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tullemars · tullemars

I could blame other people. (Wrong) I know it is my emotion and how I react is why I get upset. (and upset is covering fear) I choose to be with people who's behavior is not acceptable to me. (I own this one) I have to choose not to be near those people. ( I need to own this one) I am slowly learni...

hurtinginindy · hurtinginindy

A movie recommendation...if you haven't seen "The Upside of Anger" and are up for a good movie, this is with Joan Allen and Kevin Costner. Powerful, funny, thoughtful, wise. Best movie I've seen in some time. Here are the last words by the youngest daughter in this movie: "Anger and...

hurtinginindy · hurtinginindy

I am reading "Traveling Mercies...Some Thoughts on Faith" by Ann Lamott. Last night I ran across this and thought I would share... "Stop living in the problem and move into the solution." Good advice I think...it may be my new mantra. BTW the author of this book went through a pretty wild...

marmare · marmare

I noticed sometimes when I reply to a post I think hard and long before submitting it. Funny how my own words sometimes help with healing. I know I have to work hard sometimes at my program, sometimes harder then others. It's nice to know that self talk is so important and after years...

catherine · catherine

i don't cry much anymore. Part of the symptoms, I get numb with or w/o drugs, booze, etc. I have been noticing lately, that I really don't cry a lot. Sometimes, wish I did.....lol Anyway, when I do cry--it can be because I'm happy or sad........when i'm happy & I cry, i can usually s...

holly123 · holly123

Wow, Thanks everyone for your responses that is why I come here to know I am not alone or crazy. Lildee a special message to you, I understand so much about building resentments towards my daughter, my son and I get along great, although he is...

holly123 · holly123

Hi everyone, I have gone through and so many of the posts and so many relate to how I am feeling or things going on in my life. My lastest crisis is my kids emotions. It is so hard not to carry resentments straight through to them, especially my daughter w...

debilyn · debilyn

did you get the envelope i sent you? how are you and the kids doing? Please post me private or whatever. love,debilyn

i am a new member · jspooh

I feel the need to talk to others and have thought of al-anon before. I'm very happy to have found this sight and hope it will help. My husband is a alcoholic and now knows he has a problem but trying to fix it by himself. He was badly hurt at work 3 months ago and is still under doctors care but his drinking has...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

I left my husband Thursday night and I haven't heard a word from him. I am trying to be strong and demand respect but I have let self-doubt rear it's ugly head. I took a stand and said that I didn't have to live like this anymore, that I deserved more. Now I need to be strong. If I le...

melanieL · melanieL

SORRY FOLKS REALLY NEED TO VENT. MY EX-A STILL DRIVING ME MAD. HE HAD BEEN REALLY NICE LAST FEW DAYS, THINK BECAUSE HE HAD A FRIEND STAYING WITH HIM AND WANTED TO SHOW HIM AND HIS FRIENDS THAT WE WERE ALL A FAMILY AND FULLY SUPPORTING HIM. HE IS GOING TO AMSTERDAM FOR THIS WEEKEND TO SPEAK ON...

JennyLynn · JennyLynn

Hi Everyone! My name is Jenny. I just found this site, and not a minute too soon. I'm having a really rough time lately. It's hard for me to go to meetings in my area because a lot of my qualifier's (my husband's) friends go to the Alanon meetings around here, and I don't feel c...

kitty · kitty

I've been in chat a lot lately & I try to read something on the boards everyday, I don't get to them all. But I have to say, the strength & wisdom I have gained in this painful month has been profound. Now, I want to give the same phrases back... Grief is a part of letting go. Al...

Peggy7 · Peggy7

Everyone needs this list to live by!!! habit.................................................... Joy.................................................................... The greatest loss..............

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Anyone in the midwest, this is near Chicago in Bloomingdale, IL. 2005 IL State Alanon Convention, Oct 7th -9th, 2005 with AA participation. Contact: kayakillinois@yahoo.com or go to: www.niafg.org and click on Events. Costs: Alanon $...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Somedays are pretty neat, but then some days are just pretty empty. Some of my days have purpose enough for me. Some days I wander. I know I am waiting patiently for my HP to fill the void. Patience. Patience. :y...

nmike · nmike

Hi all, I am getting my youngest son ready to leave for college. He keeps playing a Moby produced song over and over again called In My World that starts out "Lordie, don't leave me all by myself". How fitting for me. My A husband has been gone all summer golfing, finding himself, and "getting away from...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Ok I have a question, I am asking this for some tools, and I really need some help. For those of you who have/ had children: What do you tell them when their parent (the "A") doesn't come home because the "A" is out drinking/using? And what do you tell them when the "A" finally does come home and is d...

Stephanie · Stephanie

My A is behind me snoring after being out until three in the morning. I she just finished days of very hard work and her birthday is this week...funny but I came up with a saying last night when I was laying in bed waiting for her..."reason # 365." Meaning A's will find 365 good r...

jj · jj

Hi I know that it has been quite a while since I have posted and I just want to check in. I have been keeping bussy this summer doing things with the kids. I am doing good and have really noticed the progress of my program and keeping bussy helps alot to keep the focus on me. This summer ha...

debilyn · debilyn

After about dieing going and getting feed in this hot, sticky, icky, horrible, bright, sunshine... and getting groceries. OH no could not go early when it is cool. Have to put it off. After all this, I drive home, get out and see FeeFee is in distress. She is my tame white turkey, I am chasin...

hurtinginindy · hurtinginindy

Just coming off a short period of sobriety with my A...he's back to drinking. soooooooo tired... ...can't stand to hear one more time..."I'll get better"...empty words Opened the credit card bill today...he spent over $1000 on booze and cigarettes last month I went for a job interview tod...

Tammy · Tammy

I am writing this to seek opinions/advise or just validations of my emotions. My husband is an "A" . He grew up in an enviroment where both parents were alcoholics. His grandparents were alcoholics and family drank at every occasion. We have been married for almost 19 years and I can ho...

hvnly1 · hvnly1

You need it. I need it.They need it. Whoever THEY are. Love brings us to it like a moth to a flame. So, I've been hurt. You've been hurt. They've been hurt. Do not be mean. Don't treat someone in a way you wouldn't want to be treated. Come on now really, would...

haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] Ogden, Utah (1030 mountain, 1230 eastern) It seems I needed the room-night worse than I thought. I found a room near the meeting place to make life easier. The meeting itself was quite large, around 30 people and the topic was courage (apropos, dontcha think?). Good to see so many in...

kitty · kitty

My mother & step-father made it to their second session with this "family therapist". I am so disturbed about the behaviour of this woman doctor, I am actually horrified. She is jumping to judgement, feeding the A answers, telling my mother she is unreasonable, because she is setting bou...

megan · megan

Moving forward was one of the topics of last nights online meeting. I am working very hard on moving forward. This is after 3 1/2 years of stagnation and hoping things would change. Waiting around for things to change. Wishing that my life was different. But last July I found ala...

Sallen · Sallen

I have to share with you all the messed up perspective that my A exhibited last night and you will all understand and maybe get a chuckle. He wanted to use the phone. So in that ever so polite way, I'm sure some of you will understand the abusive nature of the demon, says, Bleepity, ble...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Comes A Dawn After awhile you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul. And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning, And company doesn't mean security, And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts, And presents aren't promises, And you begin to accept your defea...

swolves · swolves

Has someone ever said something to you that took a long time for you to fully understand? This recently happened to me, it was an epiphany.As many of you know my 1st husband died 4 1/2 years ago of an alcohol induced condition. He died sober and happy. At some point he had said to me "I'm &nb...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

“Resentment will do nothing except tear us apart inside. No one ever found serenity through hatred. No one ever truly recovered from the effects of alcoholism by harboring anger or fear or by holding onto grudges….Forgiveness is no favor. We do it for no one but ourselves….Alth...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

From Courage to Change, Feb. 2, pg. 33. "Today, being humble means climbing down from the ladder of judgement of myself and others, and taking my rightful place in a worldwide circle of love and support." May 21, pg 142. "Humility is said to be perpetual quietness of the heart. It means that I do m...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Dear Al-Anon/Alateen Members, At our World Service Office we have experienced an increase in expenses as we have increased our services to the fellowship: Half-price Forum subscriptions offer for groups Increased US and Canadian Public Outreach Activities Free public out...

kimmie · kimmie

I found meetings in my area finally but the page I printed out has "beginner meetings and regular meetings" do I go to a beginner meeting. I am new to this and I am not sure of the protocal. If anyone knows what I have to do or bring please let me know. Thank you

tullemars · tullemars

1. It is not my fault. 2. I can't cure it. 3. I can leave it. 4. Our kids are most important. 5. I deserve alot. 6. I deserve to be loved and to love. 7. I know the county sheriff's phone number. ...

debilyn · debilyn

thanks to your prayers and thoughts and even just reading my post, my daughter is keeping her little one!!! She went to the clinic to get the meds to abort. They did an ultra sound first. She said there was no way she could do it after that. Said it was tiny and kicking around. Could see his/he...

Sallen · Sallen

How do you get the pictures in your profile?

Peggy7 · Peggy7

Today, I promise myself: To be so strong that nothing can disturb my peace of mind. To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person I meet. To make all my friends feel that there is something special in them. To look at the sunny side of everything and make my optimism come tr...

haximon · haximon

[[[ room ]]] Second update: Rock Springs, Wyoming (1030 mountain, 1230 eastern) As most of you know, Peggy7 opened up her house in Lincoln, Nebraska to me and my gratitude knows no bounds. It was so nice to sit and talk with no time pressures! Having a big red surrogate dog for a...

nycbt · nycbt

I have reach a year today being married. The day we got married was a wonderful day. It was sunny we got married outside. Today it is cloudy and I am working. We are going to be celbrating by going to diner. Also this month he has reach 6 months being sober. We also have known each other for 6 years.

melanieL · melanieL

I met this wonderful AA speaker friend of my ex-A called Mickey Bush who explained step 2 to me in very simple terms. It all makes sense to me now. So I will explain how i interpreted him explaining to me lol. He started off by asking me how I felt after a face2face meeting. I said I f...

wmed · wmed

Detatchment .....A hard thing to do ....I am working on detatching myself from my "A" family member. I have gone to meetings f2f and I am still struggling with this concept. For some reason I feel like I am ignoring the problem like it isn't going on and isn't that denial...it feels like it when I see my...

dadrrb1 · dadrrb1

SAYING GRACE Thank God for Children Saying Grace... Last week I took my children to a restaurant. My six-year-old son asked if he could say grace. As we bowed our heads he said, "God is good, God is great. Thank you for the food, and I would even thank you more if Mom gets us ice cream for dessert. And Li...

mom to 2 · mom to 2

My husband spent this entire last week trying to get in rehab. He was scheduled to go to one rehab on Tues but they took him to the detox unit he said it was like a psych facility--excuse? maybe. Finally, he got an appt at a "suitable" place for Fri. All day he prepared and talked abou...

kitty · kitty

I thought i was having a pretty good day today but maybe I was just fooling myself. Anyway, I can acknowledge my pain without having to be miserable but I've done it for so long, I really have such a long way to go. I need to try to be patient with myself & not expect to change everything over nig...

kathy570 · kathy570

Sun. Aug. 7/05 12:30 pm Dear Jo, Hi there fellow Ontarian. Its nice to meet someone that lives close by. Have you been in Al Anon long. Is that group at Dundas & 10 - A.C.O.A.? Thats a long drive - is there nothing closer? I belong to the Acton Wed Night Meeting. Its...

kellan · kellan

My husband (the alcoholic) recently went on a check writing spree.....on my account that I was closing (so I had very little money in the account). He wrote 25 checks in 30 days to the same place - a gas station that happens to sell beer.......Well, all of those checks bounced. Now I receiv...

TLC2 · TLC2

My friend, who only comes to her cottage once a year, called me.( He ruins it every year so I can't go see her). He got her to tell me that he sat at his cottage all day yesterday, supposidly sober, waiting for me to come over. He was at her place when she called. I told her that I don't want anything to do with hi...

kimmie · kimmie

My A is fully supporting my interest in Alanon. He has even looked through my Alanon - Steps to Recovery, book. And he will be watching my son when I go to meetings. I still just dont understand how he can know that I am doing all this and he's not even trying to get better. He is co...

danz123 · danz123

Hi Folks, Lucy asked me to leave a message for her. She can't remember her password. She hasn't been around because her dad had surgery and went into complete renal failure. She is asking for prayers from all her friends at MIP. ...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

thanks to all who sat with me last night, I slept with my serenity prayer cross and today is a new day. With a new set of rules and a new plan and with a lot continued prayers to guide me in the right direction. Of course I awoke to a changed man with a lot of promises I have heard before, and told...

wille · wille

Hi to all, I would ask us to all dream / imagine / pray for the kids on the shuttle to return home safe. Thankies and regards, \/\/ille

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello my family, I am sitting here wishing I had never once uttered the words "South Beach" and "Diet" all in the same sentence. But alas, I did. So here I am after a wonderful meal wishing for.................. you guessed it CARBS, of any shape or form.

I am doing this for me. Changing my lifest...

kathy570 · kathy570

7th Stwp Prayer from page 76 of the AA Big Book My Creator, I am now willing that you should have all of me, good & bad. I pray that you now remove from me every single defect of character which stand in the way of my usefulness to You & my fellows. Grant me strength as I go out from he...

LLPluv · LLPluv

Tonight my A finally called me. In the last 4 days since he left I would have to call him. He called to just see what was going on. Earlier that day I said its not fair that I make the calls and he hasn't tried once to call to see how we are doing. Well what a shock he called. At one point during the conver...

kathy570 · kathy570

3rd Step Prayer from page 63 of the AA Big Book " God, I offer myself to Thee - to build with me and to do with me as Thou wilt. Relieve me of my bondage of self, that I may better do Thy will. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those I would help of Thy Power, T...

nmike · nmike

I just attended some of the meetings at the Canyon de Chelly Roundup in northern Arizona on the Navajo Nation. It really was a great spiritual event partly because of the scenery and the great people that shared. If you live in the Four Corners area you may want to put it on your calendar for next year. It w...

haximon · haximon

Anyone wanting to reach me for questions, comments, or whatever please do so here. this topic will be my temporary HQ until I get settled. Thank you to all!! Haximon

Tammy · Tammy

Last night my husband went out after a funeral and got drunk. Then drove home !! He called said he would be home in one hour .. Well like a CRAZY person, I called his cell phone.. Probably 50x.. Heartbroken, I couldnt get it together. This was after a week of no alcohol. I had left him and returned last w...

LLPluv · LLPluv

Yesterday I blew up over something stupid. I know it was wrong and I even told him so. I was so hurt that he ignored our 14 anniversary. I had so much penned up inside about all his drinking last week. Drank up all our money without a thought of what was coming up. I know an A only thinks about his drink of prefe...

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	Who made me upset? (Preview) I could blame other people. (Wrong) I know it is my emotion and how I react is why I get upset. (and upset is covering fear) I choose to be with people who's behavior is not acceptable to me. (I own this one) I have to choose not to be near those people. ( I need to own this one) I am slowly learni...	tullemars	4	513	Aug 11, 2005 by browneyes
	The Upside of Anger (Preview) A movie recommendation...if you haven't seen "The Upside of Anger" and are up for a good movie, this is with Joan Allen and Kevin Costner. Powerful, funny, thoughtful, wise. Best movie I've seen in some time. Here are the last words by the youngest daughter in this movie: "Anger and...	hurtinginindy	1	512	Aug 11, 2005 by Belongtome
	Problems & Solutions (Preview) I am reading "Traveling Mercies...Some Thoughts on Faith" by Ann Lamott. Last night I ran across this and thought I would share... "Stop living in the problem and move into the solution." Good advice I think...it may be my new mantra. BTW the author of this book went through a pretty wild...	hurtinginindy	0	447	Aug 11, 2005 by hurtinginindy
	My words come back (Preview) I noticed sometimes when I reply to a post I think hard and long before submitting it. Funny how my own words sometimes help with healing. I know I have to work hard sometimes at my program, sometimes harder then others. It's nice to know that self talk is so important and after years...	marmare	3	489	Aug 11, 2005 by hurtinginindy
	Question about crying..... (Preview) i don't cry much anymore. Part of the symptoms, I get numb with or w/o drugs, booze, etc. I have been noticing lately, that I really don't cry a lot. Sometimes, wish I did.....lol Anyway, when I do cry--it can be because I'm happy or sad........when i'm happy & I cry, i can usually s...	catherine	6	584	Aug 11, 2005 by QnJoan
	resentments and kids, cont. (Preview) Wow, Thanks everyone for your responses that is why I come here to know I am not alone or crazy. Lildee a special message to you, I understand so much about building resentments towards my daughter, my son and I get along great, although he is...	holly123	1	479	Aug 11, 2005 by Carol
	resentments and my kids (Preview) Hi everyone, I have gone through and so many of the posts and so many relate to how I am feeling or things going on in my life. My lastest crisis is my kids emotions. It is so hard not to carry resentments straight through to them, especially my daughter w...	holly123	10	696	Aug 11, 2005 by twinmom2
	Dori where are you???? (Preview) did you get the envelope i sent you? how are you and the kids doing? Please post me private or whatever. love,debilyn	debilyn	2	501	Aug 11, 2005 by Diva
	i am a new member (Preview) I feel the need to talk to others and have thought of al-anon before. I'm very happy to have found this sight and hope it will help. My husband is a alcoholic and now knows he has a problem but trying to fix it by himself. He was badly hurt at work 3 months ago and is still under doctors care but his drinking has...	jspooh	4	674	Aug 11, 2005 by holly123
	I am feeling down (Preview) I left my husband Thursday night and I haven't heard a word from him. I am trying to be strong and demand respect but I have let self-doubt rear it's ugly head. I took a stand and said that I didn't have to live like this anymore, that I deserved more. Now I need to be strong. If I le...	JulieLynn	6	603	Aug 11, 2005 by JulieLynn
	PEE'D OFF (Preview) SORRY FOLKS REALLY NEED TO VENT. MY EX-A STILL DRIVING ME MAD. HE HAD BEEN REALLY NICE LAST FEW DAYS, THINK BECAUSE HE HAD A FRIEND STAYING WITH HIM AND WANTED TO SHOW HIM AND HIS FRIENDS THAT WE WERE ALL A FAMILY AND FULLY SUPPORTING HIM. HE IS GOING TO AMSTERDAM FOR THIS WEEKEND TO SPEAK ON...	melanieL	1	493	Aug 11, 2005 by holly123
	Hi Everyone...new here. (Preview) Hi Everyone! My name is Jenny. I just found this site, and not a minute too soon. I'm having a really rough time lately. It's hard for me to go to meetings in my area because a lot of my qualifier's (my husband's) friends go to the Alanon meetings around here, and I don't feel c...	JennyLynn	4	732	Aug 11, 2005 by abbyal
	wisdom in here (Preview) I've been in chat a lot lately & I try to read something on the boards everyday, I don't get to them all. But I have to say, the strength & wisdom I have gained in this painful month has been profound. Now, I want to give the same phrases back... Grief is a part of letting go. Al...	kitty	3	577	Aug 11, 2005 by hvnly1
	List to Live By (Preview) Everyone needs this list to live by!!! habit.................................................... Joy.................................................................... The greatest loss..............	Peggy7	1	503	Aug 10, 2005 by Mandi
	Illinois State Alanon Convention (Preview) Anyone in the midwest, this is near Chicago in Bloomingdale, IL. 2005 IL State Alanon Convention, Oct 7th -9th, 2005 with AA participation. Contact: kayakillinois@yahoo.com or go to: www.niafg.org and click on Events. Costs: Alanon $...	wallsal55	0	750	Aug 10, 2005 by wallsal55
	What Do You Do With The VOID? (Preview) Somedays are pretty neat, but then some days are just pretty empty. Some of my days have purpose enough for me. Some days I wander. I know I am waiting patiently for my HP to fill the void. Patience. Patience. :y...	wallsal55	8	646	Aug 10, 2005 by wallsal55
	Don't Leave Me All By Myself (Preview) Hi all, I am getting my youngest son ready to leave for college. He keeps playing a Moby produced song over and over again called In My World that starts out "Lordie, don't leave me all by myself". How fitting for me. My A husband has been gone all summer golfing, finding himself, and "getting away from...	nmike	4	536	Aug 10, 2005 by Peggy7
	Touchy Subject regarding KIds (Preview) Ok I have a question, I am asking this for some tools, and I really need some help. For those of you who have/ had children: What do you tell them when their parent (the "A") doesn't come home because the "A" is out drinking/using? And what do you tell them when the "A" finally does come home and is d...	Dolphin123	7	554	Aug 10, 2005 by mamasan
	Snoring (Preview) My A is behind me snoring after being out until three in the morning. I she just finished days of very hard work and her birthday is this week...funny but I came up with a saying last night when I was laying in bed waiting for her..."reason # 365." Meaning A's will find 365 good r...	Stephanie	2	466	Aug 10, 2005 by marmare
	hi everyone (Preview) Hi I know that it has been quite a while since I have posted and I just want to check in. I have been keeping bussy this summer doing things with the kids. I am doing good and have really noticed the progress of my program and keeping bussy helps alot to keep the focus on me. This summer ha...	jj	3	483	Aug 10, 2005 by nmike
	Get my gun and start the barbecue (Preview) After about dieing going and getting feed in this hot, sticky, icky, horrible, bright, sunshine... and getting groceries. OH no could not go early when it is cool. Have to put it off. After all this, I drive home, get out and see FeeFee is in distress. She is my tame white turkey, I am chasin...	debilyn	10	744	Aug 10, 2005 by Christy
	Sooooo Tired (Preview) Just coming off a short period of sobriety with my A...he's back to drinking. soooooooo tired... ...can't stand to hear one more time..."I'll get better"...empty words Opened the credit card bill today...he spent over $1000 on booze and cigarettes last month I went for a job interview tod...	hurtinginindy	2	478	Aug 10, 2005 by Carol
	Help, I think I am going CRAZY (Preview) I am writing this to seek opinions/advise or just validations of my emotions. My husband is an "A" . He grew up in an enviroment where both parents were alcoholics. His grandparents were alcoholics and family drank at every occasion. We have been married for almost 19 years and I can ho...	Tammy	6	561	Aug 10, 2005 by megan
	The power of LOVE (Preview) You need it. I need it.They need it. Whoever THEY are. Love brings us to it like a moth to a flame. So, I've been hurt. You've been hurt. They've been hurt. Do not be mean. Don't treat someone in a way you wouldn't want to be treated. Come on now really, would...	hvnly1	3	674	Aug 10, 2005 by kismetstrand
	haxi-gonian III (Preview) [[ room ]] Ogden, Utah (1030 mountain, 1230 eastern) It seems I needed the room-night worse than I thought. I found a room near the meeting place to make life easier. The meeting itself was quite large, around 30 people and the topic was courage (apropos, dontcha think?). Good to see so many in...	haximon	5	505	Aug 9, 2005 by kathy570
	Bad Therapist - (mommy I love u) (Preview) My mother & step-father made it to their second session with this "family therapist". I am so disturbed about the behaviour of this woman doctor, I am actually horrified. She is jumping to judgement, feeding the A answers, telling my mother she is unreasonable, because she is setting bou...	kitty	2	558	Aug 9, 2005 by dove
	Moving forward (Preview) Moving forward was one of the topics of last nights online meeting. I am working very hard on moving forward. This is after 3 1/2 years of stagnation and hoping things would change. Waiting around for things to change. Wishing that my life was different. But last July I found ala...	megan	10	557	Aug 9, 2005 by mom to 2
	persception of reality and behavior (Preview) I have to share with you all the messed up perspective that my A exhibited last night and you will all understand and maybe get a chuckle. He wanted to use the phone. So in that ever so polite way, I'm sure some of you will understand the abusive nature of the demon, says, Bleepity, ble...	Sallen	3	585	Aug 9, 2005 by kitty
	Repeating an Oldie - Comes A Dawn (Preview) Comes A Dawn After awhile you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul. And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning, And company doesn't mean security, And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts, And presents aren't promises, And you begin to accept your defea...	kismetstrand	1	464	Aug 9, 2005 by TLC2
	expectations (Preview) Has someone ever said something to you that took a long time for you to fully understand? This recently happened to me, it was an epiphany.As many of you know my 1st husband died 4 1/2 years ago of an alcohol induced condition. He died sober and happy. At some point he had said to me "I'm &nb...	swolves	4	580	Aug 9, 2005 by kitty
	Resentment/Forgiveness (Preview) “Resentment will do nothing except tear us apart inside. No one ever found serenity through hatred. No one ever truly recovered from the effects of alcoholism by harboring anger or fear or by holding onto grudges….Forgiveness is no favor. We do it for no one but ourselves….Alth...	kismetstrand	0	667	Aug 9, 2005 by kismetstrand
	Humility (Preview) From Courage to Change, Feb. 2, pg. 33. "Today, being humble means climbing down from the ladder of judgement of myself and others, and taking my rightful place in a worldwide circle of love and support." May 21, pg 142. "Humility is said to be perpetual quietness of the heart. It means that I do m...	kismetstrand	0	530	Aug 9, 2005 by kismetstrand
	From AFG Headquarters - (fyi) (Preview) Dear Al-Anon/Alateen Members, At our World Service Office we have experienced an increase in expenses as we have increased our services to the fellowship: Half-price Forum subscriptions offer for groups Increased US and Canadian Public Outreach Activities Free public out...	kismetstrand	0	414	Aug 9, 2005 by kismetstrand
	I got a question about meetings... (Preview) I found meetings in my area finally but the page I printed out has "beginner meetings and regular meetings" do I go to a beginner meeting. I am new to this and I am not sure of the protocal. If anyone knows what I have to do or bring please let me know. Thank you	kimmie	2	450	Aug 9, 2005 by lin0606
	What I have learned (top Twenty) (Preview) 1. It is not my fault. 2. I can't cure it. 3. I can leave it. 4. Our kids are most important. 5. I deserve alot. 6. I deserve to be loved and to love. 7. I know the county sheriff's phone number. ...	tullemars	7	516	Aug 9, 2005 by Dolphin123
	happy news! (c: (Preview) thanks to your prayers and thoughts and even just reading my post, my daughter is keeping her little one!!! She went to the clinic to get the meds to abort. They did an ultra sound first. She said there was no way she could do it after that. Said it was tiny and kicking around. Could see his/he...	debilyn	8	559	Aug 9, 2005 by marmare
	Quick Question Anyone (Preview) How do you get the pictures in your profile?	Sallen	4	522	Aug 9, 2005 by Dolphin123
	My Attitude (Preview) Today, I promise myself: To be so strong that nothing can disturb my peace of mind. To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person I meet. To make all my friends feel that there is something special in them. To look at the sunny side of everything and make my optimism come tr...	Peggy7	1	511	Aug 9, 2005 by Christy
	haxi-gonian II (Preview) [[[ room ]]] Second update: Rock Springs, Wyoming (1030 mountain, 1230 eastern) As most of you know, Peggy7 opened up her house in Lincoln, Nebraska to me and my gratitude knows no bounds. It was so nice to sit and talk with no time pressures! Having a big red surrogate dog for a...	haximon	16	2412	Aug 9, 2005 by Diva
	1 year (Preview) I have reach a year today being married. The day we got married was a wonderful day. It was sunny we got married outside. Today it is cloudy and I am working. We are going to be celbrating by going to diner. Also this month he has reach 6 months being sober. We also have known each other for 6 years.	nycbt	8	514	Aug 9, 2005 by megan
	STEP 2 (Preview) I met this wonderful AA speaker friend of my ex-A called Mickey Bush who explained step 2 to me in very simple terms. It all makes sense to me now. So I will explain how i interpreted him explaining to me lol. He started off by asking me how I felt after a face2face meeting. I said I f...	melanieL	0	545	Aug 9, 2005 by melanieL
	detatchment (Preview) Detatchment .....A hard thing to do ....I am working on detatching myself from my "A" family member. I have gone to meetings f2f and I am still struggling with this concept. For some reason I feel like I am ignoring the problem like it isn't going on and isn't that denial...it feels like it when I see my...	wmed	8	602	Aug 8, 2005 by lildee
	I love this story...pray for ice cream (Preview) SAYING GRACE Thank God for Children Saying Grace... Last week I took my children to a restaurant. My six-year-old son asked if he could say grace. As we bowed our heads he said, "God is good, God is great. Thank you for the food, and I would even thank you more if Mom gets us ice cream for dessert. And Li...	dadrrb1	4	570	Aug 8, 2005 by lildee
	and so it goes (Preview) My husband spent this entire last week trying to get in rehab. He was scheduled to go to one rehab on Tues but they took him to the detox unit he said it was like a psych facility--excuse? maybe. Finally, he got an appt at a "suitable" place for Fri. All day he prepared and talked abou...	mom to 2	9	661	Aug 8, 2005 by mom to 2
	so much pain! (Preview) I thought i was having a pretty good day today but maybe I was just fooling myself. Anyway, I can acknowledge my pain without having to be miserable but I've done it for so long, I really have such a long way to go. I need to try to be patient with myself & not expect to change everything over nig...	kitty	8	724	Aug 8, 2005 by lildee
	Jo4- A Ontarian - YEAH (Preview) Sun. Aug. 7/05 12:30 pm Dear Jo, Hi there fellow Ontarian. Its nice to meet someone that lives close by. Have you been in Al Anon long. Is that group at Dundas & 10 - A.C.O.A.? Thats a long drive - is there nothing closer? I belong to the Acton Wed Night Meeting. Its...	kathy570	1	484	Aug 8, 2005 by jo4
	What do I do?? (Preview) My husband (the alcoholic) recently went on a check writing spree.....on my account that I was closing (so I had very little money in the account). He wrote 25 checks in 30 days to the same place - a gas station that happens to sell beer.......Well, all of those checks bounced. Now I receiv...	kellan	6	583	Aug 8, 2005 by TLC2
	A got my friend to call (Preview) My friend, who only comes to her cottage once a year, called me.( He ruins it every year so I can't go see her). He got her to tell me that he sat at his cottage all day yesterday, supposidly sober, waiting for me to come over. He was at her place when she called. I told her that I don't want anything to do with hi...	TLC2	2	581	Aug 8, 2005 by TLC2
	Support from my A (Preview) My A is fully supporting my interest in Alanon. He has even looked through my Alanon - Steps to Recovery, book. And he will be watching my son when I go to meetings. I still just dont understand how he can know that I am doing all this and he's not even trying to get better. He is co...	kimmie	5	629	Aug 8, 2005 by lin0606
	Message from Lucy (Preview) Hi Folks, Lucy asked me to leave a message for her. She can't remember her password. She hasn't been around because her dad had surgery and went into complete renal failure. She is asking for prayers from all her friends at MIP. ...	danz123	4	507	Aug 8, 2005 by cdb
	last night (Preview) thanks to all who sat with me last night, I slept with my serenity prayer cross and today is a new day. With a new set of rules and a new plan and with a lot continued prayers to guide me in the right direction. Of course I awoke to a changed man with a lot of promises I have heard before, and told...	jrtjosey	5	526	Aug 8, 2005 by cdb
	prayer request (Preview) Hi to all, I would ask us to all dream / imagine / pray for the kids on the shuttle to return home safe. Thankies and regards, \/\/ille	wille	2	483	Aug 8, 2005 by cdb
	My Addictions (Preview) Hello my family, I am sitting here wishing I had never once uttered the words "South Beach" and "Diet" all in the same sentence. But alas, I did. So here I am after a wonderful meal wishing for.................. you guessed it CARBS, of any shape or form. I am doing this for me. Changing my lifest...	Dolphin123	6	641	Aug 8, 2005 by Christy
	7 th Step Prayer (Preview) 7th Stwp Prayer from page 76 of the AA Big Book My Creator, I am now willing that you should have all of me, good & bad. I pray that you now remove from me every single defect of character which stand in the way of my usefulness to You & my fellows. Grant me strength as I go out from he...	kathy570	6	650	Aug 8, 2005 by wallsal55
	YIPPeee!! For once I wasn't the SHREW! (Preview) Tonight my A finally called me. In the last 4 days since he left I would have to call him. He called to just see what was going on. Earlier that day I said its not fair that I make the calls and he hasn't tried once to call to see how we are doing. Well what a shock he called. At one point during the conver...	LLPluv	2	578	Aug 8, 2005 by marmare
	3 rd Step Prayer (Preview) 3rd Step Prayer from page 63 of the AA Big Book " God, I offer myself to Thee - to build with me and to do with me as Thou wilt. Relieve me of my bondage of self, that I may better do Thy will. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those I would help of Thy Power, T...	kathy570	3	492	Aug 8, 2005 by jrtjosey
	Canyon de Chelly Roundup (Preview) I just attended some of the meetings at the Canyon de Chelly Roundup in northern Arizona on the Navajo Nation. It really was a great spiritual event partly because of the scenery and the great people that shared. If you live in the Four Corners area you may want to put it on your calendar for next year. It w...	nmike	1	522	Aug 8, 2005 by wille
	Haxi-gonian (Preview) Anyone wanting to reach me for questions, comments, or whatever please do so here. this topic will be my temporary HQ until I get settled. Thank you to all!! Haximon	haximon	20	1190	Aug 8, 2005 by jrtjosey
	The Merry-Go-Round Continues (Preview) Last night my husband went out after a funeral and got drunk. Then drove home !! He called said he would be home in one hour .. Well like a CRAZY person, I called his cell phone.. Probably 50x.. Heartbroken, I couldnt get it together. This was after a week of no alcohol. I had left him and returned last w...	Tammy	6	1133	Aug 8, 2005 by ArwynEvenstar
	My A Left lastnight not to return (Preview) Yesterday I blew up over something stupid. I know it was wrong and I even told him so. I was so hurt that he ignored our 14 anniversary. I had so much penned up inside about all his drinking last week. Drank up all our money without a thought of what was coming up. I know an A only thinks about his drink of prefe...	LLPluv	10	701	Aug 8, 2005 by kimmie
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