Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

wmed · wmed

Detatchment .....A hard thing to do ....I am working on detatching myself from my "A" family member. I have gone to meetings f2f and I am still struggling with this concept. For some reason I feel like I am ignoring the problem like it isn't going on and isn't that denial...it feels like it when I see my...

dadrrb1 · dadrrb1

SAYING GRACE Thank God for Children Saying Grace... Last week I took my children to a restaurant. My six-year-old son asked if he could say grace. As we bowed our heads he said, "God is good, God is great. Thank you for the food, and I would even thank you more if Mom gets us ice cream for dessert. And Li...

mom to 2 · mom to 2

My husband spent this entire last week trying to get in rehab. He was scheduled to go to one rehab on Tues but they took him to the detox unit he said it was like a psych facility--excuse? maybe. Finally, he got an appt at a "suitable" place for Fri. All day he prepared and talked abou...

kitty · kitty

I thought i was having a pretty good day today but maybe I was just fooling myself. Anyway, I can acknowledge my pain without having to be miserable but I've done it for so long, I really have such a long way to go. I need to try to be patient with myself & not expect to change everything over nig...

kathy570 · kathy570

Sun. Aug. 7/05 12:30 pm Dear Jo, Hi there fellow Ontarian. Its nice to meet someone that lives close by. Have you been in Al Anon long. Is that group at Dundas & 10 - A.C.O.A.? Thats a long drive - is there nothing closer? I belong to the Acton Wed Night Meeting. Its...

kellan · kellan

My husband (the alcoholic) recently went on a check writing spree.....on my account that I was closing (so I had very little money in the account). He wrote 25 checks in 30 days to the same place - a gas station that happens to sell beer.......Well, all of those checks bounced. Now I receiv...

TLC2 · TLC2

My friend, who only comes to her cottage once a year, called me.( He ruins it every year so I can't go see her). He got her to tell me that he sat at his cottage all day yesterday, supposidly sober, waiting for me to come over. He was at her place when she called. I told her that I don't want anything to do with hi...

kimmie · kimmie

My A is fully supporting my interest in Alanon. He has even looked through my Alanon - Steps to Recovery, book. And he will be watching my son when I go to meetings. I still just dont understand how he can know that I am doing all this and he's not even trying to get better. He is co...

danz123 · danz123

Hi Folks, Lucy asked me to leave a message for her. She can't remember her password. She hasn't been around because her dad had surgery and went into complete renal failure. She is asking for prayers from all her friends at MIP. ...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

thanks to all who sat with me last night, I slept with my serenity prayer cross and today is a new day. With a new set of rules and a new plan and with a lot continued prayers to guide me in the right direction. Of course I awoke to a changed man with a lot of promises I have heard before, and told...

wille · wille

Hi to all, I would ask us to all dream / imagine / pray for the kids on the shuttle to return home safe. Thankies and regards, \/\/ille

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello my family, I am sitting here wishing I had never once uttered the words "South Beach" and "Diet" all in the same sentence. But alas, I did. So here I am after a wonderful meal wishing for.................. you guessed it CARBS, of any shape or form.

I am doing this for me. Changing my lifest...

kathy570 · kathy570

7th Stwp Prayer from page 76 of the AA Big Book My Creator, I am now willing that you should have all of me, good & bad. I pray that you now remove from me every single defect of character which stand in the way of my usefulness to You & my fellows. Grant me strength as I go out from he...

LLPluv · LLPluv

Tonight my A finally called me. In the last 4 days since he left I would have to call him. He called to just see what was going on. Earlier that day I said its not fair that I make the calls and he hasn't tried once to call to see how we are doing. Well what a shock he called. At one point during the conver...

kathy570 · kathy570

3rd Step Prayer from page 63 of the AA Big Book " God, I offer myself to Thee - to build with me and to do with me as Thou wilt. Relieve me of my bondage of self, that I may better do Thy will. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those I would help of Thy Power, T...

nmike · nmike

I just attended some of the meetings at the Canyon de Chelly Roundup in northern Arizona on the Navajo Nation. It really was a great spiritual event partly because of the scenery and the great people that shared. If you live in the Four Corners area you may want to put it on your calendar for next year. It w...

haximon · haximon

Anyone wanting to reach me for questions, comments, or whatever please do so here. this topic will be my temporary HQ until I get settled. Thank you to all!! Haximon

Tammy · Tammy

Last night my husband went out after a funeral and got drunk. Then drove home !! He called said he would be home in one hour .. Well like a CRAZY person, I called his cell phone.. Probably 50x.. Heartbroken, I couldnt get it together. This was after a week of no alcohol. I had left him and returned last w...

LLPluv · LLPluv

Yesterday I blew up over something stupid. I know it was wrong and I even told him so. I was so hurt that he ignored our 14 anniversary. I had so much penned up inside about all his drinking last week. Drank up all our money without a thought of what was coming up. I know an A only thinks about his drink of prefe...

TLC2 · TLC2

some of you have read that my A is back to drinking. I have been doing some soul-searching, and I'm glad that he is gone. I am enjoying my peace. My daughter and her family were here today, and I really enjoyed them. My son called, worried. I guess they were quite surprised at my serenity. Thanks t...

Maria123 · Maria123

Hi everyone, Would love some input on sponsorship -- some of your experiences -- if you have them to share. My experiences are based on my relationship with my sponsor. She really believed in program, as do I. I came to Al Anon because I knew something had to give -- mainly ME.&nbs...

NottaClu · NottaClu

Hi.. My name is Jessyca. I am 32 with three children of my own and I have been married to my husband for about three years. He is an alcoholic and a drug addict.... to give him credit he is trying to recover. I wish he would join at least AA or something... but ...

kathy570 · kathy570

Sun Aug 7 Good Morning All. This AA piece has saved me many a day. Feel free to copy. YESTERDAY.....TODAY AND TOMORROW There are two days in every week about which we should not worry, two days whould shoud be kept from fear and apprehension. One of these days is YESTERDAY wit...

debilyn · debilyn

HI all, I told you that my daughter Raini is pg. She is 30 and on her way to get her masters to teach at a university. She met a young man, very cute, looks a lot like her father who died when she was 4. He also is an alcoholic, 22, already had dui, lost jobs, evicted, black outs, you say a red flag his d...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

I have been reading some wonderful posts of ESH (experience, strength and hope). Want to thank all of you for sharing with us here!! One common thing I keep seeing is the talk about the Blaming. How the A blames us for everything. (Typical alcoholic behavior - not wanting to take...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Hi (((((Diva))))) Thanks for your reply to my post below on Taking responsibility for our behavior. I can understand and appreciate your viewpoint - and what I wanted to do was just reply and say that I was not saying my A is not responsible for his part. Just as I am responsible for how I a...

Mandi · Mandi

I think we can all relate to this one, in some form. ~Mandi~ Where have you gone, my Bobby, my boy, Oh where, oh where are you bound? The masters of greed have their hands on you; You're nowhere to be found. Your body is here, my Bobby, my boy, I see it every day; But your soul has gone into slavery And ca...

kitty · kitty

It really is amazing how much of the program spills into every other aspect of my life, each day it is getting a little clearer & I am happy with my own progress. Six days ago, my mom sd the A called me unmotivated - it hurt & kinda 'threw me for a loop'. And he wrote back to me (when I e-mailed him a an...

dadrrb1 · dadrrb1

Prayer of St. Francis of Assisi Lord, Make me an instument of your peace, where there is hatred let me sow love; where there is injury, pardon; where there is doubt, faith; where there is despair, hope; where there is darkness, light, and where there is sadnes, joy...

kathy570 · kathy570

If you are not to far away - maybe you could join us. Southern Ontario Al Anon - District 4 Al Anon Day Sept. 17, 2005 Begins at 8:30 AM Trinity United Church 400 Stevenson Road Guelph, Ontario $ 5.00 - Lucnh Included Be nice to meet some of you face to face

Yours in Re...

sanddie · sanddie

Well, the decision was made tonight to allow my daughter who just got out of a 45 day inpatient rehabilitation center go live with her Dad, who is not in recovery and continues to avoid accepting the consequences of his actions. My daughter has been irrate, disrespectful, and many times outrag...

Tammy · Tammy

Today is Friday August 5th and i just returned home from a funeral. My husband is a firefighter and one of his fellow firefighters was killed in a boating accident. You guessed it ALCOHOL was involved. It was pretty gruesome and it was a very sad funeral. I guess, I am more angry than sad. These guys a...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

This is the first time I have posted here. I have been in alanon for a few months now and I feel that I am making some progress. The problem is that my husband isn't. He is an active alcoholic and has been making my life a living hell. At any given moment he can go off for no reason at...

cdb · cdb

Hello TC, Please contact me. I was not able to get you into PM like you requested in the room. ((((((((((((TC))))))))) I will be online for awhile waiting for you if you need me. cdb

kerry5 · kerry5

IF Tomorrow Starts Without Me If Tomorrow starts without me.... A few weeks ago a woman teacher was killed in an auto accident. She was very, very well liked, so the school systems shut down for her funeral and it was on the news and so on. On the day the workers came back to work...

LLPluv · LLPluv

Before I start please get your coffee, tea, soda or cigs this is going to be a long one. I have never told my story all in one peice and I might forget alot but I will try and tell it all. I am doing this for healing. I need to see how things were and how they became what they are. I might find some sense in it or othe...

kitty · kitty

These are the words to a song, it is so codependent! Now that my mind is getting a hair better (microscopic steps forward) I am noticing codependent lyrics more & more. Music is really healing - I used to play music all the time. I am so far from the way I used to be, I don't resemble...

megan · megan

I will not be able to chair the Sunday 7pm meeting on August 7 or August 14. I will be on vacation with family. I found out that there is no internet access where I am going. :( If someone could cover for me I would appreciate it. I will try to see if my aircard will work but cannot know if it wi...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

What we discussed yesterday is done and should be in Lincoln tomorrow by noon. josey

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Saw your reply to another post and just wanted to give you a Big Welcome to our Miracles In Progress family Guy!! Glad you are here! With program love, Kis

Peggy7 · Peggy7

I Got Flowers Today We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said, because he sent me flowers today. I got flowers today. It wasn't our anniversary or any other...

marmare · marmare

I just spoke to my A. It makes me sad to know he is battling a battle on his own. He is on his way home from work, it's Thursday, and at our house that's Pizza night. The last few weeks I have had to do the ordering, when in the past it has been his and the boys thing. He gets home about 3...

Mandi · Mandi

Let God Have His Way May the grace of God keep you, and his arms support you still May his riches supply your needs, may you stay centered in his will. Let God's spirit work through you, and his wisdom make you wise. Let his mighty hands mold you, and make you perfect in his eyes....

kathy570 · kathy570

Acceptance Pg 449 from the AA Big Book And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, or situation - some fact of my life - unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation a...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

It just struck me today that I have been with/on the MIP alanon message board for three years now, and I need to celebrate a little tonight as the steamy temperatures here subside into a cooler evening! Wow, anyone else know how long they've been on board? ...

wmed · wmed

I am posting after attending an online meeting a realizing that I need to be in these"rooms" of recovery. People have smiles and love. I want that for myself and it needs to start with me. My Brother is an A. The first time he hit a bottom he went and worked a bit of recovery and the family and myself did a...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Hiya (((((((everyone))))) For the past 2 weeks I have been doing a great job of giving away my serenity to my husband. Many behaviors are rearing their ugly head. My husband who has been I believe to be sober since October of last year has not been active in his program for a while. ...

cdb · cdb

What can I say. I had a phone call from a man that said he found my daughter's cell phone on a busy street. He is dropping it by later. Then I was awakened from my nap (after 2 hours of sleep last night) by an old friend of my daughters. She called him from the cell phone at 4:45am and he was sleepin...

Cobrien1976 · Cobrien1976

What a scary yet warm feeling to read posts and feel as though they were all written by you. Everyone of them rings true to how my life is. I am married to an alcoholic for 3 years. I think I always knew he was but he was so great otherwise, that I tried to convince myself he wasnt. I left him twice before...

marmare · marmare

Trying times, the cycle of the A’s behavior is overwhelming at times. My A is getting worse, it saddens me to see this man I love self-destruct. He called me yesterday and told me he was playing 9 holes of golf, should be done in an hour or hour and a half at most and then would head home, that wa...

afglin · afglin

I have a legal question and I am guessing somebody here has been through something similar and can answer me. I have a friend who is in an abusive marriage. (betings with a belt, black eyes, etc) She asked me a week ago if I'd pick her up today and take het to get a protective order against...

Sallen · Sallen

To My Son, Love Mom I put it in my God box and tucked it way inside My fears and tears and long lost dreams, I put them there to hide I left it in a corner in a closet down the hall And asked my Higher Power to come and take it all The burden was too heavy; I kept falling on the way, So...

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LLPluv · LLPluv

Ok I know I am new to all this. But I am almost so frustrated I feel like my soul will burst open. I have heard on board that if you have expectations of your A it will creat resentments. This is how I see it. I know it will be just a stage I am going through and will make it someday to understand. I fe...

Becka · Becka

I have now been separated from my A for about 5 or 6 weeks. I can actually see the difference in him for he is getting better. But I am not. I still feel stressed when I see him. Or maybe I just still see the hurt he did to me. He is trying to be honest of all the stuff he did (behind my back) but I don’t know if he is te...

dove · dove

Today started out better. "A" talked – actually opened up a little bit --- this morning. As a result, we got on better today. I didn’t feel like he was just lying, denying and withholding. He went to his meeting today and is now in the kitchen cooking dinner. This is the first time in a...

Tammy · Tammy

I attended my first f2f meeting Sunday night. I am new to Al-Anon however, not new to the disease of alcohol. My husband of nearly 19 years is an A and has been most of his life. We married very young and I remember loving him so much. I knew he was broken but i was determined to love him enough to mend...

Heather1 · Heather1

I'm not wasting one more day of my life walking on egg shells and trying to figure out how to be a better wife to my A husband! I filed for divorce last month and he still doesn't get it. He blames me 100%... typical denial and abuse! For 17 years I've watched him drink and drink; verball...

beachbaby · beachbaby

Hi Everyone: First off, I am so grateful I found Al-Anon and this place----I have been coming here daily for about a month, although I dont post much I find strength and learning from others who seem to have been working this program longer than I. I am attending local meetings 2-3 nights a we...

lin0606 · lin0606

In some thread in the last few days, someone said something like "It helps the newbies to see that even the veterans can sometimes slip". I just wanted to say how much I agree with that. One of the best things in this program, for me, is that we are all helping each other. There is no real hierarchy - no all...

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	detatchment (Preview) Detatchment .....A hard thing to do ....I am working on detatching myself from my "A" family member. I have gone to meetings f2f and I am still struggling with this concept. For some reason I feel like I am ignoring the problem like it isn't going on and isn't that denial...it feels like it when I see my...	wmed	8	500	Aug 8, 2005 by lildee
	I love this story...pray for ice cream (Preview) SAYING GRACE Thank God for Children Saying Grace... Last week I took my children to a restaurant. My six-year-old son asked if he could say grace. As we bowed our heads he said, "God is good, God is great. Thank you for the food, and I would even thank you more if Mom gets us ice cream for dessert. And Li...	dadrrb1	4	488	Aug 8, 2005 by lildee
	and so it goes (Preview) My husband spent this entire last week trying to get in rehab. He was scheduled to go to one rehab on Tues but they took him to the detox unit he said it was like a psych facility--excuse? maybe. Finally, he got an appt at a "suitable" place for Fri. All day he prepared and talked abou...	mom to 2	9	576	Aug 8, 2005 by mom to 2
	so much pain! (Preview) I thought i was having a pretty good day today but maybe I was just fooling myself. Anyway, I can acknowledge my pain without having to be miserable but I've done it for so long, I really have such a long way to go. I need to try to be patient with myself & not expect to change everything over nig...	kitty	8	633	Aug 8, 2005 by lildee
	Jo4- A Ontarian - YEAH (Preview) Sun. Aug. 7/05 12:30 pm Dear Jo, Hi there fellow Ontarian. Its nice to meet someone that lives close by. Have you been in Al Anon long. Is that group at Dundas & 10 - A.C.O.A.? Thats a long drive - is there nothing closer? I belong to the Acton Wed Night Meeting. Its...	kathy570	1	401	Aug 8, 2005 by jo4
	What do I do?? (Preview) My husband (the alcoholic) recently went on a check writing spree.....on my account that I was closing (so I had very little money in the account). He wrote 25 checks in 30 days to the same place - a gas station that happens to sell beer.......Well, all of those checks bounced. Now I receiv...	kellan	6	490	Aug 8, 2005 by TLC2
	A got my friend to call (Preview) My friend, who only comes to her cottage once a year, called me.( He ruins it every year so I can't go see her). He got her to tell me that he sat at his cottage all day yesterday, supposidly sober, waiting for me to come over. He was at her place when she called. I told her that I don't want anything to do with hi...	TLC2	2	502	Aug 8, 2005 by TLC2
	Support from my A (Preview) My A is fully supporting my interest in Alanon. He has even looked through my Alanon - Steps to Recovery, book. And he will be watching my son when I go to meetings. I still just dont understand how he can know that I am doing all this and he's not even trying to get better. He is co...	kimmie	5	542	Aug 8, 2005 by lin0606
	Message from Lucy (Preview) Hi Folks, Lucy asked me to leave a message for her. She can't remember her password. She hasn't been around because her dad had surgery and went into complete renal failure. She is asking for prayers from all her friends at MIP. ...	danz123	4	448	Aug 8, 2005 by cdb
	last night (Preview) thanks to all who sat with me last night, I slept with my serenity prayer cross and today is a new day. With a new set of rules and a new plan and with a lot continued prayers to guide me in the right direction. Of course I awoke to a changed man with a lot of promises I have heard before, and told...	jrtjosey	5	459	Aug 8, 2005 by cdb
	prayer request (Preview) Hi to all, I would ask us to all dream / imagine / pray for the kids on the shuttle to return home safe. Thankies and regards, \/\/ille	wille	2	413	Aug 8, 2005 by cdb
	My Addictions (Preview) Hello my family, I am sitting here wishing I had never once uttered the words "South Beach" and "Diet" all in the same sentence. But alas, I did. So here I am after a wonderful meal wishing for.................. you guessed it CARBS, of any shape or form. I am doing this for me. Changing my lifest...	Dolphin123	6	533	Aug 8, 2005 by Christy
	7 th Step Prayer (Preview) 7th Stwp Prayer from page 76 of the AA Big Book My Creator, I am now willing that you should have all of me, good & bad. I pray that you now remove from me every single defect of character which stand in the way of my usefulness to You & my fellows. Grant me strength as I go out from he...	kathy570	6	579	Aug 8, 2005 by wallsal55
	YIPPeee!! For once I wasn't the SHREW! (Preview) Tonight my A finally called me. In the last 4 days since he left I would have to call him. He called to just see what was going on. Earlier that day I said its not fair that I make the calls and he hasn't tried once to call to see how we are doing. Well what a shock he called. At one point during the conver...	LLPluv	2	497	Aug 8, 2005 by marmare
	3 rd Step Prayer (Preview) 3rd Step Prayer from page 63 of the AA Big Book " God, I offer myself to Thee - to build with me and to do with me as Thou wilt. Relieve me of my bondage of self, that I may better do Thy will. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those I would help of Thy Power, T...	kathy570	3	413	Aug 8, 2005 by jrtjosey
	Canyon de Chelly Roundup (Preview) I just attended some of the meetings at the Canyon de Chelly Roundup in northern Arizona on the Navajo Nation. It really was a great spiritual event partly because of the scenery and the great people that shared. If you live in the Four Corners area you may want to put it on your calendar for next year. It w...	nmike	1	452	Aug 8, 2005 by wille
	Haxi-gonian (Preview) Anyone wanting to reach me for questions, comments, or whatever please do so here. this topic will be my temporary HQ until I get settled. Thank you to all!! Haximon	haximon	20	1112	Aug 8, 2005 by jrtjosey
	The Merry-Go-Round Continues (Preview) Last night my husband went out after a funeral and got drunk. Then drove home !! He called said he would be home in one hour .. Well like a CRAZY person, I called his cell phone.. Probably 50x.. Heartbroken, I couldnt get it together. This was after a week of no alcohol. I had left him and returned last w...	Tammy	6	1058	Aug 8, 2005 by ArwynEvenstar
	My A Left lastnight not to return (Preview) Yesterday I blew up over something stupid. I know it was wrong and I even told him so. I was so hurt that he ignored our 14 anniversary. I had so much penned up inside about all his drinking last week. Drank up all our money without a thought of what was coming up. I know an A only thinks about his drink of prefe...	LLPluv	10	614	Aug 8, 2005 by kimmie
	letting go and letting god (Preview) some of you have read that my A is back to drinking. I have been doing some soul-searching, and I'm glad that he is gone. I am enjoying my peace. My daughter and her family were here today, and I really enjoyed them. My son called, worried. I guess they were quite surprised at my serenity. Thanks t...	TLC2	8	791	Aug 7, 2005 by TLC2
	Sponsorship (Preview) Hi everyone, Would love some input on sponsorship -- some of your experiences -- if you have them to share. My experiences are based on my relationship with my sponsor. She really believed in program, as do I. I came to Al Anon because I knew something had to give -- mainly ME.&nbs...	Maria123	4	473	Aug 7, 2005 by Maria123
	Hi... I am new here..... (Preview) Hi.. My name is Jessyca. I am 32 with three children of my own and I have been married to my husband for about three years. He is an alcoholic and a drug addict.... to give him credit he is trying to recover. I wish he would join at least AA or something... but ...	NottaClu	6	641	Aug 7, 2005 by kitty
	Both Sides of the Fence - Aug 7 (Preview) Sun Aug 7 Good Morning All. This AA piece has saved me many a day. Feel free to copy. YESTERDAY.....TODAY AND TOMORROW There are two days in every week about which we should not worry, two days whould shoud be kept from fear and apprehension. One of these days is YESTERDAY wit...	kathy570	1	411	Aug 7, 2005 by TLC2
	Alcoholism brings more obstacles (Preview) HI all, I told you that my daughter Raini is pg. She is 30 and on her way to get her masters to teach at a university. She met a young man, very cute, looks a lot like her father who died when she was 4. He also is an alcoholic, 22, already had dui, lost jobs, evicted, black outs, you say a red flag his d...	debilyn	6	490	Aug 7, 2005 by mom to 2
	Taking Responsibility for Our Behavior (Preview) I have been reading some wonderful posts of ESH (experience, strength and hope). Want to thank all of you for sharing with us here!! One common thing I keep seeing is the talk about the Blaming. How the A blames us for everything. (Typical alcoholic behavior - not wanting to take...	kismetstrand	9	733	Aug 7, 2005 by Mark S
	For Diva (Preview) Hi (((((Diva))))) Thanks for your reply to my post below on Taking responsibility for our behavior. I can understand and appreciate your viewpoint - and what I wanted to do was just reply and say that I was not saying my A is not responsible for his part. Just as I am responsible for how I a...	kismetstrand	3	471	Aug 7, 2005 by kitty
	Touching....wanted to share it with you all (Preview) I think we can all relate to this one, in some form. ~Mandi~ *Where have you gone, my Bobby, my boy, Oh where, oh where are you bound? The masters of greed have their hands on you; You're nowhere to be found.* *Your body is here, my Bobby, my boy, I see it every day; But your soul has gone into slavery And ca...*	Mandi	3	485	Aug 7, 2005 by kitty
	to thine own self be true (Preview) It really is amazing how much of the program spills into every other aspect of my life, each day it is getting a little clearer & I am happy with my own progress. Six days ago, my mom sd the A called me unmotivated - it hurt & kinda 'threw me for a loop'. And he wrote back to me (when I e-mailed him a an...	kitty	3	499	Aug 7, 2005 by cdb
	just a poem for you to read (Preview) Prayer of St. Francis of Assisi Lord, Make me an instument of your peace, where there is hatred let me sow love; where there is injury, pardon; where there is doubt, faith; where there is despair, hope; where there is darkness, light, and where there is sadnes, joy...	dadrrb1	2	411	Aug 7, 2005 by cdb
	Come to Ontario, Canada for Al Anon day (Preview) If you are not to far away - maybe you could join us. Southern Ontario Al Anon - District 4 Al Anon Day Sept. 17, 2005 Begins at 8:30 AM Trinity United Church 400 Stevenson Road Guelph, Ontario $ 5.00 - Lucnh Included Be nice to meet some of you face to face Yours in Re...	kathy570	1	451	Aug 6, 2005 by jo4
	I'm letting her go..... (Thought of cdb too) (Preview) Well, the decision was made tonight to allow my daughter who just got out of a 45 day inpatient rehabilitation center go live with her Dad, who is not in recovery and continues to avoid accepting the consequences of his actions. My daughter has been irrate, disrespectful, and many times outrag...	sanddie	9	607	Aug 6, 2005 by sanddie
	Someone please explain to me ?? (Preview) Today is Friday August 5th and i just returned home from a funeral. My husband is a firefighter and one of his fellow firefighters was killed in a boating accident. You guessed it ALCOHOL was involved. It was pretty gruesome and it was a very sad funeral. I guess, I am more angry than sad. These guys a...	Tammy	6	536	Aug 6, 2005 by Diva
	I can't take anymore (Preview) This is the first time I have posted here. I have been in alanon for a few months now and I feel that I am making some progress. The problem is that my husband isn't. He is an active alcoholic and has been making my life a living hell. At any given moment he can go off for no reason at...	JulieLynn	7	652	Aug 6, 2005 by Tammy
	itsmeTC,,here for you (Preview) Hello TC, Please contact me. I was not able to get you into PM like you requested in the room. ((((((((((((TC))))))))) I will be online for awhile waiting for you if you need me. cdb	cdb	0	377	Aug 5, 2005 by cdb
	If Tommorow Starts Without Me (Preview) IF Tomorrow Starts Without Me If Tomorrow starts without me.... A few weeks ago a woman teacher was killed in an auto accident. She was very, very well liked, so the school systems shut down for her funeral and it was on the news and so on. On the day the workers came back to work...	kerry5	3	638	Aug 5, 2005 by dadrrb1
	Healing---Letting everything come out---Never done before (Preview) Before I start please get your coffee, tea, soda or cigs this is going to be a long one. I have never told my story all in one peice and I might forget alot but I will try and tell it all. I am doing this for healing. I need to see how things were and how they became what they are. I might find some sense in it or othe...	LLPluv	6	463	Aug 5, 2005 by sanddie
	Papa Roach (Preview) These are the words to a song, it is so codependent! Now that my mind is getting a hair better (microscopic steps forward) I am noticing codependent lyrics more & more. Music is really healing - I used to play music all the time. I am so far from the way I used to be, I don't resemble...	kitty	2	504	Aug 5, 2005 by cdb
	Sunday 7pm meeting (Preview) I will not be able to chair the Sunday 7pm meeting on August 7 or August 14. I will be on vacation with family. I found out that there is no internet access where I am going. :( If someone could cover for me I would appreciate it. I will try to see if my aircard will work but cannot know if it wi...	megan	2	443	Aug 5, 2005 by megan
	Peggy and cdb (Preview) What we discussed yesterday is done and should be in Lincoln tomorrow by noon. josey	jrtjosey	1	423	Aug 5, 2005 by cdb
	Welcome Guy (Preview) Saw your reply to another post and just wanted to give you a Big Welcome to our Miracles In Progress family Guy!! Glad you are here! With program love, Kis	kismetstrand	2	387	Aug 5, 2005 by Guy
	Flowers, No thanks. (Preview) I Got Flowers Today We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said, because he sent me flowers today. I got flowers today. It wasn't our anniversary or any other...	Peggy7	6	755	Aug 5, 2005 by estrelladehope
	And then (Preview) I just spoke to my A. It makes me sad to know he is battling a battle on his own. He is on his way home from work, it's Thursday, and at our house that's Pizza night. The last few weeks I have had to do the ordering, when in the past it has been his and the boys thing. He gets home about 3...	marmare	3	428	Aug 5, 2005 by kathy570
	Let go and Let God (Preview) Let God Have His Way May the grace of God keep you, and his arms support you still May his riches supply your needs, may you stay centered in his will. Let God's spirit work through you, and his wisdom make you wise. Let his mighty hands mold you, and make you perfect in his eyes....	Mandi	2	408	Aug 5, 2005 by kathy570
	Acceptance (Preview) Acceptance Pg 449 from the AA Big Book And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, or situation - some fact of my life - unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation a...	kathy570	1	434	Aug 5, 2005 by nmike
	My 3rd Anniv. with MIP, anyone else? (Preview) It just struck me today that I have been with/on the MIP alanon message board for three years now, and I need to celebrate a little tonight as the steamy temperatures here subside into a cooler evening! Wow, anyone else know how long they've been on board? ...	wallsal55	6	539	Aug 5, 2005 by nmike
	back in Al-Anon needing support (Preview) I am posting after attending an online meeting a realizing that I need to be in these"rooms" of recovery. People have smiles and love. I want that for myself and it needs to start with me. My Brother is an A. The first time he hit a bottom he went and worked a bit of recovery and the family and myself did a...	wmed	7	577	Aug 5, 2005 by wmed
	Giving Away my Serenity... (Preview) Hiya (((((((everyone))))) For the past 2 weeks I have been doing a great job of giving away my serenity to my husband. Many behaviors are rearing their ugly head. My husband who has been I believe to be sober since October of last year has not been active in his program for a while. ...	AlaMom	5	445	Aug 5, 2005 by cdb
	Daughter drunk again :( :( (Preview) What can I say. I had a phone call from a man that said he found my daughter's cell phone on a busy street. He is dropping it by later. Then I was awakened from my nap (after 2 hours of sleep last night) by an old friend of my daughters. She called him from the cell phone at 4:45am and he was sleepin...	cdb	18	772	Aug 5, 2005 by cdb
	Newcomer looking for support (Preview) What a scary yet warm feeling to read posts and feel as though they were all written by you. Everyone of them rings true to how my life is. I am married to an alcoholic for 3 years. I think I always knew he was but he was so great otherwise, that I tried to convince myself he wasnt. I left him twice before...	Cobrien1976	6	576	Aug 5, 2005 by cdb
	Trying times (Preview) Trying times, the cycle of the A’s behavior is overwhelming at times. My A is getting worse, it saddens me to see this man I love self-destruct. He called me yesterday and told me he was playing 9 holes of golf, should be done in an hour or hour and a half at most and then would head home, that wa...	marmare	3	480	Aug 5, 2005 by cdb
	legal question (Preview) I have a legal question and I am guessing somebody here has been through something similar and can answer me. I have a friend who is in an abusive marriage. (betings with a belt, black eyes, etc) She asked me a week ago if I'd pick her up today and take het to get a protective order against...	afglin	6	488	Aug 5, 2005 by isabela40
	I wrote this for my 16 year old A son (Preview) To My Son, Love Mom I put it in my God box and tucked it way inside My fears and tears and long lost dreams, I put them there to hide I left it in a corner in a closet down the hall And asked my Higher Power to come and take it all The burden was too heavy; I kept falling on the way, So...	Sallen	11	691	Aug 5, 2005 by Mandi
	this scarf (Preview)     ...	swolves	6	481	Aug 4, 2005 by david62
	Resentments vs Expectations (Preview) Ok I know I am new to all this. But I am almost so frustrated I feel like my soul will burst open. I have heard on board that if you have expectations of your A it will creat resentments. This is how I see it. I know it will be just a stage I am going through and will make it someday to understand. I fe...	LLPluv	11	1220	Aug 4, 2005 by kitty
	Don't know how to ever forgive (Preview) I have now been separated from my A for about 5 or 6 weeks. I can actually see the difference in him for he is getting better. But I am not. I still feel stressed when I see him. Or maybe I just still see the hurt he did to me. He is trying to be honest of all the stuff he did (behind my back) but I don’t know if he is te...	Becka	5	540	Aug 4, 2005 by dove
	The Rat Takes a Baby Step (Preview) Today started out better. "A" talked – actually opened up a little bit --- this morning. As a result, we got on better today. I didn’t feel like he was just lying, denying and withholding. He went to his meeting today and is now in the kitchen cooking dinner. This is the first time in a...	dove	3	411	Aug 4, 2005 by isabela40
	Loving an A is so hard (Preview) I attended my first f2f meeting Sunday night. I am new to Al-Anon however, not new to the disease of alcohol. My husband of nearly 19 years is an A and has been most of his life. We married very young and I remember loving him so much. I knew he was broken but i was determined to love him enough to mend...	Tammy	5	601	Aug 4, 2005 by Carol
	Goodbye To My A Husband! (Preview) I'm not wasting one more day of my life walking on egg shells and trying to figure out how to be a better wife to my A husband! I filed for divorce last month and he still doesn't get it. He blames me 100%... typical denial and abuse! For 17 years I've watched him drink and drink; verball...	Heather1	5	487	Aug 4, 2005 by Carol
	Confused (Preview) Hi Everyone: First off, I am so grateful I found Al-Anon and this place----I have been coming here daily for about a month, although I dont post much I find strength and learning from others who seem to have been working this program longer than I. I am attending local meetings 2-3 nights a we...	beachbaby	7	430	Aug 4, 2005 by beachbaby
	Newbies and Veterans (Preview) In some thread in the last few days, someone said something like "It helps the newbies to see that even the veterans can sometimes slip". I just wanted to say how much I agree with that. One of the best things in this program, for me, is that we are all helping each other. There is no real hierarchy - no all...	lin0606	2	460	Aug 3, 2005 by Guy
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