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nycbt · nycbt

I did good thing yesterday. I drove to my parents house and his adult son called me to tell me that he was drunk. I had not talk to my husband since 3 pm, after I found out he called his father. His son called me around 6pm. I went to the doctor and didn't call him until 9pm. So that was 7 HRS. When I wanted t...

UncleLou · UncleLou

I just read tanderboo’s post about the family afterwards, and sandie’s rely prompted me to ask for some feedback. Quick background, I’m 2 years sober and my marriage didn’t survive sobriety. I couldn’t give my wife what she wanted quickly enough in recovery. We were divorced in August and still...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

people keep asking me public and private, "what are the steps??? really what are they about???" so i kind of did this light hearted *short take* step 1....i have discovered that my life is unmanageable do to............... i am powerle...

sanddie · sanddie

Does anyone know where I can get that analogy of how we cross a bridge sometimes and need to leave people behind......

Barbara · Barbara

Just wanted to introduce myself before I headed to bed. I live with an alcoholic husband. He recently had a kidney removed due to cancer. Seems to be that should have been enough for him to turn his life around and cut down on his drinking. But no! When he was out of work recuperating he actually drank more...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Hi, my name is Lauren I am 17 years old, and from the ages of 3 -11. I was sexually molested by my father. I still have nightmares thinking it is still happening. The most frightening thing of all is that he wasnt the only person, when I was 3 years old I was first sexually molested by my neighbor, who was als...

sandy · sandy

Hi, I haven't posted for a couple of weeks now but have been reading the board just about every day. Again my daughter had another bout with trouble. As I said in earlier post she lost her kids due to her drinking and carelessness. They are with the families who agreed to keep the...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Corrupted I am I sit here in sweet surrender Shivering cold and lonely… hypothermia suddenly kicks in I look blue and so thin I am corrupted; I’m not the person you thought I was set out to be I cannot run Sitting here and wondering why makes me think of different ways I want to die ...

sanddie · sanddie

I just wanted to share with everyone who has read my posts over the past couple of weeks in which I have been faced with much hardship in abusive situations with my employer, my daughter, my ex husband..... As some of you know, my doctor has even kept me off work until this coming Monday so th...

Cathy · Cathy

to those of you who responded to my posts the other day. Today is a good day. I'm scrubbing floors and cleaning just to stay busy because I'm off work. Anyway, I'm still reading through alot of the posts and trying to learn. Plus the A hasn't drank in two days. I know you all say to take care of me when you live...

cdb · cdb

I have learned so much in this program and what tools i have used got thrown out the door today. I got engaged in an argument with my spouse and I took it very personally. I guess he knows when to get me when I am at my lowest. I don't know why I pray to God for a happy/better marriage and then this happens. The&n...

pixel04 · pixel04

I have two nephews, my husband's brother's kids (two boys, ages 5 and 7). Last year my brother in law and his wife separated. The boys live with their mother. Their father seems to be pretty torn up by their relationship, isn't taking care of himself, and doesn't have anything to do with his kids, let alo...

captcodee · captcodee

Hello all. My 61 yr old grandmother unexpectedly passed away on Saturday, and her funeral is tomorrow. Now you might think that I need the prayers for the funeral, but I beleive in my HP, so don't think that dying is such a terrible thing. I do, however, think that being in the same room as the mot...

FreeOfTheBottle · FreeOfTheBottle

Hi ya'll, I'm new to these boards, this site was suggested to me by someone in a f2f al-anon group. I'm so glad she directed me here, I'm seeing more of myself as I go through all the posts. Reading through the posts, I keep seeing "esh" mentioned. I've been struggling to figure out just...

fitone · fitone

Hello everyone this is camra some of you know me from the chat room, I had a very bad day today and needed to just rant but have on one to talk to so here I go. Can anyone tell me why the strong pick on the weak? Can anyone tell me why disabled people get discriminated agaisnt?&nb...

Marylin · Marylin

My husband of 4 years is in Recovery.. For 3 of the 4 years of our Marriage he had been using Drugs (Crack) and Alcohol. He has been in a Treatment Center 3 times and has "played" at starting AA more times then I can count.. We left him a few weeks ago, I had enough finally.. He tried to cut his wrist, then b...

dogscribe · dogscribe

I've been meaning to start a journal about what I am going through in regards to living with an alcoholic. I'm just kind of "stuck" at how to do it. I'd really like to put down my feelings but I also need to put down what happened or what was said.... do those of you that keep a journal write all t...

browneyes · browneyes

Hello everybody Hope you are all peaceful today. I told you guys I would let you know what me and my husband worked out for chore duty since I will begin working soon. Well that night he came home high and was totally off base about what we had discussed earlier and was in no condition to talk a...

dogscribe · dogscribe

I saw this on another board and thought it would be appropriate here as well. One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son, the battle is between two "wolves" inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, g...

cdb · cdb

If possible could you please let us know how the funeral went. I will be thinking of you all day today. Know that my thoughts and prayers are with you as well as so many from this chatsite. So many here were affected by the love and support that Dadrrb gave us and I know that grieving is hard for online friend...

pixel04 · pixel04

I have historically been a perfectionist. Even things that go perfectly well in and of themselves, I've felt compelled to tweak them because if I did they could be "better." My sponsor talked with me for a long time about the my tendency to stare at the spot on the wall, instead of appreciating the r...

Kim · Kim

Hi all: I think I've been losing ground lately in the sense that I am not having patience with myself or my A. I feel that an online sponsor would be helpful. I have been seeing a lot of my A lately, and I don't know where the relationship is going. We still do not have any physical real...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

yea i need an online sponsor because i need someone to talk to and help me through this pain and loneliness

txmom · txmom

As most of you know, my husband (dadrrb) passed away yesterday. The wonderful words of sympathy and encouragement touched me so much that I shared them with our 14 year old daughter. She's asked me questions about the conversations going one in our room. Did Daddy talk abo...

buzzfree · buzzfree

For those who have not heard, dadrrb1 passed away, 10-23-05. I dont know any specifics right now, will post more when I do... In the time he was here, he touched so many of our lives, with his sense of humor, and his kindness. He will be greatly missed. My prayers go out to you Robert, as you journey int...

April · April

I've only had my sponsor for 2 weeks and i don't think it's working out. I want to ask someone else to sponsor me but I'm not sure what to say to my current sponsor. This is one of my defects for sure, not facing my troubles. I know it needs to be done I just know exactly how to say it, or to at...

bcraindrop70 · bcraindrop70

I do not have a f2f sponsor. How do you go about getting an online sponsor?

Therese · Therese

Hello I am so glad I found this site I need to vent...after I do so it seems I can be more grateful and pay attention to things in my life that need it. I have been struggling with my own character defects which have supported my husbands use. They have been dishonesty (I deny what he is doi...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello All, Well if you read my last post, you know that life is crazy. As always

Anyway- When I got home from work last night I was expexting to be treated coldly by my "A". Well, once again he failed to meet my expectations

He had my some clothes la...

mastiff · mastiff

Hello all, I come to you with very sad news that many of you will feel on a personally level. Daddrrb died this morning. What a horrible disease this is. With Txmom's permission I am posting here asking you all to offer ES&H to her. I know others in here have been where she i...

gardengal · gardengal

If the alcoholic in your life is still actively drinking, learning what not to do is an important part of the program. *Dont treat the alcoholic like a child: you wouldnt if he or she were suffering from some other disease. *Dont check up to see how much the A is drinking. *Dont search for hidden li...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

The wild geese do not intend to cast their reflection; the water has no mind to receive their image. --Zenrin poem There are moments which simply happen through no conscious intention or will on anyone's part. The image of an old woman with a peaceful face, the smell of smoke rising from a chimney o...

nycbt · nycbt

My husband was talking to his father a couple of hours ago. He sounded upset but he wouldn't stay on the phone with me. I hung up and called him 2 hours later and either he was sleeping or he is drunk. Now I have to decide what the next move will be. I can either stay at my parents house an not have all my meds, or g...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Acceptance "And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, situation -- some fact of my life -- unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is s...

Cathy · Cathy

Yes, it IS their problem. I know that. But me..........as a sort of speak sideline sees what goes on. It's so easy for society to judge. Yes.....maybe most of you in here judge me. I will say this once. My A is trying. I know what you're all thinking..."run as fast as you can" "get out" Anyway. the A is reall...

bd · bd

I went to see my parents this weekend. my dad is the A. When i talked to my mom on thurs and let her know I was coming up she said " i'll worn you know he's on a bender". I drove 2 and half hours expecting the usual. I had told my mom that me and the b/f are in the process of splitting up an...

chris52 · chris52

I am new to Al Anon and this is my first posting. I am so grateful to you all for the helpful advice and love shown to me in the chat room.I have felt very isolated since I am English but living in Turkey and there are no resources here to help me. I give thanks to God that at last I have found you as for the last 2 an...

nycbt · nycbt

I would like to thank this person for taking me under her wings and has helped me alot. thanks.

jj · jj

Last week was hard on me emotionally. I have been in a funk and not really moving forward with my program.. I had become an emotionless being... I guess you could call it survival mode. I have this problem with putting up walls to protect myself and my kids. I know that t...

dogscribe · dogscribe

Last night he got drunk again - I feel kind of silly starting that way - of course he di d- that's why we're here right. Anyway- whenever he is drunk somewhere along the line I get what I refer to as "the sex lecture" - how I'm not good enought doing this that or the other thing, or how I make him feel...

TLC2 · TLC2

So sorry to hear of your uncle's passing. Lotsa ((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))) to you and your family. Hang in their my friend, as you said, he is at peace,( but it doesn't make you miss him any less, I know). Think of him in HP's loving care. When my brother died, I went for a walk by myself, and I had a f...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello All, Well as I posted earlier, I am back. I was so happy to be able to come here and post that I am back to the board. This weekend was horrible. My "A" and I fought all weekend. It started over something stupid. We were having problems with the virus scan and I was trying to figure it out. I wa...

lmt123 · lmt123

Hi, everyone... I would like to request prayers for my neice, my sister's daughter. She has been accused of child abuse to her infant daughter, and we don't know if it's true or not. I just found this out this morning from another sister in Indiana. The court hearing is today and t...

Satori · Satori

To everyone: I just need to let you know that I do live in Fort Myers, FL. I have been busy preparing and now waiting for the hit of Hurricane Wilma. I will very likely lose electric, etc. so just know that I have all of you in my thoughts and prayers but I will not be posting or in meetings unti...

nycbt · nycbt

My weekend. SATURDAY: 11:00-5:00 I was with my neice we getting our nails done, rented a kid move. She is about 10 yrs old. 4:30 I call my husband to see where he is an he told me by his friends house. Ok I tell him that I am going to be droping my neice off around 5pm. I drop my neice off at...

Cathy · Cathy

I guess it's because I'm so new here? I read all of your posts and just DON'T know what to say to any of you. I know I'm going through the same things. I know some of us have it worse and some of us might have it a little better but I just don't know what to say. I want to talk to you all. Maybe I need time for myself li...

nycbt · nycbt

For everyone my father is taking care of himself. He is going to his AA meetings which is good. I am glad that he is doing it.He is also going to the out patient program. I am trying to too get my hopes up. I am also hoping by him sobering up maybe he can give me tips on how to deal with my husband who is too a...

dogscribe · dogscribe

Hi I was just wondering if any of you knew any health links - regarding how living with an alcoholic relates to OUR health. Thanks!

Powerless · Powerless

Monday will be three weeks since I have left. I moved to another state with the children. I have got a job and start this week. The kids are enrolled in their new schools and really like them. The big kids are temporarily staying with their dad until I get a place of my own. I even...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, I really need some opinions here. I know rehab is not always the answer, and I know a person has to be ready to accept recovery. While talking to my husband today, as usually he was parroting his Mother, "My Mother doesn't think I have a problem." My Mother says none of this is my fault." My Mother s...

jeannie024 · jeannie024

hi everyone my husband is an alcoholic, but been sober for 5 years, i thought things would get better, but my daughter of 22 is an alcoholic too, she has 2 beautifull children she doesnt look after properly, my husband and i have brought up her oldest, nicole who is 3 and a half, i feel as though im going c...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Become nothing before God, learn to keep silent; in this silence is the beginning, which is first to seek God's kingdom. --Soren Kierkegaard So many devastating things can bring us to our knees. With experience we learn that pain and trouble are part of life. Most of us have fought against everyd...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - October 24 My years in Al-Anon made me aware that I need to be careful about how I hear and interpret certain words. Consider "defects of character" and "shortcomings," which are found in Steps Six and Seven respectively. I came into Al-Anon believing I was responsible for...

bcraindrop70 · bcraindrop70

Well tomorrow is my birthday. A friend took me out for dinner tonight. I know it will become a huge issue with my A. A colleague of his from work saw us and will make a big issue out of nothing. I will have to be on defensive yet again with him. Frankly he had all the opportun...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

I know this is cyberspace but we have to remember many of consider each other family. Just a friendly reminder that we need not repeat what we hear in the chat room anywhere to anyone, especially if we do not not it to be fact! What we say here. stays here and with the same people it was s...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

very confused right now. a came home today and is totally acting like nothing happened. partially cleaned his mess, said he will finish later. yeah right. so i cleaned the bathroom, did my nails and danced to my favorite music. right now i have no feelings about any of this. i dont care what he does. i alm...

Cathy · Cathy

I sit here on this computer feeling so alone at times. B/F is in the livingroom drunk. Yes......what am I doing? I don't know.......................a part of me says "Cathy get the hell out of here." Please, somebody just talk with me?

Cathy · Cathy

I'm really tired of living in a drunken world. I say drunken world because my b/f is my world and drunk most days. When we met I was just as bad. I've seen him burn himself and cut himself. Why do I still love him? Because when he's sober he's the best thing in the world. Anyway.....not sure how long I can do th...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello all! I am back and don't anticipate being gone again like that. Hope you all are doing well. Much Love,

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

In His Own Individual Right (taken from the book Came To Believe) Spirituality is an awakening- or is it all the loose ends woven together into a mellow fabric? It's understanding- or is it all the knowledge one need ever know? It's freedom- If you consider fear slavery. Its confide...

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	I DID GOOD (Preview) I did good thing yesterday. I drove to my parents house and his adult son called me to tell me that he was drunk. I had not talk to my husband since 3 pm, after I found out he called his father. His son called me around 6pm. I went to the doctor and didn't call him until 9pm. So that was 7 HRS. When I wanted t...	nycbt	5	451	Oct 27, 2005 by Karilynn
	Totally confused, frustrated and hurt (Preview) I just read tanderboo’s post about the family afterwards, and sandie’s rely prompted me to ask for some feedback. Quick background, I’m 2 years sober and my marriage didn’t survive sobriety. I couldn’t give my wife what she wanted quickly enough in recovery. We were divorced in August and still...	UncleLou	8	524	Oct 27, 2005 by Karilynn
	for NEWbees a lighthearted look at 12 steps (Preview) people keep asking me public and private, "what are the steps??? really what are they about???" so i kind of did this light hearted short take step 1....i have discovered that my life is unmanageable do to............... i am powerle...	rosie light shines	5	473	Oct 27, 2005 by Barbara
	Anybody know where I can get The Bridge? (Preview) Does anyone know where I can get that analogy of how we cross a bridge sometimes and need to leave people behind......	sanddie	3	488	Oct 27, 2005 by Barbara
	new here (Preview) Just wanted to introduce myself before I headed to bed. I live with an alcoholic husband. He recently had a kidney removed due to cancer. Seems to be that should have been enough for him to turn his life around and cut down on his drinking. But no! When he was out of work recuperating he actually drank more...	Barbara	3	450	Oct 27, 2005 by canadianguy
	this is my story can u help me?? (Preview) Hi, my name is Lauren I am 17 years old, and from the ages of 3 -11. I was sexually molested by my father. I still have nightmares thinking it is still happening. The most frightening thing of all is that he wasnt the only person, when I was 3 years old I was first sexually molested by my neighbor, who was als...	Lauren ashley	10	686	Oct 26, 2005 by Lanchas
	I don't understand why! (Preview) Hi, I haven't posted for a couple of weeks now but have been reading the board just about every day. Again my daughter had another bout with trouble. As I said in earlier post she lost her kids due to her drinking and carelessness. They are with the families who agreed to keep the...	sandy	8	546	Oct 26, 2005 by KathyS
	Why can't my pain go away??? (Preview) Corrupted I am I sit here in sweet surrender Shivering cold and lonely… hypothermia suddenly kicks in I look blue and so thin I am corrupted; I’m not the person you thought I was set out to be I cannot run Sitting here and wondering why makes me think of different ways I want to die ...	Lauren ashley	5	496	Oct 26, 2005 by KathyS
	It's Time.... (Preview) I just wanted to share with everyone who has read my posts over the past couple of weeks in which I have been faced with much hardship in abusive situations with my employer, my daughter, my ex husband..... As some of you know, my doctor has even kept me off work until this coming Monday so th...	sanddie	2	357	Oct 26, 2005 by KathyS
	Thank You.... (Preview) to those of you who responded to my posts the other day. Today is a good day. I'm scrubbing floors and cleaning just to stay busy because I'm off work. Anyway, I'm still reading through alot of the posts and trying to learn. Plus the A hasn't drank in two days. I know you all say to take care of me when you live...	Cathy	2	386	Oct 26, 2005 by tea2
	I am dying inside and torn apart,,,, (Preview) I have learned so much in this program and what tools i have used got thrown out the door today. I got engaged in an argument with my spouse and I took it very personally. I guess he knows when to get me when I am at my lowest. I don't know why I pray to God for a happy/better marriage and then this happens. The&n...	cdb	34	1022	Oct 26, 2005 by Mars
	my nephews, one day at a time (Preview) I have two nephews, my husband's brother's kids (two boys, ages 5 and 7). Last year my brother in law and his wife separated. The boys live with their mother. Their father seems to be pretty torn up by their relationship, isn't taking care of himself, and doesn't have anything to do with his kids, let alo...	pixel04	0	333	Oct 26, 2005 by pixel04
	Trying times need your prayers (Preview) Hello all. My 61 yr old grandmother unexpectedly passed away on Saturday, and her funeral is tomorrow. Now you might think that I need the prayers for the funeral, but I beleive in my HP, so don't think that dying is such a terrible thing. I do, however, think that being in the same room as the mot...	captcodee	8	503	Oct 26, 2005 by Jeannie
	Question and intro (Preview) Hi ya'll, I'm new to these boards, this site was suggested to me by someone in a f2f al-anon group. I'm so glad she directed me here, I'm seeing more of myself as I go through all the posts. Reading through the posts, I keep seeing "esh" mentioned. I've been struggling to figure out just...	FreeOfTheBottle	4	424	Oct 26, 2005 by nycbt
	rant (Preview) Hello everyone this is camra some of you know me from the chat room, I had a very bad day today and needed to just rant but have on one to talk to so here I go. Can anyone tell me why the strong pick on the weak? Can anyone tell me why disabled people get discriminated agaisnt?&nb...	fitone	2	428	Oct 26, 2005 by nycbt
	Scared.. but wants to Trust (Preview) My husband of 4 years is in Recovery.. For 3 of the 4 years of our Marriage he had been using Drugs (Crack) and Alcohol. He has been in a Treatment Center 3 times and has "played" at starting AA more times then I can count.. We left him a few weeks ago, I had enough finally.. He tried to cut his wrist, then b...	Marylin	9	545	Oct 26, 2005 by nycbt
	Journaling questions (Preview) I've been meaning to start a journal about what I am going through in regards to living with an alcoholic. I'm just kind of "stuck" at how to do it. I'd really like to put down my feelings but I also need to put down what happened or what was said.... do those of you that keep a journal write all t...	dogscribe	4	1660	Oct 26, 2005 by nycbt
	Why bother? (Preview) Hello everybody Hope you are all peaceful today. I told you guys I would let you know what me and my husband worked out for chore duty since I will begin working soon. Well that night he came home high and was totally off base about what we had discussed earlier and was in no condition to talk a...	browneyes	7	691	Oct 26, 2005 by nycbt
	Two Wolves (Preview) I saw this on another board and thought it would be appropriate here as well. One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son, the battle is between two "wolves" inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, g...	dogscribe	3	489	Oct 26, 2005 by cidboy
	txmom/daughter (Preview) If possible could you please let us know how the funeral went. I will be thinking of you all day today. Know that my thoughts and prayers are with you as well as so many from this chatsite. So many here were affected by the love and support that Dadrrb gave us and I know that grieving is hard for online friend...	cdb	0	392	Oct 26, 2005 by cdb
	grateful today (Preview) I have historically been a perfectionist. Even things that go perfectly well in and of themselves, I've felt compelled to tweak them because if I did they could be "better." My sponsor talked with me for a long time about the my tendency to stare at the spot on the wall, instead of appreciating the r...	pixel04	4	389	Oct 26, 2005 by cdb
	need an online sponsor (Preview) Hi all: I think I've been losing ground lately in the sense that I am not having patience with myself or my A. I feel that an online sponsor would be helpful. I have been seeing a lot of my A lately, and I don't know where the relationship is going. We still do not have any physical real...	Kim	1	447	Oct 26, 2005 by cdb
	i need an online sponsor (Preview) yea i need an online sponsor because i need someone to talk to and help me through this pain and loneliness	Lauren ashley	1	396	Oct 26, 2005 by notsonew1111
	Hi to All from My Daughter (Preview) As most of you know, my husband (dadrrb) passed away yesterday. The wonderful words of sympathy and encouragement touched me so much that I shared them with our 14 year old daughter. She's asked me questions about the conversations going one in our room. Did Daddy talk abo...	txmom	10	618	Oct 25, 2005 by swolves
	dadrrb1....farewell my friend (Preview) For those who have not heard, dadrrb1 passed away, 10-23-05. I dont know any specifics right now, will post more when I do... In the time he was here, he touched so many of our lives, with his sense of humor, and his kindness. He will be greatly missed. My prayers go out to you Robert, as you journey int...	buzzfree	2	492	Oct 25, 2005 by cdb
	Sponsors (Preview) I've only had my sponsor for 2 weeks and i don't think it's working out. I want to ask someone else to sponsor me but I'm not sure what to say to my current sponsor. This is one of my defects for sure, not facing my troubles. I know it needs to be done I just know exactly how to say it, or to at...	April	6	433	Oct 25, 2005 by April
	How do you get an online sponsor? (Preview) I do not have a f2f sponsor. How do you go about getting an online sponsor?	bcraindrop70	2	388	Oct 25, 2005 by KathyS
	gratitude where are you? (Preview) Hello I am so glad I found this site I need to vent...after I do so it seems I can be more grateful and pay attention to things in my life that need it. I have been struggling with my own character defects which have supported my husbands use. They have been dishonesty (I deny what he is doi...	Therese	6	494	Oct 25, 2005 by Therese
	Calming Down (Preview) Hello All, Well if you read my last post, you know that life is crazy. As always Anyway- When I got home from work last night I was expexting to be treated coldly by my "A". Well, once again he failed to meet my expectations He had my some clothes la...	Dolphin123	2	428	Oct 25, 2005 by pixel04
	One of our A's died NEED ES&H NOW PLEASE (Preview) Hello all, I come to you with very sad news that many of you will feel on a personally level. Daddrrb died this morning. What a horrible disease this is. With Txmom's permission I am posting here asking you all to offer ES&H to her. I know others in here have been where she i...	mastiff	38	1805	Oct 25, 2005 by bubbles1990
	SOME IMPORTANT "DON'TS" (Preview) If the alcoholic in your life is still actively drinking, learning what not to do is an important part of the program. Dont treat the alcoholic like a child: you wouldnt if he or she were suffering from some other disease. Dont check up to see how much the A is drinking. *Dont search for hidden li...	gardengal	7	576	Oct 25, 2005 by bd
	noticing the good now (Preview) *The wild geese do not intend to cast their reflection; the water has no mind to receive their image. --Zenrin poem* There are moments which simply happen through no conscious intention or will on anyone's part. The image of an old woman with a peaceful face, the smell of smoke rising from a chimney o...	rosie light shines	2	458	Oct 25, 2005 by rosie light shines
	NOT AGAIN (Preview) My husband was talking to his father a couple of hours ago. He sounded upset but he wouldn't stay on the phone with me. I hung up and called him 2 hours later and either he was sleeping or he is drunk. Now I have to decide what the next move will be. I can either stay at my parents house an not have all my meds, or g...	nycbt	1	431	Oct 25, 2005 by megan
	ACCEPTANCE....from the AA big book (Preview) Acceptance "And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, situation -- some fact of my life -- unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is s...	rosie light shines	2	535	Oct 25, 2005 by nycbt
	To Diva (Preview) Yes, it IS their problem. I know that. But me..........as a sort of speak sideline sees what goes on. It's so easy for society to judge. Yes.....maybe most of you in here judge me. I will say this once. My A is trying. I know what you're all thinking..."run as fast as you can" "get out" Anyway. the A is reall...	Cathy	4	439	Oct 25, 2005 by nycbt
	The strangest Thing happenned (Preview) I went to see my parents this weekend. my dad is the A. When i talked to my mom on thurs and let her know I was coming up she said " i'll worn you know he's on a bender". I drove 2 and half hours expecting the usual. I had told my mom that me and the b/f are in the process of splitting up an...	bd	7	571	Oct 25, 2005 by nycbt
	Letting Go (Preview) I am new to Al Anon and this is my first posting. I am so grateful to you all for the helpful advice and love shown to me in the chat room.I have felt very isolated since I am English but living in Turkey and there are no resources here to help me. I give thanks to God that at last I have found you as for the last 2 an...	chris52	7	551	Oct 25, 2005 by nycbt
	i would like to thank my online sponsor (Preview) I would like to thank this person for taking me under her wings and has helped me alot. thanks.	nycbt	0	347	Oct 25, 2005 by nycbt
	emotions (Preview) Last week was hard on me emotionally. I have been in a funk and not really moving forward with my program.. I had become an emotionless being... I guess you could call it survival mode. I have this problem with putting up walls to protect myself and my kids. I know that t...	jj	2	434	Oct 25, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Do I Let Things Go too easily (Preview) Last night he got drunk again - I feel kind of silly starting that way - of course he di d- that's why we're here right. Anyway- whenever he is drunk somewhere along the line I get what I refer to as "the sex lecture" - how I'm not good enought doing this that or the other thing, or how I make him feel...	dogscribe	8	896	Oct 25, 2005 by leo
	Sympathy to jj (Preview) So sorry to hear of your uncle's passing. Lotsa ((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))) to you and your family. Hang in their my friend, as you said, he is at peace,( but it doesn't make you miss him any less, I know). Think of him in HP's loving care. When my brother died, I went for a walk by myself, and I had a f...	TLC2	2	453	Oct 25, 2005 by jj
	Can life ever be easy? (Preview) Hello All, Well as I posted earlier, I am back. I was so happy to be able to come here and post that I am back to the board. This weekend was horrible. My "A" and I fought all weekend. It started over something stupid. We were having problems with the virus scan and I was trying to figure it out. I wa...	Dolphin123	3	613	Oct 25, 2005 by cdb
	prayer request.... (Preview) Hi, everyone... I would like to request prayers for my neice, my sister's daughter. She has been accused of child abuse to her infant daughter, and we don't know if it's true or not. I just found this out this morning from another sister in Indiana. The court hearing is today and t...	lmt123	8	500	Oct 24, 2005 by notsonew1111
	Bracing for Hurricane Wilma.... (Preview) To everyone: I just need to let you know that I do live in Fort Myers, FL. I have been busy preparing and now waiting for the hit of Hurricane Wilma. I will very likely lose electric, etc. so just know that I have all of you in my thoughts and prayers but I will not be posting or in meetings unti...	Satori	9	779	Oct 24, 2005 by Flora123
	NOt thinking (Preview) My weekend. SATURDAY: 11:00-5:00 I was with my neice we getting our nails done, rented a kid move. She is about 10 yrs old. 4:30 I call my husband to see where he is an he told me by his friends house. Ok I tell him that I am going to be droping my neice off around 5pm. I drop my neice off at...	nycbt	3	426	Oct 24, 2005 by Flora123
	I just don't know what to say (Preview) I guess it's because I'm so new here? I read all of your posts and just DON'T know what to say to any of you. I know I'm going through the same things. I know some of us have it worse and some of us might have it a little better but I just don't know what to say. I want to talk to you all. Maybe I need time for myself li...	Cathy	8	725	Oct 24, 2005 by Princess
	MY DAD (Preview) For everyone my father is taking care of himself. He is going to his AA meetings which is good. I am glad that he is doing it.He is also going to the out patient program. I am trying to too get my hopes up. I am also hoping by him sobering up maybe he can give me tips on how to deal with my husband who is too a...	nycbt	4	452	Oct 24, 2005 by Karilynn
	Health Links (Preview) Hi I was just wondering if any of you knew any health links - regarding how living with an alcoholic relates to OUR health. Thanks!	dogscribe	3	466	Oct 24, 2005 by Karilynn
	I moved out!!! (Preview) Monday will be three weeks since I have left. I moved to another state with the children. I have got a job and start this week. The kids are enrolled in their new schools and really like them. The big kids are temporarily staying with their dad until I get a place of my own. I even...	Powerless	14	912	Oct 24, 2005 by tea2
	Lead a horse to water (Preview) Hi, I really need some opinions here. I know rehab is not always the answer, and I know a person has to be ready to accept recovery. While talking to my husband today, as usually he was parroting his Mother, "My Mother doesn't think I have a problem." My Mother says none of this is my fault." My Mother s...	Jeannie	14	637	Oct 24, 2005 by Jeannie
	cant cope (Preview) hi everyone my husband is an alcoholic, but been sober for 5 years, i thought things would get better, but my daughter of 22 is an alcoholic too, she has 2 beautifull children she doesnt look after properly, my husband and i have brought up her oldest, nicole who is 3 and a half, i feel as though im going c...	jeannie024	5	496	Oct 24, 2005 by bd
	i had to become nothing first (Preview) *Become nothing before God, learn to keep silent; in this silence is the beginning, which is first to seek God's kingdom. --Soren Kierkegaard* So many devastating things can bring us to our knees. With experience we learn that pain and trouble are part of life. Most of us have fought against everyd...	rosie light shines	0	584	Oct 24, 2005 by rosie light shines
	inventory doesn't have to be a beheading (Preview) Hope for Today - October 24 My years in Al-Anon made me aware that I need to be careful about how I hear and interpret certain words. Consider "defects of character" and "shortcomings," which are found in Steps Six and Seven respectively. I came into Al-Anon believing I was responsible for...	rosie light shines	0	492	Oct 24, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Not having a good night (Preview) Well tomorrow is my birthday. A friend took me out for dinner tonight. I know it will become a huge issue with my A. A colleague of his from work saw us and will make a big issue out of nothing. I will have to be on defensive yet again with him. Frankly he had all the opportun...	bcraindrop70	7	734	Oct 24, 2005 by nycbt
	others feelings (Preview) I know this is cyberspace but we have to remember many of consider each other family. Just a friendly reminder that we need not repeat what we hear in the chat room anywhere to anyone, especially if we do not not it to be fact! What we say here. stays here and with the same people it was s...	jrtjosey	6	773	Oct 24, 2005 by nycbt
	did nothing happen? (Preview) very confused right now. a came home today and is totally acting like nothing happened. partially cleaned his mess, said he will finish later. yeah right. so i cleaned the bathroom, did my nails and danced to my favorite music. right now i have no feelings about any of this. i dont care what he does. i alm...	notsonew1111	4	617	Oct 24, 2005 by nycbt
	Sometimes we feel so alone (Preview) I sit here on this computer feeling so alone at times. B/F is in the livingroom drunk. Yes......what am I doing? I don't know.......................a part of me says "Cathy get the hell out of here." Please, somebody just talk with me?	Cathy	10	604	Oct 24, 2005 by nycbt
	I need to vent (Preview) I'm really tired of living in a drunken world. I say drunken world because my b/f is my world and drunk most days. When we met I was just as bad. I've seen him burn himself and cut himself. Why do I still love him? Because when he's sober he's the best thing in the world. Anyway.....not sure how long I can do th...	Cathy	10	756	Oct 24, 2005 by nycbt
	Back Again (Preview) Hello all! I am back and don't anticipate being gone again like that. Hope you all are doing well. Much Love,	Dolphin123	5	604	Oct 24, 2005 by nycbt
	spirituality (Preview) In His Own Individual Right (taken from the book Came To Believe) Spirituality is an awakening- or is it all the loose ends woven together into a mellow fabric? It's understanding- or is it all the knowledge one need ever know? It's freedom- If you consider fear slavery. Its confide...	notsonew1111	0	659	Oct 24, 2005 by notsonew1111
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