Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

melissajill · melissajill

I live in a small town and there are no alanon meeting near me. I really need help. I don't know what the first step is. I have been with my husband for 11 years. He has been an addict since before I met him, but he was clean for some time when we were married. It has been a constant battle with pain killers, ephe...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Detachment without resentments is so difficult for me. My A was offerred a pending position as a supervisor with a local retail store. The money would have been great. Unfortunately, when they ran a background check his "other than honorable" discharge with the militar...

redtoes · redtoes

The last few years have been to say the least, WILD. My sister who was the epitome of "mom" became addicted to painkillers and alcohol as a result of a surgery. To make a long story short she lost her children (I have custody of one, the other went to live with her father, The baby, my si...

Kim · Kim

Hello roomies: had a rough couple of days slipping in and out of behavior that is familiar for me, but yet I know will get me nowhere. I have not seen my A in 3 weeks since I kicked him out from 1500 miles away when I knew he was high in our house. We have spoken on several occasions, and this pas...

debilyn · debilyn

I always say I don't know how you guys who live with an A can do it. I wish I could. I chose to get my A his medication. pay for it I mean, and i also got his truck registered and title in his name for him. NO strings. He was going to come out this morn and bring a ton of hay, help me fill the dumpster a... >

sandie123 · sandie123

Im not sure what is going on. Yesterday I had a 3 hour talk with my daugher(17) about my husband, her father (an alcoholic). We talked about alot.. cried a bit and I'm not sure that everything I said was the right thing to say. We talked about his disregard for the law, his mood swings, poor eating habits, a...

jessi · jessi

Despite my desire to not do the same thing and expect different results (insanity), I have managed to do just that. I broke up with my partner about 1.5 years ago after six years of dysfunction, verbal and sometimes physical abuse and disrespect. I didn't leave her for any of those reasons though....

Karilynn · Karilynn

Okay, I'm new at this and I could use some help. I have not lived a long time with an alcholic. To make a long story short, my boyfriend (whom I've known for 20 years) finally left his old life behind, and came to live with me last September. I had suspected that he had a drinking problem, but wasn't sure of it...

browneyes · browneyes

My husband finally crashed into someone in his big-rig. He rearended the guy, not even knowing what happened when I asked him.(Probably fell asleep). When he called me I was trying to get my kids off to school and I had to run outside and get our car's liscence plate number because he worke...

Diva · Diva

My older son is an artist of some renown and lives in the city of New Orleans...or should I say "lived" in the city of New Orleans. He was visiting in Seattle at the time Katrina blew through, so the whole family is thankful for that. Yesterday he found out that his home in the Garden District is still there...

haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] I've been dealing with relative generated stress the last couple days, which isn't helping matters at all. Last night my mother had either been drinking or her meds had been mixed up again. She tried to get me into the guilt/shame trip, which I just don't have any tolerance for anymore...

kimmie · kimmie

Well I was doing very well with the program, not letting my "A" bother me and living my own life. But where is the line where you have to say something? And you cant just ignore them. First of all my husband and I are only 23 yrs old. We have a 2 year old son and a daughter on th...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - September 1 After attending Al-Anon for a while, I realized that self-care didn't mean as much to me as it seemed to mean to other members. I thought I was doing a decent job of keeping myself clean and healthy. #####ROSIE...yeah, w...

jj · jj

I met Zack at the bus all I wanted to do was give him a big hug!!!! WELL as soon as he saw me he was talking a mile a minute!!! you could see the excitement in his face along with the tired look. So we talked and I asked him if all the tears shed this morning were worth it. He said no that today w...

Tammy · Tammy

I dont know where to begin.. Today, I woke up like any other day. My husband, the A was working he works 24 hours on and 48 off. So yesterday he was on duty and the house was very peaceful.. Today, the kids went to school, I went to work and my husband came home. We talked a few times on the phone no big deal.... >>

mom to 2 · mom to 2

Hi all, I've posted quite a bit before about my A husband. He's been in rehab twice since March. Repeated relapses and they get worse and worse. Has not worked since March. Recently went to rehab and started a job(he has always worked steadily before) and went out that n...

kerry5 · kerry5

Take Hold of Every Moment A friend of mine opened his wife's underwear drawer and picked up a silk paper wrapped package: "This, - he said - isn't any ordinary package." He unwrapped the box and stare...

beachbaby · beachbaby

Hi all: Its been a rough couple of weeks, I am grateful for the tools I learned in Al-Anon to help me but its still tough. My recovering addict boyfriend has been avoiding me the last couple of weeks, he claims to be working 60 plus hours a week, hes not been going to meetings, hes not call...

Maria123 · Maria123

Don't Worry 'bout A Thing by SheDaisy (love this group) Ever been misunderstood, misused, or misled Ever knocked on the sky and had it fall on your head well, don't worry 'bout it, don't worry Ever lost your luggage, your marbles, your house Or found yourself in bed with Uncle Sam or Mickey Mouse Ever...

haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] I'm recovering from bronchtis so am not feeling too hot. It doesn't surprise me that I got it again from all the stress or from local allergens that I haven't been exposed to yet. The job search will have to wait for a couple days until I can get enough fluid and rest to...

jj · jj

my heart is breaking!!! This has nothing to do with my hubby. ... My son he is 5. Today is his 2nd day back at school. Grade 1... Well he cried so hard about not wanting to go to school this morning and it just hurt me soooooo bad! I wonder WHY. He is supposed to love sc...

Annie · Annie

My A has been starting his drinking now about 1:00 p.m. until 2 a.m. just about every day unless he doesn’t feel well and then he moans and groans about how he is near death anyway. (He also has emphysema). (He is retired.) He basically only eats something (and then it is very little)...

megan · megan

Fabulous haircut Last Friday I got my very long hair cut. It was long and boring and I always had it pulled back I asked a woman at work whose hair always looks great who she used and made an appointment with the same lady. She chopped off ALOT and now I have a style to my hair and I love it. Before I m...

sanddie · sanddie

I know that we all have our problems and pain deep within us, but when we look at the world around us with all the tragedy that is occuring, particularly in New Orleans we should all really be thankful for what we do have--- food, our health in most cases, a roof over our head and most importantly a life in wh...

cdb · cdb

Hello HP/God. I felt I wanted to talk to you here so I can try to have some accountability with what I am asking for. I know you never let me down and only I can let me down. I need energy so bad by tomorrow noon to be able to pick up the mess in the house. I need energy to do this at a faster pace than I normally do. Wi...

phoebemoonpie · phoebemoonpie

Hi, I haven't been a member of Alanon before; I am a recovering addict myself. My husband and I used to use together and 4 years after I got clean, he joined me in recovery. It's been pretty great. For the past two years or so he has been abusing over the counter cough syrup (Robituss...

confused · confused

I am sitting here and just too overwhelmed to even begin to explain the way I am feeling. I just want to cry. What a mess I feel inside, and I thought I was doing pretty good. I did something that I should not of, I new it would trigger all this emotion but did it anyway. A simple thing, I took the phone when my so...

browneyes · browneyes

Just wanted to let everyone know that my sister is doing better. They are trying to find out where her infection is coming from, it's some sort of resistant strain of staph. But she will be in the hospital for at least another week so I am going down this weekend to see her and my neice and neph...

chrissy · chrissy

since April my husband has been pulling getting disapearing for 2 to 3 days . he says he doesnt need aa he'll stop drinking during the week and he does not have a problem. and then on thursday he comes home with a 6 pk s and acts really stupid and nasty. last week was my daughters 13 b day p...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

well good ole God has to use handcuffs and duct tape, but i am so glad to be in this program......below is my esh on the "hope for today" Hope for Today - August 31 I am the adult child of two alcoholics. Before I came into Al-Anon, I had no dreams or hope....

Strong4myboys · Strong4myboys

I feel like my emotions are on the Cyclone! Up and down, up and down. Really high one day and then plunging to the bottom the next. Thank goodness I have a f2f tonight! There's nothing at this point that helps me more than my f2f meetings. My husband and I have been separated for 2 months and he has b...

jj · jj

Tonight we had a speaker meeting and it was nice to have him come in!!! I realized something new tonight about manipulation and wow did it hit home with me!!!! I have always known that my hubby manipulates situations to make "it" my fault and so on and so on. Thanks to the program I began to...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Roomies, Last night my "A" came to me and told me he wanted to contact his connection. I was so heart broken. I lost it, my emtions kicked in and no matter what I could not let my alanon kick in. Pain, anger, and disapointment were in the driver's seat, and they are reckless drivers. I lost my temper, and a...

browneyes · browneyes

Hi all To make a really long story short- My sister, 34, is in the hospital for a bacterial infection in her blood and fluid around her heart. She has diabetes and did not know it or take care of it for many years. She has been an off and on active alcoholic and drug user since she w...

Christy · Christy

We finally heard from my Aunt Dot in Biloxi. She is alive (thank HP) but their home is totally gone. Her and her husband are stranded in a Walmart parking lot somewhere in FL about 100 miles from Biloxi. Their are no rooms to be had (hotels etc) and they slept in their van last night. Not sure if there is po...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Twelve Steps And Twelve Traditions, page 75 "It was painful to give up trying to control my life, even though success eluded me, and when life got too rough, I chose to ... escape. ########ROSIE....oh for me it was terrifying , to give up the "control" i thought i had, clinging on..thinking i am my ONLY "...

Busbe · Busbe

I know you live in Minnisota and are familier with it. My husband is going to work at the Prairie Island Nuclear Plant by Redwing. I have been trying to find him an apt around there do u know that area very well? If so let me know so I can look there on the internet for him a one b...

tullemars · tullemars

Thank You all I am very greatful for this board. I try to average it out on good days and bad when I post. You must have good and bad. Ying and Yang Joy and pain If you aren't unhappy sometimes you will never be happy Remeber the secret to life is enjoying the ride....

confused · confused

Something in the chat room just sparked a nagging question that I have had for awhile. I thought that someone might be able to relate and/or offer some wisdom. My A has been sober for about 30 days. Prior to rehab he seemed to have a lot of mania along with his increase in drinking and smoking pot. I spoke to...

Strong4myboys · Strong4myboys

My spouse has been sober for 9 days. Every day is STILL a battle between us. We will have one great day and the then next day is horrible. It's like my emotions are on a roller coaster and I want to be his wife some days and the next I think there is no way I can survive a lifetime rela...

camra · camra

I have this friend from the past who is now my email friend, here lately I have done nothing but irritate him. I am a person who has problems with emotional highs and Lows, I try very hard to keep this to myself and not let it effect my life. But sometimes i can not mostly I let go on line that is the only place I w...

RDP2976 · RDP2976

Hi my name is Robyn. I am 29 years old. I have 2 kids 11 and 7 well he will be 7 in 2 weeks. I am married to a grate man when he's not drunk he is my A. My dad was my A to but I lost him when I was 4 years old. I am so glad I found this. I can't go to f2f meetings right now it's hard but I am trying to do the online meeting...

greta · greta

I Thought of this today, and wanted to share :) Hope u enjoy, Carol People come into your life for a REASON, a SEASON or a LIFETIME. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inward...

Strong4myboys · Strong4myboys

I've been thinking about this all weekend. My mom, dad and I listened to CD of an alcoholic who spoke at an alanon convention. We started discussing the A's in our family and mom told me for the first time that her grandad on her mother's side was an alcoholic. She said my great grandm...

marmare · marmare

I actually had a pretty uneventful weekend. My A did his thing and I did mine. We did spend some time together on Saturday. Ran a couple errands and watched T.V. in the evening. He golfed yesterday and I spent most of the day with my mom. (her birthday is today! Sh...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - August 29 My mother's behavior was my original reason for joining Al-Anon. She was the first and most important alcoholic in my life. A talented and creative woman, . #####ROSIE...well she AND the perp but mostly it wa...

lost216 · lost216

My husband refuses to acknowledge his problem. I work late on Friday nights, and a few weeks ago, I came home (around 8:30), and he was drunk. I also have 2 childre -ages 6 and 4, that are in his care when I am not there. He is a wonderful husband and devoted father, but I have realized th...

cedarpines · cedarpines

Hi everyone, I'm having puter problems. May not be on for awhile - cause don't know what problems are. Frustrated because I miss y'all & having trouble getting to ftf meetings. Just want to let you know & be back as soon as I can. Cedarpines

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Indulge me a moment please. I hadn't seen the original posting of this message (quoted below). I asked for a copy of it after it had already been deleted. I believe the original posting had to do with understanding the AA side?? So, why am I posting this again? Well, I'...

nikkilou · nikkilou

Hi all, Just a quick note to say my little guy is doing great and home for hosptial. Thanks for all your prayers. NIKKILOU

toto12 · toto12

Does anybody know what's wrong? When I want to go in, it says webmaster.com closed or it already says quit, or it says connect at top and quickly flashes to closed.....? help! your computer idiot in Europe toto12

Kim · Kim

Hello all: I called my A today to apologize about telling his daighter's mother about his spending her money. I felt I needed to as I was reflecting a lot on my acting out during his last relapse. I tried to ddo this to make me feel better, not to encourage him back into our house. O...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello Roomies, I wrote a few days ago about my experience with my "A" on a night when his drug of choice was unavailable. (I don't know what happened.) After that night I have had three teriffic days with my "A". He took Friday off from work to attend a ceremony with me. We went out to breakfast, atte...

swolves · swolves

As i have been unable to get into chat room....and I need to share ....here I am. After my A being 2 hours late picking up kids on Friday, I was not happy when I could not reach his appt to say good night to the kids. So I called at 8:30 in am on Sat. and spoke with my oldest...everything seemed ok....

kimmie · kimmie

Well we survived the second landfall into Broward County Florida of Hurricane Katrina. I really feel for those people in the gulf for the second landfall. My "A" of course used the hurricane as a great excuse to get plastered. And my mother said that her "A" did the sa...

ditto · ditto

I didn't believe that he had stopped drinking. He had promised me months ago that he had stopped. I had told him that I would divorce him if he continued to drink and he wrote a contract swearing that he would not ever drink again. Tonight I have searched the house and have found the bottle...

allie32 · allie32

I just feel a need of letting you know, that your presence in the chat-room matters a lot to me. Thank you, those of you, that have listened to my pain these last few days. It is very hard to feel the feelings and open up. At least I surrendered to the thought that I really belong in the program. I am acoa, bo...

sg · sg

(One Day at a Time) ...."If I remember the kind person I want to be, I won't forget myself and yield to an angry surge of temper.....quiet always sets the stage for calm." Anger is a scarey thing for me. I know what I am capable of. Growing up w/an angry mother, I absorbed a lot of her unhealthiness...

cdb · cdb

Josey gave me permission to ask all of you to pray for her. She needs prayers for Strength for her to make some major decisions now based on her Higher Power's Guidance. Please keep her in your thoughts and prayers. cdb

eileen · eileen

HI guys. I have a request to make of everyone. a couple weeks ago I asked you guys to pray for me about my relationship with HP and surrendering and it really helped put me in contact and get me started on healing my realtionship with my spirituality. thank you thankyou SO much everyone and anyone who offe...

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	another newbie- help please (Preview) I live in a small town and there are no alanon meeting near me. I really need help. I don't know what the first step is. I have been with my husband for 11 years. He has been an addict since before I met him, but he was clean for some time when we were married. It has been a constant battle with pain killers, ephe...	melissajill	3	740	Sep 2, 2005 by kimmie
	Detaching with out resentment (Preview) Detachment without resentments is so difficult for me. My A was offerred a pending position as a supervisor with a local retail store. The money would have been great. Unfortunately, when they ran a background check his "other than honorable" discharge with the militar...	twinmom2	3	824	Sep 2, 2005 by Annie
	New and in need of help (Preview) The last few years have been to say the least, WILD. My sister who was the epitome of "mom" became addicted to painkillers and alcohol as a result of a surgery. To make a long story short she lost her children (I have custody of one, the other went to live with her father, The baby, my si...	redtoes	6	838	Sep 2, 2005 by redtoes
	slipping (Preview) Hello roomies: had a rough couple of days slipping in and out of behavior that is familiar for me, but yet I know will get me nowhere. I have not seen my A in 3 weeks since I kicked him out from 1500 miles away when I knew he was high in our house. We have spoken on several occasions, and this pas...	Kim	1	708	Sep 2, 2005 by marmare
	just a typical situation (Preview) I always say I don't know how you guys who live with an A can do it. I wish I could. I chose to get my A his medication. pay for it I mean, and i also got his truck registered and title in his name for him. NO strings. He was going to come out this morn and bring a ton of hay, help me fill the dumpster a... >	debilyn	4	792	Sep 2, 2005 by marmare
	Confusion over talk with children (Preview) Im not sure what is going on. Yesterday I had a 3 hour talk with my daugher(17) about my husband, her father (an alcoholic). We talked about alot.. cried a bit and I'm not sure that everything I said was the right thing to say. We talked about his disregard for the law, his mood swings, poor eating habits, a...	sandie123	3	813	Sep 2, 2005 by Dolphin123
	same action/same results (Preview) Despite my desire to not do the same thing and expect different results (insanity), I have managed to do just that. I broke up with my partner about 1.5 years ago after six years of dysfunction, verbal and sometimes physical abuse and disrespect. I didn't leave her for any of those reasons though....	jessi	4	830	Sep 2, 2005 by marmare
	Brand new to this. (Preview) Okay, I'm new at this and I could use some help. I have not lived a long time with an alcholic. To make a long story short, my boyfriend (whom I've known for 20 years) finally left his old life behind, and came to live with me last September. I had suspected that he had a drinking problem, but wasn't sure of it...	Karilynn	6	625	Sep 2, 2005 by debilyn
	The worst finally happened (Preview) My husband finally crashed into someone in his big-rig. He rearended the guy, not even knowing what happened when I asked him.(Probably fell asleep). When he called me I was trying to get my kids off to school and I had to run outside and get our car's liscence plate number because he worke...	browneyes	7	731	Sep 1, 2005 by FoggyMac
	My heart breaks for my son and all the other victims. (Preview) My older son is an artist of some renown and lives in the city of New Orleans...or should I say "lived" in the city of New Orleans. He was visiting in Seattle at the time Katrina blew through, so the whole family is thankful for that. Yesterday he found out that his home in the Garden District is still there...	Diva	6	758	Sep 1, 2005 by Dolphin123
	haxigonian XV (Preview) [[ room ]] I've been dealing with relative generated stress the last couple days, which isn't helping matters at all. Last night my mother had either been drinking or her meds had been mixed up again. She tried to get me into the guilt/shame trip, which I just don't have any tolerance for anymore...	haximon	3	619	Sep 1, 2005 by shimo
	I'm lost, need advice (Preview) Well I was doing very well with the program, not letting my "A" bother me and living my own life. But where is the line where you have to say something? And you cant just ignore them. First of all my husband and I are only 23 yrs old. We have a 2 year old son and a daughter on th...	kimmie	7	695	Sep 1, 2005 by Dolphin123
	taking care of me BEYOND bare essentials (Preview) Hope for Today - September 1 After attending Al-Anon for a while, I realized that self-care didn't mean as much to me as it seemed to mean to other members. I thought I was doing a decent job of keeping myself clean and healthy. #####ROSIE...yeah, w...	rosie light shines	3	832	Sep 1, 2005 by nmike
	Son came home happy (Preview) I met Zack at the bus all I wanted to do was give him a big hug!!!! WELL as soon as he saw me he was talking a mile a minute!!! you could see the excitement in his face along with the tired look. So we talked and I asked him if all the tears shed this morning were worth it. He said no that today w...	jj	2	609	Sep 1, 2005 by Dolphin123
	MY LIFE IS SPINNING OUT OF CONTROL (Preview) I dont know where to begin.. Today, I woke up like any other day. My husband, the A was working he works 24 hours on and 48 off. So yesterday he was on duty and the house was very peaceful.. Today, the kids went to school, I went to work and my husband came home. We talked a few times on the phone no big deal.... >>	Tammy	6	932	Sep 1, 2005 by Dolphin123
	I'd like your thoughts on this (Preview) Hi all, I've posted quite a bit before about my A husband. He's been in rehab twice since March. Repeated relapses and they get worse and worse. Has not worked since March. Recently went to rehab and started a job(he has always worked steadily before) and went out that n...	mom to 2	6	657	Sep 1, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Take Hold of Every Moment (Preview) Take Hold of Every Moment A friend of mine opened his wife's underwear drawer and picked up a silk paper wrapped package: "This, - he said - isn't any ordinary package." He unwrapped the box and stare...	kerry5	3	560	Sep 1, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Hurt (Preview) Hi all: Its been a rough couple of weeks, I am grateful for the tools I learned in Al-Anon to help me but its still tough. My recovering addict boyfriend has been avoiding me the last couple of weeks, he claims to be working 60 plus hours a week, hes not been going to meetings, hes not call...	beachbaby	2	568	Sep 1, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Another Song to our repertoire (Preview) Don't Worry 'bout A Thing by SheDaisy (love this group) Ever been misunderstood, misused, or misled Ever knocked on the sky and had it fall on your head well, don't worry 'bout it, don't worry Ever lost your luggage, your marbles, your house Or found yourself in bed with Uncle Sam or Mickey Mouse Ever...	Maria123	4	684	Sep 1, 2005 by Peggy7
	haxigonian XIV (Preview) [[ room ]] I'm recovering from bronchtis so am not feeling too hot. It doesn't surprise me that I got it again from all the stress or from local allergens that I haven't been exposed to yet. The job search will have to wait for a couple days until I can get enough fluid and rest to...	haximon	4	655	Sep 1, 2005 by Peggy7
	my breaking heart (Preview) my heart is breaking!!! This has nothing to do with my hubby. ... My son he is 5. Today is his 2nd day back at school. Grade 1... Well he cried so hard about not wanting to go to school this morning and it just hurt me soooooo bad! I wonder WHY. He is supposed to love sc...	jj	11	660	Sep 1, 2005 by jj
	Input, please (Preview) My A has been starting his drinking now about 1:00 p.m. until 2 a.m. just about every day unless he doesn’t feel well and then he moans and groans about how he is near death anyway. (He also has emphysema). (He is retired.) He basically only eats something (and then it is very little)...	Annie	9	768	Sep 1, 2005 by Annie
	taking care of me (Preview) Fabulous haircut Last Friday I got my very long hair cut. It was long and boring and I always had it pulled back I asked a woman at work whose hair always looks great who she used and made an appointment with the same lady. She chopped off ALOT and now I have a style to my hair and I love it. Before I m...	megan	14	776	Sep 1, 2005 by david62
	KATRINA DISASTER..... Where are our hearts? (Preview) I know that we all have our problems and pain deep within us, but when we look at the world around us with all the tragedy that is occuring, particularly in New Orleans we should all really be thankful for what we do have--- food, our health in most cases, a roof over our head and most importantly a life in wh...	sanddie	3	730	Sep 1, 2005 by sanddie
	Prayer request for HP and me... (Preview) Hello HP/God. I felt I wanted to talk to you here so I can try to have some accountability with what I am asking for. I know you never let me down and only I can let me down. I need energy so bad by tomorrow noon to be able to pick up the mess in the house. I need energy to do this at a faster pace than I normally do. Wi...	cdb	8	882	Aug 31, 2005 by cedarpines
	Recovery ruined (Preview) Hi, I haven't been a member of Alanon before; I am a recovering addict myself. My husband and I used to use together and 4 years after I got clean, he joined me in recovery. It's been pretty great. For the past two years or so he has been abusing over the counter cough syrup (Robituss...	phoebemoonpie	5	585	Aug 31, 2005 by phoebemoonpie
	caller id!!! what was I thinking. (Preview) I am sitting here and just too overwhelmed to even begin to explain the way I am feeling. I just want to cry. What a mess I feel inside, and I thought I was doing pretty good. I did something that I should not of, I new it would trigger all this emotion but did it anyway. A simple thing, I took the phone when my so...	confused	2	673	Aug 31, 2005 by jj
	Update on sister (Preview) Just wanted to let everyone know that my sister is doing better. They are trying to find out where her infection is coming from, it's some sort of resistant strain of staph. But she will be in the hospital for at least another week so I am going down this weekend to see her and my neice and neph...	browneyes	2	582	Aug 31, 2005 by Dolphin123
	help please (Preview) since April my husband has been pulling getting disapearing for 2 to 3 days . he says he doesnt need aa he'll stop drinking during the week and he does not have a problem. and then on thursday he comes home with a 6 pk s and acts really stupid and nasty. last week was my daughters 13 b day p...	chrissy	6	683	Aug 31, 2005 by chrissy
	thank you GOD for dragging me into recovery (Preview) well good ole God has to use handcuffs and duct tape, but i am so glad to be in this program......below is my esh on the "hope for today" Hope for Today - August 31 I am the adult child of two alcoholics. Before I came into Al-Anon, I had no dreams or hope....	rosie light shines	2	584	Aug 31, 2005 by megan
	Another day on this rollercoaster I call life (Preview) I feel like my emotions are on the Cyclone! Up and down, up and down. Really high one day and then plunging to the bottom the next. Thank goodness I have a f2f tonight! There's nothing at this point that helps me more than my f2f meetings. My husband and I have been separated for 2 months and he has b...	Strong4myboys	7	681	Aug 31, 2005 by Dolphin123
	light bulb moment (Preview) Tonight we had a speaker meeting and it was nice to have him come in!!! I realized something new tonight about manipulation and wow did it hit home with me!!!! I have always known that my hubby manipulates situations to make "it" my fault and so on and so on. Thanks to the program I began to...	jj	5	711	Aug 31, 2005 by Dolphin123
	I F***ed Up! (Preview) Roomies, Last night my "A" came to me and told me he wanted to contact his connection. I was so heart broken. I lost it, my emtions kicked in and no matter what I could not let my alanon kick in. Pain, anger, and disapointment were in the driver's seat, and they are reckless drivers. I lost my temper, and a...	Dolphin123	7	719	Aug 31, 2005 by rosie light shines
	I don't know if I can take this-how to deal with death (Preview) Hi all To make a really long story short- My sister, 34, is in the hospital for a bacterial infection in her blood and fluid around her heart. She has diabetes and did not know it or take care of it for many years. She has been an off and on active alcoholic and drug user since she w...	browneyes	12	967	Aug 31, 2005 by kerry5
	Aunt in Biloxi (Preview) We finally heard from my Aunt Dot in Biloxi. She is alive (thank HP) but their home is totally gone. Her and her husband are stranded in a Walmart parking lot somewhere in FL about 100 miles from Biloxi. Their are no rooms to be had (hotels etc) and they slept in their van last night. Not sure if there is po...	Christy	8	671	Aug 31, 2005 by gardengal
	thank GOD i am losing my control freakiness (Preview) Twelve Steps And Twelve Traditions, page 75 "It was painful to give up trying to control my life, even though success eluded me, and when life got too rough, I chose to ... escape. ########ROSIE....oh for me it was terrifying , to give up the "control" i thought i had, clinging on..thinking i am my ONLY "...	rosie light shines	0	586	Aug 31, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Bikerdad (Preview) *I know you live in Minnisota and are familier with it. My husband is going to work* *at the Prairie Island Nuclear Plant by Redwing. I have been trying to find him* *an apt around there do u know that area very well? If so let me know so I can* *look there on the internet for him a one b...*	Busbe	3	691	Aug 31, 2005 by sg
	Greatful (Preview) Thank You all I am very greatful for this board. I try to average it out on good days and bad when I post. You must have good and bad. Ying and Yang Joy and pain If you aren't unhappy sometimes you will never be happy Remeber the secret to life is enjoying the ride....	tullemars	3	569	Aug 31, 2005 by sg
	mania (Preview) Something in the chat room just sparked a nagging question that I have had for awhile. I thought that someone might be able to relate and/or offer some wisdom. My A has been sober for about 30 days. Prior to rehab he seemed to have a lot of mania along with his increase in drinking and smoking pot. I spoke to...	confused	6	594	Aug 31, 2005 by sg
	Recently sobered spouse/ help with step 1 (Preview) My spouse has been sober for 9 days. Every day is STILL a battle between us. We will have one great day and the then next day is horrible. It's like my emotions are on a roller coaster and I want to be his wife some days and the next I think there is no way I can survive a lifetime rela...	Strong4myboys	8	901	Aug 31, 2005 by sg
	whats up with me ? (Preview) I have this friend from the past who is now my email friend, here lately I have done nothing but irritate him. I am a person who has problems with emotional highs and Lows, I try very hard to keep this to myself and not let it effect my life. But sometimes i can not mostly I let go on line that is the only place I w...	camra	2	803	Aug 30, 2005 by camra
	HI I am New (Preview) Hi my name is Robyn. I am 29 years old. I have 2 kids 11 and 7 well he will be 7 in 2 weeks. I am married to a grate man when he's not drunk he is my A. My dad was my A to but I lost him when I was 4 years old. I am so glad I found this. I can't go to f2f meetings right now it's hard but I am trying to do the online meeting...	RDP2976	7	705	Aug 30, 2005 by Tammy
	Reason, Season, Lifetime (Preview) I Thought of this today, and wanted to share :) Hope u enjoy, Carol People come into your life for a REASON, a SEASON or a LIFETIME. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inward...	greta	2	655	Aug 30, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Why is it such a vicious cycle? (Preview) I've been thinking about this all weekend. My mom, dad and I listened to CD of an alcoholic who spoke at an alanon convention. We started discussing the A's in our family and mom told me for the first time that her grandad on her mother's side was an alcoholic. She said my great grandm...	Strong4myboys	7	868	Aug 30, 2005 by bcanuck
	Why (Preview) I actually had a pretty uneventful weekend. My A did his thing and I did mine. We did spend some time together on Saturday. Ran a couple errands and watched T.V. in the evening. He golfed yesterday and I spent most of the day with my mom. (her birthday is today! Sh...	marmare	5	656	Aug 30, 2005 by browneyes
	a posthumous reconcile with my mom (Preview) Hope for Today - August 29 My mother's behavior was my original reason for joining Al-Anon. She was the first and most important alcoholic in my life. A talented and creative woman, . #####ROSIE...well she AND the perp but mostly it wa...	rosie light shines	1	588	Aug 30, 2005 by Annie
	help with coping (Preview) My husband refuses to acknowledge his problem. I work late on Friday nights, and a few weeks ago, I came home (around 8:30), and he was drunk. I also have 2 childre -ages 6 and 4, that are in his care when I am not there. He is a wonderful husband and devoted father, but I have realized th...	lost216	10	953	Aug 30, 2005 by lost216
	Status (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm having puter problems. May not be on for awhile - cause don't know what problems are. Frustrated because I miss y'all & having trouble getting to ftf meetings. Just want to let you know & be back as soon as I can. Cedarpines	cedarpines	6	604	Aug 30, 2005 by cedarpines
	The Face of Fear (long) (Preview) Indulge me a moment please. I hadn't seen the original posting of this message (quoted below). I asked for a copy of it after it had already been deleted. I believe the original posting had to do with understanding the AA side?? So, why am I posting this again? Well, I'...	kismetstrand	5	677	Aug 30, 2005 by isabela40
	baby (Preview) Hi all, Just a quick note to say my little guy is doing great and home for hosptial. Thanks for all your prayers. NIKKILOU	nikkilou	3	590	Aug 29, 2005 by Maria123
	chatroom-What's happening? (Preview) Does anybody know what's wrong? When I want to go in, it says webmaster.com closed or it already says quit, or it says connect at top and quickly flashes to closed.....? help! your computer idiot in Europe toto12	toto12	3	675	Aug 29, 2005 by swolves
	better day (Preview) Hello all: I called my A today to apologize about telling his daighter's mother about his spending her money. I felt I needed to as I was reflecting a lot on my acting out during his last relapse. I tried to ddo this to make me feel better, not to encourage him back into our house. O...	Kim	3	602	Aug 29, 2005 by marmare
	I don't know what happened, continued (Preview) Hello Roomies, I wrote a few days ago about my experience with my "A" on a night when his drug of choice was unavailable. (I don't know what happened.) After that night I have had three teriffic days with my "A". He took Friday off from work to attend a ceremony with me. We went out to breakfast, atte...	Dolphin123	4	668	Aug 29, 2005 by marmare
	he's in jail (Preview) As i have been unable to get into chat room....and I need to share ....here I am. After my A being 2 hours late picking up kids on Friday, I was not happy when I could not reach his appt to say good night to the kids. So I called at 8:30 in am on Sat. and spoke with my oldest...everything seemed ok....	swolves	6	691	Aug 29, 2005 by marmare
	Hurricane Katrina (Preview) Well we survived the second landfall into Broward County Florida of Hurricane Katrina. I really feel for those people in the gulf for the second landfall. My "A" of course used the hurricane as a great excuse to get plastered. And my mother said that her "A" did the sa...	kimmie	4	660	Aug 29, 2005 by Christy
	Found the empty bottles (Preview) I didn't believe that he had stopped drinking. He had promised me months ago that he had stopped. I had told him that I would divorce him if he continued to drink and he wrote a contract swearing that he would not ever drink again. Tonight I have searched the house and have found the bottle...	ditto	10	1033	Aug 29, 2005 by marmare
	To my new friends! (Preview) I just feel a need of letting you know, that your presence in the chat-room matters a lot to me. Thank you, those of you, that have listened to my pain these last few days. It is very hard to feel the feelings and open up. At least I surrendered to the thought that I really belong in the program. I am acoa, bo...	allie32	4	628	Aug 29, 2005 by lin0606
	Today's reading on anger (Preview) (One Day at a Time) ...."If I remember the kind person I want to be, I won't forget myself and yield to an angry surge of temper.....quiet always sets the stage for calm." Anger is a scarey thing for me. I know what I am capable of. Growing up w/an angry mother, I absorbed a lot of her unhealthiness...	sg	1	679	Aug 29, 2005 by browneyes
	jrtJosey,,,,needs prayers (Preview) Josey gave me permission to ask all of you to pray for her. She needs prayers for Strength for her to make some major decisions now based on her Higher Power's Guidance. Please keep her in your thoughts and prayers. cdb	cdb	9	615	Aug 29, 2005 by jj
	help with letting go (Preview) HI guys. I have a request to make of everyone. a couple weeks ago I asked you guys to pray for me about my relationship with HP and surrendering and it really helped put me in contact and get me started on healing my realtionship with my spirituality. thank you thankyou SO much everyone and anyone who offe...	eileen	2	634	Aug 29, 2005 by Dolphin123
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