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whatif · whatif

Yesterday was another binge day for A (husband) this one over 9 hours. I've been posting about this for a while. That binging once a week like clock work ever since a good friend got killed in an auto accident about 2 months ago. I have been trying to stop the screaming and crying when he comes home. I did re...

nycbt · nycbt

I am going to try and not call my husband. It is going to be a very hard thing to do. I love to call him and see how he is doing. I love to hear his voice. It is going to be min to min for me. I am hoping by my help of my higher power. I don't why it is so diffuclt for me to stop calling him. When he goes to his meeting I am...

mastiff · mastiff

FEAR Hey now I gotcha to read my post with that topic didn't I!!!!!!! Just what kinda ladie did you think i was anyway? Know what I think about fear? I think it's a great big coward. Sure some fear has a bit of a big head and shows itself openly, but for the most part, I have found that...

elizabeth · elizabeth

- Accept that some days you're the pigeon, and some days you're the statue. - Always keep your words soft and sweet, just in case you have to eat them. - Always read stuff that will ma...

Powerless · Powerless

I feel like I am in the middle of a great big ocean and am sinking. I feel a deep depression coming on and am not sure what to do. I just feel so lost. I am looking for all of the wrong things in all of the wrong places. I feel irritable and moody. Doctor upped my Prozac. ...

Donna · Donna

Hi again, I wrote about 3-4 days ago and got wonderful feedback. I have a husband, married for 15 yrs. who is an alcholic, but doesn't drink on a daily basis--likes to spend his time at his uncle's bar for HOURS/DAYS at a time.. Anyway, he's been off work on a workman's comp case for over a year now...

dis5 · dis5

I am a social drinker. I will have a drink once every 3 months. It will only be 2 drinks and thats it. I grew up around an alcoholic and now husband is working on quitting. We both go to f2f meetings. Last night I had 1 drink and I felt guilty about having it. I know I shouldn't feel guilty since I can cont...

Parker · Parker

I'm adopted, and decided long ago never to contact my birth-parents. However, when my biological father sent me a letter, via the adoption agency, an inner struggle started and gave birth to an idea. I asked the agency if we could use them to correspond anonymously, and they agreed. My biological f...

nycbt · nycbt

Thank you to everyone that have answered my post. I have learn alot from everyone. This program by posting has helped me so much. With everyone sharing there experiences with me it has been great. For the new comers keep posting your feeling and you will learn from what the people are saying. It might be...

sanddie · sanddie

I posted the following as a response to another topic and thought I'd start it as a topic because I found this very interesting... I'd like to recommend a book by Neil Anderson, Victory Over The Darkness, A Battle For The Mind.... Basically, we are to take each thought captive as we begin to have the...

nycbt · nycbt

When I meet my husband 5 + yrs ago we used to fight something awful. We would get into physical fights. I would throw things, bite him and we would fight in the car. In the begin of time he was doing drugs and drinking. I wasn't aware he was doing drug until later on when I started to find stuff around the hou...

nycbt · nycbt

My name is Becky I just started Alanon six months ago. My husband and just got married about 10 months ago. We have know each for over 5 yrs going on 6 in aug. I am looking for a person with experience to talk to and help me through the program. If you are interested e-mail me nycbt@yahoo.com. I am looking f...

Phil · Phil

What is accepting personal responsibility? Accepting personal responsibility includes: Acknowledging that you are solely responsible for the choices in your life. Accepting that you are responsible for what you choose to feel or think. Accepting that you choose the direction for your life. Ac...

nycbt · nycbt

I have a problem always calling my husband. He has started to get mad at me an told me that I am stalking him. When we first meet he was living at the house where the women was jelously that he liked me so she didn't want him seeing me. I wanted to see him so bad I would drive by the house in hopes of seeing him. I...

shimo · shimo

MEETING SCHEDULE & GUIDELINES - JUNE 1, 2005 AM Mon - tiredtonite/Shimo Tue - Shimo/wille Wed - kerry5/no alt Thurs - wille/no alt Fri - Mastiff/no alt Sat - Greta/Teddybearpoet...

Lanchas · Lanchas

Can someone explain the differences for Email Visible to Other Members between: Yes, email visible No, and don't accept email No, accept email anonymously please? I would really like to know the difference. Lanchas

DanaAngel · DanaAngel

Hi all, Our home computer has once again crashed (second time this year!) : ( So if anyone was wondering why I am no where to be found, that is the reason. I am posting this from the puter at work which I cannot be on for long periods of time, so that is why I have not...

mariposa · mariposa

Is there a name for that attitude that my alcoholic gets before he starts drinking sometimes? Have any of you experienced it? Maybe it's something that I make up, but sometimes I can tell before he gets a drink that drinking is on his mind.

He wants to pick arguments, push...

teddybear · teddybear

Good Morning, My son will be going to court, he really needs to get on with his life, whatever the outcome will be. I am posting because I am feeling so nervous, and I know that it will calm me to express what I am feeling this morning. Last night I went to my therapy, and when I came home there we...

holly123 · holly123

Hey everyone, This weekend was very tough, but good. I slipped and recovered my program all in 3 days time. Actually I slipped more but oh well. Friday night my a spent most of his night at his drinking hang out, although he came home not so bad but they smoke po...

jj · jj

So as I mentioned in my last post that the interventionis I met gave me the much needed support and encouragement to talk to my husband and it worked. Last night when I had the oppertunity and didn't chicken out, which is huge for me because usually I think about it and get my self all worked up about...

Phil · Phil

What is Vulnerability? What is vulnerability? Vulnerability is: Feeling of being exposed to emotional hurt, being taken advantage of, or abused. Feeling of being fragile, weak, or susceptible to emotional pain and suffering. Feeling of being trapped or imprisoned in a situation where yo...

mandy_loves_GOD · mandy_loves_GOD

I am looking for a sponser e-mail me and we will get to know each other first, I am wanting a sponser to guild me through the 12 steps. if your into taking a sponcie e-mail me then we'll go from there......use title "sponser from Al-anon" mandy0002@hotmail.com -- Edited by mandy_loves_...

GirlSkates · GirlSkates

gawd...I feel like I am the only one around here with out kids. And then that makes me feel like my situation is very isolated....even more so. Makes me think how can anyone possibly relate? How can I relate to folks going through this with kids? Makes me feel incrediably alo...

nycbt · nycbt

I have been friends with this guy friend for 16 yrs. At times he has been the only friend that I have counted on and took advice from. When I was having problems with the man I was going out with who I have married he has been jelously of me. He was the first guy I dated as kids so it really wasn't. He has always ha...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Hiya Everyone, I am having a really hard time with patience lately. As many of you know I am in the process of buying 1st house. Everything was going very well until late last week when we hit a snag for closing. Closing got pushed back 3 days. There is an issue with the apprai...

sanddie · sanddie

Just needed to vent, as my daughter who is 16 years old has suddenly in the last 2 months began to be tardy at school, which led to full days skipped, and now tonight is the 2nd night this week that she has not come home and I've had to file a runaway report. :( The scariest part about all of this is tha...

mariposa · mariposa

I heard this song on a country station the other day and just had to look up the lyrics. It made me laugh in an ironic way - since lately (even though I have been TRYING to work the program) my life is pretty much consumed with thoughts about drinking and alcohol and drunkenness..... So, I had...

elizabeth · elizabeth

THE YELLOW SHIRT The baggy yellow shirt had long sleeves, four extra-large pockets trimmed in black thread and snaps up the front. It was faded from years of wear, but still in decent shape. I found it in 1963 when I was home from college on Christmas break, rummaging through bags of c...

nycbt · nycbt

For my parents: My dad is an active a and he doesn't show any time of wanting to stop. He drinks alot of scotch. My mom is getting to the point where she wants him to go to a rehab or aa or she says she is going to leave. My father suffers from health problems. My mom and my dad went to Florida to see the problems th...

nycbt · nycbt

Hi Everyone I finally made it I am working on step two. I am happy that I made it. I have a long way to go but I finally moved up at step. For my parents: My dad is an active a and he doesn't show any time of wanting to stop. He drinks alot of scotch. My mom is getting to the point where she wants him to go to a reha...

debilyn · debilyn

The PA I saw was ineffective and said you need to come back and see your doctor. My doc will be gone 3 weeks. It was stupid for me to even have gone in. She sorta just left the room. I went to the recep and said, whilst in tears, I am not paying for that. She agreed dn actually answered some of my quest...

oceanbabe · oceanbabe

Hi everyone! My name is Shelley and I am here b/c my boyfriend who is a recovering alcoholic has asked me to try to get help to better understand what he is going through and some insight so I don't feel so left in the dark. I have to admit I was really reluctant to get involved b/c in the four months w...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Come on, now.....get out the Toby Keith CD's, country music stations......... I Wanna Talk About Me! We talk about your work how your boss is a jerk We talk about your church and your head when it hurts (?) We talk about the troubles you've been having with your brother About your da...

tullemars · tullemars

I don't know if I want her to come back. My kids and I are finally relaxing and my older ones don't want her back right now. She has caused a lot of pain. Financial burdens. Mental scars. I know it was my fault for not getting her out of the house sooner. I don't want her back. I need time to he...

Phil · Phil

Affirmations What are negative self-scripts? Before we can become self-affirming, we need to learn about the effects of negativism in our lives. Negative self-scripts are the: Negative beliefs you have about yourself and of which you remind yourself daily. Negative statements about yourself w...

wille · wille

Hello all, First I would say thank you for dreams / prayer / thoughts to Josh. He keeps getting better. He went from a coma state to walking now in a short amount of time. He's not out of the woods quite yet, except he's made most miraclous responses to his treatment. Again, tha...

Phil · Phil

What is trust? Trust is: Letting others know your feelings, emotions and reactions, and having the confidence in them to respect you and to not take advantage of you. Sharing your inner feelings and thoughts with others with the belief that they will not spread them indiscriminately....

elizabeth · elizabeth

Tell me who your best friends are, and I will tell you who you are. If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl. But, if you associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar to great heights. "A mirror reflects a man's face, but what he is really like is shown by the kind of friends he chooses." The simp...

elizabeth · elizabeth

I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR.......... I am responsible for myself. I am responsible for leading or not living my life. I am responsible for tending to my spiritual, emotional, physical, and financial well-being. I am responsible for identifying and meetin...

megan · megan

I went canoeing on the Delware river on Saturday and Sunday with my family and the Boy scout troop that my brother helps out with 7 of the 10 of us siblings went. (Most were in town from all over for my sisters law school graduation) It was great fun and the first time I had ever canoed on the river. T...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends! It is good to be back to this site! When I first left I said I would be back in 3 to 5 days,,,,but,,,,it was hard for me to leave my parents once I was with them. As I said before, my mom has alzheimers and my dad is in congestive heart failure and can't breathe well (but does not require oxygen...

jennybear35 · jennybear35

I am new here and going through depression because I just had another 'episode' with my family. My father is an alcoholic and growing up was very abusive, especially towards me. He would come home yelling for hours and I hit about 15 years old and would start telling him to stop. I started talking back an...

debilyn · debilyn

I have a doc app. at 11:45 today. There is something not right in my left breast. I feel like I am going to throw up. I had a mammogram not long ago that was negative. My mom was murdered by it in 2000. Doctor is concerned becuz of my other symptoms of bone problems The first place it goe...

jj · jj

take a look at the steps explained they might help. They helpped me they are back a bit you signed off before I could asy bye

Talk with insperational AA member · jj

So I have mentioned that I have met an interventionist and today I spoke to him again. He gives me so much insperation and helps so much. I feel great!!! He told many things to help me communicate to my husband. Being honest and laying it ALL on the line for him and asking him what he wants out o...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Am taking a little R and R this week, going off in truck with hubby tomorrow, gettin myself out of the house and all that. Mastiff has graciously agreed to chair the Thursday night Step meeting for me....thank you Mastiff! Will miss you all. Think I really need this break though.&n...

jessi · jessi

Lately I am shutting out people who are not healthy for me. This is new behavior for me because I typically will be less willing to let go of people I think I need in my life. This exercise is self-discipline and listening to my HP has been good and bad. I don't want to fall into isolating but I also a...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi everyone, I hope you all enjoyed the holiday weekend. It was kind of peaceful here. The kids where coming and going, but we got a lot of work done on the yard getting ready for graduation and prom. (ouch! it snuck up so fast. I am stocking up on tissues though, as I get teary eyed thinking of it. Where di...

iona54 · iona54

I love this story about life and what we choose. Hope it helps some of you. hugs iona54 Two Wolves One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son, the battle is between 2 "wolves" inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy...

lebe27 · lebe27

Living with an A is a tough road, especially if they are active. Early in our relationship when my A was active he caused me and my family alot of distress. After 9 months together he took off on me to Las Vegas, stealing items of mine and selling them to make his trip possible. Due to th...

mamasan · mamasan

Hi I just wondered how I could get an avitar? I think they're cute .... thanks!

gknee · gknee

Hi- Had to come check in--I don't come here enough, but I'm glad this board is always waiting for us. Its kind of like my quote on the wall that says "When we lose God, it is not God who is lost" This weekend I left my husband at home with his bottle of Vicodan, while I took the kids to an out of town socc...

funnygirl · funnygirl

Hi Y'all.... I'm new to these boards and new to the situation in my life. A few months ago I starting dating and am falling in love with a man who has been sober now for 17 years. He's committed to his sobriety and I'm behind that 100% and more than willing to do whatever it takes. I've...

Donna · Donna

Hi, I stumbled across this board online tonight. I have been married to my husband for 15 years. We met through friends and all of us used to go out to the bars/dance clubs on a regular basis back then. My husband & I started dating and it was instant attraction, within a...

Jeanne789 · Jeanne789

I just need to vent tonight. I am in the middle of a family crisis, but do I get any emotional support from my A? No. My Mom, who is 93 years old, had a heart attack and is in the hospital. The doctors have said the end is near, and so family has been coming and rallying around us. ...

Powerless · Powerless

I finally made a decision. Many of you may recall that i was having a difficult time deciding whether or not I want my husband to move out. After much talking and watching him make efforts to change, I have decided that I am not ready to throw away our marriage. I love him. I have...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

God has a funny sense of humor he places us on this planet filled with beautiful things he places us on this planet with alcohol and drugs We were all small innocent children and knew nothing of the kind but as we grew we were thrown choices along the way some chose to grow in God and s...

elizabeth · elizabeth

> Do you find that a lot of your negative thoughts begin with the words > "What-if?" Does one anxious thought lead to another and another - only to > become a negative spiral of worry? When this happens, you're probably > using what-if thinking. > > WHAT IS "WHAT-IF" THINKING? > &...

cdb · cdb

Hell sooner, I am missing you! Let me know how things are going with you when you read this? your friend in recovery, cdb :)

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	1st time ever admitting a problem (Preview) Yesterday was another binge day for A (husband) this one over 9 hours. I've been posting about this for a while. That binging once a week like clock work ever since a good friend got killed in an auto accident about 2 months ago. I have been trying to stop the screaming and crying when he comes home. I did re...	whatif	2	880	Jun 4, 2005 by wallsal55
	THIS WORK DAY (Preview) I am going to try and not call my husband. It is going to be a very hard thing to do. I love to call him and see how he is doing. I love to hear his voice. It is going to be min to min for me. I am hoping by my help of my higher power. I don't why it is so diffuclt for me to stop calling him. When he goes to his meeting I am...	nycbt	4	715	Jun 4, 2005 by txmom
	that 4 letter F word..... (Preview) FEAR Hey now I gotcha to read my post with that topic didn't I!!!!!!! Just what kinda ladie did you think i was anyway? Know what I think about fear? I think it's a great big coward. Sure some fear has a bit of a big head and shows itself openly, but for the most part, I have found that...	mastiff	2	614	Jun 4, 2005 by txmom
	just sharing some ways of dealing with the burdens of life: (Preview) - Accept that some days you're the pigeon, and some days you're the statue. - Always keep your words soft and sweet, just in case you have to eat them. - Always read stuff that will ma...	elizabeth	1	810	Jun 4, 2005 by lin0606
	Feel like I am sinking (Preview) I feel like I am in the middle of a great big ocean and am sinking. I feel a deep depression coming on and am not sure what to do. I just feel so lost. I am looking for all of the wrong things in all of the wrong places. I feel irritable and moody. Doctor upped my Prozac. ...	Powerless	5	664	Jun 4, 2005 by Jolert
	preparing for the weekend.... (Preview) Hi again, I wrote about 3-4 days ago and got wonderful feedback. I have a husband, married for 15 yrs. who is an alcholic, but doesn't drink on a daily basis--likes to spend his time at his uncle's bar for HOURS/DAYS at a time.. Anyway, he's been off work on a workman's comp case for over a year now...	Donna	2	791	Jun 3, 2005 by Donna
	Am I Wrong (Preview) I am a social drinker. I will have a drink once every 3 months. It will only be 2 drinks and thats it. I grew up around an alcoholic and now husband is working on quitting. We both go to f2f meetings. Last night I had 1 drink and I felt guilty about having it. I know I shouldn't feel guilty since I can cont...	dis5	5	1016	Jun 3, 2005 by tiredtonite
	A poem from my alcoholic birth-father in prison (Preview) I'm adopted, and decided long ago never to contact my birth-parents. However, when my biological father sent me a letter, via the adoption agency, an inner struggle started and gave birth to an idea. I asked the agency if we could use them to correspond anonymously, and they agreed. My biological f...	Parker	1	920	Jun 3, 2005 by dis5
	thank you (Preview) Thank you to everyone that have answered my post. I have learn alot from everyone. This program by posting has helped me so much. With everyone sharing there experiences with me it has been great. For the new comers keep posting your feeling and you will learn from what the people are saying. It might be...	nycbt	1	600	Jun 3, 2005 by lin0606
	Obsessive Thoughts.... (Preview) I posted the following as a response to another topic and thought I'd start it as a topic because I found this very interesting... I'd like to recommend a book by Neil Anderson, Victory Over The Darkness, A Battle For The Mind.... Basically, we are to take each thought captive as we begin to have the...	sanddie	0	658	Jun 3, 2005 by sanddie
	my marriage (Preview) When I meet my husband 5 + yrs ago we used to fight something awful. We would get into physical fights. I would throw things, bite him and we would fight in the car. In the begin of time he was doing drugs and drinking. I wasn't aware he was doing drug until later on when I started to find stuff around the hou...	nycbt	1	779	Jun 3, 2005 by nycbt
	looking to widen my support system (Preview) My name is Becky I just started Alanon six months ago. My husband and just got married about 10 months ago. We have know each for over 5 yrs going on 6 in aug. I am looking for a person with experience to talk to and help me through the program. If you are interested e-mail me nycbt@yahoo.com. I am looking f...	nycbt	1	685	Jun 3, 2005 by De Anna
	Accepting Personal Responsibility (Preview) What is accepting personal responsibility? Accepting personal responsibility includes: Acknowledging that you are solely responsible for the choices in your life. Accepting that you are responsible for what you choose to feel or think. Accepting that you choose the direction for your life. Ac...	Phil	0	3073	Jun 3, 2005 by Phil
	always calling (Preview) I have a problem always calling my husband. He has started to get mad at me an told me that I am stalking him. When we first meet he was living at the house where the women was jelously that he liked me so she didn't want him seeing me. I wanted to see him so bad I would drive by the house in hopes of seeing him. I...	nycbt	10	852	Jun 3, 2005 by sanddie
	MEETING SCHEDULE (Preview) MEETING SCHEDULE & GUIDELINES - JUNE 1, 2005 AM Mon - tiredtonite/Shimo Tue - Shimo/wille Wed - kerry5/no alt Thurs - wille/no alt Fri - Mastiff/no alt Sat - Greta/Teddybearpoet...	shimo	0	628	Jun 3, 2005 by shimo
	About email (Preview) Can someone explain the differences for Email Visible to Other Members between: Yes, email visible No, and don't accept email No, accept email anonymously please? I would really like to know the difference. Lanchas	Lanchas	1	507	Jun 2, 2005 by Maria123
	Not in chatroom or here right now because.... (Preview) Hi all, Our home computer has once again crashed (second time this year!) : ( So if anyone was wondering why I am no where to be found, that is the reason. I am posting this from the puter at work which I cannot be on for long periods of time, so that is why I have not...	DanaAngel	1	627	Jun 2, 2005 by megan
	that "funk" (Preview) Is there a name for that attitude that my alcoholic gets before he starts drinking sometimes? Have any of you experienced it? Maybe it's something that I make up, but sometimes I can tell before he gets a drink that drinking is on his mind. He wants to pick arguments, push...	mariposa	5	725	Jun 2, 2005 by Jill
	Please pray for my son (Preview) Good Morning, My son will be going to court, he really needs to get on with his life, whatever the outcome will be. I am posting because I am feeling so nervous, and I know that it will calm me to express what I am feeling this morning. Last night I went to my therapy, and when I came home there we...	teddybear	6	718	Jun 2, 2005 by teddybear
	How do I mind my own business?? (Preview) Hey everyone, This weekend was very tough, but good. I slipped and recovered my program all in 3 days time. Actually I slipped more but oh well. Friday night my a spent most of his night at his drinking hang out, although he came home not so bad but they smoke po...	holly123	5	878	Jun 2, 2005 by nycbt
	Good Talk With Hubby (Preview) So as I mentioned in my last post that the interventionis I met gave me the much needed support and encouragement to talk to my husband and it worked. Last night when I had the oppertunity and didn't chicken out, which is huge for me because usually I think about it and get my self all worked up about...	jj	7	585	Jun 2, 2005 by jj
	Vulnerability (Preview) What is Vulnerability? What is vulnerability? *Vulnerability is:* Feeling of being exposed to emotional hurt, being taken advantage of, or abused. Feeling of being fragile, weak, or susceptible to emotional pain and suffering. Feeling of being trapped or imprisoned in a situation where yo...	Phil	0	940	Jun 2, 2005 by Phil
	I"m looking for a sponser (Preview) I am looking for a sponser e-mail me and we will get to know each other first, I am wanting a sponser to guild me through the 12 steps. if your into taking a sponcie e-mail me then we'll go from there......use title "sponser from Al-anon" mandy0002@hotmail.com -- Edited by mandy_loves_...	mandy_loves_GOD	2	1012	Jun 2, 2005 by mandy_loves_GOD
	anyone without kids??? (Preview) gawd...I feel like I am the only one around here with out kids. And then that makes me feel like my situation is very isolated....even more so. Makes me think how can anyone possibly relate? How can I relate to folks going through this with kids? Makes me feel incrediably alo...	GirlSkates	9	730	Jun 2, 2005 by nycbt
	my friend of 16 yrs (Preview) I have been friends with this guy friend for 16 yrs. At times he has been the only friend that I have counted on and took advice from. When I was having problems with the man I was going out with who I have married he has been jelously of me. He was the first guy I dated as kids so it really wasn't. He has always ha...	nycbt	4	855	Jun 2, 2005 by nycbt
	Frustration... (Preview) Hiya Everyone, I am having a really hard time with patience lately. As many of you know I am in the process of buying 1st house. Everything was going very well until late last week when we hit a snag for closing. Closing got pushed back 3 days. There is an issue with the apprai...	AlaMom	2	508	Jun 2, 2005 by Doreanmsloan
	Daughter is Out Of Control Lately (Preview) Just needed to vent, as my daughter who is 16 years old has suddenly in the last 2 months began to be tardy at school, which led to full days skipped, and now tonight is the 2nd night this week that she has not come home and I've had to file a runaway report. :( The scariest part about all of this is tha...	sanddie	3	788	Jun 2, 2005 by sanddie
	Alcohol (Preview) I heard this song on a country station the other day and just had to look up the lyrics. It made me laugh in an ironic way - since lately (even though I have been TRYING to work the program) my life is pretty much consumed with thoughts about drinking and alcohol and drunkenness..... So, I had...	mariposa	12	1482	Jun 2, 2005 by mariposa
	the yellow shirt (Preview) THE YELLOW SHIRT The baggy yellow shirt had long sleeves, four extra-large pockets trimmed in black thread and snaps up the front. It was faded from years of wear, but still in decent shape. I found it in 1963 when I was home from college on Christmas break, rummaging through bags of c...	elizabeth	0	869	Jun 2, 2005 by elizabeth
	UPDATE (Preview) For my parents: My dad is an active a and he doesn't show any time of wanting to stop. He drinks alot of scotch. My mom is getting to the point where she wants him to go to a rehab or aa or she says she is going to leave. My father suffers from health problems. My mom and my dad went to Florida to see the problems th...	nycbt	1	675	Jun 2, 2005 by jj
	me and progress (Preview) Hi Everyone I finally made it I am working on step two. I am happy that I made it. I have a long way to go but I finally moved up at step. For my parents: My dad is an active a and he doesn't show any time of wanting to stop. He drinks alot of scotch. My mom is getting to the point where she wants him to go to a reha...	nycbt	3	571	Jun 1, 2005 by TLC2
	update (Preview) The PA I saw was ineffective and said you need to come back and see your doctor. My doc will be gone 3 weeks. It was stupid for me to even have gone in. She sorta just left the room. I went to the recep and said, whilst in tears, I am not paying for that. She agreed dn actually answered some of my quest...	debilyn	10	607	Jun 1, 2005 by cdb
	New, lost, and confused! (Preview) Hi everyone! My name is Shelley and I am here b/c my boyfriend who is a recovering alcoholic has asked me to try to get help to better understand what he is going through and some insight so I don't feel so left in the dark. I have to admit I was really reluctant to get involved b/c in the four months w...	oceanbabe	7	598	Jun 1, 2005 by lin0606
	Summer Kick-off Singalong ! : ) (Preview) Come on, now.....get out the Toby Keith CD's, country music stations......... I Wanna Talk About Me! We talk about your work how your boss is a jerk We talk about your church and your head when it hurts (?) We talk about the troubles you've been having with your brother About your da...	wallsal55	0	553	Jun 1, 2005 by wallsal55
	She is in Rehab (Preview) I don't know if I want her to come back. My kids and I are finally relaxing and my older ones don't want her back right now. She has caused a lot of pain. Financial burdens. Mental scars. I know it was my fault for not getting her out of the house sooner. I don't want her back. I need time to he...	tullemars	3	578	Jun 1, 2005 by lin0606
	Affermations and Negative Self Scripts (Preview) Affirmations What are negative self-scripts? Before we can become self-affirming, we need to learn about the effects of negativism in our lives. *Negative self-scripts are the:* Negative beliefs you have about yourself and of which you remind yourself daily. Negative statements about yourself w...	Phil	1	1029	Jun 1, 2005 by Peggy7
	Thoughts to Josh in the UK (Preview) Hello all, First I would say thank you for dreams / prayer / thoughts to Josh. He keeps getting better. He went from a coma state to walking now in a short amount of time. He's not out of the woods quite yet, except he's made most miraclous responses to his treatment. Again, tha...	wille	1	480	Jun 1, 2005 by jj
	What Is Trust? (Preview) What is trust? Trust is: Letting others know your feelings, emotions and reactions, and having the confidence in them to respect you and to not take advantage of you. Sharing your inner feelings and thoughts with others with the belief that they will not spread them indiscriminately....	Phil	0	653	Jun 1, 2005 by Phil
	THE COMPANY YOU KEEP (Preview) Tell me who your best friends are, and I will tell you who you are. If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl. But, if you associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar to great heights. "A mirror reflects a man's face, but what he is really like is shown by the kind of friends he chooses." The simp...	elizabeth	3	657	Jun 1, 2005 by nycbt
	I am responsible for....... (Preview) I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR.......... I am responsible for myself. I am responsible for leading or not living my life. I am responsible for tending to my spiritual, emotional, physical, and financial well-being. I am responsible for identifying and meetin...	elizabeth	4	614	Jun 1, 2005 by nycbt
	The rapids (Preview) I went canoeing on the Delware river on Saturday and Sunday with my family and the Boy scout troop that my brother helps out with 7 of the 10 of us siblings went. (Most were in town from all over for my sisters law school graduation) It was great fun and the first time I had ever canoed on the river. T...	megan	3	815	Jun 1, 2005 by nycbt
	I am back after 2 weeks away! (Preview) Hello friends! It is good to be back to this site! When I first left I said I would be back in 3 to 5 days,,,,but,,,,it was hard for me to leave my parents once I was with them. As I said before, my mom has alzheimers and my dad is in congestive heart failure and can't breathe well (but does not require oxygen...	cdb	7	954	Jun 1, 2005 by wille
	Disowning my Family for Good?? Help! (Preview) I am new here and going through depression because I just had another 'episode' with my family. My father is an alcoholic and growing up was very abusive, especially towards me. He would come home yelling for hours and I hit about 15 years old and would start telling him to stop. I started talking back an...	jennybear35	2	820	Jun 1, 2005 by wille
	Maybe a prayer please (Preview) I have a doc app. at 11:45 today. There is something not right in my left breast. I feel like I am going to throw up. I had a mammogram not long ago that was negative. My mom was murdered by it in 2000. Doctor is concerned becuz of my other symptoms of bone problems The first place it goe...	debilyn	5	530	Jun 1, 2005 by jj
	buggs (Preview) take a look at the steps explained they might help. They helpped me they are back a bit you signed off before I could asy bye	jj	0	435	Jun 1, 2005 by jj
	Talk with insperational AA member (Preview) So I have mentioned that I have met an interventionist and today I spoke to him again. He gives me so much insperation and helps so much. I feel great!!! He told many things to help me communicate to my husband. Being honest and laying it ALL on the line for him and asking him what he wants out o...	jj	2	786	Jun 1, 2005 by jj
	Gone for the week (Preview) Am taking a little R and R this week, going off in truck with hubby tomorrow, gettin myself out of the house and all that. Mastiff has graciously agreed to chair the Thursday night Step meeting for me....thank you Mastiff! Will miss you all. Think I really need this break though.&n...	kismetstrand	6	569	May 31, 2005 by Maria123
	trying to find my way (Preview) Lately I am shutting out people who are not healthy for me. This is new behavior for me because I typically will be less willing to let go of people I think I need in my life. This exercise is self-discipline and listening to my HP has been good and bad. I don't want to fall into isolating but I also a...	jessi	3	547	May 31, 2005 by sanddie
	Till death do us part (Preview) Hi everyone, I hope you all enjoyed the holiday weekend. It was kind of peaceful here. The kids where coming and going, but we got a lot of work done on the yard getting ready for graduation and prom. (ouch! it snuck up so fast. I am stocking up on tissues though, as I get teary eyed thinking of it. Where di...	Jeannie	6	590	May 31, 2005 by megan
	2 Wolves (Preview) I love this story about life and what we choose. Hope it helps some of you. hugs iona54 Two Wolves One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son, the battle is between 2 "wolves" inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy...	iona54	3	508	May 31, 2005 by mariposa
	Family Acceptance (Preview) Living with an A is a tough road, especially if they are active. Early in our relationship when my A was active he caused me and my family alot of distress. After 9 months together he took off on me to Las Vegas, stealing items of mine and selling them to make his trip possible. Due to th...	lebe27	1	522	May 31, 2005 by Powerless
	avitars?? (Preview) Hi I just wondered how I could get an avitar? I think they're cute .... thanks!	mamasan	1	529	May 31, 2005 by oceanbabe
	Peaceful but Crabby (Preview) Hi- Had to come check in--I don't come here enough, but I'm glad this board is always waiting for us. Its kind of like my quote on the wall that says "When we lose God, it is not God who is lost" This weekend I left my husband at home with his bottle of Vicodan, while I took the kids to an out of town socc...	gknee	2	444	May 31, 2005 by jessi
	New Territory - Any Words of Wisdom? (Preview) Hi Y'all.... I'm new to these boards and new to the situation in my life. A few months ago I starting dating and am falling in love with a man who has been sober now for 17 years. He's committed to his sobriety and I'm behind that 100% and more than willing to do whatever it takes. I've...	funnygirl	5	942	May 31, 2005 by funnygirl
	Help, I'm losing my mind.. (Preview) Hi, I stumbled across this board online tonight. I have been married to my husband for 15 years. We met through friends and all of us used to go out to the bars/dance clubs on a regular basis back then. My husband & I started dating and it was instant attraction, within a...	Donna	10	584	May 31, 2005 by TLC2
	No Emotional Support (Preview) I just need to vent tonight. I am in the middle of a family crisis, but do I get any emotional support from my A? No. My Mom, who is 93 years old, had a heart attack and is in the hospital. The doctors have said the end is near, and so family has been coming and rallying around us. ...	Jeanne789	3	513	May 31, 2005 by Jeannie
	I made my decision (Preview) I finally made a decision. Many of you may recall that i was having a difficult time deciding whether or not I want my husband to move out. After much talking and watching him make efforts to change, I have decided that I am not ready to throw away our marriage. I love him. I have...	Powerless	1	725	May 31, 2005 by Jeannie
	God's Gifts? (Preview) God has a funny sense of humor he places us on this planet filled with beautiful things he places us on this planet with alcohol and drugs We were all small innocent children and knew nothing of the kind but as we grew we were thrown choices along the way some chose to grow in God and s...	jrtjosey	1	493	May 31, 2005 by sue2
	Beating the "What-if" Blues - By Deanne Repich (Preview) > Do you find that a lot of your negative thoughts begin with the words > "What-if?" Does one anxious thought lead to another and another - only to > become a negative spiral of worry? When this happens, you're probably > using what-if thinking. > > WHAT IS "WHAT-IF" THINKING? > &...	elizabeth	0	623	May 31, 2005 by elizabeth
	Sooner,,,,where are you????? (Preview) Hell sooner, I am missing you! Let me know how things are going with you when you read this? your friend in recovery, cdb :)	cdb	0	420	May 30, 2005 by cdb
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