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rosie light shines · rosie light shines

There is a divine plan of good at work in my life. I will let go and let it unfold. --Ruth P. Freedman We are never certain of the full importance or the eventual impact of any single event in our lives. But of one thing we can be sure: Each experience offers something valuable to our overall developm...

bd · bd

I was relieved to find this group. I have been suffering in silence for as long as I can remember. The main A in my life was my dad. I was with someone for 13 years but left the marriage for same reasons. I wish I could have a relationship with my dad but it is painful as he is activly...

cindy1359 · cindy1359

I am new to this group. I feel I need help from anyone out there willing to give me advice. I came home today, after working 12 hours, to my husband that was very drunk and angry. I stayed away from him and I was very quiet. He proceeded to yell at me and swear. I asked him please don’t swea...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Depending On Our Higher Power "As recovering addicts, acoas, or codas, we find that we are still dependent, but our dependence has shifted from the things around us to a loving God and the innerstrength we get in our relationship with Him."Basic Text pp.67-68 For many addicts, rebelliousness i...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

Dear ALL, The other suggestion on this board that has been incredibly helpful to me was the posting about coming up with five solutions to a problem instead of just one solution. This has helped me S-L-O-W D-O-W-N my decision making process and look at alternatives befo...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

Dear All, Over the past few weeks that I've been reading this message board, I've often read "take care of YOU" and "what are you doing to take care of you?" and "focus on you," but I couldn't quite grasp this concept at first. My first attempts at taking care of myself in relationship with others were m...

Meowzmusic · Meowzmusic

Thank you for your responses and support with my previous post. I am checking on meetings today. I do have one more question. After my husband disappeared for two days drinking, he wanted to come home. He told me he was not happy here and doesn't k...

Lani · Lani

okay....i downloaded mirc and tried to add #alanonachat as it states on the MIP Alanon meeting room. Nothing happens. I know I am blonde...but, this is ridiculous. How does one understand "mirc"...??? LOL

marmare · marmare

I need words of strength today, it has not been a good day. Although I have not heard from my A....my heart is aching and I am an emotional mess. Took the boys to the dentist this morning, one filling turned into a root canal, I know he needed it done but all I could think about was where the hell...

ednaxray · ednaxray

hi john..my mirc is set up by the book..and i have the latest java.. when i try to get in with mirc i get a message that which is like this. Connecting to 216.152.64.151 (7000) - * Unable to connect to server (Connection timed out) - * Connect retry #1 irc.webchat.org (6668) - * Unable to connec...

Angie · Angie

Newbie here, been an alonon member for just a little over a year now. We have a small struggling group, as we are in a remote community in northern Canada. My husband is the active drinker in my life. I was born and raised in the chaos and with the effects of alcohol. Today, I am tired. Its so hard and lonel...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Good afternoon everyone! With recent happenings in our group, I had thought of choosing a couple different Traditions to review tonight. But then I took a look at the Tradition we were scheduled to have tonight, and I just had to giggle to myself and think, oh yes HP does know what he/she i...

denver_co · denver_co

Hi everyone I miss my chat room! I haven't been able to log on for 2 days - can't connect to irc.webmaster.com port 6667 - even the java chat here on this site isn't working for me. Anyone else having a similar problem? Thanks! denver_co -- Edited by denver_co at 11:26, 2005-10-06

captcodee · captcodee

I hate posting when I feeling crappy, cause I hate to bring everyone down... could that be a defect? I am always encouraged when other people post their tough times, cause it shows me that I am not alone.... Alone... I am feeling SO alone in this new big city. I have been here for 4 months...

nmike · nmike

Hi everyone, I thought I would post to get some input into my situation with my recovering A. He moved out in June - took a job in another state. Said he didn't want to see me or talk to me for a year. Our last son left for college. We have had some contact for things that involve our boys. At times he says he do...

pixel04 · pixel04

Hi everyone, I've been really kind of struggling in my program for a little while. I began working with a new sponsor in April, and it has been hard for me to open up to her. My schedule has also been turned around quite a bit, so it isn't always possible for me to go to the same meetings I used to. I've bee...

jj · jj

A really good read for any of you interested is the book "From Survival to Recovery" Anyway I went through chapter 8 Living healthier lives. In this chapter was some interesting stuff that makes me think of all of the difficulties I have faced in my recovery. In about half of the cha...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Forgiveness is another word for letting go. --Matthew Fox Learning forgiveness - both granting it to others and accepting it for ourselves - is one of the primary means of a man's spiritual recovery. Many of us, after entering this program, are plagued with strong feelings of guilt. We have fina...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Amends Without Expectations "Projections about actually making amends can be a major obstacle both in making the list and in becoming willing." Basic Text p.38……The Eighth Step asks us to become willing to make amends to all persons we have harmed. As we approach this step, we may wonder what th...

Lani · Lani

Just wondering if our Al-Anon chatroom is down to Java. Does anyone know? Love, Lani

debilyn · debilyn

I am sure you will be checking in here. I hope so! I agree with cdb, we all take a break once in awhile. You know, I know things about you that many others probably don't. You have always been open and shared but there are many new people. I often wonder who it is that protects you from being hurt...

tullemars · tullemars

My A was removed from the home. It was a very hard day but it is done. Now the kids and I can start to recover. I am still aprehensive but I know it was the right move. NO ONE SHOULD LIVE WITH AN ACTIVE ALCOHOLIC. IT IS INSANE I am getting stronger. Hope everyone here does also. Sereni...

chrissy · chrissy

first off i told you if you were going to be an assho_ _ and fall for his lies again i wanted nothing to do with you or him anymore. the only reason i called you that night is because YOUR DAUGHTER needed you,,,,,but i think you are FUC--- UP for choosing him over your daughter and pushing her away for ANYONE....

Kim · Kim

Today was Ok. Went to therapy again.....seems that the days that I don't want to go, I force myself and feel better for it afterward. Therapy is for me...I have to keep telling myself that. My A had said that he wanted to get together for dinner tonight which didn't pan out b/c he was working and then outpa...

hudsond · hudsond

It has been a couple of weeks since I posted. We had the wonderful hurricane Rita come through and everything was done for a week. I am finding it harder and harder to keep everything in perspective! I am so lonely and lost right now--completely overwhelmed! I am new to posting...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, As I have already said in many other posts, my husband is living with his parents, who have always enabled him to the point of treating him with a child. He has been fired form the job he loves. He was fired for drinking, and somehow or another he managed to get his supervisor to put that he was fired fo...

jeeves · jeeves

My A wife was let go last Friday from her job of 15 years. After devoting herself to a full week of drinking and crying, which is probably understandable, now she is fully committed to drinking a bottle before noon then going through rounds of drinking then sleeping, drinking and sleepin...

haximon · haximon

[[[[ room ]]]] It is no longer safe for me to remain in this room, nor do I wish to. I have been asked by ownership and members to leave immediately, permanently, forthwith and all as of midnight eastern tonight. At least they had the decency to let me say goodbye... **From John (aka OP_Pr...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Hello roomies, I'm starting to come back from the dead. The strep is pretty much gone, and the eye is not so pink. Thanks for all your concerns. How nice.

I was making some doctor's appointments this morning when it got me thinking. This is breast cancer awareness month. So for all...

jj · jj

I appologise for not posting much lately. I don't know why but I really don't have much to say. The last time I really posted about my recovery I was in the state of limbo I guess not really feeling anything good or bad about myself and towards my A. At that point I figured it was just fin...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - October 5 I did not choose an alcoholic mother and a workaholic father, who were unable to express love. I did not decide to have an older brother who beat me and a younger brother whose love and attention I craved. I did choose to give my younger brother things I wanted myself in order to wi...

luv123 · luv123

Some thoughts from earlier meeting on changing what we can and letting go of the rest: I am focusing on what is mine to change today and had to do some looking at the stuff i have tried unsuccessfully to change as well i have to come here to maintain my acceptance of those things i cannot chang...

sandy · sandy

Hi Everyone, The two post "Detachment isn't easy" and "Letting go and hope" sure hits home to me also. My husband has drank for years, I to would do and say things (I still do at times) thinking it would make him stop or see what he was doing to himself and his family. Now it's my daughter. ...

luv123 · luv123

this morning s topics were about forgiveness and letting go sharing some thoughts on the meeting: i feel like i need to let go of what i cannot change to my hp 2day i wish i could change my older son's addiction it makes me very sad to c him on that path that is...

gardengal · gardengal

As for the alcoholic, I could not separate from him, leave him, or even leave him alone, Wasnt it my right , my duty my obligation to stay by him, direct him, and guide him (otherwise known as trying to control to him?). Certainly "society not only condoned such efforts, I was sure "they " expected them of...

haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] these tears i cry/of joy and pain/do fill my eye/with clear, salt rain some want me out/of this room soon/i just hope not/twould be no boon i wanted only to be loved/now find myself just pushed and shoved i can't NOT cry/that would be worse/to cry alone is NOT a curse i don't know...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Anxiety is that range of distress, which attends willing what cannot be willed. --Leslie H. Farber There are hundreds of ways in which men try to will things that cannot be willed. We will to sleep; we will to have others like us; we will to have sexual virility. In all these things, the force of our wil...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

The reason why birds can fly and we can't is simply that they have perfect faith, for to have faith is to have wings. --James M. Barrie As children, we are taught to act and think with confidence. If we have faith that something wonderful can happen, it will bring us joy. Confidence gives us the will to s...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Roomies, Well this is a response to my previous post "Oh that lovely gossip". This morning when I got to work my boss was there and neither one of the three I needed to talk to was there. So I went to him, I honestly was afraid that I would chicken out. I told him what happened and what my plan was, he agree...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hey you all I got a GREAT story Today I got REALLY tested on how much I **love me/ accept me/ forgive me* listen to THIS!!!! This am, I go to sam’s club to buy dog food/ beer/ berries for my smoothies, and I see this totally **awesome* dvd on “into the west”...

haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] Having been thoroughly and formally reprimanded for asking for financial assistance through the board, I humbly apologize to the entire community of the board for having asked for financial help in this manner at all and will not do so again. I am still pursuing...

Peggy7 · Peggy7

Thank you for all you have given me... All you have taken away... All you are withholding...... And all you have in store for me. Please help in my recovery today so I can be present and available to help someone else. I know just because I'm powerless... Doesn't mean there isn't a powe...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello All, I am a little angry right now, and for once it is not directed at my "A", LOL! Joke- Anyway, We had a two week orientation start at work today, and something really lovely, not, came out today. Let me give ya all a little background.--- I work for a non-profit agency that helps people wh...

bob6502 · bob6502

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Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, I will be gone for a time, probably back after the 20th. I will miss you all and be back ASAP. Much Love,

princess433 · princess433

Hi again everyone... I am hurting so much. I feel like my heart has been torn into pieces. My mom is back together with her ex. I truley hat her ex. He has put her in the hospital before and is a really bad drunk/druggie. I dont know why she is with him. The last few times that I have talked to her she has bee...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

I'm an ACOA who really struggles with anxiety (and other intense emotions). The anxiety has often been a kind of a low-level, consistent companion that occassionally flares up. I've worked a lot on my anxiety (therapy, exercise, better self-care) and that has helped TREMENDOUSLY; the anxiety att...

raggedy coyote · raggedy coyote

My mom has been in and out of the hospital with mystery problems for years. Her doctors have thrown up there hands and declared they just don't know. When she is in the hospitals she has psychotic episodes she gets violent and hallucinates. The last couple of visits the topic of alcohol came up an...

Kim · Kim

hello all: having a bit of trouble keeping the focus on me...I am up...it is 12:20 am and of course I am not thinking of my busy day tomorrow at work, I am speculating about what my A is up to. Yesterday was a bad day....Sundays for some reason are very depressing. I am alone in the house...I spent the nigh...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Every man's work, whether it be literature or music or pictures or architecture or anything else, is always a portrait of himself. --Samuel Butler, British writer (1835-1902)

marmare · marmare

Well, my husband is safe, showed up at his parents on Sunday in the afternoon. That makes me feel better. My mother in-law asked him how long he planned on staying and he said if he couldn't work things out with me, then probably a month. His parents have talked about it and hav...

Old Faithful · Old Faithful

Last night was yet another crappy evening, I must say. hubs came home drunk full of such anger once again. The kids and I were so hoping that he would fall asleep early but no cigar. I did however, tell the kids that I didn't think Dad could last too, too long before going to bed. And hubs did get to sleep - pas...

hadit · hadit

Hello everyone. For any who read my posting from the other day in reference to a letter I had written my A you will know what I am talking about. Well...yea....I gave him the letter last Friday morning and he called last night. Did he call to discuss anything with me about whats going...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends! I arrived home last night after being gone a month! My mom and dad seem to be doing the best they can with their health problems. Thanks again for all your prayers. Prayers are what helped me to keep going with all my health problems too. I slept today until 4pm! I a...

Powerless · Powerless

I think I will be offered the job I interviewed for on Friday. The District Manager called me ysterday and asked me to come in today for the second part of the interview. She has already called all of my references and wants me to take a management aptitude test....

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Signs of Inner Peace A tendency to think an act deliberately, rather than from fears based on past experiences. An unmistakable ability to enjoy each moment A loss of interest in judging others A loss interest of judgin...

sandie123 · sandie123

I got this e-mail and wanted to share it with everyone. I hope it helps those who are down to think of some of the smaller things and sheds some extra light on those who are up! I am Thankful FOR THE WIFE WHO SAYS IT'S HOT DOGS TONIGHT, BECAUS...

Meowzmusic · Meowzmusic

My husband is an alcoholic. Our marriage is a second marriage;we will be married three years this November. My husband has stopped going to church with me and has been drinking while I am away at church activites. He has also stopped doing anything around the house and seems to be d...

jonibaloni21 · jonibaloni21

Hi fellow alanons, I was in the chatroom the other day when we all started joking around. I was bantering with everyone, and laughing and being silly. One person asked where I lived and I replied TX and FT.W. and we were talking about ice cream and I said I love ice cream , I chase the Blue Be...

chrissy · chrissy

hi friends, today is my moms birthday which is usally a horrible day for me. my husband was so sweet he took me to the cemetery . i miss her so much she will be gone 3 yrs in november. as you know my husband & i seperated this week. it is really hard i miss him, the nights are the hardest. any...

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	i am a dandelion (Preview) *There is a divine plan of good at work in my life. I will let go and let it unfold. --Ruth P. Freedman* We are never certain of the full importance or the eventual impact of any single event in our lives. But of one thing we can be sure: Each experience offers something valuable to our overall developm...	rosie light shines	2	638	Oct 7, 2005 by kitty
	Hi I'm New (Preview) I was relieved to find this group. I have been suffering in silence for as long as I can remember. The main A in my life was my dad. I was with someone for 13 years but left the marriage for same reasons. I wish I could have a relationship with my dad but it is painful as he is activly...	bd	11	636	Oct 7, 2005 by notsonew
	I Need advice (Preview) I am new to this group. I feel I need help from anyone out there willing to give me advice. I came home today, after working 12 hours, to my husband that was very drunk and angry. I stayed away from him and I was very quiet. He proceeded to yell at me and swear. I asked him please don’t swea...	cindy1359	8	541	Oct 7, 2005 by bd
	STEP 3--depending on my HP (Preview) Depending On Our Higher Power "As recovering addicts, acoas, or codas, we find that we are still dependent, but our dependence has shifted from the things around us to a loving God and the innerstrength we get in our relationship with Him."Basic Text pp.67-68 For many addicts, rebelliousness i...	rosie light shines	1	561	Oct 7, 2005 by cdb
	HOPEFUL II (Preview) Dear ALL, The other suggestion on this board that has been incredibly helpful to me was the posting about coming up with five solutions to a problem instead of just one solution. This has helped me S-L-O-W D-O-W-N my decision making process and look at alternatives befo...	BlueCloud	2	495	Oct 7, 2005 by captcodee
	HOPEFUL (Preview) Dear All, Over the past few weeks that I've been reading this message board, I've often read "take care of YOU" and "what are you doing to take care of you?" and "focus on you," but I couldn't quite grasp this concept at first. My first attempts at taking care of myself in relationship with others were m...	BlueCloud	2	487	Oct 7, 2005 by Jeannie
	One More Question (Preview) Thank you for your responses and support with my previous post. I am checking on meetings today. I do have one more question. After my husband disappeared for two days drinking, he wanted to come home. He told me he was not happy here and doesn't k...	Meowzmusic	8	704	Oct 7, 2005 by Ratchie
	mirc help wanted (Preview) okay....i downloaded mirc and tried to add #alanonachat as it states on the MIP Alanon meeting room. Nothing happens. I know I am blonde...but, this is ridiculous. How does one understand "mirc"...??? LOL	Lani	10	674	Oct 7, 2005 by Lani
	Not Good (Preview) I need words of strength today, it has not been a good day. Although I have not heard from my A....my heart is aching and I am an emotional mess. Took the boys to the dentist this morning, one filling turned into a root canal, I know he needed it done but all I could think about was where the hell...	marmare	6	560	Oct 6, 2005 by leo
	john..?? (Preview) hi john..my mirc is set up by the book..and i have the latest java.. when i try to get in with mirc i get a message that which is like this. Connecting to 216.152.64.151 (7000) - * Unable to connect to server (Connection timed out) - * Connect retry #1 irc.webchat.org (6668) - * Unable to connec...	ednaxray	2	530	Oct 6, 2005 by John
	I'm so tired.... (Preview) Newbie here, been an alonon member for just a little over a year now. We have a small struggling group, as we are in a remote community in northern Canada. My husband is the active drinker in my life. I was born and raised in the chaos and with the effects of alcohol. Today, I am tired. Its so hard and lonel...	Angie	8	680	Oct 6, 2005 by bd
	HP's work? Tradition Seven meeting tonight (Preview) Good afternoon everyone! With recent happenings in our group, I had thought of choosing a couple different Traditions to review tonight. But then I took a look at the Tradition we were scheduled to have tonight, and I just had to giggle to myself and think, oh yes HP does know what he/she i...	kismetstrand	3	1005	Oct 6, 2005 by ednaxray
	chat rooms down? (Preview) Hi everyone I miss my chat room! I haven't been able to log on for 2 days - can't connect to irc.webmaster.com port 6667 - even the java chat here on this site isn't working for me. Anyone else having a similar problem? Thanks! denver_co -- Edited by denver_co at 11:26, 2005-10-06	denver_co	5	512	Oct 6, 2005 by megan
	I am SO LOST!! (Preview) I hate posting when I feeling crappy, cause I hate to bring everyone down... could that be a defect? I am always encouraged when other people post their tough times, cause it shows me that I am not alone.... Alone... I am feeling SO alone in this new big city. I have been here for 4 months...	captcodee	8	519	Oct 6, 2005 by pixel04
	My next move? (Preview) Hi everyone, I thought I would post to get some input into my situation with my recovering A. He moved out in June - took a job in another state. Said he didn't want to see me or talk to me for a year. Our last son left for college. We have had some contact for things that involve our boys. At times he says he do...	nmike	3	599	Oct 6, 2005 by Jill
	perspective (Preview) Hi everyone, I've been really kind of struggling in my program for a little while. I began working with a new sponsor in April, and it has been hard for me to open up to her. My schedule has also been turned around quite a bit, so it isn't always possible for me to go to the same meetings I used to. I've bee...	pixel04	3	522	Oct 6, 2005 by kismetstrand
	From Survival to Recovery (Preview) A really good read for any of you interested is the book "From Survival to Recovery" Anyway I went through chapter 8 Living healthier lives. In this chapter was some interesting stuff that makes me think of all of the difficulties I have faced in my recovery. In about half of the cha...	jj	3	429	Oct 6, 2005 by pixel04
	forgiveness is just a word for *letting go (Preview) Forgiveness is another word for letting go. *--Matthew Fox* Learning forgiveness - both granting it to others and accepting it for ourselves - is one of the primary means of a man's spiritual recovery. Many of us, after entering this program, are plagued with strong feelings of guilt. We have fina...	rosie light shines	1	611	Oct 6, 2005 by kitty
	amends WITHOUT expectations (Preview) Amends Without Expectations "Projections about actually making amends can be a major obstacle both in making the list and in becoming willing." Basic Text p.38……The Eighth Step asks us to become willing to make amends to all persons we have harmed. As we approach this step, we may wonder what th...	rosie light shines	0	387	Oct 6, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Question to anyone? (Preview) Just wondering if our Al-Anon chatroom is down to Java. Does anyone know? Love, Lani	Lani	4	448	Oct 6, 2005 by Lani
	Hi haxi (Preview) I am sure you will be checking in here. I hope so! I agree with cdb, we all take a break once in awhile. You know, I know things about you that many others probably don't. You have always been open and shared but there are many new people. I often wonder who it is that protects you from being hurt...	debilyn	0	505	Oct 6, 2005 by debilyn
	Full Steam ahead part III (Preview) My A was removed from the home. It was a very hard day but it is done. Now the kids and I can start to recover. I am still aprehensive but I know it was the right move. NO ONE SHOULD LIVE WITH AN ACTIVE ALCOHOLIC. IT IS INSANE I am getting stronger. Hope everyone here does also. Sereni...	tullemars	1	438	Oct 6, 2005 by nmike
	this is an email from someone who i thought was my best friend (Preview) first off i told you if you were going to be an assho_ _ and fall for his lies again i wanted nothing to do with you or him anymore. the only reason i called you that night is because YOUR DAUGHTER needed you,,,,,but i think you are FUC--- UP for choosing him over your daughter and pushing her away for ANYONE....	chrissy	7	625	Oct 6, 2005 by Emmie11
	trying to keep the focus (Preview) Today was Ok. Went to therapy again.....seems that the days that I don't want to go, I force myself and feel better for it afterward. Therapy is for me...I have to keep telling myself that. My A had said that he wanted to get together for dinner tonight which didn't pan out b/c he was working and then outpa...	Kim	2	430	Oct 6, 2005 by Faith73
	I just want everything to be normal (Preview) It has been a couple of weeks since I posted. We had the wonderful hurricane Rita come through and everything was done for a week. I am finding it harder and harder to keep everything in perspective! I am so lonely and lost right now--completely overwhelmed! I am new to posting...	hudsond	6	516	Oct 6, 2005 by WakingUp
	Tied myself to a chair (Preview) Hi, As I have already said in many other posts, my husband is living with his parents, who have always enabled him to the point of treating him with a child. He has been fired form the job he loves. He was fired for drinking, and somehow or another he managed to get his supervisor to put that he was fired fo...	Jeannie	7	519	Oct 6, 2005 by WakingUp
	Please Help. (Preview) My A wife was let go last Friday from her job of 15 years. After devoting herself to a full week of drinking and crying, which is probably understandable, now she is fully committed to drinking a bottle before noon then going through rounds of drinking then sleeping, drinking and sleepin...	jeeves	8	551	Oct 6, 2005 by jeeves
	Haxi's Farewell Post (closed) (Preview) *[[[[ room ]]]]* *It is no longer safe for me to remain in this room, nor do I wish to.* I have been asked by ownership and members to leave immediately, permanently, forthwith and all as of midnight eastern tonight. At least they had the decency to let me say goodbye... **From John (aka OP_Pr...	haximon	9	1085	Oct 5, 2005 by Anew123
	A healthy reminder (Preview) Hello roomies, I'm starting to come back from the dead. The strep is pretty much gone, and the eye is not so pink. Thanks for all your concerns. How nice. I was making some doctor's appointments this morning when it got me thinking. This is breast cancer awareness month. So for all...	Karilynn	2	474	Oct 5, 2005 by Kim
	Not posting much lately (Preview) I appologise for not posting much lately. I don't know why but I really don't have much to say. The last time I really posted about my recovery I was in the state of limbo I guess not really feeling anything good or bad about myself and towards my A. At that point I figured it was just fin...	jj	3	629	Oct 5, 2005 by cdb
	what a diference 20 months can make!!! (Preview) Hope for Today - October 5 I did not choose an alcoholic mother and a workaholic father, who were unable to express love. I did not decide to have an older brother who beat me and a younger brother whose love and attention I craved. I did choose to give my younger brother things I wanted myself in order to wi...	rosie light shines	0	386	Oct 5, 2005 by rosie light shines
	changing only what i can & feeling (Preview) Some thoughts from earlier meeting on changing what we can and letting go of the rest: I am focusing on what is mine to change today and had to do some looking at the stuff i have tried unsuccessfully to change as well i have to come here to maintain my acceptance of those things i cannot chang...	luv123	2	886	Oct 5, 2005 by captcodee
	Am I doing the right thing? (Preview) Hi Everyone, The two post "Detachment isn't easy" and "Letting go and hope" sure hits home to me also. My husband has drank for years, I to would do and say things (I still do at times) thinking it would make him stop or see what he was doing to himself and his family. Now it's my daughter. ...	sandy	2	448	Oct 5, 2005 by nmike
	letting go and hope (Preview) this morning s topics were about forgiveness and letting go sharing some thoughts on the meeting: i feel like i need to let go of what i cannot change to my hp 2day i wish i could change my older son's addiction it makes me very sad to c him on that path that is...	luv123	2	535	Oct 5, 2005 by luv123
	DETACHMENT ISNT EASY.... (Preview) As for the alcoholic, I could not separate from him, leave him, or even leave him alone, Wasnt it my right , my duty my obligation to stay by him, direct him, and guide him (otherwise known as trying to control to him?). Certainly "society not only condoned such efforts, I was sure "they " expected them of...	gardengal	6	1221	Oct 5, 2005 by sg
	tears rant (Preview) [[ room ]] these tears i cry/of joy and pain/do fill my eye/with clear, salt rain some want me out/of this room soon/i just hope not/twould be no boon i wanted only to be loved/now find myself just pushed and shoved i can't NOT cry/that would be worse/to cry alone is NOT a curse i don't know...	haximon	6	669	Oct 5, 2005 by david62
	i cannot force life (Preview) Anxiety is that range of distress, which attends willing what cannot be willed. *--Leslie H. Farber* There are hundreds of ways in which men try to will things that cannot be willed. We will to sleep; we will to have others like us; we will to have sexual virility. In all these things, the force of our wil...	rosie light shines	1	396	Oct 5, 2005 by cdb
	that thing called faith (Preview) The reason why birds can fly and we can't is simply that they have perfect faith, for to have faith is to have wings. *--James M. Barrie* As children, we are taught to act and think with confidence. If we have faith that something wonderful can happen, it will bring us joy. Confidence gives us the will to s...	rosie light shines	1	507	Oct 5, 2005 by cdb
	RE: Oh that lovely gossip (Preview) Roomies, Well this is a response to my previous post "Oh that lovely gossip". This morning when I got to work my boss was there and neither one of the three I needed to talk to was there. So I went to him, I honestly was afraid that I would chicken out. I told him what happened and what my plan was, he agree...	Dolphin123	3	732	Oct 5, 2005 by cdb
	BIG test and i did NOT self abuse (Preview) Hey you all I got a GREAT story Today I got REALLY tested on how much I love me/ accept me/ forgive me* listen to THIS!!!! This am, I go to sam’s club to buy dog food/ beer/ berries for my smoothies, and I see this totally *awesome dvd on “into the west”...**	rosie light shines	3	539	Oct 5, 2005 by cdb
	haxigonian XXXIII (Preview) [[ room ]] Having been thoroughly and formally reprimanded for asking for financial assistance through the board, I humbly apologize to the entire community of the board for having asked for financial help in this manner at all and will not do so again. I am still pursuing...	haximon	5	768	Oct 4, 2005 by John
	Humbling words (Preview) Thank you for all you have given me... All you have taken away... All you are withholding...... And all you have in store for me. Please help in my recovery today so I can be present and available to help someone else. I know just because I'm powerless... Doesn't mean there isn't a powe...	Peggy7	3	531	Oct 4, 2005 by notsonew1111
	Oh that lovely gossip (Preview) Hello All, I am a little angry right now, and for once it is not directed at my "A", LOL! Joke- Anyway, We had a two week orientation start at work today, and something really lovely, not, came out today. Let me give ya all a little background.--- I work for a non-profit agency that helps people wh...	Dolphin123	5	613	Oct 4, 2005 by nmike
	Business Meeting Agenda - October 5,2005 (Preview) GENERAL BUSINESS GROUP CONSCIENCE MEETINGSenoraBob ;	bob6502	0	425	Oct 4, 2005 by bob6502
	2 Week Break (Preview) Hi all, I will be gone for a time, probably back after the 20th. I will miss you all and be back ASAP. Much Love,	Dolphin123	0	437	Oct 4, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Hello (Preview) Hi again everyone... I am hurting so much. I feel like my heart has been torn into pieces. My mom is back together with her ex. I truley hat her ex. He has put her in the hospital before and is a really bad drunk/druggie. I dont know why she is with him. The last few times that I have talked to her she has bee...	princess433	3	480	Oct 4, 2005 by marmare
	DRIVEN BY ANXIETY AND INTENSE EMOTIONS (Preview) I'm an ACOA who really struggles with anxiety (and other intense emotions). The anxiety has often been a kind of a low-level, consistent companion that occassionally flares up. I've worked a lot on my anxiety (therapy, exercise, better self-care) and that has helped TREMENDOUSLY; the anxiety att...	BlueCloud	2	682	Oct 4, 2005 by lin0606
	had no clue (Preview) My mom has been in and out of the hospital with mystery problems for years. Her doctors have thrown up there hands and declared they just don't know. When she is in the hospitals she has psychotic episodes she gets violent and hallucinates. The last couple of visits the topic of alcohol came up an...	raggedy coyote	7	594	Oct 4, 2005 by ragingchild
	can't sleep (Preview) hello all: having a bit of trouble keeping the focus on me...I am up...it is 12:20 am and of course I am not thinking of my busy day tomorrow at work, I am speculating about what my A is up to. Yesterday was a bad day....Sundays for some reason are very depressing. I am alone in the house...I spent the nigh...	Kim	3	467	Oct 4, 2005 by Flora123
	Quote for Today (Preview) Every man's work, whether it be literature or music or pictures or architecture or anything else, is always a portrait of himself. --Samuel Butler, British writer (1835-1902)	wallsal55	0	382	Oct 4, 2005 by wallsal55
	I know where he is.... (Preview) Well, my husband is safe, showed up at his parents on Sunday in the afternoon. That makes me feel better. My mother in-law asked him how long he planned on staying and he said if he couldn't work things out with me, then probably a month. His parents have talked about it and hav...	marmare	4	530	Oct 4, 2005 by canadianguy
	what a night (Preview) Last night was yet another crappy evening, I must say. hubs came home drunk full of such anger once again. The kids and I were so hoping that he would fall asleep early but no cigar. I did however, tell the kids that I didn't think Dad could last too, too long before going to bed. And hubs did get to sleep - pas...	Old Faithful	0	485	Oct 4, 2005 by Old Faithful
	Why Does He even Bother (Preview) Hello everyone. For any who read my posting from the other day in reference to a letter I had written my A you will know what I am talking about. Well...yea....I gave him the letter last Friday morning and he called last night. Did he call to discuss anything with me about whats going...	hadit	2	626	Oct 4, 2005 by cdb
	I am home! :) :) :) (Preview) Hello friends! I arrived home last night after being gone a month! My mom and dad seem to be doing the best they can with their health problems. Thanks again for all your prayers. Prayers are what helped me to keep going with all my health problems too. I slept today until 4pm! I a...	cdb	7	557	Oct 4, 2005 by cdb
	I feel wonderful (Preview) I think I will be offered the job I interviewed for on Friday. The District Manager called me ysterday and asked me to come in today for the second part of the interview. She has already called all of my references and wants me to take a management aptitude test....	Powerless	1	426	Oct 4, 2005 by KathyS
	inner peace test--good workbook (Preview) Signs of Inner Peace A tendency to think an act deliberately, rather than from fears based on past experiences. An unmistakable ability to enjoy each moment A loss of interest in judging others A loss interest of judgin...	rosie light shines	1	498	Oct 4, 2005 by Peggy7
	I am Thankful (Preview) I got this e-mail and wanted to share it with everyone. I hope it helps those who are down to think of some of the smaller things and sheds some extra light on those who are up! I am Thankful FOR THE WIFE WHO SAYS IT'S HOT DOGS TONIGHT, BECAUS...	sandie123	1	398	Oct 4, 2005 by Powerless
	Am I Doing The Right Thing? (Preview) My husband is an alcoholic. Our marriage is a second marriage;we will be married three years this November. My husband has stopped going to church with me and has been drinking while I am away at church activites. He has also stopped doing anything around the house and seems to be d...	Meowzmusic	5	714	Oct 4, 2005 by Meowzmusic
	Apology for any hurt I caused (Preview) Hi fellow alanons, I was in the chatroom the other day when we all started joking around. I was bantering with everyone, and laughing and being silly. One person asked where I lived and I replied TX and FT.W. and we were talking about ice cream and I said I love ice cream , I chase the Blue Be...	jonibaloni21	2	575	Oct 4, 2005 by dadrrb1
	i had a great day just wanted to share (Preview) hi friends, today is my moms birthday which is usally a horrible day for me. my husband was so sweet he took me to the cemetery . i miss her so much she will be gone 3 yrs in november. as you know my husband & i seperated this week. it is really hard i miss him, the nights are the hardest. any...	chrissy	6	476	Oct 3, 2005 by chrissy
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