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expectations
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Has someone ever said something to you that took a long time for you to fully understand? This recently happened to me, it was an epiphany.As many of you know my 1st husband died 4 1/2 years ago of an alcohol induced condition. He died sober and happy. At some point he had said to me "I'm
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Resentment/Forgiveness
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“Resentment will do nothing except tear us apart inside. No one ever found serenity through hatred. No one ever truly recovered from the effects of alcoholism by harboring anger or fear or by holding onto grudges….Forgiveness is no favor. We do it for no one but ourselves….Alth...
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Humility
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From Courage to Change, Feb. 2, pg. 33. "Today, being humble means climbing down from the ladder of judgement of myself and others, and taking my rightful place in a worldwide circle of love and support." May 21, pg 142. "Humility is said to be perpetual quietness of the heart. It means that I do m...
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From AFG Headquarters - (fyi)
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Dear Al-Anon/Alateen Members, At our World Service Office we have experienced an increase in expenses as we have increased our services to the fellowship: Half-price Forum subscriptions offer for groups Increased US and Canadian Public Outreach Activities Free public out...
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I got a question about meetings...
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I found meetings in my area finally but the page I printed out has "beginner meetings and regular meetings" do I go to a beginner meeting. I am new to this and I am not sure of the protocal. If anyone knows what I have to do or bring please let me know. Thank you
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What I have learned (top Twenty)
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1. It is not my fault.
2. I can't cure it.
3. I can leave it.
4. Our kids are most important.
5. I deserve alot.
6. I deserve to be loved and to love.
7. I know the county sheriff's phone number.
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happy news! (c:
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thanks to your prayers and thoughts and even just reading my post,
my daughter is keeping her little one!!!
She went to the clinic to get the meds to abort. They did an ultra sound first. She
said there was no way she could do it after that.
Said it was tiny and kicking around. Could see his/he...
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Quick Question Anyone
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How do you get the pictures in your profile?
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My Attitude
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Today, I promise myself:
To be so strong that nothing can disturb my peace of mind.
To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person I meet.
To make all my friends feel that there is something special in them.
To look at the sunny side of everything and make my optimism come tr...
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haxi-gonian II
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[[[ room ]]]
Second update: Rock Springs, Wyoming (1030 mountain, 1230 eastern)
As most of you know, Peggy7 opened up her house in Lincoln, Nebraska to me and my gratitude knows no bounds. It was so nice to sit and talk with no time pressures! Having a big red surrogate dog for a...
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1 year
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I have reach a year today being married. The day we got married was a wonderful day. It was sunny we got married outside. Today it is cloudy and I am working. We are going to be celbrating by going to diner.
Also this month he has reach 6 months being sober. We also have known each other for 6 years.
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STEP 2
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I met this wonderful AA speaker friend of my ex-A called Mickey Bush who explained step 2 to me in very simple terms. It all makes sense to me now. So I will explain how i interpreted him explaining to me lol.
He started off by asking me how I felt after a face2face meeting. I said I f...
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detatchment
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Detatchment .....A hard thing to do ....I am working on detatching myself from my "A" family member. I have gone to meetings f2f and I am still struggling with this concept.
For some reason I feel like I am ignoring the problem like it isn't going on and isn't that denial...it feels like it when I see my...
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I love this story...pray for ice cream
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SAYING GRACE
Thank God for Children Saying Grace...
Last week I took my children to a restaurant. My six-year-old son asked if he could say grace. As we bowed our heads he said, "God is good, God is great. Thank you for the food, and I would even thank you more if Mom gets us ice cream for dessert. And Li...
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and so it goes
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My husband spent this entire last week trying to get in rehab. He was scheduled to go to one rehab on Tues but they took him to the detox unit he said it was like a psych facility--excuse? maybe.
Finally, he got an appt at a "suitable" place for Fri. All day he prepared and talked abou...
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so much pain!
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I thought i was having a pretty good day today but maybe I was just fooling myself.
Anyway, I can acknowledge my pain without having to be miserable but I've done it for so long, I really have such a long way to go. I need to try to be patient with myself & not expect to change everything over nig...
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Jo4- A Ontarian - YEAH
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Sun. Aug. 7/05
12:30 pm
Dear Jo,
Hi there fellow Ontarian. Its nice to meet someone that lives close by. Have you been in Al Anon long. Is that group at Dundas & 10 - A.C.O.A.? Thats a long drive - is there nothing closer?
I belong to the Acton Wed Night Meeting. Its...
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What do I do??
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My husband (the alcoholic) recently went on a check writing spree.....on my account that I was closing (so I had very little money in the account). He wrote 25 checks in 30 days to the same place - a gas station that happens to sell beer.......Well, all of those checks bounced. Now I receiv...
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A got my friend to call
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My friend, who only comes to her cottage once a year, called me.( He ruins it every year so I can't go see her). He got her to tell me that he sat at his cottage all day yesterday, supposidly sober, waiting for me to come over. He was at her place when she called. I told her that I don't want anything to do with hi...
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Support from my A
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My A is fully supporting my interest in Alanon. He has even looked through my Alanon - Steps to Recovery, book. And he will be watching my son when I go to meetings. I still just dont understand how he can know that I am doing all this and he's not even trying to get better. He is co...
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Message from Lucy
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Hi Folks,
Lucy asked me to leave a message for her. She can't remember her password. She hasn't been around because her dad had surgery and went into complete renal failure. She is asking for prayers from all her friends at MIP.
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last night
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thanks to all who sat with me last night, I slept with my serenity prayer cross and today is a new day. With a new set of rules and a new plan and with a lot continued prayers to guide me in the right direction.
Of course I awoke to a changed man with a lot of promises I have heard before, and told...
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prayer request
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Hi to all,
I would ask us to all dream / imagine / pray
for the kids on the shuttle to return home
safe.
Thankies and regards,
\/\/ille
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My Addictions
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Hello my family,
I am sitting here wishing I had never once uttered the words "South Beach" and "Diet" all in the same sentence. But alas, I did. So here I am after a wonderful meal wishing for.................. you guessed it CARBS, of any shape or form.
I am doing this for me. Changing my lifest...
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7 th Step Prayer
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7th Stwp Prayer
from page 76 of the AA Big Book
My Creator, I am now willing that you should have all of me, good & bad. I pray that you now remove from me every single defect of character which stand in the way of my usefulness to You & my fellows. Grant me strength as I go out from he...
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YIPPeee!! For once I wasn't the SHREW!
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Tonight my A finally called me. In the last 4 days since he left I would have to call him.
He called to just see what was going on. Earlier that day I said its not fair that I make the calls and he hasn't tried once to call to see how we are doing. Well what a shock he called.
At one point during the conver...
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3 rd Step Prayer
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3rd Step Prayer
from page 63 of the AA Big Book
" God, I offer myself to Thee - to build with me and to do with me as Thou wilt. Relieve me of my bondage of self, that I may better do Thy will. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those I would help of Thy Power, T...
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Canyon de Chelly Roundup
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I just attended some of the meetings at the Canyon de Chelly Roundup in northern Arizona on the Navajo Nation. It really was a great spiritual event partly because of the scenery and the great people that shared. If you live in the Four Corners area you may want to put it on your calendar for next year. It w...
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Haxi-gonian
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Anyone wanting to reach me for questions, comments, or whatever please do so here. this topic will be my temporary HQ until I get settled. Thank you to all!!
Haximon
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The Merry-Go-Round Continues
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Last night my husband went out after a funeral and got drunk. Then drove home !! He called said he would be home in one hour .. Well like a CRAZY person, I called his cell phone.. Probably 50x.. Heartbroken, I couldnt get it together. This was after a week of no alcohol. I had left him and returned last w...
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My A Left lastnight not to return
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Yesterday I blew up over something stupid. I know it was wrong and I even told him so. I was so hurt that he ignored our 14 anniversary. I had so much penned up inside about all his drinking last week. Drank up all our money without a thought of what was coming up. I know an A only thinks about his drink of prefe...
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letting go and letting god
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some of you have read that my A is back to drinking. I have been doing some soul-searching, and I'm glad that he is gone. I am enjoying my peace. My daughter and her family were here today, and I really enjoyed them. My son called, worried. I guess they were quite surprised at my serenity.
Thanks t...
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Sponsorship
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Hi everyone,
Would love some input on sponsorship -- some of your experiences -- if you have them to share. My experiences are based on my relationship with my sponsor. She really believed in program, as do I. I came to Al Anon because I knew something had to give -- mainly ME.&nbs...
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Hi... I am new here.....
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Hi.. My name is Jessyca. I am 32 with three children of my own and I have been married to my husband for about three years. He is an alcoholic and a drug addict.... to give him credit he is trying to recover. I wish he would join at least AA or something... but ...
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Both Sides of the Fence - Aug 7
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Sun Aug 7
Good Morning All.
This AA piece has saved me many a day. Feel free to copy.
YESTERDAY.....TODAY AND TOMORROW
There are two days in every week about which we should not worry, two days whould shoud be kept from fear and apprehension.
One of these days is YESTERDAY wit...
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Alcoholism brings more obstacles
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HI all, I told you that my daughter Raini is pg. She is 30 and on her way to get her
masters to teach at a university.
She met a young man, very cute, looks a lot like her father who died when she was 4.
He also is an alcoholic, 22, already had dui, lost jobs, evicted, black outs, you say a
red flag his d...
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Taking Responsibility for Our Behavior
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I have been reading some wonderful posts of ESH (experience, strength and hope). Want to thank all of you for sharing with us here!!
One common thing I keep seeing is the talk about the Blaming. How the A blames us for everything. (Typical alcoholic behavior - not wanting to take...
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For Diva
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Hi (((((Diva)))))
Thanks for your reply to my post below on Taking responsibility for our behavior. I can understand and appreciate your viewpoint - and what I wanted to do was just reply and say that I was not saying my A is not responsible for his part. Just as I am responsible for how I a...
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Touching....wanted to share it with you all
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I think we can all relate to this one, in some form.
~Mandi~
Where have you gone, my Bobby, my boy, Oh where, oh where are you bound? The masters of greed have their hands on you; You're nowhere to be found.
Your body is here, my Bobby, my boy, I see it every day; But your soul has gone into slavery And ca...
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to thine own self be true
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It really is amazing how much of the program spills into every other aspect of my life, each day it is getting a little clearer & I am happy with my own progress.
Six days ago, my mom sd the A called me unmotivated - it hurt & kinda 'threw me for a loop'. And he wrote back to me (when I e-mailed him a an...
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just a poem for you to read
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Prayer of St. Francis of Assisi
Lord,
Make me an instument of your peace,
where there is hatred let me sow love;
where there is injury, pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light, and
where there is sadnes, joy...
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Come to Ontario, Canada for Al Anon day
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If you are not to far away - maybe you could join us.
Southern Ontario Al Anon - District 4
Al Anon Day
Sept. 17, 2005
Begins at 8:30 AM
Trinity United Church
400 Stevenson Road
Guelph, Ontario
$ 5.00 - Lucnh Included
Be nice to meet some of you face to face
Yours in Re...
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I'm letting her go..... (Thought of cdb too)
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Well, the decision was made tonight to allow my daughter who just got out of a 45 day inpatient rehabilitation center go live with her Dad, who is not in recovery and continues to avoid accepting the consequences of his actions. My daughter has been irrate, disrespectful, and many times outrag...
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Someone please explain to me ??
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Today is Friday August 5th and i just returned home from a funeral.
My husband is a firefighter and one of his fellow firefighters was killed in a boating accident. You guessed it ALCOHOL was involved. It was pretty gruesome and it was a very sad funeral. I guess, I am more angry than sad. These guys a...
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I can't take anymore
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This is the first time I have posted here. I have been in alanon for a few months now and I feel that I am making some progress. The problem is that my husband isn't. He is an active alcoholic and has been making my life a living hell. At any given moment he can go off for no reason at...
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itsmeTC,,here for you
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Hello TC,
Please contact me. I was not able to get you into PM like you requested in the room. ((((((((((((TC))))))))) I will be online for awhile waiting for you if you need me. cdb
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If Tommorow Starts Without Me
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IF Tomorrow Starts Without Me If Tomorrow starts without me.... A few weeks ago a woman teacher was killed in an auto accident. She was very, very well liked, so the school systems shut down for her funeral and it was on the news and so on. On the day the workers came back to work...
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Healing---Letting everything come out---Never done before
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Before I start please get your coffee, tea, soda or cigs this is going to be a long one. I have never told my story all in one peice and I might forget alot but I will try and tell it all. I am doing this for healing. I need to see how things were and how they became what they are. I might find some sense in it or othe...
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Papa Roach
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These are the words to a song, it is so codependent! Now that my mind is getting a hair better (microscopic steps forward) I am noticing codependent lyrics more & more. Music is really healing - I used to play music all the time. I am so far from the way I used to be, I don't resemble...
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Sunday 7pm meeting
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I will not be able to chair the Sunday 7pm meeting on August 7 or August 14. I will be on vacation with family.
I found out that there is no internet access where I am going. :(
If someone could cover for me I would appreciate it.
I will try to see if my aircard will work but cannot know if it wi...
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megan
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Peggy and cdb
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What we discussed yesterday is done and should be in Lincoln tomorrow by noon.
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Welcome Guy
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Saw your reply to another post and just wanted to give you a Big Welcome to our Miracles In Progress family Guy!! Glad you are here!
With program love,
Kis
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Flowers, No thanks.
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I Got Flowers Today
We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said, because he sent me flowers today. I got flowers today.
It wasn't our anniversary or any other...
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And then
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I just spoke to my A. It makes me sad to know he is battling a battle on his own. He is on his way home from work, it's Thursday, and at our house that's Pizza night. The last few weeks I have had to do the ordering, when in the past it has been his and the boys thing. He gets home about 3...
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Let go and Let God
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Let God Have His Way
May the grace of God keep you, and his arms support you still
May his riches supply your needs, may you stay centered in his will.
Let God's spirit work through you, and his wisdom make you wise.
Let his mighty hands mold you, and make you perfect in his eyes....
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Acceptance
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Acceptance
Pg 449 from the AA Big Book
And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, or situation - some fact of my life - unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation a...
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My 3rd Anniv. with MIP, anyone else?
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It just struck me today that I have been with/on the MIP alanon message board for three years now, and I need to celebrate a little tonight as the steamy temperatures here subside into a cooler evening! Wow, anyone else know how long they've been on board?  ...
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back in Al-Anon needing support
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I am posting after attending an online meeting a realizing that I need to be in these"rooms" of recovery. People have smiles and love. I want that for myself and it needs to start with me.
My Brother is an A. The first time he hit a bottom he went and worked a bit of recovery and the family and myself did a...
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Giving Away my Serenity...
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Hiya (((((((everyone)))))
For the past 2 weeks I have been doing a great job of giving away my serenity to my husband. Many behaviors are rearing their ugly head. My husband who has been I believe to be sober since October of last year has not been active in his program for a while. ...
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Daughter drunk again :( :(
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What can I say. I had a phone call from a man that said he found my daughter's cell phone on a busy street. He is dropping it by later. Then I was awakened from my nap (after 2 hours of sleep last night) by an old friend of my daughters. She called him from the cell phone at 4:45am and he was sleepin...
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