.bendfeldt.com/alcholism.htm (Please note spellings).
I have been reading them over th...
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NEW
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I just wanted to say hello and introduce myself. My name is Colleen. I am fairly new to ALANON. Looking forward to participating with this group.
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cutting
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Well yesterday my a didn't drink which was very good. I didn't do the baby test but my hormons are very high and very easly angered. I haven't lose my tempter and got voliet to him. But in the past I have cut my arm, well I just make marks with a knife and the blood comes out, well that is what I did yester...
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RE: depressed~
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I just feel so lost-nobody replied to me-is it something I said-I need a little carings thoughts on this subject--anyone care to reply would be appreciated.
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Lost
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Where do I even being? A wrenched his neck at work and is having complications from that. Another excuse to drink. When he drinks, because of his neck he gets horrible headaches/migraines. Not so bad when he doesn’t drink. Why does he not see the connection? He went to the doctor yesterday again – a di...
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depressed
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I have not been on this site for quite awhile-I could not even remember my user name-so here I am again. My son - 30 in June-has been living back at home here for a year in march. I cannot take it anymore. I am so sick of it I cannot hardly look at him. IS that wrong??? He has worked some-when I got home from work t...
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thank you
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i want to thank whoever took my daughter's pic off the pic site, and i want to sincerely apologize for the mix up. it really is nice to go there and see pics of the names. again...thanks!
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Daughter Inpatient/Dad in Hospital
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Just when you think you can sit back from all the stress of the family disesase of alcoholism, something else crops up. Our 20 year old A daughter did sign herself inpatient at the place of her chosing. I pray to my HP and hers that this place is right for her since hubby and I are not impressed...
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Arcade
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Love the arcade John, great addition to the MIP site. Thank You!
Buzzfree
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Longing for Someone...Self Esteem
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I know when I long for someone, it is a loneliness like no other, especially when I get nothing in return. ZIP! (It is then that I lose myr self-respect, and thus my self esteem.)
Self Discipline + Self Respect = Self Esteem
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wallsal55
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i need a sponser
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i need to find a sponser. can anyone help? vic
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Quote for Today
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A great pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do. --Walter Bagehot
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wallsal55
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Quote to Share
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Hi everyone. I saw this quote tonight and just wanted to share it!
"I may not be where I want to be, but I'm not where I used to be, I'm heading where I'm meant to be and God is watching over me. Terri McPherson"
Hugs, Tracy
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autumnangel
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Greener Grass?
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In my younger days of married life, I would have said The Grass wasn't greener on the other side, one still has to MOW the grass.
Now, having surpassed the 27th year, I would have to say it's more like this with the Fence Thing: Either side of the fence; there are Fields to Plow, Manure to Sp...
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wallsal55
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