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jj · jj

OH WOW my Ah came home tonight (drunk) and I am reading on of my books and he says "you reading about me?" I told him no... This is about me.. he was kind of like this is about me isn't it? So I told him no that it is about me and helps me learn about living with an alcoholic and about how I am taking back what this di...

jj · jj

So I am working on step 4, putting the focus on me and taking a moral inventory of myself. Right now I am feeling angry. First of all I am not angry at my A I am angry at myself for letting me loose myself. I was so independant and strong willed before this. I was out going and in time I began to stay at home and do l...

WilliamH · WilliamH

I posted this questions on another forum in this website and it was suggested I post the same here... My wife drinks a bottle of wine a night (25 ounces). Sometimes she drinks a little more. She does this EVERY night. We have heated discussions regarding her consumption, but she continues to consume...

estrelladehope · estrelladehope

I am pretty frustrated - if I am working on myself and have no control over the alcoholic then why shouldn't the spouses just leave the alcoholic especially if they do not have children? If I just left than I could work on myself without having the alcoholic to distract me and also knowing that if h...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

....when past mistakes come to mind I tend to react with guilt, exaggerating the significance of my errors and thinking very badly of myself. In Alanon, I'm learning to see myself more realistically. ....... ......But I'm not evil. It's time I stop treat...

Karen KB · Karen KB

just trying it out, have to go to work, will be back at a time when i can write my stuff, Love to all--------------

John · John

1. What is alcoholism? We often refer to it as a threefold family disease affecting the body, the mind and the spirit. For the drinker, one of the symptoms is an uncontrollable desire for alcohol. 2. How can I help an alcoholic? Ultimately an alcoholic must want help, and often help is res...

nmike · nmike

I just read the posts on staying or leaving. I am on the other end of the leaving and it is tough. My recovering A has said he wants a divorce. He said this relationship takes to much time and he is not going to change. He has taken a job in another state and by summer says he is "outta of here" and he wants nothin...

Susanroo · Susanroo

Hi everyone I'm still fairly new here and still learning so much from all of you. You all are such wonderful special people and I'm so grateful for all of you I am really trying hard to understand how the posting works. I've tried clicking on different things but I'm still confuse...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

I don't know if it's just me and my Middle Age brain-- I have adjusted to this message board as best I can, but am finding it hard to keep up with it. How do you feel? [I am making lifestyle changes--and now my computer is the library's! on M, W, F, and Sat.] Not sure how many...

Beskem · Beskem

As some of you know, my A wife has been in Detox twice, has had Mental Evals twice at the Police and Sheriff's stations all in the last month and a half. She's only been drinking habitually for six months and says it is only stress related. Last week after releasing herself early from a rehab...

jessi · jessi

Hi all, Big, huge, heavy dilemma here. Help! I have had my ex-As cat for a year since we broke up. I agreed to this, knowing she would take him at the end of this month. However, she just got a new job and is commuting. She'll move June 1. And now she has asked me in an indirect way to keep the cat until s...

AlbertaCowboy · AlbertaCowboy

hi, this is my first post so a little history about my situation might help. I live commonlaw with a bipolar, alcoholic spouse. Each of us has 2 children from previous marriages, although none of them live fulltime with us. Due to her illnesses, we have suffered through 9 suicide attem...

hockeydal · hockeydal

Hello friends Well the experts were right. He stayed away for the one night and was with his fellow "a" friend. At his home in his home town. He is home and for now all is well. Thanks for all the prayers

-- Edited by hockeydal at 21:51, 2005-03-17

Lanchas · Lanchas

I'm 18 and consider myself an adult but I odn't know if i should be in Al-Anon. It seems like its for older adults. Any advice anyone? Lanchas

babs · babs

First, to all who have read my post on "I'm perfect, you're not".... Thanks for the replies. It was just how I felt. We all don't have the same thoughts, or feelings. I know what works for some, won't for others. That's what makes us unique. ...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"Excellence is an art won by training and habituaion. We do not act rightly because of virtue or excellence, but rather we have those because we have acted rightly. We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence is not an act, but a habit." --Aristotle

Mark S · Mark S

Had family program at the rehab center Monday and Tuesday. It was intense, and I initially left with some good feelings, better than the first time a couple years ago. My wife to my surprise did actually verbally accept responsibility for her actions and admitted her dishonesty as well as her assignm...

cdb · cdb

Hello everyone, I replied to the post below titled cdb about how my daughter is doing and about the family meeting we had. So for those that are interested, you need to go to that post for the update. TY your friend in recovery,,cdb :)

Lindy · Lindy

Hi, after another bad weekend, I thought I would find a site where I could tell my story. I seem to be a magnet for alcoholics! I apologize for this long message ahead of time. Anyway, here it is: I was married for about nine years to a "weekend alcoholic" and the last few years were hell. My ex-husband woul...

angel123 · angel123

1.)If you can give but one gift,make it the gift of good example 2.)Love is like gratitude,much better when show it. 3.)The door to a human heart can be opened only from the inside. (((Group Hugs))))God Bless Angel

Christy · Christy

I listened to one of the speaker tapes offered on this site while I was doing my day to day chores. ajit-s-alltexas200332.mp3 It was not only inspiring, but she is really, really funny and a great speaker. Just thought I'd share in case ya'll haven't checked them out...

jj · jj

Hey cdb I was just thinking about you and hopping that the family meeting went well. I haven't seen you on here and it made me think of you more. Well I hope that all is well with everyone and you are in my prayers. Love your friend in recovery JJ

babs · babs

In case you didn't read my reply to you. I really like the idea of using "My A" for my anonomous whoever, instead of My A meaning my alcoholic!!!!!! It means so much more to me. Thank you for that thought. Hope you have a nice day!

kathykelly · kathykelly

Thank you all for your great responses to my post about helping my daughter. They were, once again, very insightful and helpful. I am so fortunate to get all of your experience to help me with this adventure. I am going to help with the car, but being a mother, I took the opportunity t...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Applause, Applause for You, yes You, the posters of This Board

estrelladehope · estrelladehope

I guess this post is just for me to vent right now. Alot of the time I feel like my husband does not really love. How could he, he is an addict/alcoholic - he still drinks a few times a week and smokes pot - I can deal with this. What I have a hard time dealing with is the way he shows me he love...

jj · jj

Today I was feeling unsure about the way face to face was going. As many of you know I go to meetings with my sister in law and I have been feeling that she was uncomfortable with the alanon meetings and knew she was leaning towards naranon and we have been supportive of each other searching for a meeting th...

cdb · cdb

Just now between 10:25 pm and 10:40 pm central time in the room, I felt ganged up on! All anyone has to do is read the transcripts. I know there are a couple people that do not talk to me and tonite they went over the edge! One saying to someone else not me,,,take the cotton out of your ears and put it in your mou...

gardengal · gardengal

Clearly, a loved ones sobriety does not solve our problems, nor does physical separation or even death. Even those of us who have not been involved with any alcoholics for many years find that we continue to be affected by the family disease. In short, the effects alcoholism----obsession, anxiety,...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Applause, Applause to You, yes You posters on this message board. Why? When I am able to POP in, I notice so many responses are: --------------------- T houghtful H elpful I ntelligent N ecessary ind &nbs...

Lanchas · Lanchas

Well my A found out I was on here and was fine with it. I was . I have been searching for literature but haven't bought any yet. I don't have much I want to say yet. I would like feed back on what I do say though but I'm not getting much feed back. That's all I have to say for now. Lanchas

wallsal55 · wallsal55

What you can do, or think you can, begin it.---Johann Wolfgang von Goethe Sept. 6th "During acute depresion,....avoid trying to set your whole life in order at once. If you take on assignments so heavy that you are sure to fail in them at the moment, then you are allowing yourself to be trick...

kathykelly · kathykelly

Need to vent. My daughter has had a lot of help from me over the past year, well actually since she turned 16 and dropped out of school. Well, that's ok, I have been trying to help her get on her feet. Anyway, after she got her DUI almost a year ago, I have had to help her even more. I...

babs · babs

When I realized I was powerless, I wanted to leave him, why stay? It’s not my problem, I can’t fix it, so leave. Then in S4, I looked and saw clearly that I had faults, many faults. I was not, & never would be perfect. Would I want someone to leave me because of my faults?! Without even trying to stand by m...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, It sounds like my daughter may be getting out of the inpatient treatment center this week. We do have a family meeting with her on Tuesday too. She had a home visit today and it went well. She got to see her brother and his girlfriend too since they were here for the weekend. She is activel...

babs · babs

Hi, I've met in my f2f meeting a two people who's blind. They were requesting the following in braille, or tape, or cd. Can anyone offer suggestions? I've looked, but couldn't find. I would like to help them. Babs

Orchid · Orchid

I told my husband that he had to quit smoking pot or I would file for a divorce? He hasn't taken my hint yet; should I try something else? I don't know what to do...

pepodwyer · pepodwyer

babs · babs

Hi, I forgot to mention I was looking for (braille, tapes, cd) One day at a time in al anon Courage to change Hope for today

Beskem · Beskem

Last Sunday after a pretty eventful Saturday night for my A wife. Threatened suicide got hauled off to the Sherriff's for Mental Evaluation, etc. I told her I needed her to stop doing three things in order for me to stay in the marriage, Don't Drink, Don't gamble, Don't sleep with other me...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Our main website page currently has links to 5 different groups; Alcoholics Anonymous, Al-Anon Family Group, Adult Children Anonymous Group, Child Abuse Survivors, and Family Teens Group. The main website page is http://www.12stepforums.net/ For the Teens, I have posted the l...

jj · jj

I meant to wish you good luck before your exam. Sory I didn't get it posted but i want you to know that you were in my thoughts at mom and dads and I hope that you did great on it. JJ

jj · jj

Well I spent the weekend at my parents house for my dads 50th birthday and his supprise party. For the most part it went well and dad was very appreciative. My brother caused some caose and tried to start many fights with a friend of mine and my husband and myself he was right out rude. He suceeded in star...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Anyone nearby interested or traveling. SPRING FLING April 22-24, Historic Galesburg, IL For registration form: Spring Fling, P.O. Box 1772, Galesburg, IL 61042-1772 Dance, banquet, AA, Alanon Speakers, alateen speaker, raffles.

babs · babs

Hi, I'm 3 weeks plus into program. I have read "how al anon works.." I am reading "Paths to recovery". I also have the book One day at a time, and just got the "Courage to change" book. I read & reread. I also go to meetings in face, and online. I am atte...

micheagle · micheagle

My husband is an active drinker and I have a real big problem ignoring him when he comes home drinking or hungover. He says real mean things to me, like my weight and how I should starve myself. He also tells me to leave his house and go find someone else to support me. I have no job and I have fibromyalgia and...

Beskem · Beskem

First, thank you all for your kind words and words of wisdom in my first post. My A wife quit her job today with my support. She felt like a ton of weight was lifted off her shoulders. She was a High School Study Hall aid, all alone with 60 some kids who liked to cause trouble and the admin...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"Sometimes, the way is not clear. Our minds get clouded, confused. We aren't certain what our next step should be, what it will look like, what direction we are headed. That is the time to stop, ask for guidance, and rest. That is the time to let go of fear. Wai...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I am 18 years old. I am an only child. My mom drank when I was a little kid, but I didn't know. Then she got help and quit. When I was about 8 years old she got in a relationship with a drinker and started drinking again. She has not stopped. She is still with the guy she got into a relationship with when I was 8. I l...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I am 18 years old. My mom drank when I was a little kid, but I didn't know. Then she got help and quit. When I was about 8 years old she got in a relationship with a drinker and started drinking again. She has not stopped. She is still with the guy she got into a relationship with when I was 8. I love him(I conside...

cdb · cdb

Hello John, Just want to thank you for all the support you have given me. I feel so lucky to be able to use this message board and the chatroom at MIP. You are so good at talking to me in a private secure way and I do appreciate that. I can tell that you are a person that is out for the good of the communit...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

When I first came to Alanon, my thoughts were "it's all the A's fault". I get to Alanon and I'm told "you're just as sick, if not sicker, than the A". That didn't sit well with me. Made me mad. But I kept coming back to listen and learn. Pretty soon I realized, yeah, they'r...

jj · jj

My AH came home tonight and asked... Do you ever ask yourself "why me"? Almost before he finished I answered yes all the time. He had this supprised look on his face like what for?? He never said another word when I could tell he wanted to talk about how hard things are for him and he wanted me to feel sory for...

dori · dori

Good morning guys , I am in a dilema and I dont where to turn.I have been in alanon 2 years now.I am single mom of 2 teens , one is 18 works pt time and goes to college and the other in hs.My ex a is not in our life.I lost my job in octand how we have gotten by I would have to write a book of all the ways God ha...

John · John

The 12 Steps 1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol, - that our lives had become unmanageable. 2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. 3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. 4...

debilyn · debilyn

I have an iBook, every time now when I click on someones post my internet explorer quits. )c: I hate this, any ideas? I depend on this bb so much! love,debilyn

Lucy2 · Lucy2

I come here daily and read posts but rarely post myself. Today, I am in need of experience, strength, and hope from those of you who may have been through these things in the past. My 26 y/o daughter is one of the addicts/mental illness in my life. I got a call from...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I am totally new to this. I don't understand what the different 12 steps are. I would like to know what they are. I was also wondering if religion was a big part of this. I'm not very religious. I hope someone will help me understand all this. Lanchas

estrelladehope · estrelladehope

For some reason I just cannot seem to communicate with my A (husband). He has to constantly ask me a question several times before I actually answer it. I am not sure if I am just being defensive of his questions or as I told him earlier this morning that I decide that his question is not worth...

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	bursting at seams (Preview) OH WOW my Ah came home tonight (drunk) and I am reading on of my books and he says "you reading about me?" I told him no... This is about me.. he was kind of like this is about me isn't it? So I told him no that it is about me and helps me learn about living with an alcoholic and about how I am taking back what this di...	jj	9	1054	Mar 20, 2005 by Ava
	thinking alot (Preview) So I am working on step 4, putting the focus on me and taking a moral inventory of myself. Right now I am feeling angry. First of all I am not angry at my A I am angry at myself for letting me loose myself. I was so independant and strong willed before this. I was out going and in time I began to stay at home and do l...	jj	9	1228	Mar 20, 2005 by Ava
	Should I be concerned? (Preview) I posted this questions on another forum in this website and it was suggested I post the same here... My wife drinks a bottle of wine a night (25 ounces). Sometimes she drinks a little more. She does this EVERY night. We have heated discussions regarding her consumption, but she continues to consume...	WilliamH	8	1087	Mar 20, 2005 by Ava
	love vs. leaving (Preview) I am pretty frustrated - if I am working on myself and have no control over the alcoholic then why shouldn't the spouses just leave the alcoholic especially if they do not have children? If I just left than I could work on myself without having the alcoholic to distract me and also knowing that if h...	estrelladehope	13	1422	Mar 20, 2005 by Ava
	Guilt (Preview) ....when past mistakes come to mind I tend to react with guilt, exaggerating the significance of my errors and thinking very badly of myself. In Alanon, I'm learning to see myself more realistically. ....... ......But I'm not evil. It's time I stop treat...	wallsal55	1	811	Mar 20, 2005 by Ava
	First time on MB (Preview) just trying it out, have to go to work, will be back at a time when i can write my stuff, Love to all--------------	Karen KB	4	798	Mar 20, 2005 by Ava
	Questions Often Asked About Al-Anon (Preview) 1. What is alcoholism? We often refer to it as a threefold family disease affecting the body, the mind and the spirit. For the drinker, one of the symptoms is an uncontrollable desire for alcohol. 2. How can I help an alcoholic? Ultimately an alcoholic must want help, and often help is res...	John	5	1072	Mar 20, 2005 by Ava
	Love Must Be Tough (Preview) I just read the posts on staying or leaving. I am on the other end of the leaving and it is tough. My recovering A has said he wants a divorce. He said this relationship takes to much time and he is not going to change. He has taken a job in another state and by summer says he is "outta of here" and he wants nothin...	nmike	4	1032	Mar 19, 2005 by richard
	Please explain how to look at postings (Preview) Hi everyone I'm still fairly new here and still learning so much from all of you. You all are such wonderful special people and I'm so grateful for all of you I am really trying hard to understand how the posting works. I've tried clicking on different things but I'm still confuse...	Susanroo	1	798	Mar 19, 2005 by megan
	Suggestion for Mess. Board Users/Posters (Preview) I don't know if it's just me and my Middle Age brain-- I have adjusted to this message board as best I can, but am finding it hard to keep up with it. How do you feel? [I am making lifestyle changes--and now my computer is the library's! on M, W, F, and Sat.] Not sure how many...	wallsal55	5	996	Mar 19, 2005 by wallsal55
	Denial (Preview) As some of you know, my A wife has been in Detox twice, has had Mental Evals twice at the Police and Sheriff's stations all in the last month and a half. She's only been drinking habitually for six months and says it is only stress related. Last week after releasing herself early from a rehab...	Beskem	8	1011	Mar 19, 2005 by Lanchas
	when is enough? (Preview) Hi all, Big, huge, heavy dilemma here. Help! I have had my ex-As cat for a year since we broke up. I agreed to this, knowing she would take him at the end of this month. However, she just got a new job and is commuting. She'll move June 1. And now she has asked me in an indirect way to keep the cat until s...	jessi	8	1103	Mar 18, 2005 by debilyn
	bipolar alcoholic (Preview) hi, this is my first post so a little history about my situation might help. I live commonlaw with a bipolar, alcoholic spouse. Each of us has 2 children from previous marriages, although none of them live fulltime with us. Due to her illnesses, we have suffered through 9 suicide attem...	AlbertaCowboy	7	1215	Mar 18, 2005 by sanddie
	Hubby HOME from treatment (Preview) Hello friends Well the experts were right. He stayed away for the one night and was with his fellow "a" friend. At his home in his home town. He is home and for now all is well. Thanks for all the prayers -- Edited by hockeydal at 21:51, 2005-03-17	hockeydal	5	820	Mar 18, 2005 by doozee
	Unsure (Preview) I'm 18 and consider myself an adult but I odn't know if i should be in Al-Anon. It seems like its for older adults. Any advice anyone? Lanchas	Lanchas	8	1055	Mar 18, 2005 by Lanchas
	working towards peace..... (Preview) First, to all who have read my post on "I'm perfect, you're not".... Thanks for the replies. It was just how I felt. We all don't have the same thoughts, or feelings. I know what works for some, won't for others. That's what makes us unique. ...	babs	4	1019	Mar 18, 2005 by nmike
	Quote for Today (Preview) "Excellence is an art won by training and habituaion. We do not act rightly because of virtue or excellence, but rather we have those because we have acted rightly. We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence is not an act, but a habit." --Aristotle	wallsal55	2	896	Mar 18, 2005 by Mark S
	Trust, I used to give so freely (Preview) Had family program at the rehab center Monday and Tuesday. It was intense, and I initially left with some good feelings, better than the first time a couple years ago. My wife to my surprise did actually verbally accept responsibility for her actions and admitted her dishonesty as well as her assignm...	Mark S	12	1175	Mar 18, 2005 by scared
	Read below post>>says cdb (Preview) Hello everyone, I replied to the post below titled cdb about how my daughter is doing and about the family meeting we had. So for those that are interested, you need to go to that post for the update. TY your friend in recovery,,cdb :)	cdb	1	782	Mar 18, 2005 by jj
	Think I just married ANOTHER alcoholic (Preview) Hi, after another bad weekend, I thought I would find a site where I could tell my story. I seem to be a magnet for alcoholics! I apologize for this long message ahead of time. Anyway, here it is: I was married for about nine years to a "weekend alcoholic" and the last few years were hell. My ex-husband woul...	Lindy	11	1005	Mar 17, 2005 by sanddie
	Forum 1987 (Preview) 1.)If you can give but one gift,make it the gift of good example 2.)Love is like gratitude,much better when show it. 3.)The door to a human heart can be opened only from the inside. (((Group Hugs))))God Bless Angel	angel123	1	710	Mar 17, 2005 by doozee
	The Speaker Tapes (Preview) I listened to one of the speaker tapes offered on this site while I was doing my day to day chores. ajit-s-alltexas200332.mp3 It was not only inspiring, but she is really, really funny and a great speaker. Just thought I'd share in case ya'll haven't checked them out...	Christy	1	999	Mar 17, 2005 by cdb
	cdb... (Preview) Hey cdb I was just thinking about you and hopping that the family meeting went well. I haven't seen you on here and it made me think of you more. Well I hope that all is well with everyone and you are in my prayers. Love your friend in recovery JJ	jj	2	676	Mar 17, 2005 by cdb
	thanks TLC (Preview) In case you didn't read my reply to you. I really like the idea of using "My A" for my anonomous whoever, instead of My A meaning my alcoholic!!!!!! It means so much more to me. Thank you for that thought. Hope you have a nice day!	babs	2	768	Mar 17, 2005 by TLC2
	Thanks to all! (Preview) Thank you all for your great responses to my post about helping my daughter. They were, once again, very insightful and helpful. I am so fortunate to get all of your experience to help me with this adventure. I am going to help with the car, but being a mother, I took the opportunity t...	kathykelly	1	611	Mar 17, 2005 by Beskem
	Congratulations - To All (Preview) Applause, Applause for You, yes You, the posters of This Board	wallsal55	2	753	Mar 16, 2005 by wallsal55
	Love? (Preview) I guess this post is just for me to vent right now. Alot of the time I feel like my husband does not really love. How could he, he is an addict/alcoholic - he still drinks a few times a week and smokes pot - I can deal with this. What I have a hard time dealing with is the way he shows me he love...	estrelladehope	6	1034	Mar 16, 2005 by estrelladehope
	amazing chain of events (Preview) Today I was feeling unsure about the way face to face was going. As many of you know I go to meetings with my sister in law and I have been feeling that she was uncomfortable with the alanon meetings and knew she was leaning towards naranon and we have been supportive of each other searching for a meeting th...	jj	7	861	Mar 16, 2005 by jj
	John & all who are my friends (Preview) Just now between 10:25 pm and 10:40 pm central time in the room, I felt ganged up on! All anyone has to do is read the transcripts. I know there are a couple people that do not talk to me and tonite they went over the edge! One saying to someone else not me,,,take the cotton out of your ears and put it in your mou...	cdb	11	1056	Mar 16, 2005 by doozee
	SEEKING SOLUTIONS FOR OURSELVES (Preview) Clearly, a loved ones sobriety does not solve our problems, nor does physical separation or even death. Even those of us who have not been involved with any alcoholics for many years find that we continue to be affected by the family disease. In short, the effects alcoholism----obsession, anxiety,...	gardengal	4	913	Mar 16, 2005 by wallsal55
	Thank You! And continue to "THINK" (Preview) Applause, Applause to You, yes You posters on this message board. Why? When I am able to POP in, I notice so many responses are: --------------------- T houghtful H elpful I ntelligent N ecessary ind &nbs...	wallsal55	0	694	Mar 16, 2005 by wallsal55
	I'm Here (Preview) Well my A found out I was on here and was fine with it. I was . I have been searching for literature but haven't bought any yet. I don't have much I want to say yet. I would like feed back on what I do say though but I'm not getting much feed back. That's all I have to say for now. Lanchas	Lanchas	13	1168	Mar 16, 2005 by Lanchas
	Quotes for Today/ depression (Preview) What you can do, or think you can, begin it.---Johann Wolfgang von Goethe Sept. 6th "During acute depresion,....avoid trying to set your whole life in order at once. If you take on assignments so heavy that you are sure to fail in them at the moment, then you are allowing yourself to be trick...	wallsal55	2	652	Mar 16, 2005 by TLC2
	Car Repairs (Preview) Need to vent. My daughter has had a lot of help from me over the past year, well actually since she turned 16 and dropped out of school. Well, that's ok, I have been trying to help her get on her feet. Anyway, after she got her DUI almost a year ago, I have had to help her even more. I...	kathykelly	4	1041	Mar 16, 2005 by Beskem
	I'm perfect, you're not! so we think.. (Preview) When I realized I was powerless, I wanted to leave him, why stay? It’s not my problem, I can’t fix it, so leave. Then in S4, I looked and saw clearly that I had faults, many faults. I was not, & never would be perfect. Would I want someone to leave me because of my faults?! Without even trying to stand by m...	babs	10	1246	Mar 16, 2005 by Christy
	Daughter getting out of treatment (Preview) Hello friends, It sounds like my daughter may be getting out of the inpatient treatment center this week. We do have a family meeting with her on Tuesday too. She had a home visit today and it went well. She got to see her brother and his girlfriend too since they were here for the weekend. She is activel...	cdb	8	951	Mar 15, 2005 by worriedmom
	where can I find braille, tapes, etc (Preview) Hi, I've met in my f2f meeting a two people who's blind. They were requesting the following in braille, or tape, or cd. Can anyone offer suggestions? I've looked, but couldn't find. I would like to help them. Babs	babs	2	1053	Mar 15, 2005 by babs
	pot smoking husband. Any help? (Preview) I told my husband that he had to quit smoking pot or I would file for a divorce? He hasn't taken my hint yet; should I try something else? I don't know what to do...	Orchid	4	1092	Mar 15, 2005 by Diva
	Worried about brother (Preview)	pepodwyer	3	1056	Mar 14, 2005 by pepodwyer
	looking for braille, tapes, cd (Preview) Hi, I forgot to mention I was looking for (braille, tapes, cd) One day at a time in al anon Courage to change Hope for today	babs	0	868	Mar 14, 2005 by babs
	Painted into a Corner (Preview) Last Sunday after a pretty eventful Saturday night for my A wife. Threatened suicide got hauled off to the Sherriff's for Mental Evaluation, etc. I told her I needed her to stop doing three things in order for me to stay in the marriage, Don't Drink, Don't gamble, Don't sleep with other me...	Beskem	9	1178	Mar 14, 2005 by wille
	Where to find help for Teens (Preview) Our main website page currently has links to 5 different groups; Alcoholics Anonymous, Al-Anon Family Group, Adult Children Anonymous Group, Child Abuse Survivors, and Family Teens Group. The main website page is http://www.12stepforums.net/ For the Teens, I have posted the l...	kismetstrand	0	814	Mar 14, 2005 by kismetstrand
	kis (Preview) I meant to wish you good luck before your exam. Sory I didn't get it posted but i want you to know that you were in my thoughts at mom and dads and I hope that you did great on it. JJ	jj	1	787	Mar 14, 2005 by kismetstrand
	Weekend (Preview) Well I spent the weekend at my parents house for my dads 50th birthday and his supprise party. For the most part it went well and dad was very appreciative. My brother caused some caose and tried to start many fights with a friend of mine and my husband and myself he was right out rude. He suceeded in star...	jj	1	760	Mar 14, 2005 by cdb
	Illinois Spring Fling (Preview) Anyone nearby interested or traveling. SPRING FLING April 22-24, Historic Galesburg, IL For registration form: Spring Fling, P.O. Box 1772, Galesburg, IL 61042-1772 Dance, banquet, AA, Alanon Speakers, alateen speaker, raffles.	wallsal55	0	989	Mar 14, 2005 by wallsal55
	no sponser, who can i do step 4/5 with (Preview) Hi, I'm 3 weeks plus into program. I have read "how al anon works.." I am reading "Paths to recovery". I also have the book One day at a time, and just got the "Courage to change" book. I read & reread. I also go to meetings in face, and online. I am atte...	babs	3	1130	Mar 14, 2005 by wallsal55
	Suggestion Needed (Preview) My husband is an active drinker and I have a real big problem ignoring him when he comes home drinking or hungover. He says real mean things to me, like my weight and how I should starve myself. He also tells me to leave his house and go find someone else to support me. I have no job and I have fibromyalgia and...	micheagle	5	907	Mar 14, 2005 by wallsal55
	Job Stress (Preview) First, thank you all for your kind words and words of wisdom in my first post. My A wife quit her job today with my support. She felt like a ton of weight was lifted off her shoulders. She was a High School Study Hall aid, all alone with 60 some kids who liked to cause trouble and the admin...	Beskem	6	1067	Mar 14, 2005 by Beskem
	Letting Go of Confusion (Preview) "Sometimes, the way is not clear. Our minds get clouded, confused. We aren't certain what our next step should be, what it will look like, what direction we are headed. That is the time to stop, ask for guidance, and rest. That is the time to let go of fear. Wai...	wallsal55	2	741	Mar 14, 2005 by babs
	Here's My Story Revised (Preview) I am 18 years old. I am an only child. My mom drank when I was a little kid, but I didn't know. Then she got help and quit. When I was about 8 years old she got in a relationship with a drinker and started drinking again. She has not stopped. She is still with the guy she got into a relationship with when I was 8. I l...	Lanchas	2	911	Mar 14, 2005 by babs
	Here's My Story (Preview) I am 18 years old. My mom drank when I was a little kid, but I didn't know. Then she got help and quit. When I was about 8 years old she got in a relationship with a drinker and started drinking again. She has not stopped. She is still with the guy she got into a relationship with when I was 8. I love him(I conside...	Lanchas	3	1176	Mar 13, 2005 by kerry5
	Thank you JOHN/OP (Preview) Hello John, Just want to thank you for all the support you have given me. I feel so lucky to be able to use this message board and the chatroom at MIP. You are so good at talking to me in a private secure way and I do appreciate that. I can tell that you are a person that is out for the good of the communit...	cdb	0	834	Mar 13, 2005 by cdb
	Playing the Martyr/Blame Game (Preview) When I first came to Alanon, my thoughts were "it's all the A's fault". I get to Alanon and I'm told "you're just as sick, if not sicker, than the A". That didn't sit well with me. Made me mad. But I kept coming back to listen and learn. Pretty soon I realized, yeah, they'r...	kismetstrand	5	3387	Mar 13, 2005 by cdb
	Why Me? (Preview) My AH came home tonight and asked... Do you ever ask yourself "why me"? Almost before he finished I answered yes all the time. He had this supprised look on his face like what for?? He never said another word when I could tell he wanted to talk about how hard things are for him and he wanted me to feel sory for...	jj	5	1113	Mar 13, 2005 by megan
	when do you give and who do you give up to (Preview) Good morning guys , I am in a dilema and I dont where to turn.I have been in alanon 2 years now.I am single mom of 2 teens , one is 18 works pt time and goes to college and the other in hs.My ex a is not in our life.I lost my job in octand how we have gotten by I would have to write a book of all the ways God ha...	dori	6	1086	Mar 12, 2005 by sanddie
	The 12 Steps (Preview) The 12 Steps 1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol, - that our lives had become unmanageable. 2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. 3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. 4...	John	3	862	Mar 12, 2005 by lalarainbow
	need help with mess. board (Preview) I have an iBook, every time now when I click on someones post my internet explorer quits. )c: I hate this, any ideas? I depend on this bb so much! love,debilyn	debilyn	2	715	Mar 12, 2005 by Joat
	A mother's pain (Preview) I come here daily and read posts but rarely post myself. Today, I am in need of experience, strength, and hope from those of you who may have been through these things in the past. My 26 y/o daughter is one of the addicts/mental illness in my life. I got a call from...	Lucy2	5	1248	Mar 12, 2005 by Lucy2
	More about being new to this (Preview) I am totally new to this. I don't understand what the different 12 steps are. I would like to know what they are. I was also wondering if religion was a big part of this. I'm not very religious. I hope someone will help me understand all this. Lanchas	Lanchas	3	1016	Mar 12, 2005 by jo4
	Communication (Preview) For some reason I just cannot seem to communicate with my A (husband). He has to constantly ask me a question several times before I actually answer it. I am not sure if I am just being defensive of his questions or as I told him earlier this morning that I decide that his question is not worth...	estrelladehope	3	1019	Mar 12, 2005 by wallsal55
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