Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

nycbt · nycbt

I haven't posted here in a while. I am doing very good since the last time I posted. My husband is now sober for over 56 days. I have gotten a sponsor. The thing that I am having a problem is control, it is a major problem. I am having a hard time with it. My husband is trying to get more indpendence to get better...

babs · babs

Hey to all I didn't realize that if you don't "LOG OUT", anyone who comes after you can then click onto the web site, & into your posts & personal page. They also would know your nickname because it says it as "LOGGED IN AS.......--" If you haven't been logging out, change your passwo...

search41 · search41

Hey friends...(the few of you whose names i even recognize anymore, plus all the newcomers!) I am getting a crash course education in "no expectations" the last 2 weeks. but i'm not "responding" all too well. i'm reacting, and very hurt and very angry. my A husband got his first drun...

joeygirl · joeygirl

I wanted to say that I am so thankful for this website and for all of your sharings. Like all have known I am seperated from my A and I love him dearly. He is in his very last stage of his disease and living with his parents. My son who loves his dad is visiting over Easter break and my a just...

freckles · freckles

Hello, I am new here, and I am looking for some advice. After 15 years, I bit the bullet and separated from my A. a year and a half ago. He jumped right into another relationship with a girl 17years his junior. For the last year or so, he has been kinda calling me up every once in a w...

cah · cah

My husband, an alcoholic, has decided that he needs to leave, and go work in TX (where he is from and is about 8-10 hours away). When we first discussed it, I got knots in my stomach, because of the uncertainty of it and the fear of change (he has been out of work for 2 years now, and has been pretty consis...

babs · babs

Hi, anyone know the difference? I was encouraged to read "The big book" but I also see "The big book, the companion for AA".

Lanchas · Lanchas

I have checked out more books that I reccommend for others to read. If you want to know what books just ask. Lanchas

nmike · nmike

Can anyone help? We have a very small Alanon Family Group in a rural area. We are missing some of the guidelines for leading a meeting. At other meetings, I know that they have the sheets to follow such as the "Alanon Preamble", meeting topics, suggested closing, suggested prayers, etc. Where can I get...

debilyn · debilyn

Hi, hon it depends on the amount the truck is when you buy it and who finances it for you. Be careful, have a knowledgeable man or woman with you when you look for one. I love my older truck. I hope you find the vehicle ya need. You can check out the best ones on the net. love,debilyn

missyg · missyg

In the past I've mostly just read other people's posts, but since my A has decided to make some major changes in his life, I decided I should probably do the same. After ten years together, five married, I've watched him spend the majority of him time drinking, smoking pot, doing coke, and abusin...

debilyn · debilyn

? No you silly, it is only they way you took it. I honestly did not understand what you were saying. I still don't. I thought maybe you accidently got me mixed up with some one else. You started the post with "Gretchen" for petes sake. I don't do sharp retorts, is not my style at all. I have told yo...

teddybear · teddybear

Hi, Do you remember me?? It has been a long time, since I have posted on this message board. I had the hardest time to find the message board again, and especially to register under the name I had used before. I saw John's name, and I knew that I was back to the message board I knew so w...

cdb · cdb

Hello Hockedal, If you are around, please let me know how you are doing? I think of you often and am sending positive thoughts and prayers your way. cdb

jj · jj

My meeting was tonight and I was so looking forward to it as we had a AA speaker tonight and knew I needed to here what this person had to say. I never in a million years figured it would affect me so deeply or touch so many things in ME. I saw me in this speaker as a young teen, and it scared me. I also got so...

2cats2kids · 2cats2kids

Thanks for all who responded so far. Wanted to tell you-I find myself drawn back to the computer, back to this website. I called my mom today, shared with her some insights you have given. She says she is proud of me, and she knew all along. Huh... She says she understands, and that my father spent most of h...

babs · babs

I'm a dog owner, (like cats too). My vet tells me when you pet, play, walk your dog, that something occurs. When they are paid attention, endorphins (a good hormonal chemical) is released. Once released, they can't help but feel better. Another thing I read in ODAT May3r...

2cats2kids · 2cats2kids

After so much time living alone with my problem, I found you on the internet. I have been reading posts most of the morning. I feel a little better already-did not realize there were so many others like myself. My husband and I are in our mid-30's, with two teen girls living at home. We have been married...

worriedmom · worriedmom

Hello, I am very new to all of this and am hoping to get some insight and help. My daughter 22yr old hs been clean and sober for 6mths- she was living in sober living and doing very well. Recently she got her own apartment(she works and has a great job) we have been very proud of her. Now i find...

dogscribe · dogscribe

I found these two poems in a magazine. I really like them and thought I would share. I think even the harshest truths, when broken down, have the ability to inspire, motivate and change lives for the better. It's in the in-between that the real magic happens. The se...

kb · kb

I just wanted to write on this today, to clear my head. I have to constantly let myself know that the only thing that gives me pain, so my preception. And I sure know how to do that, when I get into my dis ease. I have just finished a 2 year project and it will be sent to the printers w...

AlbertaCowboy · AlbertaCowboy

I haven't heard from my wife since last Sat morning. She was to go into a treatment facility for 2 or 3 week program. Is it normal that once in the program they don't allow you to contact outside friends and family? No one has heard from her, not myself, her children, or her best frie...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, My alcoholic 20 year old daughter has been in an inpatient treatment center for 2 months now. She is being transitioned into her new apartment by the treatment center this week. She stays at her apartment one night and then the center the next night,,etc. Yesterday, she had...

search41 · search41

man! i am so thrilled at all the support i received in all of your posts! thank you all soo much. first, i HAVE checked our local meetings, and they frown on children, at least children my son's age(6), being in meetings,and to be honest, i don't want him sitting in these meetings hearing...

megan · megan

Okay I was ready to talk. I was tired of the secret. i went to the NYC car show with my family yesterday and I told them about my husbands alcoholism. And alanon. And how I was working on myself. they said that my brother was an alcoholic and they blamed his wife - nice. Then I explained t...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I am 18 years old. I am an only child. My mom drank when I was a little kid, but I didn't know. Then she got help and quit. When I was about 8 years old she got in a relationship with a drinker and started drinking again. She has not stopped. She is still with the guy she got into a relationship with when I was 8. I l...

luv123 · luv123

I love to hear people's personal slogans that work for them Do you have any to share--please do!! I can relate to the recent shares I heard at a meeting on the personal slogan: JADE—(do not Justify-Argue-Defend or Eplain) I was youngest in family & had all these "adults" ordering me around and...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi Right now I am having a really hard time with guilt. In my head I know it is not mine, but my heart hurts, and I am angry that I am feeling this way. My Mother-In Law called me today, her and I have not had a great relationship in the past, but I have been trying, and I know they are trying in their own way. S...

lebe27 · lebe27

I went to my first Alanon meeting back in CT the end of 2002 when I moved back to live with my parents at 43 years old. Before I go any further let me just say that both my grandfathers died due to alcoholism. One before I was born from cirrhosis, he was only in his 50's, the other spent 10 years in...

micheagle · micheagle

I would like some suggestions about talking to an alcoholic and whether it's wrong to tell him how you feel about things he's done and what you are tired of. Does saying things mean that there's something wrong with you, like you're nuts or psycho? I get told that when I say anything to him after he d...

david62 · david62

Just wanted to take this opportunity to wish all of you, my family of choice, a joyous Easter day. Let us all take time to day to be grateful for the gifts we have been given, and spend some time visiting with our HP's today. Love and Peace to you all. David

babs · babs

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dot · dot

Hi All - I read lots of good ESH on this board. Please feel free to join us on the Step Board and share how the Steps work in your lives. We need your support, your love and your shares. Ya'll come. Love and hugs - Dot

bob6502 · bob6502

I think coming into alanon for the first time, that I was looking for something that I didn't know I needed. I knew I needed the support of others who have been in my situation, and the comfort of people who understand the effects of alcoholism. But deep down I also needed hope. Hope that my life wou...

Obijuan · Obijuan

My wife and I have a 31 year old son who is the A in our lives. He's a wonderful man and we love him dearly. We've been guilty of helping way too much going back to his high school days (and probably earlier). He's been through detox 4 times now. He's good at it and kind of likes the process. Two months ago we s...

dogscribe · dogscribe

I hope this is okay to post this. I thought it might get a smile from everyone.

khadejah · khadejah

I am new to the program and feel very alone my qualifier is my husband who has been in and out of sobriety about 1 year ago he went into treatment for 28 days when he came home things were still shaky and he relapsed . My husband also suffers from depression through this all i have tried to remain supportive t...

debilyn · debilyn

on 3/25/05 12:50 AM, Potter's Eden at debilynseden@centurytel.net wrote: > oh man, We have hail here like crazy and ya know what hail turns into when it > melts on to the ground and mixes with dirt... the M word. OMG > > Yesterday I got approved for a car loan, my modification money is being saved ...> >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

cabecka · cabecka

First let me say- What a great business meeting! Thanks so much Shimo and Cindy and everyone else! There ended up being a lengthy discussion about hugging someone during their share. It was great to hear all of the different perspectives being shared. I think that the fact that we share openly with eac...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

[I think the word alanoner could be substitued here]. "There is in every true woman's heart a heavenly fire which, which lies dormant in the broad daylight of prosperity; but which kindles up, and beams and blazes in the dark hour of adversity." ---Washington Irving

kb · kb

This is the question that is in my head. 32 years with my daughter and now she has a 7 year old sons. She wants to come home again and this is about the 5th time. She lives in Oregon, so moving back and forth is days of planning, I live in AZ, money, problem solving and yelling and screamin...

cdb · cdb

Hello Kismet and All, Recently, I talked to you Kis in PM, private message and vented. While venting to you I tried to be honest, yet my honesty probably came out side ways at you too. I would like to apologize and make amends to you knowing that you understand and probably don't th...

dogscribe · dogscribe

I've read a few responses on the board lately that talk about detaching with love. How exactly do you do that. Anyone have any comments on it. I keep trying to detach but I get the I just don't care phrase in my head but the fact is that I do care - that's why I get anxious and worrie...

jj · jj

My husband and I had a bit of a conversation if you could call it that. We were discussing what his reastion would be if I flat out told him that he needed to get sober and needed help. Well.. that did not go over well he flat out said then see ya! Totally not what someone in my situation wants to here. So I never...

trumpetchic18 · trumpetchic18

I learned a great lesson yesterday. I learned how much I value honesty. I had a situation that turned very ugly despite my attempts to avoid it. It all stemed from the fact that people had not been honest with me or with other people. I have become a very open and honest person through the program and didn'...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I wrote a post a little while ago, and on reading it back, I realize that I was venting, and getting aggravated and letting everything get to me. I did some thinking, and some crying and some more feeling sorry for myself, and things seem a lot clearer. I have been accused by my in-laws of being selfish a...

cdb · cdb

Hello, These individuals know who I am talking about. I have your isp numbers and I am aware that you are using different names at different times and that yesterday when the OP computer was off, you were messing with me using others names! This needs to stop. I am a hurting person who cam...

bob6502 · bob6502

When I came to alanon, I thought that it was a program to help me help my alcoholic stay sober. Imagine my surprise when I discover that it is a program to help me help me. Did I need help? Now that my alcoholic is sober, everything is fine, right??? Wrong!!! I was married...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Ever wonder about the abbreviation A.S.A.P.? Generally we think of it in terms of even more hurry and stress in our lives. Maybe if we think of this abbreviation in a different manner, we will begin to find a new way to deal with those rough days along the way. ************* There's work to do, deadlines...

jj · jj

I am in a horible mood. Its my Birthday tomorrow and it is always so upsetting for me and of course it began tonight. My husbands friend called me (his birthday too) and told me that my husband has crashed on his couch as he had celebrated the friends birthday pretty hard. So I wont even get a goodmorning bd...

dogscribe · dogscribe

This is just getting so old. Wednesday morning my A boyfriend actually wanted to discuss why I'm so "detached" and/or depresed. So I told him all the ugly things he does and calls me when he's drunk. He apologizes and says he doesn't mean it, won't do it again, etc. etc etc.&n...

dogscribe · dogscribe

I just read a reply that you made to a post and you talked about your farm and your animals and your remodeling and it just totally lifted my spirit. I would slow down to look at your pot bellied pig too! You are always so positive!!!! Thank you!!!!!!!

megan · megan

I am what I consider to be a very private person. I was raised in a home where you were TOLD not to discuss family business with outsiders. That is still very dominant in my thinking. But overtaking this is my pain. So I became sick and tired last July of the pain from living with an alcoholi...

AlbertaCowboy · AlbertaCowboy

After 3 weeks in psych ward, my wife was home Friday. We didn't talk much and I had to leave for the weekend for other commitments. She stayed home alone. I tried to call her yesterday, both at home and on her cell, but could not reach her and received no call back. It isa struggle to let go...

Lanchas · Lanchas

Yesterday I went to my local library nad checked out some books that I thought would help me. Here are the titles and authors: Hope for children of Alcoholics Alateen(no author known) the Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome: From Discovery to Recovery(by Wayne Kritsberg) Alcoholi...

nycbt · nycbt

Hi everyone sorry i haven't posted in awhile. My husband has been sober for 46 days today. For me I have gotten a sponsor who is making me do the steps, I am still on step one but I am taking my time. I have to now write a gratitude list everyday until thur, I will problary always have to do it, but right now I k...

hockeydal · hockeydal

Here I am again - the ray of sunshine whose situation seems to get worse each day..! The saga continues with my husband since being out of treatment for one week. He is still sleeping at his mothers. He told me he doesn't know what he wants, he feels as if he has no purpose in li...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I was wondering if whoever holds or "leads" meetings could post meeting notes including the topics of the meetings, please? Lanchas

cah · cah

of anything that helps an a through detox? My husband, God love him, is trying to quit. He still says that he doesn't think that AA would help him.......and I have learned enough in Al Anon to know that I can't force it. Hopefully, he'll get there when his HP/God wants him to. ...

Mark S · Mark S

Was prompted by a posting from another to download a few of the Speaker Tapes (look up) and was glad I did. Have listened to Ajit and Babs (lol initally thought our Babs) so far and found they we were well worth the download time. Ajit was pretty entertaining, but he hit on some things I see in myself. give t...

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	LEARNING STEP ONE (Preview) I haven't posted here in a while. I am doing very good since the last time I posted. My husband is now sober for over 56 days. I have gotten a sponsor. The thing that I am having a problem is control, it is a major problem. I am having a hard time with it. My husband is trying to get more indpendence to get better...	nycbt	3	980	Apr 1, 2005 by jessi
	want privacy? (Preview) Hey to all I didn't realize that if you don't "LOG OUT", anyone who comes after you can then click onto the web site, & into your posts & personal page. They also would know your nickname because it says it as "LOGGED IN AS.......--" If you haven't been logging out, change your passwo...	babs	0	862	Apr 1, 2005 by babs
	How Do You Be Nice? (Preview) Hey friends...(the few of you whose names i even recognize anymore, plus all the newcomers!) I am getting a crash course education in "no expectations" the last 2 weeks. but i'm not "responding" all too well. i'm reacting, and very hurt and very angry. my A husband got his first drun...	search41	15	1083	Apr 1, 2005 by Ava
	alcoholism the family disease (Preview) I wanted to say that I am so thankful for this website and for all of your sharings. Like all have known I am seperated from my A and I love him dearly. He is in his very last stage of his disease and living with his parents. My son who loves his dad is visiting over Easter break and my a just...	joeygirl	3	963	Apr 1, 2005 by lebe27
	Children's visiting their father (Preview) Hello, I am new here, and I am looking for some advice. After 15 years, I bit the bullet and separated from my A. a year and a half ago. He jumped right into another relationship with a girl 17years his junior. For the last year or so, he has been kinda calling me up every once in a w...	freckles	6	1243	Apr 1, 2005 by abbyal
	not sure what to do (Preview) My husband, an alcoholic, has decided that he needs to leave, and go work in TX (where he is from and is about 8-10 hours away). When we first discussed it, I got knots in my stomach, because of the uncertainty of it and the fear of change (he has been out of work for 2 years now, and has been pretty consis...	cah	5	893	Mar 31, 2005 by abbyal
	big book? vs companion big book (Preview) Hi, anyone know the difference? I was encouraged to read "The big book" but I also see "The big book, the companion for AA".	babs	2	712	Mar 31, 2005 by babs
	Literature (Preview) I have checked out more books that I reccommend for others to read. If you want to know what books just ask. Lanchas	Lanchas	2	656	Mar 31, 2005 by Lanchas
	Alanon Meeting Literature? (Preview) Can anyone help? We have a very small Alanon Family Group in a rural area. We are missing some of the guidelines for leading a meeting. At other meetings, I know that they have the sheets to follow such as the "Alanon Preamble", meeting topics, suggested closing, suggested prayers, etc. Where can I get...	nmike	2	874	Mar 31, 2005 by GammyRose
	Megan (Preview) Hi, hon it depends on the amount the truck is when you buy it and who finances it for you. Be careful, have a knowledgeable man or woman with you when you look for one. I love my older truck. I hope you find the vehicle ya need. You can check out the best ones on the net. love,debilyn	debilyn	3	840	Mar 31, 2005 by megan
	NEW LISTENER (Preview) In the past I've mostly just read other people's posts, but since my A has decided to make some major changes in his life, I decided I should probably do the same. After ten years together, five married, I've watched him spend the majority of him time drinking, smoking pot, doing coke, and abusin...	missyg	4	876	Mar 31, 2005 by dot
	dear richard (Preview) ? No you silly, it is only they way you took it. I honestly did not understand what you were saying. I still don't. I thought maybe you accidently got me mixed up with some one else. You started the post with "Gretchen" for petes sake. I don't do sharp retorts, is not my style at all. I have told yo...	debilyn	1	765	Mar 30, 2005 by richard
	still in the process of recovery (Preview) Hi, Do you remember me?? It has been a long time, since I have posted on this message board. I had the hardest time to find the message board again, and especially to register under the name I had used before. I saw John's name, and I knew that I was back to the message board I knew so w...	teddybear	12	1340	Mar 30, 2005 by teddybear
	Hockeydal,,,,, (Preview) Hello Hockedal, If you are around, please let me know how you are doing? I think of you often and am sending positive thoughts and prayers your way. cdb	cdb	1	736	Mar 30, 2005 by cdb
	Powerful Meeting & Weekend (Preview) My meeting was tonight and I was so looking forward to it as we had a AA speaker tonight and knew I needed to here what this person had to say. I never in a million years figured it would affect me so deeply or touch so many things in ME. I saw me in this speaker as a young teen, and it scared me. I also got so...	jj	1	838	Mar 30, 2005 by cdb
	Here I am again! (Preview) Thanks for all who responded so far. Wanted to tell you-I find myself drawn back to the computer, back to this website. I called my mom today, shared with her some insights you have given. She says she is proud of me, and she knew all along. Huh... She says she understands, and that my father spent most of h...	2cats2kids	2	909	Mar 30, 2005 by bob6502
	Treat yourself like a dog! (Preview) I'm a dog owner, (like cats too). My vet tells me when you pet, play, walk your dog, that something occurs. When they are paid attention, endorphins (a good hormonal chemical) is released. Once released, they can't help but feel better. Another thing I read in ODAT May3r...	babs	4	893	Mar 29, 2005 by richard
	Very new here but glad I found it. (Preview) After so much time living alone with my problem, I found you on the internet. I have been reading posts most of the morning. I feel a little better already-did not realize there were so many others like myself. My husband and I are in our mid-30's, with two teen girls living at home. We have been married...	2cats2kids	11	1099	Mar 29, 2005 by bcanuck
	How do i let go? (Preview) Hello, I am very new to all of this and am hoping to get some insight and help. My daughter 22yr old hs been clean and sober for 6mths- she was living in sober living and doing very well. Recently she got her own apartment(she works and has a great job) we have been very proud of her. Now i find...	worriedmom	5	1080	Mar 29, 2005 by kb
	Soul Soup (Preview) I found these two poems in a magazine. I really like them and thought I would share. I think even the harshest truths, when broken down, have the ability to inspire, motivate and change lives for the better. It's in the in-between that the real magic happens. The se...	dogscribe	2	887	Mar 29, 2005 by kb
	Its all in my preception (Preview) I just wanted to write on this today, to clear my head. I have to constantly let myself know that the only thing that gives me pain, so my preception. And I sure know how to do that, when I get into my dis ease. I have just finished a 2 year project and it will be sent to the printers w...	kb	4	911	Mar 29, 2005 by kb
	Haven't heard from wife (Preview) I haven't heard from my wife since last Sat morning. She was to go into a treatment facility for 2 or 3 week program. Is it normal that once in the program they don't allow you to contact outside friends and family? No one has heard from her, not myself, her children, or her best frie...	AlbertaCowboy	5	983	Mar 28, 2005 by wille
	hubby upset about daughter (Preview) Hello friends, My alcoholic 20 year old daughter has been in an inpatient treatment center for 2 months now. She is being transitioned into her new apartment by the treatment center this week. She stays at her apartment one night and then the center the next night,,etc. Yesterday, she had...	cdb	19	988	Mar 28, 2005 by worriedmom
	Thank you to "How do you be nice?" (Preview) man! i am so thrilled at all the support i received in all of your posts! thank you all soo much. first, i HAVE checked our local meetings, and they frown on children, at least children my son's age(6), being in meetings,and to be honest, i don't want him sitting in these meetings hearing...	search41	4	796	Mar 28, 2005 by dogscribe
	"coming out" (Preview) Okay I was ready to talk. I was tired of the secret. i went to the NYC car show with my family yesterday and I told them about my husbands alcoholism. And alanon. And how I was working on myself. they said that my brother was an alcoholic and they blamed his wife - nice. Then I explained t...	megan	6	810	Mar 28, 2005 by megan
	Looking for others like me (Preview) I am 18 years old. I am an only child. My mom drank when I was a little kid, but I didn't know. Then she got help and quit. When I was about 8 years old she got in a relationship with a drinker and started drinking again. She has not stopped. She is still with the guy she got into a relationship with when I was 8. I l...	Lanchas	3	1001	Mar 28, 2005 by kerry5
	Personal slogans that work 4 u (Preview) I love to hear people's personal slogans that work for them Do you have any to share--please do!! I can relate to the recent shares I heard at a meeting on the personal slogan: JADE—(do not Justify-Argue-Defend or Eplain) I was youngest in family & had all these "adults" ordering me around and...	luv123	1	814	Mar 28, 2005 by babs
	Feel like I am having a meltdown (Preview) Hi Right now I am having a really hard time with guilt. In my head I know it is not mine, but my heart hurts, and I am angry that I am feeling this way. My Mother-In Law called me today, her and I have not had a great relationship in the past, but I have been trying, and I know they are trying in their own way. S...	Jeannie	14	1690	Mar 28, 2005 by dori
	My Alanon Story (Preview) I went to my first Alanon meeting back in CT the end of 2002 when I moved back to live with my parents at 43 years old. Before I go any further let me just say that both my grandfathers died due to alcoholism. One before I was born from cirrhosis, he was only in his 50's, the other spent 10 years in...	lebe27	6	1053	Mar 28, 2005 by lebe27
	Suggestions Wanted (Preview) I would like some suggestions about talking to an alcoholic and whether it's wrong to tell him how you feel about things he's done and what you are tired of. Does saying things mean that there's something wrong with you, like you're nuts or psycho? I get told that when I say anything to him after he d...	micheagle	5	939	Mar 27, 2005 by dot
	Happy Easter! (Preview) Just wanted to take this opportunity to wish all of you, my family of choice, a joyous Easter day. Let us all take time to day to be grateful for the gifts we have been given, and spend some time visiting with our HP's today. Love and Peace to you all. David	david62	5	772	Mar 27, 2005 by cdb
	A new day.....a new end (Preview) end."   &n...	babs	2	686	Mar 27, 2005 by cdb
	Step Board (Preview) Hi All - I read lots of good ESH on this board. Please feel free to join us on the Step Board and share how the Steps work in your lives. We need your support, your love and your shares. Ya'll come. Love and hugs - Dot	dot	1	723	Mar 27, 2005 by babs
	HOPE/FAITH (Preview) I think coming into alanon for the first time, that I was looking for something that I didn't know I needed. I knew I needed the support of others who have been in my situation, and the comfort of people who understand the effects of alcoholism. But deep down I also needed hope. Hope that my life wou...	bob6502	2	696	Mar 27, 2005 by babs
	Kick him out? (Preview) My wife and I have a 31 year old son who is the A in our lives. He's a wonderful man and we love him dearly. We've been guilty of helping way too much going back to his high school days (and probably earlier). He's been through detox 4 times now. He's good at it and kind of likes the process. Two months ago we s...	Obijuan	6	1799	Mar 27, 2005 by Jeannie
	Cute easter card (Preview) I hope this is okay to post this. I thought it might get a smile from everyone.	dogscribe	8	800	Mar 27, 2005 by Jeannie
	need hope (Preview) I am new to the program and feel very alone my qualifier is my husband who has been in and out of sobriety about 1 year ago he went into treatment for 28 days when he came home things were still shaky and he relapsed . My husband also suffers from depression through this all i have tried to remain supportive t...	khadejah	5	1088	Mar 27, 2005 by abbyal
	Eden? (Preview) on 3/25/05 12:50 AM, Potter's Eden at debilynseden@centurytel.net wrote: > oh man, We have hail here like crazy and ya know what hail turns into when it > melts on to the ground and mixes with dirt... the M word. OMG > > Yesterday I got approved for a car loan, my modification money is being saved ...> >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>	debilyn	3	760	Mar 26, 2005 by Jeannie
	hugs and stuff (Preview) First let me say- What a great business meeting! Thanks so much Shimo and Cindy and everyone else! There ended up being a lengthy discussion about hugging someone during their share. It was great to hear all of the different perspectives being shared. I think that the fact that we share openly with eac...	cabecka	2	1073	Mar 26, 2005 by bob6502
	Quote for Today--For Women(?) Only (Preview) [I think the word alanoner could be substitued here]. "There is in every true woman's heart a heavenly fire which, which lies dormant in the broad daylight of prosperity; but which kindles up, and beams and blazes in the dark hour of adversity." ---Washington Irving	wallsal55	3	736	Mar 26, 2005 by bob6502
	Stay out or Jump in? (Preview) This is the question that is in my head. 32 years with my daughter and now she has a 7 year old sons. She wants to come home again and this is about the 5th time. She lives in Oregon, so moving back and forth is days of planning, I live in AZ, money, problem solving and yelling and screamin...	kb	6	1014	Mar 26, 2005 by kb
	Kismet, amends and HugeThanks. (Preview) Hello Kismet and All, Recently, I talked to you Kis in PM, private message and vented. While venting to you I tried to be honest, yet my honesty probably came out side ways at you too. I would like to apologize and make amends to you knowing that you understand and probably don't th...	cdb	1	750	Mar 26, 2005 by kismetstrand
	detaching with love (Preview) I've read a few responses on the board lately that talk about detaching with love. How exactly do you do that. Anyone have any comments on it. I keep trying to detach but I get the I just don't care phrase in my head but the fact is that I do care - that's why I get anxious and worrie...	dogscribe	5	806	Mar 26, 2005 by kismetstrand
	Sober talk??? (Preview) My husband and I had a bit of a conversation if you could call it that. We were discussing what his reastion would be if I flat out told him that he needed to get sober and needed help. Well.. that did not go over well he flat out said then see ya! Totally not what someone in my situation wants to here. So I never...	jj	14	979	Mar 26, 2005 by Ava
	The value of honesty (Preview) I learned a great lesson yesterday. I learned how much I value honesty. I had a situation that turned very ugly despite my attempts to avoid it. It all stemed from the fact that people had not been honest with me or with other people. I have become a very open and honest person through the program and didn'...	trumpetchic18	3	951	Mar 26, 2005 by Ava
	Just thinking (Preview) I wrote a post a little while ago, and on reading it back, I realize that I was venting, and getting aggravated and letting everything get to me. I did some thinking, and some crying and some more feeling sorry for myself, and things seem a lot clearer. I have been accused by my in-laws of being selfish a...	Jeannie	4	781	Mar 26, 2005 by Ava
	Quit messing with me:name changes (Preview) Hello, These individuals know who I am talking about. I have your isp numbers and I am aware that you are using different names at different times and that yesterday when the OP computer was off, you were messing with me using others names! This needs to stop. I am a hurting person who cam...	cdb	11	1251	Mar 26, 2005 by Susanroo
	Experience, Strength, and Hope (Preview) When I came to alanon, I thought that it was a program to help me help my alcoholic stay sober. Imagine my surprise when I discover that it is a program to help me help me. Did I need help? Now that my alcoholic is sober, everything is fine, right??? Wrong!!! I was married...	bob6502	4	1050	Mar 25, 2005 by dot
	ASAP! (Preview) Ever wonder about the abbreviation A.S.A.P.? Generally we think of it in terms of even more hurry and stress in our lives. Maybe if we think of this abbreviation in a different manner, we will begin to find a new way to deal with those rough days along the way. *********** There's work to do, deadlines...**	kismetstrand	3	1102	Mar 25, 2005 by dot
	Bad Mood (Preview) I am in a horible mood. Its my Birthday tomorrow and it is always so upsetting for me and of course it began tonight. My husbands friend called me (his birthday too) and told me that my husband has crashed on his couch as he had celebrated the friends birthday pretty hard. So I wont even get a goodmorning bd...	jj	11	993	Mar 25, 2005 by dot
	Disappointed again (Preview) This is just getting so old. Wednesday morning my A boyfriend actually wanted to discuss why I'm so "detached" and/or depresed. So I told him all the ugly things he does and calls me when he's drunk. He apologizes and says he doesn't mean it, won't do it again, etc. etc etc.&n...	dogscribe	7	904	Mar 25, 2005 by debilyn
	Debilyn (Preview) I just read a reply that you made to a post and you talked about your farm and your animals and your remodeling and it just totally lifted my spirit. I would slow down to look at your pot bellied pig too! You are always so positive!!!! Thank you!!!!!!!	dogscribe	1	692	Mar 25, 2005 by debilyn
	isolation (Preview) I am what I consider to be a very private person. I was raised in a home where you were TOLD not to discuss family business with outsiders. That is still very dominant in my thinking. But overtaking this is my pain. So I became sick and tired last July of the pain from living with an alcoholi...	megan	7	1188	Mar 25, 2005 by Ava
	hard to let go (Preview) After 3 weeks in psych ward, my wife was home Friday. We didn't talk much and I had to leave for the weekend for other commitments. She stayed home alone. I tried to call her yesterday, both at home and on her cell, but could not reach her and received no call back. It isa struggle to let go...	AlbertaCowboy	6	1128	Mar 24, 2005 by joeygirl
	Literature (Preview) Yesterday I went to my local library nad checked out some books that I thought would help me. Here are the titles and authors: Hope for children of Alcoholics Alateen(no author known) the Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome: From Discovery to Recovery(by Wayne Kritsberg) Alcoholi...	Lanchas	3	891	Mar 24, 2005 by bob6502
	DOING GOOD (Preview) Hi everyone sorry i haven't posted in awhile. My husband has been sober for 46 days today. For me I have gotten a sponsor who is making me do the steps, I am still on step one but I am taking my time. I have to now write a gratitude list everyday until thur, I will problary always have to do it, but right now I k...	nycbt	4	1013	Mar 24, 2005 by bob6502
	One Day at a Time (Preview) Here I am again - the ray of sunshine whose situation seems to get worse each day..! The saga continues with my husband since being out of treatment for one week. He is still sleeping at his mothers. He told me he doesn't know what he wants, he feels as if he has no purpose in li...	hockeydal	4	933	Mar 24, 2005 by Christy
	Meeting Notes (Preview) I was wondering if whoever holds or "leads" meetings could post meeting notes including the topics of the meetings, please? Lanchas	Lanchas	2	843	Mar 24, 2005 by Lanchas
	does anyone know (Preview) of anything that helps an a through detox? My husband, God love him, is trying to quit. He still says that he doesn't think that AA would help him.......and I have learned enough in Al Anon to know that I can't force it. Hopefully, he'll get there when his HP/God wants him to. ...	cah	7	1096	Mar 24, 2005 by Jam
	Speaker tapes (Preview) Was prompted by a posting from another to download a few of the Speaker Tapes (look up) and was glad I did. Have listened to Ajit and Babs (lol initally thought our Babs) so far and found they we were well worth the download time. Ajit was pretty entertaining, but he hit on some things I see in myself. give t...	Mark S	1	888	Mar 24, 2005 by cdb
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