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how to be selfish?
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It is so difficult for me, to think of myself. Once I even bein to try... (big sigh) I feel selfish.
Guilt wrecks my mind - and I always 'prided' myself on not being *e...
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OOPS I did it again
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I got angry when she drank again lastnight.
What a waste of energy.
I am disapointed in myself for not acting better.
I know she can't help it.
I do so well most of the time.
I feel I let everyone down when I let it get the better of me.
I feel good Today.
I know that I would be better off with out h...
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tullemars
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Latest installment of "My son's little alcoholic houseguest"
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Episode 3:
My husband and I got home from work last Friday to both my son and his waif of an alcoholic girlfriend packed up and gone. I leave for work earlier than my husband, who apparently told them that if they weren't packed up and out by the time we got home, he'd let the Fairfax police handle t...
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Help.
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Hello All,
Can you all help me out and say a pray for me that I will have patience and understanding with my "A". He is using as I type this.
I am okay, I know this is today and tomorrow is a different day. But I want to rage at him. I know that isn't good for wither one of us.
I am off to call my sponsor...
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Dolphin123
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Would you make the call?
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I have a bit of a dilemma, I think I do know what the right thing is to do but just want to get a few opinions.
My A is supposed to be going to outpatient treatment, he is still using, not as much but is still using. He had to go to court last Thursday for a fight that he had gotten into with my son, the cour...
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Siverhusk
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help please
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Hello everyone.
This weekend was a completely disaster, and one I knew was coming. After admitting to smoking pot 6 months ago and "claiming" to get back on the wagon (although it was painfully clear that he wasn't) I went to Florida for a few days to visit my best friend who is currently goingthorugh...
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Kim
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"hope for today" minding my own business
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this is my *entry* on this hope for today message
Hope for Today - August 17 I was excited when I came to Al-Anon and found the Twelve Steps. I felt as if I finally had permission to live life my way, but instead I found myself using the program to dissect other...
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UncleLou need ur help
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Hi I hope u dont mind me posting to you, but have read some of your posts and think you can help me understand something .
I was married to my ex-A for 12 years during which time he had several affairs and drunk on and off throughout. He eventually left me and my 3 children to move in with anoth...
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melanieL
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hurting today
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Today is my first year aniversary. Eleven years together though. So here I am on my pitty pot feeling sorry for myself as he did not even have the decincy (sp?) to whish me a happy aniversary. Of course I am angry and hurt. I just thought that no matter how little his attempts are to mak...
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jj
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Attitude of Gratitude
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It was a busy weekend, I am glad to be back at work where I can slow down just a bit. (Blessing) I ran and dropped of children (blessing) here and there Saturday morning and then We had a funeral, (My A's best friend's father, I had posted about earlier), the fellowship (blessing)&nb...
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marmare
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HOW DO YOU STAY STRONG???
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HOW DO YOU STAY STRONG? I CAN NEVER FIND THE ANSWER TO THAT QUESTION. MOST OF THE TIME I AM SO STRONG, NOT JUST FOR ME NUT FOR EVERYBODY. SOMETIMES I JUST GO CRY ON MY FRIENDS SHOULDER. I LOVE MY FRIENDS I DONT EVEN HAVE TO TELL THEM HOW I AM FEALING BECAUSE THEY CAN TELL IT IN MY EYES. LIFE SUCKS SOMETIMES. I GET...
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princess433
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confused
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Hi everyone,
I have a few question. Everyone says wait six months before you make any big changes. Well my six months are up. I'm very confused. My A is sober now just got his six month chip. I though once he got sober everthing would be just fine. Well things are soooo...
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nikkilou
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CDB
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Hi all,
Has anyone heard form cdb? Do we know how she is doing?
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Dolphin123
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haxigonian VIII
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[[[ room ]]]
further update...
it's been a wild, raucous 10 days...i'm taking a slow day because of heavy soreness from all that walking and the exhaustion from trying to get affairs in order...
please send money orders rather than anything as i have no bank account and post office is very c...
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haximon
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Hi I'm new
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I've been to a couple face to face meetings and I've been readin the posts on here for a few days. I have been too shy to speak up in the meetings so far and so I thought I'd run some things from in my head past you guys. First of all why am I here? I have a 'qualifier'-my boyfriend who drinks every d...
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eileen
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Why
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why that every time that i get mad at my alcoholic mom that 5 minutes later i feal guilty. i feal so not powerful, its like she has a power over me. how do i control these fealings?
much love-
princess433
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princess433
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The tables have turned!
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Hello All,
I previously posted in "My Addictions" that I have started the "South Beach Diet", and this means a very strict first two weeks. I have completed one week so far unscathed . Last night when my "A" came home from work I started dinner and just immediately became depressed. I didn't wa...
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Dolphin123
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Bank Deposit
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I received this at work today and wanted to share it with you all:
A 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud man, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o'clock, with his hair fashionably coifed and shaved perfectly applied, even though he is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today. H...
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Dolphin123
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Doing really well...
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Well my "A" and I have been doing real well lately. He knows about Alanon and he is real supportive. Night before last his brothers wife called and left a messgae real late about his brother (also an alcoholic-but hasnt admitted it yet). I guess they had a big fight tha...
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kimmie
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haxigonian VII
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[[ room ]]
I have a new temporary address...
Mike Rolfe
111 NW Burnside
Portland, OR 97209
Fro those wishing to help me, you have no idea of my gratitude!! Please don't send cash; too risky to carry too much here.
The transit pass information is at http://www.trimet.org/
I do have a...
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haximon
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Prayer request
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My son, Tom, who lives in AZ called this afternoon. They had taken his wife, Lisa, to the OB/GYN, the doctor told her that she is dilated to 3, go home, get her bag, drop the other kids off at the sitters and return to the hospital. They also sent her with an oxygen tank. She has cy...
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marmare
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Looking for words of encouragement
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I have been struggling with my feelings all weekend. Sometimes feeling positive about my decision about leaving my husband and sometimes feeling that maybe I made a mistake. I shared in a post a few days ago about leaving my husband 11 days ago. I took a stand after having insults h...
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JulieLynn
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Anger
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My son developed a psychosis. Believe it to be through use of cannabis. He would not accept help, tried everything available, had him committed tomental unit.
He is not stupid, nor a fool, perhaps in top 10% of intelligence quota.
Finally, he accepted drugs. Breakthrough, so I thought, but...
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flora123
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meeting contribution??
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I have a question about meeting behaviour. In our group there is one member who repeatedly talks about death in all forms and in vivid detail. Every week. Not in USA. I feel this is no help. He is obviously hurting, but it's painful to listen I try to go to the bathroom wh...
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toto12
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Explanation of Life
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I got this at work and hoped it would give you all a laugh!  
On the first day God created the dog. God said, "Sit all day by the door of your house and bark at anyone who comes in or walks past. I will give you a life span of twenty years."
The dog said, "That's too long to be barking. Gi...
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COMES THE DAWN
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Came across this poem while going threw some of my papers. Wanted to share it although I am unable to tell you the author as it was not written on the paper. Hope you enjoy!
COMES THE DAWN
After a while you learn the subtle difference between holding a...
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shimo
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Taking care of myself
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Hello from vacation. I am staying in New Branfels TX for a weekend of fun with my sister and a few of her friends.
Today we tubed the Guadalupe River.
We had a raft with our lunch in coolers tied to the raft in an inner tube
One friend was in the raft with his son.
...
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megan
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Accepting Amends
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Hi Everyone,
I had a little thing happen to me Friday that was one of those lightning strike moments for me that I would like to share with you.
On Thursday, I had reason to call a tech support person within the company whom I work for in regards to a problem with a printer. This person and I have k...
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david62
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job
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Hey,
I got a part time job at alanon start tomorrow thanks for all the prayers.
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dori
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Feeling guilt
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I guess this past week I haven't been following my own good sense, and I'm falling apart at the seams again. Can't sleep for wondering how to get all the work done, and how to pay the bills, etc. Haven't done my yoga regularly, and I'm not eating properly.
It's hard to slow myself down, and...
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Belongtome
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Crossing a line
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Lastnight my husband crossed a line that almost made me snap!!! He came home drunk of course and gave my son's kitten away to his driver. I am angry with him as he had absolutly no right to do this!! I wanted to yell but didn't and I feel really bad for my son. I know that we could get the ki...
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jj
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husband in rehab--again
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He's been in rehab now for 4 days.
I'm going tomorrow for family day.
I've barely seen my husband in 2 months. We've been together for 21 years.
In case you don't know my story--he went to rehab in March for 30 days---3000 miles away from where we live.
Since, he has spiraled to a place that...
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mom to 2
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A Grateful Member
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Hello All,
I am a grateful member of alanon, and a grateful member of this board.
I wanted to drop a quick thanks to everyone who replied to my posts this week, especially this weekend. You all helped me to remember my program, and work on me. I got through a hard time because of all of you. I am forever g...
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Dolphin123
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Do We REALLY get on with life?
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I was reading some posts and it occured to me that as much as we are able to detach when we are involved in unhealthy relationships, we also choose to deny our needs. When we say we detach... does that solve the problem we feel inside of wanting our husband, wives, significant others to love us as we...
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sanddie
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HP at work/ kitten back
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The kitten issue has been resolved. The couple that took the kitten hom did phone and drop him off before dinner time. This was none of my doing as it was not my situation to fix.
I did tell hubby in the morning that he did owe our son an apology as it was a very wrong thing to do. Then from there...
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jj
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response to do we really go on.....
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wow, don't be shy girl!! lol this was a great thought provoking post. Thank you
for sharing so very much!
My scoundrel A has been gone really since he had the brain surgery in 99. Lost his
years of sobriety, AA, ability to love, ability to be him anymore, lost his
ability to be able to be in recov...
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debilyn
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The Lie of a Lifetime
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Well today was the second day after the addict relapsed and he's been doing what he should but in his efforts to get honest with himself and the world he is unloading his story to me. Anyway the whole story that he gave me in my previous post "Reality of Relapse " is all pure unadulterated bull. No...
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lildee
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Anger
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Sorry, so angry, I posted twice - couldn't see the first one for the red mist lol
-- Edited by flora123 at 20:05, 2005-08-14
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flora123
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Drunk driving
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What do you do when your A is about to get into a car and drive? I know you can't give advice, but what do you guys do? I offer to take him where he needs to go or pick something up for him. I don't know what the right thing to do is, but I couldn't live with myself if he killed someone if I could in any way prevent it....
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FoggyMac
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20 reasons to rejoice
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For me it's the little things and this list really spoke to me. I thought I would share this with all of you. 
20 reasons to rejoice:
1. A hug from your kids
2. Stopping after one piece of chocolate (o.k. maybe two)
3. A full moon (I like lightning and thunder storms too)
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Maria123
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I believe my husband is a dry drunk
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I am new to this board. I really need some advice on how to deal with my husband, who stopped drinking cold turkey almost eleven years ago.
I knew he liked to drink when we got married, but we were in our early 20's and most of our friends would go out to a bar to socialize on the weekend...
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mother of three
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Thr Reality of Relapse
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Cunning and baffling as this disease is, the reality of relapse at any time hit home yesterday. After 22 months clean my addict relapsed into oblivion.
Today was his departed father's birthday. So he had gone to the cemetery to pay respects .... at least that is what I was told. He left the house at 7AM...
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lildee
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Insanity
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Hello all,
The definition of insanity: Doing the same thing over and over expecting different results. 
My "A" and I have been having a stressful week, and not really noticing the toll that was beeing taken on us. We had a celebration on Friday that concluded the stress filled week. Last...
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Dolphin123
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I am so mad.....
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I just talked to my A. On Fridays he deposits his check in the bank, I left him a voice mail this morning telling him, take his weekly money and the extra amount I needed for the week, a donation for the family of the funeral we will attend tomorrow, and his haircut money. I call the bank and est...
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marmare
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Is it true?
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I have a question:
Is it true that if you have alcoholic parents that you will be an alcoholic as well?
I wonder about the answer to this question everyday and it is driving me crazy!
Please reply.
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princess433
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Faith
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Hello all,
I am sitting here replying to more posts than I ever have. My "A" has pur car and is not answering his cell. It could be nothing, or it could mean no good. The last time I talked to him he said don't worrh honey I am not doing anything stupid, hmmmmmmmmm funny I wasn't even thinking he was until he...
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Dolphin123
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getting started
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afmom03
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Tense times
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Yesterday was my son's fifth birthday. Things were fine until my husband got a call from his new parole officer saying he wanted to see my husband in an hour at our house. Well of course my husband starts panicking because he is dirty and yells at me. I just basically took a d...
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browneyes
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Some one help!
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Hi!
I have a mother who is an alcoholic. I used to live with her but I got token away. I have so many mixed emotions that it is truely scarey. If anyone noes how to cope please send me a not. Thanks.
princess433
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princess433
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please answer this question!
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how do you make the pain go away? the other day i found out that everyone in my school knew that my mom was a prostitute, except me. that really hurt.i dont know if it is true though. she has been known to do stuff like that.
princess433
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princess433
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hello
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hi
my mom is a acoholic. she might still be an addict but i am not for sure. it is very hard to see her hurt. thankfully i dont live with her any more but it is still painful. if you need to take send me a message.
princess433
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princess433
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I got the job!
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Just heard this afternoon that I got the job I had applied for. It is a temporary position in customer service for an excellent company with fabulous benefits. It will last 10 weeks but after that they tell me my chances are very good to be hired permanently. This is just a way to get m...
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hurtinginindy
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The Roller Coaster Continues.. !
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Alcoholism is such an emotional roller coaster for EVERYONE .. Especially, those of us who love the A's ....
Today is Friday and thankfully, my A is working. I know that sounds terrible but the house is so peaceful when he isnt here. I miss him however, not like before. We have been thru so much that I...
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Tammy
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He blew 31 days!
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My A was doing pretty good over the last several months, he finally gave up the whiskey, was drinking a beer here and there, mostly on the weekends but not getting drunk! I have been really proud of him. I even felt like my life was becoming manageable again. It has felt so good not to b...
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kimg
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Despair
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What do they say "You only get what you deserve". I'm beginning to wonder what I did in the past to deserve what is on my plate now. My life is so complex and such a long story its not worth boring anyone with except to say that my partner started binge drinking in 97 and has contin...
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annieb
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This isn't how things are supposed to be
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I don't know how my life ended up this way. This isn't how things are supposed to be. I try so hard to smile and tell the world how happy I am but I don't think I'm fooling anyone anymore. I went out dancing last night for the first time in years. I had such a blast. I loved bei...
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Mandi
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I have to share
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I get daily affirmations in my email, I sometimes print them at work to share with the counselors or post them on my computer monitor but today I have to share this one for us dog lovers....
Okay, so you don't have a tail. I don't either, but that’s not the point. I was watchin...
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marmare
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Alcoholism ruined our marriage
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Alcoholism ruined our marriage
A startling revelation made to me by my alcoholic husband.
I met him for dinner and he uttered these words.
He said that alcoholism is a disease and he is Irish and that alcoholism has been in his family for generations, so he can't help it.
He must be reading th...
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megan
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Haxigonian V
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What a first day!
First order of business was to buy a transit pass; without which here you're screwed.
next was a meeting Senora bob clued me in to...NW at noon...40 people...topic was gifts of the program :)
There was a Vietnamese place nearby which had my favorite comfort food of all.....
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haximon
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Recovering Daughter Problems
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My daughter is recovering and has been sober from alcohol for over 3 months. She is 21 and also taking a university class. Tonight she said she wanted to go to family counselling because she said my husband (step dad) is gossiping about her. She heard a couple of stories that she is c...
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Iris
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