Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

wallsal55 · wallsal55

The beginning of character building comes with doing things we dislike. There's always "an easier, softer way," but we hurt ourselves when we take it. Self-respect is built on deeds, not intentions. The best of intentions won't get us to work on time, cl...

Powerless · Powerless

I heard at a face-to-face that I don't always have to make a decision. Maybe I am having such a hard time with sticking to the decision of kicking him out because it is not the right time. Maybe it's the wrong time, but the right thing to do or maybe it is the w...

gardengal · gardengal

Alcoholics act and family and friends "react". Most of us dont realize we have a choice! It's as if we were holding one end of a rope and and alcoholic grapped the other end and started to tug. Most of us would react automatically. We would tug back. It never occurs to us that we dont have to play.If we knew w...

sooner · sooner

Many of us have lost our moms to death or to this disease. Some of us never had a mom. So today if it's in your power to do so please consider showing another human being some gentleness and tenderness. A little can go a long way and help someone get through the day. And even though I have little to give I'm goi...

Powerless · Powerless

I spoke with my usband last night over the phone and explained that I love him very much, but explained that I am scared for our future and the children's if he stays. He said that he does not want to leave, but will if it means saving the kids. I went to bed with a little less worry, but am wander...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Love turns on the sun; we have a happy day and all is well with the world. Love brings out full size in us. It discovers within us ambitions unnumbered, goodness unlimited. It multiplies our energy beyond our imagination. It excites a courage braver than any s...

shimo · shimo

Just a note to let you all know I have tests scheduled at the hospital on Tuesday morning and may not be back home in time to honor my commitment to chair the meeting. Between now and then, I will attempt to get someone else to stand-in for me but if I am not successful, I know someone wil...

megan · megan

Saturday night was it. I spent the afternoon with 2 alanon friends and when I got home my A was mad. So I took my bike and went to the park for 2 hours riding and decompressing i got home and we had a cookout and then he started in with the verbal abuse. I left the room, went upstairs, picked u...

Powerless · Powerless

I wouldn't be me if I wasn't confused most of the time. I felt so strong this weekend, angry, but strong. I felt peace because I made a vow that my husband would leave and I would follow through with my decision. Today, I am not angry. I am sad at the loss of what I originally thoug...

Maria123 · Maria123

May 4, 2005 Business Meeting Minutes for Al-Anon Attending: Shimo, danz123, Maria123, cdb, cloud, garom, greta, jrtjosey, kismetstrand, Quietvoice, SenoraBob, shadow 1, acebass, Peggy7, buzzfree, cindy, mamerich, haximon, david62, Mastiff, rollo, kerry55, Dot48730, tired...

Christy · Christy

Hi everyone!! a friend sent this to me....I guess timing is everything..... have a great day.... Christy The Awakening A time comes in your life when you finally get it. When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out - ENOUG...

Lani · Lani

Struggling with a decision?

"You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn't exist anywhere except in the mind." -- Dale Carnegie Our anxiety level spikes and we wrestle with whether to choose option A or option B. Fear of making t...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Life in sobriety, here. I feel as if the London Fog has lifted. Great not living in the Fog, but didn't realize how much it protected me....how used to it I got..... Should I board a jet now to get to London for that familiarity. Serio...

Peggy7 · Peggy7

Wille, Tonight, after you brought my attention to the statement I had made....."This life, what a ride". Being the literal person that I am, you helped me have the most amazing visual. Seeing myself going down this massive roller coaster.....no rails in sight but speeding, barely a...

momdjel · momdjel

Hello all, Just a little about myself and my life with my alcoholic. We have 4 children ages 21 to 5. We have been together for 24 years and next May will celebrate our 20th Anniversary. I don't want to offend anyone, just trying to regain MY LIFE. My life right now is depressed, angry, hurting etc,...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, Huge thanks for your prayers and thoughts. My daughter got out of the hospital today. Her white count was going down. The surgeon still isn't sure what the problem was. But the IV antibiotics and fluid helped. They did take out her appendix during the surgery. It was in good con...

Powerless · Powerless

It is amazing how guilty I still allow him to make me. I finally made the decision to ask him to leave and feel empowered by my decision. I did give him two weeks to find a place. I knew he would do this, but felt I at least owed him this much. I admit to be lsot when it comes to the step work.&...

Help for a New Member · bonnie3000

Dear members, I'm new to your message board and I'm hoping that some of you can relate to the terrible pain I'm feeling, and yes, I think probably you ALL can. After all, we ALL love someone who is immersed (or has been) immersed in this horrible disease. My story I'm sure, is mild com...

Christy · Christy

The post about a message in a paper towel is so true, we must be open messages and feelings, even if we don't know where the path is leading. I've noticed that the more I am open to my HP's messages, the more I see them. Awsome isn't it? There are no coincedences. I have a cousin that I've always...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Every day when I come online, I will usually pull up our main webpage (www.12stepforums.net) and from there access this message board to see what's new. I am about to start my 4th Step, but before I do, my sponsor gave me an assignment, part of which was to read the 3rd Step Prayer found in the AA Big...

Samena · Samena

Wow! It has been too long since I have been here. So much has happened, I have left my marriage of 10 years with an A/drug addict husband and I am currently fighting for my sanity back. The divorce is not yet final and he is fighting tooth & nails with everything I am proposing.&nb...

danz123 · danz123

Hi Friends, Hi Friends, Just want to wish all you moms a Happy Mother's Day. Being a mom is not easy, but it can be so rewarding. We all deserve a pat on the back. Been thinking about all I have to be grateful for this mor...

teddybear · teddybear

Good Morning to all of my precious friends, This has been such a difficult, and painful week for me. After four and a half years of Al-Anon, I am learning more about my self and my past. I realize that there is still so much denial from my childhood, and that I have repressed it for too many y...

mom to 2 · mom to 2

My husband went to rehab for 30 days---was doing great according to the counselor, really embracing the program they said. He was really quiet with me on the phone throughout, never really wanted to answer any questions or talk much about home life--this was very difficult for me but... ...

fiona123 · fiona123

DEAR John ! THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH for adding that to the Home Page . I like to pray that prayer daily , sometimes several times a day ... i am so wierd , i still do not have it memorized , after 2 yrs .... wierd mental block i have it printed and read it i am so thrilled to have it there to see every day T...

captcodee · captcodee

I couldnt' figure out today WHY i wanted to call up the alcoholic and tell him what a rotten loser he is because he can't stay sobor. I wanted to berate him, yell at him, get a divorce, and watch him get run over by a steam roller......all after I have developed a solid resolve to love him despite his d...

debilyn · debilyn

I don't even know if this will go! For some reason I lost my email account and my internet. Hoping I installed this right. Been sorta weird lately. Not quite knowing where I fit.I feel like a puzzle piece who is lost. I live the day at a time, trust hp, detach. I guess it is probably being alone so m...

De Anna · De Anna

I can't get on the step board with my usual post name & password. It says wrong password or name. I even tried to reregister, but it won't let me, it say name already in use. Can anyone help?

jj · jj

So tonight I got the courage to try and talk to my husband about many things that have been weighing on my mind. It always takes me so long to build up the courage because it never turns out well and I usually wind up crying. So I figured with my new tools and new understanding that I would just bite the...

Brat · Brat

Thank you so much to all of you for your wonderful, encouraging words. I realize I'm not alone, and that means alot. He contacted me this morning via e-mail. He said he has had a really tough emotional week, and was going to get away for the weekend. He also said he was going t...

Brat · Brat

Thank you again to all of you. Your kind words of support and encouragement have helped me tremendously. I know I may never find the answers to the questions I'm looking for, but I know I will find myself in a better place with the support of kind people like you. I will continue to m...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I am still so angry I can scream! We where supposed to go to counseling last night. I rearranged my work schedule and other things to accomodate it. My husband called me when he got home from work and said his parents had gone to Atlantic City for the day and left him a note. They had called and reschedule...

whatif · whatif

We've had a bad week again, actually it started yesterday. Another binge day, they've been coming about a week apart which is more than usual. I got my ODAT in the mail yesterday just in time. Well I'm not sure about some of the reading I've done. There sems to be a lot of talk about A's starting programs. I...

Brat · Brat

This is my first time here; I'm very new to all of this. I'm trying to understand what just happened to me. I've been in a long-distance relationship for almost a year and a half. We saw each other as often as possible, and things were spectacular. We were to be married, blend o...

De Anna · De Anna

I was upset & crying one day last week. You know another one of those same old arguements. I threw away all my knowledge of al anon & the 12 steps for the moment, or more like the day. Anyway, like I said, I was crying & grabbed a paper towel. On the paper towel it said...

Mark S · Mark S

Hi all, Well the second half of traveling for awhile was concluded on Saturday evening. Things went very well at home. Prior to leaving I always leave availability of enough funds to cover emergencies as I did again this time. In contrast to my past experiences where these funds ended up in lotter...

debilyn · debilyn

Hi cdb, I prayed for you and your family. Is your daughter ok? My darn email and explorer will not work. I put this on and it is not working right. So anyone else forgive me for sending a private post here!! I will have to get help dang it. No did not get a car. Just decided to wait. I love my pickup and wi...

kb · kb

My daughter is back out with her 7 year old son. 32 years, 3 generations. is their an end in sight. I do not think so. I have to have hope without attachment, easier said then done. I like writing because I can talk to myself and not look completely crazy ha. I have w...

Phil · Phil

By: Grant Kono, LCSW Anger is generally the most self destructive emotion that you feel. This is because it’s an emotion focused on action. If you are not acting on the anger, then you are thinking about acting on the anger or hoping that someone else will act on the anger. Anger always comes from a feeli...

teddybear · teddybear

Good Morning, to all of my friends, Yesterday, I was listening to the radio, the subject was, what if you knew, you only had six months to live. What do you think, you would do differently? what would you change? Simply asking ourselves this question, will sometim...

De Anna · De Anna

Hi, I've seen your request to join in on the 12 step board. I haven't reach the latter steps, so I've been waiting to start with step 1. Today I tried to sign on the step board post, & couldn't. Do I need to register differently for that?

GypsyRose71 · GypsyRose71

HELLO ALL! I HOPE TODAY FINDS EVERYONE DOING WELL. I WANTED TO SHARE THIS WITH YOU GUYS. I WENT TO MY FIRST AL-ANON MEETING LAST NIGHT, THEY MEET IN MY AREA ONCE OR TWICE A WEEK. I WAS A NERVOUS WRECK ! AND IT WAS ALSO A STEP MEETING. I FELT SO LOST BUT I MADE IT THROU...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Well my car is going to the garage. My FIL called me and said he will pay the ticket and pay for the tow. I did accept this time, and said thank you. It was not my mess, and I am tired of struggling to clean up after my husband tries to prove he is never to drunk to do things. My FIL asked me why I must continue to m...

Casey · Casey

I have met a recovering alcoholic who has been in AA for about 1 1/2 years. He is 39, he has already suffered loss of career, loss of 2 homes, loss of fiance, became homeless 3 times and almost died from alcohol withdraw. Ok, I should run and not date this man. These 3 months I have known him have been the mo...

lil_feathered_one · lil_feathered_one

Hello all, Today hubby comes home after being gone for almost 2 weeks working out of town. I am happy that he will be home but worried at the same time. We have been talking alot on the phone and he sounds like he is doing better than he was before he left. I am afraid that it all may be a smoke screen. I want to...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I just got home from my neighbors house. She came over a few hours ago to ask me to come and take some pictures of her dog having puppies. I brought my four and seven year old sons with me and we spent the last two hours watching Maxie have puppies. I have seen my own animals give birth many times and my boy...

luv123 · luv123

Hi everyone, I was at a good meeting earlier and could most relate to staying in the day as a topic. Working on it! I feel the urge to start predicting my son’s future (no one ever said I was psychic but I seem to think I am) and project & then emotional respond to those scenarios He is treading on t...

notaboutme · notaboutme

Hello all- I am feeling really anxious that I am so "needy" for some advice when it comes to our daughter! I'm sorry I have not been able to plug into a f2f AA group here in my city. The times I have I am confused and leave wondering when I might be able to ask questions. We all just read and yes I get som...

TammyS34 · TammyS34

This is my first time posting here. I just wanted to share how grateful I am for the alanon program. I am an ACOH, and it has been a rough past two years. I had an "aha moment" about three years ago, realized my entire life I had pretended things were okay when they were not, I felt unsure...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, The starter on my van went. I was going to take it into the garage to have it fixed. I was driving my sons car and my husband saw me. Stupid me, when he asked why I was driving that car I told him the truth and told him the car was going into the garage in the morning. It could be started to drive their if I wac...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Trying to make sense of where I'm at right now...maybe trying too hard, maybe I need to just "sit and be still". I feel like something is happening, or about to happen, some kind of change. A whole range of feelings going on - sadness, pensiveness, melancholy? And yet, its not all "d...

sooner · sooner

Hi cd, So sorry I missed kismets original posting about your daughter. I very much want to hear about where you are right now. Are you ok? How do you feel? Please share. Sooner :)

whatif · whatif

Well it's been one week since I found you all. When I came home to an empty house. Of course there was a huge fight and lots of crying and begging(that was my role). We had a pretty decent week after that. I little bumpy on Sat. because I still wasn't over the "incident" of Tuesday.I immediately left the sit...

boshu06 · boshu06

Well, my fiance tried to quit drinking. Everyone was so proud of him. It was exactly one week. Then today he, once again, didn't go to work, and I did, well in so many words he cleaned the house, did the laundry and is now at the bar saying he deserved to have a drink (or 10). I am so angry at him. I want to leave b...

DanaAngel · DanaAngel

I could use any and all types of prayers right now. As a lot of those of you who frequent the chatroom know, I work in the addicts family business. We just closed up our retail outlet this weekend (I packed and moved ALL weekend). And so now are back to just the wholesale showroom and wa...

shimo · shimo

Following is our agenda for the Business Meeting tomorrow night. Every member is invited to attend these meetings and your input is important to us. Hope to see you there! GENERAL BUSINESS GROUP CONSCIENCE MEETING May 4, 2005 - 7:00 PM EST - Al-Anon Chatroom &nbs...

notaboutme · notaboutme

Hello- I am new and would be interested in hearing from some people that the A in their family is their child that they still support financially. My daughter is in college and does still live at home during holidays and breaks from school. Thanks so much. notaboutme

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Hi...just checking in...am quite frustrated and sometimes angered. [So I like your post on anger]. Gee, hubby put up 4 fingers the other night, smiled and pointed at himself. I said, "What? You had a step four meeting? You are on the Fourth Step?" &nbs...

Lani · Lani

Dear Friends, Many of us have an intimate relationship with Alcoholism whether we consciously attracted it deliberately or simply by default. As a child of alcoholics my reality revolved around drink, drugs and rock and roll. Although I was blessed from the desire to drink a...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Sorry....I am so out of Focus today! I posted the Alanon post on the AA board! So, if you care to login there to read it--I just wanted to share my notes I had to read today to help me get out of my FUNK!.... Tomorrow will be a better day! Si...

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	Self Discipline (Preview) The beginning of character building comes with doing things we dislike. There's always "an easier, softer way," but we hurt ourselves when we take it. Self-respect is built on deeds, not intentions. The best of intentions won't get us to work on time, cl...	wallsal55	5	1003	May 11, 2005 by Lanchas
	Maybe I don't have to make a decision (Preview) I heard at a face-to-face that I don't always have to make a decision. Maybe I am having such a hard time with sticking to the decision of kicking him out because it is not the right time. Maybe it's the wrong time, but the right thing to do or maybe it is the w...	Powerless	6	1026	May 11, 2005 by wallsal55
	Hold onto the rope? Or let go? What's your choice? (Preview) Alcoholics act and family and friends "react". Most of us dont realize we have a choice! It's as if we were holding one end of a rope and and alcoholic grapped the other end and started to tug. Most of us would react automatically. We would tug back. It never occurs to us that we dont have to play.If we knew w...	gardengal	6	2596	May 11, 2005 by nmike
	Please remember those who've lost their moms (Preview) Many of us have lost our moms to death or to this disease. Some of us never had a mom. So today if it's in your power to do so please consider showing another human being some gentleness and tenderness. A little can go a long way and help someone get through the day. And even though I have little to give I'm goi...	sooner	11	809	May 10, 2005 by sooner
	Thank you...feeling stronger (Preview) I spoke with my usband last night over the phone and explained that I love him very much, but explained that I am scared for our future and the children's if he stays. He said that he does not want to leave, but will if it means saving the kids. I went to bed with a little less worry, but am wander...	Powerless	3	644	May 10, 2005 by wallsal55
	Love (Self-Love,too!) (Preview) Love turns on the sun; we have a happy day and all is well with the world. Love brings out full size in us. It discovers within us ambitions unnumbered, goodness unlimited. It multiplies our energy beyond our imagination. It excites a courage braver than any s...	wallsal55	2	617	May 10, 2005 by wallsal55
	May 10 - A.M. MTG. (Preview) Just a note to let you all know I have tests scheduled at the hospital on Tuesday morning and may not be back home in time to honor my commitment to chair the meeting. Between now and then, I will attempt to get someone else to stand-in for me but if I am not successful, I know someone wil...	shimo	3	728	May 10, 2005 by Faith73
	well I left even if for 2 nights.... (Preview) Saturday night was it. I spent the afternoon with 2 alanon friends and when I got home my A was mad. So I took my bike and went to the park for 2 hours riding and decompressing i got home and we had a cookout and then he started in with the verbal abuse. I left the room, went upstairs, picked u...	megan	13	1210	May 10, 2005 by Faith73
	Conflicted feelings (Preview) I wouldn't be me if I wasn't confused most of the time. I felt so strong this weekend, angry, but strong. I felt peace because I made a vow that my husband would leave and I would follow through with my decision. Today, I am not angry. I am sad at the loss of what I originally thoug...	Powerless	3	641	May 9, 2005 by captcodee
	May 4, 2005 BUSINESS MEETING MINUTES (Preview) May 4, 2005 Business Meeting Minutes for Al-Anon Attending: Shimo, danz123, Maria123, cdb, cloud, garom, greta, jrtjosey, kismetstrand, Quietvoice, SenoraBob, shadow 1, acebass, Peggy7, buzzfree, cindy, mamerich, haximon, david62, Mastiff, rollo, kerry55, Dot48730, tired...	Maria123	0	886	May 9, 2005 by Maria123
	A must read (Preview) Hi everyone!! a friend sent this to me....I guess timing is everything..... have a great day.... Christy The Awakening A time comes in your life when you finally get it. When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out - ENOUG...	Christy	4	927	May 9, 2005 by TLC2
	STRUGGLING WITH DECISION (Preview) Struggling with a decision? "You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn't exist anywhere except in the mind." -- Dale Carnegie Our anxiety level spikes and we wrestle with whether to choose option A or option B. Fear of making t...	Lani	1	813	May 9, 2005 by wallsal55
	Lifting of the "London Fog"/Sobriety (Preview) Life in sobriety, here. I feel as if the London Fog has lifted. Great not living in the Fog, but didn't realize how much it protected me....how used to it I got..... Should I board a jet now to get to London for that familiarity. Serio...	wallsal55	2	858	May 9, 2005 by wallsal55
	Life, what a Ride ! (Preview) Wille, Tonight, after you brought my attention to the statement I had made....."This life, what a ride". Being the literal person that I am, you helped me have the most amazing visual. Seeing myself going down this massive roller coaster.....no rails in sight but speeding, barely a...	Peggy7	1	929	May 9, 2005 by wille
	Help for a newbie (Preview) Hello all, Just a little about myself and my life with my alcoholic. We have 4 children ages 21 to 5. We have been together for 24 years and next May will celebrate our 20th Anniversary. I don't want to offend anyone, just trying to regain MY LIFE. My life right now is depressed, angry, hurting etc,...	momdjel	5	952	May 9, 2005 by jamesinasheville
	prayers helped! ty ty ty (Preview) Hello friends, Huge thanks for your prayers and thoughts. My daughter got out of the hospital today. Her white count was going down. The surgeon still isn't sure what the problem was. But the IV antibiotics and fluid helped. They did take out her appendix during the surgery. It was in good con...	cdb	5	808	May 9, 2005 by jamesinasheville
	Guilt (Preview) It is amazing how guilty I still allow him to make me. I finally made the decision to ask him to leave and feel empowered by my decision. I did give him two weeks to find a place. I knew he would do this, but felt I at least owed him this much. I admit to be lsot when it comes to the step work.&...	Powerless	2	819	May 8, 2005 by cah
	Help for a New Member (Preview) Dear members, I'm new to your message board and I'm hoping that some of you can relate to the terrible pain I'm feeling, and yes, I think probably you ALL can. After all, we ALL love someone who is immersed (or has been) immersed in this horrible disease. My story I'm sure, is mild com...	bonnie3000	6	954	May 8, 2005 by sanddie
	HP's messages (Preview) The post about a message in a paper towel is so true, we must be open messages and feelings, even if we don't know where the path is leading. I've noticed that the more I am open to my HP's messages, the more I see them. Awsome isn't it? There are no coincedences. I have a cousin that I've always...	Christy	4	1030	May 8, 2005 by jrtjosey
	Speaking of HP messages... (Preview) Every day when I come online, I will usually pull up our main webpage (www.12stepforums.net) and from there access this message board to see what's new. I am about to start my 4th Step, but before I do, my sponsor gave me an assignment, part of which was to read the 3rd Step Prayer found in the AA Big...	kismetstrand	4	890	May 8, 2005 by jrtjosey
	Life after the chaos (Preview) Wow! It has been too long since I have been here. So much has happened, I have left my marriage of 10 years with an A/drug addict husband and I am currently fighting for my sanity back. The divorce is not yet final and he is fighting tooth & nails with everything I am proposing.&nb...	Samena	2	969	May 8, 2005 by megan
	HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY (Preview) Hi Friends, Hi Friends, Just want to wish all you moms a Happy Mother's Day. Being a mom is not easy, but it can be so rewarding. We all deserve a pat on the back. Been thinking about all I have to be grateful for this mor...	danz123	5	1085	May 8, 2005 by bob6502
	Give yourself the gift of finding a sponsor (Preview) Good Morning to all of my precious friends, This has been such a difficult, and painful week for me. After four and a half years of Al-Anon, I am learning more about my self and my past. I realize that there is still so much denial from my childhood, and that I have repressed it for too many y...	teddybear	2	679	May 8, 2005 by teddybear
	after rehab urgent question (Preview) My husband went to rehab for 30 days---was doing great according to the counselor, really embracing the program they said. He was really quiet with me on the phone throughout, never really wanted to answer any questions or talk much about home life--this was very difficult for me but... ...	mom to 2	6	1305	May 8, 2005 by mom to 2
	THANK YOU for the 3rd Step Prayer ! (Preview) DEAR John ! THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH for adding that to the Home Page . I like to pray that prayer daily , sometimes several times a day ... i am so wierd , i still do not have it memorized , after 2 yrs .... wierd mental block i have it printed and read it i am so thrilled to have it there to see every day T...	fiona123	0	1095	May 8, 2005 by fiona123
	I discovered why I want HIM to feel rotten (Preview) I couldnt' figure out today WHY i wanted to call up the alcoholic and tell him what a rotten loser he is because he can't stay sobor. I wanted to berate him, yell at him, get a divorce, and watch him get run over by a steam roller......all after I have developed a solid resolve to love him despite his d...	captcodee	4	1054	May 7, 2005 by Annalisa
	just stuff (Preview) I don't even know if this will go! For some reason I lost my email account and my internet. Hoping I installed this right. Been sorta weird lately. Not quite knowing where I fit.I feel like a puzzle piece who is lost. I live the day at a time, trust hp, detach. I guess it is probably being alone so m...	debilyn	3	882	May 7, 2005 by TLC2
	I need help with step board (Preview) I can't get on the step board with my usual post name & password. It says wrong password or name. I even tried to reregister, but it won't let me, it say name already in use. Can anyone help?	De Anna	2	647	May 7, 2005 by jo4
	Tried to talk with AH/ bad new from doc (Preview) So tonight I got the courage to try and talk to my husband about many things that have been weighing on my mind. It always takes me so long to build up the courage because it never turns out well and I usually wind up crying. So I figured with my new tools and new understanding that I would just bite the...	jj	9	1066	May 7, 2005 by TLC2
	Still broken-hearted and even more confused (Preview) Thank you so much to all of you for your wonderful, encouraging words. I realize I'm not alone, and that means alot. He contacted me this morning via e-mail. He said he has had a really tough emotional week, and was going to get away for the weekend. He also said he was going t...	Brat	4	1065	May 7, 2005 by jrtjosey
	Kind words (Preview) Thank you again to all of you. Your kind words of support and encouragement have helped me tremendously. I know I may never find the answers to the questions I'm looking for, but I know I will find myself in a better place with the support of kind people like you. I will continue to m...	Brat	1	910	May 7, 2005 by abbyal
	Just want to scream!!!!!!!!!! (Preview) I am still so angry I can scream! We where supposed to go to counseling last night. I rearranged my work schedule and other things to accomodate it. My husband called me when he got home from work and said his parents had gone to Atlantic City for the day and left him a note. They had called and reschedule...	Jeannie	9	1199	May 6, 2005 by Jeannie
	I'm hearing a lot about A's in recovery or at leas (Preview) We've had a bad week again, actually it started yesterday. Another binge day, they've been coming about a week apart which is more than usual. I got my ODAT in the mail yesterday just in time. Well I'm not sure about some of the reading I've done. There sems to be a lot of talk about A's starting programs. I...	whatif	5	2087	May 6, 2005 by Mark S
	Broken-hearted and confused (Preview) This is my first time here; I'm very new to all of this. I'm trying to understand what just happened to me. I've been in a long-distance relationship for almost a year and a half. We saw each other as often as possible, and things were spectacular. We were to be married, blend o...	Brat	6	991	May 6, 2005 by Mark S
	a message in a paper towel.. (Preview) I was upset & crying one day last week. You know another one of those same old arguements. I threw away all my knowledge of al anon & the 12 steps for the moment, or more like the day. Anyway, like I said, I was crying & grabbed a paper towel. On the paper towel it said...	De Anna	4	838	May 6, 2005 by Mark S
	A follow up on post "challange time for me" (Preview) Hi all, Well the second half of traveling for awhile was concluded on Saturday evening. Things went very well at home. Prior to leaving I always leave availability of enough funds to cover emergencies as I did again this time. In contrast to my past experiences where these funds ended up in lotter...	Mark S	5	871	May 6, 2005 by Mark S
	to CDB (Preview) Hi cdb, I prayed for you and your family. Is your daughter ok? My darn email and explorer will not work. I put this on and it is not working right. So anyone else forgive me for sending a private post here!! I will have to get help dang it. No did not get a car. Just decided to wait. I love my pickup and wi...	debilyn	1	750	May 6, 2005 by cdb
	Thier is no end in sight (Preview) My daughter is back out with her 7 year old son. 32 years, 3 generations. is their an end in sight. I do not think so. I have to have hope without attachment, easier said then done. I like writing because I can talk to myself and not look completely crazy ha. I have w...	kb	2	766	May 6, 2005 by seachange
	Dealing With Anger (Preview) By: Grant Kono, LCSW Anger is generally the most self destructive emotion that you feel. This is because it’s an emotion focused on action. If you are not acting on the anger, then you are thinking about acting on the anger or hoping that someone else will act on the anger. Anger always comes from a feeli...	Phil	2	1039	May 6, 2005 by momdjel
	What if?? (Preview) Good Morning, to all of my friends, Yesterday, I was listening to the radio, the subject was, what if you knew, you only had six months to live. What do you think, you would do differently? what would you change? Simply asking ourselves this question, will sometim...	teddybear	3	731	May 6, 2005 by teddybear
	Dot....12 step board (Preview) Hi, I've seen your request to join in on the 12 step board. I haven't reach the latter steps, so I've been waiting to start with step 1. Today I tried to sign on the step board post, & couldn't. Do I need to register differently for that?	De Anna	0	725	May 6, 2005 by De Anna
	My first Al-anon meeting (Preview) HELLO ALL! I HOPE TODAY FINDS EVERYONE DOING WELL. I WANTED TO SHARE THIS WITH YOU GUYS. I WENT TO MY FIRST AL-ANON MEETING LAST NIGHT, THEY MEET IN MY AREA ONCE OR TWICE A WEEK. I WAS A NERVOUS WRECK ! AND IT WAS ALSO A STEP MEETING. I FELT SO LOST BUT I MADE IT THROU...	GypsyRose71	3	838	May 5, 2005 by De Anna
	Is there such a thing as too much pride? (Preview) Well my car is going to the garage. My FIL called me and said he will pay the ticket and pay for the tow. I did accept this time, and said thank you. It was not my mess, and I am tired of struggling to clean up after my husband tries to prove he is never to drunk to do things. My FIL asked me why I must continue to m...	Jeannie	7	1153	May 5, 2005 by Diva
	I met a recovering alcoholic (Preview) I have met a recovering alcoholic who has been in AA for about 1 1/2 years. He is 39, he has already suffered loss of career, loss of 2 homes, loss of fiance, became homeless 3 times and almost died from alcohol withdraw. Ok, I should run and not date this man. These 3 months I have known him have been the mo...	Casey	12	873	May 5, 2005 by Casey
	feeling anxious (Preview) Hello all, Today hubby comes home after being gone for almost 2 weeks working out of town. I am happy that he will be home but worried at the same time. We have been talking alot on the phone and he sounds like he is doing better than he was before he left. I am afraid that it all may be a smoke screen. I want to...	lil_feathered_one	2	601	May 5, 2005 by lin0606
	Puppies (Preview) I just got home from my neighbors house. She came over a few hours ago to ask me to come and take some pictures of her dog having puppies. I brought my four and seven year old sons with me and we spent the last two hours watching Maxie have puppies. I have seen my own animals give birth many times and my boy...	Jeannie	5	930	May 5, 2005 by TLC2
	Trying at Staying in TODAY (Preview) Hi everyone, I was at a good meeting earlier and could most relate to staying in the day as a topic. Working on it! I feel the urge to start predicting my son’s future (no one ever said I was psychic but I seem to think I am) and project & then emotional respond to those scenarios He is treading on t...	luv123	1	925	May 5, 2005 by lil_feathered_one
	Can we talk to her sponsor?! (Preview) Hello all- I am feeling really anxious that I am so "needy" for some advice when it comes to our daughter! I'm sorry I have not been able to plug into a f2f AA group here in my city. The times I have I am confused and leave wondering when I might be able to ask questions. We all just read and yes I get som...	notaboutme	4	968	May 5, 2005 by notaboutme
	Alanon saved me (Preview) This is my first time posting here. I just wanted to share how grateful I am for the alanon program. I am an ACOH, and it has been a rough past two years. I had an "aha moment" about three years ago, realized my entire life I had pretended things were okay when they were not, I felt unsure...	TammyS34	1	949	May 5, 2005 by luv123
	Car trouble (Preview) Hi, The starter on my van went. I was going to take it into the garage to have it fixed. I was driving my sons car and my husband saw me. Stupid me, when he asked why I was driving that car I told him the truth and told him the car was going into the garage in the morning. It could be started to drive their if I wac...	Jeannie	7	984	May 5, 2005 by teddybear
	Sadness/Pain/Growth? (Preview) Trying to make sense of where I'm at right now...maybe trying too hard, maybe I need to just "sit and be still". I feel like something is happening, or about to happen, some kind of change. A whole range of feelings going on - sadness, pensiveness, melancholy? And yet, its not all "d...	kismetstrand	9	992	May 5, 2005 by teddybear
	cdb...are you ok? (Preview) Hi cd, So sorry I missed kismets original posting about your daughter. I very much want to hear about where you are right now. Are you ok? How do you feel? Please share. Sooner :)	sooner	3	806	May 5, 2005 by cdb
	one week (Preview) Well it's been one week since I found you all. When I came home to an empty house. Of course there was a huge fight and lots of crying and begging(that was my role). We had a pretty decent week after that. I little bumpy on Sat. because I still wasn't over the "incident" of Tuesday.I immediately left the sit...	whatif	4	651	May 4, 2005 by Jeannie
	Still waiting and trying (Preview) Well, my fiance tried to quit drinking. Everyone was so proud of him. It was exactly one week. Then today he, once again, didn't go to work, and I did, well in so many words he cleaned the house, did the laundry and is now at the bar saying he deserved to have a drink (or 10). I am so angry at him. I want to leave b...	boshu06	6	746	May 4, 2005 by Jeannie
	Need prayers (Preview) I could use any and all types of prayers right now. As a lot of those of you who frequent the chatroom know, I work in the addicts family business. We just closed up our retail outlet this weekend (I packed and moved ALL weekend). And so now are back to just the wholesale showroom and wa...	DanaAngel	8	958	May 4, 2005 by cloud
	BUS MTG AGENDA - MAY 4/05 (Preview) Following is our agenda for the Business Meeting tomorrow night. Every member is invited to attend these meetings and your input is important to us. Hope to see you there! GENERAL BUSINESS GROUP CONSCIENCE MEETING May 4, 2005 - 7:00 PM EST - Al-Anon Chatroom &nbs...	shimo	5	722	May 4, 2005 by dot
	New and Green (Preview) Hello- I am new and would be interested in hearing from some people that the A in their family is their child that they still support financially. My daughter is in college and does still live at home during holidays and breaks from school. Thanks so much. notaboutme	notaboutme	3	659	May 4, 2005 by bob6502
	Phil and all (Preview) Hi...just checking in...am quite frustrated and sometimes angered. [So I like your post on anger]. Gee, hubby put up 4 fingers the other night, smiled and pointed at himself. I said, "What? You had a step four meeting? You are on the Fourth Step?" &nbs...	wallsal55	1	671	May 4, 2005 by bob6502
	THE GIFT OF GRIEF (Preview) Dear Friends, Many of us have an intimate relationship with Alcoholism whether we consciously attracted it deliberately or simply by default. As a child of alcoholics my reality revolved around drink, drugs and rock and roll. Although I was blessed from the desire to drink a...	Lani	2	815	May 4, 2005 by bob6502
	A H.A.L.T. Kind of Day (Preview) Sorry....I am so out of Focus today! I posted the Alanon post on the AA board! So, if you care to login there to read it--I just wanted to share my notes I had to read today to help me get out of my FUNK!.... Tomorrow will be a better day! Si...	wallsal55	0	579	May 4, 2005 by wallsal55
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