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Elabella · Elabella

I honestly feel so unsure about my methods of detaching. Tonight things were going well- I cooked a lovely dinner and AH was in a pretty good mood. Then, like has been becoming the norm as of late, he totally changed his demeanour. He had asked earlier in the evening if I would go buy beer for him, and I said...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I was talking with my daughter this past week and we had a very interesting chat...She is in AA, NA and also Al-anon, I am in Al-anon and ACA and both of us work our programs sincerely I have 2 younger brothers: 1 is AA/NA qualifer (real bad--street person) and the other is AA (getting worse drunk, sleeps...

Jerry F · Jerry F

So I was early to the Thursday Night Read, Write and Share group and left and when I got home I checked the meeting schedule and found I was 5 minutes early for it...LOL just like me lately. So I jumped back in the van and went back and found a mutual admiration member I have known for 12 years. She has the s...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Happy Friday all.....today's reading is about Step 3 and the writer's difficulty with it. She/he asks, "How can I turn my will and my life over to the care of a Higher Power?" She tried and tried and yet still always took things back into her own hands. Fear was part of the issue - scary to think she was n...

SisterKate · SisterKate

I'm new here and will need to do a proper introduction when I have more time (I'm sneaking on at work). I'm 48 years old with two teens. Married ...to an alcoholic. My stepmother is also an alcoholic. In both cases I'm guilty of just ignoring the issue and seething. Stepmom is always an embarrassment at s...

jtpickle · jtpickle

As you've read, I'm doing my best to detach from my AH. However, as boundaries are met and crossed, I feel the need to communicate expectations to my DH. I've found that I can only talk to him in the morning as that is when he is either sober or not too drunk. Often, in order to make sure I "mean what I say...

jtpickle · jtpickle

I'm not sure if I can eloquently ask my question or share my thoughts but here it goes: I've only been in AlAnon just over a month. I'm going to meetings and learning tools, slogans, etc. However, I'm feeling guilty because I'm really feeling defeated and I realize that I'm happy and calm/more at p...

Dancer66 · Dancer66

OK. All the stress of my AH drinking and isolating himself, ignoring me...finally started really affecting my health. I have an arrhythmia and it has started having major changes--and I think this stress is pushing it over the edge. SO I finally opened up to my sister in law ( who is also a trained s...

AnnieFenk321 · AnnieFenk321

My husband and I fought on Friday night. He had damaged something that belonged to me, and we got into our usual fight where he gets defensive and I expect an apology. It's insanity all round. I am proud that I didn't raise my voice or say anything I am ashamed of. But I just shouldn't have gotten into it in t...

andromeda · andromeda

Well, I got a job offer the other day. I completed the paperwork for my background check and did my drug screening yesterday, as well. The pay is not as good as I would have hoped for but the company offers awesome benefits and yearly bonuses that are paid regularly in the neighborhood of $6-7K a year. ...

Curlyblu · Curlyblu

Today appears to be a particularly good day, full of graditude. Believe me this is something I have struggled with alot.....it may not be the life I dreamed for or long for, but it mine and I am thankful for it. Yes even with the state my marriage is in today, no communication, no affection, no nothing. I c...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all, kia ora... good health... I am at a point in life when everything is okay- as good as it could be. My SO is okay too- after addressing her addiction 5 or 6 years ago... there will always be "moments" in a relationship- but these moments are getting fewer and far between. I was going to talk about...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading is about dealing with loss and change in life. We are reminded that there are many forms of loss - divorce, incarceration, death, sickness and even emotional change. With the help of Al-Anon fellowship and our program, we become aware that we can get through anything with a spiritu...

joker · joker

I am blessed today. How long will my happiness continue. I hope permanently. Just keep the active alcoholic away from my home and my space! I have had it with their insanity! I am loving the quite so much! Just love it! I called the court today as it was the alcoholic first appearance for assaulting me an...

Curlyblu · Curlyblu

So here I am learning yet another lesson about living with an AH! And yes learning a lot about myself. I got the heads up from child that AH had been drinking again (over a month of "trying" to stay sober, after coming back into the house after being asked to leave) Child explained how AH was found passed ou...

msmith6352 · msmith6352

Hi All.... I'm just trying to find all I can about 'wet brain'. My roommate and best friend had a seizure of some type about a month ago. After being admitted to the hospital, she was diagnosed as toxic. The hospital detoxed her and released her 4 days later. When she got home her memory, especially...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading in Courage to Change is about balance and the slogan "Live and let live". The author compares a balanced life with Al-Anon to the thrilling balance of flying down a hill on a bicycle. Embracing and thanking their Higher Power for whatever life brings is one of the keys to li...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

i too am suffering through a cold but after reading several posts here,decided to post myself. my struggle which is to remember to let my boyfriend do his own thing without me fearing he will think less of me. neither him or i have any addiction issues. i have all my old negative tapes that continue to run...

Seeking freedom · Seeking freedom

I am a strong Alanon believer and I know you are not supposed to advise people. However Iâm in this really difficult situation. My 31 year old daughter is an alcoholic the whole past year has been a roller coaster ride. Sheâs been to detox 3 times, output therapy 1 time and then finally a 60 day rehab. She h...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

My X must have had surgery and of course when he was laying out his story he didn't mention when the surgery would occur. So honestly it could have been before he sent the email whining or shortly after. Remember he couldn't get surgery if his blood was all wonky. This really goes to show me nothing wit...

Aline · Aline

Hi, guys, I would appreciate some support today or at least no bashing, ha ha. I know we don't do bashing in Alanon, but right now I feel like maybe you folks will make an exception just for me ... Might be my large ego... I called my ex-abf not long ago over the phone because a thought has been nagging me for a...

kayS · kayS

Good afternoon, I'm really struggling with understanding how none of this is personal to me. On one hand I completely get it - my husband recognizes everything that is on the line. I believe that he loves us and our life and doesn't want to lose it. So the only rationale explanation for his continue...

bzz123 · bzz123

My qualifier has been sober since September with two little lapses in between. He's good, happy, moving on, sober, optimistic, all of that. Like he's GREAT. I on the other hand and not good. I feel insane. I feel so mad at him all the time. He barely wants to speak to me. He's like - I try to tell you about the...

MizzB · MizzB

So, ABF is in relapse. He's delusional, thinking it's just a lapse. He believes the group CBT is working. He promised to get individual CBT. I don't believe him. I've heard it too many times. So, the dilemma... If I leave him... I have to deal with the guilt of making him homeless I have to look after the...

el-cee · el-cee

When I think back to Christmas before Alanon there were some good memories, im trying hard to remember it wasn't all bad but the drinking seemed to taint everything for me, every memory even when the kids were small and it was all magical. my mind was never fully on the kids or Christmas. Its as if alcohol...

andromeda · andromeda

A friend of mine passed away yesterday AM due to multi organ failure and a stomach infection as a result of his alcoholism. I was close to his wife, actually, as she was a rock at many of our AL Anon meetings and she and I had traveled to a few Christian women's retreats together that her church organized....

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for December 12 speaks about our tendency to blame others for any difficulty that we encounter. The reading points out that we must realize that every time we feel that someone has affected us, that at least part of our unhappiness is due to the way we reacted . It suggests that we are n...

Elabella · Elabella

today I'm feeling very frustrated, angry and sad. I'm so confused with the behaviour of my AH. The past few days have been awful. Our fighting escalated- I totally engaged in the taunting, bullying behaviour. I couldn't take it anymore. His stress at work has increased, and as such he's using me as an o...

MizzB · MizzB

...unless you live with an alcoholic. BF is still in recovery (he's out tonight so that may very well change) but there are now frequent events where there is drinking and drunks using peer pressure to try to get him to drink. I don't understand what his barrier is to just saying "I don't drink" but appa...

mamalioness · mamalioness

WEll I told you all I had met a guy in the grocery store and we started with email...my suggestion and he was great with that....test the waters over cyberspace, however we did exchange phone numbers and I realized that I goofed..I gave him my business phone instead of my pers. phone, so I CALLED...left...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

This is not an easy task for me to do. My daughter and I have been butting heads for various reasons and I get it .. she wants to do her "adult" thing. She has felt she's got it all under control only to find out that no .. she doesn't and has been left with some serious consequences. She came home this week...

joker · joker

I have been doing lots of self care, since 9 days today that the alcoholic assaulted me and forced out the house. I must say life has been bliss, just love the quite and sanity. No more drunkenness and meanness and angry outburst at me, no more listening to madness, talking to self and having endless disc...

gratefulforafuture · gratefulforafuture

Hi All, I left my marriage six months ago because my husband's alcoholism had caused him to decline both physically and mentally. My departure shocked him into entering detox (a life threatening experience for him) and rehab. When he came out, he was much better and I allowed myself to be convinced t...

Lyne · Lyne

Serenity-The writer says he/she once thought money could solve her problems. But money wouldn't solve any issues related to alcoholism. The writer realized what she really wants is to feel better, and the way to feeling better is to find the serenity to accept the things she cannot change. She al...

DavidG · DavidG

Will the real me please stand up! I never really held back. I would sit on the edge of my seat at a meeting waiting for my turn to share. Not sure about the quality of my share- but that was not the reason why I was there! My personal boundaries were formed in an alcoholic home. The territory in Alanon was so...

SoggySlippers · SoggySlippers

I was gonna come here yesterday and start a thread full of complaints.I was very,very upset because something my husband said to me wasn't followed up with an equal action;what he said and did were 2 completely opposite things. I was so hurt and disappointed that I was thinking I HAVE to leave him,he wi...

jtpickle · jtpickle

Hi All - I'm living with my very active AH and 4 children (15, 13,11,8). As you all know, being in the middle of the active - yet hidden so children don't see him drinking - alcoholism is very difficult. I'm just trying to survive one day at a time. However, I'm also trying to detach so I can be peaceful...

Jerry F · Jerry F

I went to a local 7/11 a bit ago to get some sushi and a diet Pepsi for lunch and when I went thru the front doors there was a woman looking at me and smiling who at first I didn't quite recognize...and then I remembered she was a former client of mine who lived in the deepest insanity ever with her then husba...

jtpickle · jtpickle

How to I 'Live and Let Live' when the purchasing decisions of the AH are going to have negative ramifications for our family and I don't work outside of the house. It very hard not to become psychotic myself...... Experience anyone?

joker · joker

Its been a week today, that the alcoholic beat me, held me in the room and faced criminal charges for what he did. I have been having a rough week, shaking like a leaf, from anxiety. Things are so wonderful now, calm, quite, no crazy insane drunk screaming, yelling, hollering, chasing me around the hous...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading centers around the idea of keep coming back. The writer mentioned that when first coming to alanon he/she was whining, complaining and stuck on why me. After some time and program work the answer came back- why not me? As I was reading this I remembered that when I...

lookingup · lookingup

helllo everyone,hope all is well, ctc=courage to change asks us to reflect back unto tradition eleven in which alanons public relations policy is described as being based on attraction rather than promotion what this tradition saying to me is that my 1st responsibility in alanon is to learn to kee...

Mimi3 · Mimi3

Monday, December 28, 2009Open Letter from the Alcoholic The chairperson at a meeting I attended recently, who is also a member of AA, shared on this "Open Letter to the Alcoholic," which I've always thought was very powerful. I hadn't read it for a while, so it was a good reminder to me. The...

Lil99 · Lil99

Hi everyone, I feel really sad that I have no children. I always thought that one day my partner and I would move to a bigger house and start a family. The house move hasn't happened, have tried to move a couple of times, but each time it fell through he'd spent the deposit money we were trying to save on...

Takotsubo · Takotsubo

I broke up with my ABF 3 weeks ago. Am still feeling sad and intensely guilty about not being able to "save" him. This was my first lightbulb moment - apparently I will never be able to save him! Step one - I am powerless over alcohol. All those years of hiding it, arguing about it, making him promise not to d...

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

~*Service Worker*~Status: OnlinePosts: 13342Date: 1m ago Prayers toward Hawaii...Permalink Reply Quote More Edit PostDelete Post When you can as you can. We have recovery family friends; a mother and son from a family history with alcoholism. I knew of them from the near neighborhood...

Overcome · Overcome

I just got a Facebook notification that today was our founder John F.'s birthday. I'm not sure how old he would have been today, but I know he was close to my age (55) when he passed last Spring. When I think of OP_Present (John's nickname on MIP) and the awe that I had of him when I first came on MIP back in 200...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading talks about Alateen and Al-Anon. It suggests that Alateen members are often doubtful of adults in recovery. There can be a judgement that Al-Anon adults are sure to have the same sick attitudes as their parents. What the writer learns with time and recovery is t...

Curlyblu · Curlyblu

At times I feel like AH's recovery is just as difficult as when he was drinking. It's been just over a month since he has come back into the house. For the most part it has been good....as in there has been only 1 time that I have questioned his actions as to possibly have had a few drinks. We went away for two...

joker · joker

I went to a AA meeting yesterday and just listened. There was 40 people in the meeting. I was like wow, that is a lot of sick people out there and most were men. I was angry when I was in the meeting and seeing so much men there. I was having anxiety and flashbacks from what the alcoholic did to me recently. Be...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading discusses self-care and self-love. The reading starts by suggesting the writer thought that being good to self meant eating whatever, buying whatever, sleeping less than average and avoiding unexciting activities. She/he realized that the consequences were very uncomfort...

malia · malia

My group closes with the "Lord's Prayer". I am a Buddhist. When I chaired a meeting, I declosed that I was not familiar with the Lord's Prayer and was told by my group that they would teach it to me. I replied that it wasn't my prayer and that God of my understanding understands my ow...

Klopp96 · Klopp96

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StrugglingMamaBear · StrugglingMamaBear

Well for starters I guess Iâve been in denial about my husbands alcoholism for years. Things have escalated these past couple months to where I canât deny it any longer. Iâve been to two Alanon meetings and definitely plan to keep going. One of the problems Iâm having is it seems my husband is in complet...

CarlyH · CarlyH

The past two weeks have been very difficult. Ive ended my relationship and any kind of friendship with ex AH. I Know I shouldnt have expected it but I thought I least I would get some kind of remorse or a sorry. Instead they are angry with me. I am practicing detachment and I am trying not to get embroil...

joker · joker

Since the police took the alcoholic away, I have been dealing with the aftermath. I have shaking and shaking like a leaf. My anxiety and lack of sleep has been over the top. I did make it to a face to face meeting Monday night. I met a woman there that has experienced the same hell I have just endured. It was...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Good morning, MIP! Today's share is from Today's Hope post for December 5, as I've left Courage to Change at home accidentally today! The Quote is "Everything is a miracle, not just the beautiful and lovely things" The reflection is about how the author finds joy in the simple things in life, even w...

JS · JS

Hi - I'm new to the board but not to Al-anon. Little bit of history...my husband is a recovering A. He is 6 months sober. We have been married 11 years and during the last two years he had an affair with a woman he worked with. His drinking career started about 16 years ago but escalated during the affair d...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hi MIP, I am hoping for some ESH. I have been engaged in service at my local Alano Club (sponsorship, leading meetings, clean-up, etc.) and really enjoying the time I spend there. I am going to apply for a new job. It is a long shot, but the experience of applying for jobs is a good one, and I think this wou...

SoggySlippers · SoggySlippers

Hi everyone.I haven't been here in awhile,thinking I can manage things on my own,thinking I don't need other people,thinking I can just be strong and muddle through. I think I honestly and truly am losing my mind.I have been so completely overwhelmed and consumed with my sons that are addicts and doi...

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	Help with detaching...why can't I wrap my head around this??! (Preview) I honestly feel so unsure about my methods of detaching. Tonight things were going well- I cooked a lovely dinner and AH was in a pretty good mood. Then, like has been becoming the norm as of late, he totally changed his demeanour. He had asked earlier in the evening if I would go buy beer for him, and I said...	Elabella	28	901	Dec 16, 2017 by Maresie
	When is a relationship TOO high maintenance and therefore no longer worth it??? (Preview) I was talking with my daughter this past week and we had a very interesting chat...She is in AA, NA and also Al-anon, I am in Al-anon and ACA and both of us work our programs sincerely I have 2 younger brothers: 1 is AA/NA qualifer (real bad--street person) and the other is AA (getting worse drunk, sleeps...	mamalioness	3	699	Dec 16, 2017 by hotrod
	Great one on one face to face meeting. (Preview) So I was early to the Thursday Night Read, Write and Share group and left and when I got home I checked the meeting schedule and found I was 5 minutes early for it...LOL just like me lately. So I jumped back in the van and went back and found a mutual admiration member I have known for 12 years. She has the s...	Jerry F	2	559	Dec 15, 2017 by hotrod
	Courage to Change (C2C) 12/15/17 (Preview) Happy Friday all.....today's reading is about Step 3 and the writer's difficulty with it. She/he asks, "How can I turn my will and my life over to the care of a Higher Power?" She tried and tried and yet still always took things back into her own hands. Fear was part of the issue - scary to think she was n...	Iamhere	5	561	Dec 15, 2017 by Iamhere
	Partial Introduction and Holiday Stress (Preview) I'm new here and will need to do a proper introduction when I have more time (I'm sneaking on at work). I'm 48 years old with two teens. Married ...to an alcoholic. My stepmother is also an alcoholic. In both cases I'm guilty of just ignoring the issue and seething. Stepmom is always an embarrassment at s...	SisterKate	13	1329	Dec 15, 2017 by Iamhere
	Communication with AH (Preview) As you've read, I'm doing my best to detach from my AH. However, as boundaries are met and crossed, I feel the need to communicate expectations to my DH. I've found that I can only talk to him in the morning as that is when he is either sober or not too drunk. Often, in order to make sure I "mean what I say...	jtpickle	4	607	Dec 15, 2017 by jtpickle
	Grieving, detaching or what? (Preview) I'm not sure if I can eloquently ask my question or share my thoughts but here it goes: I've only been in AlAnon just over a month. I'm going to meetings and learning tools, slogans, etc. However, I'm feeling guilty because I'm really feeling defeated and I realize that I'm happy and calm/more at p...	jtpickle	6	749	Dec 15, 2017 by jtpickle
	I had to tell family (Preview) OK. All the stress of my AH drinking and isolating himself, ignoring me...finally started really affecting my health. I have an arrhythmia and it has started having major changes--and I think this stress is pushing it over the edge. SO I finally opened up to my sister in law ( who is also a trained s...	Dancer66	4	638	Dec 15, 2017 by Lyne
	I think I am done (Preview) My husband and I fought on Friday night. He had damaged something that belonged to me, and we got into our usual fight where he gets defensive and I expect an apology. It's insanity all round. I am proud that I didn't raise my voice or say anything I am ashamed of. But I just shouldn't have gotten into it in t...	AnnieFenk321	7	718	Dec 15, 2017 by mamalioness
	Got offered a job! Other updates..... (Preview) Well, I got a job offer the other day. I completed the paperwork for my background check and did my drug screening yesterday, as well. The pay is not as good as I would have hoped for but the company offers awesome benefits and yearly bonuses that are paid regularly in the neighborhood of $6-7K a year. ...	andromeda	11	1911	Dec 15, 2017 by Jen61
	Graditude (Preview) Today appears to be a particularly good day, full of graditude. Believe me this is something I have struggled with alot.....it may not be the life I dreamed for or long for, but it mine and I am thankful for it. Yes even with the state my marriage is in today, no communication, no affection, no nothing. I c...	Curlyblu	4	579	Dec 14, 2017 by Jerry F
	A share, and some fear... just a little... (Preview) Hi y'all, kia ora... good health... I am at a point in life when everything is okay- as good as it could be. My SO is okay too- after addressing her addiction 5 or 6 years ago... there will always be "moments" in a relationship- but these moments are getting fewer and far between. I was going to talk about...	DavidG	4	754	Dec 14, 2017 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change (C2C) 12/14/17 (Preview) Today's reading is about dealing with loss and change in life. We are reminded that there are many forms of loss - divorce, incarceration, death, sickness and even emotional change. With the help of Al-Anon fellowship and our program, we become aware that we can get through anything with a spiritu...	Iamhere	2	547	Dec 14, 2017 by Aline
	Court update and feelings (Preview) I am blessed today. How long will my happiness continue. I hope permanently. Just keep the active alcoholic away from my home and my space! I have had it with their insanity! I am loving the quite so much! Just love it! I called the court today as it was the alcoholic first appearance for assaulting me an...	joker	1	590	Dec 13, 2017 by mamalioness
	mistake.....learn the lesson (Preview) So here I am learning yet another lesson about living with an AH! And yes learning a lot about myself. I got the heads up from child that AH had been drinking again (over a month of "trying" to stay sober, after coming back into the house after being asked to leave) Child explained how AH was found passed ou...	Curlyblu	11	761	Dec 13, 2017 by Jerry F
	Looking for info on 'wet brain' (Preview) Hi All.... I'm just trying to find all I can about 'wet brain'. My roommate and best friend had a seizure of some type about a month ago. After being admitted to the hospital, she was diagnosed as toxic. The hospital detoxed her and released her 4 days later. When she got home her memory, especially...	msmith6352	21	1340	Dec 13, 2017 by MaggieRuth
	Courage to Change December 13 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading in Courage to Change is about balance and the slogan "Live and let live". The author compares a balanced life with Al-Anon to the thrilling balance of flying down a hill on a bicycle. Embracing and thanking their Higher Power for whatever life brings is one of the keys to li...	Skorpi	4	927	Dec 13, 2017 by Curlyblu
	LETTING GO (Preview) i too am suffering through a cold but after reading several posts here,decided to post myself. my struggle which is to remember to let my boyfriend do his own thing without me fearing he will think less of me. neither him or i have any addiction issues. i have all my old negative tapes that continue to run...	YARNCRAZY	2	585	Dec 13, 2017 by Iamhere
	What about the children (Preview) I am a strong Alanon believer and I know you are not supposed to advise people. However Iâm in this really difficult situation. My 31 year old daughter is an alcoholic the whole past year has been a roller coaster ride. Sheâs been to detox 3 times, output therapy 1 time and then finally a 60 day rehab. She h...	Seeking freedom	4	640	Dec 13, 2017 by Iamhere
	Why am I surprised .. LOL (Preview) My X must have had surgery and of course when he was laying out his story he didn't mention when the surgery would occur. So honestly it could have been before he sent the email whining or shortly after. Remember he couldn't get surgery if his blood was all wonky. This really goes to show me nothing wit...	SerenityRUS	3	978	Dec 13, 2017 by SerenityRUS
	my day (Preview) Hi, guys, I would appreciate some support today or at least no bashing, ha ha. I know we don't do bashing in Alanon, but right now I feel like maybe you folks will make an exception just for me ... Might be my large ego... I called my ex-abf not long ago over the phone because a thought has been nagging me for a...	Aline	10	664	Dec 13, 2017 by Aline
	I just don't get it (Preview) Good afternoon, I'm really struggling with understanding how none of this is personal to me. On one hand I completely get it - my husband recognizes everything that is on the line. I believe that he loves us and our life and doesn't want to lose it. So the only rationale explanation for his continue...	kayS	10	713	Dec 12, 2017 by Maresie
	he's moving on - I am the one having trouble (Preview) My qualifier has been sober since September with two little lapses in between. He's good, happy, moving on, sober, optimistic, all of that. Like he's GREAT. I on the other hand and not good. I feel insane. I feel so mad at him all the time. He barely wants to speak to me. He's like - I try to tell you about the...	bzz123	5	599	Dec 12, 2017 by Maresie
	The Relapse: The decision (Preview) So, ABF is in relapse. He's delusional, thinking it's just a lapse. He believes the group CBT is working. He promised to get individual CBT. I don't believe him. I've heard it too many times. So, the dilemma... If I leave him... I have to deal with the guilt of making him homeless I have to look after the...	MizzB	9	704	Dec 12, 2017 by Iamhere
	Fear at Christmas (Preview) When I think back to Christmas before Alanon there were some good memories, im trying hard to remember it wasn't all bad but the drinking seemed to taint everything for me, every memory even when the kids were small and it was all magical. my mind was never fully on the kids or Christmas. Its as if alcohol...	el-cee	2	527	Dec 12, 2017 by Iamhere
	The disease takes a friend of mine (I hate it!) (Preview) A friend of mine passed away yesterday AM due to multi organ failure and a stomach infection as a result of his alcoholism. I was close to his wife, actually, as she was a rock at many of our AL Anon meetings and she and I had traveled to a few Christian women's retreats together that her church organized....	andromeda	10	604	Dec 12, 2017 by el-cee
	ODAT Reading 12-12-2017 (Preview) The ODAT reading for December 12 speaks about our tendency to blame others for any difficulty that we encounter. The reading points out that we must realize that every time we feel that someone has affected us, that at least part of our unhappiness is due to the way we reacted . It suggests that we are n...	hotrod	4	620	Dec 12, 2017 by hotrod
	Jekyl & Hyde.. (Preview) today I'm feeling very frustrated, angry and sad. I'm so confused with the behaviour of my AH. The past few days have been awful. Our fighting escalated- I totally engaged in the taunting, bullying behaviour. I couldn't take it anymore. His stress at work has increased, and as such he's using me as an o...	Elabella	26	806	Dec 12, 2017 by KT2015
	It's the most wonderful time of the year... (Preview) ...unless you live with an alcoholic. BF is still in recovery (he's out tonight so that may very well change) but there are now frequent events where there is drinking and drunks using peer pressure to try to get him to drink. I don't understand what his barrier is to just saying "I don't drink" but appa...	MizzB	8	796	Dec 12, 2017 by Maresie
	Not really Al-anon, but MAYBE a tad???? Ya think???? (Preview) WEll I told you all I had met a guy in the grocery store and we started with email...my suggestion and he was great with that....test the waters over cyberspace, however we did exchange phone numbers and I realized that I goofed..I gave him my business phone instead of my pers. phone, so I CALLED...left...	mamalioness	5	606	Dec 12, 2017 by mamalioness
	Staying on my side of the street (Preview) This is not an easy task for me to do. My daughter and I have been butting heads for various reasons and I get it .. she wants to do her "adult" thing. She has felt she's got it all under control only to find out that no .. she doesn't and has been left with some serious consequences. She came home this week...	SerenityRUS	3	575	Dec 11, 2017 by andromeda
	Relief (Preview) I have been doing lots of self care, since 9 days today that the alcoholic assaulted me and forced out the house. I must say life has been bliss, just love the quite and sanity. No more drunkenness and meanness and angry outburst at me, no more listening to madness, talking to self and having endless disc...	joker	2	499	Dec 11, 2017 by YARNCRAZY
	after months of a successful detox and rehab - relapse! (Preview) Hi All, I left my marriage six months ago because my husband's alcoholism had caused him to decline both physically and mentally. My departure shocked him into entering detox (a life threatening experience for him) and rehab. When he came out, he was much better and I allowed myself to be convinced t...	gratefulforafuture	8	611	Dec 11, 2017 by MizzB
	C2C, 12/11 (Preview) Serenity-The writer says he/she once thought money could solve her problems. But money wouldn't solve any issues related to alcoholism. The writer realized what she really wants is to feel better, and the way to feeling better is to find the serenity to accept the things she cannot change. She al...	Lyne	3	541	Dec 11, 2017 by Iamhere
	Will the real me please stand up! (Preview) Will the real me please stand up! I never really held back. I would sit on the edge of my seat at a meeting waiting for my turn to share. Not sure about the quality of my share- but that was not the reason why I was there! My personal boundaries were formed in an alcoholic home. The territory in Alanon was so...	DavidG	8	870	Dec 10, 2017 by mamalioness
	I Was Gonna.... (Preview) I was gonna come here yesterday and start a thread full of complaints.I was very,very upset because something my husband said to me wasn't followed up with an equal action;what he said and did were 2 completely opposite things. I was so hurt and disappointed that I was thinking I HAVE to leave him,he wi...	SoggySlippers	6	699	Dec 10, 2017 by Carla61
	Detachment examples? (Preview) Hi All - I'm living with my very active AH and 4 children (15, 13,11,8). As you all know, being in the middle of the active - yet hidden so children don't see him drinking - alcoholism is very difficult. I'm just trying to survive one day at a time. However, I'm also trying to detach so I can be peaceful...	jtpickle	5	1088	Dec 10, 2017 by Curtainclimbers
	7/11 Happy Dance (Preview) I went to a local 7/11 a bit ago to get some sushi and a diet Pepsi for lunch and when I went thru the front doors there was a woman looking at me and smiling who at first I didn't quite recognize...and then I remembered she was a former client of mine who lived in the deepest insanity ever with her then husba...	Jerry F	5	684	Dec 10, 2017 by el-cee
	Live and Let Live vs. Financial Decisions (Preview) How to I 'Live and Let Live' when the purchasing decisions of the AH are going to have negative ramifications for our family and I don't work outside of the house. It very hard not to become psychotic myself...... Experience anyone?	jtpickle	3	630	Dec 10, 2017 by el-cee
	Overhall of thinking (Preview) Its been a week today, that the alcoholic beat me, held me in the room and faced criminal charges for what he did. I have been having a rough week, shaking like a leaf, from anxiety. Things are so wonderful now, calm, quite, no crazy insane drunk screaming, yelling, hollering, chasing me around the hous...	joker	3	828	Dec 10, 2017 by el-cee
	Hope for Today Dec 11 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading centers around the idea of keep coming back. The writer mentioned that when first coming to alanon he/she was whining, complaining and stuck on why me. After some time and program work the answer came back- why not me? As I was reading this I remembered that when I...	yanksfan51	2	512	Dec 10, 2017 by Iamhere
	12/09/17 ctc (Preview) helllo everyone,hope all is well, ctc=courage to change asks us to reflect back unto tradition eleven in which alanons public relations policy is described as being based on attraction rather than promotion what this tradition saying to me is that my 1st responsibility in alanon is to learn to kee...	lookingup	3	507	Dec 9, 2017 by Iamhere
	OPEN LETTER FROM THE ALCOHOLIC (Preview) Monday, December 28, 2009Open Letter from the Alcoholic The chairperson at a meeting I attended recently, who is also a member of AA, shared on this "Open Letter to the Alcoholic," which I've always thought was very powerful. I hadn't read it for a while, so it was a good reminder to me. The...	Mimi3	13	47733	Dec 9, 2017 by Iamhere
	The children thing (Preview) Hi everyone, I feel really sad that I have no children. I always thought that one day my partner and I would move to a bigger house and start a family. The house move hasn't happened, have tried to move a couple of times, but each time it fell through he'd spent the deposit money we were trying to save on...	Lil99	7	791	Dec 9, 2017 by lisa sa
	Three weeks in - some lightbulb moments (Preview) I broke up with my ABF 3 weeks ago. Am still feeling sad and intensely guilty about not being able to "save" him. This was my first lightbulb moment - apparently I will never be able to save him! Step one - I am powerless over alcohol. All those years of hiding it, arguing about it, making him promise not to d...	Takotsubo	1	555	Dec 8, 2017 by Iamhere
	Prayers toward Hawaii... (Preview) ~Service Worker~Status: OnlinePosts: 13342Date: 1m ago Prayers toward Hawaii...Permalink Reply Quote More Edit PostDelete Post When you can as you can. We have recovery family friends; a mother and son from a family history with alcoholism. I knew of them from the near neighborhood...	Jerry F	7	728	Dec 8, 2017 by DavidG
	Happy Birthday John F. (Preview) I just got a Facebook notification that today was our founder John F.'s birthday. I'm not sure how old he would have been today, but I know he was close to my age (55) when he passed last Spring. When I think of OP_Present (John's nickname on MIP) and the awe that I had of him when I first came on MIP back in 200...	Overcome	10	4105	Dec 8, 2017 by DavidG
	Courage to Change (C2C) 12/8/17 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading talks about Alateen and Al-Anon. It suggests that Alateen members are often doubtful of adults in recovery. There can be a judgement that Al-Anon adults are sure to have the same sick attitudes as their parents. What the writer learns with time and recovery is t...	Iamhere	2	612	Dec 8, 2017 by hotrod
	Recovery can suck as much as drinking!! (Preview) At times I feel like AH's recovery is just as difficult as when he was drinking. It's been just over a month since he has come back into the house. For the most part it has been good....as in there has been only 1 time that I have questioned his actions as to possibly have had a few drinks. We went away for two...	Curlyblu	10	784	Dec 7, 2017 by MizzB
	Alcoholic everywhere (Preview) I went to a AA meeting yesterday and just listened. There was 40 people in the meeting. I was like wow, that is a lot of sick people out there and most were men. I was angry when I was in the meeting and seeing so much men there. I was having anxiety and flashbacks from what the alcoholic did to me recently. Be...	joker	2	704	Dec 7, 2017 by Jerry F
	Courage to Change (C2C) 12/7/17 (Preview) Today's reading discusses self-care and self-love. The reading starts by suggesting the writer thought that being good to self meant eating whatever, buying whatever, sleeping less than average and avoiding unexciting activities. She/he realized that the consequences were very uncomfort...	Iamhere	1	671	Dec 7, 2017 by hotrod
	Lord's Prayer (Preview) My group closes with the "Lord's Prayer". I am a Buddhist. When I chaired a meeting, I declosed that I was not familiar with the Lord's Prayer and was told by my group that they would teach it to me. I replied that it wasn't my prayer and that God of my understanding understands my ow...	malia	34	11636	Dec 7, 2017 by MeTwo2
	Ive been to 1 alanon meeting and left feeling i have a problem and caring too much is an addiction?? Head is melted !! (Preview) Need help understanding this	Klopp96	12	1648	Dec 7, 2017 by mamalioness
	Denial and projection - normal? (Preview) Well for starters I guess Iâve been in denial about my husbands alcoholism for years. Things have escalated these past couple months to where I canât deny it any longer. Iâve been to two Alanon meetings and definitely plan to keep going. One of the problems Iâm having is it seems my husband is in complet...	StrugglingMamaBear	4	1062	Dec 6, 2017 by Jazzie18
	Cheating and Never taking responsibility for what they do (Preview) The past two weeks have been very difficult. Ive ended my relationship and any kind of friendship with ex AH. I Know I shouldnt have expected it but I thought I least I would get some kind of remorse or a sorry. Instead they are angry with me. I am practicing detachment and I am trying not to get embroil...	CarlyH	16	988	Dec 6, 2017 by CarlyH
	Processing thoughts of what happened (Preview) Since the police took the alcoholic away, I have been dealing with the aftermath. I have shaking and shaking like a leaf. My anxiety and lack of sleep has been over the top. I did make it to a face to face meeting Monday night. I met a woman there that has experienced the same hell I have just endured. It was...	joker	3	699	Dec 6, 2017 by Iamhere
	Today's Hope December 6, 2017 (Preview) Good morning, MIP! Today's share is from Today's Hope post for December 5, as I've left Courage to Change at home accidentally today! The Quote is "Everything is a miracle, not just the beautiful and lovely things" The reflection is about how the author finds joy in the simple things in life, even w...	Skorpi	3	689	Dec 6, 2017 by Iamhere
	Sex and the recovering Alcoholic (Preview) Hi - I'm new to the board but not to Al-anon. Little bit of history...my husband is a recovering A. He is 6 months sober. We have been married 11 years and during the last two years he had an affair with a woman he worked with. His drinking career started about 16 years ago but escalated during the affair d...	JS	22	7012	Dec 6, 2017 by Iamhere
	Question about Service and Anonymity (Preview) Hi MIP, I am hoping for some ESH. I have been engaged in service at my local Alano Club (sponsorship, leading meetings, clean-up, etc.) and really enjoying the time I spend there. I am going to apply for a new job. It is a long shot, but the experience of applying for jobs is a good one, and I think this wou...	Skorpi	5	843	Dec 6, 2017 by Skorpi
	I Really Think I'm Losing My Mind (Preview) Hi everyone.I haven't been here in awhile,thinking I can manage things on my own,thinking I don't need other people,thinking I can just be strong and muddle through. I think I honestly and truly am losing my mind.I have been so completely overwhelmed and consumed with my sons that are addicts and doi...	SoggySlippers	17	4915	Dec 5, 2017 by mamalioness
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