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rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Anxiety is that range of distress, which attends willing what cannot be willed. --Leslie H. Farber There are hundreds of ways in which men try to will things that cannot be willed. We will to sleep; we will to have others like us; we will to have sexual virility. In all these things, the force of our wil...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

The reason why birds can fly and we can't is simply that they have perfect faith, for to have faith is to have wings. --James M. Barrie As children, we are taught to act and think with confidence. If we have faith that something wonderful can happen, it will bring us joy. Confidence gives us the will to s...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Roomies, Well this is a response to my previous post "Oh that lovely gossip". This morning when I got to work my boss was there and neither one of the three I needed to talk to was there. So I went to him, I honestly was afraid that I would chicken out. I told him what happened and what my plan was, he agree...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hey you all I got a GREAT story Today I got REALLY tested on how much I **love me/ accept me/ forgive me* listen to THIS!!!! This am, I go to sam’s club to buy dog food/ beer/ berries for my smoothies, and I see this totally **awesome* dvd on “into the west”...

haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] Having been thoroughly and formally reprimanded for asking for financial assistance through the board, I humbly apologize to the entire community of the board for having asked for financial help in this manner at all and will not do so again. I am still pursuing...

Peggy7 · Peggy7

Thank you for all you have given me... All you have taken away... All you are withholding...... And all you have in store for me. Please help in my recovery today so I can be present and available to help someone else. I know just because I'm powerless... Doesn't mean there isn't a powe...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello All, I am a little angry right now, and for once it is not directed at my "A", LOL! Joke- Anyway, We had a two week orientation start at work today, and something really lovely, not, came out today. Let me give ya all a little background.--- I work for a non-profit agency that helps people wh...

bob6502 · bob6502

GENERAL BUSINESS GROUP CONSCIENCE MEETINGSenoraBob ;

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, I will be gone for a time, probably back after the 20th. I will miss you all and be back ASAP. Much Love,

princess433 · princess433

Hi again everyone... I am hurting so much. I feel like my heart has been torn into pieces. My mom is back together with her ex. I truley hat her ex. He has put her in the hospital before and is a really bad drunk/druggie. I dont know why she is with him. The last few times that I have talked to her she has bee...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

I'm an ACOA who really struggles with anxiety (and other intense emotions). The anxiety has often been a kind of a low-level, consistent companion that occassionally flares up. I've worked a lot on my anxiety (therapy, exercise, better self-care) and that has helped TREMENDOUSLY; the anxiety att...

raggedy coyote · raggedy coyote

My mom has been in and out of the hospital with mystery problems for years. Her doctors have thrown up there hands and declared they just don't know. When she is in the hospitals she has psychotic episodes she gets violent and hallucinates. The last couple of visits the topic of alcohol came up an...

Kim · Kim

hello all: having a bit of trouble keeping the focus on me...I am up...it is 12:20 am and of course I am not thinking of my busy day tomorrow at work, I am speculating about what my A is up to. Yesterday was a bad day....Sundays for some reason are very depressing. I am alone in the house...I spent the nigh...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Every man's work, whether it be literature or music or pictures or architecture or anything else, is always a portrait of himself. --Samuel Butler, British writer (1835-1902)

marmare · marmare

Well, my husband is safe, showed up at his parents on Sunday in the afternoon. That makes me feel better. My mother in-law asked him how long he planned on staying and he said if he couldn't work things out with me, then probably a month. His parents have talked about it and hav...

Old Faithful · Old Faithful

Last night was yet another crappy evening, I must say. hubs came home drunk full of such anger once again. The kids and I were so hoping that he would fall asleep early but no cigar. I did however, tell the kids that I didn't think Dad could last too, too long before going to bed. And hubs did get to sleep - pas...

hadit · hadit

Hello everyone. For any who read my posting from the other day in reference to a letter I had written my A you will know what I am talking about. Well...yea....I gave him the letter last Friday morning and he called last night. Did he call to discuss anything with me about whats going...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends! I arrived home last night after being gone a month! My mom and dad seem to be doing the best they can with their health problems. Thanks again for all your prayers. Prayers are what helped me to keep going with all my health problems too. I slept today until 4pm! I a...

Powerless · Powerless

I think I will be offered the job I interviewed for on Friday. The District Manager called me ysterday and asked me to come in today for the second part of the interview. She has already called all of my references and wants me to take a management aptitude test....

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Signs of Inner Peace A tendency to think an act deliberately, rather than from fears based on past experiences. An unmistakable ability to enjoy each moment A loss of interest in judging others A loss interest of judgin...

sandie123 · sandie123

I got this e-mail and wanted to share it with everyone. I hope it helps those who are down to think of some of the smaller things and sheds some extra light on those who are up! I am Thankful FOR THE WIFE WHO SAYS IT'S HOT DOGS TONIGHT, BECAUS...

Meowzmusic · Meowzmusic

My husband is an alcoholic. Our marriage is a second marriage;we will be married three years this November. My husband has stopped going to church with me and has been drinking while I am away at church activites. He has also stopped doing anything around the house and seems to be d...

jonibaloni21 · jonibaloni21

Hi fellow alanons, I was in the chatroom the other day when we all started joking around. I was bantering with everyone, and laughing and being silly. One person asked where I lived and I replied TX and FT.W. and we were talking about ice cream and I said I love ice cream , I chase the Blue Be...

chrissy · chrissy

hi friends, today is my moms birthday which is usally a horrible day for me. my husband was so sweet he took me to the cemetery . i miss her so much she will be gone 3 yrs in november. as you know my husband & i seperated this week. it is really hard i miss him, the nights are the hardest. any...

ragingchild · ragingchild

I went through my journal today to see how much had changed over the course of the last few months. Well, not much has. I found a poem I had wrote on 7/14 of this year. I see you in the water, splashing and going down, do I help or leave you be, maybe I won't make it to you, maybe y...

marmare · marmare

Okay, first I know I am responsible for me. When I asked my A to leave Saturday, he did, more quietly that I expected. As he started to pack I decided I had to leave, it just was painful. I know I did the right thing for my emotional state. As of yesterday morning his family didn't...

ki · ki

Hi, I don't know where to start, so I guess I'll just jump in somewhere... My husband isn't an alcoholic, but I am the adult child of two. We have been married for about a year and a half, and I have been coming to meetings for two years, which has helped me a lot. But, sometimes I still honestly feel...

sandie123 · sandie123

Life is complex and my HP is not making it any easier. I don't know if my HP is just testing me or trying to see where I draw the line. As some of you know I have recently taken in my 3rd foster child. A great 2 year old girl. This makes my house my A, and our 15 year old boy and 17 year old girl The kids are great!...

Bumble · Bumble

I don't know what to do. My Mum is going away for the weekend leaving my Dad who is an alcholic to cope on his own. Now when my Mum goes away my Dad goes to town and there is usually someone to check on him but this time there isn't. I don't drive so there is no way of me checking on him. He is a danger to himself and I...

marmare · marmare

Funny, I worked in the office all day alone, until about 30 minutes ago.....the Intensive Groups come in tonight....my mind has been so busy with the "what if" game, I have done good to busy myself and say the phrase, let go let God. I don't want to interrupt what the HP has planned for my A. I...

raincaster · raincaster

I need some help here, as I am in way over my head. The woman I have been dating for months has finally admitted that she has a problem with alcohol. She is now a week sober and going to the meetings... the whole drill. This does explain some of the behaviors I had been seeing in her previously. Patterns for w...

debilyn · debilyn

I have been feeling good as far as serenity. My lungs are better, I guess I have asthma. Besides my horse Chief getting into my feeding barn everytime I turn around things are good. Gradually my A came back into my life. He has been actually caring about me. It can be unsettling. I am not used to...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Our greatest happiness in life does not depend on the condition of life which chance has placed us, but is always the result of good conscious, good health, occupation, and freedom in all just pursuits. --Thomas Jefferson

tullemars · tullemars

I am going to let go with love. I wish someone could have let me know 2 years ago that this should have happened then. Can't live in the past. Future is scary. I feel bad for her. It still hurts me to know what she must be feeling right now. I AM SUPPOSE TO BE HAPPY....................... ...

nycbt · nycbt

I have come to the conculison that I am not ready to take major steps right now with out hurting my self mental. When my husband takes my car and I do get very angry. However if I call the police they will tell me that he has a license and then they wouldn't sovle anything. My husband would be angry and then lif...

marmare · marmare

Well, I guess I too have had my fill. After he came stumbling in past 3 this morning, we had some words. Not a lot as I soon remembered I was getting sucked in. This morning I got ready to do some errands and asked him what his plans were the weekend, he said why? I said we need to tal...

nycbt · nycbt

I have a problem setting up boundaries. My husband knows that an takes full advantage of it. Like he takes my car and I get angry and then that is it nothing happens after it. So I guess he knows that nothing will happen that is why he keeps doing it. But you know what it is very hard to argue with someone about...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - October 3 Have you ever had the opportunity to watchpreschoolers put together a puzzle? If a piece doesn'tfit immediately, they often push and shove to make itfit, making lots of sound effects along the way.This is how I lived most of my life. I never felt like I"fit" in my alcoholic f...

nycbt · nycbt

Fear controls me. I have a fear of my husband going out and getting drunk and or a dwi. I have a fear when he comes home we will fight. I have a fear of him leaving. I call him all the time in hope that he wouldn't get into any trouble. I know there is nothing I can do but the fear is still there. I have a fear when he w...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

this is taken from "NA" which has some REAL good daily messages......to me addiction is addiction....whether its 80 proof or drugs or relationships or fear/hate/resentment/control....whatever.....so i rea...

tullemars · tullemars

We have court tomorrow. She will most likely be removed. I am doing it for myself and my kids. I need to have a life. I will love and be loved. I will be happy My kids will not sufferr alcoholism in the house anymore. I know we are on our way to alot of therapy. It is hard and pain...

nycbt · nycbt

I have now realize I haven't reach my bottom, that is why I am putting up with this crap. I guess I think he will see the light and get help. I don't know why I put my self through all this stuff. Why I get so upset and physcial and mental drain when he takes my car. I feel my self losing it. I don't know what comes o...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

during the meeting today my a smoked some weed. when meeting was over (alanon online meeting) my a had a panic attack , he thought he was having a heart attack so i called 911. it is odd because he is only 22 but he did cocaine on friday so i thought it might be a possibility. anyways right before this occured...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

the post that had the worksheet for step two was extremly helpful i thought i was passed that step but when i saw the worksheet it made me realise i wasn't. so i must go back. so please if anyone else has worksheets for other sheets please share. thank you

fitone · fitone

Letting go: the thing is you can't make a person be what they don't want to be you can't make them do what they don't want to do, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make them drink. Acceptence: accepting a person as they are, accepting their belifes, values, likes and dislikes. Live and let live....

Tammy · Tammy

As many of you know I left my husband of 19 year two weeks ago. My children and I moved about 45 min. from our home. My husband and I have talked several times and Friday night we had dinner and a movie.. I got to see the man I love again. Saturday morning he ask me to bring the kids and come home. He has only bee...

Ratchie · Ratchie

Hi Friends, Funny how one day you feel real strong, able to encourage others, and the next you question yourself? My husband is out of state hunting, should be back Tues or Wed. When he gets back he is moving into a house in town. I will admit that it's been nice and quiet around here, but...

marmare · marmare

The day has brought questions of my own choices. A counselor that worked at the treatment agency just emailed me and reinforced that I am right where I am supposed to be, that choices are made when they are supposed to be made if I didn't force things to happen but if they felt natural at the time. ...

princess433 · princess433

Everytime I see you my heart skips a beat. I have this fealing that just takes over me. I dont know if its good or bad, I guess that its just me. Everytime I hear your voice I think of all the memories. I think of all the pain youve caused me and all the hurt ive felt. It really hurts to feal this pain because it...

kitty · kitty

When you work the steps & you read step 6, right there after four & all "moral inventory" seems like it is some kind of a negative thing. Having been on a road of truth and to fearlessly learn, realize & actualize how to love mys...

hadit · hadit

I don't post here usually, mostly because I'm new to all of this and am not sure where my head is at most of the time. Plus I guess I am keeping to myself most days now, although I'm not so sure it's good for my mind. Anyway, I (as usual) am confused about my expectations and thoughts. My husband and I have been...

WakingUp · WakingUp

I came into Al-Anon with an understanding that I could not change the alcoholics in my life. I felt anxious all the time and agreed that my life had become unmanageable. I've learned some things in Al-Anon already. Probably I will repeat these steps many times in the years to come....

Drucilla · Drucilla

I had a telephone confrontation with my A sister today.Our mother is 90 and between myself and my 2 A sisters we have to take her to doctors,get her groceries,etc.It is stressfull to begin with but then dealing with my sisters complicates matters.Today she started yelling at me and accusing me of not d...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hi everyone i've been in program for about three weeks and would like a sponsor to help me out and ensure successs with the program. i've asked a few but they don't feel like they're qualified. so please respond if you might be able to help. thx

Kim · Kim

Hello roomies: Last night I had a great time with my A, he took me into NYC for dinner and then we went to a comedy show. We had a good time and talked a bit about things....now I feel so scared that I'm reverting back to old behaviors and not detaching because I've gotten close to him again. It has been easy...

ragingchild · ragingchild

I believe I am onto step 2, but not sure being so new at this and all. I know that I have no control over the alcohol my mom drank and the sex abuse at the hands of my step grandpa wasn't my fault either, that took me a while but I know that now. I also realize that my emotions and my way of thin...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Coping with Families There are many paths to self-care with families. Some people choose to sever connections with family members for a period of time. Some people choose to stay connected with family members and learn different behaviors. Some disconnect for a time, and then return slowly on...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Denial I've been recovering many years. I've used denial many times. It has been a defense, a survival device, a coping behavior, and, at times, almost my undoing. It has been both a friend and an enemy.When I was a child, I used denial to protect my family and myself. I protected myself from seeing...

kerry5 · kerry5

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Old Faithful · Old Faithful

As I mentioned yesterday afternoon I knew it was possible that yesterday I may have been put in hospital for a couple of days to get my electrolytes in order and my hubs had given me his "word" as a man, so to speak that he would be home for the kids, sober. ( as opposed to promises from him which mean nothing!...

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	i cannot force life (Preview) Anxiety is that range of distress, which attends willing what cannot be willed. *--Leslie H. Farber* There are hundreds of ways in which men try to will things that cannot be willed. We will to sleep; we will to have others like us; we will to have sexual virility. In all these things, the force of our wil...	rosie light shines	1	340	Oct 5, 2005 by cdb
	that thing called faith (Preview) The reason why birds can fly and we can't is simply that they have perfect faith, for to have faith is to have wings. *--James M. Barrie* As children, we are taught to act and think with confidence. If we have faith that something wonderful can happen, it will bring us joy. Confidence gives us the will to s...	rosie light shines	1	455	Oct 5, 2005 by cdb
	RE: Oh that lovely gossip (Preview) Roomies, Well this is a response to my previous post "Oh that lovely gossip". This morning when I got to work my boss was there and neither one of the three I needed to talk to was there. So I went to him, I honestly was afraid that I would chicken out. I told him what happened and what my plan was, he agree...	Dolphin123	3	664	Oct 5, 2005 by cdb
	BIG test and i did NOT self abuse (Preview) Hey you all I got a GREAT story Today I got REALLY tested on how much I love me/ accept me/ forgive me* listen to THIS!!!! This am, I go to sam’s club to buy dog food/ beer/ berries for my smoothies, and I see this totally *awesome dvd on “into the west”...**	rosie light shines	3	477	Oct 5, 2005 by cdb
	haxigonian XXXIII (Preview) [[ room ]] Having been thoroughly and formally reprimanded for asking for financial assistance through the board, I humbly apologize to the entire community of the board for having asked for financial help in this manner at all and will not do so again. I am still pursuing...	haximon	5	699	Oct 4, 2005 by John
	Humbling words (Preview) Thank you for all you have given me... All you have taken away... All you are withholding...... And all you have in store for me. Please help in my recovery today so I can be present and available to help someone else. I know just because I'm powerless... Doesn't mean there isn't a powe...	Peggy7	3	470	Oct 4, 2005 by notsonew1111
	Oh that lovely gossip (Preview) Hello All, I am a little angry right now, and for once it is not directed at my "A", LOL! Joke- Anyway, We had a two week orientation start at work today, and something really lovely, not, came out today. Let me give ya all a little background.--- I work for a non-profit agency that helps people wh...	Dolphin123	5	563	Oct 4, 2005 by nmike
	Business Meeting Agenda - October 5,2005 (Preview) GENERAL BUSINESS GROUP CONSCIENCE MEETINGSenoraBob ;	bob6502	0	367	Oct 4, 2005 by bob6502
	2 Week Break (Preview) Hi all, I will be gone for a time, probably back after the 20th. I will miss you all and be back ASAP. Much Love,	Dolphin123	0	398	Oct 4, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Hello (Preview) Hi again everyone... I am hurting so much. I feel like my heart has been torn into pieces. My mom is back together with her ex. I truley hat her ex. He has put her in the hospital before and is a really bad drunk/druggie. I dont know why she is with him. The last few times that I have talked to her she has bee...	princess433	3	430	Oct 4, 2005 by marmare
	DRIVEN BY ANXIETY AND INTENSE EMOTIONS (Preview) I'm an ACOA who really struggles with anxiety (and other intense emotions). The anxiety has often been a kind of a low-level, consistent companion that occassionally flares up. I've worked a lot on my anxiety (therapy, exercise, better self-care) and that has helped TREMENDOUSLY; the anxiety att...	BlueCloud	2	600	Oct 4, 2005 by lin0606
	had no clue (Preview) My mom has been in and out of the hospital with mystery problems for years. Her doctors have thrown up there hands and declared they just don't know. When she is in the hospitals she has psychotic episodes she gets violent and hallucinates. The last couple of visits the topic of alcohol came up an...	raggedy coyote	7	543	Oct 4, 2005 by ragingchild
	can't sleep (Preview) hello all: having a bit of trouble keeping the focus on me...I am up...it is 12:20 am and of course I am not thinking of my busy day tomorrow at work, I am speculating about what my A is up to. Yesterday was a bad day....Sundays for some reason are very depressing. I am alone in the house...I spent the nigh...	Kim	3	415	Oct 4, 2005 by Flora123
	Quote for Today (Preview) Every man's work, whether it be literature or music or pictures or architecture or anything else, is always a portrait of himself. --Samuel Butler, British writer (1835-1902)	wallsal55	0	338	Oct 4, 2005 by wallsal55
	I know where he is.... (Preview) Well, my husband is safe, showed up at his parents on Sunday in the afternoon. That makes me feel better. My mother in-law asked him how long he planned on staying and he said if he couldn't work things out with me, then probably a month. His parents have talked about it and hav...	marmare	4	490	Oct 4, 2005 by canadianguy
	what a night (Preview) Last night was yet another crappy evening, I must say. hubs came home drunk full of such anger once again. The kids and I were so hoping that he would fall asleep early but no cigar. I did however, tell the kids that I didn't think Dad could last too, too long before going to bed. And hubs did get to sleep - pas...	Old Faithful	0	408	Oct 4, 2005 by Old Faithful
	Why Does He even Bother (Preview) Hello everyone. For any who read my posting from the other day in reference to a letter I had written my A you will know what I am talking about. Well...yea....I gave him the letter last Friday morning and he called last night. Did he call to discuss anything with me about whats going...	hadit	2	569	Oct 4, 2005 by cdb
	I am home! :) :) :) (Preview) Hello friends! I arrived home last night after being gone a month! My mom and dad seem to be doing the best they can with their health problems. Thanks again for all your prayers. Prayers are what helped me to keep going with all my health problems too. I slept today until 4pm! I a...	cdb	7	473	Oct 4, 2005 by cdb
	I feel wonderful (Preview) I think I will be offered the job I interviewed for on Friday. The District Manager called me ysterday and asked me to come in today for the second part of the interview. She has already called all of my references and wants me to take a management aptitude test....	Powerless	1	371	Oct 4, 2005 by KathyS
	inner peace test--good workbook (Preview) Signs of Inner Peace A tendency to think an act deliberately, rather than from fears based on past experiences. An unmistakable ability to enjoy each moment A loss of interest in judging others A loss interest of judgin...	rosie light shines	1	415	Oct 4, 2005 by Peggy7
	I am Thankful (Preview) I got this e-mail and wanted to share it with everyone. I hope it helps those who are down to think of some of the smaller things and sheds some extra light on those who are up! I am Thankful FOR THE WIFE WHO SAYS IT'S HOT DOGS TONIGHT, BECAUS...	sandie123	1	343	Oct 4, 2005 by Powerless
	Am I Doing The Right Thing? (Preview) My husband is an alcoholic. Our marriage is a second marriage;we will be married three years this November. My husband has stopped going to church with me and has been drinking while I am away at church activites. He has also stopped doing anything around the house and seems to be d...	Meowzmusic	5	665	Oct 4, 2005 by Meowzmusic
	Apology for any hurt I caused (Preview) Hi fellow alanons, I was in the chatroom the other day when we all started joking around. I was bantering with everyone, and laughing and being silly. One person asked where I lived and I replied TX and FT.W. and we were talking about ice cream and I said I love ice cream , I chase the Blue Be...	jonibaloni21	2	528	Oct 4, 2005 by dadrrb1
	i had a great day just wanted to share (Preview) hi friends, today is my moms birthday which is usally a horrible day for me. my husband was so sweet he took me to the cemetery . i miss her so much she will be gone 3 yrs in november. as you know my husband & i seperated this week. it is really hard i miss him, the nights are the hardest. any...	chrissy	6	422	Oct 3, 2005 by chrissy
	Poem from my Journal (Preview) I went through my journal today to see how much had changed over the course of the last few months. Well, not much has. I found a poem I had wrote on 7/14 of this year. I see you in the water, splashing and going down, do I help or leave you be, maybe I won't make it to you, maybe y...	ragingchild	3	443	Oct 3, 2005 by sandie123
	Brain is Too Busy (Preview) Okay, first I know I am responsible for me. When I asked my A to leave Saturday, he did, more quietly that I expected. As he started to pack I decided I had to leave, it just was painful. I know I did the right thing for my emotional state. As of yesterday morning his family didn't...	marmare	6	490	Oct 3, 2005 by Jeannie
	don't know how to get back on track (Preview) Hi, I don't know where to start, so I guess I'll just jump in somewhere... My husband isn't an alcoholic, but I am the adult child of two. We have been married for about a year and a half, and I have been coming to meetings for two years, which has helped me a lot. But, sometimes I still honestly feel...	ki	3	433	Oct 3, 2005 by Jeannie
	Where does the future stand? (Preview) Life is complex and my HP is not making it any easier. I don't know if my HP is just testing me or trying to see where I draw the line. As some of you know I have recently taken in my 3rd foster child. A great 2 year old girl. This makes my house my A, and our 15 year old boy and 17 year old girl The kids are great!...	sandie123	4	466	Oct 3, 2005 by rosie light shines
	What do I do? (Preview) I don't know what to do. My Mum is going away for the weekend leaving my Dad who is an alcholic to cope on his own. Now when my Mum goes away my Dad goes to town and there is usually someone to check on him but this time there isn't. I don't drive so there is no way of me checking on him. He is a danger to himself and I...	Bumble	7	580	Oct 3, 2005 by lin0606
	changes (Preview) Funny, I worked in the office all day alone, until about 30 minutes ago.....the Intensive Groups come in tonight....my mind has been so busy with the "what if" game, I have done good to busy myself and say the phrase, let go let God. I don't want to interrupt what the HP has planned for my A. I...	marmare	2	389	Oct 3, 2005 by Kim
	Help- I've fallen for an A (Preview) I need some help here, as I am in way over my head. The woman I have been dating for months has finally admitted that she has a problem with alcohol. She is now a week sober and going to the meetings... the whole drill. This does explain some of the behaviors I had been seeing in her previously. Patterns for w...	raincaster	19	734	Oct 3, 2005 by raincaster
	Life at Potter's Eden (Preview) I have been feeling good as far as serenity. My lungs are better, I guess I have asthma. Besides my horse Chief getting into my feeding barn everytime I turn around things are good. Gradually my A came back into my life. He has been actually caring about me. It can be unsettling. I am not used to...	debilyn	3	530	Oct 3, 2005 by TLC2
	Quote for Today (Preview) Our greatest happiness in life does not depend on the condition of life which chance has placed us, but is always the result of good conscious, good health, occupation, and freedom in all just pursuits. --Thomas Jefferson	wallsal55	1	357	Oct 3, 2005 by nycbt
	Part II Full steam Ahead (Preview) I am going to let go with love. I wish someone could have let me know 2 years ago that this should have happened then. Can't live in the past. Future is scary. I feel bad for her. It still hurts me to know what she must be feeling right now. I AM SUPPOSE TO BE HAPPY....................... ...	tullemars	4	447	Oct 3, 2005 by tullemars
	NOT READY (Preview) I have come to the conculison that I am not ready to take major steps right now with out hurting my self mental. When my husband takes my car and I do get very angry. However if I call the police they will tell me that he has a license and then they wouldn't sovle anything. My husband would be angry and then lif...	nycbt	2	423	Oct 3, 2005 by Jeannie
	Now what? (Preview) Well, I guess I too have had my fill. After he came stumbling in past 3 this morning, we had some words. Not a lot as I soon remembered I was getting sucked in. This morning I got ready to do some errands and asked him what his plans were the weekend, he said why? I said we need to tal...	marmare	5	437	Oct 3, 2005 by nycbt
	Boundaries (Preview) I have a problem setting up boundaries. My husband knows that an takes full advantage of it. Like he takes my car and I get angry and then that is it nothing happens after it. So I guess he knows that nothing will happen that is why he keeps doing it. But you know what it is very hard to argue with someone about...	nycbt	1	378	Oct 3, 2005 by marmare
	trying to *stuff me where i do not fit (Preview) Hope for Today - October 3 Have you ever had the opportunity to watchpreschoolers put together a puzzle? If a piece doesn'tfit immediately, they often push and shove to make itfit, making lots of sound effects along the way.This is how I lived most of my life. I never felt like I"fit" in my alcoholic f...	rosie light shines	1	424	Oct 3, 2005 by nmike
	FEAR (Preview) Fear controls me. I have a fear of my husband going out and getting drunk and or a dwi. I have a fear when he comes home we will fight. I have a fear of him leaving. I call him all the time in hope that he wouldn't get into any trouble. I know there is nothing I can do but the fear is still there. I have a fear when he w...	nycbt	1	406	Oct 3, 2005 by bcanuck
	a good NA message on faith (Preview) this is taken from "NA" which has some REAL good daily messages......to me addiction is addiction....whether its 80 proof or drugs or relationships or fear/hate/resentment/control....whatever.....so i rea...	rosie light shines	0	515	Oct 3, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Full steam ahead (Preview) We have court tomorrow. She will most likely be removed. I am doing it for myself and my kids. I need to have a life. I will love and be loved. I will be happy My kids will not sufferr alcoholism in the house anymore. I know we are on our way to alot of therapy. It is hard and pain...	tullemars	0	388	Oct 3, 2005 by tullemars
	NO BOTTOM (Preview) I have now realize I haven't reach my bottom, that is why I am putting up with this crap. I guess I think he will see the light and get help. I don't know why I put my self through all this stuff. Why I get so upset and physcial and mental drain when he takes my car. I feel my self losing it. I don't know what comes o...	nycbt	4	435	Oct 3, 2005 by nycbt
	a sign from god? (Preview) during the meeting today my a smoked some weed. when meeting was over (alanon online meeting) my a had a panic attack , he thought he was having a heart attack so i called 911. it is odd because he is only 22 but he did cocaine on friday so i thought it might be a possibility. anyways right before this occured...	notsonew1111	3	407	Oct 3, 2005 by UncleLou
	want step worksheets (Preview) the post that had the worksheet for step two was extremly helpful i thought i was passed that step but when i saw the worksheet it made me realise i wasn't. so i must go back. so please if anyone else has worksheets for other sheets please share. thank you	notsonew1111	4	8372	Oct 3, 2005 by sandie123
	Boundries (Preview) Letting go: the thing is you can't make a person be what they don't want to be you can't make them do what they don't want to do, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make them drink. Acceptence: accepting a person as they are, accepting their belifes, values, likes and dislikes. Live and let live....	fitone	0	400	Oct 3, 2005 by fitone
	Listening to my HP (Preview) As many of you know I left my husband of 19 year two weeks ago. My children and I moved about 45 min. from our home. My husband and I have talked several times and Friday night we had dinner and a movie.. I got to see the man I love again. Saturday morning he ask me to bring the kids and come home. He has only bee...	Tammy	7	549	Oct 2, 2005 by debilyn
	2nd Guessing Myself (Preview) Hi Friends, Funny how one day you feel real strong, able to encourage others, and the next you question yourself? My husband is out of state hunting, should be back Tues or Wed. When he gets back he is moving into a house in town. I will admit that it's been nice and quiet around here, but...	Ratchie	2	445	Oct 2, 2005 by lin0606
	Well.... (Preview) The day has brought questions of my own choices. A counselor that worked at the treatment agency just emailed me and reinforced that I am right where I am supposed to be, that choices are made when they are supposed to be made if I didn't force things to happen but if they felt natural at the time. ...	marmare	3	435	Oct 2, 2005 by debilyn
	Please read this poem!! (Preview) Everytime I see you my heart skips a beat. I have this fealing that just takes over me. I dont know if its good or bad, I guess that its just me. Everytime I hear your voice I think of all the memories. I think of all the pain youve caused me and all the hurt ive felt. It really hurts to feal this pain because it...	princess433	5	436	Oct 2, 2005 by sandie123
	4th Step (Preview) When you work the steps & you read step 6, right there after four & all "moral inventory" seems like it is some kind of a negative thing. Having been on a road of truth and to fearlessly learn, realize & actualize how to love mys...	kitty	2	462	Oct 2, 2005 by cedarpines
	It still hurts..letter to my A (Preview) I don't post here usually, mostly because I'm new to all of this and am not sure where my head is at most of the time. Plus I guess I am keeping to myself most days now, although I'm not so sure it's good for my mind. Anyway, I (as usual) am confused about my expectations and thoughts. My husband and I have been...	hadit	7	577	Oct 2, 2005 by Jeannie
	Step 2 (Preview) I came into Al-Anon with an understanding that I could not change the alcoholics in my life. I felt anxious all the time and agreed that my life had become unmanageable. I've learned some things in Al-Anon already. Probably I will repeat these steps many times in the years to come....	WakingUp	7	504	Oct 2, 2005 by WakingUp
	guilt (Preview) I had a telephone confrontation with my A sister today.Our mother is 90 and between myself and my 2 A sisters we have to take her to doctors,get her groceries,etc.It is stressfull to begin with but then dealing with my sisters complicates matters.Today she started yelling at me and accusing me of not d...	Drucilla	1	405	Oct 2, 2005 by ragingchild
	looking for hopeful sponsor (Preview) hi everyone i've been in program for about three weeks and would like a sponsor to help me out and ensure successs with the program. i've asked a few but they don't feel like they're qualified. so please respond if you might be able to help. thx	notsonew1111	1	452	Oct 2, 2005 by abbyal
	scared (Preview) Hello roomies: Last night I had a great time with my A, he took me into NYC for dinner and then we went to a comedy show. We had a good time and talked a bit about things....now I feel so scared that I'm reverting back to old behaviors and not detaching because I've gotten close to him again. It has been easy...	Kim	4	449	Oct 2, 2005 by abbyal
	The Steps (Preview) I believe I am onto step 2, but not sure being so new at this and all. I know that I have no control over the alcohol my mom drank and the sex abuse at the hands of my step grandpa wasn't my fault either, that took me a while but I know that now. I also realize that my emotions and my way of thin...	ragingchild	3	380	Oct 2, 2005 by KathyS
	COPING with families (Preview) Coping with Families There are many paths to self-care with families. Some people choose to sever connections with family members for a period of time. Some people choose to stay connected with family members and learn different behaviors. Some disconnect for a time, and then return slowly on...	rosie light shines	0	402	Oct 2, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Xtra long share on DENIAL (Preview) Denial I've been recovering many years. I've used denial many times. It has been a defense, a survival device, a coping behavior, and, at times, almost my undoing. It has been both a friend and an enemy.When I was a child, I used denial to protect my family and myself. I protected myself from seeing...	rosie light shines	0	644	Oct 2, 2005 by rosie light shines
	This is Cute (Preview) >	kerry5	2	387	Oct 2, 2005 by lmt123
	My A has sunk even lower (Preview) As I mentioned yesterday afternoon I knew it was possible that yesterday I may have been put in hospital for a couple of days to get my electrolytes in order and my hubs had given me his "word" as a man, so to speak that he would be home for the kids, sober. ( as opposed to promises from him which mean nothing!...	Old Faithful	3	423	Oct 2, 2005 by bcanuck
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