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estrelladehope · estrelladehope

This is my first time to write something on this board but right now I am at a pretty low point in my life. I was married about 4 months ago to a man whom I only knew for about 4 months bf we got married - (got engaged 1 1/2 mo after seeing each other and then married 2 1/2 mo later). He had told me he wa...

richard · richard

My son is struggling with doing life. He has a woman friend now. I think she has a good heart. They are getting close and that scares my son. The only thing my son knows of being close is abuse. My son is struggling getting and keeping gainful employment. I am weaning my son from being monetary dependent of...

jenn011 · jenn011

Hi everyone. My name is Jenn. This is the first time i've done anything like this. Please bear with me. Well it doesn't seem that my story is all that different from many of you out there. My husband is an alcoholic. We have been married for almost seven yrs now. During the last...

shimo · shimo

Just a note to let you know I am the scheduled chair for the Tuesday morning Al-Anon meetings. However, for March 1 (next Tuesday), I am unable to keep my commitment as I have a Dr.'s appointment that morning. Hope one of the OP's can cover that meeting for me and if not, perhap...

debalina36 · debalina36

My husband obtained a gun from a girl that was stolen and now she is in jail and the gun has to go back to the police, which takes it out of my home and out of my A husband's hands! God listens to my prayers! And he will listen to yours! Plus I wanted to tell you all how much I appreciate your support and prayers...

autumnangel · autumnangel

Hi everyone. Well, sometimes something happens to brighten your day and remind you that people really are basically good. Tonight I was in the drive thru lane at McDonald's and when I got up to the window to pay for the food, the guy told me that the lady in front of me had paid for my order!&n...

Phil · Phil

by Nancy Poitou, M.A., M.F.T. I have been asked often about what is self-esteem, self-love and self-centeredness. These are very good questions and it is a fine line that separates these concepts. Self esteem means to hold oneself in high esteem, feeling worthy of a good life and good t...

lalarainbow · lalarainbow

Hi, I am new on this board... My 21 year old son is really messed up..He lost his job ---had to move back home with my husband and I... We have had to pay over $800. for electricity water, phone,that he owed when living in town...He has no income! The last straw was a $450 f...

mandyhol · mandyhol

Hi I am in London, England and have difficulty getting to face to face meetings. I have never had a sponsor and I think it would really help me. Please could you contact me if you have been in alanon a while and if you have the time to spare to help me Many thanks[email]hollidaymandy@hotmail.com...

cdb · cdb

Am I the only one who cannot get the chatroom to load? All, I get is a grey page. I am having withdrawals here....Yikes...cdb

richard · richard

Yup, I listened to my then therapist and put the title of the car in my son’s name. See… you are as smart as a therapist. I upped the quality of coffee I drink now that I can afford it. I drink “Melitta” brand coffee. I can only find it by phone or Internet… my last drug in life: I ain't going to be perfect about n...

shimo · shimo

The March Business Meeting has been rescheduled to Wednesday, March 9, 7:00 p.m. EST. All members are invited to attend the meetings!! Hope to see you all there!! Love in recovery - Shimo (Jeri)

AlaMom · AlaMom

This program and HP are so wonderful. As many know I have been struggling. I was complaining because I thought I lost the confidence I had several months ago regarding making decisions in my life. But what I realized tonight through a newcomer, I havent lost it - it has just taken a d...

Jill · Jill

I kept my mouth shut while he had a meltdown the other day. I bit my tongue. The phone rang and it was his father. He rebuked his own father for some imagined behavior. I don't know of any circumstance when it would be justified to talk to his dad the way he did. My father in law is completely admirable. I know...

gardengal · gardengal

This increasingly chaotic world is making us sick,,,add an alcoholic or an addict to our lives and it is increased 10 fold or even 100.Our hurried and hassle-filled lifestyles are increasing our risk for strokes, heart attacks and mental illnesses such as depression. We could all use a sacred pla...

kerry5 · kerry5

I am really freaking out here. My mother hurt her leg at xmas and i have been begging her to go ever since. But she was walking (with a limp) getting around babysitting my kids like always for a couple of weeks, so i thought was a pulled muscle i kept telling her to go and she wouldnt. She finally had no choice...

debalina36 · debalina36

My husband is an alcoholic and my father is a recovering one. I attended my first meeting and it planted a seed. But it is hard. My husband is drunk tonight and the one thing that hit me hard is that I cannot control what he does. I cannot control what he drinks. I can only control how I react and what I say. My s...

nmike · nmike

Can anyone help? My husband has accepted a job in another town. He says that he wants a divorce. That the purpose of life is happiness and he will be happy without me. He walks around obsessing about his diet, his dissertation, his new job, the price of a membership on the golf course. I ask to talk about ou...

autumnangel · autumnangel

Hi everyone. Today I was reminded all over again that I'm powerless over other people, and that is still a really hard lesson for me to learn. I had a long talk with my husband and we got some things out about our marriage and how we both were feeling, which was good. But then when I noti...

autumnangel · autumnangel

Do you need me? I am there. You cannot see me, yet I am the light you see by. You cannot hear me, yet I speak through your voice. You cannot feel me, yet I am the power at work in your hands. I am at work, though you do not understand my ways. I am at work, though you do not understand my works. I am not strange visio...

jj · jj

Kerry, So sory for you. This must have been an awful day beyond what we can even immagine for you. My heart does really go out to you. Your last post sounded like you were not going to come back here and it gave me tears in my eyes. I hope that you can come back and keep comming back and i hope that you do find some...

fittrip · fittrip

My A is my husband. My a's most recent rage was at my 7 year old son about a week ago. I tried to remain calm but he continued to berate my son and was looking for a fight, and I caved and gave it to him. Big Mistake, because I actually gave my control over...

ImplicitIsobel · ImplicitIsobel

i'm sorry if anyone thinks this in an inapropriate topic. after reading through some of your entries and getting a feel for the real crisies that are happening in your lives, i am once again humbled, and realize once again how very silly the crisies i create in my head really are. but i still make them int...

bubz · bubz

Hello everyone, I have been searching for books on "dry drunks" with no luck. If anyone out there has some good leads on anything, it would be gladly accepted. I've been in alanon for about 6months now, and cannot imagine my life without it anymore :) THANK GOD FOR ALANON!

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"The finish line isn't a given; it is earned" --from the back of a T-shirt at a sporting event.

Diva · Diva

We finally got moved and settled back in lovely San Antonio. I hope that all of you have been well, and I'll catch up on the posts. Keeping each of you in my positive thoughts and prayers with great caring, ..· ´¨¨)) -:¦:- ¸.·´ ..·´¨¨)) ((¸¸.·´ ...·´ Diva-:¦:- -:¦:- ((¸¸.·´*

megan · megan

My A went to his bike repair class last night. It was the last night of the class. he missed 2 of the classes (out of 6) due to excessive drinking He seemed down after the class. He said that he tried to exchange phone numbers with some of the others and one ignored him as he said goodbye and anothe...

gardengal · gardengal

Even when codependents recognize the problem for what it is,,, they often make the mistake of trying to control their partners consumption----- the amount the alcoholic drinks or uses--while fighting desperately to keep the bottom from falling out from under the family. They may count drinks,...

cdb · cdb

OH how I wish I could be where you are in your serenity with life Richard. I so admire it and I do have faith that it will come to me or I will come to it. For some reason it just isn't within my reach yet. I still don't feel life is fun and I don't feel a sense of peace with death either. I am like this scared l...

tink · tink

A friend sent this to me and I thought I would share it ............. I've learned....That life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer it gets to the end, the faster it goes. I've learned....That we should be glad God answers all prayers - however misguided they are Remember - NO is an answer.......

cdb · cdb

Hello All! Thanks to all of you who said prayers! One more thing for me to not be worried about now. The only thing is, the doctors' still don't know what happened to him, grrr. Only that he had two Life Crisis. That's easy for them to say. Oh well. He has already used his 9 lives up anyway. All I can do is tak...

Doreanmsloan · Doreanmsloan

Sometimes I find it so difficult not to say things that I know deep in my heart will hurt my a, (when he is sober) it is just beyond me not to let him know just how boring it is to hear the same old story that he tells anyone who will listen , such as our sons not me because I have learned not to listen to the bottle I...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Tonight's Step/Tradition meeting is a review of all 12 Steps. I have to take my mother to a couple of doctor appointments today, and might be late getting back. Hopefully not, but just in case, wanted to post what step we were on tonight - the review of all 12 - and I'm sure if I'm not here on ti...

gardengal · gardengal

Codependents usually dont want their relationships to fall apart, even tho in moments of anger they may talk about divorce or threaten to leave. And the most common reason they give for staying with a drinking or using partner is the simplest reason of all : LOVE> And in the name of love, they hang...

kathykelly · kathykelly

Just talked with my daughter and she asked if we were going to pay for her impact weekend that was ordered by the court. She has to complete that as well as get her GED in order to get off from probation. She is scheduled to get off probation in March. We have helped her with many of her co...

ImplicitIsobel · ImplicitIsobel

hello all you friendly al-anon people. my name is claire, and i'm an american living in japan. i picked up al-anon as a way of life during my last year at college, but then jeted out here, and so have been without meetings for about 7 months. in general i'm doing a good job of keeping it together- daily read...

tink · tink

Two traveling angels stopped to spend the night in the home of a wealthy family. The family was rude and refused to let the angels stay in the mansion's guest room. Instead the angels were given a small space in the cold basement. As they made their bed on the hard floor, the older angel saw a ho...

search41 · search41

boy, is this an attitude worth being reminded of: For The Good ============ Once on a journey, a Rabbi and his students were refused hospitality at a certain town. Instead of being upset, the Rabbi said: "Whatever God does is for the good!" However, the group had to spend the night in a f...

NANUKE · NANUKE

Need someone to chair for me on Wednesday morning. Appreciate it and thanks to whomever can cover, L&P in Recovery, Nan

kathykelly · kathykelly

Well, the little ice storm has given me an extra day off. I'm a teacher and school was cancelled everywhere around here. I love these days now just as much as I did when I was a kid in school. Thought I'd take the time to update. My daughter has a new probation officer and she was f...

richard · richard

My son seems to take two steps forward, then three backwards, then four forward. I can deal with that. I recently brought a super loaded newer used car: a 2002 Ford Focus. I sold (via loan payments) my super nice older 98’ Plymouth Neon to my son. My Neon was my little four cylinder hot rod; it has high perf...

debilyn · debilyn

Is there a picture page for this group. Love,debilyn

Doreanmsloan · Doreanmsloan

Hello everyone: I am just starting my road to recovery, and feeling much better about life. I plan my first face to face meeting this evening, and am a little uneasy, but willing to let go of my fears, besides, I don't think it can get any worse, only better. I was wondering if any...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

" ...I didn't cause alcoholism, I can't control it. I can't cure it. I can continue to struggle and lose. Or I can accept that I am powerless over alcohol and alcoholism, and let Al-anon help me to redirect the energy I've spent on fighting this disease into recovering from i...

jj · jj

A guest on the chat the other night has been in my head for the past few days and i hope this post will help me let go of all they had to say. This person was very angry with god and what seemed to be the whole world and thoes with a so called Normal Life. What is normal really??? I don't think there is a norm for lif...

luv123 · luv123

hi everyone--just thought i'd share thots from today's meeting--i am struggling with a 17 year old who i can try and dtach from as best i can but am still legally responsibly 4 so it gets tricky at this age At the meeting tonight I related most to the topic of standing up 4 self or what is right today—I a...

Help, New member!! · RJ1978

Any suggestions !!!!This is my breif story.... Started about 10yrs ago found out son was an addict, he went into rehab only then to find out he had been molested. It hasn't ended he has been into rehabs, 3/4 and halfway houses and jail. Four years ago he married had two kids and bough...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Carving out times for ourselves is important. But sometimes I feel like I have to carve out a LOT of it for just me--it sometimes feels like there's not enough room for me and this disease in my life. I can get budged out so quickly! So, I always feel this pull.... Like sometimes I isol...

cabecka · cabecka

I read this poem again recently, and it reminded me of the hurdles we all face in our programs and our lives with alcoholism. Just wanted to share with everyone...... "I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings" ~Maya Angelou The free bird leaps on the back of the wind and floats downstream till the...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"Faith that the thing can be done is essential to any great achievement." --Thomas N. Carruther "For I know the Plans I Have for You," declares the Lord, "Plans to Prosper You and Not to Harm You, Plans to Give You Hop...

John · John

MIP Game Arcade You can go to this Game Arcade, and then when done playing, click Message Boards and select the Al-Anon message board to return here.

wallsal55 · wallsal55

There is no sensual pleasure in the world comparable to the delight and satisfaction that a good man takes in doing good. --Tillotson

(Well, I always lived by this rule in my younger days before A'ism. Gee, now when I hear the word sensual and doing good, I think...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

...:coffee: My body just had a cup of coffee without my permission. : ) Anyway, that's how I feel, just be naughty. Play hooky. Hubby hasn't had meeting in week, and don't know what hit the fan last night, and hoping it won't hit again tonight. Lef...

cdb · cdb

Thank you all for your prayers and concern for my dad. The doctors still are not sure what is wrong and are trying to do many tests to figure it out. His heart and blood pressure still are doing whatever they want yet at times he is stable. A lung speialist was called in since his chest muscles...

Mark S · Mark S

You know I should be grateful that she wants to go back to rehab. It seems though she has to believe that I truly intend to divorce her before she decides she wants to go to rehab..(the way it happened last time) who is she doing it for? If she is doing it to pacify me I know it won't work this time either. I have...

sanddie · sanddie

I wanted to share this email I received from my mom today with everyone. I could relate it to all the feelings we deal with in our relationships. Rather than address work, I just put my relationships in there instead. :) Stress A lecturer, when explaining stress management...

megan · megan

Thanks Wallsal55 for posting these sites. These sites are very educational. www.songdov.com/jellinek.htm www.1016.org/Jellink.html and www.bendfeldt.com/alcholism.htm (Please note spellings). I have been reading them over th...

GRATEFULGAL94 · GRATEFULGAL94

I just wanted to say hello and introduce myself. My name is Colleen. I am fairly new to ALANON. Looking forward to participating with this group.

nycbt · nycbt

Well yesterday my a didn't drink which was very good. I didn't do the baby test but my hormons are very high and very easly angered. I haven't lose my tempter and got voliet to him. But in the past I have cut my arm, well I just make marks with a knife and the blood comes out, well that is what I did yester...

meagain · meagain

I just feel so lost-nobody replied to me-is it some

thing I said-I need a little carings thoughts on this subject--anyone care to reply would be appreciated.

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	divorce vs. living with an A (Preview) This is my first time to write something on this board but right now I am at a pretty low point in my life. I was married about 4 months ago to a man whom I only knew for about 4 months bf we got married - (got engaged 1 1/2 mo after seeing each other and then married 2 1/2 mo later). He had told me he wa...	estrelladehope	10	1599	Feb 26, 2005 by sanddie
	My son... letting go... (Preview) My son is struggling with doing life. He has a woman friend now. I think she has a good heart. They are getting close and that scares my son. The only thing my son knows of being close is abuse. My son is struggling getting and keeping gainful employment. I am weaning my son from being monetary dependent of...	richard	5	1269	Feb 26, 2005 by alystylz
	new to this (Preview) Hi everyone. My name is Jenn. This is the first time i've done anything like this. Please bear with me. Well it doesn't seem that my story is all that different from many of you out there. My husband is an alcoholic. We have been married for almost seven yrs now. During the last...	jenn011	7	1248	Feb 26, 2005 by alystylz
	Tuesday a.m. March 1,2005 (Preview) Just a note to let you know I am the scheduled chair for the Tuesday morning Al-Anon meetings. However, for March 1 (next Tuesday), I am unable to keep my commitment as I have a Dr.'s appointment that morning. Hope one of the OP's can cover that meeting for me and if not, perhap...	shimo	2	973	Feb 26, 2005 by Faith73
	God listens (Preview) My husband obtained a gun from a girl that was stolen and now she is in jail and the gun has to go back to the police, which takes it out of my home and out of my A husband's hands! God listens to my prayers! And he will listen to yours! Plus I wanted to tell you all how much I appreciate your support and prayers...	debalina36	6	1330	Feb 25, 2005 by Ava
	Grateful (Preview) Hi everyone. Well, sometimes something happens to brighten your day and remind you that people really are basically good. Tonight I was in the drive thru lane at McDonald's and when I got up to the window to pay for the food, the guy told me that the lady in front of me had paid for my order!&n...	autumnangel	5	1138	Feb 25, 2005 by Ava
	Self Esteem, Self Love, Self Centeredness (Preview) by Nancy Poitou, M.A., M.F.T. I have been asked often about what is self-esteem, self-love and self-centeredness. These are very good questions and it is a fine line that separates these concepts. Self esteem means to hold oneself in high esteem, feeling worthy of a good life and good t...	Phil	1	1716	Feb 25, 2005 by estrelladehope
	son's addiction (Preview) Hi, I am new on this board... My 21 year old son is really messed up..He lost his job ---had to move back home with my husband and I... We have had to pay over $800. for electricity water, phone,that he owed when living in town...He has no income! The last straw was a $450 f...	lalarainbow	6	1380	Feb 24, 2005 by lalarainbow
	Sponsor me please! (Preview) Hi I am in London, England and have difficulty getting to face to face meetings. I have never had a sponsor and I think it would really help me. Please could you contact me if you have been in alanon a while and if you have the time to spare to help me Many thanks[email]hollidaymandy@hotmail.com...	mandyhol	2	1062	Feb 24, 2005 by java
	Chatroom won't load :( help (Preview) Am I the only one who cannot get the chatroom to load? All, I get is a grey page. I am having withdrawals here....Yikes...cdb	cdb	1	945	Feb 23, 2005 by cdb
	Debilyn... & anyone or all... (Preview) Yup, I listened to my then therapist and put the title of the car in my son’s name. See… you are as smart as a therapist. I upped the quality of coffee I drink now that I can afford it. I drink “Melitta” brand coffee. I can only find it by phone or Internet… my last drug in life: I ain't going to be perfect about n...	richard	4	1248	Feb 23, 2005 by wallsal55
	MARCH BUS MTG (Preview) The March Business Meeting has been rescheduled to Wednesday, March 9, 7:00 p.m. EST. All members are invited to attend the meetings!! Hope to see you all there!! Love in recovery - Shimo (Jeri)	shimo	0	1022	Feb 23, 2005 by shimo
	The Power of Program (Preview) This program and HP are so wonderful. As many know I have been struggling. I was complaining because I thought I lost the confidence I had several months ago regarding making decisions in my life. But what I realized tonight through a newcomer, I havent lost it - it has just taken a d...	AlaMom	1	1138	Feb 22, 2005 by Maria123
	I can't control it (Preview) I kept my mouth shut while he had a meltdown the other day. I bit my tongue. The phone rang and it was his father. He rebuked his own father for some imagined behavior. I don't know of any circumstance when it would be justified to talk to his dad the way he did. My father in law is completely admirable. I know...	Jill	3	1205	Feb 22, 2005 by TLC2
	FINDING "OUR "SACRED PLACE (Preview) This increasingly chaotic world is making us sick,,,add an alcoholic or an addict to our lives and it is increased 10 fold or even 100.Our hurried and hassle-filled lifestyles are increasing our risk for strokes, heart attacks and mental illnesses such as depression. We could all use a sacred pla...	gardengal	6	1315	Feb 22, 2005 by richard
	Loosing All Hope (Preview) I am really freaking out here. My mother hurt her leg at xmas and i have been begging her to go ever since. But she was walking (with a limp) getting around babysitting my kids like always for a couple of weeks, so i thought was a pulled muscle i kept telling her to go and she wouldnt. She finally had no choice...	kerry5	9	1559	Feb 22, 2005 by bob6502
	New to Al-Anon HELP (Preview) My husband is an alcoholic and my father is a recovering one. I attended my first meeting and it planted a seed. But it is hard. My husband is drunk tonight and the one thing that hit me hard is that I cannot control what he does. I cannot control what he drinks. I can only control how I react and what I say. My s...	debalina36	7	1405	Feb 21, 2005 by debalina36
	Can't Keep My Mouth Shut (Preview) Can anyone help? My husband has accepted a job in another town. He says that he wants a divorce. That the purpose of life is happiness and he will be happy without me. He walks around obsessing about his diet, his dissertation, his new job, the price of a membership on the golf course. I ask to talk about ou...	nmike	6	1380	Feb 21, 2005 by wallsal55
	Powerlessness (Preview) Hi everyone. Today I was reminded all over again that I'm powerless over other people, and that is still a really hard lesson for me to learn. I had a long talk with my husband and we got some things out about our marriage and how we both were feeling, which was good. But then when I noti...	autumnangel	5	1353	Feb 21, 2005 by gardengal
	Great Quote from HP (Preview) Do you need me? I am there. You cannot see me, yet I am the light you see by. You cannot hear me, yet I speak through your voice. You cannot feel me, yet I am the power at work in your hands. I am at work, though you do not understand my ways. I am at work, though you do not understand my works. I am not strange visio...	autumnangel	2	978	Feb 21, 2005 by TLC2
	Kerry5 (Preview) Kerry, So sory for you. This must have been an awful day beyond what we can even immagine for you. My heart does really go out to you. Your last post sounded like you were not going to come back here and it gave me tears in my eyes. I hope that you can come back and keep comming back and i hope that you do find some...	jj	3	1149	Feb 21, 2005 by Anew123
	Help with Step 1 (Preview) My A is my husband. My a's most recent rage was at my 7 year old son about a week ago. I tried to remain calm but he continued to berate my son and was looking for a fight, and I caved and gave it to him. Big Mistake, because I actually gave my control over...	fittrip	2	1448	Feb 20, 2005 by cdb
	anyone else funny about food? (Preview) i'm sorry if anyone thinks this in an inapropriate topic. after reading through some of your entries and getting a feel for the real crisies that are happening in your lives, i am once again humbled, and realize once again how very silly the crisies i create in my head really are. but i still make them int...	ImplicitIsobel	2	1361	Feb 19, 2005 by wallsal55
	Dry drunks (Preview) Hello everyone, I have been searching for books on "dry drunks" with no luck. If anyone out there has some good leads on anything, it would be gladly accepted. I've been in alanon for about 6months now, and cannot imagine my life without it anymore :) THANK GOD FOR ALANON!	bubz	4	2014	Feb 19, 2005 by wallsal55
	Quote for Today (Preview) "The finish line isn't a given; it is earned" --from the back of a T-shirt at a sporting event.	wallsal55	0	980	Feb 19, 2005 by wallsal55
	Hello everyone. (Preview) We finally got moved and settled back in lovely San Antonio. I hope that all of you have been well, and I'll catch up on the posts. Keeping each of you in my positive thoughts and prayers with great caring, ..· ´¨¨)) -:¦:- ¸.·´ ..·´¨¨)) ((¸¸.·´ ...·´ Diva-:¦:- -:¦:- ((¸¸.·´*	Diva	2	1076	Feb 19, 2005 by jj
	social skills (Preview) My A went to his bike repair class last night. It was the last night of the class. he missed 2 of the classes (out of 6) due to excessive drinking He seemed down after the class. He said that he tried to exchange phone numbers with some of the others and one ignored him as he said goodbye and anothe...	megan	8	1208	Feb 18, 2005 by cdb
	CRAZY LOVE (Preview) Even when codependents recognize the problem for what it is,,, they often make the mistake of trying to control their partners consumption----- the amount the alcoholic drinks or uses--while fighting desperately to keep the bottom from falling out from under the family. They may count drinks,...	gardengal	3	1219	Feb 18, 2005 by richard
	Richard and all..... (Preview) OH how I wish I could be where you are in your serenity with life Richard. I so admire it and I do have faith that it will come to me or I will come to it. For some reason it just isn't within my reach yet. I still don't feel life is fun and I don't feel a sense of peace with death either. I am like this scared l...	cdb	2	1203	Feb 18, 2005 by gardengal
	Things I've learned (Preview) A friend sent this to me and I thought I would share it ............. I've learned....That life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer it gets to the end, the faster it goes. I've learned....That we should be glad God answers all prayers - however misguided they are Remember - NO is an answer.......	tink	3	1233	Feb 18, 2005 by jna
	Dad out of hospital (Preview) Hello All! Thanks to all of you who said prayers! One more thing for me to not be worried about now. The only thing is, the doctors' still don't know what happened to him, grrr. Only that he had two Life Crisis. That's easy for them to say. Oh well. He has already used his 9 lives up anyway. All I can do is tak...	cdb	4	1247	Feb 18, 2005 by kerry5
	learning not to react (Preview) Sometimes I find it so difficult not to say things that I know deep in my heart will hurt my a, (when he is sober) it is just beyond me not to let him know just how boring it is to hear the same old story that he tells anyone who will listen , such as our sons not me because I have learned not to listen to the bottle I...	Doreanmsloan	5	2021	Feb 18, 2005 by ImplicitIsobel
	2/17 P.M. Meeting - Review of Steps (Preview) Tonight's Step/Tradition meeting is a review of all 12 Steps. I have to take my mother to a couple of doctor appointments today, and might be late getting back. Hopefully not, but just in case, wanted to post what step we were on tonight - the review of all 12 - and I'm sure if I'm not here on ti...	kismetstrand	0	998	Feb 17, 2005 by kismetstrand
	LOVE & RECOVERY (Preview) Codependents usually dont want their relationships to fall apart, even tho in moments of anger they may talk about divorce or threaten to leave. And the most common reason they give for staying with a drinking or using partner is the simplest reason of all : LOVE> And in the name of love, they hang...	gardengal	2	1285	Feb 17, 2005 by whitie
	Need Support (Preview) Just talked with my daughter and she asked if we were going to pay for her impact weekend that was ordered by the court. She has to complete that as well as get her GED in order to get off from probation. She is scheduled to get off probation in March. We have helped her with many of her co...	kathykelly	3	1265	Feb 16, 2005 by cdb
	she's self sufficient, folks (Preview) hello all you friendly al-anon people. my name is claire, and i'm an american living in japan. i picked up al-anon as a way of life during my last year at college, but then jeted out here, and so have been without meetings for about 7 months. in general i'm doing a good job of keeping it together- daily read...	ImplicitIsobel	5	1257	Feb 16, 2005 by ImplicitIsobel
	something to think about - worth the read (Preview) Two traveling angels stopped to spend the night in the home of a wealthy family. The family was rude and refused to let the angels stay in the mansion's guest room. Instead the angels were given a small space in the cold basement. As they made their bed on the hard floor, the older angel saw a ho...	tink	3	1328	Feb 16, 2005 by search41
	perspective (Preview) boy, is this an attitude worth being reminded of: For The Good ============ Once on a journey, a Rabbi and his students were refused hospitality at a certain town. Instead of being upset, the Rabbi said: "Whatever God does is for the good!" However, the group had to spend the night in a f...	search41	5	1851	Feb 16, 2005 by search41
	Need Coverage 2/16 Wednesday Morning (Preview) Need someone to chair for me on Wednesday morning. Appreciate it and thanks to whomever can cover, L&P in Recovery, Nan	NANUKE	0	1025	Feb 15, 2005 by NANUKE
	Ice Day (Preview) Well, the little ice storm has given me an extra day off. I'm a teacher and school was cancelled everywhere around here. I love these days now just as much as I did when I was a kid in school. Thought I'd take the time to update. My daughter has a new probation officer and she was f...	kathykelly	2	1285	Feb 15, 2005 by jj
	want to see a few pics of a bit problematic son... (Preview) My son seems to take two steps forward, then three backwards, then four forward. I can deal with that. I recently brought a super loaded newer used car: a 2002 Ford Focus. I sold (via loan payments) my super nice older 98’ Plymouth Neon to my son. My Neon was my little four cylinder hot rod; it has high perf...	richard	7	2008	Feb 15, 2005 by cdb
	?picture page? (Preview) Is there a picture page for this group. Love,debilyn	debilyn	1	1054	Feb 15, 2005 by gardengal
	how to detach from a functioning A (Preview) Hello everyone: I am just starting my road to recovery, and feeling much better about life. I plan my first face to face meeting this evening, and am a little uneasy, but willing to let go of my fears, besides, I don't think it can get any worse, only better. I was wondering if any...	Doreanmsloan	4	1515	Feb 15, 2005 by Doreanmsloan
	Three C's (Preview) " ...I didn't cause alcoholism, I can't control it. I can't cure it. I can continue to struggle and lose. Or I can accept that I am powerless over alcohol and alcoholism, and let Al-anon help me to redirect the energy I've spent on fighting this disease into recovering from i...	wallsal55	4	3217	Feb 15, 2005 by TLC2
	Anger towards theos with"normal life" (Preview) A guest on the chat the other night has been in my head for the past few days and i hope this post will help me let go of all they had to say. This person was very angry with god and what seemed to be the whole world and thoes with a so called Normal Life. What is normal really??? I don't think there is a norm for lif...	jj	4	1419	Feb 14, 2005 by richard
	my teen-detaching responsibly (Preview) hi everyone--just thought i'd share thots from today's meeting--i am struggling with a 17 year old who i can try and dtach from as best i can but am still legally responsibly 4 so it gets tricky at this age At the meeting tonight I related most to the topic of standing up 4 self or what is right today—I a...	luv123	3	1666	Feb 14, 2005 by richard
	Help, New member!! (Preview) Any suggestions !!!!This is my breif story.... Started about 10yrs ago found out son was an addict, he went into rehab only then to find out he had been molested. It hasn't ended he has been into rehabs, 3/4 and halfway houses and jail. Four years ago he married had two kids and bough...	RJ1978	6	1052	Feb 14, 2005 by RJ1978
	Selfish With Our Time? Good or Bad? (Preview) Carving out times for ourselves is important. But sometimes I feel like I have to carve out a LOT of it for just me--it sometimes feels like there's not enough room for me and this disease in my life. I can get budged out so quickly! So, I always feel this pull.... Like sometimes I isol...	wallsal55	6	1115	Feb 14, 2005 by wallsal55
	A Poem for you.... (Preview) I read this poem again recently, and it reminded me of the hurdles we all face in our programs and our lives with alcoholism. Just wanted to share with everyone...... "I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings" ~Maya Angelou The free bird leaps on the back of the wind and floats downstream till the...	cabecka	3	1016	Feb 14, 2005 by socalmom
	Quotes for Today (Preview) "Faith that the thing can be done is essential to any great achievement." --Thomas N. Carruther "For I know the Plans I Have for You," declares the Lord, "Plans to Prosper You and Not to Harm You, Plans to Give You Hop...	wallsal55	1	1129	Feb 13, 2005 by luv123
	Game Arcade (Preview) MIP Game Arcade You can go to this Game Arcade, and then when done playing, click Message Boards and select the Al-Anon message board to return here.	John	0	1014	Feb 13, 2005 by John
	Quote for Thought (Preview) There is no sensual pleasure in the world comparable to the delight and satisfaction that a good man takes in doing good. --Tillotson (Well, I always lived by this rule in my younger days before A'ism. Gee, now when I hear the word sensual and doing good, I think...	wallsal55	1	1115	Feb 13, 2005 by richard
	Being Naughty Today (Preview) ...:coffee: My body just had a cup of coffee without my permission. : ) Anyway, that's how I feel, just be naughty. Play hooky. Hubby hasn't had meeting in week, and don't know what hit the fan last night, and hoping it won't hit again tonight. Lef...	wallsal55	3	993	Feb 13, 2005 by Tuggboat
	Dad still in danger..... (Preview) Thank you all for your prayers and concern for my dad. The doctors still are not sure what is wrong and are trying to do many tests to figure it out. His heart and blood pressure still are doing whatever they want yet at times he is stable. A lung speialist was called in since his chest muscles...	cdb	3	1251	Feb 12, 2005 by jj
	She going back to rehab..humm (Preview) You know I should be grateful that she wants to go back to rehab. It seems though she has to believe that I truly intend to divorce her before she decides she wants to go to rehab..(the way it happened last time) who is she doing it for? If she is doing it to pacify me I know it won't work this time either. I have...	Mark S	3	1260	Feb 12, 2005 by cdb
	Stressed??? (Preview) I wanted to share this email I received from my mom today with everyone. I could relate it to all the feelings we deal with in our relationships. Rather than address work, I just put my relationships in there instead. :) Stress A lecturer, when explaining stress management...	sanddie	3	1109	Feb 12, 2005 by cdb
	"I read the literature you left" (Preview) Thanks Wallsal55 for posting these sites. These sites are very educational. www.songdov.com/jellinek.htm www.1016.org/Jellink.html and www.bendfeldt.com/alcholism.htm (Please note spellings). I have been reading them over th...	megan	3	1149	Feb 12, 2005 by cdb
	NEW (Preview) I just wanted to say hello and introduce myself. My name is Colleen. I am fairly new to ALANON. Looking forward to participating with this group.	GRATEFULGAL94	2	1045	Feb 12, 2005 by cdb
	cutting (Preview) Well yesterday my a didn't drink which was very good. I didn't do the baby test but my hormons are very high and very easly angered. I haven't lose my tempter and got voliet to him. But in the past I have cut my arm, well I just make marks with a knife and the blood comes out, well that is what I did yester...	nycbt	7	1286	Feb 12, 2005 by Tuggboat
	RE: depressed~ (Preview) I just feel so lost-nobody replied to me-is it something I said-I need a little carings thoughts on this subject--anyone care to reply would be appreciated.	meagain	7	1415	Feb 12, 2005 by Tuggboat
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