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Cathy · Cathy

I guess it's because I'm so new here? I read all of your posts and just DON'T know what to say to any of you. I know I'm going through the same things. I know some of us have it worse and some of us might have it a little better but I just don't know what to say. I want to talk to you all. Maybe I need time for myself li...

nycbt · nycbt

For everyone my father is taking care of himself. He is going to his AA meetings which is good. I am glad that he is doing it.He is also going to the out patient program. I am trying to too get my hopes up. I am also hoping by him sobering up maybe he can give me tips on how to deal with my husband who is too a...

dogscribe · dogscribe

Hi I was just wondering if any of you knew any health links - regarding how living with an alcoholic relates to OUR health. Thanks!

Powerless · Powerless

Monday will be three weeks since I have left. I moved to another state with the children. I have got a job and start this week. The kids are enrolled in their new schools and really like them. The big kids are temporarily staying with their dad until I get a place of my own. I even...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, I really need some opinions here. I know rehab is not always the answer, and I know a person has to be ready to accept recovery. While talking to my husband today, as usually he was parroting his Mother, "My Mother doesn't think I have a problem." My Mother says none of this is my fault." My Mother s...

jeannie024 · jeannie024

hi everyone my husband is an alcoholic, but been sober for 5 years, i thought things would get better, but my daughter of 22 is an alcoholic too, she has 2 beautifull children she doesnt look after properly, my husband and i have brought up her oldest, nicole who is 3 and a half, i feel as though im going c...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Become nothing before God, learn to keep silent; in this silence is the beginning, which is first to seek God's kingdom. --Soren Kierkegaard So many devastating things can bring us to our knees. With experience we learn that pain and trouble are part of life. Most of us have fought against everyd...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - October 24 My years in Al-Anon made me aware that I need to be careful about how I hear and interpret certain words. Consider "defects of character" and "shortcomings," which are found in Steps Six and Seven respectively. I came into Al-Anon believing I was responsible for...

bcraindrop70 · bcraindrop70

Well tomorrow is my birthday. A friend took me out for dinner tonight. I know it will become a huge issue with my A. A colleague of his from work saw us and will make a big issue out of nothing. I will have to be on defensive yet again with him. Frankly he had all the opportun...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

I know this is cyberspace but we have to remember many of consider each other family. Just a friendly reminder that we need not repeat what we hear in the chat room anywhere to anyone, especially if we do not not it to be fact! What we say here. stays here and with the same people it was s...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

very confused right now. a came home today and is totally acting like nothing happened. partially cleaned his mess, said he will finish later. yeah right. so i cleaned the bathroom, did my nails and danced to my favorite music. right now i have no feelings about any of this. i dont care what he does. i alm...

Cathy · Cathy

I sit here on this computer feeling so alone at times. B/F is in the livingroom drunk. Yes......what am I doing? I don't know.......................a part of me says "Cathy get the hell out of here." Please, somebody just talk with me?

Cathy · Cathy

I'm really tired of living in a drunken world. I say drunken world because my b/f is my world and drunk most days. When we met I was just as bad. I've seen him burn himself and cut himself. Why do I still love him? Because when he's sober he's the best thing in the world. Anyway.....not sure how long I can do th...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello all! I am back and don't anticipate being gone again like that. Hope you all are doing well. Much Love,

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

In His Own Individual Right (taken from the book Came To Believe) Spirituality is an awakening- or is it all the loose ends woven together into a mellow fabric? It's understanding- or is it all the knowledge one need ever know? It's freedom- If you consider fear slavery. Its confide...

sanddie · sanddie

I just wanted to share my response to Rosie's thread, Learning to Trust... These posts are awesome! Thank you and Thank God for his grace, mercy, comfort and peace to get us through. :) As you, I am aware of "the devils parlor". I believe that is how you put it.&n...

Cathy · Cathy

A drunk thinks the world revolves around them? Why? I think I know why but can't accept it. Living in a drunk world really sucks so I guess it's time to get out. The drunk in my life wonders what my problem is? Hell..............maybe I have the problem. I know I don't. I know what I need to do. I don't even kn...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

i always see the words coda and halt in posts and chat what do these stand for?

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

...words are more powerful than perhaps anyone suspects, and once deeply engraved in a child's mind, they are not easily eradicated. --May Sarton How burdened we became, as little girls, with the labels applied by parents, teachers, even school chums. We believe about ourselves what others t...

chrissy · chrissy

my daughters father won't stop propositioning me. he figures that i am lonely and he can get his way back in remember he is married. i would never ever ruin my marriage for anyone. he called like 6 am this morning and i wasn't even awake. i got scared & answered the phone. he tol...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Self-knowledge and self-improvement are very difficult for most people. It usually needs great courage and long struggle. --Abraham Maslow This is a simple program but it isn't easy. We cannot take the principles we learn and thereby possess them as if we were taking a class or reading a book. W...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself. --D. H. Lawrence Sometimes when we feel sorry for ourselves we will sit alone in our bedroom. We may even feel so down in the dumps that we decide to stay there, indulging in self-pity, thinking about how the world is against us. However, if we use our imagina...

kitty · kitty

After all the praying I did yesterday @ my folk's home (& I Blessed it)... today driving over there I got a rush of ecstacy, pure joy & I actually cried a little it was so overwhelming & I realized I do not have to seek to love anyone --- I mean, up to yesterday, I kept calling mys...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Learning to Trust Again Many of us have trust issues.Some of us tried long and hard to trust untrustworthy people. Over and again, we believed lies and promises never to be kept. Some of us tried to trust people for the impossible; for instance, trusting a practicing alcoholic not to drink again....

chrissy · chrissy

my x called 3x more today on my cell & when i saw it was him i gave my daughter the phone to answer it and i let her talk to him.

my husband came & took us to bowling. my daughter took her boy friend. we had a great time and she kissed my husband , high fived when she got a strike or he did to...

WakingUp · WakingUp

I'm just noticing today how screwed up my thinking is. I recently started a new job with a new supervisor, which was a wonderful thing because it allowed me to get away from a rageaholic boss in my previous position. I seem to have carried over my lack of confidence and fear of authority int...

shimo · shimo

I am unable to honor my commitment to chair the Monday morning Al-Anon meeting. I have an appointment with the rhuematologist and will not be returning home in time to chair. Thank you very much to whom ever might be able to chair for me on Monday.&nbs...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Love Takes Time Love takes time. It needs a history of giving and receiving, laughing and crying... Love never promises instant gratification, only ultimate fulfillment. Love means believing in someone, in something. It supposes a willingness to struggle, to work, to suffer, and to rej...

chrissy · chrissy

today met my a for lunch. all week long he asked are you coming for lunch on friday . today was such a cold damp day i just wanted to stay in bed. but i went anyway he fixed my car,did an oil change & everthing that he though my car needed & paid f...

sanddie · sanddie

So is there a difference? Being alone vs' being lonely-- I believe there is.... There are often times I am lonely because I work, take care of my children, go to school and have no social life, no husband/no boyfriend, my friends are busy so I have those days that I feel lonely...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I have to do a research paper and i decided to do it on Children of Alcoholics but I'm not sure what aspect I should do it on since this is such a broad subject. If you have any ideas let me know, ASAP! Lanchas

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

hey you all, i must be chaning/ improving/ healing...becuz this "take" on the Hope for Today was totally from my first thoughts...... Hope for Today - October 22 Making amends isn't about apologizing for every problem. It's about figuring out how a relationshi...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well i just got home from work and my house is a disaster. he did not take any of his stuff but had people here while i wasnt home. im so angry and hurt right now. i dont even know what to write on here about. i just know i should to help me through this. i am a zombie right now. i dont know what to think. he left all h...

tea2 · tea2

“Enabling” To quote from "Courage to Change", page 32. “If I choose to stop contributing to the problem, I do so because it seems to be the right thing to do, something that will help me to feel better about myself. When I change my behavior, the behavior of those around me may also change, but th...

marmare · marmare

Oh my goodness, if you read my postings you know how wonderful my mom is. Today was one of the days she frustrated me to no end. She always calls me at work in the morning on Mondays and Fridays....(no boss in on those days, Mom's 82 and likes a schedule) So she asked what I was doing after work....

nmike · nmike

Hi all, Thanks for your continued support and insight when I post. I think that my HP is working at little for me. I was listening to an Alanon tape and she said that meetings (read message board) are not necessarily for saying how it is but how it can be. This is what has happened for me. My cat died la...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, In a previouse post someone had posted that the best thing to do was apologize and not expect an apology in return. That is was a loving thing to do, to forgive without being asked to. Here is a big problem of mine. I seem to be expected to apologize for everything. If my husband and his parents had t...

browneyes · browneyes

Hi guys Hope you are all well. Thought I would post and let everyone know that my daughter finally got a spot in the after school daycare so I can now start working. And yesterday I interviewed and got a job at the first place. Yay! I start in the next week. The problem is now I am having t...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

faith in the "process" hi everyone, i usually do my shares on the "dailys" taken off the NA/ AA/ Hazeldon , however today i am going to do a share on MY daily....."faith in the process" this is my own journal on having "blind faith in the process"....... as i have traversed in my r...

pixel04 · pixel04

Thanks to everyone for responding to my post yesterday - I really appreicate it. After I posted last night, I remembered there was a meeting nearby, and I decided to go (all those meetings where I've heard "if you're thinking about going to a meeting you should probably go" kicked in for me.. lol)....

recoverkhristy · recoverkhristy

In alot of ways in my life I keep doing the same things, the same way, and expecting different outcomes! Duh. Thats the definition of insanity. When am I going to learn? I hope soon because I am driving myself crazy!! My reaction to situations dont help either. I spend too much money and get stressed out w...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

everything was wonderful between me and my a the past two weeks. last night everything changed again. he went out drinking/drugging and didnt come home. today he told me his is sick of living like this and wont quit drinking. so i told him if your really unhappy then leave. he said fine, just like that. h...

Satori · Satori

Hello Everyone - I am survivor of child sexual abuse by my father. On Dec. 10, 1994, similar to a day an addict would choose not to use again, I chose a day to no longer be a victim but a survivor. Having been educated in many avenues of recovery up to that point, I embraced the 12-step progra...

nycbt · nycbt

I am angry with what happen last night. I work very hard on my tempter. I did well I didn't call him that much which was a good thing. I didn't go running after him which was another good thing. I didn't cry when he left. But I did snap and I end up hitting him lightly. But I yelled I lost it. I am mad that I am going...

Ratchie · Ratchie

The following is a quote from the book "The Four Agreements" by Miguel Ruiz "The limit of your self-abuse is exactly the limit that you will tolerate from someone else. If someone abuses you a little more than you abuse yourself, you will probably walk away from that person. But if some...

Christy · Christy

I am responsible for... from "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie I am responsible for myself. I am responsible for leading or not living my life. I am responsible for tending to my spiritual, emotional, physical, and financial well-being. I am responsible for identifying...

sanddie · sanddie

I can't sleep-- too much going on. My ex had me in court today to continue to keep the relationship going in anyway possible since our divorce 9 years ago. We have kids, so he uses the kids to get to me... Ok, so I got through that concept, so now he uses any means to bring me into court to financially sabotage...

nycbt · nycbt

Last night was not a good night.Well at the job he was working out he ws very arguementive. Then it started when he wanted to take my car while was at my meeting. In the begin I didn't want him too but I thought how much trouble can he get into a hour. I told him I wanted him to be back in an hour. When I came out he w...

hudsond · hudsond

Thank you so much for all of your prayers yesterday. It was a good day. I kept the computer on this website all day. I tried not to worry and did pretty good. When I did begin to worry I would say a prayer and try to let it go. When I got home--he was home and sober. I was so ha...

nikkilou · nikkilou

Hi all, I'm feeling down so i came here to vent a little. I just did my check book and I'm short minus -$28.00. I know it not much but something going to bounce. I've been looking around the house for short change and found some only $10 left to find. ...

pixel04 · pixel04

I've been having some trouble in my marriage lately. I have talked about it with my sponsor, and at her suggestion I've sought outside help to help me figure out how to handle it. I've never done anything like this before, and I'm not confortable with it. I've searched around and seen a few people and s...

hudsond · hudsond

I am not looking forward to today. I am extrememly worried about my a. We got a letter in the mail yesterday about his latest law stuff. They want to make a deal, but it isn't a good deal. He was upset, but acted alright to begin with. By 1:00 this morning he was all down and...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

j this daily, i really needed.....last night was *nighmare on elm street* for me...with my A and NA brother, flipping out........ Detaching with Love Sometimes people we love do things we don't like or approve of. We react. They react. Before long, we're all reacting to eac...

sg · sg

blech...what a night. A. was suppose to go to work out of town and our daughter had wanted to plan a bday party for 14 of her friends while he was gone. Bon fire, scarey movies, pizza and sleep over. Plan was since the A. is rather impatient, tempermental and so unhappy damn near all of the time that we w...

bcraindrop70 · bcraindrop70

Hi all I am new here. I have been married to my A for 7 years (together for 12). We have had a very roller coaster relationship as most of us have. In 2002 we seperated for a period of 10 mos. He went in to a rehab program, and I went back to him. He was still an active A but t...

bd · bd

Hey Gals & Guy's Going to see my parents this weekend as I posted before. For some reason I feel this calm. Even though I'm disappointed because they never call and when I get there my dad will be sitting drunk in his van. I just really miss them. Even if they are both disf...

jj · jj

If we willingly surrender ourselves to the spiritual discipline of the Twelve Steps, our lives will be transformed. We will become mature, responsible individuals with a great capacity for joy, fulfillment, and wonder. Though we may never be perfect, continued spiritual progress...

nycbt · nycbt

My dad signed himself into a rehab this weekend. It is the 4th attempt at this. I spent some time with my mom because I didn't want her to get lonely. My mom is a strong person. She is going to have to go to a program which maybe she will then end up going into alanon as well. I can only hope. But I am happy f...

Cathy · Cathy

What a beautiful mastiff you have. Here are my two. Hopefully it'll work. :)

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello Group, I have not posted in quite a while. I guess I have strayed from working program, but have still been focusing on changes to myself. I have recently been working on refinancing my home to lower my monthly cost of living expenses. I believe I had posted previously that...

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	I just don't know what to say (Preview) I guess it's because I'm so new here? I read all of your posts and just DON'T know what to say to any of you. I know I'm going through the same things. I know some of us have it worse and some of us might have it a little better but I just don't know what to say. I want to talk to you all. Maybe I need time for myself li...	Cathy	8	766	Oct 24, 2005 by Princess
	MY DAD (Preview) For everyone my father is taking care of himself. He is going to his AA meetings which is good. I am glad that he is doing it.He is also going to the out patient program. I am trying to too get my hopes up. I am also hoping by him sobering up maybe he can give me tips on how to deal with my husband who is too a...	nycbt	4	474	Oct 24, 2005 by Karilynn
	Health Links (Preview) Hi I was just wondering if any of you knew any health links - regarding how living with an alcoholic relates to OUR health. Thanks!	dogscribe	3	489	Oct 24, 2005 by Karilynn
	I moved out!!! (Preview) Monday will be three weeks since I have left. I moved to another state with the children. I have got a job and start this week. The kids are enrolled in their new schools and really like them. The big kids are temporarily staying with their dad until I get a place of my own. I even...	Powerless	14	964	Oct 24, 2005 by tea2
	Lead a horse to water (Preview) Hi, I really need some opinions here. I know rehab is not always the answer, and I know a person has to be ready to accept recovery. While talking to my husband today, as usually he was parroting his Mother, "My Mother doesn't think I have a problem." My Mother says none of this is my fault." My Mother s...	Jeannie	14	662	Oct 24, 2005 by Jeannie
	cant cope (Preview) hi everyone my husband is an alcoholic, but been sober for 5 years, i thought things would get better, but my daughter of 22 is an alcoholic too, she has 2 beautifull children she doesnt look after properly, my husband and i have brought up her oldest, nicole who is 3 and a half, i feel as though im going c...	jeannie024	5	525	Oct 24, 2005 by bd
	i had to become nothing first (Preview) *Become nothing before God, learn to keep silent; in this silence is the beginning, which is first to seek God's kingdom. --Soren Kierkegaard* So many devastating things can bring us to our knees. With experience we learn that pain and trouble are part of life. Most of us have fought against everyd...	rosie light shines	0	623	Oct 24, 2005 by rosie light shines
	inventory doesn't have to be a beheading (Preview) Hope for Today - October 24 My years in Al-Anon made me aware that I need to be careful about how I hear and interpret certain words. Consider "defects of character" and "shortcomings," which are found in Steps Six and Seven respectively. I came into Al-Anon believing I was responsible for...	rosie light shines	0	529	Oct 24, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Not having a good night (Preview) Well tomorrow is my birthday. A friend took me out for dinner tonight. I know it will become a huge issue with my A. A colleague of his from work saw us and will make a big issue out of nothing. I will have to be on defensive yet again with him. Frankly he had all the opportun...	bcraindrop70	7	755	Oct 24, 2005 by nycbt
	others feelings (Preview) I know this is cyberspace but we have to remember many of consider each other family. Just a friendly reminder that we need not repeat what we hear in the chat room anywhere to anyone, especially if we do not not it to be fact! What we say here. stays here and with the same people it was s...	jrtjosey	6	799	Oct 24, 2005 by nycbt
	did nothing happen? (Preview) very confused right now. a came home today and is totally acting like nothing happened. partially cleaned his mess, said he will finish later. yeah right. so i cleaned the bathroom, did my nails and danced to my favorite music. right now i have no feelings about any of this. i dont care what he does. i alm...	notsonew1111	4	648	Oct 24, 2005 by nycbt
	Sometimes we feel so alone (Preview) I sit here on this computer feeling so alone at times. B/F is in the livingroom drunk. Yes......what am I doing? I don't know.......................a part of me says "Cathy get the hell out of here." Please, somebody just talk with me?	Cathy	10	634	Oct 24, 2005 by nycbt
	I need to vent (Preview) I'm really tired of living in a drunken world. I say drunken world because my b/f is my world and drunk most days. When we met I was just as bad. I've seen him burn himself and cut himself. Why do I still love him? Because when he's sober he's the best thing in the world. Anyway.....not sure how long I can do th...	Cathy	10	797	Oct 24, 2005 by nycbt
	Back Again (Preview) Hello all! I am back and don't anticipate being gone again like that. Hope you all are doing well. Much Love,	Dolphin123	5	622	Oct 24, 2005 by nycbt
	spirituality (Preview) In His Own Individual Right (taken from the book Came To Believe) Spirituality is an awakening- or is it all the loose ends woven together into a mellow fabric? It's understanding- or is it all the knowledge one need ever know? It's freedom- If you consider fear slavery. Its confide...	notsonew1111	0	686	Oct 24, 2005 by notsonew1111
	World vs Eternity in response to trusting again... (Preview) I just wanted to share my response to Rosie's thread, Learning to Trust... These posts are awesome! Thank you and Thank God for his grace, mercy, comfort and peace to get us through. :) As you, I am aware of "the devils parlor". I believe that is how you put it.&n...	sanddie	3	755	Oct 23, 2005 by sanddie
	Why is it............. (Preview) A drunk thinks the world revolves around them? Why? I think I know why but can't accept it. Living in a drunk world really sucks so I guess it's time to get out. The drunk in my life wonders what my problem is? Hell..............maybe I have the problem. I know I don't. I know what I need to do. I don't even kn...	Cathy	3	1135	Oct 23, 2005 by nmike
	definitions please (Preview) i always see the words coda and halt in posts and chat what do these stand for?	notsonew1111	2	464	Oct 23, 2005 by notsonew1111
	"name calling" (Preview) *...words are more powerful than perhaps anyone suspects, and once deeply engraved in a child's mind, they are not easily eradicated. --May Sarton* How burdened we became, as little girls, with the labels applied by parents, teachers, even school chums. We believe about ourselves what others t...	rosie light shines	1	984	Oct 23, 2005 by canadianguy
	help new problem with daughters father (Preview) my daughters father won't stop propositioning me. he figures that i am lonely and he can get his way back in remember he is married. i would never ever ruin my marriage for anyone. he called like 6 am this morning and i wasn't even awake. i got scared & answered the phone. he tol...	chrissy	17	680	Oct 23, 2005 by rosie light shines
	reaping what i sew in the 12Steps (Preview) *Self-knowledge and self-improvement are very difficult for most people. It usually needs great courage and long struggle. --Abraham Maslow* This is a simple program but it isn't easy. We cannot take the principles we learn and thereby possess them as if we were taking a class or reading a book. W...	rosie light shines	0	579	Oct 23, 2005 by rosie light shines
	focusing on the SOLUTION (Preview) *I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself. --D. H. Lawrence* Sometimes when we feel sorry for ourselves we will sit alone in our bedroom. We may even feel so down in the dumps that we decide to stay there, indulging in self-pity, thinking about how the world is against us. However, if we use our imagina...	rosie light shines	0	614	Oct 23, 2005 by rosie light shines
	ecstatic joy (Preview) After all the praying I did yesterday @ my folk's home (& I Blessed it)... today driving over there I got a rush of ecstacy, pure joy & I actually cried a little it was so overwhelming & I realized I do not have to seek to love anyone --- I mean, up to yesterday, I kept calling mys...	kitty	2	440	Oct 23, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Learning to trust again (Preview) Learning to Trust Again Many of us have trust issues.Some of us tried long and hard to trust untrustworthy people. Over and again, we believed lies and promises never to be kept. Some of us tried to trust people for the impossible; for instance, trusting a practicing alcoholic not to drink again....	rosie light shines	2	649	Oct 23, 2005 by rosie light shines
	hi guys just wanted to let you lnow about my day (Preview) my x called 3x more today on my cell & when i saw it was him i gave my daughter the phone to answer it and i let her talk to him. my husband came & took us to bowling. my daughter took her boy friend. we had a great time and she kissed my husband , high fived when she got a strike or he did to...	chrissy	7	947	Oct 23, 2005 by chrissy
	Sick Thinking (Preview) I'm just noticing today how screwed up my thinking is. I recently started a new job with a new supervisor, which was a wonderful thing because it allowed me to get away from a rageaholic boss in my previous position. I seem to have carried over my lack of confidence and fear of authority int...	WakingUp	2	628	Oct 23, 2005 by WakingUp
	CHAIRPERSON MONDAY AM MTG (Preview) I am unable to honor my commitment to chair the Monday morning Al-Anon meeting. I have an appointment with the rhuematologist and will not be returning home in time to chair. Thank you very much to whom ever might be able to chair for me on Monday.&nbs...	shimo	1	539	Oct 23, 2005 by kerry5
	love takes time (Preview) Love Takes Time Love takes time. It needs a history of giving and receiving, laughing and crying... Love never promises instant gratification, only ultimate fulfillment. Love means believing in someone, in something. It supposes a willingness to struggle, to work, to suffer, and to rej...	rosie light shines	3	430	Oct 23, 2005 by Karilynn
	i'm flipping out it's friday the night he usally disapears (Preview) today met my a for lunch. all week long he asked are you coming for lunch on friday . today was such a cold damp day i just wanted to stay in bed. but i went anyway he fixed my car,did an oil change & everthing that he though my car needed & paid f...	chrissy	6	533	Oct 23, 2005 by Diva
	Being Alone vs' Being Lonely (Preview) So is there a difference? Being alone vs' being lonely-- I believe there is.... There are often times I am lonely because I work, take care of my children, go to school and have no social life, no husband/no boyfriend, my friends are busy so I have those days that I feel lonely...	sanddie	8	848	Oct 23, 2005 by Diva
	College work Ideas? (Preview) I have to do a research paper and i decided to do it on Children of Alcoholics but I'm not sure what aspect I should do it on since this is such a broad subject. If you have any ideas let me know, ASAP! Lanchas	Lanchas	8	469	Oct 22, 2005 by Lanchas
	FINALLY i can "erase his name" (Preview) hey you all, i must be chaning/ improving/ healing...becuz this "take" on the Hope for Today was totally from my first thoughts...... Hope for Today - October 22 Making amends isn't about apologizing for every problem. It's about figuring out how a relationshi...	rosie light shines	2	1084	Oct 22, 2005 by kitty
	alone now (Preview) well i just got home from work and my house is a disaster. he did not take any of his stuff but had people here while i wasnt home. im so angry and hurt right now. i dont even know what to write on here about. i just know i should to help me through this. i am a zombie right now. i dont know what to think. he left all h...	notsonew1111	6	936	Oct 22, 2005 by nmike
	Enabling/for today (Preview) “Enabling” To quote from "Courage to Change", page 32. “If I choose to stop contributing to the problem, I do so because it seems to be the right thing to do, something that will help me to feel better about myself. When I change my behavior, the behavior of those around me may also change, but th...	tea2	2	729	Oct 22, 2005 by Flora123
	Friday (Preview) Oh my goodness, if you read my postings you know how wonderful my mom is. Today was one of the days she frustrated me to no end. She always calls me at work in the morning on Mondays and Fridays....(no boss in on those days, Mom's 82 and likes a schedule) So she asked what I was doing after work....	marmare	6	642	Oct 22, 2005 by Dolphin123
	how it can be ...... (Preview) Hi all, Thanks for your continued support and insight when I post. I think that my HP is working at little for me. I was listening to an Alanon tape and she said that meetings (read message board) are not necessarily for saying how it is but how it can be. This is what has happened for me. My cat died la...	nmike	5	591	Oct 22, 2005 by browneyes
	Confused (Preview) Hi, In a previouse post someone had posted that the best thing to do was apologize and not expect an apology in return. That is was a loving thing to do, to forgive without being asked to. Here is a big problem of mine. I seem to be expected to apologize for everything. If my husband and his parents had t...	Jeannie	11	771	Oct 22, 2005 by browneyes
	News (Preview) Hi guys Hope you are all well. Thought I would post and let everyone know that my daughter finally got a spot in the after school daycare so I can now start working. And yesterday I interviewed and got a job at the first place. Yay! I start in the next week. The problem is now I am having t...	browneyes	7	438	Oct 22, 2005 by browneyes
	TODAY, i will have faith in the process (Preview) faith in the "process" hi everyone, i usually do my shares on the "dailys" taken off the NA/ AA/ Hazeldon , however today i am going to do a share on MY daily....."faith in the process" this is my own journal on having "blind faith in the process"....... as i have traversed in my r...	rosie light shines	3	671	Oct 22, 2005 by kitty
	Faith (Preview) Thanks to everyone for responding to my post yesterday - I really appreicate it. After I posted last night, I remembered there was a meeting nearby, and I decided to go (all those meetings where I've heard "if you're thinking about going to a meeting you should probably go" kicked in for me.. lol)....	pixel04	3	469	Oct 21, 2005 by recoverkhristy
	Doing the same things expecting different outcomes= insanity (Preview) In alot of ways in my life I keep doing the same things, the same way, and expecting different outcomes! Duh. Thats the definition of insanity. When am I going to learn? I hope soon because I am driving myself crazy!! My reaction to situations dont help either. I spend too much money and get stressed out w...	recoverkhristy	6	578	Oct 21, 2005 by recoverkhristy
	need some support (Preview) everything was wonderful between me and my a the past two weeks. last night everything changed again. he went out drinking/drugging and didnt come home. today he told me his is sick of living like this and wont quit drinking. so i told him if your really unhappy then leave. he said fine, just like that. h...	notsonew1111	4	790	Oct 21, 2005 by canadianguy
	11 years recovery and now on the other end (Preview) Hello Everyone - I am survivor of child sexual abuse by my father. On Dec. 10, 1994, similar to a day an addict would choose not to use again, I chose a day to no longer be a victim but a survivor. Having been educated in many avenues of recovery up to that point, I embraced the 12-step progra...	Satori	11	824	Oct 21, 2005 by rosie light shines
	I am angry (Preview) I am angry with what happen last night. I work very hard on my tempter. I did well I didn't call him that much which was a good thing. I didn't go running after him which was another good thing. I didn't cry when he left. But I did snap and I end up hitting him lightly. But I yelled I lost it. I am mad that I am going...	nycbt	7	527	Oct 21, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Abuse / Self-Abuse (Preview) The following is a quote from the book "The Four Agreements" by Miguel Ruiz "The limit of your self-abuse is exactly the limit that you will tolerate from someone else. If someone abuses you a little more than you abuse yourself, you will probably walk away from that person. But if some...	Ratchie	7	839	Oct 21, 2005 by kitty
	I am responsible for... (Preview) I am responsible for... from "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie I am responsible for myself. I am responsible for leading or not living my life. I am responsible for tending to my spiritual, emotional, physical, and financial well-being. I am responsible for identifying...	Christy	5	525	Oct 21, 2005 by nmike
	Just When We Think We Have It All Worked Out.... (Preview) I can't sleep-- too much going on. My ex had me in court today to continue to keep the relationship going in anyway possible since our divorce 9 years ago. We have kids, so he uses the kids to get to me... Ok, so I got through that concept, so now he uses any means to bring me into court to financially sabotage...	sanddie	9	655	Oct 21, 2005 by Satori
	Last night (Preview) Last night was not a good night.Well at the job he was working out he ws very arguementive. Then it started when he wanted to take my car while was at my meeting. In the begin I didn't want him too but I thought how much trouble can he get into a hour. I told him I wanted him to be back in an hour. When I came out he w...	nycbt	4	742	Oct 21, 2005 by nycbt
	Thanks/ wondering (Preview) Thank you so much for all of your prayers yesterday. It was a good day. I kept the computer on this website all day. I tried not to worry and did pretty good. When I did begin to worry I would say a prayer and try to let it go. When I got home--he was home and sober. I was so ha...	hudsond	3	652	Oct 21, 2005 by Jeannie
	having a bad morning (Preview) Hi all, I'm feeling down so i came here to vent a little. I just did my check book and I'm short minus -$28.00. I know it not much but something going to bounce. I've been looking around the house for short change and found some only $10 left to find. ...	nikkilou	3	434	Oct 21, 2005 by Emmie11
	just a little scared (Preview) I've been having some trouble in my marriage lately. I have talked about it with my sponsor, and at her suggestion I've sought outside help to help me figure out how to handle it. I've never done anything like this before, and I'm not confortable with it. I've searched around and seen a few people and s...	pixel04	7	636	Oct 21, 2005 by lin0606
	trying not to worry (Preview) I am not looking forward to today. I am extrememly worried about my a. We got a letter in the mail yesterday about his latest law stuff. They want to make a deal, but it isn't a good deal. He was upset, but acted alright to begin with. By 1:00 this morning he was all down and...	hudsond	3	519	Oct 21, 2005 by kitty
	BAAAD night last night with my A/NA brother (Preview) *j this daily, i really needed.....last night was nighmare on elm street* for me...with my A and NA brother, flipping out........ Detaching with Love** Sometimes people we love do things we don't like or approve of. We react. They react. Before long, we're all reacting to eac...	rosie light shines	4	579	Oct 20, 2005 by kitty
	We're just miserable (Preview) blech...what a night. A. was suppose to go to work out of town and our daughter had wanted to plan a bday party for 14 of her friends while he was gone. Bon fire, scarey movies, pizza and sleep over. Plan was since the A. is rather impatient, tempermental and so unhappy damn near all of the time that we w...	sg	10	709	Oct 20, 2005 by sg
	Where do I go from here? (Preview) Hi all I am new here. I have been married to my A for 7 years (together for 12). We have had a very roller coaster relationship as most of us have. In 2002 we seperated for a period of 10 mos. He went in to a rehab program, and I went back to him. He was still an active A but t...	bcraindrop70	4	601	Oct 20, 2005 by leo
	This Weekend (Preview) Hey Gals & Guy's Going to see my parents this weekend as I posted before. For some reason I feel this calm. Even though I'm disappointed because they never call and when I get there my dad will be sitting drunk in his van. I just really miss them. Even if they are both disf...	bd	2	445	Oct 20, 2005 by leo
	A share from survival to recovery (Preview) If we willingly surrender ourselves to the spiritual discipline of the Twelve Steps, our lives will be transformed. We will become mature, responsible individuals with a great capacity for joy, fulfillment, and wonder. Though we may never be perfect, continued spiritual progress...	jj	1	680	Oct 20, 2005 by Peggy7
	MY DAD (Preview) My dad signed himself into a rehab this weekend. It is the 4th attempt at this. I spent some time with my mom because I didn't want her to get lonely. My mom is a strong person. She is going to have to go to a program which maybe she will then end up going into alanon as well. I can only hope. But I am happy f...	nycbt	7	612	Oct 20, 2005 by Flora123
	This is for Mastiff (Preview) What a beautiful mastiff you have. Here are my two. Hopefully it'll work. :)	Cathy	7	538	Oct 20, 2005 by dogscribe
	Coming out of my hole (Preview) Hello Group, I have not posted in quite a while. I guess I have strayed from working program, but have still been focusing on changes to myself. I have recently been working on refinancing my home to lower my monthly cost of living expenses. I believe I had posted previously that...	twinmom2	5	621	Oct 20, 2005 by twinmom2
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