Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

babs · babs

First, to all who have read my post on "I'm perfect, you're not".... Thanks for the replies. It was just how I felt. We all don't have the same thoughts, or feelings. I know what works for some, won't for others. That's what makes us unique. ...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"Excellence is an art won by training and habituaion. We do not act rightly because of virtue or excellence, but rather we have those because we have acted rightly. We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence is not an act, but a habit." --Aristotle

Mark S · Mark S

Had family program at the rehab center Monday and Tuesday. It was intense, and I initially left with some good feelings, better than the first time a couple years ago. My wife to my surprise did actually verbally accept responsibility for her actions and admitted her dishonesty as well as her assignm...

cdb · cdb

Hello everyone, I replied to the post below titled cdb about how my daughter is doing and about the family meeting we had. So for those that are interested, you need to go to that post for the update. TY your friend in recovery,,cdb :)

Lindy · Lindy

Hi, after another bad weekend, I thought I would find a site where I could tell my story. I seem to be a magnet for alcoholics! I apologize for this long message ahead of time. Anyway, here it is: I was married for about nine years to a "weekend alcoholic" and the last few years were hell. My ex-husband woul...

angel123 · angel123

1.)If you can give but one gift,make it the gift of good example 2.)Love is like gratitude,much better when show it. 3.)The door to a human heart can be opened only from the inside. (((Group Hugs))))God Bless Angel

Christy · Christy

I listened to one of the speaker tapes offered on this site while I was doing my day to day chores. ajit-s-alltexas200332.mp3 It was not only inspiring, but she is really, really funny and a great speaker. Just thought I'd share in case ya'll haven't checked them out...

jj · jj

Hey cdb I was just thinking about you and hopping that the family meeting went well. I haven't seen you on here and it made me think of you more. Well I hope that all is well with everyone and you are in my prayers. Love your friend in recovery JJ

babs · babs

In case you didn't read my reply to you. I really like the idea of using "My A" for my anonomous whoever, instead of My A meaning my alcoholic!!!!!! It means so much more to me. Thank you for that thought. Hope you have a nice day!

kathykelly · kathykelly

Thank you all for your great responses to my post about helping my daughter. They were, once again, very insightful and helpful. I am so fortunate to get all of your experience to help me with this adventure. I am going to help with the car, but being a mother, I took the opportunity t...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Applause, Applause for You, yes You, the posters of This Board

estrelladehope · estrelladehope

I guess this post is just for me to vent right now. Alot of the time I feel like my husband does not really love. How could he, he is an addict/alcoholic - he still drinks a few times a week and smokes pot - I can deal with this. What I have a hard time dealing with is the way he shows me he love...

jj · jj

Today I was feeling unsure about the way face to face was going. As many of you know I go to meetings with my sister in law and I have been feeling that she was uncomfortable with the alanon meetings and knew she was leaning towards naranon and we have been supportive of each other searching for a meeting th...

cdb · cdb

Just now between 10:25 pm and 10:40 pm central time in the room, I felt ganged up on! All anyone has to do is read the transcripts. I know there are a couple people that do not talk to me and tonite they went over the edge! One saying to someone else not me,,,take the cotton out of your ears and put it in your mou...

gardengal · gardengal

Clearly, a loved ones sobriety does not solve our problems, nor does physical separation or even death. Even those of us who have not been involved with any alcoholics for many years find that we continue to be affected by the family disease. In short, the effects alcoholism----obsession, anxiety,...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Applause, Applause to You, yes You posters on this message board. Why? When I am able to POP in, I notice so many responses are: --------------------- T houghtful H elpful I ntelligent N ecessary ind &nbs...

Lanchas · Lanchas

Well my A found out I was on here and was fine with it. I was . I have been searching for literature but haven't bought any yet. I don't have much I want to say yet. I would like feed back on what I do say though but I'm not getting much feed back. That's all I have to say for now. Lanchas

wallsal55 · wallsal55

What you can do, or think you can, begin it.---Johann Wolfgang von Goethe Sept. 6th "During acute depresion,....avoid trying to set your whole life in order at once. If you take on assignments so heavy that you are sure to fail in them at the moment, then you are allowing yourself to be trick...

kathykelly · kathykelly

Need to vent. My daughter has had a lot of help from me over the past year, well actually since she turned 16 and dropped out of school. Well, that's ok, I have been trying to help her get on her feet. Anyway, after she got her DUI almost a year ago, I have had to help her even more. I...

babs · babs

When I realized I was powerless, I wanted to leave him, why stay? It’s not my problem, I can’t fix it, so leave. Then in S4, I looked and saw clearly that I had faults, many faults. I was not, & never would be perfect. Would I want someone to leave me because of my faults?! Without even trying to stand by m...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, It sounds like my daughter may be getting out of the inpatient treatment center this week. We do have a family meeting with her on Tuesday too. She had a home visit today and it went well. She got to see her brother and his girlfriend too since they were here for the weekend. She is activel...

babs · babs

Hi, I've met in my f2f meeting a two people who's blind. They were requesting the following in braille, or tape, or cd. Can anyone offer suggestions? I've looked, but couldn't find. I would like to help them. Babs

Orchid · Orchid

I told my husband that he had to quit smoking pot or I would file for a divorce? He hasn't taken my hint yet; should I try something else? I don't know what to do...

pepodwyer · pepodwyer

babs · babs

Hi, I forgot to mention I was looking for (braille, tapes, cd) One day at a time in al anon Courage to change Hope for today

Beskem · Beskem

Last Sunday after a pretty eventful Saturday night for my A wife. Threatened suicide got hauled off to the Sherriff's for Mental Evaluation, etc. I told her I needed her to stop doing three things in order for me to stay in the marriage, Don't Drink, Don't gamble, Don't sleep with other me...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Our main website page currently has links to 5 different groups; Alcoholics Anonymous, Al-Anon Family Group, Adult Children Anonymous Group, Child Abuse Survivors, and Family Teens Group. The main website page is http://www.12stepforums.net/ For the Teens, I have posted the l...

jj · jj

I meant to wish you good luck before your exam. Sory I didn't get it posted but i want you to know that you were in my thoughts at mom and dads and I hope that you did great on it. JJ

jj · jj

Well I spent the weekend at my parents house for my dads 50th birthday and his supprise party. For the most part it went well and dad was very appreciative. My brother caused some caose and tried to start many fights with a friend of mine and my husband and myself he was right out rude. He suceeded in star...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Anyone nearby interested or traveling. SPRING FLING April 22-24, Historic Galesburg, IL For registration form: Spring Fling, P.O. Box 1772, Galesburg, IL 61042-1772 Dance, banquet, AA, Alanon Speakers, alateen speaker, raffles.

babs · babs

Hi, I'm 3 weeks plus into program. I have read "how al anon works.." I am reading "Paths to recovery". I also have the book One day at a time, and just got the "Courage to change" book. I read & reread. I also go to meetings in face, and online. I am atte...

micheagle · micheagle

My husband is an active drinker and I have a real big problem ignoring him when he comes home drinking or hungover. He says real mean things to me, like my weight and how I should starve myself. He also tells me to leave his house and go find someone else to support me. I have no job and I have fibromyalgia and...

Beskem · Beskem

First, thank you all for your kind words and words of wisdom in my first post. My A wife quit her job today with my support. She felt like a ton of weight was lifted off her shoulders. She was a High School Study Hall aid, all alone with 60 some kids who liked to cause trouble and the admin...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"Sometimes, the way is not clear. Our minds get clouded, confused. We aren't certain what our next step should be, what it will look like, what direction we are headed. That is the time to stop, ask for guidance, and rest. That is the time to let go of fear. Wai...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I am 18 years old. I am an only child. My mom drank when I was a little kid, but I didn't know. Then she got help and quit. When I was about 8 years old she got in a relationship with a drinker and started drinking again. She has not stopped. She is still with the guy she got into a relationship with when I was 8. I l...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I am 18 years old. My mom drank when I was a little kid, but I didn't know. Then she got help and quit. When I was about 8 years old she got in a relationship with a drinker and started drinking again. She has not stopped. She is still with the guy she got into a relationship with when I was 8. I love him(I conside...

cdb · cdb

Hello John, Just want to thank you for all the support you have given me. I feel so lucky to be able to use this message board and the chatroom at MIP. You are so good at talking to me in a private secure way and I do appreciate that. I can tell that you are a person that is out for the good of the communit...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

When I first came to Alanon, my thoughts were "it's all the A's fault". I get to Alanon and I'm told "you're just as sick, if not sicker, than the A". That didn't sit well with me. Made me mad. But I kept coming back to listen and learn. Pretty soon I realized, yeah, they'r...

jj · jj

My AH came home tonight and asked... Do you ever ask yourself "why me"? Almost before he finished I answered yes all the time. He had this supprised look on his face like what for?? He never said another word when I could tell he wanted to talk about how hard things are for him and he wanted me to feel sory for...

dori · dori

Good morning guys , I am in a dilema and I dont where to turn.I have been in alanon 2 years now.I am single mom of 2 teens , one is 18 works pt time and goes to college and the other in hs.My ex a is not in our life.I lost my job in octand how we have gotten by I would have to write a book of all the ways God ha...

John · John

The 12 Steps 1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol, - that our lives had become unmanageable. 2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. 3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. 4...

debilyn · debilyn

I have an iBook, every time now when I click on someones post my internet explorer quits. )c: I hate this, any ideas? I depend on this bb so much! love,debilyn

Lucy2 · Lucy2

I come here daily and read posts but rarely post myself. Today, I am in need of experience, strength, and hope from those of you who may have been through these things in the past. My 26 y/o daughter is one of the addicts/mental illness in my life. I got a call from...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I am totally new to this. I don't understand what the different 12 steps are. I would like to know what they are. I was also wondering if religion was a big part of this. I'm not very religious. I hope someone will help me understand all this. Lanchas

estrelladehope · estrelladehope

For some reason I just cannot seem to communicate with my A (husband). He has to constantly ask me a question several times before I actually answer it. I am not sure if I am just being defensive of his questions or as I told him earlier this morning that I decide that his question is not worth...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

...."May I turn myself inside out, air out the depression which has been closeted inside me, replace it with the comfortable feeling that I am cared about by real friends, then pass along that comfort to others, caught in the same despair." Today I Will Remember: "The onlry real despair is lo...

mastiff · mastiff

"Let Go" "As children bring their broken toys-with tears- for us to mend, I brought my broken dreams to Him because He was my friend. But then, instead of leaving Him in peace to work alone, I hung around and tried to help with ways that were my own. At last I snatched them back and cried, "H...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, I talked to my dad today and he sounds good. He is surviving the visit with his brother and his wife,,,,the uncle/aunt of mine that screwed over my son and dad by selling the business out from under my son recently. Thanks for the prayers for my dad's health. My son is not a happy camper...

gardengal · gardengal

In all proceedings the World Service Confernece of Alanon shall observe the spirit of the traditions: 1: that only sufficient operating funds, including an ample reserve, be its prudent financial principle. 2: that no conference member shall be place in unqualified authority over other mem...

david62 · david62

Hi everyone! A friend in the chatroom wanted me to post this poem so she could read it. I wrote this poem for my two step sons before I got into the program. I was listening to someone talking about working the steps the other evening in the chat room and remembered the title of the poem.&...

Mark S · Mark S

We are all ready to recognize that our "A" is sick and actively seek their rehabilitation; it doesn't come so easy to see that I may need to change my mindset as well. While I have acknowledged that the "A" in my life has a disease, that doesn’t take rocket science, I am gratified that I was right about “the...

ReneeD · ReneeD

Hello.... My name is Renee and I've been in AA for 10 years, however, I am just starting out in Al-Anon. I work as a Chemical Dependency Counselor and have many family members who are alcoholics and/or addicts. I suppose "my bottom" as far as enabling is concerned, occurr...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, I was reading a post Richard had written and he said "Love does not hurt." It got me thinking, no love shouldn't hurt. Love is pure and good. If we are hurt when someone we loves lets us down, it is not love that is hurting us, but our own expectations. When we hurt becoss of the loss of a loved one, t...

onerugrat · onerugrat

Hi, I need to know how I can support m husband who is trying to quit throug aa. -- Edited by onerugrat at 16:55, 2005-03-10

Lanchas · Lanchas

Hi. I'm new to this. I have alcoholic parents but my mom is the reason I'm here. I'm a little shy right now since I am new to this. I don't know what else to say right now so I'm done with this message. Lanchas

page · page

This place has been a comfort for me. My S/O is now in a wonderful treatment program. It focuses on her. Sure there is a group for us both to attend- "family night". It's great if your A partner doesn't cop out with fear and tears. They are here for her, not me. Angr...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"Face your deficiencies and acknowledge them; but do not let them master you. Let them teach you patience, sweetness, insight. --Heller Keller

mjg · mjg

Hello I am a recovery alcholic, I have a spouse who is not an alcholic. Is it unreasonable for me to ask that spouse to not drink anymore? Or not to come home if they had been drinking ie.stay at a friends house? I am confused as to what I am supposed to expect from my spou...

Mark S · Mark S

Ran into a Dale Carnegie graduate that was in a class that I was Grad assisting last fall and while we were talking he mentioned something negative about a mutual acquaintance (another grad) and then stopped and said oops guess I’m not doing very well as I already forgot the 3 C’s (for Carnegie its criti...

jj · jj

Today i am greatful for my loving children Today I am greatful for alanon Today I am greatful that my husband came home so I could go to my f2f meeting Today I am greatful that my husband realized that alanon is good for me Today I am greatful that I have many supportive friends that help me when I am feeling b...

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	working towards peace..... (Preview) First, to all who have read my post on "I'm perfect, you're not".... Thanks for the replies. It was just how I felt. We all don't have the same thoughts, or feelings. I know what works for some, won't for others. That's what makes us unique. ...	babs	4	1251	Mar 18, 2005 by nmike
	Quote for Today (Preview) "Excellence is an art won by training and habituaion. We do not act rightly because of virtue or excellence, but rather we have those because we have acted rightly. We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence is not an act, but a habit." --Aristotle	wallsal55	2	1092	Mar 18, 2005 by Mark S
	Trust, I used to give so freely (Preview) Had family program at the rehab center Monday and Tuesday. It was intense, and I initially left with some good feelings, better than the first time a couple years ago. My wife to my surprise did actually verbally accept responsibility for her actions and admitted her dishonesty as well as her assignm...	Mark S	12	1467	Mar 18, 2005 by scared
	Read below post>>says cdb (Preview) Hello everyone, I replied to the post below titled cdb about how my daughter is doing and about the family meeting we had. So for those that are interested, you need to go to that post for the update. TY your friend in recovery,,cdb :)	cdb	1	969	Mar 18, 2005 by jj
	Think I just married ANOTHER alcoholic (Preview) Hi, after another bad weekend, I thought I would find a site where I could tell my story. I seem to be a magnet for alcoholics! I apologize for this long message ahead of time. Anyway, here it is: I was married for about nine years to a "weekend alcoholic" and the last few years were hell. My ex-husband woul...	Lindy	11	1299	Mar 17, 2005 by sanddie
	Forum 1987 (Preview) 1.)If you can give but one gift,make it the gift of good example 2.)Love is like gratitude,much better when show it. 3.)The door to a human heart can be opened only from the inside. (((Group Hugs))))God Bless Angel	angel123	1	886	Mar 17, 2005 by doozee
	The Speaker Tapes (Preview) I listened to one of the speaker tapes offered on this site while I was doing my day to day chores. ajit-s-alltexas200332.mp3 It was not only inspiring, but she is really, really funny and a great speaker. Just thought I'd share in case ya'll haven't checked them out...	Christy	1	1249	Mar 17, 2005 by cdb
	cdb... (Preview) Hey cdb I was just thinking about you and hopping that the family meeting went well. I haven't seen you on here and it made me think of you more. Well I hope that all is well with everyone and you are in my prayers. Love your friend in recovery JJ	jj	2	902	Mar 17, 2005 by cdb
	thanks TLC (Preview) In case you didn't read my reply to you. I really like the idea of using "My A" for my anonomous whoever, instead of My A meaning my alcoholic!!!!!! It means so much more to me. Thank you for that thought. Hope you have a nice day!	babs	2	968	Mar 17, 2005 by TLC2
	Thanks to all! (Preview) Thank you all for your great responses to my post about helping my daughter. They were, once again, very insightful and helpful. I am so fortunate to get all of your experience to help me with this adventure. I am going to help with the car, but being a mother, I took the opportunity t...	kathykelly	1	813	Mar 17, 2005 by Beskem
	Congratulations - To All (Preview) Applause, Applause for You, yes You, the posters of This Board	wallsal55	2	973	Mar 16, 2005 by wallsal55
	Love? (Preview) I guess this post is just for me to vent right now. Alot of the time I feel like my husband does not really love. How could he, he is an addict/alcoholic - he still drinks a few times a week and smokes pot - I can deal with this. What I have a hard time dealing with is the way he shows me he love...	estrelladehope	6	1268	Mar 16, 2005 by estrelladehope
	amazing chain of events (Preview) Today I was feeling unsure about the way face to face was going. As many of you know I go to meetings with my sister in law and I have been feeling that she was uncomfortable with the alanon meetings and knew she was leaning towards naranon and we have been supportive of each other searching for a meeting th...	jj	7	1105	Mar 16, 2005 by jj
	John & all who are my friends (Preview) Just now between 10:25 pm and 10:40 pm central time in the room, I felt ganged up on! All anyone has to do is read the transcripts. I know there are a couple people that do not talk to me and tonite they went over the edge! One saying to someone else not me,,,take the cotton out of your ears and put it in your mou...	cdb	11	1291	Mar 16, 2005 by doozee
	SEEKING SOLUTIONS FOR OURSELVES (Preview) Clearly, a loved ones sobriety does not solve our problems, nor does physical separation or even death. Even those of us who have not been involved with any alcoholics for many years find that we continue to be affected by the family disease. In short, the effects alcoholism----obsession, anxiety,...	gardengal	4	1159	Mar 16, 2005 by wallsal55
	Thank You! And continue to "THINK" (Preview) Applause, Applause to You, yes You posters on this message board. Why? When I am able to POP in, I notice so many responses are: --------------------- T houghtful H elpful I ntelligent N ecessary ind &nbs...	wallsal55	0	873	Mar 16, 2005 by wallsal55
	I'm Here (Preview) Well my A found out I was on here and was fine with it. I was . I have been searching for literature but haven't bought any yet. I don't have much I want to say yet. I would like feed back on what I do say though but I'm not getting much feed back. That's all I have to say for now. Lanchas	Lanchas	13	1513	Mar 16, 2005 by Lanchas
	Quotes for Today/ depression (Preview) What you can do, or think you can, begin it.---Johann Wolfgang von Goethe Sept. 6th "During acute depresion,....avoid trying to set your whole life in order at once. If you take on assignments so heavy that you are sure to fail in them at the moment, then you are allowing yourself to be trick...	wallsal55	2	891	Mar 16, 2005 by TLC2
	Car Repairs (Preview) Need to vent. My daughter has had a lot of help from me over the past year, well actually since she turned 16 and dropped out of school. Well, that's ok, I have been trying to help her get on her feet. Anyway, after she got her DUI almost a year ago, I have had to help her even more. I...	kathykelly	4	1339	Mar 16, 2005 by Beskem
	I'm perfect, you're not! so we think.. (Preview) When I realized I was powerless, I wanted to leave him, why stay? It’s not my problem, I can’t fix it, so leave. Then in S4, I looked and saw clearly that I had faults, many faults. I was not, & never would be perfect. Would I want someone to leave me because of my faults?! Without even trying to stand by m...	babs	10	1537	Mar 16, 2005 by Christy
	Daughter getting out of treatment (Preview) Hello friends, It sounds like my daughter may be getting out of the inpatient treatment center this week. We do have a family meeting with her on Tuesday too. She had a home visit today and it went well. She got to see her brother and his girlfriend too since they were here for the weekend. She is activel...	cdb	8	1236	Mar 15, 2005 by worriedmom
	where can I find braille, tapes, etc (Preview) Hi, I've met in my f2f meeting a two people who's blind. They were requesting the following in braille, or tape, or cd. Can anyone offer suggestions? I've looked, but couldn't find. I would like to help them. Babs	babs	2	1325	Mar 15, 2005 by babs
	pot smoking husband. Any help? (Preview) I told my husband that he had to quit smoking pot or I would file for a divorce? He hasn't taken my hint yet; should I try something else? I don't know what to do...	Orchid	4	1320	Mar 15, 2005 by Diva
	Worried about brother (Preview)	pepodwyer	3	1354	Mar 14, 2005 by pepodwyer
	looking for braille, tapes, cd (Preview) Hi, I forgot to mention I was looking for (braille, tapes, cd) One day at a time in al anon Courage to change Hope for today	babs	0	1058	Mar 14, 2005 by babs
	Painted into a Corner (Preview) Last Sunday after a pretty eventful Saturday night for my A wife. Threatened suicide got hauled off to the Sherriff's for Mental Evaluation, etc. I told her I needed her to stop doing three things in order for me to stay in the marriage, Don't Drink, Don't gamble, Don't sleep with other me...	Beskem	9	1429	Mar 14, 2005 by wille
	Where to find help for Teens (Preview) Our main website page currently has links to 5 different groups; Alcoholics Anonymous, Al-Anon Family Group, Adult Children Anonymous Group, Child Abuse Survivors, and Family Teens Group. The main website page is http://www.12stepforums.net/ For the Teens, I have posted the l...	kismetstrand	0	1078	Mar 14, 2005 by kismetstrand
	kis (Preview) I meant to wish you good luck before your exam. Sory I didn't get it posted but i want you to know that you were in my thoughts at mom and dads and I hope that you did great on it. JJ	jj	1	1010	Mar 14, 2005 by kismetstrand
	Weekend (Preview) Well I spent the weekend at my parents house for my dads 50th birthday and his supprise party. For the most part it went well and dad was very appreciative. My brother caused some caose and tried to start many fights with a friend of mine and my husband and myself he was right out rude. He suceeded in star...	jj	1	972	Mar 14, 2005 by cdb
	Illinois Spring Fling (Preview) Anyone nearby interested or traveling. SPRING FLING April 22-24, Historic Galesburg, IL For registration form: Spring Fling, P.O. Box 1772, Galesburg, IL 61042-1772 Dance, banquet, AA, Alanon Speakers, alateen speaker, raffles.	wallsal55	0	1225	Mar 14, 2005 by wallsal55
	no sponser, who can i do step 4/5 with (Preview) Hi, I'm 3 weeks plus into program. I have read "how al anon works.." I am reading "Paths to recovery". I also have the book One day at a time, and just got the "Courage to change" book. I read & reread. I also go to meetings in face, and online. I am atte...	babs	3	1422	Mar 14, 2005 by wallsal55
	Suggestion Needed (Preview) My husband is an active drinker and I have a real big problem ignoring him when he comes home drinking or hungover. He says real mean things to me, like my weight and how I should starve myself. He also tells me to leave his house and go find someone else to support me. I have no job and I have fibromyalgia and...	micheagle	5	1210	Mar 14, 2005 by wallsal55
	Job Stress (Preview) First, thank you all for your kind words and words of wisdom in my first post. My A wife quit her job today with my support. She felt like a ton of weight was lifted off her shoulders. She was a High School Study Hall aid, all alone with 60 some kids who liked to cause trouble and the admin...	Beskem	6	1310	Mar 14, 2005 by Beskem
	Letting Go of Confusion (Preview) "Sometimes, the way is not clear. Our minds get clouded, confused. We aren't certain what our next step should be, what it will look like, what direction we are headed. That is the time to stop, ask for guidance, and rest. That is the time to let go of fear. Wai...	wallsal55	2	991	Mar 14, 2005 by babs
	Here's My Story Revised (Preview) I am 18 years old. I am an only child. My mom drank when I was a little kid, but I didn't know. Then she got help and quit. When I was about 8 years old she got in a relationship with a drinker and started drinking again. She has not stopped. She is still with the guy she got into a relationship with when I was 8. I l...	Lanchas	2	1206	Mar 14, 2005 by babs
	Here's My Story (Preview) I am 18 years old. My mom drank when I was a little kid, but I didn't know. Then she got help and quit. When I was about 8 years old she got in a relationship with a drinker and started drinking again. She has not stopped. She is still with the guy she got into a relationship with when I was 8. I love him(I conside...	Lanchas	3	1438	Mar 13, 2005 by kerry5
	Thank you JOHN/OP (Preview) Hello John, Just want to thank you for all the support you have given me. I feel so lucky to be able to use this message board and the chatroom at MIP. You are so good at talking to me in a private secure way and I do appreciate that. I can tell that you are a person that is out for the good of the communit...	cdb	0	1050	Mar 13, 2005 by cdb
	Playing the Martyr/Blame Game (Preview) When I first came to Alanon, my thoughts were "it's all the A's fault". I get to Alanon and I'm told "you're just as sick, if not sicker, than the A". That didn't sit well with me. Made me mad. But I kept coming back to listen and learn. Pretty soon I realized, yeah, they'r...	kismetstrand	5	3816	Mar 13, 2005 by cdb
	Why Me? (Preview) My AH came home tonight and asked... Do you ever ask yourself "why me"? Almost before he finished I answered yes all the time. He had this supprised look on his face like what for?? He never said another word when I could tell he wanted to talk about how hard things are for him and he wanted me to feel sory for...	jj	5	1425	Mar 13, 2005 by megan
	when do you give and who do you give up to (Preview) Good morning guys , I am in a dilema and I dont where to turn.I have been in alanon 2 years now.I am single mom of 2 teens , one is 18 works pt time and goes to college and the other in hs.My ex a is not in our life.I lost my job in octand how we have gotten by I would have to write a book of all the ways God ha...	dori	6	1375	Mar 12, 2005 by sanddie
	The 12 Steps (Preview) The 12 Steps 1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol, - that our lives had become unmanageable. 2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. 3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. 4...	John	3	1100	Mar 12, 2005 by lalarainbow
	need help with mess. board (Preview) I have an iBook, every time now when I click on someones post my internet explorer quits. )c: I hate this, any ideas? I depend on this bb so much! love,debilyn	debilyn	2	997	Mar 12, 2005 by Joat
	A mother's pain (Preview) I come here daily and read posts but rarely post myself. Today, I am in need of experience, strength, and hope from those of you who may have been through these things in the past. My 26 y/o daughter is one of the addicts/mental illness in my life. I got a call from...	Lucy2	5	1504	Mar 12, 2005 by Lucy2
	More about being new to this (Preview) I am totally new to this. I don't understand what the different 12 steps are. I would like to know what they are. I was also wondering if religion was a big part of this. I'm not very religious. I hope someone will help me understand all this. Lanchas	Lanchas	3	1277	Mar 12, 2005 by jo4
	Communication (Preview) For some reason I just cannot seem to communicate with my A (husband). He has to constantly ask me a question several times before I actually answer it. I am not sure if I am just being defensive of his questions or as I told him earlier this morning that I decide that his question is not worth...	estrelladehope	3	1297	Mar 12, 2005 by wallsal55
	Today I Pray... (Preview) ...."May I turn myself inside out, air out the depression which has been closeted inside me, replace it with the comfortable feeling that I am cared about by real friends, then pass along that comfort to others, caught in the same despair." Today I Will Remember: "The onlry real despair is lo...	wallsal55	1	1026	Mar 12, 2005 by Smeep61
	"Let Go" a poem to share with ya (Preview) "Let Go" "As children bring their broken toys-with tears- for us to mend, I brought my broken dreams to Him because He was my friend. But then, instead of leaving Him in peace to work alone, I hung around and tried to help with ways that were my own. At last I snatched them back and cried, "H...	mastiff	6	3856	Mar 12, 2005 by Smeep61
	Update on dad/son/etc. (Preview) Hello friends, I talked to my dad today and he sounds good. He is surviving the visit with his brother and his wife,,,,the uncle/aunt of mine that screwed over my son and dad by selling the business out from under my son recently. Thanks for the prayers for my dad's health. My son is not a happy camper...	cdb	3	1156	Mar 12, 2005 by Smeep61
	GENERAL WARRANTIES, FOR THOSE INTERESTED (Preview) In all proceedings the World Service Confernece of Alanon shall observe the spirit of the traditions: 1: that only sufficient operating funds, including an ample reserve, be its prudent financial principle. 2: that no conference member shall be place in unqualified authority over other mem...	gardengal	2	1880	Mar 12, 2005 by Smeep61
	Poem - Steps (Preview) Hi everyone! A friend in the chatroom wanted me to post this poem so she could read it. I wrote this poem for my two step sons before I got into the program. I was listening to someone talking about working the steps the other evening in the chat room and remembered the title of the poem.&...	david62	5	1291	Mar 12, 2005 by bob6502
	Choosing life this go (Preview) We are all ready to recognize that our "A" is sick and actively seek their rehabilitation; it doesn't come so easy to see that I may need to change my mindset as well. While I have acknowledged that the "A" in my life has a disease, that doesn’t take rocket science, I am gratified that I was right about “the...	Mark S	5	1195	Mar 12, 2005 by jj
	VERY new to Al-Anon.... (Preview) Hello.... My name is Renee and I've been in AA for 10 years, however, I am just starting out in Al-Anon. I work as a Chemical Dependency Counselor and have many family members who are alcoholics and/or addicts. I suppose "my bottom" as far as enabling is concerned, occurr...	ReneeD	5	1103	Mar 11, 2005 by jj
	Rambling (Preview) Hi, I was reading a post Richard had written and he said "Love does not hurt." It got me thinking, no love shouldn't hurt. Love is pure and good. If we are hurt when someone we loves lets us down, it is not love that is hurting us, but our own expectations. When we hurt becoss of the loss of a loved one, t...	Jeannie	3	1290	Mar 11, 2005 by cdb
	husband drinks and wants to quit (Preview) Hi, I need to know how I can support m husband who is trying to quit throug aa. -- Edited by onerugrat at 16:55, 2005-03-10	onerugrat	4	1049	Mar 11, 2005 by cdb
	New To This (Preview) Hi. I'm new to this. I have alcoholic parents but my mom is the reason I'm here. I'm a little shy right now since I am new to this. I don't know what else to say right now so I'm done with this message. Lanchas	Lanchas	2	1055	Mar 11, 2005 by jj
	In the middle of AA HELL (Preview) This place has been a comfort for me. My S/O is now in a wonderful treatment program. It focuses on her. Sure there is a group for us both to attend- "family night". It's great if your A partner doesn't cop out with fear and tears. They are here for her, not me. Angr...	page	4	1745	Mar 11, 2005 by KathyS
	Quote for Today - (4th step!) (Preview) "Face your deficiencies and acknowledge them; but do not let them master you. Let them teach you patience, sweetness, insight. --Heller Keller	wallsal55	2	1186	Mar 11, 2005 by ReneeD
	Advice Needed (Preview) Hello I am a recovery alcholic, I have a spouse who is not an alcholic. Is it unreasonable for me to ask that spouse to not drink anymore? Or not to come home if they had been drinking ie.stay at a friends house? I am confused as to what I am supposed to expect from my spou...	mjg	6	1435	Mar 10, 2005 by jo4
	Little Progress not Perfection thing I noted today (Preview) Ran into a Dale Carnegie graduate that was in a class that I was Grad assisting last fall and while we were talking he mentioned something negative about a mutual acquaintance (another grad) and then stopped and said oops guess I’m not doing very well as I already forgot the 3 C’s (for Carnegie its criti...	Mark S	2	1304	Mar 10, 2005 by cdb
	gratitude (Preview) Today i am greatful for my loving children Today I am greatful for alanon Today I am greatful that my husband came home so I could go to my f2f meeting Today I am greatful that my husband realized that alanon is good for me Today I am greatful that I have many supportive friends that help me when I am feeling b...	jj	5	1399	Mar 10, 2005 by babs
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