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Thanks to all!
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Thank you all for your great responses to my post about helping my daughter. They were, once again, very insightful and helpful. I am so fortunate to get all of your experience to help me with this adventure. I am going to help with the car, but being a mother, I took the opportunity t...
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Congratulations - To All
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Applause, Applause for You, yes You, the posters of This Board
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Love?
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I guess this post is just for me to vent right now. Alot of the time I feel like my husband does not really love. How could he, he is an addict/alcoholic - he still drinks a few times a week and smokes pot - I can deal with this. What I have a hard time dealing with is the way he shows me he love...
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amazing chain of events
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Today I was feeling unsure about the way face to face was going. As many of you know I go to meetings with my sister in law and I have been feeling that she was uncomfortable with the alanon meetings and knew she was leaning towards naranon and we have been supportive of each other searching for a meeting th...
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John & all who are my friends
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Just now between 10:25 pm and 10:40 pm central time in the room, I felt ganged up on! All anyone has to do is read the transcripts. I know there are a couple people that do not talk to me and tonite they went over the edge! One saying to someone else not me,,,take the cotton out of your ears and put it in your mou...
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SEEKING SOLUTIONS FOR OURSELVES
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Clearly, a loved ones sobriety does not solve our problems, nor does physical separation or even death. Even those of us who have not been involved with any alcoholics for many years find that we continue to be affected by the family disease. In short, the effects alcoholism----obsession, anxiety,...
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Thank You! And continue to "THINK"
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Applause, Applause to You, yes You posters on this message board. 
Why? When I am able to POP in, I notice so many responses are:
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T houghtful
H elpful
I ntelligent
N ecessary
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I'm Here
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Well my A found out I was on here and was fine with it. I was . I have been searching for literature but haven't bought any yet. I don't have much I want to say yet. I would like feed back on what I do say though but I'm not getting much feed back. That's all I have to say for now.
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Quotes for Today/ depression
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What you can do, or think you can, begin it.---Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Sept. 6th
"During acute depresion,....avoid trying to set your whole life in order at once. If you take on assignments so heavy that you are sure to fail in them at the moment, then you are allowing yourself to be trick...
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Car Repairs
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Need to vent. My daughter has had a lot of help from me over the past year, well actually since she turned 16 and dropped out of school. Well, that's ok, I have been trying to help her get on her feet. Anyway, after she got her DUI almost a year ago, I have had to help her even more. I...
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I'm perfect, you're not! so we think..
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When I realized I was powerless, I wanted to leave him, why stay? It’s not my problem, I can’t fix it, so leave. Then in S4, I looked and saw clearly that I had faults, many faults. I was not, & never would be perfect. Would I want someone to leave me because of my faults?! Without even trying to stand by m...
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Daughter getting out of treatment
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Hello friends,
It sounds like my daughter may be getting out of the inpatient treatment center this week. We do have a family meeting with her on Tuesday too. She had a home visit today and it went well. She got to see her brother and his girlfriend too since they were here for the weekend. She is activel...
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where can I find braille, tapes, etc
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Hi,
I've met in my f2f meeting a two people who's blind. They were requesting the following in braille, or tape, or cd. Can anyone offer suggestions? I've looked, but couldn't find. I would like to help them. Babs
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pot smoking husband. Any help?
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I told my husband that he had to quit smoking pot or I would file for a divorce? He hasn't taken my hint yet; should I try something else? I don't know what to do...
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Worried about brother
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looking for braille, tapes, cd
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Hi,
I forgot to mention I was looking for (braille, tapes, cd)
One day at a time in al anon
Courage to change
Hope for today
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Painted into a Corner
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Last Sunday after a pretty eventful Saturday night for my A wife. Threatened suicide got hauled off to the Sherriff's for Mental Evaluation, etc. I told her I needed her to stop doing three things in order for me to stay in the marriage, Don't Drink, Don't gamble, Don't sleep with other me...
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Where to find help for Teens
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Our main website page currently has links to 5 different groups; Alcoholics Anonymous, Al-Anon Family Group, Adult Children Anonymous Group, Child Abuse Survivors, and Family Teens Group. The main website page is http://www.12stepforums.net/
For the Teens, I have posted the l...
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kis
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I meant to wish you good luck before your exam. Sory I didn't get it posted but i want you to know that you were in my thoughts at mom and dads and I hope that you did great on it.
JJ
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Weekend
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Well I spent the weekend at my parents house for my dads 50th birthday and his supprise party. For the most part it went well and dad was very appreciative.
My brother caused some caose and tried to start many fights with a friend of mine and my husband and myself he was right out rude. He suceeded in star...
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Illinois Spring Fling
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Anyone nearby interested or traveling. SPRING FLING April 22-24, Historic Galesburg, IL
For registration form:
Spring Fling, P.O. Box 1772, Galesburg, IL 61042-1772 Dance, banquet, AA, Alanon Speakers, alateen speaker, raffles.
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no sponser, who can i do step 4/5 with
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Hi,
I'm 3 weeks plus into program. I have read "how al anon works.." I am reading "Paths to recovery". I also have the book One day at a time, and just got the "Courage to change" book. I read & reread. I also go to meetings in face, and online. I am atte...
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Suggestion Needed
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My husband is an active drinker and I have a real big problem ignoring him when he comes home drinking or hungover. He says real mean things to me, like my weight and how I should starve myself. He also tells me to leave his house and go find someone else to support me. I have no job and I have fibromyalgia and...
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Job Stress
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First, thank you all for your kind words and words of wisdom in my first post. My A wife quit her job today with my support. She felt like a ton of weight was lifted off her shoulders. She was a High School Study Hall aid, all alone with 60 some kids who liked to cause trouble and the admin...
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Letting Go of Confusion
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"Sometimes, the way is not clear. Our minds get clouded, confused. We aren't certain what our next step should be, what it will look like, what direction we are headed.
That is the time to stop, ask for guidance, and rest. That is the time to let go of fear. Wai...
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Here's My Story Revised
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I am 18 years old. I am an only child. My mom drank when I was a little kid, but I didn't know. Then she got help and quit. When I was about 8 years old she got in a relationship with a drinker and started drinking again. She has not stopped. She is still with the guy she got into a relationship with when I was 8. I l...
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Here's My Story
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I am 18 years old. My mom drank when I was a little kid, but I didn't know. Then she got help and quit. When I was about 8 years old she got in a relationship with a drinker and started drinking again. She has not stopped. She is still with the guy she got into a relationship with when I was 8. I love him(I conside...
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Thank you JOHN/OP
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Hello John,
Just want to thank you for all the support you have given me. I feel so lucky to be able to use this message board and the chatroom at MIP. You are so good at talking to me in a private secure way and I do appreciate that. I can tell that you are a person that is out for the good of the communit...
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Playing the Martyr/Blame Game
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When I first came to Alanon, my thoughts were "it's all the A's fault". I get to Alanon and I'm told "you're just as sick, if not sicker, than the A". That didn't sit well with me. Made me mad. But I kept coming back to listen and learn. Pretty soon I realized, yeah, they'r...
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Why Me?
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My AH came home tonight and asked... Do you ever ask yourself "why me"? Almost before he finished I answered yes all the time. He had this supprised look on his face like what for?? He never said another word when I could tell he wanted to talk about how hard things are for him and he wanted me to feel sory for...
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when do you give and who do you give up to
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Good morning guys ,
I am in a dilema and I dont where to turn.I have been in alanon 2 years now.I am single mom
of 2 teens , one is 18 works pt time and goes to college and the other in hs.My ex a is not in our life.I lost my job in octand how we have gotten by I would have to write a book of all the ways God ha...
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The 12 Steps
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The 12 Steps
1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol, - that our lives
had become unmanageable.
2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to
sanity.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as
we understood Him.
4...
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need help with mess. board
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I have an iBook, every time now when I click on someones post my internet explorer quits. )c:
I hate this, any ideas? I depend on this bb so much! love,debilyn
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A mother's pain
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I come here daily and read posts but rarely post myself. Today, I am in need of experience, strength, and hope from those of you who may have been through these things in the past.
My 26 y/o daughter is one of the addicts/mental illness in my life. I got a call from...
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More about being new to this
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I am totally new to this. I don't understand what the different 12 steps are. I would like to know what they are. I was also wondering if religion was a big part of this. I'm not very religious. I hope someone will help me understand all this.
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Communication
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For some reason I just cannot seem to communicate with my A (husband). He has to constantly ask me a question several times before I actually answer it. I am not sure if I am just being defensive of his questions or as I told him earlier this morning that I decide that his question is not worth...
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Today I Pray...
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...."May I turn myself inside out, air out the depression which has been closeted inside me, replace it with the comfortable feeling that I am cared about by real friends, then pass along that comfort to others, caught in the same despair."
Today I Will Remember: "The onlry real despair is lo...
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"Let Go" a poem to share with ya
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"Let Go"
"As children bring their broken toys-with tears- for us to mend, I brought my broken dreams to Him because He was my friend. But then, instead of leaving Him in peace to work alone, I hung around and tried to help with ways that were my own. At last I snatched them back and cried, "H...
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Update on dad/son/etc.
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Hello friends,
I talked to my dad today and he sounds good. He is surviving the visit with his brother and his wife,,,,the uncle/aunt of mine that screwed over my son and dad by selling the business out from under my son recently. Thanks for the prayers for my dad's health.
My son is not a happy camper...
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GENERAL WARRANTIES, FOR THOSE INTERESTED
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In all proceedings the World Service Confernece of Alanon shall observe the spirit of the traditions:
1: that only sufficient operating funds, including an ample reserve, be its prudent financial principle.
2: that no conference member shall be place in unqualified authority over other mem...
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Poem - Steps
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Hi everyone!
A friend in the chatroom wanted me to post this poem so she could read it.
I wrote this poem for my two step sons before I got into the program. I was listening to someone talking about working the steps the other evening in the chat room and remembered the title of the poem.&...
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Choosing life this go
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We are all ready to recognize that our "A" is sick and actively seek their rehabilitation; it doesn't come so easy to see that I may need to change my mindset as well. While I have acknowledged that the "A" in my life has a disease, that doesn’t take rocket science, I am gratified that I was right about “the...
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VERY new to Al-Anon....
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Hello.... My name is Renee and I've been in AA for 10 years, however, I am just starting out in Al-Anon. I work as a Chemical Dependency Counselor and have many family members who are alcoholics and/or addicts.
I suppose "my bottom" as far as enabling is concerned, occurr...
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Rambling
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Hi,
I was reading a post Richard had written and he said "Love does not hurt."
It got me thinking, no love shouldn't hurt. Love is pure and good. If we are hurt when someone we loves lets us down, it is not love that is hurting us, but our own expectations.
When we hurt becoss of the loss of a loved one, t...
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husband drinks and wants to quit
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Hi,
I need to know how I can support m husband who is trying to quit throug aa.
-- Edited by onerugrat at 16:55, 2005-03-10
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New To This
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Hi. I'm new to this. I have alcoholic parents but my mom is the reason I'm here. I'm a little shy right now since I am new to this. I don't know what else to say right now so I'm done with this message.
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In the middle of AA HELL
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This place has been a comfort for me. My S/O is now in a wonderful treatment program. It focuses on her. Sure there is a group for us both to attend- "family night". It's great if your A partner doesn't cop out with fear and tears. They are here for her, not me. Angr...
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Quote for Today - (4th step!)
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"Face your deficiencies and acknowledge them; but do not let them master you. Let them teach you patience, sweetness, insight. --Heller Keller 
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Advice Needed
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Hello
I am a recovery alcholic, I have a spouse who is not an alcholic. Is it unreasonable for me to ask that spouse to not drink anymore? Or not to come home if they had been drinking ie.stay at a friends house? I am confused as to what I am supposed to expect from my spou...
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Little Progress not Perfection thing I noted today
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Ran into a Dale Carnegie graduate that was in a class that I was Grad assisting last fall and while we were talking he mentioned something negative about a mutual acquaintance (another grad) and then stopped and said oops guess I’m not doing very well as I already forgot the 3 C’s (for Carnegie its criti...
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Mark S
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gratitude
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Today i am greatful for my loving children Today I am greatful for alanon Today I am greatful that my husband came home so I could go to my f2f meeting Today I am greatful that my husband realized that alanon is good for me Today I am greatful that I have many supportive friends that help me when I am feeling b...
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Thanks for the prayers for my family.....
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Thank you all for your recent prayers. I finally talked to my dad about that situation with my son about the business he was buying and so far dad is doing okay. He is hurt as we all are that my uncle did not at least give my son and dad the courtesy of talking to ...
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Newbie
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I am a newbie, I went with my wife to her first AA meeting Sunday night. She has been drinking, self-medicating for six months, she is 36 yrs old and suffering depression for 3-4 years. She drinks about a fifth a day abuses prescription drugs when they are available&n...
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Love
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I remember Love feeling like a great, big, comfy Soft Easy Chair...Ah Hah...Where I could be myself! :)
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Apology
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I am so sorry for disappearing tonite...My baby needed me right in the middle of the meeting. It may happen more than I like but as most of you know that have kids...well they come first.
I will try again tomorrow night.
Thank you so much for being understanding.
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My Mip Experience
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I was in mip in 2000 for two years. I left cause i was going through to much with a divorce at the time and i didnt know how to handle some things. I am a very intense person, i was angry at some people i thought that abandoned me. I was an op in Alanonchat, acoa c...
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Alanon Retreats/Spring Flings
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Hi...At various alanon meetings, there are flyers given out for Alanon picnics, retreats, spring flings, dances (usually AA combined), rallies, conventions, potlucks. [This year there is a Spring Fling in Galesburg, IL for both Alanon and AA. I can post this in...
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Meeting? time?
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Ok what time is the meeting? I am in Oregon.
love, debilyn who for some reason cannot keep her eyes open today...zzzzz
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VOTING tonite at meeting
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Hello everyone,
I still haven't got an answer if there will be a vote tonite on whether we can give hugs, smiles, nods or agrees during a meeting. There are people that don't use this board and don't even know about the meeting as someone stated at open chat late last night. I am new here and I have voiced...
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Need to get it off my chest
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Hi Everyone,
I needed to just sit here and type. In a way I hate message boards because I can't get an immediate answer. I want it and I want it now. Guess that goes with the whole problems I suffer from huh, lol. Anyway I am so confused.&nbs...
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