Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's reading is about how sometimes being heard can tempt us to over-share fearing it's "our last chance to be heard". Oh boy do I relate to that and anyone who's read my long angsty shares of old here will know what I mean. And it was exactly that- trying to say everything while someone was listening....

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from courage to change the author reflects on step two. Step 2 is we came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The author shares that their own journey toward a higher power was very gradual and that they themselves had been unaware...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's author points to the range of alcohol related problems we hear about and see, from levels of embarrassment and minor problems to major legal and safety concerns. While it is natural for Alanoners to feel desire to help, care must be shown to avoid advising actions that may have unintended res...

Lyne · Lyne

The author says that many choices have been reactions to fear. Something changes, they panic, have thoughts of disaster, and imagine failure, torment, and agony. Then it is likely to act in a rash or fruitless manner, in order to put a bandage on the problem. What the author most fears is being afra...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on step two: Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The writer specifically focuses on the word believe from step two, and questions her sponsor about how to turn that word into concrete action. The writer didn...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I have to admit that I am somewhat anxious about my future. The program tells me to not project & live one day at a time. I need to remember that in my case I am a little fearful of the future. I have mentioned before that my AH is going through cancer but it is hopeful because he is getting his kidney remov...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's writer acknowledges a character defect in the area of avoiding making, executing, and following through on decisions. Though it was the best they could do at the time, this led to remaining in unhealthy environment for their children. We can't change the past, but in making amends we can str...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of todays reading found that when they treat others as they would want to be treated their world felt safer. They discuss how in general a person gets back what they give out and that if they find themselves disliking someone fora particular reason that it usually is because they do not like...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's C2C speaks of the writer lying on the beach soaking up the sun, and realising that the sun is like the love of their HP- endless and having more than enough for everyone. They describe having to overcome feelings of jealousy when others talk about their closeness to their HP as it left them feeli...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on gossip. They share that in the past, they were able to vividly recall the words, criticisms, and insults of others. In turn, the author treated others cruely. When insulting others, the author would feel better about themselves momentarily, but that fee...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is a focus on a concept that can be difficult for many of us: God as we understood Him. For some people, having a part of the program that feels even vaguely religious is troublesome; for some, grasping the spiritual connection in the program is difficult, and in...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer compares recovery to peeling an onion or a birch tree which looses its bark gradually. If the bark gets taken prematurely, it is vulnerable to infection, fungus, and insects. The writer goes on to say that if we are stripped of our defenses prematurely, we can be wounded. We have spent a s...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's c2c speaks of missing the beauty and mystery of life because we are so focused on "what's wrong". This speaks to me because as I have posted earlier, I went on a holiday with my kiddo last week and it was a battle to keep worrying about what was happening at home from stopping me from enjoying my tr...

Youknowme · Youknowme

I'm feeling so conflicted. I believe it's likely my brother will die from his alcoholism and meth addiction soon and it's heartbreaking. He's only 35 and he's never had any kind of life. He still lives with our parents and he's held the same job for the last 12 years but he lost it yesterday for being drun...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of todays reading discovers that powerlessness does not equal helplessness, but that at those timeswhen they surrender to their Higher Power those feelings and pray for help and guidance they receive the "clarity"they were seeking. From there time will bring what they need.Reminder...

Fedora · Fedora

Hello! I've been away for awhile but I've missed you guys. :) Mini update: The bad: exH was arrested for the 3rd, 4th, and 5th times since our divorce was finalized. He's currently got an ankle monitor strapped to his leg for a long time to come. The good (no, great): I have bought a new house! Despite th...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Hi everyone, sorry I haven't been around and didn't post a daily last week. I was away on a holiday (far North Queensland, so nice) with my kiddo and couldn't log in on my phone. My computer automatically knows my password but my phone doesn't and I have no idea at all what it is. Anyway I'm still here and wi...

Lyne · Lyne

My A giving me a soliloquy (a drama giving inner thoughts) fortunately occurs less frequently than it used to, but it is impossible to have a rational conversation. And my A denies drinking. I think I handled it better than in the past--it was not a fight, no angry accusations happened, I did interje...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on their levels of responsibility. They share that they are actually not responsible for the workings of the entire universe. The author was transferred to a different city by their employer. They had a week to find a place for their family to live...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page points to the awareness that previous program success don't always translate into next challenge victories. Rather than see that as a failure, we can remember that every instance we are able to use program tools rather than old tendencies, no matter how subtle, compound over time. It...

WendyP · WendyP

After losing their Father because of Alcoholism, and then their Mother a few years later, the writer felt abandoned by God. But because of that they were confused,,and of how it affected them in all aspects of their life. But they found solace in Nature, having Peace when they were alone with Nature. A...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer thought of his father, who had died years earlier, as "the drunk," and carried anger for many years. This writer went to meetings, did step work, prayed, and had a sponsor. But it wasn't until the writer got some of his personal belongings, his wallet, photos, etc., that the writer was abl...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about what we do when we realize we have the strength and ability to make changes in our lives. The writer describes passing a frozen lake, including a spot with some cracks in it where ducks had been swimming. One of the ducks tried to get to the other side by scra...

DM2021 · DM2021

Todays reading focuses on the Tenth Step. How the author tries to keep check onhow their mistaken "opinions i.e.: prejudices, assumptions, self-righteousness and attitudes,"affect their interactions and realties when it comes to dealing with other people and situations. The author remin...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading the author reflected on their life before alcoholism, and how they were at that time focused on how wonderful their life would be if their husband would just stop drinking. Rather than face the emptiness in their own life, the author spent their time dreaming of a future...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

A new Alanon member arrives with many questions and may seek to answer them by pursuing facts about alcoholism. When knowledge and analysis reach a point of diminishing returns, that path can yield more questions, even agitation, than peace and serenity. Knowledge can certainly be beneficial, b...

DM2021 · DM2021

Todays reading is about, "Dont just do something, sit there." Made me stop and think for sure!!! But what the author is trying to get across is that action is not always the best method to deal withsome issues. Always needing to take action is not always the best mindset; sometimes it is best to"not a...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer makes the point to say they don't always notice when they are powerless, but they always notice when life becomes unmanageable. When they feel insane, they are often trying to control outcomes or others. Life becomes worse when indulging their ego and trying to get their own way. The re...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the situations we may find ourselves in when we have the opportunity to deal with unresolved issues from our past. The writer describes facing people from childhood, or situations that felt like flashbacks to an alcoholic childhood home, (before com...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on negativity. The author shares that sometimes, they can get so bogged down in negativity, they forget where they are or where they are going in life. Negativity, the author realizes, keeps their life at a standstill. With Al-Anon, the author ha...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Alanon guides us to take responsibility for our own, not others' actions. Our spiritual goal: not slide into anger or resentment when they try to blame us for their woes, and not to fall into the trap of escalation by defending ourselves. This is a challenge that one member likened to having the 'devil...

Lyne · Lyne

First, the writer says what doesn't work: seeking revenge, holding a grudge, calling names, screaming, and/or throwing things. The writer says it's important to recognize you are dealing with a sick person who may show symptoms of a disease (verbal abuse for instance). Then, you don't have to t...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on the importance service work for us in recovery. The writer describes growing up on an alcoholic home where she was told her fate was to be rejected from college, not amount to anything and end up barefoot and pregnant. The writer was determined to pr...

DM2021 · DM2021

In todays reading the author challenges the reader to change or "experiment" with one issuethat they maybe having on a daily basis. The goal is that if we change our habit of respondingto a particular difficult situation in a more positive way we may discover that we can turn"failures" into a more po...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

It is likely that we have witnessed irresponsible or irrational behavior executed by the alcoholic. The danger, suggests today's page, is that we allow ourselves to feel, hold and perhaps nurture contempt toward them. Alcoholics are not children who require our corrective measures, they are (i...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, that author reflects on "placing principles above personalities." The author shared that during a business meeting, their pet project was shot down, but another passed. They were struggling with injured pride, when this Al-Anon slogan entered their head. They we...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Spoiler alert: we can't, and trying to leads to frustration for all. So concluded today's author who acknowledged trying to change a spouse's by trying to determine their thoughts and then attempting to steer them as they thought best. Alanon suggests this is not our job, right or responsibility, w...

Lyne · Lyne

This writer thought that anger, resentment, jealousy, and fear were "bad" feelings. But program says feelings are not bad or good--they are just a part of who we are. The writer goes on to say that good can sometimes come from those feelings: -anger can prompt constructive change-resentment can b...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I moved to a new State with my youngest daughter and left my husband since after a few years of begging him to treat her in a loving manner and his refusal, I did what was right for her mental health. He had gone as far as to laugh when she was feeling suicidal when she couldn't understand why her birth father...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on learning to resist the need to control, especially the behavior of other people, in our lives. The writer describes preparing for a visit from family, which often instigates a relapse into compulsive controlling behavior on the writers part. Th...

DM2021 · DM2021

In todays reading the author talks about how they found it difficult to hold back in response to "insults and rudeness." That they thought that Al-Anon told them that they did not have to "accept unacceptable behavior." Instead we are reminded that Al-Anon tries to teach us that we should not all...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's C2C speaks of the benefits to both speaker and listener when sharing, honestly and fearlessly, as per the 5th step. Sharing our experiences and disclosing our poor decisions and motivations to the right person or people in the right setting achieves so much more than simply lightening the b...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on their relationship with change. They share that they used to fear change. Although living with alcoholism was living in constant chaos, it was familiar chaos and this lead them to feel that they have some control over the chaos. Thanks to Al-An...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Recovery is not an option. For me it is necessary. I have been experiencing a lot of issues out of my control. I feel that I would rather call things I go through issues rather than problems. Sometimes I guess these are relevant & really not interchangeable. I am so glad that I might be lessening the l...

Lyne · Lyne

This writer ponders the two ways of looking at the decision to stay with an A: 1) One can say, I just won't put up with it, or 2) We can correct our faults, keep our mouth closed, and keep hands off of other's problems. Alcoholism is only one of the disasters that can affect a marriage. It is suggested that...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about defining spiritual concepts for ourselves within Alanon. The writer describes coming to the program and feeling apathetic about a Higher Power. For the writer, reading through the steps and all the references to God was met with skepticism. What rea...

DM2021 · DM2021

Todays reading points out how our most "negative thoughts" seem like reality/truth/prophecy. Accepting that "todays choices" (hence living One-Day-At-A-Time) and trusting our future toour HP is what will help us grow from that negativity we may be harboring on a daily basis.Reminder: "Toda...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's c2c talks about realising that sometimes "problems" can turn out to be blessings in disguise and it cites the example of being so exhausted from lack of sleep due to worry that the writer was unable to act against her own best interests. This is certainly an interesting take on stress-relate...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's C2C, the author shares that living with the disease of alcoholism taught them that it was best to not hope for anything. The heartbreak of getting hopes up, only to be disappointed again and again was too much to bear. Eventually, the author shut down all their feelings and refus...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This author resolves to treasure moments of time as opportunities to strengthen relationships and better self. Regardless of circumstances, the 12 Steps can help us do that as will meetings, readings and associating with fellow Alanoners. In each moment, I can make a positive impact. Time as curr...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer speaks about when dealing with a change, problem, or discovery, awareness frequently is followed by acceptance, and then action can be taken. We call this process the Three A's: awareness, acceptance, and action. A new awareness can be uncomfortable, but unless we can face reality,...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about being aware of the balance in our lives. The writer describes thinking of recovery as a triangle: Higher Power at the top, Al-anon tools such as steps, meetings, service next, the individuals physical, emotional and spiritual health next, and job, fa...

DM2021 · DM2021

Todays reading reminds us that help comes to each of us in such positive and wondrous ways,especially during meetings and posts.The reading goes on to say that we are reminded that "miracles" do happen and that we arenot alone, all we need do is reach out or share.Quote: "As I walk, As I walk, The unive...

GardenLady · GardenLady

Hello everyone! I'm looking for supportive stories about new sobriety as I am working through some challenging emotions and situations. My DH and I are poly and have a closed triad with our partner (m). DH has struggled with alcohol addiction for many years and recently received his second DUI (fir...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Powerful reading today that touches on the very heart of Alanon: dropping our efforts to control others. Controlling can take many forms: direct, subtly manipulative, outright reconstruction or light interference, obsessive observation, counseling, taking over their responsibilities. A...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading is about tradition seven, and what it takes for a group to be fully self-supporting. The author reflects that self-supporting doesn't only involve paying rent, but that it also involves service positions, and people stepping up to make the group the kind of group that t...

Lyne · Lyne

Monday's reading speaks of discovering ourselves, as in the real person we are. Looking within can open our eyes to seeing what needs improving. We can be afraid we won't like what we see, and we may have doubts that we can change. However we may also find a surprise--many good qualities under layer...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a reminder about how much we receive (with program work) when we give. The writer describes a time when she was not able to get around very easily and fell into a period of self pity. The writer was frustrated that the people surrounding her were not mind reading...

DM2021 · DM2021

Todays reading (a bit short and sweet today) talks to us about the grief caused by the damageand loss of loved ones/friends due to the disease of alcoholism.The reading goes on to say that part of dealing with that grief is admitting to oneself how theeffects of alcoholism changed their life and accep...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's reading discusses the importance of being willing to take inventory as a group in much the same way as we do as individuals, and the importance of doing this to uphold the second tradition. It's hard for me to comment on Group Conscience as I tend to "leave that to the grown-ups" (I know, that's v...

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	c2c November 3rd I'll share by listening today (Preview) Today's reading is about how sometimes being heard can tempt us to over-share fearing it's "our last chance to be heard". Oh boy do I relate to that and anyone who's read my long angsty shares of old here will know what I mean. And it was exactly that- trying to say everything while someone was listening....	Youknowme	2	1582	Nov 4, 2022 by Lyne
	Courage to Change November 2 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from courage to change the author reflects on step two. Step 2 is we came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The author shares that their own journey toward a higher power was very gradual and that they themselves had been unaware...	Skorpi	2	1529	Nov 3, 2022 by DM2021
	11/1/22 ODAT Less Me, More Program = Better Help (Preview) Today's author points to the range of alcohol related problems we hear about and see, from levels of embarrassment and minor problems to major legal and safety concerns. While it is natural for Alanoners to feel desire to help, care must be shown to avoid advising actions that may have unintended res...	Enigmatic	2	1571	Nov 1, 2022 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday, 10/31, moving through fear (Preview) The author says that many choices have been reactions to fear. Something changes, they panic, have thoughts of disaster, and imagine failure, torment, and agony. Then it is likely to act in a rash or fruitless manner, in order to put a bandage on the problem. What the author most fears is being afra...	Lyne	2	1546	Oct 31, 2022 by Daffodils
	Hope for Today Oct 30 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on step two: Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The writer specifically focuses on the word believe from step two, and questions her sponsor about how to turn that word into concrete action. The writer didn...	yanksfan51	2	1618	Oct 30, 2022 by PosiesandPuppies
	expectations & fear of tomorrow (Preview) I have to admit that I am somewhat anxious about my future. The program tells me to not project & live one day at a time. I need to remember that in my case I am a little fearful of the future. I have mentioned before that my AH is going through cancer but it is hopeful because he is getting his kidney remov...	Hoot Nanny	3	1766	Oct 29, 2022 by Lyne
	10/25/22 C2C Own, Acknowledge, Change (Preview) Today's writer acknowledges a character defect in the area of avoiding making, executing, and following through on decisions. Though it was the best they could do at the time, this led to remaining in unhealthy environment for their children. We can't change the past, but in making amends we can str...	Enigmatic	3	1631	Oct 29, 2022 by Youknowme
	C2C – October 28, 2022 (Preview) The author of todays reading found that when they treat others as they would want to be treated their world felt safer. They discuss how in general a person gets back what they give out and that if they find themselves disliking someone fora particular reason that it usually is because they do not like...	DM2021	3	2469	Oct 29, 2022 by Youknowme
	c2c October 27th Your higher power is not a pie (Preview) Today's C2C speaks of the writer lying on the beach soaking up the sun, and realising that the sun is like the love of their HP- endless and having more than enough for everyone. They describe having to overcome feelings of jealousy when others talk about their closeness to their HP as it left them feeli...	Youknowme	2	1662	Oct 27, 2022 by Lyne
	Courage to Change October 26 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on gossip. They share that in the past, they were able to vividly recall the words, criticisms, and insults of others. In turn, the author treated others cruely. When insulting others, the author would feel better about themselves momentarily, but that fee...	Skorpi	2	1669	Oct 26, 2022 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Oct 23 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is a focus on a concept that can be difficult for many of us: God as we understood Him. For some people, having a part of the program that feels even vaguely religious is troublesome; for some, grasping the spiritual connection in the program is difficult, and in...	yanksfan51	2	2015	Oct 25, 2022 by Enigmatic
	C2C, 10/24, wounds from the past (Preview) The writer compares recovery to peeling an onion or a birch tree which looses its bark gradually. If the bark gets taken prematurely, it is vulnerable to infection, fungus, and insects. The writer goes on to say that if we are stripped of our defenses prematurely, we can be wounded. We have spent a s...	Lyne	2	1560	Oct 25, 2022 by Enigmatic
	C2C October 20th (Preview) Today's c2c speaks of missing the beauty and mystery of life because we are so focused on "what's wrong". This speaks to me because as I have posted earlier, I went on a holiday with my kiddo last week and it was a battle to keep worrying about what was happening at home from stopping me from enjoying my tr...	Youknowme	3	1782	Oct 22, 2022 by Lyne
	Don't just do something, sit there! (Preview) I'm feeling so conflicted. I believe it's likely my brother will die from his alcoholism and meth addiction soon and it's heartbreaking. He's only 35 and he's never had any kind of life. He still lives with our parents and he's held the same job for the last 12 years but he lost it yesterday for being drun...	Youknowme	5	1716	Oct 22, 2022 by Enigmatic
	C2C – October 21, 2022 (Preview) The author of todays reading discovers that powerlessness does not equal helplessness, but that at those timeswhen they surrender to their Higher Power those feelings and pray for help and guidance they receive the "clarity"they were seeking. From there time will bring what they need.Reminder...	DM2021	1	1613	Oct 21, 2022 by Lyne
	When you realize that your marriage was like a tree that was rotten from the inside -from the beginning (Preview) Hello! I've been away for awhile but I've missed you guys. :) Mini update: The bad: exH was arrested for the 3rd, 4th, and 5th times since our divorce was finalized. He's currently got an ankle monitor strapped to his leg for a long time to come. The good (no, great): I have bought a new house! Despite th...	Fedora	5	2338	Oct 19, 2022 by Breakingfree
	Rainforrest Holidays, Catastrophic Floods and the Magic of Letting Go. (Preview) Hi everyone, sorry I haven't been around and didn't post a daily last week. I was away on a holiday (far North Queensland, so nice) with my kiddo and couldn't log in on my phone. My computer automatically knows my password but my phone doesn't and I have no idea at all what it is. Anyway I'm still here and wi...	Youknowme	3	1736	Oct 19, 2022 by Breakingfree
	monologue by A (Preview) My A giving me a soliloquy (a drama giving inner thoughts) fortunately occurs less frequently than it used to, but it is impossible to have a rational conversation. And my A denies drinking. I think I handled it better than in the past--it was not a fight, no angry accusations happened, I did interje...	Lyne	2	1758	Oct 19, 2022 by Breakingfree
	Courage to Change October 19 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on their levels of responsibility. They share that they are actually not responsible for the workings of the entire universe. The author was transferred to a different city by their employer. They had a week to find a place for their family to live...	Skorpi	1	1578	Oct 19, 2022 by DM2021
	10/18/22 C2C Practice: Making Situational Successes Global (Preview) Today's page points to the awareness that previous program success don't always translate into next challenge victories. Rather than see that as a failure, we can remember that every instance we are able to use program tools rather than old tendencies, no matter how subtle, compound over time. It...	Enigmatic	3	1634	Oct 19, 2022 by Daffodils
	Hope For Today, Oct 14th. (Preview) After losing their Father because of Alcoholism, and then their Mother a few years later, the writer felt abandoned by God. But because of that they were confused,,and of how it affected them in all aspects of their life. But they found solace in Nature, having Peace when they were alone with Nature. A...	WendyP	3	1336	Oct 19, 2022 by Daffodils
	Hope for Today, Monday, 10/17, separating the "drunk" from the person (Preview) The writer thought of his father, who had died years earlier, as "the drunk," and carried anger for many years. This writer went to meetings, did step work, prayed, and had a sponsor. But it wasn't until the writer got some of his personal belongings, his wallet, photos, etc., that the writer was abl...	Lyne	2	2693	Oct 17, 2022 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Oct 16 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about what we do when we realize we have the strength and ability to make changes in our lives. The writer describes passing a frozen lake, including a spot with some cracks in it where ducks had been swimming. One of the ducks tried to get to the other side by scra...	yanksfan51	2	1170	Oct 16, 2022 by DM2021
	C2C – October 14, 2022 (Preview) Todays reading focuses on the Tenth Step. How the author tries to keep check onhow their mistaken "opinions i.e.: prejudices, assumptions, self-righteousness and attitudes,"affect their interactions and realties when it comes to dealing with other people and situations. The author remin...	DM2021	4	715	Oct 15, 2022 by DM2021
	Courage to Change October 12 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading the author reflected on their life before alcoholism, and how they were at that time focused on how wonderful their life would be if their husband would just stop drinking. Rather than face the emptiness in their own life, the author spent their time dreaming of a future...	Skorpi	3	1172	Oct 15, 2022 by Lyne
	10/11/22 C2C If Knowledge is Power... (Preview) A new Alanon member arrives with many questions and may seek to answer them by pursuing facts about alcoholism. When knowledge and analysis reach a point of diminishing returns, that path can yield more questions, even agitation, than peace and serenity. Knowledge can certainly be beneficial, b...	Enigmatic	3	1694	Oct 12, 2022 by DM2021
	C2C – October 07, 2022 (Preview) Todays reading is about, "Dont just do something, sit there." Made me stop and think for sure!!! But what the author is trying to get across is that action is not always the best method to deal withsome issues. Always needing to take action is not always the best mindset; sometimes it is best to"not a...	DM2021	3	2784	Oct 11, 2022 by Enigmatic
	Hope for Today, Monday, 10/10, Step One Backwards (Preview) The writer makes the point to say they don't always notice when they are powerless, but they always notice when life becomes unmanageable. When they feel insane, they are often trying to control outcomes or others. Life becomes worse when indulging their ego and trying to get their own way. The re...	Lyne	1	1682	Oct 10, 2022 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Oct 9 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the situations we may find ourselves in when we have the opportunity to deal with unresolved issues from our past. The writer describes facing people from childhood, or situations that felt like flashbacks to an alcoholic childhood home, (before com...	yanksfan51	2	1665	Oct 9, 2022 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change October 5 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on negativity. The author shares that sometimes, they can get so bogged down in negativity, they forget where they are or where they are going in life. Negativity, the author realizes, keeps their life at a standstill. With Al-Anon, the author ha...	Skorpi	3	1444	Oct 5, 2022 by Daffodils
	10/4/22 ODAT (Preview) Alanon guides us to take responsibility for our own, not others' actions. Our spiritual goal: not slide into anger or resentment when they try to blame us for their woes, and not to fall into the trap of escalation by defending ourselves. This is a challenge that one member likened to having the 'devil...	Enigmatic	2	1456	Oct 4, 2022 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday, 10/3, How do you get compassion for an A? (Preview) First, the writer says what doesn't work: seeking revenge, holding a grudge, calling names, screaming, and/or throwing things. The writer says it's important to recognize you are dealing with a sick person who may show symptoms of a disease (verbal abuse for instance). Then, you don't have to t...	Lyne	2	1718	Oct 3, 2022 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Oct 2 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on the importance service work for us in recovery. The writer describes growing up on an alcoholic home where she was told her fate was to be rejected from college, not amount to anything and end up barefoot and pregnant. The writer was determined to pr...	yanksfan51	1	1676	Oct 2, 2022 by DM2021
	C2C – September 30, 2022 (Preview) In todays reading the author challenges the reader to change or "experiment" with one issuethat they maybe having on a daily basis. The goal is that if we change our habit of respondingto a particular difficult situation in a more positive way we may discover that we can turn"failures" into a more po...	DM2021	1	1789	Sep 30, 2022 by Lyne
	9/20/22 ODAT How do I Really Feel About Them? (Preview) It is likely that we have witnessed irresponsible or irrational behavior executed by the alcoholic. The danger, suggests today's page, is that we allow ourselves to feel, hold and perhaps nurture contempt toward them. Alcoholics are not children who require our corrective measures, they are (i...	Enigmatic	5	1822	Sep 29, 2022 by Seahorse7
	Courage to Change September 28 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, that author reflects on "placing principles above personalities." The author shared that during a business meeting, their pet project was shot down, but another passed. They were struggling with injured pride, when this Al-Anon slogan entered their head. They we...	Skorpi	2	1767	Sep 29, 2022 by Lyne
	9/27/22 ODAT – How To: Manage Others’ Lives (Preview) Spoiler alert: we can't, and trying to leads to frustration for all. So concluded today's author who acknowledged trying to change a spouse's by trying to determine their thoughts and then attempting to steer them as they thought best. Alanon suggests this is not our job, right or responsibility, w...	Enigmatic	3	1756	Sep 27, 2022 by Youknowme
	C2C, Monday, 9/26, when negative becomes positive (Preview) This writer thought that anger, resentment, jealousy, and fear were "bad" feelings. But program says feelings are not bad or good--they are just a part of who we are. The writer goes on to say that good can sometimes come from those feelings: -anger can prompt constructive change-resentment can b...	Lyne	3	1868	Sep 27, 2022 by Enigmatic
	Starting over again.....Again (Preview) I moved to a new State with my youngest daughter and left my husband since after a few years of begging him to treat her in a loving manner and his refusal, I did what was right for her mental health. He had gone as far as to laugh when she was feeling suicidal when she couldn't understand why her birth father...	Breakingfree	4	1928	Sep 25, 2022 by Breakingfree
	Hope for Today Sept 25 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on learning to resist the need to control, especially the behavior of other people, in our lives. The writer describes preparing for a visit from family, which often instigates a relapse into compulsive controlling behavior on the writers part. Th...	yanksfan51	0	1762	Sep 25, 2022 by yanksfan51
	C2C – September 23, 2022 (Preview) In todays reading the author talks about how they found it difficult to hold back in response to "insults and rudeness." That they thought that Al-Anon told them that they did not have to "accept unacceptable behavior." Instead we are reminded that Al-Anon tries to teach us that we should not all...	DM2021	2	1982	Sep 25, 2022 by Youknowme
	C2C September 22 Sharing with the right people in the right place (Preview) Today's C2C speaks of the benefits to both speaker and listener when sharing, honestly and fearlessly, as per the 5th step. Sharing our experiences and disclosing our poor decisions and motivations to the right person or people in the right setting achieves so much more than simply lightening the b...	Youknowme	3	1928	Sep 24, 2022 by serenity47
	Courage to Change Sept. 21 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on their relationship with change. They share that they used to fear change. Although living with alcoholism was living in constant chaos, it was familiar chaos and this lead them to feel that they have some control over the chaos. Thanks to Al-An...	Skorpi	2	1879	Sep 22, 2022 by Lyne
	recovery is not an option (Preview) Recovery is not an option. For me it is necessary. I have been experiencing a lot of issues out of my control. I feel that I would rather call things I go through issues rather than problems. Sometimes I guess these are relevant & really not interchangeable. I am so glad that I might be lessening the l...	Hoot Nanny	3	2023	Sep 21, 2022 by Breakingfree
	ODAT in alanon, Monday, 9/19, heads or tails (Preview) This writer ponders the two ways of looking at the decision to stay with an A: 1) One can say, I just won't put up with it, or 2) We can correct our faults, keep our mouth closed, and keep hands off of other's problems. Alcoholism is only one of the disasters that can affect a marriage. It is suggested that...	Lyne	2	1935	Sep 19, 2022 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Sept 18 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about defining spiritual concepts for ourselves within Alanon. The writer describes coming to the program and feeling apathetic about a Higher Power. For the writer, reading through the steps and all the references to God was met with skepticism. What rea...	yanksfan51	3	1442	Sep 18, 2022 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C – September 16, 2022 (Preview) Todays reading points out how our most "negative thoughts" seem like reality/truth/prophecy. Accepting that "todays choices" (hence living One-Day-At-A-Time) and trusting our future toour HP is what will help us grow from that negativity we may be harboring on a daily basis.Reminder: "Toda...	DM2021	3	2162	Sep 16, 2022 by Daffodils
	c2c September 15th (Preview) Today's c2c talks about realising that sometimes "problems" can turn out to be blessings in disguise and it cites the example of being so exhausted from lack of sleep due to worry that the writer was unable to act against her own best interests. This is certainly an interesting take on stress-relate...	Youknowme	1	860	Sep 15, 2022 by Lyne
	Courage to Change September 14 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's C2C, the author shares that living with the disease of alcoholism taught them that it was best to not hope for anything. The heartbreak of getting hopes up, only to be disappointed again and again was too much to bear. Eventually, the author shut down all their feelings and refus...	Skorpi	2	906	Sep 15, 2022 by DM2021
	9/13/22 C2C What Have I Spent my 'Money' on Today… (Preview) This author resolves to treasure moments of time as opportunities to strengthen relationships and better self. Regardless of circumstances, the 12 Steps can help us do that as will meetings, readings and associating with fellow Alanoners. In each moment, I can make a positive impact. Time as curr...	Enigmatic	2	1842	Sep 14, 2022 by DM2021
	C2C, Monday, 9/12, acceptance is not submission (Preview) The writer speaks about when dealing with a change, problem, or discovery, awareness frequently is followed by acceptance, and then action can be taken. We call this process the Three A's: awareness, acceptance, and action. A new awareness can be uncomfortable, but unless we can face reality,...	Lyne	3	1984	Sep 12, 2022 by Daffodils
	Hope for Today Sept 11 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about being aware of the balance in our lives. The writer describes thinking of recovery as a triangle: Higher Power at the top, Al-anon tools such as steps, meetings, service next, the individuals physical, emotional and spiritual health next, and job, fa...	yanksfan51	1	1477	Sep 11, 2022 by DM2021
	C2C – September 09, 2022 (Preview) Todays reading reminds us that help comes to each of us in such positive and wondrous ways,especially during meetings and posts.The reading goes on to say that we are reminded that "miracles" do happen and that we arenot alone, all we need do is reach out or share.Quote: "As I walk, As I walk, The unive...	DM2021	4	2061	Sep 9, 2022 by Daffodils
	DH newly sober (yea!) - yet his behavior makes me worried... (Preview) Hello everyone! I'm looking for supportive stories about new sobriety as I am working through some challenging emotions and situations. My DH and I are poly and have a closed triad with our partner (m). DH has struggled with alcohol addiction for many years and recently received his second DUI (fir...	GardenLady	3	1512	Sep 8, 2022 by pinkchip
	9/6/22 ODAT – Get Off Their Back (Preview) Powerful reading today that touches on the very heart of Alanon: dropping our efforts to control others. Controlling can take many forms: direct, subtly manipulative, outright reconstruction or light interference, obsessive observation, counseling, taking over their responsibilities. A...	Enigmatic	5	2269	Sep 7, 2022 by Daffodils
	Courage to Change September 7 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading is about tradition seven, and what it takes for a group to be fully self-supporting. The author reflects that self-supporting doesn't only involve paying rent, but that it also involves service positions, and people stepping up to make the group the kind of group that t...	Skorpi	3	1508	Sep 7, 2022 by Daffodils
	ODAT in alanon, Monday, 9/5, looking within (Preview) Monday's reading speaks of discovering ourselves, as in the real person we are. Looking within can open our eyes to seeing what needs improving. We can be afraid we won't like what we see, and we may have doubts that we can change. However we may also find a surprise--many good qualities under layer...	Lyne	2	1591	Sep 5, 2022 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Sept 4 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a reminder about how much we receive (with program work) when we give. The writer describes a time when she was not able to get around very easily and fell into a period of self pity. The writer was frustrated that the people surrounding her were not mind reading...	yanksfan51	3	1365	Sep 5, 2022 by DM2021
	C2C – September 02, 2022 (Preview) Todays reading (a bit short and sweet today) talks to us about the grief caused by the damageand loss of loved ones/friends due to the disease of alcoholism.The reading goes on to say that part of dealing with that grief is admitting to oneself how theeffects of alcoholism changed their life and accep...	DM2021	4	2515	Sep 3, 2022 by DM2021
	C2C September 1st (Preview) Today's reading discusses the importance of being willing to take inventory as a group in much the same way as we do as individuals, and the importance of doing this to uphold the second tradition. It's hard for me to comment on Group Conscience as I tend to "leave that to the grown-ups" (I know, that's v...	Youknowme	3	1414	Sep 3, 2022 by Daffodils
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