Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

marmare · marmare

It's been three days since my A returned home. I thought when he came home he would come back with a chip on his shoulder, he didn't. He returned home very humble. He shared how he missed me, even though he said he didn't, he said he was hurt and wanted to hurt me back. (this is the...

Cathy · Cathy

Hello, I hope I'm in the right place. My b/f is an alcoholic and I'm trying to deal with it. I'd love to talk with others who are going through the same thing. Thank You. Cathy

warramra · warramra

Hi. I have been reading through and trying to decide if I should post or not. Normally not very good on these boards. I am a sober A in recovery (11 yrs) married to an A who is in the middle of a relapse after 12 yrs. He started drinking sometime this summer with me clueing in sometime in early Sept. I have...

hadit · hadit

Hi everyone, Thank you all for your input in my last two posts. As always they were very helpful and insightful. More importantly, they made me think about decisions I have to make in my own life to benefit me. Wow, I just realized what I said in that last statement...I put me first! I thin...

nycbt · nycbt

If you are willing to sponsor someone please put you name down. Maybe we can hook people up so they will have good matches and helps everyone. There is alot of people including me that are looking for online sponsors. -- Edited by nycbt at 13:49, 2005-10-18

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - October 20 In my first Al-Anon meeting, I listened intently to other people share. One woman spoke of feeling as if she were in a dark and lonely place, like the bottom of a well. The tools of the program helped her see the light at the top of the well, but it was still going to be a t...

mastiff · mastiff

hi all, had a bit of a hard night last night with my a. I got a bit jelous and fearful when he decided he was going to take a day off work right before we go on vaction in Nov. The reason he wanted to take a day off is to do a favor for a sponsee of his.... the reason i got jelous and fearful is bec...

WakingUp · WakingUp

Went to Al-Anon last night feeling pretty good. No new crises in our home this week etc. After listening for awhile, though, I didn't feel as happy. There was one reading in particular that they real regularly at this meeting from one of the pieces of literature (I think it was in my...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Not Just Another Customer Service Call Customer: Okay, I'm done. LOVE has started installing itself automatically. Is that normal? Service Rep: Yes it is. You should receive a message that says it will reinstall for the life of your HEART. Do you see that message? Customer: Yes I do. Is it completely...

debilyn · debilyn

She has been by his side thru it all. Until she saw the man she loved turn into a 70 pound man. He died this morning. please say a prayer for our sheila in England and her A. send her love, love yous,debilyn

kerry5 · kerry5

There is a alateen speaker coming to speak for the teens on Sunday at 8pm est in the Family TEEn chatroom. You are all welcome to come and give him your support and listen to a teen thats been in recovery for a long time.. I can't wait... I hope you will come give your support Thanks ke...

jj · jj

Tonight I lost my temper with my A husband. I was fumming mad when he got home but rather than saying any thing or yelling like I would have before alanon I just left. I did hang up on him earlier and when I did actually loose my temper let him know that his deception did anger me... It cou...

kitty · kitty

I'm disappointed. My step-father says he's going to meetings but who knows?!! The junk he comes out with is so awful! He says he doesn't think he even has a problem & resents my mother for telling him if he wants to live with her, he has to go to mtgs & abstain from alcohol. ...

sg · sg

I posted my update on the original thread, but I think it got lost! Just wanted to share w/those that were following my weekend plans. Here it is.... Well we went out last night..went to dinner. Nice lil' place that serves good cajun food in town. I was excited to spend some "alone" time w/my A.,...

captcodee · captcodee

You guys are so great! Thanks to all of you who just let me be me! I am so thankful that you all supported the part of me who actually NEEDED to sit on the pity pot. The stupid voice inside my head that tells me that I am not allowed to take an emotional break did not like to hear all the suppo...

chrissy · chrissy

hi guys: i don't know what to feel anymore i guess i feel numb

. i miss my husband very much we spent a couple of hours on sunday together it was so nice. my husband told me he misses me so much. he loves to spend time with me but it hurts to leave

. we talk on the phone a couple a times a day but...

Magpie · Magpie

Hi everyone, These last three days have been particularly tough. My A has been drinking a lot and has been particularly nasty. In the past it has always been directed at me, although often in the presence of my kids or directly involving my kids ("don't listen to mom, she's mean"...

nmike · nmike

I sympathize with you all that are trying to leave your A or get them to leave you alone. My A who moved out in June has done the opposite. A counselor called it an amputation. He doesn't want very much interaction with me at all. He says that we will always have some sort of relationship because of our three...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

One of the conclusions I have come to in my old age is the importance of living in the ever-present now. In the past, too often I indulged in the belief that somehow or other tomorrow would be brighter or happier or richer. --Ruth Casey How easily our minds jump from the present to the foibles of the pa...

bd · bd

Hey Friends I have been living with someone for about a year. We have been together for about a year and a half. Things haven't been that great for the last month. He is not an A but he is emotionally retarded as far as I'm concerned. Well anyway....we have spoke little over t...

UncleLou · UncleLou

I'm hoping my ex wife has finally hit bottom. For the past month she has been depressed to the point of almost not functioning, especially on Sunday nights and Monday mornings. God put another couple in our lives, our daughter's friend's parents. Although alcoholism wasn't involved with them, they...

bd · bd

Hi I've been trying over week, but there is no way for me to get to a meeting. I have no to watch my daughter at night and work during the day. I can't go on my lunch because there's just not enough time. Feeling a little discouraged about all. It feels like there is some force ag...

SashaBear · SashaBear

I haven't posted here before but have hung out in the chat room from time to time. I really blew it with my AH this last week. He had gotten into more trouble at the end of August and spent 10 days in jail. I had planned on not letting him come back home this time. We talked, I put forth some conditions, he a...

Kim · Kim

Hello Roomies: I got my copy of the Dilemma of the Alcoholic Marriage today. I was so excited that I read it through dinner and didn't even turn on the TV. I definitely related to alot of it. I have a few questions to throw out to you though. 1) as my husband has had the tendency to frequent establishmen...

captcodee · captcodee

Here is an update on true progress. My hubby still is not sober, but MY changed attitude was shown clearly today. We had to punish our children for quite a severe lie today, and we actually sat at the table and talked it out, finding the best solution we could think of. He is not in a program. M...

kerry5 · kerry5

I read these when my mom died somehow they came by email at the right time. The letter from heaven one was read at my moms service, the priest read it for her it was the poem read at the pope's service , thought it might be a little comforting to you, was to me I know that even a little relief his suffering has en...

Diane43 · Diane43

Hello everyone, I am new here and have been affected by alcoholism. It is a very sad thing, yet I know I am powerless over his disease. I met this man a year ago, and I grew to care about him. He drank a few times when I was with him, but never did I expect him to be an alcoholic. As t...

sandie123 · sandie123

I had a tough day yesterday. Someone told me something I did not want to hear. I felt like they were belittling my actions. This sent me into a negative downwards spiral. I began self doubting myself once more. It really hurt my mind-set and my progress. I had been told 3 times that morning that I was w...

bd · bd

Hi Friends Just wanted to let you all know that as each day goes by and the more and more posts I read, I can feel myself getting stronger. For the first time in my life I don't feel alone and still can;t get over the honesty and openess of this group. Everyone's post hits close to home and has...

Lani · Lani

Friends, "It doesn't interest me what you do for a living. ...I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing." -- Oriah Mountain Dreamer In love and spirit, Lani Children of Alcoholics: http://lanipicard.com/coa.htm

gardengal · gardengal

"Keep coming back" is a phrase we often hear in alanon. Why is it so important? Because many of us have grown so hardened in our fights with alcoholics or flights from alcoholics that we literally found it difficult to sit still for the process of recovery. We had to have answers right away or take action...

pixel04 · pixel04

I have learned in this program how to open my mouth and express myself and to ask for help. I didn't do those kinds of things when I was growing up. Last week at a meeting I mentioned a problem I was having and what my approach to it was. After the meeting, others shared with me what had worked for them. It ne...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I'm having a bad day, my mind id going in a million directions. I have so many questions that I am tired of rationalizing. How is my husband in denial. He knows what his drinking has done, he knows it is destroying his health. He knows it has cost him several jobs, he knows it is costing him his family, a...

nycbt · nycbt

Yesterday was a good day. I went to the park and walked around the track. And then I went to my sisters house and spent time with her and her family. It was a very good day. My active alcholic father has sign into a rehab.

nikkilou · nikkilou

I just found this and love it. I think all of us here will like it to. Please look at this webpage http://www.inspiringthots.net/movie/to-letgo.php enjoy my friends NIKKILOU

-- Edited by nikkilou at 12:15, 2005-10-17

hadit · hadit

Good Morning Everyone Well, after I wrote my post here last night, I decided to give it one more try. I gave him another call. As usual, I got the voicemail and left a message telling him that obviously he really didn't want me to keep in touch, so I won't bother him anymore, I love you..Goodnight. About...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Throwing Out the Rule Book Many of us feel like we need a rulebook, a microscope, and a warranty to get through life. We feel uncertain, frightened. We want the security of knowing what's going to happen, and how we shall act.We don't trust life or ourselves.We don't trust the Plan.We want to be in c...

marmare · marmare

You guys are the best! I was almost afraid to post, my friends and family have been supportive with me, and you all have been there. I was afraid of the negative, but you all have come through once again giving me examples of living with an active A. My expectations are realistic.&nb...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

When people bother you in any way, it is because their souls are trying to get your divine attention and your blessing. --Catherine Ponder We are in constant communication with one another and with God in the spiritual realm. No matter how singular our particular course may appear, our path is...

hudsond · hudsond

Last week was a good week. After his last high (Friday a week ago), I tried to stay very calm. I cried, he cried. But I told him how I felt and what I wanted from our relationship. I told him I am not calling it quits, but there will come a time if things continue the way they are that I will have to l...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - October 18 The guidance embodied in the Serenity Prayer was a foreign concept when I walked into my first Al-Anon meeting. I soon realized it must be important because every meeting I attended since has used it as part of the opening. Applying it to my recovery seem...

tullemars · tullemars

I am good Today. Thank You all for your kind words. This has been the toughest road I have ever traveled. But, I am at the top of the mountain. I am going to enjoy the ride down. I know now why it is so tough to let the A go with love. That is the only way you can truly help your A. If you love you...

tullemars · tullemars

Two weeks ago my A was forced to leave the home. I am OK now. I have had some negative pople trying to manipulate my kids. They are gone now. My A wants to come home. I said not yet. I am getting stronger and I am not going to tolerate any negative behavior. Thank You all for being here. I am ve...

captcodee · captcodee

Many people have PM'd me to tell me how serene I sound. Well, I just want you to know that I have my moments too. Today I called in sick to work. For no reason, just because I didn't want to go to work. 10 minutes after I phoned in, I got a call from the lady that is renting my old property. The big kitche...

hadit · hadit

Hello everyone, it's me again. Do you all know that I feel like such a pain when I write with my problems, havent figured that out yet, hopefully soon though. Well, here it is, the begining of another week and I am still miserable without me A. I would really appreciate some input from any or even...

princess433 · princess433

look at this tear as it falls from my face... can you see all the pain, all the discrace... have you ever wondered what you have done to me.... you have taken so much yet gave back nothing... i can never forgive you for all that you've done..... the wounds will never heal, the scars will never fa...

pixel04 · pixel04

I looked up the word "humble" today, because I've become aware over the past few days it is something I feel I have been lacking a bit in. This is what I found: 1 : not proud or haughty : not arrogant or assertive 2 : reflecting, expressing, or offered in a spirit of deference or submission Somet...

sunny1 · sunny1

Hi all again, okay so i guess i need to look for my sponsor on my own, but i would like afew words of wisdom. I know that finding one is not as easy as some might say or lead you to believe. pls anyone......just talk to me.....lol no really, im just want to move out side of the chatroom abit and share one o...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Surrender "We didn't stumble into this fellowship brimming with love, honesty, open-mindedness, or willingness....When we were beaten, we became willing.""Basic Text, p. 20Surrender may be the necessary foundation for recovery, but sometimes we fight it. Most of us look back after some c...

WakingUp · WakingUp

Hi Everyone, and thank you in advance. I'm a newbie, been in Al Anon about 2 months. I know y'all don't give advice, but you can...tell me about your own experience?...talk about Al Anon principles? Anyway, here is my current confusion. The primary alcoholic qua...

marmare · marmare

So after a total of 10 hours of conversations and compromises my A is back home. He says that he will drink occasionally (the controlled drinker) and I know that is something I can not control. However, I had an internal battle that I had to fight. We talked Friday and then again Satu...

captcodee · captcodee

We all come to Alanon because our lives have been affected by the disease of alcoholism. Many of us enter these doors feeling defeated by theis desease. We may have spent our energies trying to get an active alcoholic to stop drinking or otherwize control his or her actions; we may have spent much of our...

Angie · Angie

I think my title says it all. I have been working my program for almost 2 years now - and have grown tremendously. Lately I have been learning about 'boundries' . For so long I have been waffling between what is mine, what is his, and what is a wife's duty. All I know is that this awful sick feeling is not norm...

debilyn · debilyn

Well I guess I have gotten when I want to be. Just thought I would share. My A and i have been thru years of getting our relationship as good as it can be with him having this horrible disease. My part has been Al anon untilit has been a way of life. Also my closeness with hp is most important. ...

browneyes · browneyes

My husband was awake of course this morning when I knocked on the locked bedroom door. He screamed YEAH!!! WHAT THE F??? HOLD ON!!! Not a good start but I didn't reply. I just wanted to get my toothbrush. Anyway, he opened the door and told me that I needed to take him to work bec...

sandie123 · sandie123

sadness n. Expression of sorrow or unhappiness. Who doesn't feel sadness? There is a time where everyone feels sad for one reason or another. Some people feel sad more than others. I have gone through many times of feeling complete sadness ... depression. That is definately a lot ha...

Kim · Kim

Yesterday was a good day. A good Sunday for once! I had vowed after spending last Sunday crouched in my car watching to see whether or not my A was where he said he was that this week would be better. And I kept my word to myself! Did some shopping, made dinner for friends, watched desperate housewiv...

nycbt · nycbt

I am adopted child. I grew up in a house with no other child. My mom had three sons from her first marriage. I have a real brother and sister. My brother lives in Calf and we don't talk much. But my sister lives close to me but I really don't talk to her. I am going to make an effort to talk to her more. She doesn't...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Being Honest with Ourselves Our relationship with ourselves is the most important relationship we need to maintain. The quality of that relationship will determine the quality of our other relationships.When we can tell ourselves how we feel, and accept our feelings, we can tell others.Whe...

toto12 · toto12

Dear All, Beth and I have decided to share our story. I will post my half and Beth will do her part in separate post. Here goes a remarkable story: I happened to be in chatroom when Beth shared about worrying she might become estranged from her grandkids. This was at about 17:00 o...

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	No Crisis (Preview) It's been three days since my A returned home. I thought when he came home he would come back with a chip on his shoulder, he didn't. He returned home very humble. He shared how he missed me, even though he said he didn't, he said he was hurt and wanted to hurt me back. (this is the...	marmare	5	521	Oct 20, 2005 by nycbt
	I'm new here. (Preview) Hello, I hope I'm in the right place. My b/f is an alcoholic and I'm trying to deal with it. I'd love to talk with others who are going through the same thing. Thank You. Cathy	Cathy	21	629	Oct 20, 2005 by nycbt
	New Here (Preview) Hi. I have been reading through and trying to decide if I should post or not. Normally not very good on these boards. I am a sober A in recovery (11 yrs) married to an A who is in the middle of a relapse after 12 yrs. He started drinking sometime this summer with me clueing in sometime in early Sept. I have...	warramra	10	544	Oct 20, 2005 by nycbt
	My Decision List & Thank You's (Preview) Hi everyone, Thank you all for your input in my last two posts. As always they were very helpful and insightful. More importantly, they made me think about decisions I have to make in my own life to benefit me. Wow, I just realized what I said in that last statement...I put me first! I thin...	hadit	5	627	Oct 20, 2005 by kitty
	PEOPLE THAT ARE WILLING TO SPONSOR (Preview) If you are willing to sponsor someone please put you name down. Maybe we can hook people up so they will have good matches and helps everyone. There is alot of people including me that are looking for online sponsors. -- Edited by nycbt at 13:49, 2005-10-18	nycbt	3	451	Oct 20, 2005 by hudsond
	transferring the focus onto me (Preview) Hope for Today - October 20 In my first Al-Anon meeting, I listened intently to other people share. One woman spoke of feeling as if she were in a dark and lonely place, like the bottom of a well. The tools of the program helped her see the light at the top of the well, but it was still going to be a t...	rosie light shines	0	496	Oct 20, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Trying to work my program (Preview) hi all, had a bit of a hard night last night with my a. I got a bit jelous and fearful when he decided he was going to take a day off work right before we go on vaction in Nov. The reason he wanted to take a day off is to do a favor for a sponsee of his.... the reason i got jelous and fearful is bec...	mastiff	7	607	Oct 20, 2005 by WakingUp
	Not Doing As Well As I Thought (Preview) Went to Al-Anon last night feeling pretty good. No new crises in our home this week etc. After listening for awhile, though, I didn't feel as happy. There was one reading in particular that they real regularly at this meeting from one of the pieces of literature (I think it was in my...	WakingUp	5	636	Oct 20, 2005 by WakingUp
	not just an ordinary service call (Preview) Not Just Another Customer Service Call Customer: Okay, I'm done. LOVE has started installing itself automatically. Is that normal? Service Rep: Yes it is. You should receive a message that says it will reinstall for the life of your HEART. Do you see that message? Customer: Yes I do. Is it completely...	rosie light shines	3	482	Oct 20, 2005 by shimo
	An A dies, but not alone (Preview) She has been by his side thru it all. Until she saw the man she loved turn into a 70 pound man. He died this morning. please say a prayer for our sheila in England and her A. send her love, love yous,debilyn	debilyn	18	825	Oct 20, 2005 by jonibaloni21
	Family Teen Support (Preview) There is a alateen speaker coming to speak for the teens on Sunday at 8pm est in the Family TEEn chatroom. You are all welcome to come and give him your support and listen to a teen thats been in recovery for a long time.. I can't wait... I hope you will come give your support Thanks ke...	kerry5	2	456	Oct 19, 2005 by Maria123
	HP Stuff (Preview) Tonight I lost my temper with my A husband. I was fumming mad when he got home but rather than saying any thing or yelling like I would have before alanon I just left. I did hang up on him earlier and when I did actually loose my temper let him know that his deception did anger me... It cou...	jj	2	674	Oct 19, 2005 by TLC2
	our A is still @ Zero (Preview) I'm disappointed. My step-father says he's going to meetings but who knows?!! The junk he comes out with is so awful! He says he doesn't think he even has a problem & resents my mother for telling him if he wants to live with her, he has to go to mtgs & abstain from alcohol. ...	kitty	5	644	Oct 19, 2005 by cidboy
	update on Saturday night (Preview) I posted my update on the original thread, but I think it got lost! Just wanted to share w/those that were following my weekend plans. Here it is.... Well we went out last night..went to dinner. Nice lil' place that serves good cajun food in town. I was excited to spend some "alone" time w/my A.,...	sg	3	630	Oct 19, 2005 by cidboy
	POP Off falls the pity pot.... (Preview) You guys are so great! Thanks to all of you who just let me be me! I am so thankful that you all supported the part of me who actually NEEDED to sit on the pity pot. The stupid voice inside my head that tells me that I am not allowed to take an emotional break did not like to hear all the suppo...	captcodee	4	482	Oct 19, 2005 by Flora123
	i feel numb (Preview) hi guys: i don't know what to feel anymore i guess i feel numb. i miss my husband very much we spent a couple of hours on sunday together it was so nice. my husband told me he misses me so much. he loves to spend time with me but it hurts to leave. we talk on the phone a couple a times a day but...	chrissy	8	739	Oct 19, 2005 by SashaBear
	How did you set/enforce boundaries about abusive behavior (Preview) Hi everyone, These last three days have been particularly tough. My A has been drinking a lot and has been particularly nasty. In the past it has always been directed at me, although often in the presence of my kids or directly involving my kids ("don't listen to mom, she's mean"...	Magpie	7	670	Oct 19, 2005 by SashaBear
	Amputation (Preview) I sympathize with you all that are trying to leave your A or get them to leave you alone. My A who moved out in June has done the opposite. A counselor called it an amputation. He doesn't want very much interaction with me at all. He says that we will always have some sort of relationship because of our three...	nmike	3	573	Oct 19, 2005 by SashaBear
	staying in the NOW (Preview) One of the conclusions I have come to in my old age is the importance of living in the ever-present now. In the past, too often I indulged in the belief that somehow or other tomorrow would be brighter or happier or richer. --Ruth Casey How easily our minds jump from the present to the foibles of the pa...	rosie light shines	1	430	Oct 19, 2005 by pixel04
	Here I go again on my own (Preview) Hey Friends I have been living with someone for about a year. We have been together for about a year and a half. Things haven't been that great for the last month. He is not an A but he is emotionally retarded as far as I'm concerned. Well anyway....we have spoke little over t...	bd	5	631	Oct 19, 2005 by SashaBear
	Cautiously optimistic (will this lead to re-marriage?) (Preview) I'm hoping my ex wife has finally hit bottom. For the past month she has been depressed to the point of almost not functioning, especially on Sunday nights and Monday mornings. God put another couple in our lives, our daughter's friend's parents. Although alcoholism wasn't involved with them, they...	UncleLou	8	852	Oct 19, 2005 by browneyes
	Can't get to a meeting (Preview) Hi I've been trying over week, but there is no way for me to get to a meeting. I have no to watch my daughter at night and work during the day. I can't go on my lunch because there's just not enough time. Feeling a little discouraged about all. It feels like there is some force ag...	bd	6	421	Oct 19, 2005 by hudsond
	I blew it. Venting. (Preview) I haven't posted here before but have hung out in the chat room from time to time. I really blew it with my AH this last week. He had gotten into more trouble at the end of August and spent 10 days in jail. I had planned on not letting him come back home this time. We talked, I put forth some conditions, he a...	SashaBear	9	584	Oct 19, 2005 by SashaBear
	I read the dilemma of the alcoholic marriage: Questions (Preview) Hello Roomies: I got my copy of the Dilemma of the Alcoholic Marriage today. I was so excited that I read it through dinner and didn't even turn on the TV. I definitely related to alot of it. I have a few questions to throw out to you though. 1) as my husband has had the tendency to frequent establishmen...	Kim	3	5052	Oct 19, 2005 by captcodee
	Progress starts with ME (Preview) Here is an update on true progress. My hubby still is not sober, but MY changed attitude was shown clearly today. We had to punish our children for quite a severe lie today, and we actually sat at the table and talked it out, finding the best solution we could think of. He is not in a program. M...	captcodee	3	550	Oct 19, 2005 by gknee
	For Sheila (she123) (Preview) I read these when my mom died somehow they came by email at the right time. The letter from heaven one was read at my moms service, the priest read it for her it was the poem read at the pope's service , thought it might be a little comforting to you, was to me I know that even a little relief his suffering has en...	kerry5	1	596	Oct 19, 2005 by leo
	Looking for support (Preview) Hello everyone, I am new here and have been affected by alcoholism. It is a very sad thing, yet I know I am powerless over his disease. I met this man a year ago, and I grew to care about him. He drank a few times when I was with him, but never did I expect him to be an alcoholic. As t...	Diane43	3	521	Oct 18, 2005 by Jeannie
	Take what you want..... (Preview) I had a tough day yesterday. Someone told me something I did not want to hear. I felt like they were belittling my actions. This sent me into a negative downwards spiral. I began self doubting myself once more. It really hurt my mind-set and my progress. I had been told 3 times that morning that I was w...	sandie123	4	580	Oct 18, 2005 by tea2
	Holding my own (Preview) Hi Friends Just wanted to let you all know that as each day goes by and the more and more posts I read, I can feel myself getting stronger. For the first time in my life I don't feel alone and still can;t get over the honesty and openess of this group. Everyone's post hits close to home and has...	bd	3	466	Oct 18, 2005 by Karilynn
	A Good Quote (Preview) Friends, "It doesn't interest me what you do for a living. ...I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing." -- Oriah Mountain Dreamer In love and spirit, Lani Children of Alcoholics: http://lanipicard.com/coa.htm	Lani	0	394	Oct 18, 2005 by Lani
	KEEP COMING BACK,,,,,,, (Preview) "Keep coming back" is a phrase we often hear in alanon. Why is it so important? Because many of us have grown so hardened in our fights with alcoholics or flights from alcoholics that we literally found it difficult to sit still for the process of recovery. We had to have answers right away or take action...	gardengal	1	672	Oct 18, 2005 by captcodee
	Easy does it...but do it (Preview) I have learned in this program how to open my mouth and express myself and to ask for help. I didn't do those kinds of things when I was growing up. Last week at a meeting I mentioned a problem I was having and what my approach to it was. After the meeting, others shared with me what had worked for them. It ne...	pixel04	1	704	Oct 18, 2005 by captcodee
	Questions (Preview) I'm having a bad day, my mind id going in a million directions. I have so many questions that I am tired of rationalizing. How is my husband in denial. He knows what his drinking has done, he knows it is destroying his health. He knows it has cost him several jobs, he knows it is costing him his family, a...	Jeannie	6	524	Oct 18, 2005 by marmare
	GOOD DAY (Preview) Yesterday was a good day. I went to the park and walked around the track. And then I went to my sisters house and spent time with her and her family. It was a very good day. My active alcholic father has sign into a rehab.	nycbt	5	468	Oct 18, 2005 by marmare
	let go (Preview) I just found this and love it. I think all of us here will like it to. Please look at this webpage http://www.inspiringthots.net/movie/to-letgo.php enjoy my friends NIKKILOU -- Edited by nikkilou at 12:15, 2005-10-17	nikkilou	3	460	Oct 18, 2005 by chrissy
	Update: Advice & Strength (Preview) Good Morning Everyone Well, after I wrote my post here last night, I decided to give it one more try. I gave him another call. As usual, I got the voicemail and left a message telling him that obviously he really didn't want me to keep in touch, so I won't bother him anymore, I love you..Goodnight. About...	hadit	4	794	Oct 18, 2005 by marmare
	i "trashed" the rule book (Preview) Throwing Out the Rule Book Many of us feel like we need a rulebook, a microscope, and a warranty to get through life. We feel uncertain, frightened. We want the security of knowing what's going to happen, and how we shall act.We don't trust life or ourselves.We don't trust the Plan.We want to be in c...	rosie light shines	0	390	Oct 18, 2005 by rosie light shines
	The Best (Preview) You guys are the best! I was almost afraid to post, my friends and family have been supportive with me, and you all have been there. I was afraid of the negative, but you all have come through once again giving me examples of living with an active A. My expectations are realistic.&nb...	marmare	3	476	Oct 18, 2005 by browneyes
	no, i am NOT my brothers keeper (Preview) *When people bother you in any way, it is because their souls are trying to get your divine attention and your blessing. --Catherine Ponder* We are in constant communication with one another and with God in the spiritual realm. No matter how singular our particular course may appear, our path is...	rosie light shines	0	503	Oct 18, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Good Week (Preview) Last week was a good week. After his last high (Friday a week ago), I tried to stay very calm. I cried, he cried. But I told him how I felt and what I wanted from our relationship. I told him I am not calling it quits, but there will come a time if things continue the way they are that I will have to l...	hudsond	4	465	Oct 18, 2005 by hudsond
	serenity prayer....INDUSTRIAL strength (Preview) Hope for Today - October 18 The guidance embodied in the Serenity Prayer was a foreign concept when I walked into my first Al-Anon meeting. I soon realized it must be important because every meeting I attended since has used it as part of the opening. Applying it to my recovery seem...	rosie light shines	0	393	Oct 18, 2005 by rosie light shines
	I am OK part 2 (Preview) I am good Today. Thank You all for your kind words. This has been the toughest road I have ever traveled. But, I am at the top of the mountain. I am going to enjoy the ride down. I know now why it is so tough to let the A go with love. That is the only way you can truly help your A. If you love you...	tullemars	0	436	Oct 18, 2005 by tullemars
	I am OK (Preview) Two weeks ago my A was forced to leave the home. I am OK now. I have had some negative pople trying to manipulate my kids. They are gone now. My A wants to come home. I said not yet. I am getting stronger and I am not going to tolerate any negative behavior. Thank You all for being here. I am ve...	tullemars	6	482	Oct 18, 2005 by Diva
	I am not as serene as you think... (Preview) Many people have PM'd me to tell me how serene I sound. Well, I just want you to know that I have my moments too. Today I called in sick to work. For no reason, just because I didn't want to go to work. 10 minutes after I phoned in, I got a call from the lady that is renting my old property. The big kitche...	captcodee	6	499	Oct 18, 2005 by Diva
	Needed: Advice & Strength (Preview) Hello everyone, it's me again. Do you all know that I feel like such a pain when I write with my problems, havent figured that out yet, hopefully soon though. Well, here it is, the begining of another week and I am still miserable without me A. I would really appreciate some input from any or even...	hadit	8	692	Oct 18, 2005 by Diva
	My poem (Preview) look at this tear as it falls from my face... can you see all the pain, all the discrace... have you ever wondered what you have done to me.... you have taken so much yet gave back nothing... i can never forgive you for all that you've done..... the wounds will never heal, the scars will never fa...	princess433	5	452	Oct 18, 2005 by leo
	humility (Preview) I looked up the word "humble" today, because I've become aware over the past few days it is something I feel I have been lacking a bit in. This is what I found: 1 : not proud or haughty : not arrogant or assertive 2 : reflecting, expressing, or offered in a spirit of deference or submission Somet...	pixel04	2	479	Oct 18, 2005 by david62
	2nd post sponsorship (Preview) Hi all again, okay so i guess i need to look for my sponsor on my own, but i would like afew words of wisdom. I know that finding one is not as easy as some might say or lead you to believe. pls anyone......just talk to me.....lol no really, im just want to move out side of the chatroom abit and share one o...	sunny1	6	476	Oct 17, 2005 by sunny1
	i QUIT fighting it (Preview) Surrender "We didn't stumble into this fellowship brimming with love, honesty, open-mindedness, or willingness....When we were beaten, we became willing.""Basic Text, p. 20Surrender may be the necessary foundation for recovery, but sometimes we fight it. Most of us look back after some c...	rosie light shines	1	437	Oct 17, 2005 by kitty
	First Post--Having Trouble Untangling (long) (Preview) Hi Everyone, and thank you in advance. I'm a newbie, been in Al Anon about 2 months. I know y'all don't give advice, but you can...tell me about your own experience?...talk about Al Anon principles? Anyway, here is my current confusion. The primary alcoholic qua...	WakingUp	6	650	Oct 17, 2005 by Lanchas
	He's home... (Preview) So after a total of 10 hours of conversations and compromises my A is back home. He says that he will drink occasionally (the controlled drinker) and I know that is something I can not control. However, I had an internal battle that I had to fight. We talked Friday and then again Satu...	marmare	7	620	Oct 17, 2005 by lin0606
	Why we came to Alanon (Preview) We all come to Alanon because our lives have been affected by the disease of alcoholism. Many of us enter these doors feeling defeated by theis desease. We may have spent our energies trying to get an active alcoholic to stop drinking or otherwize control his or her actions; we may have spent much of our...	captcodee	6	511	Oct 17, 2005 by Maria123
	How do I know when enough is enough? (Preview) I think my title says it all. I have been working my program for almost 2 years now - and have grown tremendously. Lately I have been learning about 'boundries' . For so long I have been waffling between what is mine, what is his, and what is a wife's duty. All I know is that this awful sick feeling is not norm...	Angie	7	1114	Oct 17, 2005 by Karilynn
	My heart speaks out (Preview) Well I guess I have gotten when I want to be. Just thought I would share. My A and i have been thru years of getting our relationship as good as it can be with him having this horrible disease. My part has been Al anon untilit has been a way of life. Also my closeness with hp is most important. ...	debilyn	5	615	Oct 17, 2005 by debilyn
	Of course I need to VENT (Preview) My husband was awake of course this morning when I knocked on the locked bedroom door. He screamed YEAH!!! WHAT THE F??? HOLD ON!!! Not a good start but I didn't reply. I just wanted to get my toothbrush. Anyway, he opened the door and told me that I needed to take him to work bec...	browneyes	5	574	Oct 17, 2005 by browneyes
	Sadness (Preview) sadness n. Expression of sorrow or unhappiness. Who doesn't feel sadness? There is a time where everyone feels sad for one reason or another. Some people feel sad more than others. I have gone through many times of feeling complete sadness ... depression. That is definately a lot ha...	sandie123	4	540	Oct 17, 2005 by pixel04
	Sunday and I need some advice (Preview) Yesterday was a good day. A good Sunday for once! I had vowed after spending last Sunday crouched in my car watching to see whether or not my A was where he said he was that this week would be better. And I kept my word to myself! Did some shopping, made dinner for friends, watched desperate housewiv...	Kim	5	517	Oct 17, 2005 by captcodee
	FAMILY (Preview) I am adopted child. I grew up in a house with no other child. My mom had three sons from her first marriage. I have a real brother and sister. My brother lives in Calf and we don't talk much. But my sister lives close to me but I really don't talk to her. I am going to make an effort to talk to her more. She doesn't...	nycbt	0	419	Oct 17, 2005 by nycbt
	for the FIRST time..honesty with me (Preview) Being Honest with Ourselves Our relationship with ourselves is the most important relationship we need to maintain. The quality of that relationship will determine the quality of our other relationships.When we can tell ourselves how we feel, and accept our feelings, we can tell others.Whe...	rosie light shines	1	454	Oct 17, 2005 by craftycreations
	Step 3 success - (Preview) Dear All, Beth and I have decided to share our story. I will post my half and Beth will do her part in separate post. Here goes a remarkable story: I happened to be in chatroom when Beth shared about worrying she might become estranged from her grandkids. This was at about 17:00 o...	toto12	6	568	Oct 17, 2005 by sandie123
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