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TLC2 · TLC2

some of you have read that my A is back to drinking. I have been doing some soul-searching, and I'm glad that he is gone. I am enjoying my peace. My daughter and her family were here today, and I really enjoyed them. My son called, worried. I guess they were quite surprised at my serenity. Thanks t...

Maria123 · Maria123

Hi everyone, Would love some input on sponsorship -- some of your experiences -- if you have them to share. My experiences are based on my relationship with my sponsor. She really believed in program, as do I. I came to Al Anon because I knew something had to give -- mainly ME.&nbs...

NottaClu · NottaClu

Hi.. My name is Jessyca. I am 32 with three children of my own and I have been married to my husband for about three years. He is an alcoholic and a drug addict.... to give him credit he is trying to recover. I wish he would join at least AA or something... but ...

kathy570 · kathy570

Sun Aug 7 Good Morning All. This AA piece has saved me many a day. Feel free to copy. YESTERDAY.....TODAY AND TOMORROW There are two days in every week about which we should not worry, two days whould shoud be kept from fear and apprehension. One of these days is YESTERDAY wit...

debilyn · debilyn

HI all, I told you that my daughter Raini is pg. She is 30 and on her way to get her masters to teach at a university. She met a young man, very cute, looks a lot like her father who died when she was 4. He also is an alcoholic, 22, already had dui, lost jobs, evicted, black outs, you say a red flag his d...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

I have been reading some wonderful posts of ESH (experience, strength and hope). Want to thank all of you for sharing with us here!! One common thing I keep seeing is the talk about the Blaming. How the A blames us for everything. (Typical alcoholic behavior - not wanting to take...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Hi (((((Diva))))) Thanks for your reply to my post below on Taking responsibility for our behavior. I can understand and appreciate your viewpoint - and what I wanted to do was just reply and say that I was not saying my A is not responsible for his part. Just as I am responsible for how I a...

Mandi · Mandi

I think we can all relate to this one, in some form. ~Mandi~ Where have you gone, my Bobby, my boy, Oh where, oh where are you bound? The masters of greed have their hands on you; You're nowhere to be found. Your body is here, my Bobby, my boy, I see it every day; But your soul has gone into slavery And ca...

kitty · kitty

It really is amazing how much of the program spills into every other aspect of my life, each day it is getting a little clearer & I am happy with my own progress. Six days ago, my mom sd the A called me unmotivated - it hurt & kinda 'threw me for a loop'. And he wrote back to me (when I e-mailed him a an...

dadrrb1 · dadrrb1

Prayer of St. Francis of Assisi Lord, Make me an instument of your peace, where there is hatred let me sow love; where there is injury, pardon; where there is doubt, faith; where there is despair, hope; where there is darkness, light, and where there is sadnes, joy...

kathy570 · kathy570

If you are not to far away - maybe you could join us. Southern Ontario Al Anon - District 4 Al Anon Day Sept. 17, 2005 Begins at 8:30 AM Trinity United Church 400 Stevenson Road Guelph, Ontario $ 5.00 - Lucnh Included Be nice to meet some of you face to face

Yours in Re...

sanddie · sanddie

Well, the decision was made tonight to allow my daughter who just got out of a 45 day inpatient rehabilitation center go live with her Dad, who is not in recovery and continues to avoid accepting the consequences of his actions. My daughter has been irrate, disrespectful, and many times outrag...

Tammy · Tammy

Today is Friday August 5th and i just returned home from a funeral. My husband is a firefighter and one of his fellow firefighters was killed in a boating accident. You guessed it ALCOHOL was involved. It was pretty gruesome and it was a very sad funeral. I guess, I am more angry than sad. These guys a...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

This is the first time I have posted here. I have been in alanon for a few months now and I feel that I am making some progress. The problem is that my husband isn't. He is an active alcoholic and has been making my life a living hell. At any given moment he can go off for no reason at...

cdb · cdb

Hello TC, Please contact me. I was not able to get you into PM like you requested in the room. ((((((((((((TC))))))))) I will be online for awhile waiting for you if you need me. cdb

kerry5 · kerry5

IF Tomorrow Starts Without Me If Tomorrow starts without me.... A few weeks ago a woman teacher was killed in an auto accident. She was very, very well liked, so the school systems shut down for her funeral and it was on the news and so on. On the day the workers came back to work...

LLPluv · LLPluv

Before I start please get your coffee, tea, soda or cigs this is going to be a long one. I have never told my story all in one peice and I might forget alot but I will try and tell it all. I am doing this for healing. I need to see how things were and how they became what they are. I might find some sense in it or othe...

kitty · kitty

These are the words to a song, it is so codependent! Now that my mind is getting a hair better (microscopic steps forward) I am noticing codependent lyrics more & more. Music is really healing - I used to play music all the time. I am so far from the way I used to be, I don't resemble...

megan · megan

I will not be able to chair the Sunday 7pm meeting on August 7 or August 14. I will be on vacation with family. I found out that there is no internet access where I am going. :( If someone could cover for me I would appreciate it. I will try to see if my aircard will work but cannot know if it wi...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

What we discussed yesterday is done and should be in Lincoln tomorrow by noon. josey

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Saw your reply to another post and just wanted to give you a Big Welcome to our Miracles In Progress family Guy!! Glad you are here! With program love, Kis

Peggy7 · Peggy7

I Got Flowers Today We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said, because he sent me flowers today. I got flowers today. It wasn't our anniversary or any other...

marmare · marmare

I just spoke to my A. It makes me sad to know he is battling a battle on his own. He is on his way home from work, it's Thursday, and at our house that's Pizza night. The last few weeks I have had to do the ordering, when in the past it has been his and the boys thing. He gets home about 3...

Mandi · Mandi

Let God Have His Way May the grace of God keep you, and his arms support you still May his riches supply your needs, may you stay centered in his will. Let God's spirit work through you, and his wisdom make you wise. Let his mighty hands mold you, and make you perfect in his eyes....

kathy570 · kathy570

Acceptance Pg 449 from the AA Big Book And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, or situation - some fact of my life - unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation a...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

It just struck me today that I have been with/on the MIP alanon message board for three years now, and I need to celebrate a little tonight as the steamy temperatures here subside into a cooler evening! Wow, anyone else know how long they've been on board? ...

wmed · wmed

I am posting after attending an online meeting a realizing that I need to be in these"rooms" of recovery. People have smiles and love. I want that for myself and it needs to start with me. My Brother is an A. The first time he hit a bottom he went and worked a bit of recovery and the family and myself did a...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Hiya (((((((everyone))))) For the past 2 weeks I have been doing a great job of giving away my serenity to my husband. Many behaviors are rearing their ugly head. My husband who has been I believe to be sober since October of last year has not been active in his program for a while. ...

cdb · cdb

What can I say. I had a phone call from a man that said he found my daughter's cell phone on a busy street. He is dropping it by later. Then I was awakened from my nap (after 2 hours of sleep last night) by an old friend of my daughters. She called him from the cell phone at 4:45am and he was sleepin...

Cobrien1976 · Cobrien1976

What a scary yet warm feeling to read posts and feel as though they were all written by you. Everyone of them rings true to how my life is. I am married to an alcoholic for 3 years. I think I always knew he was but he was so great otherwise, that I tried to convince myself he wasnt. I left him twice before...

marmare · marmare

Trying times, the cycle of the A’s behavior is overwhelming at times. My A is getting worse, it saddens me to see this man I love self-destruct. He called me yesterday and told me he was playing 9 holes of golf, should be done in an hour or hour and a half at most and then would head home, that wa...

afglin · afglin

I have a legal question and I am guessing somebody here has been through something similar and can answer me. I have a friend who is in an abusive marriage. (betings with a belt, black eyes, etc) She asked me a week ago if I'd pick her up today and take het to get a protective order against...

Sallen · Sallen

To My Son, Love Mom I put it in my God box and tucked it way inside My fears and tears and long lost dreams, I put them there to hide I left it in a corner in a closet down the hall And asked my Higher Power to come and take it all The burden was too heavy; I kept falling on the way, So...

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LLPluv · LLPluv

Ok I know I am new to all this. But I am almost so frustrated I feel like my soul will burst open. I have heard on board that if you have expectations of your A it will creat resentments. This is how I see it. I know it will be just a stage I am going through and will make it someday to understand. I fe...

Becka · Becka

I have now been separated from my A for about 5 or 6 weeks. I can actually see the difference in him for he is getting better. But I am not. I still feel stressed when I see him. Or maybe I just still see the hurt he did to me. He is trying to be honest of all the stuff he did (behind my back) but I don’t know if he is te...

dove · dove

Today started out better. "A" talked – actually opened up a little bit --- this morning. As a result, we got on better today. I didn’t feel like he was just lying, denying and withholding. He went to his meeting today and is now in the kitchen cooking dinner. This is the first time in a...

Tammy · Tammy

I attended my first f2f meeting Sunday night. I am new to Al-Anon however, not new to the disease of alcohol. My husband of nearly 19 years is an A and has been most of his life. We married very young and I remember loving him so much. I knew he was broken but i was determined to love him enough to mend...

Heather1 · Heather1

I'm not wasting one more day of my life walking on egg shells and trying to figure out how to be a better wife to my A husband! I filed for divorce last month and he still doesn't get it. He blames me 100%... typical denial and abuse! For 17 years I've watched him drink and drink; verball...

beachbaby · beachbaby

Hi Everyone: First off, I am so grateful I found Al-Anon and this place----I have been coming here daily for about a month, although I dont post much I find strength and learning from others who seem to have been working this program longer than I. I am attending local meetings 2-3 nights a we...

lin0606 · lin0606

In some thread in the last few days, someone said something like "It helps the newbies to see that even the veterans can sometimes slip". I just wanted to say how much I agree with that. One of the best things in this program, for me, is that we are all helping each other. There is no real hierarchy - no all...

mom to 2 · mom to 2

My A--who's been gone for 11 days just showed up yesterday. Begging for mercy--"I don't want to be like this, I hate this, I need help" yadda, yadda. I kept asking him to leave and he started saying it's my house too and stuff like that. During the 11 days I couldn't get him on th...

Tammy · Tammy

4 days ago I left my husband of nearly 19 years. You see, my husband abuses alcohol. This is not a new thing, however it is that I have taken a stand. My husband and I married very young, he was just 18 and I was 19. We had a child within 1 year. Our marriage has not been easy we have had trials all along the wa...

michimoon · michimoon

this is my first day with miracles, and my first time ever to post a message anywhere.. my A is my husband, he is drunk 2 or 3 times a week, he starts drinking and cannot stop till he falls asleep. he will not go to AA he says its a cult. i divorced him in 98 because i was ashamed and embarrassed by him at all my f...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends :) Thanks to some very thoughtful kind compassionate members, I was able to hold myself together in pm-private message tonite. I understand how important it is for some of us to ask for pm when the room is not helpful or picking up on an urgent need. I did let go and let god bu...

LLPluv · LLPluv

I had finally came to my limit last week which I am referring to my Post "First Time asking for Help" This is what has happened since. That night I talked with my kids they agreed that if it took asking their father to leave they would agree with it. He always tells me he will pack the kids up and leave. So...

Sallen · Sallen

Step One We admitted we were powerless I choked on those first words My job was to fix everything That admission was absurd The harder that I struggled The tighter my world got It wasn’t my addiction I had to make you stop My life was utter chaos Of cours...

kitty · kitty

Many of you I was very angry Sunday, as I had to vent in the chat room

After 3 weeks, I have made little progress (I'm trying to focus on me!) but we have seen signs that the A isn't taking his program seriously or to heart. It is sad to realize some ppl really do have to lose everythi...

kerry5 · kerry5

I wrote this share last month. didnt share it. I finished the end of it today. Just my feelings There isnt a second of my life i regret living, Not that i wanted everything that happened in my life to happen. Ive learnt that everything that happens isnt always about you. Everything isnt alway...

cdb · cdb

Hello Dolphin, Gosh! I missed you in chat last night and felt bad I never said hi to you or found out how you were doing. (((((((((Dolphin))))) I had company and the beer drinking husband was yapping away at me :) I couldn't figure out whether to give him eye contact or give the room eye contact.&...

marmare · marmare

Hi All, I feel so tired today, after all the stress of the last two weeks it seems that I just need a nap. LOL Here I am at work thinking I can’t wait to get home and lay down. My A spent some time with his buddy last night, the two of them drinking talking about his buddy’s dad having to be mo...

holly123 · holly123

Hi all, I am kinda in a state of confustion and not sure how to react or not react. I am so glad I have this forum and wish I applied myself more. It is so helpful to be here and yet I don't come very often. Some of it is my busy life and the other is just plain laziness. ...

Belongtome · Belongtome

Yep...I have one, a day's serenity, amidst all the problems and pressure. But, it bothers me that I'm only able to have it when my A is "behaving normally". I must need to work even harder on detachment. Anyone can find a level of serenity at times like these, but when everything goes hay...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, I had to find a new email site since my other one about ruined my computer this week. I lost all my emails and addresses. If you would like me to have your email address again please email it to me here in the private message email by clicking my cdb name on or pm me in the...

mollyann · mollyann

Hi cdb, I don't know why my messages aren't posting. Here is my email: bluegrey@adelphia.net mollyann -- Edited by mollyann at 09:53, 2005-08-03

heartless39470 · heartless39470

I have always heard that an Alcoholic has to fall on his face to want to make the change.... Does the same go for us. In the past week I have had a lot of life changing things happen in my life. Right now I feel like my world is caving in around me. So I am thinking, is it my time, have I fallen on my face. I need the t...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

I'm sure all of us go through these time with our A when we have just had enough of their bull and get so completly angry at them, the kids, ourselves, and the world. In the last couple of weeks I've noticed that I have some unchecked anger. I find myself really getting bent out of shape over small thi...

cabecka · cabecka

I want to make a post about my appreciation for all the members of MIP- young and old, new and veteran. We are such a cohesive group, we help each other through the toughest of times, and we are there to laugh together when times are good. Each of us has something meaningful to contribute from the day we com...

Powerless · Powerless

I just wanted to check in. It seems that when things are going well, I forget to work on my recovery. Things aren't going well, but at least we are not in a crisis. My husband went to detox last weekend (something he swore he would never do.) I think he did it because he knew in his heart that I...

debilyn · debilyn

Well uno I saw A last Sunday. Said he would call. Did not hold my breath. Was hoping though. Today was his day off so really thought he would call. nope. Honestly? yep yep yep, broke my heart more. is it worse to not have him in my life or more is it better to leave the door open to him just in case,...

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	letting go and letting god (Preview) some of you have read that my A is back to drinking. I have been doing some soul-searching, and I'm glad that he is gone. I am enjoying my peace. My daughter and her family were here today, and I really enjoyed them. My son called, worried. I guess they were quite surprised at my serenity. Thanks t...	TLC2	8	874	Aug 7, 2005 by TLC2
	Sponsorship (Preview) Hi everyone, Would love some input on sponsorship -- some of your experiences -- if you have them to share. My experiences are based on my relationship with my sponsor. She really believed in program, as do I. I came to Al Anon because I knew something had to give -- mainly ME.&nbs...	Maria123	4	557	Aug 7, 2005 by Maria123
	Hi... I am new here..... (Preview) Hi.. My name is Jessyca. I am 32 with three children of my own and I have been married to my husband for about three years. He is an alcoholic and a drug addict.... to give him credit he is trying to recover. I wish he would join at least AA or something... but ...	NottaClu	6	727	Aug 7, 2005 by kitty
	Both Sides of the Fence - Aug 7 (Preview) Sun Aug 7 Good Morning All. This AA piece has saved me many a day. Feel free to copy. YESTERDAY.....TODAY AND TOMORROW There are two days in every week about which we should not worry, two days whould shoud be kept from fear and apprehension. One of these days is YESTERDAY wit...	kathy570	1	531	Aug 7, 2005 by TLC2
	Alcoholism brings more obstacles (Preview) HI all, I told you that my daughter Raini is pg. She is 30 and on her way to get her masters to teach at a university. She met a young man, very cute, looks a lot like her father who died when she was 4. He also is an alcoholic, 22, already had dui, lost jobs, evicted, black outs, you say a red flag his d...	debilyn	6	579	Aug 7, 2005 by mom to 2
	Taking Responsibility for Our Behavior (Preview) I have been reading some wonderful posts of ESH (experience, strength and hope). Want to thank all of you for sharing with us here!! One common thing I keep seeing is the talk about the Blaming. How the A blames us for everything. (Typical alcoholic behavior - not wanting to take...	kismetstrand	9	811	Aug 7, 2005 by Mark S
	For Diva (Preview) Hi (((((Diva))))) Thanks for your reply to my post below on Taking responsibility for our behavior. I can understand and appreciate your viewpoint - and what I wanted to do was just reply and say that I was not saying my A is not responsible for his part. Just as I am responsible for how I a...	kismetstrand	3	562	Aug 7, 2005 by kitty
	Touching....wanted to share it with you all (Preview) I think we can all relate to this one, in some form. ~Mandi~ *Where have you gone, my Bobby, my boy, Oh where, oh where are you bound? The masters of greed have their hands on you; You're nowhere to be found.* *Your body is here, my Bobby, my boy, I see it every day; But your soul has gone into slavery And ca...*	Mandi	3	561	Aug 7, 2005 by kitty
	to thine own self be true (Preview) It really is amazing how much of the program spills into every other aspect of my life, each day it is getting a little clearer & I am happy with my own progress. Six days ago, my mom sd the A called me unmotivated - it hurt & kinda 'threw me for a loop'. And he wrote back to me (when I e-mailed him a an...	kitty	3	604	Aug 7, 2005 by cdb
	just a poem for you to read (Preview) Prayer of St. Francis of Assisi Lord, Make me an instument of your peace, where there is hatred let me sow love; where there is injury, pardon; where there is doubt, faith; where there is despair, hope; where there is darkness, light, and where there is sadnes, joy...	dadrrb1	2	515	Aug 7, 2005 by cdb
	Come to Ontario, Canada for Al Anon day (Preview) If you are not to far away - maybe you could join us. Southern Ontario Al Anon - District 4 Al Anon Day Sept. 17, 2005 Begins at 8:30 AM Trinity United Church 400 Stevenson Road Guelph, Ontario $ 5.00 - Lucnh Included Be nice to meet some of you face to face Yours in Re...	kathy570	1	540	Aug 6, 2005 by jo4
	I'm letting her go..... (Thought of cdb too) (Preview) Well, the decision was made tonight to allow my daughter who just got out of a 45 day inpatient rehabilitation center go live with her Dad, who is not in recovery and continues to avoid accepting the consequences of his actions. My daughter has been irrate, disrespectful, and many times outrag...	sanddie	9	697	Aug 6, 2005 by sanddie
	Someone please explain to me ?? (Preview) Today is Friday August 5th and i just returned home from a funeral. My husband is a firefighter and one of his fellow firefighters was killed in a boating accident. You guessed it ALCOHOL was involved. It was pretty gruesome and it was a very sad funeral. I guess, I am more angry than sad. These guys a...	Tammy	6	611	Aug 6, 2005 by Diva
	I can't take anymore (Preview) This is the first time I have posted here. I have been in alanon for a few months now and I feel that I am making some progress. The problem is that my husband isn't. He is an active alcoholic and has been making my life a living hell. At any given moment he can go off for no reason at...	JulieLynn	7	770	Aug 6, 2005 by Tammy
	itsmeTC,,here for you (Preview) Hello TC, Please contact me. I was not able to get you into PM like you requested in the room. ((((((((((((TC))))))))) I will be online for awhile waiting for you if you need me. cdb	cdb	0	459	Aug 5, 2005 by cdb
	If Tommorow Starts Without Me (Preview) IF Tomorrow Starts Without Me If Tomorrow starts without me.... A few weeks ago a woman teacher was killed in an auto accident. She was very, very well liked, so the school systems shut down for her funeral and it was on the news and so on. On the day the workers came back to work...	kerry5	3	917	Aug 5, 2005 by dadrrb1
	Healing---Letting everything come out---Never done before (Preview) Before I start please get your coffee, tea, soda or cigs this is going to be a long one. I have never told my story all in one peice and I might forget alot but I will try and tell it all. I am doing this for healing. I need to see how things were and how they became what they are. I might find some sense in it or othe...	LLPluv	6	568	Aug 5, 2005 by sanddie
	Papa Roach (Preview) These are the words to a song, it is so codependent! Now that my mind is getting a hair better (microscopic steps forward) I am noticing codependent lyrics more & more. Music is really healing - I used to play music all the time. I am so far from the way I used to be, I don't resemble...	kitty	2	577	Aug 5, 2005 by cdb
	Sunday 7pm meeting (Preview) I will not be able to chair the Sunday 7pm meeting on August 7 or August 14. I will be on vacation with family. I found out that there is no internet access where I am going. :( If someone could cover for me I would appreciate it. I will try to see if my aircard will work but cannot know if it wi...	megan	2	522	Aug 5, 2005 by megan
	Peggy and cdb (Preview) What we discussed yesterday is done and should be in Lincoln tomorrow by noon. josey	jrtjosey	1	493	Aug 5, 2005 by cdb
	Welcome Guy (Preview) Saw your reply to another post and just wanted to give you a Big Welcome to our Miracles In Progress family Guy!! Glad you are here! With program love, Kis	kismetstrand	2	466	Aug 5, 2005 by Guy
	Flowers, No thanks. (Preview) I Got Flowers Today We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said, because he sent me flowers today. I got flowers today. It wasn't our anniversary or any other...	Peggy7	6	832	Aug 5, 2005 by estrelladehope
	And then (Preview) I just spoke to my A. It makes me sad to know he is battling a battle on his own. He is on his way home from work, it's Thursday, and at our house that's Pizza night. The last few weeks I have had to do the ordering, when in the past it has been his and the boys thing. He gets home about 3...	marmare	3	542	Aug 5, 2005 by kathy570
	Let go and Let God (Preview) Let God Have His Way May the grace of God keep you, and his arms support you still May his riches supply your needs, may you stay centered in his will. Let God's spirit work through you, and his wisdom make you wise. Let his mighty hands mold you, and make you perfect in his eyes....	Mandi	2	482	Aug 5, 2005 by kathy570
	Acceptance (Preview) Acceptance Pg 449 from the AA Big Book And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, or situation - some fact of my life - unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation a...	kathy570	1	530	Aug 5, 2005 by nmike
	My 3rd Anniv. with MIP, anyone else? (Preview) It just struck me today that I have been with/on the MIP alanon message board for three years now, and I need to celebrate a little tonight as the steamy temperatures here subside into a cooler evening! Wow, anyone else know how long they've been on board? ...	wallsal55	6	657	Aug 5, 2005 by nmike
	back in Al-Anon needing support (Preview) I am posting after attending an online meeting a realizing that I need to be in these"rooms" of recovery. People have smiles and love. I want that for myself and it needs to start with me. My Brother is an A. The first time he hit a bottom he went and worked a bit of recovery and the family and myself did a...	wmed	7	659	Aug 5, 2005 by wmed
	Giving Away my Serenity... (Preview) Hiya (((((((everyone))))) For the past 2 weeks I have been doing a great job of giving away my serenity to my husband. Many behaviors are rearing their ugly head. My husband who has been I believe to be sober since October of last year has not been active in his program for a while. ...	AlaMom	5	531	Aug 5, 2005 by cdb
	Daughter drunk again :( :( (Preview) What can I say. I had a phone call from a man that said he found my daughter's cell phone on a busy street. He is dropping it by later. Then I was awakened from my nap (after 2 hours of sleep last night) by an old friend of my daughters. She called him from the cell phone at 4:45am and he was sleepin...	cdb	18	863	Aug 5, 2005 by cdb
	Newcomer looking for support (Preview) What a scary yet warm feeling to read posts and feel as though they were all written by you. Everyone of them rings true to how my life is. I am married to an alcoholic for 3 years. I think I always knew he was but he was so great otherwise, that I tried to convince myself he wasnt. I left him twice before...	Cobrien1976	6	662	Aug 5, 2005 by cdb
	Trying times (Preview) Trying times, the cycle of the A’s behavior is overwhelming at times. My A is getting worse, it saddens me to see this man I love self-destruct. He called me yesterday and told me he was playing 9 holes of golf, should be done in an hour or hour and a half at most and then would head home, that wa...	marmare	3	576	Aug 5, 2005 by cdb
	legal question (Preview) I have a legal question and I am guessing somebody here has been through something similar and can answer me. I have a friend who is in an abusive marriage. (betings with a belt, black eyes, etc) She asked me a week ago if I'd pick her up today and take het to get a protective order against...	afglin	6	580	Aug 5, 2005 by isabela40
	I wrote this for my 16 year old A son (Preview) To My Son, Love Mom I put it in my God box and tucked it way inside My fears and tears and long lost dreams, I put them there to hide I left it in a corner in a closet down the hall And asked my Higher Power to come and take it all The burden was too heavy; I kept falling on the way, So...	Sallen	11	784	Aug 5, 2005 by Mandi
	this scarf (Preview)     ...	swolves	6	572	Aug 4, 2005 by david62
	Resentments vs Expectations (Preview) Ok I know I am new to all this. But I am almost so frustrated I feel like my soul will burst open. I have heard on board that if you have expectations of your A it will creat resentments. This is how I see it. I know it will be just a stage I am going through and will make it someday to understand. I fe...	LLPluv	11	1413	Aug 4, 2005 by kitty
	Don't know how to ever forgive (Preview) I have now been separated from my A for about 5 or 6 weeks. I can actually see the difference in him for he is getting better. But I am not. I still feel stressed when I see him. Or maybe I just still see the hurt he did to me. He is trying to be honest of all the stuff he did (behind my back) but I don’t know if he is te...	Becka	5	630	Aug 4, 2005 by dove
	The Rat Takes a Baby Step (Preview) Today started out better. "A" talked – actually opened up a little bit --- this morning. As a result, we got on better today. I didn’t feel like he was just lying, denying and withholding. He went to his meeting today and is now in the kitchen cooking dinner. This is the first time in a...	dove	3	500	Aug 4, 2005 by isabela40
	Loving an A is so hard (Preview) I attended my first f2f meeting Sunday night. I am new to Al-Anon however, not new to the disease of alcohol. My husband of nearly 19 years is an A and has been most of his life. We married very young and I remember loving him so much. I knew he was broken but i was determined to love him enough to mend...	Tammy	5	704	Aug 4, 2005 by Carol
	Goodbye To My A Husband! (Preview) I'm not wasting one more day of my life walking on egg shells and trying to figure out how to be a better wife to my A husband! I filed for divorce last month and he still doesn't get it. He blames me 100%... typical denial and abuse! For 17 years I've watched him drink and drink; verball...	Heather1	5	572	Aug 4, 2005 by Carol
	Confused (Preview) Hi Everyone: First off, I am so grateful I found Al-Anon and this place----I have been coming here daily for about a month, although I dont post much I find strength and learning from others who seem to have been working this program longer than I. I am attending local meetings 2-3 nights a we...	beachbaby	7	547	Aug 4, 2005 by beachbaby
	Newbies and Veterans (Preview) In some thread in the last few days, someone said something like "It helps the newbies to see that even the veterans can sometimes slip". I just wanted to say how much I agree with that. One of the best things in this program, for me, is that we are all helping each other. There is no real hierarchy - no all...	lin0606	2	544	Aug 3, 2005 by Guy
	don't know what to do (Preview) My A--who's been gone for 11 days just showed up yesterday. Begging for mercy--"I don't want to be like this, I hate this, I need help" yadda, yadda. I kept asking him to leave and he started saying it's my house too and stuff like that. During the 11 days I couldn't get him on th...	mom to 2	12	780	Aug 3, 2005 by mom to 2
	Confused (Preview) 4 days ago I left my husband of nearly 19 years. You see, my husband abuses alcohol. This is not a new thing, however it is that I have taken a stand. My husband and I married very young, he was just 18 and I was 19. We had a child within 1 year. Our marriage has not been easy we have had trials all along the wa...	Tammy	14	577	Aug 3, 2005 by megan
	Im at the edge (Preview) this is my first day with miracles, and my first time ever to post a message anywhere.. my A is my husband, he is drunk 2 or 3 times a week, he starts drinking and cannot stop till he falls asleep. he will not go to AA he says its a cult. i divorced him in 98 because i was ashamed and embarrassed by him at all my f...	michimoon	8	534	Aug 3, 2005 by Tammy
	My alcoholic and my nerves (Preview) Hello friends :) Thanks to some very thoughtful kind compassionate members, I was able to hold myself together in pm-private message tonite. I understand how important it is for some of us to ask for pm when the room is not helpful or picking up on an urgent need. I did let go and let god bu...	cdb	12	749	Aug 3, 2005 by Tammy
	Is this an Important turning stone? (Preview) I had finally came to my limit last week which I am referring to my Post "First Time asking for Help" This is what has happened since. That night I talked with my kids they agreed that if it took asking their father to leave they would agree with it. He always tells me he will pack the kids up and leave. So...	LLPluv	5	779	Aug 3, 2005 by wallsal55
	May I share a poem I wrote about Step 1 (Preview) Step One We admitted we were powerless I choked on those first words My job was to fix everything That admission was absurd The harder that I struggled The tighter my world got It wasn’t my addiction I had to make you stop My life was utter chaos Of cours...	Sallen	2	647	Aug 3, 2005 by wallsal55
	stuck (Preview) Many of you I was very angry Sunday, as I had to vent in the chat room After 3 weeks, I have made little progress (I'm trying to focus on me!) but we have seen signs that the A isn't taking his program seriously or to heart. It is sad to realize some ppl really do have to lose everythi...	kitty	8	622	Aug 3, 2005 by mamasan
	I wrote this awhile ago (Preview) I wrote this share last month. didnt share it. I finished the end of it today. Just my feelings There isnt a second of my life i regret living, Not that i wanted everything that happened in my life to happen. Ive learnt that everything that happens isnt always about you. Everything isnt alway...	kerry5	3	567	Aug 3, 2005 by Christy
	Dolphin123 :) :) (Preview) Hello Dolphin, Gosh! I missed you in chat last night and felt bad I never said hi to you or found out how you were doing. (((((((((Dolphin))))) I had company and the beer drinking husband was yapping away at me :) I couldn't figure out whether to give him eye contact or give the room eye contact.&...	cdb	1	695	Aug 3, 2005 by Dolphin123
	HMMMM? (Preview) Hi All, I feel so tired today, after all the stress of the last two weeks it seems that I just need a nap. LOL Here I am at work thinking I can’t wait to get home and lay down. My A spent some time with his buddy last night, the two of them drinking talking about his buddy’s dad having to be mo...	marmare	4	562	Aug 3, 2005 by Dolphin123
	not sure where I'm at (Preview) Hi all, I am kinda in a state of confustion and not sure how to react or not react. I am so glad I have this forum and wish I applied myself more. It is so helpful to be here and yet I don't come very often. Some of it is my busy life and the other is just plain laziness. ...	holly123	2	594	Aug 3, 2005 by Belongtome
	A Day's Serenity (Preview) Yep...I have one, a day's serenity, amidst all the problems and pressure. But, it bothers me that I'm only able to have it when my A is "behaving normally". I must need to work even harder on detachment. Anyone can find a level of serenity at times like these, but when everything goes hay...	Belongtome	4	505	Aug 3, 2005 by Belongtome
	New email address for cdb :) (Preview) Hello friends, I had to find a new email site since my other one about ruined my computer this week. I lost all my emails and addresses. If you would like me to have your email address again please email it to me here in the private message email by clicking my cdb name on or pm me in the...	cdb	0	432	Aug 3, 2005 by cdb
	for cdb (Preview) Hi cdb, I don't know why my messages aren't posting. Here is my email: bluegrey@adelphia.net mollyann -- Edited by mollyann at 09:53, 2005-08-03	mollyann	1	472	Aug 3, 2005 by cdb
	Falling on our Face.... (Preview) I have always heard that an Alcoholic has to fall on his face to want to make the change.... Does the same go for us. In the past week I have had a lot of life changing things happen in my life. Right now I feel like my world is caving in around me. So I am thinking, is it my time, have I fallen on my face. I need the t...	heartless39470	5	715	Aug 3, 2005 by whitie
	Unchecked Anger (Preview) I'm sure all of us go through these time with our A when we have just had enough of their bull and get so completly angry at them, the kids, ourselves, and the world. In the last couple of weeks I've noticed that I have some unchecked anger. I find myself really getting bent out of shape over small thi...	twinmom2	5	592	Aug 2, 2005 by Jill
	Group Appreciation (Preview) I want to make a post about my appreciation for all the members of MIP- young and old, new and veteran. We are such a cohesive group, we help each other through the toughest of times, and we are there to laugh together when times are good. Each of us has something meaningful to contribute from the day we com...	cabecka	2	529	Aug 2, 2005 by Christy
	Just checking in (Preview) I just wanted to check in. It seems that when things are going well, I forget to work on my recovery. Things aren't going well, but at least we are not in a crisis. My husband went to detox last weekend (something he swore he would never do.) I think he did it because he knew in his heart that I...	Powerless	1	471	Aug 2, 2005 by marmare
	Today for reals (Preview) Well uno I saw A last Sunday. Said he would call. Did not hold my breath. Was hoping though. Today was his day off so really thought he would call. nope. Honestly? yep yep yep, broke my heart more. is it worse to not have him in my life or more is it better to leave the door open to him just in case,...	debilyn	4	735	Aug 2, 2005 by Belongtome
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