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Heaven76 · Heaven76

Ive not felt this insecure in years.... my AH has been sober for almost a month and he is doing great. Going to outpatient classes and AA meetings. He is making new friends that understand his struggle. I guess you can say Im jealous.... I want to Be his person but he has all these new people (men and w...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Hey all!! Just checking in to say "hey" and to let you all know that , no, I wasn't kidnapped, I had a back spasm and have been doing research on what I can do to PREVENT or at least, Lessen these horrible episodes...This year I have had THREE...usually I get one, maybe 2 per year but this year has been awful....

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

My AH was sober for many, many years. I told him I was going to divorce him and he stopped out of fear. Then the disease was back. He attends AA meetings but relapse is common. I've been told relapse is part of recovery. Recovery seems far off. I used to ask if he was drinking and he would always lie. No...

Aerin · Aerin

I do know its disease and I guess I should know by now that they are sick. But I still atruggle with how can they give up someone they love (wife, gf, kids, parents) just for a drink? Even during early recovery it seems they would rather lose it all than have the most supportive people around them. Is it sham...

Lyne · Lyne

First Things First: The writer speaks of getting caught up in day-to-day trivial matters and therefore he/she forgets to have time for the really important things. For him, a helpful slogan is First Things First, to get priorities in order. He says that his serenity if his first priority, and tha...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about serenity; how doe we achieve it? Why did it seem elusive when we were new to the program? Can we be in control of our serenity? Something that resonated with me from this page was how the writer described her experience as a weathervane- her movement (sere...

BethBethBeth · BethBethBeth

Hi MIP family - So, Im still living with my STBXAH. Hes staying at our house during the holidays and moving out in the New Year. He has gone entirely underground with his drinking. This is a guy who doesnt pick up after himself for 20 years, and now I havent seen an empty beer can for months and theres not...

hotrod · hotrod

C2C reading for today speaks about the 3rd step in addition to the the definition of insanity. I love this explanation of insanity as it described my reaction so well. It suggests that doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results is insanity and offers the 3rd Step as a succe...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

I have been sitting lately with lots of guilt, lots of resentment, and lots of anger. Not sure why, as I thought I had let all that go. So after reading so many posts yesterday, I had dinner with my sponsor to talk these feelings out. I won't share it all here, but it was such a good meeting for me! I went to sig...

Paisley74 · Paisley74

i havent been here in almost 2 years. I was living in blissful denial that my AH was doing well. Heck I even celebrated his 2year mark with telling him how proud I was of him...Deep down I knew he was drinking, I had hoped he would honor his promise of being honest with me if he drank. Our deal was as long as he w...

Carla61 · Carla61

My husband was in rehab for a month. Stayed sober for about 3 months. I am in retail and need to work weekends. When I come home from work I can tell that he has been drinking. I havent said anything to him about it yet. I love him dearly and he is a wonderful person when sober. Need some advice as to how to handl...

a4l · a4l

Bit out of sorts so as per the subject line, I must remind myself of what matters. Today I am grateful for my true friends. I am grateful for the yard I'm sitting in with the tree and the grass and the birds singing with the blue sky. I am grateful for my able body. I am grateful for my sponsor. I am g...

Aline · Aline

Hi :) I've been through some pretty serious inner turmoil this week, but yesterday brought something very important to the forefront of my mind, something I'd been hiding from since I was 10 or 11. I'm very grateful that my recent pain and worry has brought me to this, and I think this might be the first t...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading discusses our concept and slogan of "One Day at a Time". We are reminded in recovery that we can only deal with the here and now. When we can stay here and now, we are more realistic about what we can do to improve our situation. Being and staying present helps to get rid of the constant u...

Lyne · Lyne

Today I have some serious stressors, and it is important for me to focus on my alanon tools instead: How important is it, Keep it simple, Let go and let God, etc. I have a choice before me to succumb to the pain and worry, or be aware of what blessings I do have, and what I can accomplish for me. Sometimes I...

Aline · Aline

Good evening (or morning), MIP :) I just realized clearly what I've been kind of suspecting for a while now. A part of my interactions/relationships with any people is an almost precise copy of the relationship dynamic I saw between my parents. Sometimes I'm Mum (well-meaning yet bossy, "managing"...

_bunny_ · _bunny_

Im working on my enabling behaviors and acceptance that Im powerless over it all but that Im not helpless and Im sure not going to sit around in denial. After adjustments to my boundaries I made progress and it feels like another level of growth and maturity. Being the watcher of my alcoholics conseque...

Thistime · Thistime

My partner/best friend (we don't live together) is due to come out of hospital tomorrow after being in for 2 weeks. He was told if he drinks again, he will not make it to Christmas. He is saying he "just wont drink". I keep asking him what he is going to put in place to make sure he doesn't drink again - his...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I'm going to dismiss most of this to hormones because that's what it seems to be based upon the calendar however that doesn't change my frustration at the moment. My daughter and I had an outstanding visit that was LONG overdue. A month is to long for her not to be home and I do think some of it is that she c...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading talks about how we use manipulation as a ways of coping to the affects of the disease of alcoholism. Alcoholism can create such a threatening environment that manipulation seems necessary. As we progress through recovery, we are learning to do more than just survive! We also lea...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Just for today, I HATE my AH! I am currently seething with anger, feeling out of control and just pissed off. I thought I had a handle on blaming my qualifier for what I have to go through, but I guess I don't. I've just spent 20 minutes bawling my eyes out because I am so angry! At this moment, I can't just sit...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Good morning, MIP! Today's reading is about the act of service, or an act of kindness. The author shares that doing something nice for someone else without them knowing about it, and without expecting to get anything back in return is a strategy they used to build their own spiritual well-being. Eng...

runi · runi

hi all, its been a while. granddaughter 17, coming home from rehab, (2 months), in about a week. her parents and us live in one house. she seems to be doing well. since we all live together i want to ask 'being her village/support, now that she is coming home, what/how do we help her to be successful'...

andromeda · andromeda

My partner can be quite sarcastic and, oftentimes, our humor doesn't really match up. I don't care for sarcasm but I understand it because my XAH was so skilled at using it and I became pretty good at it, myself. Hey, he taught by example and I caught on, I guess. But, I truly try to NOT be hurtful and to g...

sdsherry · sdsherry

How to I change the writing to single space. thanks sherry

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading focuses on the suggested closing we have which includes-...though you may not like all of us, youll love us in a very special way- the same way we already love you. The writer remembers not believing the words in that statement because he/she did not feel that way...

hotrod · hotrod

ODAT reading for November 7 speaks about the 11th step which is:"Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God. Praying only for knowledge of his will and the power to carry it out."The reading points out that this step assures us that we can have conscious contact wi...

atheos · atheos

There's a recent encounter I've been turning over and over in my head... I accidentally showed up to a men-only meeting (I'm female). I ran into a newcomer (also female) outside, so I told her it was a men-only meeting but that we could have our own little meeting separately. I tried to briefly go into th...

KT2015 · KT2015

I've been getting a very clear message in my life that I need to take a look at the guilt I carry around. Things lately have been popping out to me around the topic of guilt. Over and over I keep noticing things related to guilt. Messages in the readings, feelings of guilt I am having over things that I a...

atheos · atheos

I am doing a lot of step one work with my sponsor right now, trying to figure out what I am and am not powerless over - the "wisdom to know the difference" part of the serenity prayer. Now that I no longer live with my qualifiers, I feel like my biggest problem is something I mentioned in another post recentl...

courage101 · courage101

Beginning 11/7/17 I will be traveling for the next two weeks and may not have internet access to chair meetings. Anyone who would like to step up and chair is welcome to do so. The "Opening" & "Closing" files are found at http://www.12stepforums.net/mirc scroll down a ways to find the files. Aft...

Curlyblu · Curlyblu

Tomorrow will mark a week since I asked my AH not to come home for awhile. My mind has been all over the place. Disbelief that my life has actually come to this, to anger. Though embarrasment even came into to the picture, this one surprised me the most. As this is something at one time would have truly emba...

Sorcha · Sorcha

Hi everybody. So I attended my ex's funeral today. I am just devastated. A whirlwind of emotions. The worst thing is the thought of never seeing him again. I hadn't contacted him for 3 months except to send a card to say it was over when he asked me for clarification, after he had finished it himself, thre...

Lyne · Lyne

Thinking about Step 5: Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being, the exact nature of our wrongs. But the writer questioned what are the exact nature of his/her wrongs? She realized that many "wrongs" had to do with her hurting herself such as wondering if she was good enough, was sh...

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t64090862/alanon-step-8-11-5-17/

lookingup · lookingup

today's one day at a time(odat) talks about if we really know that we're happy or not happ,that we are to look down deep within ourselves for the answers to our self, we think we are dissatisfied with what we have,with the way we live,and the way other ppl act toward us, our daily ,a alanoner,suggested th...

atheos · atheos

I have been living on my own for a few years now, and if anything I'd say I'm doing *worse* than when I lived with my qualifier. Everything seems so overwhelming and I feel constantly stressed and exhausted. I haven't taken my trash out, my sink is full of dirty dishes, I am constantly behind on schoolwor...

Krystyna265 · Krystyna265

I am new here - and new to Alanon. I've been resistant and resentful about going to meetings, but it's time. I am ACOA, a recovering alcoholic (33 years sober), married to a recovering alcoholic (4 years sober) and mother to an adult alcoholic son who lives with his wife on the second floor of our home. T...

Rxwoman · Rxwoman

I just married ( third time) another alcoholic ( Ugh, yes I know). Our first anniversary is the 19th. I thought I knew what I had signed up for. Basically watching him drink himself to death...whether I'm with him or not. I know I am powerless to stop him or change him. He lost his license in 2010. Got i...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Hi MIP family! After my AH's latest hospital stay, he went and lived with his mother and sister. After 5 days in the hospital, he was still very weak and they felt he could not adequately care for himself - AND, they wanted to make sure he was not going to drink so that he could enter a facility at the end of th...

joker · joker

Read Read this from another member and I need to read this over and over again. I need to put it in my head, and remember it. God help me! Quote:What Addicts DoMy name's Jon. I'm an addict. And this is what addicts do. You cannot nor will not change my behavior. You cannot make me treat you better, let alo...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

HI MIP family! Today, my estranged AH is supposed to enter a rehab facility. I have no idea for how long - we've been separated since Aug 28. Finally, my legal separation papers are ready for me to sign. Once I sign them, they will be filed with the court, and I will need to serve my AH. In CA, you must have som...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading discusses how we grow in recovery and learn the value of having a sponsor. So many of us arrive starving to be heard, and we find in meetings that we can talk freely about that which has been pent up inside. We share and others nod with understanding. They share and mention how they rel...

listerine042571 · listerine042571

I have gone through this same thing with my ex for the past five years. He just got out of rehab for 6 months and relapsed and re-entered rehab in June for another 3 months. I told him I didn't think he was ready considering he has been dealing with addiction since the age of 14 and he is now 46. I wanted to use a...

joker · joker

I feel great today, despite the complete insanity of the other day. I have been reading and reading al-anon literature hourly, and I feel great today. I even laughed. I am so grateful; today. The alcoholic is sleeping, what is new. Not my problem, not my issue. I read something today in al-anon things i...

Linsey24 · Linsey24

Hi there, I will keep this brief. I am 36 years old and happily married to my childhood sweetheart and two wonderful kids aged 7 and 5. Here is the s** bit, my Mum is a chronic alcoholic and has been since I was around 10/12. She was once a functional alcoholic, however her health has been effected so badly...

joker · joker

I am learning ever so slowly, NO, No, NO. I had a good laugh today, as the alcoholic was suddenly so nice, saying Good morning, meanwhile, yesterday he was a racing mess, screaming devils get out of this house, and going nuts, alone, upstairs. I was downstairs, reading al-anon. Just like that, a change...

joker · joker

I am trying to see the positives-thank you god, the alcoholic is getting crazier, and more insane when drinking. It just means he is nearing the end, and I can move more into recovery! I say, let him go nuts, but I need to remove myself and give him the space to go completely insane. Have at er. hope it makes...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading talks about Step 2 - Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity." The reading includes a simplified version -- "First I came, then I 'came to', then I came to believe." For many, the journey towards a Higher Power and a spiritual life is a gradual proc...

listerine042571 · listerine042571

Hi Guys,I'm not a recovering addict myself, but have been in a relationship with someone who was an addict to a large spectrum of drugs and alcohol and he even went as far as selling it. We met in a recovery unit, me for depression and at the time I thought he was there for the same, but later came to find out t...

BethBethBeth · BethBethBeth

My STBXAH bought tickets for a football game which means hes taking the kids out of town Saturday. Through our marriage he has done this kind of thing without consulting me at all, sometimes telling me the day of. So this am my daughter informed me of this event. I dropped her off & went home, took...

changeme18 · changeme18

It has been my experience that Al-Anon can be a very negative, non-uplifting experience when one attends with people they are very close to, like family or best friends. We are emotionally involved with these people and love them very much, but their presence can be very uncomfortable when we are tr...

Heaven76 · Heaven76

Hello, Im new here.... Ive been married to my alcoholic husband for 15 years(together for 20). He drank almost every day back then but he still went to work and had a normal life. As the years went on he began having panic attacks and the drinking became worse to the point that he couldnt work. That was a...

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t64078912/alanon-step-7-11-1-2017/

mamalioness · mamalioness

Today's entry goes into our commitments to go to the meetings....and to NOT look for the differences, but the similarities in our fellow "roomies" To look for the GOOD in everything that is shared...It reminds us to praise the sober and pray for the drinking and usingaddicts. Also it reminds us that...

JBF490 · JBF490

i broke up with an alcohlic. end of story. He calls. Sometimes I answer. Most not. I text him sometimes as well as he texts me. I can't cut it off clean. I know he is bad for me . I tell him we won't get back together unless he stops drinking. Lol. He won't of course. So why am I even trying to help him or make it ok...

joker · joker

well, its now 6:30 am and its been a night of hell. The alcoholic became more insane, screaming your the devil and let me look at your eyes, the devil is in you. F*** this, f*** this. I did not sleep all night as he kept me up, coming into my room and yelling and screaming at me with insults and arguing with me...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Good morning, MIP! Today's reading in Courage to change is about horse training. (Actually it isn't but I thought that would be a fun start.) The author equates training horses to dealing with their own racing thoughts. Giving a command over and over again tends to escalate the situation and does n...

atheos · atheos

My new sponsor has suggested to me that my father may be an alcoholic. She is not the first person to say so. Several Al-Anon people have said so over the years. But he doesn't drink *that* much. And I've never heard a non-Alanon person suggest that he might be an alcoholic. So I am kind of wondering if some...

Sorcha · Sorcha

I haven't posted in a while. I have been no contact with my alcoholic for 3 months and he died tonight. I'm so sad. I still loved him but just could not live with the disease any longer, it was destroying me, but now I wish I could have stuck it out a bit longer to get to sy goodbye.

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	Need help (Preview) Ive not felt this insecure in years.... my AH has been sober for almost a month and he is doing great. Going to outpatient classes and AA meetings. He is making new friends that understand his struggle. I guess you can say Im jealous.... I want to Be his person but he has all these new people (men and w...	Heaven76	10	638	Nov 14, 2017 by Iamhere
	Just checking in!!!!! (Preview) Hey all!! Just checking in to say "hey" and to let you all know that , no, I wasn't kidnapped, I had a back spasm and have been doing research on what I can do to PREVENT or at least, Lessen these horrible episodes...This year I have had THREE...usually I get one, maybe 2 per year but this year has been awful....	mamalioness	3	379	Nov 13, 2017 by Maresie
	Should AH have consequences? (Preview) My AH was sober for many, many years. I told him I was going to divorce him and he stopped out of fear. Then the disease was back. He attends AA meetings but relapse is common. I've been told relapse is part of recovery. Recovery seems far off. I used to ask if he was drinking and he would always lie. No...	wifeofalcoholic	8	803	Nov 13, 2017 by Maresie
	How Can A Alcoholic really give up people he loves? (Preview) I do know its disease and I guess I should know by now that they are sick. But I still atruggle with how can they give up someone they love (wife, gf, kids, parents) just for a drink? Even during early recovery it seems they would rather lose it all than have the most supportive people around them. Is it sham...	Aerin	15	692	Nov 13, 2017 by Junenine
	C2C, 11/13 (Preview) First Things First: The writer speaks of getting caught up in day-to-day trivial matters and therefore he/she forgets to have time for the really important things. For him, a helpful slogan is First Things First, to get priorities in order. He says that his serenity if his first priority, and tha...	Lyne	3	407	Nov 13, 2017 by Skorpi
	Hope for today nov 12 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about serenity; how doe we achieve it? Why did it seem elusive when we were new to the program? Can we be in control of our serenity? Something that resonated with me from this page was how the writer described her experience as a weathervane- her movement (sere...	yanksfan51	7	506	Nov 12, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	Checking in, and checking myself (Preview) Hi MIP family - So, Im still living with my STBXAH. Hes staying at our house during the holidays and moving out in the New Year. He has gone entirely underground with his drinking. This is a guy who doesnt pick up after himself for 20 years, and now I havent seen an empty beer can for months and theres not...	BethBethBeth	6	629	Nov 12, 2017 by mamalioness
	C2C 11-11-2017 (Preview) C2C reading for today speaks about the 3rd step in addition to the the definition of insanity. I love this explanation of insanity as it described my reaction so well. It suggests that doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results is insanity and offers the 3rd Step as a succe...	hotrod	4	545	Nov 12, 2017 by Aline
	Good visit with my sponsor! (Preview) I have been sitting lately with lots of guilt, lots of resentment, and lots of anger. Not sure why, as I thought I had let all that go. So after reading so many posts yesterday, I had dinner with my sponsor to talk these feelings out. I won't share it all here, but it was such a good meeting for me! I went to sig...	PosiesandPuppies	7	658	Nov 12, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	The strength to move forward (Preview) i havent been here in almost 2 years. I was living in blissful denial that my AH was doing well. Heck I even celebrated his 2year mark with telling him how proud I was of him...Deep down I knew he was drinking, I had hoped he would honor his promise of being honest with me if he drank. Our deal was as long as he w...	Paisley74	4	541	Nov 11, 2017 by lookingup
	Not sure how to handle this (Preview) My husband was in rehab for a month. Stayed sober for about 3 months. I am in retail and need to work weekends. When I come home from work I can tell that he has been drinking. I havent said anything to him about it yet. I love him dearly and he is a wonderful person when sober. Need some advice as to how to handl...	Carla61	12	517	Nov 11, 2017 by Maresie
	On gratitude and faith. (Preview) Bit out of sorts so as per the subject line, I must remind myself of what matters. Today I am grateful for my true friends. I am grateful for the yard I'm sitting in with the tree and the grass and the birds singing with the blue sky. I am grateful for my able body. I am grateful for my sponsor. I am g...	a4l	7	554	Nov 11, 2017 by Iamhere
	Epiphany (Preview) Hi :) I've been through some pretty serious inner turmoil this week, but yesterday brought something very important to the forefront of my mind, something I'd been hiding from since I was 10 or 11. I'm very grateful that my recent pain and worry has brought me to this, and I think this might be the first t...	Aline	4	432	Nov 11, 2017 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change (C2C) 11/10/17 (Preview) Today's reading discusses our concept and slogan of "One Day at a Time". We are reminded in recovery that we can only deal with the here and now. When we can stay here and now, we are more realistic about what we can do to improve our situation. Being and staying present helps to get rid of the constant u...	Iamhere	5	452	Nov 10, 2017 by Iamhere
	How Important Is It? (Preview) Today I have some serious stressors, and it is important for me to focus on my alanon tools instead: How important is it, Keep it simple, Let go and let God, etc. I have a choice before me to succumb to the pain and worry, or be aware of what blessings I do have, and what I can accomplish for me. Sometimes I...	Lyne	3	409	Nov 10, 2017 by Iamhere
	Mum/Dad prototypes and being a baby (Preview) Good evening (or morning), MIP :) I just realized clearly what I've been kind of suspecting for a while now. A part of my interactions/relationships with any people is an almost precise copy of the relationship dynamic I saw between my parents. Sometimes I'm Mum (well-meaning yet bossy, "managing"...	Aline	3	436	Nov 10, 2017 by Aline
	Natural consequences (Preview) Im working on my enabling behaviors and acceptance that Im powerless over it all but that Im not helpless and Im sure not going to sit around in denial. After adjustments to my boundaries I made progress and it feels like another level of growth and maturity. Being the watcher of my alcoholics conseque...	_bunny_	5	3573	Nov 10, 2017 by Aline
	Can he do it (Preview) My partner/best friend (we don't live together) is due to come out of hospital tomorrow after being in for 2 weeks. He was told if he drinks again, he will not make it to Christmas. He is saying he "just wont drink". I keep asking him what he is going to put in place to make sure he doesn't drink again - his...	Thistime	8	442	Nov 10, 2017 by Iamhere
	Stuggling still .. (Preview) I'm going to dismiss most of this to hormones because that's what it seems to be based upon the calendar however that doesn't change my frustration at the moment. My daughter and I had an outstanding visit that was LONG overdue. A month is to long for her not to be home and I do think some of it is that she c...	SerenityRUS	6	1266	Nov 10, 2017 by el-cee
	Courage to Change (C2C) 11/9/17 (Preview) Today's reading talks about how we use manipulation as a ways of coping to the affects of the disease of alcoholism. Alcoholism can create such a threatening environment that manipulation seems necessary. As we progress through recovery, we are learning to do more than just survive! We also lea...	Iamhere	3	390	Nov 9, 2017 by Iamhere
	Seething with anger (Preview) Just for today, I HATE my AH! I am currently seething with anger, feeling out of control and just pissed off. I thought I had a handle on blaming my qualifier for what I have to go through, but I guess I don't. I've just spent 20 minutes bawling my eyes out because I am so angry! At this moment, I can't just sit...	PosiesandPuppies	16	655	Nov 9, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change November 8 (Preview) Good morning, MIP! Today's reading is about the act of service, or an act of kindness. The author shares that doing something nice for someone else without them knowing about it, and without expecting to get anything back in return is a strategy they used to build their own spiritual well-being. Eng...	Skorpi	11	440	Nov 9, 2017 by MeTwo2
	advise/suggestion/help, minor coming home from rehab (Preview) hi all, its been a while. granddaughter 17, coming home from rehab, (2 months), in about a week. her parents and us live in one house. she seems to be doing well. since we all live together i want to ask 'being her village/support, now that she is coming home, what/how do we help her to be successful'...	runi	4	398	Nov 8, 2017 by hotrod
	Using program to handle sarcasm (Preview) My partner can be quite sarcastic and, oftentimes, our humor doesn't really match up. I don't care for sarcasm but I understand it because my XAH was so skilled at using it and I became pretty good at it, myself. Hey, he taught by example and I caught on, I guess. But, I truly try to NOT be hurtful and to g...	andromeda	5	567	Nov 8, 2017 by andromeda
	posting question new (Preview) How to I change the writing to single space. thanks sherry	sdsherry	2	352	Nov 8, 2017 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today nov 5 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading focuses on the suggested closing we have which includes-...though you may not like all of us, youll love us in a very special way- the same way we already love you. The writer remembers not believing the words in that statement because he/she did not feel that way...	yanksfan51	4	361	Nov 7, 2017 by Maresie25
	ODAT reading 11-7-2017 (Preview) ODAT reading for November 7 speaks about the 11th step which is:"Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God. Praying only for knowledge of his will and the power to carry it out."The reading points out that this step assures us that we can have conscious contact wi...	hotrod	4	434	Nov 7, 2017 by Maresie25
	Lessons, lessons, lessons... (Preview) There's a recent encounter I've been turning over and over in my head... I accidentally showed up to a men-only meeting (I'm female). I ran into a newcomer (also female) outside, so I told her it was a men-only meeting but that we could have our own little meeting separately. I tried to briefly go into th...	atheos	4	420	Nov 7, 2017 by Maresie25
	Guilt (Preview) I've been getting a very clear message in my life that I need to take a look at the guilt I carry around. Things lately have been popping out to me around the topic of guilt. Over and over I keep noticing things related to guilt. Messages in the readings, feelings of guilt I am having over things that I a...	KT2015	3	2448	Nov 7, 2017 by KT2015
	How to tell what you are/aren't powerless over? (Preview) I am doing a lot of step one work with my sponsor right now, trying to figure out what I am and am not powerless over - the "wisdom to know the difference" part of the serenity prayer. Now that I no longer live with my qualifiers, I feel like my biggest problem is something I mentioned in another post recentl...	atheos	10	626	Nov 6, 2017 by Maresie
	Need meetings chairs for two weeks in chat room (Preview) Beginning 11/7/17 I will be traveling for the next two weeks and may not have internet access to chair meetings. Anyone who would like to step up and chair is welcome to do so. The "Opening" & "Closing" files are found at http://www.12stepforums.net/mirc scroll down a ways to find the files. Aft...	courage101	0	324	Nov 6, 2017 by courage101
	Just putting my thoughts down........ (Preview) Tomorrow will mark a week since I asked my AH not to come home for awhile. My mind has been all over the place. Disbelief that my life has actually come to this, to anger. Though embarrasment even came into to the picture, this one surprised me the most. As this is something at one time would have truly emba...	Curlyblu	4	425	Nov 6, 2017 by Jerry F
	Funeral today (Preview) Hi everybody. So I attended my ex's funeral today. I am just devastated. A whirlwind of emotions. The worst thing is the thought of never seeing him again. I hadn't contacted him for 3 months except to send a card to say it was over when he asked me for clarification, after he had finished it himself, thre...	Sorcha	12	494	Nov 6, 2017 by tiredtonite
	C2C, 11/6 (Preview) Thinking about Step 5: Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being, the exact nature of our wrongs. But the writer questioned what are the exact nature of his/her wrongs? She realized that many "wrongs" had to do with her hurting herself such as wondering if she was good enough, was sh...	Lyne	3	356	Nov 6, 2017 by Iamhere
	step board (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t64090862/alanon-step-8-11-5-17/	hotrod	0	283	Nov 5, 2017 by hotrod
	Odat 11/04/17 (Preview) today's one day at a time(odat) talks about if we really know that we're happy or not happ,that we are to look down deep within ourselves for the answers to our self, we think we are dissatisfied with what we have,with the way we live,and the way other ppl act toward us, our daily ,a alanoner,suggested th...	lookingup	4	392	Nov 5, 2017 by Iamhere
	I don’t understand why my life is still so unmanageable (Preview) I have been living on my own for a few years now, and if anything I'd say I'm doing worse than when I lived with my qualifier. Everything seems so overwhelming and I feel constantly stressed and exhausted. I haven't taken my trash out, my sink is full of dirty dishes, I am constantly behind on schoolwor...	atheos	5	554	Nov 4, 2017 by Aline
	Feels Like PTSD newbie PTSD (Preview) I am new here - and new to Alanon. I've been resistant and resentful about going to meetings, but it's time. I am ACOA, a recovering alcoholic (33 years sober), married to a recovering alcoholic (4 years sober) and mother to an adult alcoholic son who lives with his wife on the second floor of our home. T...	Krystyna265	17	8614	Nov 4, 2017 by Jerry F
	Drunk driving: HELP! WHAT TO DO? (Preview) I just married ( third time) another alcoholic ( Ugh, yes I know). Our first anniversary is the 19th. I thought I knew what I had signed up for. Basically watching him drink himself to death...whether I'm with him or not. I know I am powerless to stop him or change him. He lost his license in 2010. Got i...	Rxwoman	6	792	Nov 4, 2017 by The Dependent
	Sitting with some feelings today (Preview) Hi MIP family! After my AH's latest hospital stay, he went and lived with his mother and sister. After 5 days in the hospital, he was still very weak and they felt he could not adequately care for himself - AND, they wanted to make sure he was not going to drink so that he could enter a facility at the end of th...	PosiesandPuppies	9	578	Nov 3, 2017 by Maresie
	Needed to read this (Preview) Read Read this from another member and I need to read this over and over again. I need to put it in my head, and remember it. God help me! Quote:What Addicts DoMy name's Jon. I'm an addict. And this is what addicts do. You cannot nor will not change my behavior. You cannot make me treat you better, let alo...	joker	1	384	Nov 3, 2017 by Enigmatic
	Needing ESH on this topic (Preview) HI MIP family! Today, my estranged AH is supposed to enter a rehab facility. I have no idea for how long - we've been separated since Aug 28. Finally, my legal separation papers are ready for me to sign. Once I sign them, they will be filed with the court, and I will need to serve my AH. In CA, you must have som...	PosiesandPuppies	8	502	Nov 3, 2017 by WestMan
	Courage to Change (C2C) 11/3/17 (Preview) Today's reading discusses how we grow in recovery and learn the value of having a sponsor. So many of us arrive starving to be heard, and we find in meetings that we can talk freely about that which has been pent up inside. We share and others nod with understanding. They share and mention how they rel...	Iamhere	2	457	Nov 3, 2017 by Lyne
	Do Old Habits/Behavious Still Exist With A Newly Recovering Addict (Preview) I have gone through this same thing with my ex for the past five years. He just got out of rehab for 6 months and relapsed and re-entered rehab in June for another 3 months. I told him I didn't think he was ready considering he has been dealing with addiction since the age of 14 and he is now 46. I wanted to use a...	listerine042571	3	445	Nov 3, 2017 by Jerry F
	Feel good (Preview) I feel great today, despite the complete insanity of the other day. I have been reading and reading al-anon literature hourly, and I feel great today. I even laughed. I am so grateful; today. The alcoholic is sleeping, what is new. Not my problem, not my issue. I read something today in al-anon things i...	joker	3	380	Nov 2, 2017 by Iamhere
	New and completely lost...... (Preview) Hi there, I will keep this brief. I am 36 years old and happily married to my childhood sweetheart and two wonderful kids aged 7 and 5. Here is the s** bit, my Mum is a chronic alcoholic and has been since I was around 10/12. She was once a functional alcoholic, however her health has been effected so badly...	Linsey24	5	429	Nov 2, 2017 by Iamhere
	Learning to say No (Preview) I am learning ever so slowly, NO, No, NO. I had a good laugh today, as the alcoholic was suddenly so nice, saying Good morning, meanwhile, yesterday he was a racing mess, screaming devils get out of this house, and going nuts, alone, upstairs. I was downstairs, reading al-anon. Just like that, a change...	joker	1	357	Nov 2, 2017 by shrnp
	thankful (Preview) I am trying to see the positives-thank you god, the alcoholic is getting crazier, and more insane when drinking. It just means he is nearing the end, and I can move more into recovery! I say, let him go nuts, but I need to remove myself and give him the space to go completely insane. Have at er. hope it makes...	joker	0	301	Nov 2, 2017 by joker
	Courage to Change (C2C) 11/2/17 (Preview) Today's reading talks about Step 2 - Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity." The reading includes a simplified version -- "First I came, then I 'came to', then I came to believe." For many, the journey towards a Higher Power and a spiritual life is a gradual proc...	Iamhere	2	334	Nov 2, 2017 by Aline
	Heartbroken (Preview) Hi Guys,I'm not a recovering addict myself, but have been in a relationship with someone who was an addict to a large spectrum of drugs and alcohol and he even went as far as selling it. We met in a recovery unit, me for depression and at the time I thought he was there for the same, but later came to find out t...	listerine042571	2	353	Nov 2, 2017 by tiredtonite
	Yay for program tools! (Preview) My STBXAH bought tickets for a football game which means hes taking the kids out of town Saturday. Through our marriage he has done this kind of thing without consulting me at all, sometimes telling me the day of. So this am my daughter informed me of this event. I dropped her off & went home, took...	BethBethBeth	5	501	Nov 2, 2017 by WestMan
	judgmental people (Preview) It has been my experience that Al-Anon can be a very negative, non-uplifting experience when one attends with people they are very close to, like family or best friends. We are emotionally involved with these people and love them very much, but their presence can be very uncomfortable when we are tr...	changeme18	4	653	Nov 2, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	New here (Preview) Hello, Im new here.... Ive been married to my alcoholic husband for 15 years(together for 20). He drank almost every day back then but he still went to work and had a normal life. As the years went on he began having panic attacks and the drinking became worse to the point that he couldnt work. That was a...	Heaven76	3	425	Nov 1, 2017 by Iamhere
	Step 7 posted (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t64078912/alanon-step-7-11-1-2017/	hotrod	0	278	Nov 1, 2017 by hotrod
	12 step prayer book Nov.1, 2017 (Preview) Today's entry goes into our commitments to go to the meetings....and to NOT look for the differences, but the similarities in our fellow "roomies" To look for the GOOD in everything that is shared...It reminds us to praise the sober and pray for the drinking and usingaddicts. Also it reminds us that...	mamalioness	1	347	Nov 1, 2017 by hotrod
	so torn (Preview) i broke up with an alcohlic. end of story. He calls. Sometimes I answer. Most not. I text him sometimes as well as he texts me. I can't cut it off clean. I know he is bad for me . I tell him we won't get back together unless he stops drinking. Lol. He won't of course. So why am I even trying to help him or make it ok...	JBF490	8	440	Nov 1, 2017 by Jerry F
	crisis (Preview) well, its now 6:30 am and its been a night of hell. The alcoholic became more insane, screaming your the devil and let me look at your eyes, the devil is in you. F* this, f* this. I did not sleep all night as he kept me up, coming into my room and yelling and screaming at me with insults and arguing with me...	joker	4	410	Nov 1, 2017 by Jerry F
	Courage to Change November 1 (Preview) Good morning, MIP! Today's reading in Courage to change is about horse training. (Actually it isn't but I thought that would be a fun start.) The author equates training horses to dealing with their own racing thoughts. Giving a command over and over again tends to escalate the situation and does n...	Skorpi	5	530	Nov 1, 2017 by mamalioness
	Is this "normal" drinking? (Preview) My new sponsor has suggested to me that my father may be an alcoholic. She is not the first person to say so. Several Al-Anon people have said so over the years. But he doesn't drink that much. And I've never heard a non-Alanon person suggest that he might be an alcoholic. So I am kind of wondering if some...	atheos	6	1317	Nov 1, 2017 by Aerin
	Grief (Preview) I haven't posted in a while. I have been no contact with my alcoholic for 3 months and he died tonight. I'm so sad. I still loved him but just could not live with the disease any longer, it was destroying me, but now I wish I could have stuck it out a bit longer to get to sy goodbye.	Sorcha	10	473	Nov 1, 2017 by Iamhere
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