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rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Clear Thinking Strive for clear thinking. Many of us have had our thinking clouded by denial. Some of us have even lost faith in ourselves because we've spent a degree of time in denial. But losing faith in our thinking isn't going to help us. What we need to lose faith in is denial.We didn't resort t...

cdb · cdb

If I didn't have you guys, I would surely maybe cease to exist. Sad but true. You are my lifeline and so far have never failed me. Maybe a person with chronic pain and depression shouldn't be here at his chatroom but here I am. I am going to attend a 5 week mental health program starting wednesday to h...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Can You Feel My Pain? I’m in my room lying on my bed There are so many thoughts running through my head I wipe the tears running down I ask God why and frown I go to my drawer and get the knife God’s tells me please don’t take your life I shut the door and close my eyes Sudden...

sandie123 · sandie123

You know what I am sick and tired of??? *the fact that my husband, my A, can go out and do whatever / whenever he wants without any regard to our kids or me *the fact that he can go out and get drunk to get away from his problems *the fact that I have to do EVERYTHING around this house to make it run *th...

nycbt · nycbt

It might seem alittle silly to talk about this but I set up my first boundary. Yesterday this girl wanted to order Chinese I said ok and then when we were figuring it all out she did not include the tip. I ask her why she didn't want to give a tip so she said they earn money why should she pay. So I thought it over...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - October 29 Before I came into Al-Anon, I took disparagingcomments to heart. I believed them and found myself wondering what was wrong with me. Even asI became older, I carried inside the person who grew up with alcoholic parents and endured the abuse that accompanied the disease. A...

Donna · Donna

Hi, I have come to the point where I just need to get out of my marriage. I'm 48 yrs. old and have 2 children at home, ages 13 and 7, boys. My husband & I have been married for 16 yrs. He is an alcohol & in the past (as far as I know, a drug abuser-coke & pot. He has been of...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Hi roomies! Just a friendly reminder that for all of those who are DAYLIGHT SAVINGS TIME, don't forget to set your clocks back 1 hour before you turn in for the night. We all get an extra hour of sleep

tonight. Enjoy the extra hour. What this does to the chat room times, I have no idea. I still ha...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

My differentiate World I live in a world that is different from yours We live and think differently I am an extrovert and you sit all alone introverted We are so diverse yet so linked together We are like one person with multiple personalities We see each other as differ...

chrissy · chrissy

i had this really freaky dream my wedding band was broken and distorted my husband swears he was faithful now i am not so sure do any of you believe in dreams? years ago when i was with my ex i went to visit my sick grandmother & i had a dream he cheated on me and later i found out he did. i know i sound c...

megan · megan

Last night I went to a different face to face meeting. I met my friend (we met on MIP) and we went to dinner and then to her regular meeting. What a difference from my regular meeting. People were more open, shared more, and actually laughed. It was refreshing. The best part was before my f...

UncleLou · UncleLou

I thought I was OK with the divorce. I didn’t like it, never wanted it, but was beginning to accept it. Then she hit me with the tears and sadness about how she screwed things up, she’s so sorry for the way she treated me and the things she did, she didn’t understand till recently what I was going through i...

nycbt · nycbt

Yesterday moring wasn't so great but it turn into a good night though. My friend came down and we had dinner and went to a meeting. My husband went to his first AA meeting since August or July. So it turned out to be a good day.

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

You are reading from the book Food for Thought </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=33>. Food Is Not Home Breaking abstinence may be an attempt to go home emotionally. Since we associate food, and especially certain foods, with early experience, we may turn to food when we crave th...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

My Own Life Living a lie is how I live Trust no one unless an issue they give I live in my own little world I have been hurt more than you can imagine, or even care People don’t understand, and look and me and just stare I pray to my angel up above to take me home because I feel so alone Wi...

ditto · ditto

I had take-away Chinese food tonight. My fortune cookie said: "God will help you overcome any difficulty". I have been eating Chinese Food for 40 years and never found a religious message in one before. This is just a little too wierd for me!

Mars · Mars

my partner asked in a very caring manner would you like to veiw your post`s . i thought he was being sweet and lovely. NO he just wanted me to read his post on the A.A. site . he is such a attention seeker. his post was very well written!!!, although a bit random. he also recived a phone call from a chap in A.A. w...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello Roomies, I got this at work hope it gives you a giggle, this is not meant to upset anyone. (On September 17, 1994, Alabama's Heather Whitestone was selected as Miss America 1995.) Question: If you could live forever, would you and why? Answer: "I would not...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

* Your fences need to be horse-high, pig-tight and bull-strong. * Keep skunks and bankers and lawyers at a distance. * Life is simpler when you plow around the stump. * A bumble bee is considerably faster than a John Deere tractor. * Words that soak into your ea...

searchingforself · searchingforself

Hi all. I've been lurking here for a while, but this is my first post. I really need a voice of reason. I need someone to tell me to get a grip. Here's my problem: I'm the wife of a recovering alcoholic. He's been sober for three years now. He's heavily involved in AA. He's so heavily involved in AA that I fe...

nmike · nmike

How do you talk to an A? My husband hasn't drank in 20 years so I am pretty sure that he is sober. He has chosen to "amputate" the relationship. I just can't talk to him on any level. We still have mutual finances, possessions, etc. He at first said that he didn't want to have anything to do with me for a year. N...

sanddie · sanddie

I came across this on the internet and wanted to share it with everyone... "God, what do you mean to be still and know you are God?" My child, what I mean is: Though the earth be removed, Though the waters thereof roar and be troubled, Though the mountains shake with swelling, Though the win...

tandrboo · tandrboo

Hi everyone and thank you for taking the time to read my post. I'm 33 years old, happily married for 14 years (nov 1) , together almost 19. My husband and I have 3 children. Today is his 6th month anniversary in recovery and I'm more proud of him than you can imagine. However, there is something that I am h...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi Megan, You always seem to be bale to answer the question on how Isabella is doing, and I am curious. How is she doing? Send her our love, please. And thank you for playing messenger, I am grateful that she is able to have you as a becaon of alanon hope. Much Love,

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

My life as A prisoner I live my life as a prisoner, and I cannot escape I’m trapped inside myself With no where to go no where to hide I don’t know how many nights I screamed and cried Nobody seems to ever care I’m all alone once again Everything is so serene Silence is murdering m...

Barbara · Barbara

is there a way i can set the default to always show me posts in the order they were modified? So most current replies are near the top of the page?

Powerless · Powerless

It hurts so bad to know that people I considered friends and my mother-in-law are talking about me behind my back. I called her and confronted her tonight and she said she thought it was horrible to leave the way I did (while my husband was at work and the baby was at the beach with the in-laws).&nbs...

Barbara · Barbara

OK so we're suppose to let "them" figure things out for themselves, make their own mistakes, etc - but what happens when it affects the family? Before DH was out for 8wks recuperating (from kidney removal) he had been calling in sick (maybe once a month) on Fridays due to overdrinking (he wont admit tha...

Barbara · Barbara

Boy does my alcoholic husband love playing them. How do I not fall victim?

Powerless · Powerless

I read a book last week by James Frey titled, A Million Little Pieces. He was an addict/alcoholic and jouraled his rehab experience. It helped so much to see addiction from another point of view. I saw him today on Oprak and I think he has been wonderfully successful with his recove...

Barbara · Barbara

A friend heard that I joined Curves, joined Church and went to an Al-Anon meeting. She invited me for a Girls Weekend away to chill. I'll enjoy the time shopping, having lunch out, chatting, etc. We're leaving Fri at noontime and returning Sun morn (told her I want to be back in time for Church). DH wil...

cdb · cdb

It isn't an easy journey! My daughter seems to be doing well even though she is living with her now out of prison newest boyfriend who was in prison for 3 years for intervenious drugs,,,grrrr. Trying not to make that my issue. Thank god she doens't bring him to the house. HIs dad and brother...

bd · bd

I was wondering if anyone else even though your not daily involved with an Active A still suffers from nightmares and images that pop into your head as memories of events. I know it is often referred to as post traumatic disorder. Sometimes I'm just sitting watching tv or driving home and...

Barbara · Barbara

Im starting to recognize a few of the same names on posts, etc.

marmare · marmare

Hi Everyone!!!! I have read some posts but am still behind, the ones I have read seems everyone is working hard at taking care of themselves!!!!

This last week has been interesting. My A came home on the 16th with certain conditions. I feel comfortable with the decisi...

Barbara · Barbara

as I know its not helping DS Everytime DH begins drinking I say to DS "well your father is at it again" His response "Yes, Mom I know" I know I need to act like the adult here. DS knows whats going on without me making it blatent.

Barbara · Barbara

Recently joined Curves - didnt tell A till the next day. Recently joined another Church - again didnt tell A till the next day Went to an Al-Anon meeting but told A I went shopping. Well I cant keep "shopping" every week for 3hours! How do I tell him Im going to Al-Anon? (and why are those meetings alwa...

tea2 · tea2

Hello -I am asking if someone would fill in for me for this Friday's am meeting (10/28) I have a doctors appointment at this exact time and will be unable to do it. Thank you to whoever will be able to fill in. Apologize for this inconvenience, I only found out now. Tea2

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Problems have only the size and the power that you give them. --S. H. We will not be free from all difficulties today, or during any period of our lives. But we have the personal power to eliminate the threat, the sting of any challenge. But it's our vision of circumstances that gives them their inte...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello all, I have been struggling this week because I have plans this weekend that don't include my family. All weekend. I am attending an alanon function on Saturday. Sunday I am going to a frineds house because she is having some sort of party were you get to try lotions and perfumes and stuff like th...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Hi roomies! For any of you who have not been to: www.hazeldon.org it's worth a look. Sign up for the daily gift. Some of them are quite remarkable. This was today's. Hope you like it. "Life Make each day count! Give yourself to everydawn of renewed hope. Look for love, forgiveness, and right...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Subject: Meditation: A Resting Place Daily Reflections, page 137 After writing down my character defects, I was unwilling to talk about them, and decided it was time to stop carrying this burden alone. I needed to confess those defects to someone else... Step Five provided m...

nycbt · nycbt

Yesterday I came home and my husband didn't seem right. He was acting funny. He was talking funny well any way, after a while his adult son and I had enough of this behavior. He didn't know where he was and stuff like that. I end up calling my online sponsor. In the mean time I was like baby sitting him, it rea...

Barbara · Barbara

every week Im pouring 16 oz (from 1/2gal bottle) of vodka down the sink and replacing his bottle with water. Been doing this for lets say about 10yrs now. He's never questioned me - how can he not know? We have a now 13yr at home. When he was little I wouldnt want him home w/Dad drinking. At least this way I wo...

Cathy · Cathy

And that is to try and take care of me. So I'm learning. I'm taking baby steps. My A is very important to me. My A is difficult. My A is my source of income. My A USED to be my life. I'm so confused now. Society thinks life is so easy. "Oh just move out and leave." Well it's not. I don't know. Can someone enlighten...

jeannie024 · jeannie024

hi thank you for your support, its really appriated, i feel a bit better tonight. many thanks jean take care

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Abstaining from Harmful Relationships Habit sometimes locks us into relationships, which are not in our best interest. It is easy to mistake dependency for love. When we stop overeating compulsively, we can evaluate our attachments to other people with greater clarity and perception than w...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Emotional Sobriety "If we examine every disturbance we have, great or small, we will find at the root of it some unhealthy dependency and its consequent unhealthy demand. Let us, with God's help, continually surrender these hobbling liabilities. Then we can be set free to live and love; we may then b...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Whoever is happy will make others happy, too. --Anne Frank Anne Frank had good reason to be unhappy, full of fear, and deeply discouraged. Years of her life were spent in a small apartment hiding from the Nazis who wanted to destroy her and her family. Yet even in this little hiding place she had hap...

nycbt · nycbt

I WOULD LIKE TO THANK TWO IMPORTANT PEOPLE HERE ONLINE LUCY AND MEGAN FOR ALL THERE HELP.

Barbara · Barbara

for about 6wks during Advent. Once Christmas arrived I stopped going to Church. Now that I joined a different Catholic Church Im going for the AA aspect too, not just the Christmas season. I believe the pastor is a recovering alcoholic. He works at a rehab also. His sermons speak sometimes of alcoho...

Mars · Mars

i am a great believer in a bit of planning. my partner has done so well 54 days sober . but the christmas season of party`s will be with us soon. we have been out a few times .he has been tempted but has resisted so far but alcohol is a cunning seducer that calls. And we have a few social/ work party`s to go too. i...

Jeannie · Jeannie

my Mom sent this in an email today, thought you might all enjoy it. Love Jeannie Ride the Train Some folks ride the train of life Looking out the rear, Watching miles of life roll by, And marking every year. They sit in sad remembrance, Of wasted days gone by, And curse their life for w...

sandie123 · sandie123

Lately it seems like no matter what kind of mood I am in when I go to a face to face meeting I come out feeling really crappy. I am no longer able to talk in the meetings and by the end I am sooo ready to high tail it out of there. After the meetings I am usually light headed and woozy. This week I started shaking, I...

sandie123 · sandie123

How do you detach with love from an active alcoholic who and living in your house? I don't get it.

Any ESH would be appreciated! Thanks~ Linda

nycbt · nycbt

I did good thing yesterday. I drove to my parents house and his adult son called me to tell me that he was drunk. I had not talk to my husband since 3 pm, after I found out he called his father. His son called me around 6pm. I went to the doctor and didn't call him until 9pm. So that was 7 HRS. When I wanted t...

UncleLou · UncleLou

I just read tanderboo’s post about the family afterwards, and sandie’s rely prompted me to ask for some feedback. Quick background, I’m 2 years sober and my marriage didn’t survive sobriety. I couldn’t give my wife what she wanted quickly enough in recovery. We were divorced in August and still...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

people keep asking me public and private, "what are the steps??? really what are they about???" so i kind of did this light hearted *short take* step 1....i have discovered that my life is unmanageable do to............... i am powerle...

sanddie · sanddie

Does anyone know where I can get that analogy of how we cross a bridge sometimes and need to leave people behind......

Barbara · Barbara

Just wanted to introduce myself before I headed to bed. I live with an alcoholic husband. He recently had a kidney removed due to cancer. Seems to be that should have been enough for him to turn his life around and cut down on his drinking. But no! When he was out of work recuperating he actually drank more...

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	i shall begin again and again (Preview) Clear Thinking Strive for clear thinking. Many of us have had our thinking clouded by denial. Some of us have even lost faith in ourselves because we've spent a degree of time in denial. But losing faith in our thinking isn't going to help us. What we need to lose faith in is denial.We didn't resort t...	rosie light shines	0	622	Oct 29, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Thanks for being here for me :) (Preview) If I didn't have you guys, I would surely maybe cease to exist. Sad but true. You are my lifeline and so far have never failed me. Maybe a person with chronic pain and depression shouldn't be here at his chatroom but here I am. I am going to attend a 5 week mental health program starting wednesday to h...	cdb	11	921	Oct 29, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Read this its my poems (Preview) Can You Feel My Pain? I’m in my room lying on my bed There are so many thoughts running through my head I wipe the tears running down I ask God why and frown I go to my drawer and get the knife God’s tells me please don’t take your life I shut the door and close my eyes Sudden...	Lauren ashley	5	869	Oct 29, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Sick and Tired (Preview) You know what I am sick and tired of??? the fact that my husband, my A, can go out and do whatever / whenever he wants without any regard to our kids or me the fact that he can go out and get drunk to get away from his problems the fact that I have to do EVERYTHING around this house to make it run th...	sandie123	9	1012	Oct 29, 2005 by rosie light shines
	my first boundary (Preview) It might seem alittle silly to talk about this but I set up my first boundary. Yesterday this girl wanted to order Chinese I said ok and then when we were figuring it all out she did not include the tip. I ask her why she didn't want to give a tip so she said they earn money why should she pay. So I thought it over...	nycbt	7	687	Oct 29, 2005 by rosie light shines
	detaching...regrouping (Preview) Hope for Today - October 29 Before I came into Al-Anon, I took disparagingcomments to heart. I believed them and found myself wondering what was wrong with me. Even asI became older, I carried inside the person who grew up with alcoholic parents and endured the abuse that accompanied the disease. A...	rosie light shines	0	806	Oct 29, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Where do I start? (Preview) Hi, I have come to the point where I just need to get out of my marriage. I'm 48 yrs. old and have 2 children at home, ages 13 and 7, boys. My husband & I have been married for 16 yrs. He is an alcohol & in the past (as far as I know, a drug abuser-coke & pot. He has been of...	Donna	10	735	Oct 29, 2005 by KathyS
	Friendly reminder (Preview) Hi roomies! Just a friendly reminder that for all of those who are DAYLIGHT SAVINGS TIME, don't forget to set your clocks back 1 hour before you turn in for the night. We all get an extra hour of sleep tonight. Enjoy the extra hour. What this does to the chat room times, I have no idea. I still ha...	Karilynn	3	881	Oct 29, 2005 by Diva
	Its my life not yours (Preview) My differentiate World I live in a world that is different from yours We live and think differently I am an extrovert and you sit all alone introverted We are so diverse yet so linked together We are like one person with multiple personalities We see each other as differ...	Lauren ashley	7	876	Oct 29, 2005 by TLC2
	this is going to sound nuts (Preview) i had this really freaky dream my wedding band was broken and distorted my husband swears he was faithful now i am not so sure do any of you believe in dreams? years ago when i was with my ex i went to visit my sick grandmother & i had a dream he cheated on me and later i found out he did. i know i sound c...	chrissy	11	1042	Oct 29, 2005 by chrissy
	Growth and Gratitude (Preview) Last night I went to a different face to face meeting. I met my friend (we met on MIP) and we went to dinner and then to her regular meeting. What a difference from my regular meeting. People were more open, shared more, and actually laughed. It was refreshing. The best part was before my f...	megan	13	1068	Oct 29, 2005 by cdb
	I really need help dealing with this (Preview) I thought I was OK with the divorce. I didn’t like it, never wanted it, but was beginning to accept it. Then she hit me with the tears and sadness about how she screwed things up, she’s so sorry for the way she treated me and the things she did, she didn’t understand till recently what I was going through i...	UncleLou	11	784	Oct 29, 2005 by cdb
	YESTERDAY (Preview) Yesterday moring wasn't so great but it turn into a good night though. My friend came down and we had dinner and went to a meeting. My husband went to his first AA meeting since August or July. So it turned out to be a good day.	nycbt	8	908	Oct 29, 2005 by cdb
	sucky day!!! NEED hugs/ encouragment (Preview) You are reading from the book Food for Thought </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=33>. Food Is Not Home Breaking abstinence may be an attempt to go home emotionally. Since we associate food, and especially certain foods, with early experience, we may turn to food when we crave th...	rosie light shines	5	652	Oct 29, 2005 by cdb
	MOre POems of MIne (Preview) My Own Life Living a lie is how I live Trust no one unless an issue they give I live in my own little world I have been hurt more than you can imagine, or even care People don’t understand, and look and me and just stare I pray to my angel up above to take me home because I feel so alone Wi...	Lauren ashley	4	907	Oct 28, 2005 by KathyS
	Fortune Cookie (Preview) I had take-away Chinese food tonight. My fortune cookie said: "God will help you overcome any difficulty". I have been eating Chinese Food for 40 years and never found a religious message in one before. This is just a little too wierd for me!	ditto	5	673	Oct 28, 2005 by jrtjosey
	it`s all about him (Preview) my partner asked in a very caring manner would you like to veiw your post`s . i thought he was being sweet and lovely. NO he just wanted me to read his post on the A.A. site . he is such a attention seeker. his post was very well written!!!, although a bit random. he also recived a phone call from a chap in A.A. w...	Mars	2	810	Oct 28, 2005 by TLC2
	Brain Cramps (Preview) Hello Roomies, I got this at work hope it gives you a giggle, this is not meant to upset anyone. (On September 17, 1994, Alabama's Heather Whitestone was selected as Miss America 1995.) Question: If you could live forever, would you and why? Answer: "I would not...	Dolphin123	4	877	Oct 28, 2005 by Dolphin123
	The Old Farmers Advice (Preview) * Your fences need to be horse-high, pig-tight and bull-strong. * Keep skunks and bankers and lawyers at a distance. * Life is simpler when you plow around the stump. * A bumble bee is considerably faster than a John Deere tractor. * Words that soak into your ea...	kismetstrand	3	627	Oct 28, 2005 by Dolphin123
	I need a voice of reason (Preview) Hi all. I've been lurking here for a while, but this is my first post. I really need a voice of reason. I need someone to tell me to get a grip. Here's my problem: I'm the wife of a recovering alcoholic. He's been sober for three years now. He's heavily involved in AA. He's so heavily involved in AA that I fe...	searchingforself	7	1039	Oct 28, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Talking to your A (Preview) How do you talk to an A? My husband hasn't drank in 20 years so I am pretty sure that he is sober. He has chosen to "amputate" the relationship. I just can't talk to him on any level. We still have mutual finances, possessions, etc. He at first said that he didn't want to have anything to do with me for a year. N...	nmike	6	911	Oct 28, 2005 by Princess
	Be Still, And Know That I Am God (Preview) I came across this on the internet and wanted to share it with everyone... "God, what do you mean to be still and know you are God?" My child, what I mean is: Though the earth be removed, Though the waters thereof roar and be troubled, Though the mountains shake with swelling, Though the win...	sanddie	4	684	Oct 28, 2005 by notsonew1111
	My family afterwards... (Preview) Hi everyone and thank you for taking the time to read my post. I'm 33 years old, happily married for 14 years (nov 1) , together almost 19. My husband and I have 3 children. Today is his 6th month anniversary in recovery and I'm more proud of him than you can imagine. However, there is something that I am h...	tandrboo	16	882	Oct 28, 2005 by SweetJill
	Megan I have a question. (Preview) Hi Megan, You always seem to be bale to answer the question on how Isabella is doing, and I am curious. How is she doing? Send her our love, please. And thank you for playing messenger, I am grateful that she is able to have you as a becaon of alanon hope. Much Love,	Dolphin123	4	829	Oct 28, 2005 by Dolphin123
	My poems (Preview) My life as A prisoner I live my life as a prisoner, and I cannot escape I’m trapped inside myself With no where to go no where to hide I don’t know how many nights I screamed and cried Nobody seems to ever care I’m all alone once again Everything is so serene Silence is murdering m...	Lauren ashley	4	834	Oct 28, 2005 by nycbt
	setting default on message board (Preview) is there a way i can set the default to always show me posts in the order they were modified? So most current replies are near the top of the page?	Barbara	4	848	Oct 28, 2005 by kitty
	It hurts so bad (Preview) It hurts so bad to know that people I considered friends and my mother-in-law are talking about me behind my back. I called her and confronted her tonight and she said she thought it was horrible to leave the way I did (while my husband was at work and the baby was at the beach with the in-laws).&nbs...	Powerless	4	868	Oct 27, 2005 by Jeannie
	Finances (Preview) OK so we're suppose to let "them" figure things out for themselves, make their own mistakes, etc - but what happens when it affects the family? Before DH was out for 8wks recuperating (from kidney removal) he had been calling in sick (maybe once a month) on Fridays due to overdrinking (he wont admit tha...	Barbara	5	639	Oct 27, 2005 by Jeannie
	Mind Games (Preview) Boy does my alcoholic husband love playing them. How do I not fall victim?	Barbara	3	661	Oct 27, 2005 by Jeannie
	Read a book By James Frey (Preview) I read a book last week by James Frey titled, A Million Little Pieces. He was an addict/alcoholic and jouraled his rehab experience. It helped so much to see addiction from another point of view. I saw him today on Oprak and I think he has been wonderfully successful with his recove...	Powerless	5	919	Oct 27, 2005 by gardengal
	leaving DS in Gods hands - going away for wknd (Preview) A friend heard that I joined Curves, joined Church and went to an Al-Anon meeting. She invited me for a Girls Weekend away to chill. I'll enjoy the time shopping, having lunch out, chatting, etc. We're leaving Fri at noontime and returning Sun morn (told her I want to be back in time for Church). DH wil...	Barbara	7	826	Oct 27, 2005 by canadianguy
	This program works if you work it but..... (Preview) It isn't an easy journey! My daughter seems to be doing well even though she is living with her now out of prison newest boyfriend who was in prison for 3 years for intervenious drugs,,,grrrr. Trying not to make that my issue. Thank god she doens't bring him to the house. HIs dad and brother...	cdb	8	738	Oct 27, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Do you believe in Post Traumatic (Preview) I was wondering if anyone else even though your not daily involved with an Active A still suffers from nightmares and images that pop into your head as memories of events. I know it is often referred to as post traumatic disorder. Sometimes I'm just sitting watching tv or driving home and...	bd	8	750	Oct 27, 2005 by SashaBear
	who are the most experienced names on this message board? (Preview) Im starting to recognize a few of the same names on posts, etc.	Barbara	6	716	Oct 27, 2005 by canadianguy
	update (Preview) Hi Everyone!!!! I have read some posts but am still behind, the ones I have read seems everyone is working hard at taking care of themselves!!!! This last week has been interesting. My A came home on the 16th with certain conditions. I feel comfortable with the decisi...	marmare	5	695	Oct 27, 2005 by Karilynn
	pls help me stop complaining about DH to DS (Preview) as I know its not helping DS Everytime DH begins drinking I say to DS "well your father is at it again" His response "Yes, Mom I know" I know I need to act like the adult here. DS knows whats going on without me making it blatent.	Barbara	5	876	Oct 27, 2005 by lin0606
	how do you let your A know youre going to Al-Anon? (Preview) Recently joined Curves - didnt tell A till the next day. Recently joined another Church - again didnt tell A till the next day Went to an Al-Anon meeting but told A I went shopping. Well I cant keep "shopping" every week for 3hours! How do I tell him Im going to Al-Anon? (and why are those meetings alwa...	Barbara	6	784	Oct 27, 2005 by Jeannie
	Online chair needed for Friday AM (10/28) (Preview) Hello -I am asking if someone would fill in for me for this Friday's am meeting (10/28) I have a doctors appointment at this exact time and will be unable to do it. Thank you to whoever will be able to fill in. Apologize for this inconvenience, I only found out now. Tea2	tea2	2	777	Oct 27, 2005 by tea2
	mountains or mole hills? (Preview) *Problems have only the size and the power that you give them. --S. H.* We will not be free from all difficulties today, or during any period of our lives. But we have the personal power to eliminate the threat, the sting of any challenge. But it's our vision of circumstances that gives them their inte...	rosie light shines	1	778	Oct 27, 2005 by Barbara
	Feeling good (Preview) Hello all, I have been struggling this week because I have plans this weekend that don't include my family. All weekend. I am attending an alanon function on Saturday. Sunday I am going to a frineds house because she is having some sort of party were you get to try lotions and perfumes and stuff like th...	Dolphin123	3	799	Oct 27, 2005 by browneyes
	Life (Preview) Hi roomies! For any of you who have not been to: www.hazeldon.org it's worth a look. Sign up for the daily gift. Some of them are quite remarkable. This was today's. Hope you like it. "Life Make each day count! Give yourself to everydawn of renewed hope. Look for love, forgiveness, and right...	Karilynn	4	908	Oct 27, 2005 by browneyes
	i am sad today...another grief cycle (Preview) Subject: Meditation: A Resting Place Daily Reflections, page 137 After writing down my character defects, I was unwilling to talk about them, and decided it was time to stop carrying this burden alone. I needed to confess those defects to someone else... Step Five provided m...	rosie light shines	2	975	Oct 27, 2005 by browneyes
	GOT HELP (Preview) Yesterday I came home and my husband didn't seem right. He was acting funny. He was talking funny well any way, after a while his adult son and I had enough of this behavior. He didn't know where he was and stuff like that. I end up calling my online sponsor. In the mean time I was like baby sitting him, it rea...	nycbt	3	808	Oct 27, 2005 by Dolphin123
	I pour his booze down the sink (Preview) every week Im pouring 16 oz (from 1/2gal bottle) of vodka down the sink and replacing his bottle with water. Been doing this for lets say about 10yrs now. He's never questioned me - how can he not know? We have a now 13yr at home. When he was little I wouldnt want him home w/Dad drinking. At least this way I wo...	Barbara	8	1762	Oct 27, 2005 by rosie light shines
	I think I've learned One thing (Preview) And that is to try and take care of me. So I'm learning. I'm taking baby steps. My A is very important to me. My A is difficult. My A is my source of income. My A USED to be my life. I'm so confused now. Society thinks life is so easy. "Oh just move out and leave." Well it's not. I don't know. Can someone enlighten...	Cathy	8	808	Oct 27, 2005 by Princess
	thank you everyone (Preview) hi thank you for your support, its really appriated, i feel a bit better tonight. many thanks jean take care	jeannie024	1	714	Oct 27, 2005 by nycbt
	abstaining from bad relationships (Preview) Abstaining from Harmful Relationships Habit sometimes locks us into relationships, which are not in our best interest. It is easy to mistake dependency for love. When we stop overeating compulsively, we can evaluate our attachments to other people with greater clarity and perception than w...	rosie light shines	2	841	Oct 27, 2005 by nycbt
	emotional subriety (Preview) Emotional Sobriety "If we examine every disturbance we have, great or small, we will find at the root of it some unhealthy dependency and its consequent unhealthy demand. Let us, with God's help, continually surrender these hobbling liabilities. Then we can be set free to live and love; we may then b...	rosie light shines	1	679	Oct 27, 2005 by nycbt
	Anne Frank and my gratitude (Preview) *Whoever is happy will make others happy, too. --Anne Frank* Anne Frank had good reason to be unhappy, full of fear, and deeply discouraged. Years of her life were spent in a small apartment hiding from the Nazis who wanted to destroy her and her family. Yet even in this little hiding place she had hap...	rosie light shines	1	819	Oct 27, 2005 by nycbt
	like to thank MEGAN AND LUCY (Preview) I WOULD LIKE TO THANK TWO IMPORTANT PEOPLE HERE ONLINE LUCY AND MEGAN FOR ALL THERE HELP.	nycbt	1	755	Oct 27, 2005 by megan
	I went back to Church last Christmas season (Preview) for about 6wks during Advent. Once Christmas arrived I stopped going to Church. Now that I joined a different Catholic Church Im going for the AA aspect too, not just the Christmas season. I believe the pastor is a recovering alcoholic. He works at a rehab also. His sermons speak sometimes of alcoho...	Barbara	0	579	Oct 27, 2005 by Barbara
	party`s (Preview) i am a great believer in a bit of planning. my partner has done so well 54 days sober . but the christmas season of party`s will be with us soon. we have been out a few times .he has been tempted but has resisted so far but alcohol is a cunning seducer that calls. And we have a few social/ work party`s to go too. i...	Mars	6	747	Oct 27, 2005 by Karilynn
	Ride the train (Preview) my Mom sent this in an email today, thought you might all enjoy it. Love Jeannie *Ride the Train* Some folks ride the train of life Looking out the rear, Watching miles of life roll by, And marking every year. They sit in sad remembrance, Of wasted days gone by, And curse their life for w...	Jeannie	3	740	Oct 27, 2005 by Karilynn
	I’ve got the Face to Face blues….. Need help! (Preview) Lately it seems like no matter what kind of mood I am in when I go to a face to face meeting I come out feeling really crappy. I am no longer able to talk in the meetings and by the end I am sooo ready to high tail it out of there. After the meetings I am usually light headed and woozy. This week I started shaking, I...	sandie123	5	726	Oct 27, 2005 by WakingUp
	Detaching with love (Preview) How do you detach with love from an active alcoholic who and living in your house? I don't get it. Any ESH would be appreciated! Thanks~ Linda	sandie123	7	765	Oct 27, 2005 by Karilynn
	I DID GOOD (Preview) I did good thing yesterday. I drove to my parents house and his adult son called me to tell me that he was drunk. I had not talk to my husband since 3 pm, after I found out he called his father. His son called me around 6pm. I went to the doctor and didn't call him until 9pm. So that was 7 HRS. When I wanted t...	nycbt	5	641	Oct 27, 2005 by Karilynn
	Totally confused, frustrated and hurt (Preview) I just read tanderboo’s post about the family afterwards, and sandie’s rely prompted me to ask for some feedback. Quick background, I’m 2 years sober and my marriage didn’t survive sobriety. I couldn’t give my wife what she wanted quickly enough in recovery. We were divorced in August and still...	UncleLou	8	736	Oct 27, 2005 by Karilynn
	for NEWbees a lighthearted look at 12 steps (Preview) people keep asking me public and private, "what are the steps??? really what are they about???" so i kind of did this light hearted short take step 1....i have discovered that my life is unmanageable do to............... i am powerle...	rosie light shines	5	692	Oct 27, 2005 by Barbara
	Anybody know where I can get The Bridge? (Preview) Does anyone know where I can get that analogy of how we cross a bridge sometimes and need to leave people behind......	sanddie	3	715	Oct 27, 2005 by Barbara
	new here (Preview) Just wanted to introduce myself before I headed to bed. I live with an alcoholic husband. He recently had a kidney removed due to cancer. Seems to be that should have been enough for him to turn his life around and cut down on his drinking. But no! When he was out of work recuperating he actually drank more...	Barbara	3	696	Oct 27, 2005 by canadianguy
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